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Speaker: What up, everyone?
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Speaker: Oh, hey, everybody.
Speaker: We totally should have done this in person, but my office right now, aka studio, is a little crazy.
Speaker: So this is better for everybody, but could have been fun.
Speaker: Okay, so I'm going to record.
Speaker: This meeting is being recorded.
Speaker: everything like that at the end because I need you to send me a bio.
Speaker: But yeah, so we're just going to get fucking into it.
Speaker: And warning everyone listening in, there's going to be like dirty language and like swearing and stuff like that.
Speaker: For this conversation.
Speaker: So thank you for being here.
Speaker: Thanks for having me.
Speaker: I'm happy to be here big queen energy, you know Hey, I mean, we've got some big king energy in the room.
Speaker: Yeah, you know, I am him.
Speaker: I am who I am.
Speaker: I am him.
Speaker: King me, please This is gonna be a potent episode an awesome episode.
Speaker: I'm super excited to dig in but as you know
Speaker: Just life in general, just to live.
Speaker: I'm grateful for that.
Speaker: Amen.
Speaker: What is a guilty pleasure of yours, whether or not you feel guilty about it?
Speaker: We own our choices.
Speaker: I always have a problem with understanding what that definition really means, but when I think about it, I thought about this last night.
Speaker: I really have a sugar rush at times, but I just want to eat a lot of gummy bears.
Speaker: Gummy bears.
Speaker: Gummy bears and sugar and candy.
Speaker: I'm like, bro, what are you doing?
Speaker: Or I got these vegan chips I get as well.
Speaker: It's like nine o'clock at night and I'm like digging in.
Speaker: But I love it.
Speaker: It makes me feel like a little kid again.
Speaker: Like, yeah, I'm not even hungry, but I'm gonna go get some gummy bears.
Speaker: I have some gummy bears in my house actually from a trip to
Speaker: been doing that like i get up in the morning i'm making my coffee i'm like why not have a little handful of gummy bears at 7 a.m in the morning why not right yeah so i i can't hold on to gummy bears i get them they're gone two bags three bags i gotta keep them out of the way okay okay got it noted what's a random fact that most people wouldn't know about you um the first thing comes to mind and i'm a nerd you see all these books in the back
Speaker: I'm a nerd.
Speaker: I love learning.
Speaker: I love growing, getting better as an individual.
Speaker: And I study life, like literally.
Speaker: I'm always trying to figure out things to make things better or more efficient.
Speaker: I love it.
Speaker: I love it.
Speaker: If you weren't doing what you do now, and obviously you are curating your life, curating your business in the way that feels best to you and doing what lights you up.
Speaker: But if you weren't doing this, what kind of job or career would you have?
Speaker: What's something that's always been like,
Speaker: would have been an athlete like at the highest level like just showing up performing yes i like it makes sense makes sense do you have any weird talents or special skills i can dance okay um i don't know if it's weird talents
Speaker: I mean, I guess this is like spiritual.
Speaker: I have like a crazy deep sixth sense at times.
Speaker: I can feel people feel things and know things without even knowing why.
Speaker: I was actually just watching a video on seven types of healers.
Speaker: So I realized I'm a messenger and I'm a way shower.
Speaker: So the messenger is the one who gets information from the spirit, from the spiritual realm and translates it into the reality, to the real world and give it to the people who needs it.
Speaker: and yearns for it and then a way shower is the person who does the work to show people this is how you do it, this is what you have to go through to get to it and we just show like and people live through that so it's interesting.
Speaker: I'm gonna see the video, you'll like it.
Speaker: Okay, I like this.
Speaker: Yeah, it's super fascinating and I definitely want to talk more about the spirituality, energy kind of stuff with you as well.
Speaker: Okay, what did you want to be when you were little?
Speaker: Professional ball player.
Speaker: I just wanted to be a ball player.
Speaker: I always wanted to be basketball, NBA.
Speaker: That was my dream.
Speaker: I gave it everything.
Speaker: I gave it my all.
Speaker: I gave it my energy.
Speaker: I mean, 100 degree weather, I'm shooting basketball.
Speaker: Ice cold outside, I'm on a basketball court.
Speaker: So that was my dream.
Speaker: And I had to change that.
Speaker: Now I'm a pro in life.
Speaker: I'm a pro in life, baby.
Speaker: I got to go professional in life.
Speaker: So that's the new profession for me.
Speaker: I like it.
Speaker: What did you want to be when you were, or I already asked that.
Speaker: When is the last time that you cried?
Speaker: That's recently.
Speaker: When was this?
Speaker: Maybe, let's say like three weeks ago.
Speaker: Okay.
Speaker: Yeah, I was crying.
Speaker: Big cry.
Speaker: Like a big baby.
Speaker: But it was just like, because when I cry, it's because I can feel things about the thing I'm crying about more innately and deep.
Speaker: So,
Speaker: One was just from seeing a situation that unfolded that I knew could have been different if things would change, but it wasn't.
Speaker: And it was a kid involved.
Speaker: And it's just kind of like a separation that happened with the kid and the parents kind of like hurt me because I know what that's like.
Speaker: And not having that and having the kid see that and not have it now, like it just hurt, you know.
Speaker: And I was dealing with my own little personal issues or whatever I was holding on to forever.
Speaker: And I just let it out.
Speaker: I'm a crier but I ain't gonna cry but I will cry I'm like I think I cried a little bit this morning like five seconds totally fine you know some energy got had to move there we go we let it out you know it's funny I had my cousin his name is Dante Young and um he said the moment when he was a kid maybe he was like 14 to 15 and as he was getting older the moment he started to cry and let go he started making more progress and money started coming into his
Speaker: You're holding on to that energy.
Speaker: It weighs you down, right?
Speaker: And it takes up space.
Speaker: And if we're holding on to that, we're not in alignment.
Speaker: And I believe that abundance and attraction works on alignment.
Speaker: And so if you're out of alignment, even in the littlest way, you're blocking stuff from coming your way.
Speaker: Exactly.
Speaker: I love that.
Speaker: When's the last time that you laughed so hard you almost peed your pants?
Speaker: It was a laugh.
Speaker: I think it was yesterday.
Speaker: It was something so simple and stupid, but it was just like funny because of me and the person relation to it was just I forgot what I mean.
Speaker: Yeah, the other day.
Speaker: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker: That was one.
Speaker: But then I think I laughed yesterday too.
Speaker: Yeah, it was just it was just like it was just I guess I think the laugh was about the government, right?
Speaker: How the government is like
Speaker: they don't give a F. They want what they want and they gonna bring it, right?
Speaker: But it's like, there's no hiding what they want.
Speaker: But he was laughing because it's like, yo, they go hard.
Speaker: So if you got a business, right?
Speaker: And you look at the government, look how they run their business.
Speaker: They'll do whatever it takes to get you to get what they want you to have.
Speaker: And so it was just funny because it's like, yo, that's crazy if you think of it like that.
Speaker: That's the way it is.
Speaker: It was just an internal moment with me and my friend because we just laughed because it was hilarious because it was so real.
Speaker: But it was like, yo, that's crazy because that's literally how you need to be sometimes when it comes to business.
Speaker: You know, you got to do what you got to do, but it's just funny.
Speaker: Sifu.
Speaker: If my favorite meal, I would say, okay, salmon, sauteed spinach.
Speaker: Oh, we're getting very specific.
Speaker: Maybe some fried mushrooms and some quinoa.
Speaker: What's up with a kombucha?
Speaker: What's some kombucha?
Speaker: Oh.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Detail.
Speaker: Detail, like a Virgo.
Speaker: Hey, get in there.
Speaker: Very specific.
Speaker: Yeah, I'm painting that picture for the viewers and the listeners.
Speaker: I know.
Speaker: Hey.
Speaker: And kombucha that's my favorite I'm addicted to that I believe you know, you know I Started a little sparkling water addiction over here on my end like last year No, like at this point it was like early 2020 once the Sun goes down.
Speaker: I I just switched to sparkling water
Speaker: one but it's like this whole thing it's a it's a whole vibe i don't know anyway what is your next travel destination the next place that you want to travel to good question so there's a uh lux how do you say it lux storious i hope i said that right luxurious looks lord how do you say it luxurious luxurious i can't even say hi guys
Speaker: Oh, it was luxury.
Speaker: This is not a luxury.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: It's a hotel in Utah.
Speaker: I think it's the armor.
Speaker: It begins with the A. It's like $2,500 a night or something like that.
Speaker: Something crazy.
Speaker: But that's somewhere I want to go and experience.
Speaker: And it's also a place in Palm Desert.
Speaker: I think it's like a cleansing place where you go and you just cleanse out your soul.
Speaker: Like they give you like certain type of like drinks and food.
Speaker: I forgot the name, but it's in Palm Springs somewhere.
Speaker: But outside of that, I don't really have...
