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EP 39: How to quickly unblock yourself when the fear of failure strikes
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Yesterday I freaked the fuck out.
I didn’t yell, I didn’t grab a bag of cookies…instead, I froze.
Over the last 2 months I’ve invested in myself and my business more than ever before.
These were calculated purchases but they easily amount to the price of a luxury vehicle paid in full.
I haven’t used debt as a tool to grow my business (yet) so releasing large sums of cash inevitably results in a smaller number in the bank.
For some reason, seeing my account at this lower number threw me off, hard.
My body began to panic.
Not like full on freak out mode but definitely pit in your stomach, can’t eat, wtf is going to happen kinda vibe.
I honestly wanted to vomit.
I thought of my kids and how I wouldn’t be able to afford Roman’s private school, AJ would grow up thinking his mom was a failure, Scooter wouldn’t be able to eat his fancy Spot and Tango delivery meals anymore - if my bank account didn’t straighten out.
Lies.
The truth is I have recurring income that hits mostly at the end of the month, we have $100,000s saved as a nest egg.
The truth is, I can trust myself and ultimately trust God, the one who gave me this incredible dream to begin with.
And yet. All day. I couldn’t shake the feeling of recklessness, of wtf are you doing, of impending doom.
As of today (a mere 12 hours later) I’m a free woman. I feel more excited and relieved and unblocked than ever before.
I have wisdom to share and thank God for the blessing of yesterday’s fear because it’s what allowed me to do the work, move through the block and have an experience of true energetic value to share with you.
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Transcript
Introduction to Overcoming Scarcity Mindset
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Good morning, everyone. I am so excited about today because I'm going to talk to you about getting out of scarcity mindset. I can do it so fast. And I'm here to teach you how to do it really fast for yourself.
Embracing Uncertainty for Growth
00:00:14
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If you have been feeling that blocking energy, that energy that comes from fear, where you are anxious, you have that little pit in your stomach, like not really sure how things are going to go.
00:00:25
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Not really certain that this is correct, right? It's that uncertainty. We are so bad at dealing with uncertainty. We get so scared.
Understanding 'The Void' and Personal Growth
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And the funny thing is, is like, you cannot possibly, you cannot possibly tap into limitless possibility unless you're willing to also tap into limitless uncertainty because you don't know like that's the whole point of limitlessness okay so we have to be okay with that paradox with both sides of the coin and yet most of us aren't right and so yesterday i caught myself
00:01:09
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in this funky place right we call it the void we're always in the void we're just like in this place of uncertainty of not really knowing how things are going to go in the future that's the void but when you don't allow yourself to actually be in it right um like right now i have completely accepted the void which means again like no difference i'm in the void i was in the void yesterday too though when i wasn't accepting it But ultimately, you have to learn how to accept it, how to accept being in the void.
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Because if you can't accept being in the void, you're going to act
Impact of Lack on Wealth Attraction
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on it. You're going to act on that lack of acceptance. That's where your perception will lie. And that's where your emotions will come from.
00:01:50
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And your behaviors will also be born from that place of unacceptance. And ultimately, if you're looking to attract money, if you're looking to attract money,
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clients, if you're looking to attract abundance and you're in the energetic state of lack, how, how is that possibly going
Investments and Financial Anxiety
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to happen? And I think you either know that already or you intuitively understand that and you're going to go, yeah, i get that. Okay. So yesterday i had this moment of just like, oh my God, like contraction.
00:02:25
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i just invested again into another super high level $50,000 container. okay Um, I invested in ace um, a publicist, like, uh, and she's a PR expert and she's also my business strategist.
Balancing Dreams and Uncertainty
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Okay. I invested in a copywriter. I invested in a social media manager. i invested in and I've had my VA, I have my nanny, I have someone who does my laundry, which is still my nanny. I have my house cleaner. Like I pay for a lot of things. Okay.
