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Day in the Life as a Full Time Working Mom and Content Creator with Dayami Emory
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In this inaugural episode I talk to Dayami Emory, founder of @dayamifrommiami, about the daily balance of being a full time working mom and content creator, including her transition to working motherhood, meal prep, daily movement, help with the kiddos, and so much more.
EPISODE NOTES:
1. Follow @Dayamifrommiami on Instagram for some of the best looking (and tasting!) healthy recipes
2. Recs from Dayami:
Meditation app - Superhuman
Podcasts - The Ed Mylett Show, Realfoodology with Courtney Swan, and The Mindset Mentor by Rob Dial
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Transcript
Introduction to Yami and podcast theme
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Speaker
All right. Hi, everyone, and welcome to Best Mom Ever. Today, I have a really great guest here to talk to you all about how she does it all. She'll get into the details of all that she does, but she is a mom of two, a wife, has a job, a thriving social media platform, is a fitness enthusiast. The list goes on and on, but I thought she would be the perfect person to have on the podcast to tell us all about her day-to-day and how she does all of those things I mentioned and more. Yami, welcome to the podcast. I'm so
How host and Yami met
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glad you're here.
00:00:41
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Thank you for having me. Yeah, of course. So just for the listeners to have a little bit of background, we met a couple of years ago, well, a number of years ago now. You guys moved in next door, right? We were living in the same apartment building and actually kind of knew each other through mutual friends. I think your son was like a baby at the time too, which is crazy. So little. Time flies. But when I was first thinking about starting this podcast, I was trying to think of
00:01:11
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Mom, so I know who like kind of to me at least look like they have so much going on and somehow are juggling all of the things and balancing it perfectly. And I thought of you immediately. And so that's why I felt like I should reach out. And I'm so glad you agreed to do it. Thanks. I know that
Yami's family and parenting journey
00:01:28
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probably takes a lot of, you know, this takes a lot of time and I appreciate your time is precious and taking the time to talk to us. Yeah, of course. No, I'm happy to be here. I'm happy to share. I love what you're doing, Jordan, and I'm happy to be here.
00:01:40
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Thanks. Okay. So let's start at the beginning. Um, I'll have you, if you could introduce your kids, well, you can introduce yourself too, of course. Um, I feel like moms always get overlooked. Like it's always about the kids first. Straight
Balancing career and motherhood
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to the kids. So introduce yourself, tell us about your kids and kind of how you, your, how your mother, her journey started with them. Yeah.
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Yeah, no, for sure. No, thank you so much. Of course, I'm happy to join. I honestly love these type of conversations and topics and I listen to podcasts on myself all time. So I will definitely be an avid listener of this one. And yeah, so my name is Diami Emery. I am a mother of two. I have
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a five year old boy named Kai and a two year old daughter named Kennedy. They are in a fun age. So I guess my mother her journey started. Well, my husband first let me back up. So my husband and I have been together for
00:02:43
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long time so we are high school sweethearts
Remote work transition during COVID
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but essentially we always knew we wanted kids but you know obviously we had such a early start to our relationship essentially because we started dating we were 15 but we we definitely grew up together but we always had conversations about having kids and I have a huge family so for me that was obviously just like a natural progression and I think that
00:03:11
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Well, my background, I'm Cuban. My family is Cuban. So in that Cuban culture, that's kind of just like not a question. It's like, okay, when are you having the kids? I swear, like, at one point in our lives since we basically grew up together, my husband and I, we basically were asked, so when are you having kids? And we're like,
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we're not even married yet so can we go step by step please um but yes uh essentially we um you know got married i think we waited like two plus years to have kids all of our friends were getting married um during that time so we were in a lot of weddings and you know had um a lot of of you know
00:03:51
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bridesmaids, we were bridesmaids, I was bridesmaids in like 10 weddings and so was he. And so I think that my parents and his parents at one point after we got pregnant, they were like, we weren't gonna ask you like when
Childcare arrangements and family support
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you were gonna have kids, but we were wondering when that was gonna happen. And we're like, we wanted to enjoy like the beginning of our marriage and, you know, travel a lot and do all those things before we had kids. And I think that that is something that we really valued and was important to us.
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But yeah, I think I got pregnant when I was like 29. And we, my husband and I are only a month apart. So we were both 29. I think we were kind of ready. I don't know if somebody is ever truly ready, but ready enough, right? Yeah.
00:04:41
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But yeah, no, we got pregnant pretty quickly, honestly. And I was on birth control for a very big portion of my life. And I was kind of nervous about how that was going to happen. You know, I hear a lot of things about when you come off birth control, how that can work.
00:05:02
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Luckily for me, it happened really quickly. I think I got off my birth control in like August and I was pregnant already in December. So it was really, really quick. And, um, you know, thank God, right? Cause obviously it's not always the case for, for some moms. So obviously we were very lucky in that nature, but,
Morning routine and self-care
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um, but yes, um, we got pregnant and.
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my family, so my son was the first grandchild in both of our families. So needless to say, he was very spoiled and got all the attention and was, you know, at everybody's beck and call, right? So, but it was so exciting. We obviously were able to enjoy him. I think that one of the things too, when I was actually, I was a working mom and
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I think everybody happens to go through, might go through this, but just maybe this not talked about enough. But essentially when I, I only had like three months off with him. So like the typical 12 weeks that normal people get. And I had such an immense mom guilt, like when I had to go back to work.
00:06:15
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Um, and I loved my job at the time I was, I've always been in HR. So HR is my, you know, career, uh, progression. I've been doing HR for a long time now, like 14 years. And, um, so I was working for a bank at the time and I loved my job so much. Um, had a great boss, had, you know, a really great group of coworkers and, you know, I went back to work and I promise you, I think I cried like every day.
