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Confronting The Fear of Believing In Yourself: Healing Imposter Syndrome & Self-Doubt at the Root
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Imposter syndrome isn't about confidence. It's the fear of believing in yourself. Here's how to release it and make your mind up for good.
What if it's not the fear of failure or the fear of success that's running your life. What at the root, it’s the fear of believing in yourself? In this episode, we go straight into the root of imposter syndrome and self-doubt: the quiet fear that if you fully believed in your own power, you'd have to face being wrong, being seen, or not having the impact you thought you had. We unpack the fear code keeping spiritually awake women playing small, the gap between your infinite potential and your right-now reality, and how to make your mind up about who you are regardless of the metrics, the numbers, or who's watching.
In this episode, you'll learn:
- Why imposter syndrome and self-doubt are really about the fear of believing in yourself
- The difference between fear of success, fear of visibility, and this deeper root fear
- How ancestral wounds around being seen, heard, and valued show up in your everyday self-doubt
- Why releasing over-attachment to metrics and "proof" is the real path to confidence
- A powerful mindset shift, inspired by Rosa Parks, to diminish fear for good
If you've ever felt like a fraud even when you're doing the damn work — this episode is your permission slip to stop waiting for proof and start making your mind up.
Here’s the video I mentioned to help you protect and clear your energy - 4D Clearing video:
https://youtu.be/tI2_i-_NZsE?si=qNZu73z_aZ5mt54y
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Transcript
The Fear Code and Its Impact
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And so this is really big because one of the survival codes and one of the codes that are completely repetitively used in culture and religion and society is the fear code. And the fear code is that if you are fully yourself, you are dangerous.
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That rising too high will draw punishment. That being seen invites judgment. This is what keeps spiritually awakened women playing small even when they know they're not here to be or play small. They are here to take up space.
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Welcome to Freed and Powered Up, the podcast.
Introduction to 'Freed and Powered Up' Podcast
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This space is where you, goddess, source energy, game changer, light seeker, trailblazer, and my sister or brother in arms, stay connected to your inner power and the divine feminine force within you.
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Let's talk energy mastery, decoding, retruthing, and power activation. I'm your host and your sister, Latoya Zavala. Let's get it.
Is Fear of Self-Belief the Real Barrier?
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Let's talk about the fear of believing in yourself. What if it's not the fear of success and it's not the fear of failure and it's not really the fear of judgment that's at the core of what's interfering right with your legacy or moving forward or expanding? What if it's the fear of believing and honoring yourself?
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So Rosa Parks is quoted as saying, I have learned over the years that when one's mind is made up, this diminishes fear. If you're new here, welcome to Freedom Powered Up. I'm Latoya Zavala, your energy mastery coach, guide, and practitioner.
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Founder of The Awakening Lounge and The Phoenix Goddess Collective, these are spaces where you get to expand and explore and experience your truest God self within your source energy, where you tap into your intuition, your manifestation, and clearing all of the survival and and generational and religious codes that have kept you back, kept you stuck, kept you interfered with for long enough.
Struggles with Self-Belief
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Okay, today we're talking about the fear of believing in yourself. And let me tell you something. wo This is a big one. And this has been a big one for me for a really long time. And I've heard it in between the lines in so many of my clients um and definitely with the thousands of personnel that I've worked with in the military. so um And what's interesting is it came through when I was tapping on fear of visibility.
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and showing up um and visibility wounds. And this phrase came up, fear of believing in yourself or fear of believing in oneself. So let's deal with it.
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Okay.
Fear of Visibility vs. Fear of Success
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It's different than fear of being successful, right? So which is really the fear of what will happen if I get A lot of success. How will people react to me? How will people not react to me? what who What will leave? What will I have to leave behind? Can I maintain it? All of these things are tied to the fear of success. It's not successful itself, but it's what will happen to me if I'm successful. right There are survival codes attached to that.
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which can keep one small. um So it's not the fear of being seen, which is connected to the wound of being seen, right? So either you were hurt or you observed someone being hurt while they were being visible, being themselves, being true themselves, being authentic, right?