Speaker: Nothing, because I just, I went to Tahiti not too long ago.
Speaker: That was amazing.
Speaker: That was phenomenal.
Speaker: But Utah, that hotel, I'll find it.
Speaker: And then that place in Palm Desert.
Speaker: Like, I have a big, I just want to go to spiritual retreats.
Speaker: And I want to heal more and learn and just unplug.
Speaker: Right?
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And be free.
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: In order to be.
Speaker: Well, okay, so that is all I've got for Rabbit Friars.
Speaker: Now we're going to get into the meat of the conversation and do all the things.
Speaker: But before, I throw a bunch of questions at you because I even just in that, I wrote down a ton more questions and topics I want to cover already, and I'm pumped for that.
Speaker: Would you tell us just the bullet points of your story for all the listeners who maybe don't know you yet from obviously from Baltimore to what you're up
Speaker: to now here in LA Cliff Notes version because I know it's like Cliff Notes you want the Cliff Notes hey who took Cliff Notes in 9th and 10th grade because I was cheating in English sorry Mr. Niaga that's his name English teacher City College High School
Speaker: But anyway, I'm Eric Bigger, TV personality, motivator, fitness trainer, all things motivation, positivity, inspiration.
Speaker: I'm from Baltimore, Maryland, born and raised.
Speaker: I graduated from Hampton University in Virginia.
Speaker: Graduated in 2010, booked a one-way ticket, came to LA.
Speaker: I knew one person, I had $1,000 to my name.
Speaker: That was it.
Speaker: And then I figured it out.
Speaker: And then, you know, I did every job from Uber to, you know, selling water machines, a door guy, you know, at a nightclub.
Speaker: And then boom, I got a big break.
Speaker: Went on the TV show, the reality show, The Bachelorette.
Speaker: And wow, you know, I went to six countries, fell in love.
Speaker: And then my life changed.
Speaker: And boom, here all my dreams came true.
Speaker: Got a podcast, traveling the world, speaking engagements.
Speaker: You know, then I did another show.
Speaker: Then I did another show.
Speaker: And then now I'm just...
Speaker: self-regulated and creative content that's going to inspire evolve and heal humanity and give people a different way to perceive themselves as well as the world and the lens they look from because if we change the way we look at things the things we look at change and uh recently i just released a book 100 days of wisdom yes that we have here we
Speaker: You know, you definitely can get it is out.
Speaker: Link is in my bio.
Speaker: My Instagram is Eric Behr.
Speaker: And I also have a course that's connected to this book that you can use while reading it.
Speaker: So that's what's of recent.
Speaker: A new book out.
Speaker: Book launch party is November 4th.
Speaker: And that'll be the first Thursday in November.
Speaker: And I have some other things I'm working on.
Speaker: I won't speak on it, but it'll be out.
Speaker: After the fact, but it's fitness related, it's spiritual related.
Speaker: And I'm just constantly growing and improving and evolving and becoming just a man of just belief and faith and letting people know, like, you do the work, you believe in yourself, it can happen.
Speaker: Because I wasn't always this guy.
Speaker: So this is who I am.
Speaker: I mean, I'm in L.A., by the way.
Speaker: I'm in Burbank.
Speaker: You know, hey, I'm in L.A.
Speaker: And I'm in Baltimore.
Speaker: We're like 10 minutes.
Speaker: is so fun um okay so let's talk a bit more about the book yeah this is so fucking cool like i love books like this because it's so easy to it's easy to digest it's easy to work through it's not something that you like because i'm i i'm not a good reader in the sense that like i know how to read like all that but like i'm not consistent with reading actual books like i can do an audiobook really consistent
Speaker: And remember where the hell I am, you know, and so this kind of book is so much like I'll show you guys Are you know watch video and stuff like that, but it's basically like like it says
Speaker: along with a lined page to do some reflection around it.
Speaker: So the idea being, go through this baby over the course of 100 days and you start your day, end your day, or whenever you need it, right, with a fucking dose of inspiration.
Speaker: So I love books like this.
Speaker: This is something that I know I can stick with really consistently and it serves a great value for me.
Speaker: But I want to know where the idea for this came from.
Speaker: Yeah, so this idea generated in 2015.
Speaker: At the time I was living in career town.
Speaker: I was in a one-bedroom apartment with a roommate, you know, that was really different times.
Speaker: But I was taking a Lewis Howes mastermind.
Speaker: And so in 28 days, everybody in a mastermind group had to create a product.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: So at the time I did motivational videos on Instagram.
Speaker: So I would do motivation Monday, wisdom Wednesday, what's positive Friday.
Speaker: And at the time at 15 seconds, it was just videos of me pumping out motivation for my followers, the people who, you know, follow me.
Speaker: And honestly, it was really me speaking to myself because I wasn't in the best state, you know, mentally, emotionally, because I was still trying to figure me out in life.
Speaker: And how do I evolve?
Speaker: How do I get out of this one bedroom with another girl, man?
Speaker: Like I need to figure me out, right?
Speaker: But that was the journey at the time.
Speaker: And so those videos, I took 100 of those videos, turned the words from those videos into quotes.
Speaker: And this is how I generated this book.
Speaker: And when I look back at the book, as I look at it now,
Speaker: And I hope it, you know, open like day 74 when things got hard.
Speaker: Did you stay or did you run?
Speaker: When people doubted you, did you give up?
Speaker: Don't believe in the fears.
Speaker: You're more than enough.
Speaker: You're powerful and nothing can stop you.
Speaker: You're phenomenal.
Speaker: Stay true to you.
Speaker: Stay true to your soul.
Speaker: So like reading that and thinking of that and being in that moment in that space, I like to think like, where was I at in my life?
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: But what happened was that was those words, that motivation, that energy was what kept me going, what gave me more faith and belief and confidence.
Speaker: I was trying to figure something out.
Speaker: This is pure creation from my soul.
Speaker: This is like coming from me, from all the books and seminars and everything I experienced at that time.
Speaker: Really creating it, spitting it out on a social media platform and taking that and putting it in a book.
Speaker: And so this book will get you through your toughest times, your lonely times.
Speaker: You keep you motivated.
Speaker: You keep you stimulated.
Speaker: You will want to grow.
Speaker: You want to be more.
Speaker: So this, and it's like you said, it's easy to digest because I'm not hitting you over here like 10 pages or one quote, you know, or long passages.
Speaker: You read it early in the morning.
Speaker: digest it take your notes and then you really once again before you go to bed so it's in your subconscious and then it's 100 days because they say it takes 21 days to hold someone accountable for them to shift you know a paradigm or break a habit or create a new habit i want people to keep going i want them to stay consistent so you're gonna build consistency you're gonna be disciplined you're gonna appreciate dedication and your life is going to change and you might not think about it but i always tell people give yourself seven days straight with this book
Speaker: You'll start seeing differences in your life about yourself.
Speaker: You're going to think different.
Speaker: You're going to feel different.
Speaker: You're going to be different.
Speaker: Not because of me, because of you.
Speaker: You opened the book.
Speaker: You took the time.
Speaker: You read the quotes.
Speaker: You took the notes.
Speaker: And when you do that, I'm teaching you how to build consistent action steps to move forward in your life.
Speaker: Because how we do one thing is how we do all things.
Speaker: And then that transpired into other places in your life.
Speaker: And that's what it's about.
Speaker: It's about you evolving as a human.
Speaker: human being being your best self with what you have so that's the book hunt days i love it i love it you guys yeah so everybody hundred days of wisdom best place to get it is yes on instagram at eric bigger click the link sign up get the book i'm sending out copies you know once we get off here i got like six or seven books all wrapped up ready to go so
Speaker: a book like whether it's quotes you know your personal story what not like this is such a big yeah undertaking so it's a big and it's my second book it's my second book yeah you know how cool to like have a physical like how fun is this yeah and it's it's interesting because it's my it's my face is on this so it's like it's my energy so
Speaker: I'll show it.
Speaker: But it was with another friend, right?
Speaker: It's a workbook, right?
Speaker: And what I realized was that, you know, this is cool.
Speaker: This is great because this helps as well.
Speaker: But this is all of me.
Speaker: This is kind of partnering with someone else.
Speaker: It still works.
Speaker: But when I see this and I open this and I really look at these pages, I'm like, yeah, take responsibility for all your actions and learn from your mistakes.
Speaker: Continue to improve.
Speaker: Give negativity, no energy, be great.
Speaker: I'm like, yeah, that's me.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: So it's such a... This is the first time in my life that I've been proud of me because I went through an awakening these last few weeks.
Speaker: And now I'm at a place where I can appreciate my accomplishment.
Speaker: I can appreciate this moment of being on this podcast and talking to you about something I created because I said 2015 is 2021.
Speaker: So it wasn't like I did the book and hey, here you go.
