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Proving, Performing, People-Pleasing: The Worthiness Wound of the Undefined Will
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Do you feel like you always have to earn your worth?
Like rest, joy, and love need to be “deserved”?
You might be living in the shadow of your Undefined Will Center.
This episode is part Human Design teaching, part soul liberation.
It’s for the woman who’s tired of the hustle, the performance, the proving loop—
…and ready to reclaim her worth as innate and non-negotiable.
🔍 In this episode, you’ll explore:
- The role of the Will Center in Human Design
- What the Undefined Will feels like in real life
- How to break free from proving, perfectionism, and people-pleasing
- Deconditioning questions to come home to your value
🔗Links & Resources:
- ✨ Grab the free guide: The Good Girl Detox
- 📖 My book: You Are a Cosmic Miracle
- 💻 Explore my private support & programs: michelemartincoaching.com
- 💻 Book a free call here: Clarity Call
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Transcript
Introduction to Authenticity and Self-Worth
00:00:57
Michele Martin
Hello, and welcome to another episode of the Authenticity Revolution. If you've ever felt like you had to earn your rest, like your worth was measured in productivity, self-sacrifice, or achievement, or like you were constantly trying to prove you were enough, then this episode is for you.
Exploring the Undefined Will Center
00:01:25
Michele Martin
Today we're talking about the undefined will center in human design. One of the most conditioned and misunderstood centers in the chart. And one that holds deep wisdom once we stop trying to override it.
00:01:42
Michele Martin
So in human design, the will center, which also called the heart or the ego center, governs willpower, value, commitment, self-worth, and desire for recognition or material success.
00:01:58
Michele Martin
And only a small part of the population has this center defined. So for the rest of us, when it's undefined, we're here to feel and sample willpower, but we're not here to prove anything.
00:02:15
Michele Martin
And yet, the conditioning here runs really deep, especially for women.
The Impact of Deconditioning
00:02:22
Michele Martin
So here's what living with an undefined will can feel like before deconditioning.
00:02:30
Michele Martin
Saying yes to things to feel valuable, over committing, overworking, over giving, feeling like you're only lovable if you're useful, constantly striving to deserve rest, money, love, visibility,
00:02:51
Michele Martin
It's the proving loop and you can easily get stuck in it. It's the I'll finally be enough when spiral. It's the quiet self-abandonment that looks a lot like people pleasing.
Recognizing and Addressing Burnout
00:03:05
Michele Martin
If you've lived in this space, I want you to know you're not broken. You're brilliantly designed to not measure your worth in output. So once I saw that my undefined will, once I saw it for what it was, it explained so much.
00:03:25
Michele Martin
The burnout, the martyrdom, the constant pushing through energy that left me feeling depleted and resentful.
00:03:36
Michele Martin
Now, I don't push to proof. I pause. I ask my emotional authority what actually feels right, and I take the time to listen.
00:03:48
Michele Martin
I give myself permission to rest without earning it, and I teach other women how to do the same.
Embracing Unapologetic Self-Worth
00:03:57
Michele Martin
So if you're resonating with this, try asking yourself, what am I trying to prove, and to who?
00:04:07
Michele Martin
Where do I override my body to meet other people's expectations? And what would I do differently if I knew that I was already worthy?
00:04:21
Michele Martin
Where am I seeking validation externally instead of trusting my truth? You were never meant to hustle for your worth. You're here to live your worth naturally and unapologetically.
00:04:38
Michele Martin
And your worth isn't even in question. It never was. And this revolution that you're in, it's not about doing more.
00:04:49
Michele Martin
It's about becoming more of who you already are. And if this spoke to your inner good girl or high achiever, start with my free guide, Rewrite and Reclaim the Good Girl Detox.
Resources and Engagement
00:05:03
Michele Martin
The link is in the show notes.
00:05:08
Michele Martin
Let's stop proving and start remembering. You are ready enough. Thank you for being here in the Authenticity Revolution. If this episode spoke to your nervous system, your heart, or your history, send it to a sister still trying to prove her worth.
00:05:27
Michele Martin
And if you feel called, leave a review. This is how we spread this frequency of truth, softness, and sovereignty.