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And sometimes when they're being true to themselves, they're authentic, they're out there being seen, a hurt happened, um or you observed a hurt happen, and so then you have um a wound and then a fear of being seen, which I have a podcast about.
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You can check the list and go ahead and check that out, right?
Imposter Syndrome and Perfectionism
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But fear of believing in my power... It's a little bit different, right? It's the fear of being wrong or being embarrassed that I don't have the impact that I think I have or that I know that I'm supposed to have or that believing in myself might turn into arrogance. Ooh, this is a big fear. It comes up with quite a few of my my clients because they're coming from some religious codes that are meant to keep them small.
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So where does it come from, my love? A lot of this can sound like it it will manifest itself in imposterism, in perfectionism.
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And yeah, those are the accepted, right? The socially cute, accepted, non-diagnoses diagnoses, right? Let's be real. And they can actually keep the code going. But at the end of the day, it's fear that I'm not what I thought.
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right i'm not I might not be what I thought I was. i might not be having the impact that I know I want to have or that I said that I can have or that I feel in my body. I intuitively feel that I'm meant to have.
Bridging the Gap Between Potential and Self-Doubt
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right Or I'm not making the money.
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I'm making the impact, but I'm not making the money making the impact. right and then And people see that, which means maybe a I'm not having or I'm not who I am. Right?
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And so at the end, people will see me believing in myself. And then it will feel like I have believed in myself for no reason. Right? Like I'm a fool for believing in myself.
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Because I don't see the outcomes and they don't see the outcomes. Right? Or we don't see the outcomes quick enough or big enough. And this is even more so today because metrics and measurements differ.
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and formulas that we are told are the right. This is the right to have, right? These are the right metrics. These are right measurements. These are the right techniques to have. This is the right outcome that you're supposed to have. If you are in fact as impactful, as important, as valuable um as you feel that you are.
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And this is what it came down to for me, right? There's a gap between what I know is my infinite potentiality, my greatness, the impact I'm destined to have, and what's happening right now. There's a gap.
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Of course, there will always be because, listen to the words, infinite potentiality. I'm not the only one who has infinite potentiality. You do too.
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And we both have this immense greatness in us. I know. And the impact that you feel, you feel it so mightily in your bones. It's like oozing through your pores. It's frustrating how much you feel it.
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But it isn't evident right now. And there's a gap. And in my right now, can I maintain the belief in my value, in my worth?
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Can I maintain the belief and the value of the gold that's buried and covered and soiled?
Ancestral Influences on Self-Belief
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So where did that come from? Well, it can come from quite a few places, but mostly there are energetic cords, ancestral wounds of being seen, heard and valued.
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I'll say it again. There are energetic cords. and ancestral wounds connected to being seen, being heard, and being valued.
Choosing New Beliefs
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And I won't get into too many of the too much of the details, but in many of our cultures, particularly if you are a woman and you are a woman of color, in many of our cultures, you were sold,
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you you were placed alongside cattle, you were traded, you were bought,
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as spouses or partners or, right? So we know now that there's research coming through that memories are carried. So we're not even talking about, we like I could go into inner child. I could go into past life. And also now research is coming out that we carry memories across generations.
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We're not even talking about woo-woo anymore, which I believe in.
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So yeah, a lot of it is not yours and the healing can't take place. The moving forward can't take place because you believe that it is yours and you're healing it at a level um that's more surface than what it needs.
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So i get to ask and you get to ask, what do I choose to believe now, regardless of the metrics and what people can see and what people can measure and what people judge?
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What do I choose to believe now? And it's really important that you ask that with the consciousness that there are energetic cords and ancestral wounds that that might make that belief now difficult, that might be tethered to different beliefs, that might be continually creating patterns and pathways in your brain to believe less than what you desire and what you choose to believe now.
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i'm going to talk a little bit more about that, but let's take a small break ah for inspiration and we'll be right back. I wasn't sure what to expect What I gained has been by far life changing, life shifting for me.