Speaker: And I had an e-book prior, but I revamped it, you know, fixed some things, blah, blah, blah.
Speaker: And now I'm here.
Speaker: So I always want to tell people listening and watching.
Speaker: Don't shortchange the process.
Speaker: Give it time because divine timing is real.
Speaker: And when it's supposed to happen, it will happen and your things will manifest and you will feel good about it.
Speaker: But when we try to force, you know, books, we try to force relationships, force jobs, force things into manifestation.
Speaker: They don't last long and they don't keep you going because you're trying to control it.
Speaker: And when you're trying to control things, those things control you.
Speaker: And you don't really have the power that you can get from it because you're not allowing it to be what it needs to be.
Speaker: Like, I've not had this book sitting in the archives for years, but now it's time for the universe to see it and feel it and get the benefits from it.
Speaker: So I'm happy.
Speaker: Yeah, so why now?
Speaker: Because if it's content that you had for a long time, like, you know, how come this didn't come to life sooner?
Speaker: And maybe it's just related to all the growth that you've experienced over the last year and everything like that, that it was finally, you were finally ready to share this and share, because it is like such intimate stuff, you know?
Speaker: It's such a personal, personal content.
Speaker: Like, yeah, what, why now?
Speaker: Well, timing.
Speaker: You know, we had a pandemic last year and the pandemic, you had a bunch of time.
Speaker: So the book I just showed, that's what I wrote over the pandemic.
Speaker: And this was already in the archives.
Speaker: I just didn't bring it out.
Speaker: And it took some time with my book publisher.
Speaker: Shouts out to Brian Johnson, Live Your Dream Out Loud Publishing.
Speaker: And so I released that book in July of 2020.
Speaker: And this came out, e-book version came out in February this year.
Speaker: And so it was the timing and at that time, you know, my spirit was telling me you need to create products because God forbid anything that you make money off of or create, if it shuts down, what do you have?
Speaker: Right?
Speaker: What can you do?
Speaker: That was my intention.
Speaker: So in the pandemic, I created a fitness challenge with Vanessa Simmons.
Speaker: I wrote a book, Transformation.
Speaker: That's another book.
Speaker: I started a coaching business.
Speaker: I got, I should have had one of my shirts on.
Speaker: I got Miracle Season merch.
Speaker: So over these times, I'm creating products.
Speaker: That's mine, that's connected to who I am.
Speaker: And that was the intentions.
Speaker: And this is the manifestation.
Speaker: And now we're here.
Speaker: So that's really, it was the timing.
Speaker: And then I had the time to do it, the time to focus on it, where before,
Speaker: You know, you're doing life, you're handling business, you're not really, you know you got to do it, but you just don't know when.
Speaker: And then I always say, when you have time to do something, you should do it.
Speaker: So.
Speaker: A hundred percent.
Speaker: So you mentioned a few minutes ago, like you went through a bit of an awakening, even just a few weeks ago.
Speaker: Yeah, a few weeks ago.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Can you tell us all about that?
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: So, you know, um, yeah.
Speaker: I'm very spiritual, I'm very deep, and so I'm aware when I'm going through a transformation in life and where my old self or my old ways or the old paradigm that I was working out of no longer serves me or humanity the way I would want to because how I feel.
Speaker: And so coming from a place of taking care of everybody, somewhat of a people pleaser, being codependent, allowing people to
Speaker: to depend on me to be me.
Speaker: So if people depend on me, they gave me validation to be me for them and not me for me.
Speaker: And so I got a revelation that you can't do that no more.
Speaker: That doesn't serve you, that doesn't help you, that doesn't benefit you.
Speaker: Also, it actually hurts them even more because you're enabling these people by trying to take over and give them the answers you think they should have.
Speaker: And they're not finding their own answers.
Speaker: And then I had a series of like a week where I'm like, you know what?
Speaker: They don't need me as much as I think they do.
Speaker: I think there's a narrative that I'm created that they need me.
Speaker: I'm pulling energy from them to be me.
Speaker: It's something I created from a childhood to keep me going.
Speaker: But in actuality, I was afraid to go do the journey and be who I need to be by myself, for myself, alone because it's lonely.
Speaker: I'm really good at groups.
Speaker: I'm really good at helping the group, managing the group, motivating and inspiring the group.
Speaker: I'm good with groups.
Speaker: But now it's like, okay, that's over.
Speaker: That self is over.
Speaker: Now that's about you.
Speaker: What do you want for you for you?
Speaker: And no one's involved.
Speaker: You're not attached to anyone or helping anyone.
Speaker: And I got a lot of this information from my nail chart.
Speaker: us to talk about for sure north node south node so my south node was in virgo and my north node is in pisces so south node so it was in 11th house an 11th house is of groups community people right so in a past life my south node which was virgo is an 11th house where in the past life i had a profession of a healer or someone who helped the world so all my decisions were life or death based on who came to me for help so in this lifetime i come here with those capabilities and tools
Speaker: But I have to work out of that energy because the real energy of this lifetime is to be more spiritual and more free and more trusting and letting go of control and being analytical and being perfectionist and it happened to be very detailed and has to be this way or trying to control outcomes and can try to control behaviors because you think it should, you know.
Speaker: Stop.
Speaker: It doesn't work anymore.
Speaker: Sorry, Sarah.
Speaker: And so my spirit tells me, like, all right, it's over.
Speaker: Now I'm a new person.
Speaker: I feel so much better because I'm not attached to people outcomes no more.
Speaker: I'm not attached to something that has to be this way or else.
Speaker: I'm not attached to it being perfect for it to make sense for me to make a decision.
Speaker: I don't need all the information to trust it.
Speaker: All I got to do is trust what I feel.
Speaker: And then in that moment, I was in an analysis of a paralysis, paralysis analysis, where I felt stuck.
Speaker: Like, I don't know what to do, overthinking, overanalyzing, frustrated.
Speaker: And then I'm sitting here and I'm looking like, bro, you got a book.
Speaker: What's up?
Speaker: And I'm thinking, well, how did I do this?
Speaker: Because I have faith and I trust I didn't have a plan.
Speaker: My plan was my faith.
Speaker: My plan was my belief system.
Speaker: I knew this is what I had to do and I did it.
Speaker: You know, we talked about this human design.
Speaker: I'm a generator.
Speaker: I go off that sacral chakra what I feel and I attack.
Speaker: And then the universe brings to me whatever I need to benefit or learn and I keep moving.
Speaker: I love that.
Speaker: Okay.
Speaker: So what were some of the things that you, because I used to, such a people pleaser and I completely agree with you that people pleasing, right?
Speaker: So when you do that, you are violating your own agreements to yourself, right?
Speaker: You're self-sabotaging and you're trying to control somebody else's
Speaker: And I used to be such a people pleaser.
Speaker: And I know so many of Amplify's listeners have struggled with that and maybe still struggling with that.
Speaker: Like what helped you to really overcome the people pleasing stuff?
Speaker: I know you said like making sure you're happy and showing up for you rather than other people.
Speaker: But like, are there, were there any like big aha moments or kind of tangible things that you did to move through that and work through that?
Speaker: Well, I, I, you know, first thing that comes to mind is that, you know, people pleasing comes from a place of not feeling worthy, right?
Speaker: You don't feel worthy enough.
Speaker: You don't feel like you're enough.
Speaker: So as a kid having, you know, emotional abandonment issues in my upbringing, I didn't feel like I was enough.
Speaker: So I made everybody else feel like they were enough.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: I became what I wanted for everyone else.
Speaker: And honestly, like going on TV, you know, at that time, it forced me to like, think for myself, you know, I had
Speaker: cars picking me up my producers asking what i want what i want to eat what you want to massage today like it was just all about me and it's like weird because it was never about me in that sense ever in life always made it about people and then honestly i just felt like you know when it when it come down to it i realized something like i'm the catch right i'm i'm i'm the one i'm the chosen one i have the it the it factor what i mean by that
Speaker: Sometimes you can miss out on who you are because you're so indulgent, which you have, which you think you have to be for others and realize like, no, people have to be by you being you for you, because then that's how you get more out of people.
Speaker: But you're trying to be everything for people and you're not being yourself.
Speaker: So you're losing yourself and others because they need you to be you.
Speaker: And so I remember when I stopped playing basketball at 2011 or 12,
Speaker: And one of my homies was like, man, you stop playing?
Speaker: Like, bro, I was playing basketball because of you.
Speaker: And I'm like, how?
Speaker: You D1, all American, you know, full scholarship.
Speaker: But I didn't realize my gift and my power because I wasn't looking at myself from that angle until I went on the show and I started looking at it from a different lens.
Speaker: Because I was pumping my boys up and my guys, yo, come on, we got to do this.
Speaker: Let's do it big or whatever.
Speaker: And it's like,
Speaker: And I was like, I guess I have to be that person.