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And I was devastated. I told Sean, I questioned everything at that point. I was just like,
Support network and managing guilt
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I don't know if I can do this. And I, and again, like I loved my job. So it was hard for me because it was like, I love my job and I was so used to going to work every day and like, you know, being so motivated and energized. And then like, when I went back after, you know, I had my son, I was just very taken back. And, and I don't think anyone tells you this or how you should, you know, act and how, you know, what is normal or what is not normal.
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But I think I remember throughout that whole time, just feeling so like,
Balancing multiple roles with family support
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I was like, I was missing the moment, right? Like, I was just my mother in law was and I was super lucky. You know, we had two like family members watching him, right? So my grandmother, my grandmother is she's well, she says great grandmother, right? Yeah, I was very, very lucky to have her and
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I still have her. Um, so she's helped with my kids so much over the years. You guys seem really close. Is she the one who's on your social media? Yes. Yes. Yes. That's sweet. She's like my best friend. She's like involved in our lives all the time with the kids and my mother-in-law is too. So thankfully we live really close to family and, um, you know, do you know the saying like it takes a village and honestly it really, really truly does. Um,
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anybody who says they can do this by themselves, I don't know. I question that statement because it's a struggle. But I think that when I went back to work to continue that story, my son was being watched by my mother-in-law and my grandmother. And I still had those feelings of, oh my god, I'm missing these moments. And I really struggled with that.
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But I'm like, I guess with society, it's like, okay, well, this is what you have to do. Like you have to go back to work and
Passion for health and meal planning
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you have to continue life. And I think that I was just, you know, holding onto that and kind of just going, but it honestly, like it's, it's still kept with me. Like I still had this feeling every day, um, even liking my job, like I'm missing the moment, I'm missing the moment. So, um, you know, I ended up switching jobs at the time. Um, and I was like,
00:09:14
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I was in a job I loved. I was at, I worked at a community bank and that was kind of like my, one of my first HR positions throughout my career. And I was like, all right, well, I guess the next step for me like career wise is to kind of move on to another opportunity just because at that time it was a very small community bank. So there wasn't really like much movement for me in that position. So I had an opportunity at another company and ended up doing that.
00:09:44
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Um, I, I was a little hesitant because I had such, um, great flexibility at the bank and my boss also had like two kids. So she really was able to like understand how, you know, if you have to take the doctor or whatever it is, you know, going on, she, she would understand that, you know, and that's obviously really important to have in a, in a, in a company that.
Building a wellness-focused Instagram community
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is able to understand when you have, you know, stuff with your kids or activities or adoption appointments, there's always going to be something that is unexpected that comes up as you know, um, that, you know, she was very understanding. So it was also very hard for me to make that jump because I knew I had that with her. Um, but you know, it was a really great opportunity for my career. So I was like, you know what, maybe, um, I'll take this.
00:10:32
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Um, so when I did, um, my, my new job, my boss did not have any kids. So that was a little bit more difficult because it was an adjustment, right? She was not as understanding. She might not have been, she, maybe she was empathetic, but she couldn't really understand, you know, the intricacies that come with having a child.
00:10:54
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you know, the things that you obviously have when becoming a mom. And so when I changed jobs, it actually became even harder for me, because at that time, I was even questioning even more like, Oh my God, like now she doesn't understand the things that I'm going through and the things that come with being a mom. And now I have to kind of, you know, explain myself more, right? So those are done at that time. So he was like, almost a year and a half.
00:11:23
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I want to say. Okay. Yeah. Yeah. That's a hard, I know. So, and then he was like walking and talking and like having a personality. And then you're like, Oh my God, I'm missing even more moments. You know? So I was, um, in that, in that place where I was just like trying to rationalize it all. And I think I remember actually it's, it's a, it was a pivotal moment for me because I
Mother's influence and upbringing
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was, I think it was like, Oh, like January of no,
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like December of 2019, so right before COVID happened. And I was like questioning my life and I was like, what am I doing?
00:12:02
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I need to find another job that's going to be more flexible. So I even thought about going like part time or doing something along those lines, right? So I was like, I need to spend more time at home. Like this is not working for me. And I kept telling my husband and he was like, okay, like, you know, let's see what you can come up with because I'm also
00:12:23
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a very career driven person. And I feel that that's like a battle, right? Because that's a lot of times like, you're taken into two different directions, because obviously, you want to spend time with your kids, but then you also want your own thing, right? And, and I think that that's one of the things that was hard for me to kind of, you know, decide, like, what, what do I want to do here? Do I want to take my career to the next level? Or do I want to, you know, continue? Do I want to be a stay at home mom? Because that was even something I contemplated.
00:12:53
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But I think my husband was like, I know you, like, I know that you may want to be a stay-at-home mom. But I know like, for a month's age, you're gonna be like, I miss my job, or I miss what is, you know, there for me on my, my time, like, something that I can really like, just put my full energy into and then, you know, feel
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that sort of drive and motivation, right? Because it's two different things, you know. And so I decided, so it's actually crazy. So I applied
Time management and presence for kids
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for like some part time jobs. And it's hard to find something that is like,
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part-time that you could really do and then also be able to do, you know, mom motherhood, right? Right. Because it has to be flexible. Yeah. Yeah. It could be the hours are part-time, but they still need to be flexible. Like you still want to be able to pick your kids up from school and take them to the doctor. Exactly. Exactly. So it's so ironic, um, how life works, but I ended up finding, um, and I, I also was like super before, like obviously remote work,
00:14:00
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that wasn't really a thing. It was a thing before COVID, but I feel it wasn't as prominent as it is now, right? But essentially, I remember applying for this personal assistant of somebody. It was just a random position. The lady called me back. I was so excited about it because it was, I think it was like 25 hours a week or something like that. It was still a pretty good day where I can justify kind of making the move, right?