00:03:02
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And i have not seen my business bank account be so depleted in such a long time. Is there money in the bank? Yeah, definitely. Is there as much as I'd like there to be? No, there's not.
00:03:13
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And it's that funny feeling of, oh my God, yeah, this is all fun and games until you look at the bills, until you feel that like, I have two kids.
00:03:25
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ah We have mouths to feed. Maybe your husband's money isn't coming in like the way that it used to. Or don't know. There's like a million different ways that this could go, right?
00:03:37
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There's a million different paths that this could take and contraction will kick in. And so for me, it was just this moment of like, I'm looking at my own bank account. I'm going, oh my God, I've been slowly but surely, you know, taking over our household income and I'm becoming the breadwinner and it's my dream come true.
00:04:01
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And at the same time with that dream comes the uncertainty that comes with having to be in the void that, you is necessary in order to make that dream come true in the freaking first place. So it's a very, very interesting and yet it was a very hard place to be.
Empathy Through Shared Anxiety
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So I felt like it was such a blessing because while was it, but while i was in it, I got to experience what so many of my clients are experiencing right now.
00:04:28
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And I was brought back to the moment that I was at, you know, seven years ago and haven't really felt like I just haven't felt that kind of pressure. I haven't felt that kind of anxiety, that humanness about my business in a really long time. And I think it was a really good thing because it kind of put things in perspective for me, for you.
00:04:50
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Okay. If you can identify with these feelings. And so I, the beautiful thing about this, the beautiful thing about the work that I do and that I am here to share with you today is I know how to get through it,
Managing Anxiety and Negative Emotions
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okay? Because what happens when that that negative thought process starts, when that anxiety begins, when those emotions, that's anxiety is an emotion, when those negative emotions start creeping in and start taking over and you're like, oh my God, like I know this is my ego, I know this is my ego, but maybe you don't know how to get rid of it and how to truly let it go and how to truly move on, on your aligned soul path, taking action from that place instead.
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because these these negative emotions, they become so blocking, right? They energetically are just walls. They're like brick walls that cause you to go, i can't show up.
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I can't speak on anything. I don't have any value to give right now because I don't even feel good enough to like eat. I have a pit in my stomach. I'm scared. These are real emotions and they really will stop you dead in your tracks, right? If you don't know how to handle them, but lucky for we're going to learn.
Ego-driven Fear vs Soul's Fearlessness
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so Yesterday, I see all this, I'm like, okay, super self-aware. I know what it is because of the nature of the feelings. They're fear-based.
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That ain't me, that ain't my higher power, that ain't my real self, right? That's not my soul, that's not the infinite part of myself that is inextricably tied to something bigger.
00:06:37
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to the source of everything. And if it's not that, then it's not real. Nothing else is real. Everything else is an illusion. Darkness, fear, negativity, all of that is self-made. It's illusion built out of ego, born out of ego, born out of fear.
00:06:54
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Because if the ego is so finite, it is so freaking scared to die. Right? Because it's a part of your body and it is going to die when your body dies.
00:07:05
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But your soul is not afraid. Your soul is so not afraid because it's infinite. It's a part of infinite energy. It is infinite energy. Therefore, it has nothing to fear. So it doesn't even know what fear is Excuse the roosters in the background.
00:07:19
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I'm in the country, okay? So if your soul is not afraid of anything, it can't be afraid of anything, it literally doesn't even know how to be afraid of anything, then when fear sets in, you can be damn sure that it is not you.
00:07:35
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It is not your soul. which is you, right? It's your ego. And so when you know that and you become aware of that and you know what to do to get rid of that feeling and that thought process and shift it and move it back into soul, into infinite possibility, into everything that you are, into all of the abundance instead of lack,
00:07:56
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You're gonna show up and you're gonna be more clear than ever because it's an
Teaching Through Challenges
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experience. These moments are opportunities. That's why there's blessings. That's why whatever you're going through right now is a freaking blessing because once you know how to get yourself through it, you're going to see why.