Speaker: I guess I have to be that trailblazer.
Speaker: I guess I have to be that leader.
Speaker: And as you grow and you evolve, you get more information and you're like, oh, you're blessed.
Speaker: Like you have it.
Speaker: You have what it takes.
Speaker: What are you scared of?
Speaker: Like, are you afraid of success?
Speaker: Are you afraid to be that person?
Speaker: You know you that, God.
Speaker: Why are you afraid to stand out and be him?
Speaker: And then that's when I realized I didn't fit in because most of my life I tried to fit in.
Speaker: because I didn't want people to think that I felt I was better or I was different or that I didn't like them.
Speaker: And I had a lot of survivor's remorse, a lot of guilt and shame around success where I felt like everything I got, I should give it away or give it to someone else.
Speaker: And then I realized like, I worked for this.
Speaker: I sacrificed long nights.
Speaker: I booked a one-way ticket for $1,000 in LA 11 years ago.
Speaker: I slept on someone's bedroom for me, I mean, on someone's couch for a year and paid $500 a month.
Speaker: I did that.
Speaker: Not my friends.
Speaker: You know, not my family.
Speaker: I did that.
Speaker: I'm out here by myself with no family.
Speaker: I mean, my aunt, she lives out here now.
Speaker: Love her.
Speaker: But, you know, I did that.
Speaker: So it's like I had to learn how to give myself credit, but be okay with saying you did it, man.
Speaker: Like, be proud of yourself.
Speaker: And like I said, now I can really see it from a different angle because I am proud of myself.
Speaker: Because I will always push off like, no, you helped, you helped, you did it.
Speaker: But it's like I really had to do it.
Speaker: I had to get up at 5 a.m.
Speaker: I had to go see that client.
Speaker: I had to get on those sets.
Speaker: I had to do that speech.
Speaker: I had to book that role for that audition.
Speaker: I had to do it.
Speaker: So if I have a manager or a team, I still got to show up no matter how much I get paid.
Speaker: So it's okay to take credit for what you do and what you can do.
Speaker: And it's okay to say, oh, I got what it takes.
Speaker: And I'm going to own that.
Speaker: I'm not going to shun myself and say, because sometimes you can be too humble and it'll leave you broke.
Speaker: You know, because you're not owning your gifts and you have a gift, you have to give it to the world.
Speaker: And so that's what I discovered and feel good about it.
Speaker: It's OK.
Speaker: And how another person feels, that's not your problem.
Speaker: You got to do you for you.
Speaker: And then once people get your backstory, they'll realize why you are that way.
Speaker: And so it's it's a beautiful like revelation and just understanding an epiphany over the last few weeks.
Speaker: I'm just happy to be in this place.
Speaker: It's just like, cool, I get it.
Speaker: We good.
Speaker: Like.
Speaker: We can only win, you know, like I'm a leader.
Speaker: Like I lead like that's who I am.
Speaker: Like, so people need me to lead and do what I need to do for me, though, because once I do for me, then they know how to do for them.
Speaker: So it's powerful, but I love it.
Speaker: Yes, I love I love all of that.
Speaker: I mean, we are speaking so many of the same languages with all this kind of stuff.
Speaker: I love it.
Speaker: with all that kind of stuff.
Speaker: So for your, I mean, when did you start getting into like the astrology type stuff, the human design kind of stuff, like learning about all of that?
Speaker: It had to be when I first moved to LA probably because this is where I was searching.
Speaker: The most thing was 22, 23, fresh out of college.
Speaker: The first thing that really kind of triggered it, I was to go out to clubs and be in the club a lot.
Speaker: And I was so curious, like when I run into certain women, it was like, why am I attracted to this one woman or why do I'm gravitating to this person?
Speaker: I will always ask, what's your sign?
Speaker: So if these people had the same type of sign, oh, that's a pattern.
Speaker: So I get along with this sign and that sign.
Speaker: Oh, what does that mean?
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: That's like literally similar to me.
Speaker: It wasn't necessarily like just men and dating.
Speaker: It was.
Speaker: wait you're also this side and you're also this side and wait a second maybe I should look into this shit and then you look into and you dive deep and then over the years it just got more information more awareness more confidence in it and someone just sent me something last night it just blew my mind I was like wow like it's like it's like it's numerology but on steroids it's a whole nother like
Speaker: And I'm just like, oh, more information.
Speaker: Let's go.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: So with all of that, like, how do you use it?
Speaker: Like, how does it supplement your knowledge of yourself, your knowledge of others, your understanding of how, like, you operate all of that?
Speaker: Like, how do you use that as a tool or guidance?
Speaker: Well, it's just for me, I'm a person of observe things and.
Speaker: I'm aware, so I pay attention to the signs in my life, right?
Speaker: Where I'm at, where I want to go, who I'm connected to, the energy they're in, NGM.
Speaker: And I've always been fascinated by information and things that make me think about me.
Speaker: And the reason I realized that I'm always curious about someone else is because I wish someone was curious about me growing up.
Speaker: I want people to ask me about me because I felt misunderstood.
Speaker: So by me feeling misunderstood, I just wanted to understand everybody.
Speaker: So then if I can understand everybody, I can make friends with everybody because I understand them.
Speaker: But I never knew how to communicate to them or those people to understand me.
Speaker: Because I never, you know, it was never about me.
Speaker: So I was never put in a position like, oh, tell me about yourself.
Speaker: And then when I did, I would choke up because I'm like, I'm a guy, you know, from Baltimore and I like basketball, you know.
Speaker: So I just think for me, when I get the information, I take it in.
Speaker: And it's hard for me to digest because sometimes I'll just send texts like, hey, look at this, look at that.
Speaker: But it does something to my mental, right?
Speaker: Stimulating it.
Speaker: It's like takes me down a path of this is going to get me to the next level.
Speaker: Knowledge is the precursor to experience.
Speaker: Once you have the knowledge, you're going to attract experience because you have new information.
Speaker: The people who are at the top of the world is because they have information, right?
Speaker: On top of that information, you also have perspective that others might not have based on their experience or how they was raised.
Speaker: So that matters.
Speaker: But information is key.
Speaker: I always say information changes your situation.
Speaker: So when I get new information, I dive into it.
Speaker: I absorb it.
Speaker: I get it and then I apply it.
Speaker: And then what I do is I paradigm shift.
Speaker: I was like, okay, okay.
Speaker: I see, okay, okay.
Speaker: That's that.
Speaker: I need to change that.
Speaker: Cause I'm hard on myself.
Speaker: So the hardest work we'll do in life is on ourselves.
Speaker: So when I give you information, I feel like I made a mistake or I need to fix something.
Speaker: I need to be accountable and responsible.
Speaker: I take it in.
Speaker: I apply it.
Speaker: We ain't doing that no more.
Speaker: So.
Speaker: It's just, it's like, I'm the way shower, right?
Speaker: Like I told you before.
Speaker: So I can't tell you something I'm not doing, right?
Speaker: I can't tell you to do something I haven't done.
Speaker: So I have to do it to show you and prove to you that it works.
Speaker: This works.
Speaker: These were videos.
Speaker: These were, this is a thought.
Speaker: That's actually what I was going to say too, along those lines.
Speaker: You saying like, okay, these quotes in the book, like these were things that you,
Speaker: One, I think so many of us think, oh, no, I have to have it all figured out before I share it with the world.
Speaker: Not the case at all.
Speaker: So much of the time, like with what we're doing, right, like or what we are teaching, like we're teaching to a previous version of ourselves.
Speaker: We're here to help a previous version of ourselves so much of the time, not always, but often.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: And so it's such a great practice or habit.
Speaker: me and do what I needed to do, but also support others, right?
Speaker: So this is like some encouragement for people listening that it's like if you're feeling stuck in something or you're learning something or growing through something, like share the stuff that you need to hear now or that you needed to hear a year ago, two years ago, five years ago, whatever it is.
Speaker: Because like
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Those words of wisdom that Eric needed to hear for himself.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: That he then packaged up for others.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And now here it is in a fucking book.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Thoughts become things.
Speaker: And at that time I was speaking to people.
Speaker: I was like, I was helping you to help me to help you to help us.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: So it looked like I'm really a coach and I'm getting a bunch and I'm a student that's trying to learn from politics.
Speaker: unfolded but it's and it's still a journey and it's still motivation and inspiration and wisdom and it's still challenges and adversity and setbacks it's a that's why learning will always be here and we'll always have information we need yes but i think what i'm learning now is just to enjoy what i have to enjoy the journey to enjoy being on a podcast to enjoy
Speaker: every day of every day right like to enjoy it and not be so i gotta do this i gotta do this because if i don't do this and it's like get out of that stop that take your time have some grace have some pace have compassion and show up for yourself and if you don't get everything on your to-do list done it's all right you get it done tomorrow what what are you beating yourself up for because i do that a lot in my life it doesn't help so it's important to kind of
Speaker: have really good poise with yourself and get to like, my therapist would say, would you talk to your nephew like that if he made a mistake?