00:14:29
Speaker
So this was like in March of 2020, by the way. And so I had the interview, like, I think it was like March 10th or something. And like the whole world shut down. Like literally, like, I think it was like March 10th or 12th or something that like, we shut down. Right. She moved my interview because something happened and she ended up having to move my interview.
00:14:55
Speaker
Thank God. Because I would not have had a job like at that point. And I was like, Oh my God. Like we didn't know what was happening, right? It was, you know, such an unprecedented time in life. And so I was like, at that time that everything shut down and my company that I was at went completely remote. And I was like,
Evolving parenting approaches
00:15:19
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what are the chances that, you know, this happens, right? So.
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I'm like, okay, so I finally got, I guess what I wanted, right? Like spending more time at home. Yeah, you really did. You got to spend way more time at home after that. Yeah. So it's kind of crazy how everything happens in life. But I think, you know, for me personally, one of the best things that came out of COVID was, you know, the remote work, right? So I've been
00:15:49
Speaker
Fast forward, I've been working remotely for almost four years now. And obviously that's the majority of my motherhood has been that type of lifestyle. And I feel so lucky to have been able to have that, right? Just because it's a tremendous difference in flexibility and just day to day, it's so different. But just to kind of wrap that story up,
00:16:19
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working remotely with a company for like two years. Um, and you know, it was, it was great because I did have the flexibility, but I was also very busy in my day to day job. Um, but I guess I think it's just learning to manage, you know, being at your desk and having the time, but then also, you know,
00:16:42
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being able to have the balance of, you know, like, let's cut this off, because I think that's one of the things that I learned during COVID was you're working from home. So it's very hard to disconnect the two, right? Because your, your office is your home versus like before when I was working in an office environment, like, okay, I leave the office and I don't have my computer anymore.
00:17:05
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you know, so it's all dedicated to home life, right? Versus having to understand that, okay, let's kind of cut this off. And, you know, I really do give thanks to my husband for that, because he has worked for home for a very long time before COVID. So he has his own business. So he
Social media presence and sharing life
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works for home, you know, the majority of obviously, you know, his time spent at home, but he does a really great job of balancing like work life and
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life and I think I was able to kind of observe that from him and realize, okay, this is the time to cut it off. We're not going to be answering emails and doing things when we're trying to focus on the kids. Did you find it easier? Kind of backtracking a little bit. When you went back to work after you had your son, it wasn't remote. It was in an office.
00:18:00
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Yeah, exactly. Sorry. Yeah. Did you find it easier the second time after you had your daughter, did you find it easier to go back to work after your maternity leave because you were at home and it was just like a little bit more of an easier transition? It was different. 150%. And I think that that was so, it's so funny because I talk about this all the time and I'm trying to distinguish between like my two kids personalities.
00:18:25
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And I'm like, I wonder if it was because of this. But essentially, when I went home, sorry, when I went back to work after my son, he was like solely with my mother-in-law and my grandma, right? So I come home and it was time for us and we had that time. But when I went back to work with my daughter,
00:18:53
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I was home, right? So she was like used to seeing me all the time. And so there was no like, Oh, she's going to work.
00:19:02
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versus, you know, coming home and this is the time. So I think she's been used to seeing me consistently, even though, so, so my son goes to school now. So just to kind of give you that. So he goes to school, he's in kindergarten and my daughter, she stays home with my, with a nanny. So we kind of have a really nice setup. So three days a week, the nanny comes to the house. She's here from like 8 45 to five.
00:19:27
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So my husband and I work from home, and she is with her the whole day. And then Mondays, so she does that Tuesdays, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday. And then Mondays, my mom helps, and she goes to her house for the day. My mom just stopped working this past year, so she's able to have a lot more flexibility in her schedule.
00:19:52
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And then my mother-in-law, she works for herself. She's a broker, so she usually has flexibility. So she usually watches her on Fridays. So it's really nice because she gets different dynamic, you know? Yeah. And when she's with a nanny, she goes to the park. So she goes to the park every day from like 9 to like 12. Wow. And it's so nice because we have a park that, you know, it's really close by us. It's called Quarantine Park.
00:20:20
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And she takes her and she's made like a little nanny group. So she has like friends there, like a bunch of activities and everything. Like she's literally right now at like this little Christmas party thing that they're having. And it's so cute. Like the kids, they take pictures and they do all these activities with food and fun and
00:20:41
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it's so nice we're really blessed truly yeah that's so nice i mean that's nice not only for your nanny to have like you know other nannies to interact with because it can as you know like it can get a little bit lonely when the only
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other living being you're interacting with all day is like a toddler. So it's nice. And it's nice for your daughter too, because then she gets the social interaction with the other kids to 100%. And that's one of the things people ask me like, Oh, so what does she do? I'm like, it's she's basically in school.
00:21:12
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Yeah, so I'm like, it's really nice because she kind of has like best of both worlds. So in that aspect, we're really, really lucky and I feel really blessed to have that because and also our nanny has been with us now for like almost two years. Wow. January will be two years and you know, we truly can't
00:21:31
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can't imagine her life without her like we treat her like family so she's you know basically one of us and you know we treat her very very well and she is she also works because she only works with us like Tuesday Wednesday Thursday so we she also works for she does like housekeeping for other family members as well so she's kind of like fully stacked with the whole family so it's really nice
00:21:58
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And then you know, she's like, you know, really committed to you guys. So that's that's good. It's hard. I mean, I say this all the time. One of the many things I was not prepared for with motherhood was not realizing how hard it would be to find help. We moved
00:22:14
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So we had my son in July of 2022 and then moved to an entirely new city just a few months later. And I had not put us on any daycare wait lists. I had not started looking for a nanny. I just did not think it would be that hard. And when we moved here, we didn't have any family around to help. Now they came to our rescue when we didn't have a nanny, when it was time for me to go back to work and we didn't have anything yet.