00:08:13
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You're going to be able to connect the dots, right, in the rear view mirror and go, oh my God, that's why, because I was meant to teach on it. because I was meant to share it, because I was meant to integrate it and tell other people about it and my experience with it, because look at the results that happen, whether they're emotional, whether they're physical, right?
00:08:35
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Financial, which is physical. It doesn't matter. There are results. There are real results that come from this kind of work, from being able to see the difference between your ego and your soul, discerning between the two and making a deliberate choice to follow your soul, to follow your dreams and to know that you can trust them above all else. And that ultimately you can't trust your ego.
00:09:02
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Okay. But you have to know how to do it. Okay. So we're going to get into it.
Daily Clearing Work for Spiritual Clarity
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Let's get into it right now. So the way that we do this, the way that I did it last night, the way that I, this is the work, okay? I do this work every single day of my life.
00:09:15
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This is the clearing work. And if you're not clearing yourself on a daily basis, what are you doing? You're getting blocked. Your but things are building up. Negativity is building up. Ain't no way that you can tell me that nothing bothers you, that nothing pops up that kind of knocks you off your spiritual horse.
00:09:34
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Right, if spiritual horse equals infinite nature, right, and infinite nature is not afraid because it's infinite, it has nothing to fear, then when you are knocked off that spiritual horse, it's gonna hurt, okay, it's gonna feel like you broke your neck, it's gonna feel like you broke your arm, maybe you just twisted your ankle or something like that, but it's not gonna feel good, that's how you know.
00:09:58
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Okay, and so if that's happening and those little things, it doesn't matter if they're small or big, they will manifest themselves, okay? They're like little tumors. if Even if it's just a slight irritation with somebody, okay, it's probably going to bubble up, become a tumor and grow.
00:10:16
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That's what resentments do. That's what negativity does. If you don't know how to clear it, I want you to be clearing yourself out every freaking day. Because if you're not clear, how are you going to have the space to connect to something bigger and allow it to guide you and move you through all of these things so that you need to be moved through with pure faith?
00:10:40
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So that you stay the course till the end, right? Until it inevitably comes together better than you could have ever planned for yourself because you did allow that higher thing to guide you. How are you going to do that?
00:10:52
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Right? So I want you to be doing this every day. I mean, i really do. and it's so easy, I have a workbook,
Introduction to the Truth Cleanse
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it's called The Truth Cleanse. It is what we're gonna be doing right now.
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You're going to be seeing the truth of this situation, this negativity, this block that your ego is presenting. And when you shine the truth onto the darkness, when you shine a light into the darkness,
00:11:18
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It goes away. It disappears. It was never real to begin with, right? It dissolves. It dissolves the fear. It dissolves the negativity. It dissolves the block. It's amazing. It's miraculous, but it works.
00:11:30
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Okay, but you can't just be aware and say, oh yeah, this my ego and it dissolves it. No, you have to actually be able to see what your ego is feeding to you, what lies it's feeding to you. You have to see where you're attached to it.
00:11:44
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You have to see what you're doing, what part you're playing in your own suffering.
Ego-driven Negativity Cycles
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And you have to see what fears your ego is also feeding you in order to keep this thing going and perpetuated.
00:11:57
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And these usually become cycles. These are the negative cycles that we get ourselves into by thinking from that place of ego. Negativity, right? Because the thought, the negative thought breeds a negative emotion.
00:12:11
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The negative emotion then breeds a negative behavior. The negative behavior then breeds a result that you see in your life. And that's why oftentimes, Things don't change if we don't clear ourselves out because we're not ultimately rewiring the system that created the results in the first place.
00:12:30
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Okay, so this is what we're doing with this truth cleanse. So what I want you to ask yourself first and foremost is about this fearful situation, about this situation that you're in.
Attachments and Suffering
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I want you to ask yourself where you're attached. What are you attached to? What outcomes are you attached to?