Speaker: I was like, damn, no.
Speaker: So how would you talk to him if you made a mistake?
Speaker: You would tell him it's okay, right?
Speaker: And he's doing it again, it's all right.
Speaker: I was like, you're right.
Speaker: She said, so you gotta stop talking to yourself like that.
Speaker: Gotta stop thinking, you know, and I'm like, you're right.
Speaker: What am I beating myself up for?
Speaker: You know, just perfectionism, like stop that.
Speaker: It doesn't work.
Speaker: I love that.
Speaker: So on the note of, actually remind me, what is your sign again?
Speaker: I'm a Pisces, yeah.
Speaker: Okay, yes.
Speaker: Funny enough, what I was saying like, oh, what got me into learning more about astrology and all that kind of stuff is because I was noticing like in the month of March,
Speaker: Ex-husband, ex-boyfriend, best friend in high school.
Speaker: opposite it's the opposite but balance very well um in a lot of ways so so yeah makes sense um okay so on the astrology stuff cool
Speaker: ever really the show like a really kind of high-level explanation of what that is and what you get out of it yeah so numerology is numbers right always say numbers do not lie everything's a number your age your birthday the measurement of the building
Speaker: Your price on your card note, your rent, like there's numbers.
Speaker: There's just numbers.
Speaker: Nikolo Tesla, great inventor, believe in like 369, like the numbers.
Speaker: But however, numerology is you literally take your day, your month.
Speaker: in your year and you add it up.
Speaker: So my birthday is March 9th, 1988.
Speaker: So then I would do three plus nine, which is 12, right?
Speaker: Then you would add that to 1988.
Speaker: And that gives you, if I add it up, in one sense it's a two, right?
Speaker: So in numerology, no number can go above a nine unless it's an 11, 22 or 33, because those numbers are master numbers.
Speaker: So, so you got a three and a nine, which is 12.
Speaker: So if I do 1988, one plus nine is 10, 10 plus eight is 18, 18 plus eight is what?
Speaker: 26.
Speaker: So two and six is eight, right?
Speaker: And then eight and three,
Speaker: is 11.
Speaker: So I have, I'm generally on the 38-11 too.
Speaker: So, on a lower frequency or a lower level, like when you're not as evolved in that space, two is just very diplomatic, very tactful, a peacemaker, self-sacrificing, a lot of like speakers and presidents are two.
Speaker: And then 11s, which is a two, right?
Speaker: It's just a higher self.
Speaker: It's more illuminated with like information and inspiration like Tony Robbins and Gary Vee, Grant Cardone.
Speaker: These guys are master numbers.
Speaker: They're healers.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: So on the high side, 11 is a healer.
Speaker: But everybody doesn't have those numbers.
Speaker: Some people numbers are different.
Speaker: So then you have that life path number.
Speaker: That's the path you're supposed to live in this life.
Speaker: It gives you a bunch of details and a description of what that means for you.
Speaker: Then you have your attitude number, which you will add your month and your day, which is nine and three is 12.
Speaker: One and two is three.
Speaker: So my attitude number is three.
Speaker: And you have your expression number.
Speaker: You would do your name and add your name up because your name equals numbers.
Speaker: So it's a lot of information.
Speaker: It could be overwhelming, but just Google it numerology.
Speaker: type in life path numbers and just do your life path number, look it up, calculate it and see what you get.
Speaker: Cause I always, I don't like to push information on the people.
Speaker: I like, look, give me information.
Speaker: Check it out.
Speaker: Tell me what you think.
Speaker: Does it resonate?
Speaker: Does it feel right?
Speaker: Cool.
Speaker: And I'm always a person.
Speaker: You have to use these things, not as certainty that this is what my life is, but to help you get through life and understand life to get through life, right?
Speaker: Because it's information, like I said before.
Speaker: And the more information you have about yourself, the more you will make sense to the world you're in and you won't be freaking out.
Speaker: Like, why am I like this?
Speaker: And why am I like that?
Speaker: Or...
Speaker: I have this word.
Speaker: Like, I believe everyone is not supposed to be married.
Speaker: Everyone's not going to be highly successful and make a lot of money.
Speaker: But I do believe everyone has a purpose.
Speaker: And then some people don't even care about this information.
Speaker: Let's be clear.
Speaker: They don't care.
Speaker: But to the people who do, tap in, look it up, get some information and change the situation.
Speaker: And it's beautiful because you just can add that to your box of development and...
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: And, and like your tools, right?
Speaker: Cause the way that I look at a lot of this stuff and I've definitely gotten more into, um, these, I guess you would say like new age or like alternative things, but it's really like such ancient knowledge, you know, like this stuff has been around for so long.
Speaker: Um, and the more that I've gotten into it, like the more it enriches my life as far as like my
Speaker: of the world, all of that, like it adds so much value for me and guidance too.
Speaker: And I take it with a grain of salt, right?
Speaker: Like I lean into a number of different modalities and sources and stuff like that and find value in lots of them.
Speaker: And I'm also not like, oh my gosh, but you know, the number didn't show up or this or this, you know, whatever, right?
Speaker: Like not like getting to, like not clenching it with like a tight fist and stuff, but I find it so...
Speaker: of the day, like all we are all striving to do is to like be loved, right?
Speaker: Like at the very basic, like if we're like, you know, gonna, gonna boil down like what all humans are essentially seeking, like on the most basic level is like love and connection.
Speaker: It's just amazing.
Speaker: Like, all that, right?
Speaker: Like, for as long as you can probably remember.
Speaker: Yeah, for sure.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Like, and so what do you, what have you done to, like, cultivate such incredible, powerful, magnetic energy?
Speaker: Like, so what brought that out and brought that forward?
Speaker: Like, what, did you do anything or is this always just kind of a thing that you,
Speaker: Well, you know, as a kid, I always knew my energy was different.
Speaker: I just didn't understand it.
Speaker: It was weird, but then I got to a point where I realized I can use my energy for benefit, you know, to motivate, to inspire.
Speaker: And then I realized in some areas of my life, I got a lot of energy.
Speaker: So it needs to be utilized.
Speaker: Because if not, it goes to waste and it's bad.
Speaker: And then I just start tapping into like numerology, astrology, reading a lot of books.
Speaker: And start studying successful people.
Speaker: Like, what do successful people do?
Speaker: Tony Robbins, Oprah Winfrey, Bob Proctor, Les Brown.
Speaker: Oh, Transcendental Meditation.
Speaker: Oh, they do meditation.
Speaker: Okay, maybe I should start meditating.
Speaker: Oh, they read books.
Speaker: Oh, maybe I should read a book a month.
Speaker: Oh, okay.
Speaker: Oh, they journal.
Speaker: Maybe I should do some gratitude statements.
Speaker: Oh, Affirmation.
Speaker: Oh, Affirmation.
Speaker: Nice.
Speaker: And then on top, you know, I'm always worked out and try my best to eat as clean and as healthy.
Speaker: So with all those things on a consistent basis, you don't have no choice but to increase your energy.
Speaker: And to have magnetic energy on top of the gift of energy you've been given to keep it growing and keep it growing and stimulating to a point where
Speaker: I tell people this is how I track opportunities.
Speaker: It's by being in a high vibration.
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: Because then those things on that alignment connect with me and we connect to each other and then there I go.
Speaker: I don't have to go look for the opportunity.
Speaker: The opportunity finds me.
Speaker: We connect because of the energy I'm in.
Speaker: The books I've read.
Speaker: The meditation I've done.
Speaker: Getting up at 5 a.m.
Speaker: Getting up at 5 30 a.m.
Speaker: Eating clean.
Speaker: Practicing good mental habits.
Speaker: Positive thinking.
Speaker: Being around energetic people like yourself, you know, you know, sharing energy and content and ideas.
Speaker: And then it just becomes your lifestyle.
Speaker: And then you just live in that space.
Speaker: Probably 70 percent, I would say at the time, 75 percent, because you're not always in a high vibe.
Speaker: Of course.
Speaker: What are what are some of the things that you do on a daily basis?
Speaker: Kind of your like.
Speaker: tangible kind of like habits and action items for you?
Speaker: Well, you know, every day I start my day with a lot of spiritual action items.
Speaker: I pray, meditate, affirmations, gratitude statements, and then I get a workout in.
Speaker: And if honestly a lot of having low energy really comes from not getting rest, right?
Speaker: And when I say rest, like sleep and mental rest.
Speaker: So I pride myself on trying to like even take naps throughout the day.
Speaker: or getting sleep at night, going to bed in a, you know, early enough time to get the proper hours I need to sleep.
Speaker: And just being consistent, I think.
Speaker: And that's what this book is about.
