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EP 40: Navigating breakdowns, breakthroughs & massive personal uplevels
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Breakdowns, breakthroughs, and inevitable up-levels
You guys, I freaking went THROUGH it this weekend.
Total breakdown mode.
Not crying or too much outward expression involved, I just felt so much fear that it paralyzed me from wanting to show up.
I haven’t felt that kind of fear in over 6 years, since before I got sober.
But this time I knew what it was.
I knew it was a breakthrough moving through me and although it sucked in the moment, I knew what I had to do this time to get through it.
Listen to this episode of the podcast to hear exactly what I did to move THROUGH the breakdown, to see the perceived mental obstacle as an opportunity, and receive the massive up-level that was waiting for me on the other side. 🙏🏼
Xo,
Dana
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Transcript
Welcome and Introduction
00:00:01
Speaker
Good morning, everyone. Welcome to another episode of the Modern Day Healer podcast. And if you're listening in from Telegram, welcome. No matter where you're coming in from, I'm so happy you're here.
00:00:13
Speaker
And today is going to be a really, really juicy episode because I'm going to tell you a personal story from literally this past weekend, but it's about me. And it's like one of those things where if...
00:00:26
Speaker
If I was still in it, I probably would wait a bit to tell you about it. But I genuinely feel like it's fully integrated. And it's really exciting because it's just such a testament to what we're here to do and how we're here to do it.
00:00:40
Speaker
And so, okay.
Personal Growth Journey
00:00:42
Speaker
So this past weekend, i like I have just been going through the most massive upgrades for the past few months, okay? And i I've like got coaches up the yin yang.
00:00:56
Speaker
I have everything I need, all the support I need. And thank God I do because truly like I've been leaning on these human beings um to, Like, help me get through these moments that are inevitable on this path of not just building a business from your soul, but you're building a legacy. Like we're here on a mission, on a divine mission.
00:01:17
Speaker
And so it's so much bigger. The vision is so much bigger than I think what we originally planned for o ourselves. And so when you put yourself on this path, you are going to be faced with moments of upheaval, right? Like it has to happen because again, it's like,
00:01:34
Speaker
It's that breakdown before the breakthrough. And literally, I used to pray for that because I knew that's what I needed. And so the last time I felt as depleted, as frozen, as paralyzed, as fearful and full of anxiety,
00:01:53
Speaker
As I did this weekend, the last time I felt that way was literally six years ago, right before I got sober. So that was my massive breakdown six years ago, and then my massive breakthrough.
00:02:05
Speaker
And this time, it was it was a massive breakdown, but...
Transformative Experiences
00:02:10
Speaker
Because of the work that I've done and the work that I absolutely continue to do on a daily basis, taking spiritual action, i was able to see from a bird's eye view what was really happening, right? The reality of the situation and see like zoomed out.
00:02:29
Speaker
Okay, this is good Like, I know that when I'm on the other side of this, this is going to be for the betterment of myself and everyone else involved. But when you're in it, it sucks.
00:02:42
Speaker
And I think it was a really, really important moment for me because it allowed me to feel what I think so many of my clients feel. It's that paralyzing, gripping anxiety, that fear that comes with the process of evolving And so one of my coaches was like, Dana, I don't think that I think that you're evolving more quickly right now than you have in a really long time. And I was like, oh, my God, Lois, like I literally just told my husband the same thing that I haven't felt this way in six years since I got sober.
00:03:16
Speaker
And so this was like monumental for me. now This is the important piece. This is what makes everything tick. This is what pushes everything forward.
00:03:27
Speaker
This is what raises collective consciousness. This is what allows us to build these legacy businesses. This is everything, okay?
00:03:36
Speaker
When I was able to have an objective understanding of what was happening to me, And to see that what was happening was growth, right? I was in the process of a transformation.
00:03:54
Speaker
And not make it mean anything other than that. That right there allowed me to do the work that was absolutely necessary to get me through that phase quickly.
Narrating Personal Experiences
00:04:10
Speaker
I call it falling off the spiritual horse, but this time, you know, i want to call it something else because I don't think I fell off of anything. I think I was being catapulted into the next freaking dimension. And the reality was, is I was just holding on for dear life.