00:22:39
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They really, you know, came out like the village that they are and supported us and kind of helped us until we got the full childcare situation under control. But I just was not prepared for how hard it would be to find someone to watch him full time or how hard it would be to get into it, get a daycare spot. It's crazy.
00:22:57
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Yeah, 100%. I think that that is the case for a lot of people and a lot of my friends that go through this type of situations as well. A lot of my mom friends, we talk about it all the time because they're like, can we get like, my nanny's name is Vivi. They're like, can we get like five of her, please? Can we clone her? So that's a little bit about your
00:23:20
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your child's care situation, so you kind of have a hybrid. The nanny and school and your parents were just so nice. So what does your day look like? Like when you wake up in the morning, like I know you like to cook a lot and you like to work out and you have your job. And so like, how do you structure your day? Like literally from the, like what time does your alarm go off? Oh my God. This is a fun one. Okay. Yeah.
00:23:47
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It's it's it's hard to manage right but I try my absolute best. I know there's always so many like things people talk about and ways to kind of make things right but I think it's just what's right for you, right, like what works for you and I am
00:24:04
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100% through and through and have always been a morning person. It's not for everybody, but I think for me, it's usually what gets me through and what I'm able to organize my day because I wake up really early. So a typical day I wake up, I like five in the morning and I try to always get my workout in and I don't work out every day. I'm very much like
00:24:26
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how am I feeling? I'm very much focused on like how my body's feeling. I focus on a lot of my cycle. Like, so how I do cycle thinking, and I can talk about that a little later, but essentially, like, I very much like track my cycle and whatever, like, you know, phase I'm in that month, I kind of are that week, I kind of try to gauge like my eating habits and my, you know, workout routine to kind of fit with my body versus like running against my body.
00:24:55
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So I think that that has a lot to do with my energy levels and you know, I listen very much to that, to the signals because I think that that's like a major part of being able to survive motherhood is not working against yourself. I'm working more towards yourself and helping yourself. But essentially, so I do listen to my body a lot and sometimes I may not wake up at five, maybe I wake up at five thirty, sometimes I wake up at six.
00:25:20
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But I do very much try to wake up early and I feel that that sets the tone for my day. So usually I wake up, I got dressed. Sometimes it looks different because I'll either go to the gym or I'll do my morning walks. And I think that
00:25:37
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Both of those are kind of like my medicine for the day. And usually if I go to the gym, I'll come back and do like a quick walk. So a quick walk for me is like maybe like 20 minutes. So in those walks, I'll usually listen to like a morning podcast. And I'll do like a meditation. I do listen to or use this app called superhuman. I love it. It's like a meditation
00:26:04
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basically everywhere. Yeah. It's called super human. Yeah. And so it's an app that you can use. They have like walking meditations, while you're cooking meditation, morning three minute if you only have five minute meditation. It's amazing. I highly recommend it.
00:26:21
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Um, but essentially I use that and I'll go for a walk. I'll do like a 15 minute meditation. Usually my walks, if I'm not going to the gym are like 30 minutes. So I'll do like 15 minutes of meditation and 15 minutes of whatever podcast I like to listen to. And normally that's like either like, uh, some sort of like nutrition podcast or, um, like a motivation podcast. I really like Ed Mylett.
00:26:45
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I like another one called Courtney swan. She's a trio food ology. And then another one I love is the mindset mentor. That's Rob dial. So, usually I just like interchange like whatever I have time for that day but
00:27:02
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usually those two things are pretty very much consistent in my day. And if I don't start with those, I kind of feel I'm not gonna lie, like whenever I don't do that, I feel a little off in my day, like I feel like it's something's off, you know, because it's really those 30 minutes are just like my me time. And I think that, you know, in motherhood, we tend to forget that me time is really important. And I think that, you know,
00:27:30
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It's really important to be able to set time for yourself. And I know that's harder, easier said than done, right? Because the majority of the time you're doing so many different things. But even if it's not 30 minutes, right? Like 10 minutes or five minutes or whatever it is that you can get will kind of be pivotal in making sure that you have the energy for the rest of your day.
00:27:55
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I totally agree. I think when I first had Emmett, I thought that was so hard. I'm the same. My me time is doing Pilates or doing something for physically active, going for a walk, going for a jog. When I had Emmett, all of a sudden I felt like I didn't
00:28:16
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deserve that time away. I had so much guilt if I did that for myself. If I went and worked out, it was like, oh, you care more about yourself and your workout than being with your baby. And I just always had this voice in my head telling me that until finally, it was probably just my husband Chase continuously forcing me to go do it because he could see how much happier it made me to get that time to myself until I finally realized exactly what you're saying.
00:28:40
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I deserve this time away. It's only 20 minutes, 30 minutes, maybe an hour if I can swing it. It's not that much time. And on the other side of it, I started to notice that I was a way better mom, a way more present and happy mom if I was able to have just a little bit of time. And that looks different for everybody.
00:29:00
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not everybody you know loves to work out maybe somebody like like they just need 30 minutes of like reading every day or three minutes of listening to a podcast that's also a thing I love to do so I know what you mean like having something especially at the beginning of your day because yes let's be honest like if you tell yourself oh I'll get to it later I'll get to it later like by four o'clock five o'clock you're like nobody's doing it and no and that's it's funny you say that because one thing I say it's like if my workout does not happen and
00:29:28
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in the morning, it's not going to happen because it's just it's you know, you get caught up in the day to day scheduling and school drop off and activity and whatever the case may be that it's it's really difficult to kind of fit it in. And to your point, right, a lot of moms do feel that and I have, you know, a really supportive kind of like mom group
00:29:47
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Um, that I would, that I would say that really kind of gets me through and it's really just like three of my best friends that we have become moms and together. And I think like our kids are very, very similar ages. So it's really nice to have that too.
