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trinaaykay: Welcome to This Side of Someday. I'm Trina. I'm Julie. That's not the right way to do that. but It doesn't matter. It's fine. We're going to switch it up every time. It's this side of Sunday. We don't have a jingle yet, but I can hum a ditty for you. and You might hear the dogs. They'll hum for you. They will totally. if you If it sounds like somebody is being harmed in the background.
trinaaykay: That is just Kobe. And he is very dramatic. He is dramatic. And also he's safe and fine. um He's just not allowed to be on the podcast. that's it All right. So it's Tuesday. happy tuesday Yeah.
trinaaykay: You should be hearing this on Thursday. Although, depending. You can listen at any point, but it'll be live on Thursday. Right. But we thought it was funny that this episode is called. It's just Tuesday.
trinaaykay: And so we we're going to get on a Tuesday. Yeah, it's just Tuesday. so I think the idea behind this one. we were talking and we talk a lot about this is that people are always waiting for Friday.
trinaaykay: waiting for the kids to get older. Waiting to have more money. waiting. to have a clean office. Waiting. for a bigger house for vacation right always waiting for something and so And I feel like life is mostly.
trinaaykay: Tuesdays, right It is. It is. there's I mean, what do they say? The weekends only account for 33 % of your year? oh Something. Or your wink. something It's not a lot. I mean it's a lot but not a lot.
trinaaykay: If you're always waiting for them, it was 70. Well, guys, I can't do math. However many? 60. 67. 67. six seven that's funny not funny don't get it Alright, go ahead.
trinaaykay: But. it doesn't i mean it leaves time but not a lot of time like you're wasting so much of that time We do. Yeah, just like barely. being awake for those days or just like wishing them away um does anybody me remember the movie No, here you go. There it is. There is a movie called Click. It was Adam Saylor.
trinaaykay: Do you remember this? He got like this remote control. Anyway. He he could like fast forward and pause his life and rewind and rewining to do all these things and so He fast forwarded, he was waiting, right? He kept saying he was going to spend more time with his family and do more things.
trinaaykay: soon as he got this promotion because he was up for this big promotion so he's just living at work And he fast forwarded. Because eventually he just got frustrated. I was like, I just want to. take me because his boss was like you'll be promoted by like December whatever it was he's like take me to then like I want it I don't want to do this I don't want to be present for all this arguing I have to do and all this working and just Fast forward to when I get the promotion and when.
trinaaykay: He did that. He was like an old man before he got that promotion. and he had missed after His whole life. He had missed his whole life. he'd missed his kids growing up he had missed All of their milestones he'd missed. Yeah.
trinaaykay: Years and years. and so i think about that movie a lot it was not a popular movie i don't think i don't think it's very well i don't even remember it well i mean the concept was great it just didn't do as well as his other movies, obviously. but That movie has really stuck with me in this idea that we really do try to just fast forward.
trinaaykay: Through all the mundane stuff right without mundane or boring the day -to -days. And that's because it is boring. i mean but I mean, good like get to okay because if we're talking about it, you have to be honest.
trinaaykay: Right. And yes. Those things are boring, but you have to be. because You have to find the fun in the boring. Yeah, I think Right?
trinaaykay: Because... Right. Like who wants to do this like this every day? And then but then I pack the lunches. that Right. And fill up the permission slips. and send the kids and punch the clock at work and do the commute and right. Right. i think there's ways though to make that's what i'm saying you have to find the fun in the boring.
trinaaykay: Yeah. you do you have to find ways to like enjoy even those moments maybe it's like a a special drink on the way to work. Maybe it's... take a different route. Yeah, maybe it's actually take your lunch outside and eat in the park.
trinaaykay: I think there's ways that you can. do that and i realized like not all of them are going to be mo okay so like let's just be honest right nobody has like expendable income right now That's just the truth. Fact. So maybe you don't have money to do.
trinaaykay: anything crazy special on a random Tuesday. But I do think that we take for granted this beautiful world that we live in and we don't spend as much time in it. Outside. Outside. Right. Like in it. Right. In nature.
trinaaykay: in nature right we watch a movie of somebody like having lunch at a park and we're like That's amazing. But we don't actually go and have lunch in the park. like You can burn jelly and go outside and eat it. or if you work in the city you can go outside there's a bunch they're somewhere yeah Yeah.