00:04:25
Speaker
And so... The point that I'm trying to make is if I had told myself that it meant something different than what I did tell myself, which is that this is a transformation. This is a moment in which I'm evolving and growing and God is having his being through me right now and is clearing stuff out and making room for more.
00:04:48
Speaker
Like if I had told myself a different story that it means that I'm weak, that I'm blocked, that I'm I'm incapable that I can't do this, that this is too much. This vision's too big, right?
00:04:59
Speaker
Like these are all things that my ego tried to tell me. I watched it. I was an observer, but I was also like in it, in it. I'm watching this and I'm like, oh my God, these lies, these lies that my ego is trying right now to feed me.
00:05:15
Speaker
These breakdowns are the moments that make us, okay? Because they give us the biggest opportunities to tell ourselves a new story, to tell ourselves a story that our soul wants to tell us, right? We are actively rewriting history for ourselves And for the rest of humanity at the exact same time, this is big work and it's
Spiritual Practice and Guidance
00:05:44
Speaker
not easy. But if we see these moments of breakdown, of fear, of anxiety, of gripping emotions that are just, they they will paralyze you, right? If we can see them as opportunities instead of obstacles, right?
00:06:00
Speaker
then we will be able to rise to the occasion faster the next time it happens, number one. And number two, you're going to find out who you really are in those moments because you're going to use it to grow.
00:06:14
Speaker
You're going to use it to use your own framework for growth on yourself. That's what I had to do. i had to do the work that I know to do, right? This inside work, this inside work that becomes the outside work.
00:06:30
Speaker
That becomes my actual job. That becomes the thing that people pay me for, but also, you know, build their own legacies from. And so I, what did I do? I mean, practically speaking, i prayed all day.
00:06:44
Speaker
This, this was on either Sunday or Monday, but I prayed all day. I went on walks. I did not listen to any audio books like I usually do.
00:06:54
Speaker
I did not do any speaking. I did not... share. i did not. i Well, so and here is another point I want to make. I did end up showing up, but i i let myself relax.
00:07:06
Speaker
I let myself surrender to the fact that I needed to freaking stop. I needed to stop and I needed to continuously ask God for his will for me, because ultimately that is my will.
00:07:20
Speaker
right? And so there's no better time than those moments to ask for it. We should be asking for it every single day, all day long, which is something that I do. And honest to God, but maybe you don't get answers every time you do that, but I will tell you it's a practice.
00:07:36
Speaker
And when you do that practice and these moments of breakdown come and hit you in the face, because you have been practicing asking for the will of your higher power, you're going to know what to do. You're You're going to ask for that because you've been practicing that day in and day out.
00:07:51
Speaker
And so you're going to ask for the will of your higher power. And then what's going to happen is because you are so you are in such need to surrender, right? You're going to get answers.
00:08:02
Speaker
Okay. This is like the the point is that you will get answers because you're so willing. There's nothing else you can do. You're cornered. Your back is against the wall. You're so willing to receive in those moments. And so you do the work.
00:08:18
Speaker
And that's exactly what I did. I prayed all day long for the will of my higher power. I did nothing other than that. I told my husband, I am going away like on walks or um like I went took a bath and all of these things like where i just i had to pull away from my life in that moment.
00:08:40
Speaker
And of course, my husband was completely receptive. But you have to be willing to like say the thing and say, I need this right now. And so I did the work and i was in the bathtub and i was like still kind of talking to my copywriter and having some thoughts. And I didn't even know like what my real problem was, but it turns out where the big block was, was the name for this framework that I'm creating. It's the backbone of my entire life's work.
00:09:10
Speaker
Okay. And this is huge. This is huge stuff. And so I'm in the bathtub and I'm just kind of telling her like, here are some of my ideas and none of them, they're not really feeling great, but I'm, I'm so surrendered that I'm like, whatever, it doesn't, you know, I'm not, it's okay. I'm not attached to any of this right now. I'm just like, I'm just letting it all go. And here are some ideas and you know, what, what are your thoughts?