Speaker: It's about being consistent because I can talk to me below in the face, but if I'm not consistent in reading books, not consistent in reading, reading, working out, not consistent, eating healthy and being a good steward of my blessings, then I can't have a consistent, fulfilled life.
Speaker: Because I'm not consistent.
Speaker: And consistency is the key to all things.
Speaker: So, as it was really simple, it's just I'm consistent.
Speaker: And that's why it helps and enhances my being and helps others when they're around.
Speaker: And my intention is to help people heal.
Speaker: I have a healing mat in my house as well where, you know, it's called the bio mat.
Speaker: It has inflated with crystals.
Speaker: You heat it up and if you're feeling down, you're feeling low, it heals your body.
Speaker: So...
Speaker: Look it up, people.
Speaker: It's really good.
Speaker: So I do that from time to time.
Speaker: And I'm watching the game.
Speaker: I'm reading a book.
Speaker: I was reading my book earlier.
Speaker: 30 minutes.
Speaker: It's heated, healing, mad.
Speaker: Just chilling.
Speaker: I love that.
Speaker: Look at you.
Speaker: Who knew?
Speaker: I have no idea about that.
Speaker: Yeah, I love that.
Speaker: So, okay, let's actually, let's talk a little bit of the, like,
Speaker: What were some of the biggest, like, kind of surprises for you?
Speaker: Like, what was unexpected about that?
Speaker: And then, like, what were some of the biggest lessons from that whole experience?
Speaker: I think the entire existence of that moment, at least for The Bachelorette, the first season was just a big surprise because I had no intentions.
Speaker: I had no information, right, to make that situation make sense other than this is in my life.
Speaker: I attracted this somehow.
Speaker: Let's see what's behind this door.
Speaker: I think the biggest thing I've learned is the power of vulnerability.
Speaker: Because that show for me was healing.
Speaker: It healed me.
Speaker: It allowed me to open up.
Speaker: In what ways?
Speaker: Well, I've never had received love from a woman.
Speaker: And in that instance, it opened my spirit up to get that love.
Speaker: And that's what I believe I was lacking in my life change.
Speaker: Like I went from falling in love.
Speaker: I didn't end up with the girl, but...
Speaker: I fell in love and I felt great and my life changed.
Speaker: You know what I mean?
Speaker: And so it was like, I feel like that's what I was lacking from life at the moment.
Speaker: And I thought giving someone my vulnerability and truth would kind of like push them away.
Speaker: But it makes people even more intriguing and it's honestly, it's your truth, it's your life.
Speaker: And it's powerful and especially dating women, I realize they appreciate the truth.
Speaker: Even if it might hurt in the moment, they just really appreciate it and I've learned to always be authentic and upfront and just really speak how I feel and what I think at times to not only benefit myself but let this person know, this is where I'm at, this is in my mind.
Speaker: take it or leave it, but that show gave me the boost of confidence to be more vulnerable in all my relationships and friendships.
Speaker: Like, hey man, this is how I feel.
Speaker: Because a lot, from the show, I got a lot of backlash from my family because I spoke on things that they didn't know I was dealing with as a child because I didn't open up.
Speaker: You know, you're from Baltimore and you hold in your stuff and you just do what you got to do and you keep moving.
Speaker: And I was like, man, this is how I feel.
Speaker: And it's how I always felt.
Speaker: And
Speaker: And then you don't realize until you get older what it was because when you were young, you couldn't express your emotions because you didn't understand them.
Speaker: So yeah, that's what the show taught me how to be vulnerable as a man, how to be more open and say yes to life.
Speaker: When a big opportunity comes with something that is very uncomfortable, doesn't make sense for your life.
Speaker: Yeah, you can say no, but I feel like I had to say yes just because of the timing and it was like, what else I'm gonna do?
Speaker: If I don't do this, I don't know what can happen.
Speaker: And I never want to live my life to like, what if, you know?
Speaker: And I think a lot of people do that because they want to be, go back to that control.
Speaker: I want to be in control of my outcomes.
Speaker: I want to be in control of my destiny.
Speaker: And maybe this is part of your destiny.
Speaker: Just say yes to it and control that part of it.
Speaker: So, yeah.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: So many lessons, I'm sure.
Speaker: And, and I will say too, what, what you said, like, I know so many men feel fear around being vulnerable, right.
Speaker: Or quote unquote looking weak.
Speaker: I mean, I myself used to be so stuck in my masculine energy and felt like the like divine feminine qualities of like the softness and the vulnerability.
Speaker: Like I felt like
Speaker: men, especially like masculine men, men who are leaders, right?
Speaker: Like there's this idea, I think that being, showing those softer sides or the vulnerability, like that's, that's a bad thing, but I see it as such a show of strength.
Speaker: all together when you don't feel like you're perfect or tough or whatever it is right so yeah so it's such a yeah it's tough and it's a mind it's a mindset shift because you get you get more out of the the other side that you didn't think you would opposed to you're gonna lie you're gonna manipulate you're gonna finesse you're gonna and it's like yeah but then i only lasted for so long and then the truth comes out and then you look
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: So, okay.
Speaker: So, so I think too, like along these lines, like talking masculinity and stuff like that, like, I think that these days, like culturally we'll, we're seeing a big attack on masculinity and with so many of the issues that we're experiencing in the country and the world, like I think a lot could be improved by having more men really grounded in their masculinity.
Speaker: just kind of the state of the or I don't know like do you feel like there's a bit of an attack on masculinity these days like the more like masculine man or that it's like not encouraged or almost seen as a bad thing like I don't know if you even would agree with that no I don't think it's an attack okay I think there is uh maybe there's a less of a
Speaker: felt for in the universe because I feel like women are becoming more authority figures.
Speaker: They're more in their masculine energy where they're running businesses.
Speaker: They're making tons of money.
Speaker: They're in leadership roles.
Speaker: The times are changing.
Speaker: You know, men are more...
Speaker: They're more in their beta state maybe, or maybe more not as masculine or as alpha.
Speaker: But some of us, like myself, I'm full-blown masculine, but I know how to be soft.
Speaker: I know how to be vulnerable and say, look, this is what I'm feeling.
Speaker: This is where I'm at.
Speaker: So I think there can be a disconnect with men who feel like they have to always be masculine.
Speaker: I think that's where they fail themselves and their partner in their team, whatever space they're working in or living in.
Speaker: But I didn't know there was a tackle masculinity.
Speaker: You know, I don't think people talk about toxic positivity, toxic masculinity, all those things.
Speaker: But it's just like, what are we really talking about?
Speaker: Because I don't have a clue.
Speaker: Maybe that's just something that I've noticed.
Speaker: You know, it's almost like the like alpha masculine men are like almost made out to be bad guys.
Speaker: Oh, I see.
Speaker: Oh, really?
Speaker: And yeah, there is a way there's.
Speaker: let's talk about like the deck the dating and like sex and relationships and that kind of stuff so yeah how how has how well gosh i have so many questions around this so one you hinted at and i'm pretty certain obviously this was what you were talking about that oh i've noticed i have so much energy in certain areas and
Speaker: energy right like that's sacral chakra energy and as a human design generator as well myself like yes so much sacral energy like that is that is our like powerhouse and all of that when you're a sacral authority generator um so how have you learned to really like
Speaker: energy not just obviously for sex but like to channel that for other uses you know um it's always been like a challenge at least growing up because I didn't know what to do with it you know there's a lot of masturbation going on because of that and as I've gotten older thank God I'm an athlete and I work out I'm a fitness trainer a lot of my energy goes to working out right
Speaker: A lot of my energy goes to research and information and learning, right?
Speaker: And then I love food.
Speaker: I'm a foodie.
Speaker: I can eat.
Speaker: And then as you grow and you get older, you realize you have a more comfortable space with energy.
Speaker: Like, you realize you started... Because I used to be... I used to try to, like, hide from my sex drive.
Speaker: And, like, I don't want to be this positive person who just have this crazy sex drive and be very strong and explosive.
Speaker: I was like, they don't know that about me.
Speaker: Like, I'm kind of like, you know...
Speaker: Because I was like, I didn't know how to embrace it.
Speaker: And then as I've gotten older, I'm comfortable in it.
Speaker: I love it.
Speaker: I realize at times it serves a great purpose for my life and I need it and I want it.
Speaker: And it got to make sense, right?
Speaker: So I just like to put that energy into things that's going to manifest greatness in my life.
Speaker: Books.
Speaker: workouts, stimulating conversation, reading books, going to seminars, you know, just I put all that energy into things I want to see grow and manifest.
Speaker: And sometimes you can get lost in that energy and be, it's a lot of lust that you put it into and it can kind of burn you out and it's not really healthy.
Speaker: So it ebbs and flows.
Speaker: No one's perfect, but that's how I kind of like dissipate like or distribute that energy in a positive way.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: the things that we're really excited about because for you and I as, like I said, as state rule authority generators, right?