trinaaykay: I think there's a way to find. even a little bit of joy in those days. I i have this idea that... We should all behave as if we are tourists in our city. at least every now and then Right. you Like look up.
trinaaykay: i love to I love to play Taurus. You do love to play Taurus. I do. I feel like no matter where I live. because I've lived in quite a few places now. No matter where I live, I think it is the most fun when you can just be a tourist in your own city because you get so.
trinaaykay: blind to the magic around you. to the things to do and the, you know, the things you just, you just forget because you're like, well, this is my route to work. This is my route to my normal place that I go on Friday night. This is that this is what we do on Saturday. This is what we do on Sunday. yeah And then we start our week again. Yes. So I think I dare you wherever you live to look up.
trinaaykay: fun things to do in. Whatever city, you whatever city you're in, whatever. Yeah. Whatever city, whatever town. fun things to do in and just Google it.
trinaaykay: and allow yourself to just have fun. like pick something and not, ah and you can even say. fun free things to do in and you'd be amazed at how many resources there are for fun things to do or go check out in a metro park or Okay, not a race on Columbus.
trinaaykay: Columbus has Metro parts. It's super cool. But if you're in Pittsburgh, you're like, I don't know what that means. Why's it gotta be Pittsburgh? I'm just hearing. Colorado. I was just pointing out another city that I've lived in that I know does not have measure parks.
trinaaykay: They have parts, sure, but not. Metropart. but yeah yeah Just look it up. I mean, there's there's fun places, though. you Your favorite thing to do is just like buy flowers.
trinaaykay: On a Tuesday. On a Tuesday. maybe that I was just saying, we're going to get this little thing back here. Can you see? if if you're if you're I'm sorry, if you're listening, you cannot see. So I will tell you that I am holding up. a little planter that is an oversized coffee cup. And it is the cutest thing. Like a lego cappuccino mug. Like a cappuccino mug, yes. And it's this beautiful teal color. But it's empty because it's for flowers.
trinaaykay: of some sort. Yeah, it's supposed to have some sort of put something in it. yeah we're getting another plant over there yeah buying, buying fresh flowers. going for I like walking on own. cobblestone or brick roads that is like That's so silly.
trinaaykay: Everybody, what? Not everybody has it. I feel like every city he has a brick road somewhere. Like be like Dorothy and you'll find the brick road, right? Yeah, but like what do you what can you do? What can you do to make your Tuesday? not look like every other Tuesday.
trinaaykay: or every other day. or every other day. You could...
trinaaykay: Honestly. Like. change it up if you have tacos every tuesday they have sushi today like There's so many different ways. I think it's fine. You know what? This is what this is going to come back to. And we're going to probably circle back to this so many times.
trinaaykay: What are you like? Most people don't even know what they like anymore. right like you have no like if you put your phone down but Put your phone down. like Here's my challenge. Put your phone down for like an hour.
trinaaykay: and don't look at it don't And go do something. You can even be in your house. but just be alone and just figure out like what do you like to do i was gonna say the first thing they should do is like write down like five things that you like to do and see if see that bring you joy you even have five yeah that's true there's been a lot so if you are constantly scrolling and you know there's been like a lot of like um things going around right now.
trinaaykay: about how happiness is just. going back to being the person you were when you were like 13 or 14 or 16 like those hobbies have you seen this no all these middle -aged women now hi it's me um are just embracing the things that brought them joy then or like remembering like, oh yeah, I really liked this. So maybe you really liked.
trinaaykay: you know don't they're doubt they're coloring should not get a bad rap and be a kid thing coloring is enjoyable for people, not all people. But there's a lot of things that are in doing. Reading Legos.
trinaaykay: Coloring. I love Legos. Right. Julie loves Legos. I hate Legos. they I love Legos. I can't. Yeah. Like, could you sit could you really sit down? or i might even sit down could you rattle off five things that you love to do? I mean, like oh you do it first. moment think That was rude.
trinaaykay: I asked if you could. This is why our relationship is like, guys, what do you think about this? Well, what do you think about this? She says that, but she never answers the question first. If there were cameras in this place. But also, here's the other question. Okay.