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What identity are you attached to? What are you attached to here? Because this is ultimately what's creating some suffering, okay? You are allowing your ego to attach itself to things, to outcomes.
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right? We don't have control. Therefore, when you can see what you're attached to you can give it up to something bigger and let it guide. You don't have to play God because ultimately you're not and you can't.
00:13:10
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So if you can actually clearly see where you're trying to control things, right? And where you're trying to attach yourself to outcomes and you have these expectations, you can, again, you can dissolve them because you can see them clearly.
00:13:23
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Okay. So what are the outcomes that you're attached to? And oftentimes it's like you're attached to um making money right now. You're attached to your timeline being shorter. You're attached to not feeling anxiety. You're attached to um looking better um maybe on the on the front end of things in your marketing, like looking like you're more successful, like attached to looking more successful.
00:13:53
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Attached to being more successful, attached to having more money, attached to whatever it is. Okay? There's a million things that you can attach yourself to. million identities you can attach yourself to. These are unconscious things that you're now bringing into conscious awareness.
00:14:06
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Okay, number two, what stories is your ego feeding you to keep this negativity alive?
Ego's Self-Soothing Behaviors
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What stories? Okay? And it might be the story that um first and foremost, you can't trust yourself. Okay?
00:14:22
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might be the story that you can't trust ultimately your higher power, that you can't have faith in something bigger, right? Because all if if you do, then you're saying you can trust your dreams.
00:14:35
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So maybe the the story that you're telling yourself that your ego is telling you is that you can't trust your dreams, right? These are stories. These are lies. These are fabricated lies coming in from your mind, from your ego.
00:14:51
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fair not to be trusted. This is what's not to be trusted. You can trust yourself. You know you can. Otherwise, why would you be doing this? It's not selfish. Okay. All right. So I have so many other things I want to say, but I will keep going.
00:15:07
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So the next part is, um what are the self-soothing behaviors? How does your ego try to make you feel safe? How does it manufacture ah sense of safety?
00:15:22
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When in reality, you're already safe. There's nothing to protect you against. Okay, so it manufactures safety through these certain behaviors and emotions.
00:15:35
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And ultimately, they're not safe. They're just giving you a false sense of security under your feet. And then ultimately, they perpetuate the cycle more because they give you more of what you are, what you're coming to these behaviors and emotions for in the first place to take care of.
00:15:52
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So for example, to feel safe, your ego might um make you feel um
00:16:03
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Oh, there's so many things, but it might make you overeat your ego. Like, like, so sometimes when people get afraid or they feel anxiety, they overeat. Maybe it, um, to, to feel safe, it has you smoke cigarettes to feel safe. It has you smoke weed to feel safe. It has you drink alcohol to feel safe. It gets you into fights, right?
00:16:23
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We need a dopamine hit quick. So there are so many different crazy ways that this can manifest itself, but then it's also emotions. so You might go ruminate on things. You might feel so much self-pity.
00:16:34
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You might um victimize yourself. This is a huge one. You might feel super self-righteous about things. You might come in and say, um you know, like, yeah, yeah.
00:16:45
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The world the world and and my ego are right. Like I'm not cut out for this. Right. So then all of a sudden there's like this emotion of victim, victimhood. The world is out to get me.
00:16:56
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Okay. This is rumination. This is morbid over reflection. We don't need that morbid, morbid overthinking. This is how your ego comes in to try to manufacture safety for someone, a soul, who does not need to be protected at all.
00:17:18
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Okay? And then the last piece here is looking at what are the fears? What are the fears that are running this whole thing to begin with?
Confronting Illusory Fears
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what is your What is your ego trying to tell you that you need protection from?
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And it's probably the fear of not having control, the fear of not being good enough, the fear of failure, the fear of not getting what you want, right? And maybe possibly the fear of what other people think about you.