00:30:01
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because we kind of just text each other all day, all the time. And even if it's just like one text and we know how each other's feeling like, here's a video of my screaming child, please help me child for sale or whatever it is. It just helps us get through the day. And it's just like somebody who understands like what you're going through is really, really important too.
00:30:24
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And I think that that's what that honestly has made a tremendous difference because it's like, okay, I'm not just feeling like this. It's not just me that I'm going through. And sometimes that happens a lot, right? Because people might not have those type of support groups or those type of, you know, avenues to vent or to talk about or to say like, is this normal, you know?
00:30:44
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because I feel that sometimes people don't talk about it enough. Yeah, especially if you're just looking at social media and that's where you're gauging how everyone else is doing in their parenting journey or mom life. It's going to look perfect because that's what social media is. It's a highlight reel of the best of moments and not a lot of people are just posting their child having a complete meltdown and kicking and screaming on the floor.
00:31:09
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Throwing things at you which you know happens to not a lot of people are posting that some of the Follow a few influencers who do show like some of the real moments, but for the most part it's all the greatest parts and joys of Yeah, no for sure it's it's definitely tough But I think that when you have that type of group to just send a simple text It's just like kind of relieves you and you're able to kind of continue your day and be like, okay. I'm not just
00:31:39
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I'm not the only one. Yeah, exactly. So, okay. So you start your day with that time for yourself, a workout, a walk, a podcast and meditation. So then what happens next? Yes. Thank you.
00:31:52
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Okay, so basically after that When I do wake up actually most of the time before I do any of that like while I'm getting ready I get ready and then like I'll take like 10-15 minutes like while I'm listening to the same Superhuman because they have like she has a lot of podcasts on there. So I'm sorry a lot of meditation So it'll be like getting ready or while you're cooking breakfast So I'll just try to like plug something in my ear and I'll make breakfast for the kids so
00:32:20
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I like to do this because honestly, it just sets the I've noticed that when I prepare myself for things to come, I tend to be a better parent in that moment because I'm not trying to like rush through things. I'm trying to just like set myself up and prepare myself for what's to come. So for me personally, that's either sometimes I depending on the week, right? Oh, I'll prepare like on a Sunday. My kids love pancakes and
00:32:50
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I obviously run a social media account that's like a health driven account. So I focus a lot on nutrition and what I'm feeding them, things like that. So I will try to bulk
00:33:04
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cook like pancakes for them and they love sausage and eggs. So I'll do a lot of like boiled eggs for them. So normally that's what they're eating. And so I'll try to either bulk cook that in the beginning of the week, if that's like an excellent week for me, because then I'll have everything ready and I don't have to worry. Right. But if I don't, then I'll do it in the morning. So I'll probably take like 15 minutes, I'll quickly do that. And then I will go for my workout or whatever my walk in the morning.
00:33:31
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So then when they wake up, because they usually wake up like, maybe like between seven and seven 20. And my husband's usually here because I'm on my walk. And then we will start the morning routine, right? So they eat, my son wakes up, my daughter wakes up, we get dressed for school.
00:33:52
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We get breakfast already ready, so they start eating their breakfast. We usually listen. This works for us and our family. We usually have some subtle music playing in the background. I think the kids love it. And it just sets the tone for all of us, because it kind of gets us in a good mood. And we're listening to some background music.
00:34:18
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this recently, it's been like holiday music. Yeah, of course. Are you playing like kid music? Are you playing like music that like you guys like and they just happen to like it? Yeah, sometimes it's like classical music. And like they actually really like it. And so it'll be like just like classical music in the back. And then sometimes we'll switch it up like
00:34:40
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recently with the holidays. But then, so we then after we have breakfast and all that we so we're really lucky my son goes to school, like a block away, not even. So we it's usually part of our mornings. If we're having a like a smooth morning, which I like to do in the like most of the time, right? Hopefully it's smooth. We all walk together. So well, it's like part of our family day and like our time together. So
00:35:08
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We'll all walk on my daughter, she gets in the stroller, and then my son rides his scooter. So we'll all walk together with my husband, we'll drop him off at school, we'll come back. And then my husband will usually walk my daughter for like, he gets his morning walk in at that time. So he does like a 30 minute walk with her. They go to the park, come around, loop, loop back around, and then the nanny will be there by the time they get back.
00:35:34
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Nice. So I will in that time, depending on what I have, I'll usually, cause I never, I don't usually get ready until after they leave for school and my husband takes her. So I'll usually get ready during that time. Even though I work from home, to be quite honest with you, I really like to get ready because it kind of sets the tone for my day. And sometimes I honestly, I don't have time and I'll just be like in my sweats and
00:35:59
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Whatever it is for the majority of the day because I'm just trying to get through but most of the time when I really focus on like getting ready I feel like that day is so much more productive for me and I'm able to like get things done and really just like stay on top of my game because I don't know I just feel like Sometimes when you feel good you are tend to you know Do better in your job and better and other things throughout the day. So So then I start work like around like nine
00:36:29
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meetings, depending on what I have the day. So I am an HR. That's my day job. It just depends because my job is very project based. So and I support. So I work in logistics and I support my team is I support recruiters and safety. So that's my group that I support on an HR basis.
00:36:51
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So they come with different things and, you know, employee issues or performance or whatever they have going on. And then so, you know, depending on what I have that day, I'll do that. And then usually towards lunchtime, I'll try to get some either filming in because I do run a social media account with recipes, as you know. So I'll try to do some filming throughout the day, depending on when I have some downtime.