trinaaykay: Well, not necessarily because it could be things that you like to do and you just never do them. But you love to do that. like Yes, I love to do Legos. Yes, I love to be outside. ah let See? She's at two. I'm at two.
trinaaykay: That's it? That's all you like? I'm sure I like more things, but that's the thing like I couldn't I couldn't. That's the problem. Okay. I got this books. I like audio books. I like reading books. I don't care. I love books. I love the journal.
trinaaykay: I love to just listen to music without anybody talking to me. Music. I love puzzles. I love coloring. What's your face right now?
trinaaykay: Nothing. Oh, you know what I really love? Have you guys done those little... DIY. book nook thing oh my gosh you love those things love those I have a love hate relationship with them. You really have to have like some patience and some finger dexterity, but. Man, I love those. I actually, I'm overdue for a new one. I mean i just like to be out. See, that's the thing. like I just like to be out fishing. I like fishing.
trinaaykay: I like hiking. Yeah. I mean, I do. I like going for walks. When we go over, I prefer to go walk over the park because I like water. And like that kind of nature and like bridges. Yeah. You give me a covered bridge. and that's Yeah. But see, look, it's I have trouble.
trinaaykay: figuring out what I have five things I like to do. Because I'm so wrapped up in everything else. Oh, we also, I mean, I think we're not giving ourselves credit here. We like to play games with the kids. Not always, but we do play a lot of games with these kids. Yeah, we play it yeah we do play a lot of games. We like games. We love you.
trinaaykay: If you need a list, you let us know. We have a a pretty solid list, I think, right now of of family -friendly. But yeah, just do something like that. Yeah. It doesn't have to be a Friday night to play a game or Saturday night to play a game. You know what? and There's another thing you could do to make Tuesday magical.
trinaaykay: if you have kids if you have kids yeah instead of just doing the normal after school routine whatever like Set 30 minutes. part aside before you know the bedtime routine and and play a game yeah i get you can't always do that but like that is your kids will Your kids will remember that you did that. Even if you only do it one time, they'll be like, oh, we used to like play games on Tuesdays. Like yeah they'll totally think of it as like a good thing, right? Yeah.
trinaaykay: Yeah. whatever day, whatever day of the week. It doesn't have to be. Tuesday, but pick a day that's a weekday. and be like we're gonna play a game today or it's gonna be like family wednesday and on wednesdays we play games Right. mm -hmm yeah Sander just beat me at chess on Sunday.
trinaaykay: That's just because you were tired. So tired. Not a lot of people like to play games with Trina because she's really good at all of them. but but Word games and logic games, forget it. to Everyone's in their word games with me and that's fine. You shouldn't. but I don't know. That's it. What else?
trinaaykay: Make every day magical. Not necessarily magical, but... Right, but I don't think there's anything wrong with trying to make your day magical. And I think. you know we'll get into this in another episode but there's definitely going to be people that like don't approve of you trying to make the day magical like people they're just like man Who does she think she is?
trinaaykay: trying to add sparkles to our wednesday like you know people you get pushback you'll see people that are just inherently unhappy and want to be unhappy. You know, I think that's always true.
trinaaykay: anytime you're you're doing something different. Cheers. Cheers. So our challenge today friends is. Find five things you like to do. five five yeah so That's not your phone.
trinaaykay: it's not it's not on your phone put your phone down and say what are five things i like to do not with my spouse likes to do, my partner likes to do, my kids like to do.
trinaaykay: my friends like to do my boss likes to do what are five things that i like to do. Yeah. And then save you figure it out have to schedule it, even schedule it out. So you're doing something this week that just brings you some joy.
trinaaykay: Right. Yeah. Yeah. And you know what? You have the time because you're scrolling. You're scrolling. yeah That's right. If you looked at your screen time. Oh, yeah. That'll be another episode.
trinaaykay: Check your screen time and report in. Report back. I mean we don't have it figured out. new No, no, no. But I think that's the whole point is just being intentional. Yeah. We're trying.
trinaaykay: every day Every day with us. There you go. There's the new jingle.
trinaaykay: Alright. That's it. Thanks for joining us. on this side of sunday Have a great week. We'll be back. next Thursday.
trinaaykay: Peace. Peace.