00:17:44
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and want do you to think about these things. Like, how do these fit for you? Do they fit? And I want you to really work this process and then to ask yourself, what is the freaking truth? What is the truth?
00:17:56
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What is the truth? That you can trust yourself, that none of this is real, that your anxiety and all that are valid emotions, and they are there to give you the opportunity to do the work.
00:18:10
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So that you can have the s shift. So you can have the experience with shifting your perspective from mind to soul and be able to share on it and speak on it eloquently. So that you're able to tell other people about your experience and open their eyes to a new world, to a new perception that happens when you stop looking.
Healing Work: Ego to Soul Shift
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at the world through the lens of your ego and start looking at it through the lens of your soul. You know, sometimes this sounds surface, but it is not. It is the deepest thing that we can do. This is the deepest healing work that we can possibly do.
00:18:44
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Okay. And I want you to get to experience that. So this is also like, okay, when you do the work, the inevitable cycle that follows, and I know this for a fact because it's my experience, and this is why it was so easy for me to pull myself
Faith and Continuous Clearing for Abundance
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out of it. I have so much faith.
00:19:00
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I have so much faith in this process because what happens is, okay, the fear of not having enough money, right, of not, that that then becomes this self-perpetuating cycle of not showing up, not doing the things that you know that you need to do in order to have the money flow to you. You can't just sit and expect, okay?
00:19:24
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You have to take action. You have to take spiritual action and you have to take physical action towards your dreams. you the the The universe is, there are laws that you're working with, okay?
00:19:34
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And one of them is the law of cooperation. You need to be cooperating. You have to put in the work. So what happens though, is that when you're afraid, you're not going to put in the work, right? So because you're blocked, you're like, i don't even know to say I don't know what to do I have no idea. I'm not clear. I have no clue.
00:19:52
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That's how we say it. We say, I'm not clear. and don't have clarity. i need clarity. Otherwise I can't move forward. That's exactly what a block does. It makes you unclear. It makes you very uncertain. And so the beauty of this is when you unblock yourself, you do become clear and then you do take those actions and then you do receive the money, okay?
00:20:09
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You do receive the clients. You do receive the abundance that comes from that energetic state that you just shifted. Now, I do want to mention that there is like, there's a process to this.
00:20:21
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So if you have a ton of clearing to do, like I did, there's like what Amanda Francis calls a divine rearrangement, okay? Okay. And there is, and I've i've gone through this myself.
00:20:33
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It took me years, years of daily clearing work, of daily truth cleanses to unblock myself to the point where I could get into rolling five-figure months where I say, I want to make $30,000, I make it, right?
00:20:48
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So I do want to say, like, there's not... yeah you you you have to be able and willing to have faith and trust. And the way to do that is also by doing these truth cleanses. So it's coming through you doing the work, staying the course, having faith and doing what you have to do until it happens for you.
00:21:10
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Because you don't know how long that divine rearrangement is going to take. And it doesn't really matter because the how is not up to you. It's just not.
Engaging with the Truth Cleanse
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Oh my god I hope that was helpful.
00:21:23
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I'm obviously going to link the Truth Cleanse in the show notes if you're listening to the podcast. And if you're on the Spiritual Biz Bestie Hangout Telegram group right now listening to this, the Truth Cleanse workbook is pinned in the main hangout area. so um And if you're listening to the podcast and you...
00:21:42
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loved it, please take a second and leave a five-star review and tell me like what, what landed for you, what hit so I can keep making content that actually hits and lands and is helpful on your journey of growth, expansion, love, abundance, you know, and business building this business of freedom, this lifestyle of freedom, where we're life designers, we are designing our lives.
00:22:06
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And entrepreneurship is a part of that, right? It's a part of that freedom. It's a part of that life design. um So please, that would be so freaking amazing.
00:22:18
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And if you do it, DM me and let me know. Let me know because I'll be so excited. I'll be so excited. um All right. I love you guys so much. I hope you have an amazing day and I'll talk to you s soon.