Speaker: We, and for everyone listening, like when I'm saying that, like generator, that sort of thing, this is human design.
Speaker: So you can really easily figure out your human design, like blueprint, if you will, just like Google it.
Speaker: to like dig in and like work and produce and create and all of that but really can only like our most powerful and like only like really effective and feel our best when it's something that we're super excited about right like as long as we are stoked about something like follow the desires and the joy and whatever lights you up and we can as as general
Speaker: Yeah, and so similarly like yeah using that Sexual energy that sacral energy.
Speaker: Yeah, not just for sex right like okay like use that fire to Work on whatever the next project is that you're super fucking excited about right and not be Disposing of it irresponsibly or in places where it's not going to be effective.
Speaker: Yeah, sure.
Speaker: It's just not been there several times I burned out like dang
Speaker: So on that note, like how has dating for you looked over the past year and a half?
Speaker: Like with every, the, you know, how the world has changed and all of that.
Speaker: How's that, how's that been?
Speaker: You know, before the world has changed, dating for me was tough just in general.
Speaker: Okay.
Speaker: Because I was on a show.
Speaker: So when I meet women or connect with women, you know, you never know who you're getting.
Speaker: Like, are you dating me because of who I am?
Speaker: Do you show me in here?
Speaker: Or like what it looks like on social space?
Speaker: Or are you dating because you really like me or you're into me?
Speaker: Or maybe it's a little bit of both.
Speaker: But I realized they can't really give me an accurate answer because they only know me from what they see me in.
Speaker: Right?
Speaker: So even if they say, no, I only like you for you.
Speaker: It's like, yeah, but you wouldn't even know me if it wasn't for that.
Speaker: Even if you don't know... That knowledge.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: If you don't even know, you know, me from any of the things, then you see my social media, you know, red flags or, you know, your antenna's going to go offline.
Speaker: Hold on.
Speaker: What's going on?
Speaker: So that changed because perception is people's reality.
Speaker: So my history has been dating women who...
Speaker: are not fully ready or know how to be with a man or deal with a man who's emotionally vulnerable and capable and mature, who's very in tune with his feelings and emotion, who speaks his mind, who's very honest.
Speaker: It's like it's too much.
Speaker: And so it is even intimidating.
Speaker: It scares women away.
Speaker: or they can't be around it too much, too long, because my energy is so strong.
Speaker: I think sometimes people feel like they got to be perfect or be a certain way because of how I am around me.
Speaker: And it's like, no, you don't.
Speaker: You just be yourself.
Speaker: That and just, you know,
Speaker: There is a lot of commitment issues on my end just for how I was raised.
Speaker: But I think it's also because of my life too.
Speaker: The stuff I see on a day-to-day basis, the stuff I experience and I know.
Speaker: It's hard to just settle down with just anybody because that's what they want or that's what they think.
Speaker: And I discovered something a few days ago.
Speaker: I said, you know, women will date someone and fall for someone off emotions and not off reality.
Speaker: And a guy won't date a woman off of emotions and won't even date off of reality.
Speaker: So the thing is.
Speaker: Wait, so then what will a guy date off of?
Speaker: So what I'm saying is he will eventually, once he realizes his reality can match his emotions for that person.
Speaker: So there's a book, The Way to the Superior Man, and it says if a guy doesn't have a purpose, he can't have a wife.
Speaker: So if a guy is just living for his family and his wife and kids and not living for himself and what his purpose and mission do, he actually fails them and himself because he needs something to feed him to feed them.
Speaker: If you're just feeding them, you're burning out, you're failing them.
Speaker: So I discovered that because a woman, my mom told me, she's like, women really live from their heart.
Speaker: And she's like, heartbreak, you can really feel it in your heart.
Speaker: Your heart really feels broken.
Speaker: And she said there's statistics stating that more women die from heart attacks more than anything because of heartbreak.
Speaker: And most guys, if we get hurt one time, we never want to go back because it hurts.
Speaker: So, but as a man, you know, for me, you always want to provide and protect, but you want to be in a position where you can take care of your woman and, you know, give to her, but also give to yourself, have something like, I always look at athletes, no matter what age, when they get an NBA, NFL, baseball, it's easy for them to be in a relationship, right?
Speaker: Because they have the finances, they have a career, they have a foundation, they have a, rather they have
Speaker: The emotional capability to be in a relationship, the communication, they can have a stability of a relationship because they have the finances, they have the profession that gives them life and passion, and they have a setup that's easy to kind of operate in to make a woman feel secure, even though she might not feel loved.
Speaker: But she knows she's stable and she knows she has benefits and that no matter what, she's going to be okay.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: So there's some instance where women like, no, but I don't care about that because, you know, I love you and I don't want to support you and whatever.
Speaker: What's mine?
Speaker: What's yours?
Speaker: It's like, yeah, but then you burn out because this person can't bring it.
Speaker: And then you guys don't even like each other because he's not pulling his his side to the forefront because he doesn't have a purpose.
Speaker: But yet you over here pulling everything like a mom would and, you know, the kids.
Speaker: You're doing it for the kids and for your man, and then you're burned out and then you're not even in love no more because you're doing everything and it's just not healthy.
Speaker: And I realized it's hard for women to accept that a guy doesn't want to commit when they want it because they're coming from the heart space.
Speaker: And the guy's coming from a more logical mental space.
Speaker: Like, I want to commit, but I'm not in a position to feel that because I'm not where I want to be.
Speaker: So it's hard.
Speaker: Interesting.
Speaker: Go ahead.
Speaker: Finish your thought.
Speaker: No, as I said, it's just hard because if we understand, like, men and women, we're totally different.
Speaker: We think differently.
Speaker: And it's okay for people to have their wants and needs, but just because someone is not where you're at doesn't mean they don't want to.
Speaker: They're just not ready.
Speaker: So you can't force or make a person feel bad for not being what you want because that's what you want.
Speaker: You can't force someone into a relationship or a situation because that benefits your heart.
Speaker: Or you can't get mad at a woman for messing around, but you can go mess around as a man.
Speaker: It doesn't work like that.
Speaker: You know, you can't point the finger.
Speaker: You can't make a person feel bad for,
Speaker: Everything comes in due time and when that's right, you'll know.
Speaker: But when you force things, they fail you.
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: Yep.
Speaker: I completely agree.
Speaker: The funny thing about that is when you're talking like, oh, women usually date like this, that sort of thing.
Speaker: I'm like, I'm so, I tend to, it's fascinating because like I, yes, am very like embodied in my divine feminine and everything like that.
Speaker: My big queen energy.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And like when it comes to dating,
Speaker: I typically, like my process or like how I navigate dating is often way more like a man would than a woman.
Speaker: Cause yeah, I'm usually the one, like I'm usually more in the like non-basic
Speaker: But when it comes to me, like actually wanting to commit or spend a lot of time and energy with somebody, like I don't make those decisions based off of just my feelings.
Speaker: It's so much more about like, yes, the reality.
Speaker: to be a bit more wired in dating the way that like guys date yeah i mean i think that's fair that's respectful i get it i don't care what no woman said i'm not settling just because it sounds good it looks good it feels good if that don't feel good to me i'm not doing it that's just what it is and i'm never going to do it until i feel because only the person knows what they've been through and what they've gone through and even if you know women all people how do you know if you never tried you don't know you don't know it's like no i know
Speaker: I can feel when something is going.
Speaker: If this is happening, this is a no for now.
Speaker: Maybe later, but, you know, I'm not trying to get into something just to try it.
Speaker: Like, we're not doing that.
Speaker: I'm not just trying.
Speaker: I'm doing life.
Speaker: I'm being it.
Speaker: And it's hard because, you know, you want to give people the benefit of the doubt and give them what they, but it's like, if you can't give it to them, it's like, I'm sorry.
Speaker: I still appreciate you.
Speaker: And something that you said too with men,
Speaker: really being like tapped into their purpose and working on their mission and like yeah maybe they don't need to have like all the things in place and finished and it's oh it's all done like I've arrived right like yeah you can like find your partner while you're building your thing but I think women often don't realize how important that is to a man right that purpose and what he's creating in the world and I mean what
Speaker: What is her name?
Speaker: I can look it up right now.
Speaker: Keys to the Kingdom.
Speaker: Oh, yeah.
Speaker: Keys to the Kingdom by Alison Armstrong.
Speaker: So it's very much about, like, male-female dynamics and about, like, men's, like, phases that they go through in life, right?
Speaker: Their, like, prince phase, like, king phase, like, all this kind of stuff, which are very correlated.
Speaker: And I think there's four.
Speaker: I'm forgetting all of them.
Speaker: But they're very much correlated.
Speaker: So it's so interesting because as far as love languages go, like my number one is acts of service.