00:09:39
Speaker
And just kind of like letting it be. So then I'm like, getting up out of the tub. And I just had this thought pop in my head and it's just called the work. Like this is the inner work that we do in order to develop the outer work, right? The job, the career, the everything, our legacy work.
00:09:59
Speaker
And I was like, oh my God, that's it. But then lo and behold, Byron Katie has that trademarked like heavily. i forgot. So I can't use it, but it doesn't matter. Like it felt like such a breakthrough moment for me.
00:10:14
Speaker
And it wasn't just the name of the thing. It was also understanding what it was that was even blocking me to begin with. so In that moment, I had clarity. And that's what I was looking for. And that's what we're all looking for. When we have clarity, but when we have clarity it literally allows our brain to stop, to just stop, right? And the fear to stop.
00:10:36
Speaker
And all the anxiety and all of those negative emotions to just stop because we're clear there's nothing else to worry about. There's nowhere else to go with it. And God is he like is the master of giving you clarity.
00:10:48
Speaker
And so surrendering and asking for that moment of clarity is like, you know, that's essential.
Pursuit of Clarity and Purpose
00:10:54
Speaker
So my whole point here is that the clarity piece is what I was looking for, didn't realize it, right? In the moment, I didn't realize I was looking for clarity. I just knew I was so blocked and I just knew that I i didn't know up from down in that moment.
00:11:11
Speaker
And then it was like, it all just cleared up. And I realized not only the the name of this program, which obviously I can't use, but I also realized like what this is all for, right? Again, it was just a big reminder of what I'm here to do. And it is the work.
00:11:26
Speaker
It is the work. It's to sit here and have this conversation with you, to share these pieces, to share these insights, and to say, listen, that's your job too. Your job, if you have this enormous vision, is to continuously do the work so that it can be your work.
00:11:40
Speaker
And it's the only way that we can do it as our work. is if we do it for ourselves and use these moments of trial and tribulation and discomfort to tell ourselves, number one, a new story, to be objective, to say this doesn't mean anything.
00:12:00
Speaker
that I'm not good enough. This doesn't mean that I should actually be afraid. This doesn't mean anything, actually. This just means that I'm going through a massive up level if I let it happen.
Growth Opportunities and Financial Investments
00:12:10
Speaker
And if I ask something bigger than myself for guidance through it, right?
00:12:18
Speaker
And that's really it. It's like when you can do that work and you can use these moments as opportunities to completely change the story for yourself and then to actually do the work that's necessary.
00:12:30
Speaker
You remember what you're here to do. You have clarity on everything that you're here to give and receive. And it's like, oh my God. Okay. All right. Worlds colliding. Worlds coming together. Like,
00:12:42
Speaker
Here we are doing the thing and this is how we do it. So anyway, I'm going to leave it here because I think that's all there is to say about that. But I, I really felt like I needed to share it with you because it really affected me. And I, I've, I, I was brought back to that gripping fear that I had years ago when I first started this whole thing and before I was making consistent money.
00:13:05
Speaker
And that's actually what triggered the situation in the first place. It was just like so much money going out. I am paying extraordinary amounts to different coaches and to build this business and to put more skin in the game, but not just for putting skin in the game.
00:13:23
Speaker
It's because I am playing a big game. I want to. It's what my soul desires. it's what i'm I want to build this enormous thing and grow this enormous vision.
00:13:34
Speaker
And the way that I like to do it is by putting a test in the game and... i don't know. I just, that's the game I'm here to play. So um I hope that lands with you.
00:13:47
Speaker
And if it does, please let me know. And also, if you're listening to the podcast and you loved this episode or you loved any of the other episodes, please tell me about it and give me a five-star review so that other people just like you who are not just here to build a business, right?
00:14:04
Speaker
They're here to build a mission, to push a movement, to build a legacy, so that they can find this information, so that they can have this as a resource.
00:14:15
Speaker
Because honest to God, if you listen to all these trainings and put them together, you can build a business and do your soul's work and leave a true legacy, right?
00:14:27
Speaker
One where money isn't the focus, it's the fuel. It is the fuel. And freedom is the highest, highest form of currency.
Closing Remarks
00:14:40
Speaker
Okay, I love you guys so much. Have a great day.