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My belief system prior to God is Unlock was very faulty. How I saw myself, how I felt about myself, didn't realize that
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I didn't realize the changes that I needed to make until I went through the experience of God is Unlocked. Being able to get it out, to be able to be seen in a sister circle and to be embraced and just to be able to speak my truth, speak my soul's truth.
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I'm very thankful for this process and I just encourage anyone anyone who is ready for a change in their life, sign up.
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Be a goddess unlocked. You will not regret it. Very appreciative to Latoya and thankful for this opportunity to share my experience.
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Thank
Revisiting the Fear Code
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you. Okay, so we're talking about where might that feeling of fear of believing in yourself come from, right? And what's in the gap? What's in the space of that gap between what you know that you're becoming and you're expanding into, what you know is at the core of your essence, your being right now,
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and how you feel. Right? We've talked about the energetic cords, the ancestral wounds that might be at play. Right? And so this is really big because one of the survival codes and one of the codes that are completely repetitively used in culture and religion and society is the fear code. And the fear code is that if you are fully yourself, you are dangerous.
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That rising too high will draw punishment. That being seen invites judgment. This is what keeps spiritually awakened women playing small even when they know they're not here to be or play small. They are here to take up space.
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It's what keeps you feeling invisible and playing in a false sense of safety. If I just play small, if I'm just not too so not seen too much, if I just am not heard as much, if I am seen, you know, playing the part and looking the part and, you know, my lipstick is too loud and, you know, my my my nail, if I'm just too loud and in colors or... um in volume, or if I make too much of a stir with what I'm saying, too much truth to power, right, that this is dangerous. And in some spaces, this is true.
The Physical Impact of Not Embracing Power
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And this is why it takes courage.
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But oftentimes it's a false sense of safety because your power is already oozing out of you. Your power is already emanating from your body. Your power um is either either you are expressing it or it's causing things being stifled up in your body. Sometimes it's causing pain. Sometimes it's causing diagnosis. Sometimes it's causing you know um migraine headaches. Sometimes it's causing...
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Stiffness, sometimes it's causing phantom pulp palpitations, right? And if you're feeling these things, of course, let me say the disclaimer, go check out with your doctor. But what I know after being in the chaplain for a couple of years is that oftentimes stress, bottling shit up,
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is causing what you're feeling. My sister asked me that the other day, how you doing with your arthritis? And I was you know sharing with her some of the things that I use and that I do. And I told her, but I said, what I've noticed is that stress will flare me up.
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And sometimes that stress comes from not taking up the space that you are here to take up space. You are physically here to take up space. You have materialized in your body to take up space.
Personal Affirmations and Unique Impact
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You're still speaking.
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You still have voice. It's for your voice to take up space. You feel energetically there's something for you to give. There's something for you to say. There's impact. There's change for you to make.
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You're here to take up space. And so those codes, the fear code, the smallness code, they're wreaking havoc and fucking things up.
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So what is my truth? What am I choosing to believe now, even though ancestral wounds are running things um and have been running things in the background, even though I've been carrying some torches that I'm not meant to catch, even though there are some energetic cords that I get to too clear and I get to cut and I get to detach across timelines and realities. Absolutely.
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but If you haven't checked out the 4D video on YouTube that I have, go check that out. People have said it's super powerful for clearing energy and it will it can clear energy instantly. And based on what you're dealing with, it might take a few times to clear the energy, but you can clear the energy. You can clear the energetic cords. You can heal and clear and rewrite and recode ancestral wounds. Absolutely.
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Somatically. Reiki, I use Reiki. It's why I became a master Reiki teacher and practitioner, because it did so much for me, changed my life, literally, literally, and the lives of um my my my family that lives in my home. And my clients and my clients. I practice it for a reason.
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um And I love the way that it always leads you back to the power within you. It leads you back to your your voice. It leads you back to the intuition that is within you. i love it so much.
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Okay, that's my box, but um you can clear it. But in the meanwhile, in the meanwhile, it's the decision. It's the decision.