00:37:19
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So it's usually towards lunchtime because it gets a little less hectic during that time. So I'll film recipes, I'll try to, you know, do some edits or whatever I have going on for that day that I'm going to post. The rest of my day I have, well,
00:37:35
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included in that. My son gets out of school at like almost two o'clock so my husband and I alternate picking him up so depending on what we have going on that day because my husband works from home so and we're right there to school so it's nice because we just like walk over again and then come back but he
00:37:55
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So we will alternate depending on what we have going on and it's nice because honestly I love to be able to get usually do schedule the time in my calendar because I like to have that little time of like getting fresh air and going out and having like a little walk to myself and it's like we have like you know our time that we walk from school and then
00:38:17
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He comes home, eats a snack, and then we do homework of whatever he's doing. I'll set him up for his day. Sometimes it's my husband, right? So if I have a meeting or something that I need to attend to, my husband will do it.
00:38:32
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you're very lucky in that sense because obviously it's the middle of the day and a lot of people normally are working and can't have that ability so I you know I do feel blessed the fact that we're able to have that time and we're able to you know work
00:38:47
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work off of each other and we do have so one or two days a week my mother-in-law will pick up my son or my father-in-law they love having that time with him as well so usually it's Wednesday and so they'll pick him up from school he'll go do whatever it is they do with him like it's always something he's always most excited for Wednesdays because it's like he calls my mother-in-law my father-in-law Oma and Opa
00:39:14
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So, you know, all my notebook are going to pick me up and we're going to go have, you know, smoothies and, you know, go to the park. They pick like a new park and they go there. They just, they're great. They're wonderful. We're, we're honestly so blessed because they, they're just so, they only live five minutes away from us. So it's another thing. So they're able, they're, they're kind of always over here or, you know, we're over there depending on the situation. So.
00:39:38
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were very close and my family's also very close so they're only like 15 minutes away so
00:39:46
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pay help often too, depending on whatever we're going on. It's so nice to have grandparents or any caregiver really who your kids are really excited to spend time with and you can see the joy in their face. I can imagine that that helps a little bit with any of the guilt or whatever you feel for not being able to do everything for them all the time. It's like, well, I know that they're really happy and they're so loved and so cared for and having the best time, probably a better time than they would be having with me. I feel like that a lot of the time.
00:40:15
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When my son is with my mom or my grandpa, grandparents, like I always feel like he's happier with them anyway. 100%. Yeah, 100%. It's so funny you say that because my mother-in-law will tell me this all the time, right? So I'm always like, Oh my God, I'm doing 100 things. Like I sometimes I feel like a chicken with my head cut off and I gonna be completely real. It's I don't have it all figured out. I don't have all the answers. I obviously just try to do my best and kind of
00:40:43
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you know, work with what we have and what we can do. And obviously, I do feel like I do have two jobs and I kind of like running all over the place sometimes. But, you know, I try to really put it in perspective and think of the positive because honestly, you know, I feel really blessed that I'm able to have, you know, this my job and be able to have the flexibility to, you know, run my social media account, which is obviously a passion of mine, right?
00:41:09
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Um, but it, you know, it does get a lot, right? You have, uh, you know, activities. My son plays baseball, so he has that like four days a week. So, um, you know, we, we try to manage that as well. So my husband will take, um, the majority of the time. Uh, and then sometimes I'll try to fit in if I can join or, or, you know, whatever going on that day.
00:41:31
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It's really nice, but my mother-in-law tells me all the time, and she, you know, she was a mom of two kids, and she tells me all the time, she's like, I know exactly what you're going through, because she's like, I felt the exact same way when I was your age, and I had two kids, and I was trying to do it all, and she's like, you know, right now, I'm enjoying this because as a grandparent,
00:41:53
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I don't have a hundred other things, right? I have the time that I'm dedicated to them and I'm focused and I give them all the attention. And honestly, I think that's why they love being with them because they're it's like one-on-one you're have all my attention and I'm able to focus on whatever activity we're doing and nothing else is, you know, going in a different direction.
00:42:14
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with being a mother you I mean I want to dedicate my whole time to them and I I do try to make time for them and leave my phone or whatever it is um but it's but it's definitely hard you know because I'm either cooking dinner in the middle of that or trying to get you know then to bed or to shower whatever the case may be I know sometimes I like to call myself at the time police because I'm always like okay and it's like
00:42:40
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You're telling them something, they're doing something fun and you want them to do something less fun. They're not going to want to do it. That's a good way to put it. Yeah. That's a lot of what being a mom is. Telling your kid who's doing something fun to do something less fun. Yeah. A hundred percent. I always tell them to shower if not us. Like I, you know, we, we have to at some point, sometimes we got to be the bad guy.
00:43:03
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I know, I know. No, but honestly, we're really, I'm really lucky because my husband is, you know, full on dad and he's amazing. He helps so much. And I know that sometimes that might be rare in some occasions. And sometimes the burden is always put on the mom for the most part. Right. But I do, you know, feel blessed that we do have that help and that we do definitely contribute, you know, the same if not, you know,
00:43:34
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equal and I do agree that, you know, it's, it's definitely, I feel like obviously the majority does bear the burden because it's just natural, like the kids want you more. So it's hard because in that sense, they do
00:43:53
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tend to, you know, mommy, mommy, mommy, mommy, mommy. And it's, um, it's, it's hard to navigate sometimes because sometimes my daughter will, she's more attached. And that's what I was telling you in the beginning that I feel like my son, he wanted me, but not the same extent that my daughter does. Like I feel like she, because she has seen me and she feels like she has access to me. Yeah.
00:44:17
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You know, I feel like that one thing has been a substantial difference in my mother her journey with both kids because I think that makes a lot of sense. Yeah. Yeah.