Speaker: And I know very clearly like why that's my number one, like tracing it back to like childhood and all that kind of stuff.
Speaker: Acts of service and then words of affirmation in how I feel like loved, right?
Speaker: How I show is...
Speaker: love, receive love, acts of service is one of the top ones.
Speaker: And I used to want to, like, I love dating successful men and driven men, ambitious men who are like really on fire for what they're creating in, in the world and doing with their life and really passionate for it and are about it.
Speaker: And I used to want to be with men like that, but then also have them put me first and
Speaker: You have to prove to me that I am by like putting me before work or whatever it is.
Speaker: And I have shifted that understanding so much in like the last few months to be like, no, if I'm saying I want to make
Speaker: Because in my marriage, I often felt bad for how much I... I mean, I was a workaholic as well, so there were things that I needed to change, but I often felt like I was the bad guy for being so fired up for what I wanted to build and create for my life.
Speaker: And so I'm like, wait, I don't want to make this man or that man or whoever it is or was.
Speaker: I don't want to make him feel bad for how...
Speaker: I'm now nagging to get time and energy.
Speaker: Like I'm adding stress to the plate, right?
Speaker: With a man that I say like is, I say I want somebody like this, right?
Speaker: And so it's been such an interesting realization to be like, no, like that gets to like,
Speaker: man lead it's like okay then whatever like i'm doing and how i'm showing up i want it to empower him to be even more effective at all the shit he's doing absolutely right so like so yeah so i love that you said that about like how important it is for a man to be so connected to his purpose and focused on that because i think like we women like tend to want to be like oh you don't have time for me then i'm gone right and to a certain extent yes right like
Speaker: Yeah, and it's important to have someone to understand that who's not going to nag you and make you feel bad for going after something you believe in or someone who has their own shit going on that makes you like them even more.
Speaker: Like, man, she's motivated.
Speaker: I like that.
Speaker: At least I know this person is not lazy and they want to work and they want to provide for themselves.
Speaker: You know, sometimes it can be a clash because you have egos and you dominate people together can be tough at times, but you can make it work if you like the person.
Speaker: And so I believe in supporting someone's dreams and ambitions, but also giving people space so they can live those things freely.
Speaker: And they really want you to come around with,
Speaker: When you guys want to see each other, it makes sense, you know, because you don't want to be forcing your entry in their life because that's what you want.
Speaker: But yet they're busy.
Speaker: So it's it's in a book it talks about as well.
Speaker: there's phases in a man's life like you said uh where he's attracted to the hot girl you know she's the dark brunette and she's just hot and like sexy model whatever like for some time that motivates the man right and then this man has been with that person say four or five years and he has a career and has a consistent job now he's just tired of looking at her when he comes home she doesn't turn him on no more so now he needs a little girl who's good on paper who's gonna like
Speaker: You know, do all the little things.
Speaker: She's not as sexy or as attractive, but she does everything else right.
Speaker: The small things and, you know, she gets, you know, it's just, but it's a phase the man is in.
Speaker: And I believe that for anybody, women and men.
Speaker: Like, your phases in your life is going to change how you view your partner, how you see them.
Speaker: It's not every day or every year you're going to be like, you're kind of like blowing me right now, but I don't really appreciate your energy.
Speaker: But then shit next week is like, yo, I fucking love you.
Speaker: You know what I mean?
Speaker: But it's all about the emotional state you're in in those moments and what you got going on in your life that affect your communication and your actions towards that person and how you feel.
Speaker: So I always think it's important and important for us to give space.
Speaker: You know, we got to overwhelm each other with attention and time all the time because if I tell you everything I got going on, it's not going to be nothing that you're going to want to learn or know because I told you everything.
Speaker: So how can we grow?
Speaker: Sometimes, you know, being a mystery or having less, you know, to ponder on is great.
Speaker: Or when you don't see a person as much when you do see them, it's just like fireworks.
Speaker: Like, yes.
Speaker: So that's my opinion and perspective, everybody.
Speaker: Some people think differently because they grew up differently.
Speaker: I like to work.
Speaker: I like to get things done.
Speaker: I like to progress.
Speaker: I like to evolve.
Speaker: I like to win.
Speaker: But I also like to have a good time and like to, you know, kick it in the way it makes sense and fulfill each other's cup and have, you know, good times together.
Speaker: I think that's important.
Speaker: Yeah, absolutely.
Speaker: And yeah, that's something that I, you know, I think it's important to know where your own boundaries are and what you need and what you want and what makes you feel loved and fulfilled in a dating relationship
Speaker: you know, make sure you're doing everything you can to like see your partner thrive and like crush all their shit too, you know, and not add stress to that.
Speaker: Cause yeah, I like, you know, from, and this is, this is something even just like last year, I'd be like noticing myself, like with men I was dating who were like super fucking driven and successful and then being like, well take a day off, or maybe like take a day off when they literally never take a day off.
Speaker: And I'm like, maybe I can like wait to be that
Speaker: me doing that like just adds more stress when they already have a very fucking full plate you know oh yeah you don't need dumb headaches just give me love love me just love me love me exactly exactly um yeah anyway anyway we're like right we are right out of time just about i want to be sensitive to your time i feel like we could talk about this keep talking about all these things obviously oh actually i do want to ask one
Speaker: mentioned that you have developed or noticed that you have like a very strong sixth sense, like very strong intuition.
Speaker: Has that always been the case?
Speaker: Is this something that you've noticed more recently that's kind of been turned on and activated?
Speaker: I think it's always been the case.
Speaker: I just didn't trust it as much as I did now.
Speaker: Because when I was younger, it just didn't make sense.
Speaker: I was like, why do I know this?
Speaker: What is this about?
Speaker: Now, when I'm around someone, I can feel their energy or feel their thoughts.
Speaker: And I can just like, oh, okay.
Speaker: Or I can see where they're at, you know, energetically.
Speaker: And I can kind of like feel.
Speaker: I'm like, okay, that makes sense.
Speaker: Or, okay, all right.
Speaker: I see how we're doing here.
Speaker: You know, you just take it for what it is.
Speaker: Yeah, absolutely.
Speaker: What do you do?
Speaker: Do you do anything to strengthen that ability?
Speaker: It's just kind of like it's a gift.
Speaker: You know, I can be with someone.
Speaker: I know exactly what they need.
Speaker: Like it could be anything from like, let me feed them.
Speaker: Let me, you know, court them to this or they want any information or.
Speaker: They feel pumped up.
Speaker: Like some of my training clients are like, they don't really need me for training.
Speaker: They just want my energy to feel good about themselves.
Speaker: So let me make them feel good while we train.
Speaker: So you get it.
Speaker: Six seconds.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: I know.
Speaker: I see you.
Speaker: I got you.
Speaker: Don't worry about it.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: No, I get it.
Speaker: Because that's the same.
Speaker: And that I think comes from so much about like being so having so much sacral authority, right?
Speaker: Because that's where our intuition and our gut is.
Speaker: And...
Speaker: and then stepping into teaching more and I'm like, yeah, but I just know it.
Speaker: I'm like, it just like comes naturally.
Speaker: Yeah, you just know and then you just get it.
Speaker: Yeah, I love that.
Speaker: I love that.
Speaker: I know we have so many similarities with so many of these things.
Speaker: So, okay.
Speaker: So, obviously this show, Amplify, is all about people owning their truth, using their voice, standing out in the world as the most unapologetic... Oh, what up, y'all?
Speaker: We are still going.
Speaker: Woo!
Speaker: Standing out as the most unapologetic, bold, aligned, authentic, abundant version of themselves.
Speaker: So...
Speaker: Obviously, aside from everyone going and getting the book, 100 Days of Wisdom, and you've got 100 quotes in here to give you that daily, like, light that fire for you, give you that wisdom, that reflection, all of that.
Speaker: live more authentically live more unapologetically and more boldly whether that's like one quote that you're really reflecting on these days like a question to ask yourself something to do every morning like what's like one parting word of wisdom or thing to give the audience you know it would just be get to know yourself and once you know yourself be completely yourself and life will be so much easier that's it
Speaker: Cause no one can be you more than you.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: No matter what it is.
Speaker: I mean, that's, that's something I tell my clients, you know, the listeners all the time is the more you, you are, the more of a magnet you become for everything that you want, everything that you desire.
Speaker: Like the more you tap into yourself and your authenticity and your own magic, you fucking, everything starts flying your way.
Speaker: Yeah, it's really simple.
Speaker: Get to know yourself so you can be yourself and then the rest of the do itself.
Speaker: It's that simple.
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: This is what I do.
Speaker: I'm always over here trying to figure me out so I can understand and be more of that.
Speaker: And the rest I take for sure.
Speaker: So, yeah.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: All right.
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Speaker: So 100 Days of Wisdom, 100 Quotes to Live a More Inspired Life by me, Eric Bigger.
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