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What is your truth? What are you choosing to believe that will override those codes so that when you do clear the cords and you do clear the wounds and you do the healing and you do the energetic movements, that the choice you are making, the decision you're making, the belief that you're now installing. so much more easily can override. Because if you're clearing, you're clearing, you're healing, you're healing, and it's and you don't have something to replace it, the brain wants to continue moving down the paths of of those former neurons, that those former pathways, right? So back to Rosa Parks' quote, I have learned over the years, she said, that when one's mind is made up, this diminishes fear.
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So what is your mind made up about, love? What is your mind made up about? About yourself. About yourself.
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About believing in yourself.
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My truth is that I make a difference. A huge fucking difference. That's why I'm here. The one person that saw the stream, it mattered to them. I choose to know that I am in abundance and overflow and that that is my birthright.
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That it's not a special somehow. No, no. I choose that because I'm awakened, because I'm aware, because I have infinite potentiality and because I i was born into a space where I can connect with and enact that infinite potentiality, I am in abundance and overflow. It is inevitable. That's my new truth. That's my new belief.
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Abundance and overflow is inevitable for me. I choose to practice the law of detachment, especially when it comes to clicks and likes and measurements. and little I choose to be more concerned with the impact and change.
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than all of the metrics. I'll say that again. I choose to be more concerned with the impact and change that I make than the metrics. I choose to now learn analysis tools as a means of getting better and spreading my impact, not as a means of measuring if I'm worthy or if my message is worthy or if my impact is valid, right? No, no. Fuck all that because I choose that. I define that.
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I choose to know that my work is different. it It's not widely accepted. It's not mainstream and not nicely packaged and boxed. Neither is my way of learning or expressing.
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And that's okay. That is in fact what is needed from me. That's why I came here this way.
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That's why the Phoenix Goddess Collective is created this way. That's why the Awakening Lounge is created that way. Yeah, I'm not mainstream. But fucking free for sure.
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So I release formulas that are not aligned. I release over significance of metrics. Come on now. Come on. You may want to be saying these with me. I'll say it again. I release formulas that are not aligned.
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I release over significance of metrics. I release too much meaning of the numbers. I release the need and the false projected desire of microwaved exaggerated results.
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I release that shit. Microwaved exaggerated results that everybody wants to give you in 30 days or this and that. Hey, listen, and that's not to neglect that it can happen, right? I have a 21-day activation in the awakening lounge right now, ah resonance activation, and that's meant to go super deep into the core of your God energy, your God essence for embodying that because everything emanates from that. And I absolutely believe transformation will happen in those 21 days. But is it a microwave formula? No. May you need and want to go through that 21 day activation three times in a year? Absolutely. Might you want or need to do more one to one work or Reiki sessions to support that based on what you're dealing with? Absolutely. It's not a one for all.
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Okay, I release the self-blame for not getting there with their system, their formula, their coaching, their workshop. There's a lot of blame out there.
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Oh, if you didn't get it, right? You didn't commit enough. You didn't devote enough.
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Proximity is enough. you should have You should have gotten it with the proximity. If you're complaining you didn't get what you needed from that coach, it's your fault. It was a lot of blame out there, right? And fuck that.
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I release self-blame for not getting there with their system, their formula, their coaching, their workshop.
Embracing Source Energy and Truth
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Release that. And you don't need a reason why.
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I am source energy. I am abundance manifested in human form. I am love. I am light. I am change maker. I am impact wave maker. And I am freed and powered up.
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I'm going to say that whole sequence again and feel free to say it with me. If you feel you'll rewind and say it as much as you want today. I am source energy. I am abundance manifested in human form.
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I am love. I am light. I am change maker. I am impact wave maker. And I am freed and powered up.
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Let's do it a third time. I am source energy. I am abundance manifested in human form. I am love. I am light.
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I am change maker. I am impact wave maker. And I am freed and powered up. Make your mind up and go change the world.
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I am sending you so much love and power. And I'll in the next one.
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Hey, goddess and those who support them listening in. Thank you so much for sharing this space with me. Here's a quick reminder that if you hit that subscribe button, you won't miss the next powerful episode. And if you share it, we get to elevate together. So share it with that sister you know needs this juiciness in their lives.
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Because listen, you don't have to wait until you're ready to be your next level self. You're ready right now.