00:44:29
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Yeah. I feel like your son, he saw you going to work and he knew you'd come back. That was his routine. He saw it every single day. Your daughter maybe didn't see you leave as much because you were working from home. Like you said, she just felt like seeing you every day is normal and seeing you every day all day is normal. I could totally see how they would process that differently as they grew up when they were really little. 100%.
00:44:55
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I do sometimes still have mom guilt and I 100% think that's a real thing because I even have it now sometimes where, um, you know, my son has like a hundred school activities and I'm sure every mom on here that will listen to this will agree that the holidays and then like the end of the year for whatever reason, school activities, it's just like jam packed.
00:45:19
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It's like you need to dedicate your whole entire month to school activities because it's, it's crazy. Like for example, this week we have like snowman dressed up like a snowman day, then like elf day, then pajama day, and then it was field day today. And I'm like.
00:45:35
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I don't know where, like tomorrow's a holiday party. And I'm like, where am I supposed to stick my time? You know? Yeah. I saw hilarious like meme recently on Instagram the other day that was like, in the midst of everything else, moms have to do like, you know, listing all of the things we do and keep track of. It was like, and then your daycare sends you an email the night before, surprise, let your son or your child dress up as the Grinch tomorrow. It's like, oh, how am I supposed to get a Grinch costume by tomorrow? But like, you don't want your kid to be left out.
00:46:04
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trying to overnight Amazon order like a freaking green shirt. I don't know. That's literally me all the time. And you know, it's crazy. Sometimes I'm like, sometimes I'm like, I felt so great this week because like last week I went to target and I was like, right, let me look at this list. Cause I know what's going to happen. I'm going to come, I'm going to come to this week and be like, Oh my God, I don't have a snowman shirt. Oh my God. I don't have an elf shirt.
00:46:28
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like what is going on so last week I like amazoned everything I was like I'm ready for snowman day I'm ready for elf day so whenever that happens I feel so accomplished because a lot of times they'll spring something on me when I'll be like oh my god where am I gonna find today's like orange shirt day and I'm like I don't have an orange shirt
00:46:50
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Yeah, well, surprisingly, we have a lot of orange shirts in our house because Chase and I went to Miami. Oh, yeah. So we actually do have a lot of orange, but any, you know, like, I get it. It's so funny. We do too. That's literally the only orange shirt I have in my house actually is a U.S. So when in doubt, put them in U.M. gear. Yeah, no, 100%. You've done that. Yeah. Okay, so I want to talk about what I'm really, really excited to talk to you about is your social media and like,
00:47:18
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This kind of goes into what we were talking about. So in your, we're kind of getting to like towards the end of your day, a typical day, let's talk about like dinner. You make so many amazing things as you, anyone can go on your social media and see. How do you, do you plan for that? Like, is it a thing like on Sundays, you're like, okay, here's what we're cooking this week. Here's what I'm doing for dinners. And you go to the store and you buy all the things you're going to need for the week. Or is it more of like, okay, what are we feeling like today, everybody? Okay, I'll make this. How does that work?
00:47:48
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Okay, no, that's a really good question. And yes, you know, I'm super into health and wellness. And, you know, for me, it starts with food. And, you know, that's one of the reasons why I started my Instagram account was because I really wanted to just kind of inform people about
00:48:07
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you know, cooking easy recipes that are healthy and that will feed your whole family because that's I feel like being a mother is that's a huge struggle for a lot of families is what are we gonna eat, right? Like the million dollar question of every day, right? Yeah, especially with toddlers who are picky. Oh my god. Yeah. Yeah. My son has gone through phases of wanting something all the time to not liking it the next day. And I'm like,
00:48:36
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What is happening here, you know, so yeah, so it's luckily my daughter hasn't really gone through the picky she's two and a half and she didn't really go through like the picky stage which I found that to be interesting because they both need the exact same things. So
00:48:52
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I think every kid's just so different. At like a year and a half, my son, he did not, he was eating, he ate everything, vegetables, anything you could ever imagine. My grandma would cook for him, anything, and he would devour it. And then at like a year and a half, all of a sudden, he didn't want it. Didn't want anything. He wanted the typical,
00:49:14
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Chicken nuggets with, you know, you know, he wouldn't want any fruits, nothing. But for whatever reason, my daughter never went through that stage and she eats like anything and everything. She'll try anything. So it's really nice. But I don't know if it's more like exposure because I think that
00:49:31
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Um, you know, we have maybe exposed her to a lot more when he was little, I feel like we would cater more to his needs. So we would be like, Oh, if you don't want this, okay, then you can have this. But I think that it's all just a matter of you're like, I think that a lot of times, us as moms, like if they don't eat, they're like, Oh my god, they're gonna die. You know,
00:49:52
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I always get like, Chase, he's not eating enough. He's like, it's okay. Like, if he's not hungry, he's just not gonna eat. They're just like little intuitive eaters. Like, if they're not hungry, they're not gonna eat. Yeah. And I think that that's something that as a mom, we've had, I've had to learn a lot because I was like that too. And now I'm like, the nanny will be like, Oh, she didn't eat today. And I'm like,
00:50:14
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Oh, well, she'll, she'll eat dinner, you know, or she'll eat, she didn't eat lunch. Okay. Great. She'll eat dinner, you know, like whatever it was. It's, it's true. Like maybe just like us, right? Sometimes we, sometimes I think we think kids are like this species of like something else versus like, they are just little humans and.
00:50:30
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We kind of have to think like rationally, like sometimes I'm off. I might not want this, you know, or sometimes I'm just not feeling my best and maybe I don't want to eat this, you know? So I think like thinking a lot like that in your kid's brain and then thinking about it, how it helps a lot to kind of rationalize in that moment with them.
00:50:51
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Yeah, sorry, tangent. So no. So anyways, yeah, so I sold to dinner dinner routine, basically, yes. So I have had to this year has been like a journey. So for those who don't know, I started my Instagram in March of this year, so 2023. And so it's been it's been something that I've honestly wanted to do for a really long time. And I kind of just like took the leap. And I was like, you know what, I don't
00:51:19
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I don't I think it was like more like fear of failing or what people are gonna think or whatever but I would always have my friends like asking me for recipes all the time and I loved cooking but it wasn't like
00:51:31
Speaker
Oh, I'm like a professional chef or anything like that. It's never been the case, but I just like to cook and I like to cook like easy, simple, healthy recipes. So my friends were always like, Oh, where'd you get that recipe? Or I would post this what I'm eating or whatever the case may be. So I've always been into food in that way for a really long time. But I think I just never pulled the trigger on, you know, doing it officially.
00:51:52
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But my friends were like, do it, do it. And like, we're really rooting me on. And so I just kind of took the leap of faith and ended up doing it. And it's been, it's been really nice because I've been able to kind of share my passions and share, you know, how do we do it, right? Like, what are some things that we do on a day to day basis with a mom. So I've really had to kind of change my routine. And I've always kind of been the person that
00:52:17
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most for the most part plans out my week of whatever we're gonna eat or whatever the case may be, sometimes I get so busy that that might not be the case, right? Maybe Sundays, I don't have the time to kind of plan out my, my week and things like that. But for the most part, because I've had to learn how to, like, I don't want to waste food, right? So that's a major factor in what I do, because other families like, are not like filming their food consistently. And I am. So I do have the plan. And you know, I like to plan
00:52:47
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what I'm filming around what I'm eating dinner for the most part because it's easier that way for me because then it's just like, okay, I know I'm going to make meatballs, for example. I know I'm going to film that, so that night we're eating meatballs. It's nice because I am able to just get into that routine of not wasting food because when I first started, I was like,
00:53:10
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Okay, I'm making this and I just found myself like we were not really like eating what I was filming. So it didn't really dive up, you know. So yeah, so to answer your question, I do like on Sundays, I kind of try to make sure like, okay, what am I having? What are we having this week? And then, you know, make sure that it kind of aligns with the meals that we're cooking for that week? What do we have? Like what activities are going on? You know, if we have a dinner or something, then that day, I'm not gonna need to make, you know, dinner or whatever the case.
00:53:41
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The majority of my meals are short and simple, Jordan, like they are not, they are not rocket science, but I like to make sure that it's nutritious. It's delicious. That's one of the main things because sometimes I think that there's this, you know, um, like stigma that you like eating healthy is not like not the best tasting, but that was kind of one of the things that I really focused on on my account is just making sure that people understand like you can eat healthy.
00:54:08
Speaker
Um, and you know, without sacrificing like taste and comfort, right? Cause that's important. And I think that that's something that's really underestimated. So, um, yeah. And the fact that they're quick and easy, like it's so relatable. Like I, you know, nobody has time to do like a two hour, you know, hand cut fresh pasta. Like we just don't. So that's a really relatable thing too. And what also helps the relatability of it is like you said, it's like really what you're feeding your kids for dinner. Like it really is.
00:54:38
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100%. You're not just making it to film it. It's really what you're going to feed your family. So that definitely adds to the relatability of it. Yeah, no, 100%. And I think that that's one of the things I really like to focus on is making sure that it's relatable. Because at the end of the day, it's like,
00:54:56
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Yeah, I get it. I mean, you're cooking this, but can we really make it in my house? You know, and that's one of the things too. Like I'll ask, you know, my mom friends are like, you know, get feedback from them. They've been like my like number one supporters and all this. And, um, so it's, it's so nice to have, you know, that pretty much like team and the background like rooting you on and, you know, saying, you know, giving me advice or what type of recipes I should cook or do you guys like this or whatever the case is? And.
00:55:24
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You know, it's been so nice to have like really really great feedback and you know People that love the recipe. So yeah, yeah, that's awesome. You guys do Like meetups in like your local area too, right? Oh, yeah. So yeah, so my best my best friend she's She's in nutrition. So she her myself and another one of her friends and
00:55:51
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Gala she is in like the fitness world. So we kind of combined all of our I guess talents in a way and we You know do these meetups like once a month. My friend just had her baby So we haven't done it for like this month, but we'll probably pick it back up probably like at the end of January February So yeah, so it's like a community meetup. We'll do them like in Miami or Hollywood depending on
00:56:14
Speaker
You know location but usually we'll have like 15 20 women come out and we'll talk about you know, I'll give You know a little info into what I do. I'll usually have a recipe prepared for that day And then my friend will talk about nutrition and my friend will do like a little workout so it's really really nice because it's just like a way for moms to disconnect and kind of self-care and focus on themselves and
00:56:39
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And I think that that's another aspect. I do run a food account, but I'm just really focused on overall wellness. And I think that that's kind of important to just focus on letting people know that it's not just one thing, it's a combination of factors and just a little bit of day and consistency kind of will be able to get you where you need to be.
00:57:04
Speaker
That's really lucky that you have friends who happen to have interests too and professions that really go hand in hand with yours and you guys can all kind of work together. Yeah. That's awesome. And it's really nice that they're so supportive of you because it is scary.
00:57:18
Speaker
It is scary to take a to take on another thing like with your with the with the Instagram TikTok. It's hard to, you know, say, OK, like I already I dedicate this much time to my family, to my kids. I dedicate this much time to my work. I dedicate this much time to like.
00:57:36
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you know, whatever it is that you do for yourself, like working out every day. And now I'm going to add in another thing. You know, like that, like with this podcast, I felt the same way. Like, do I really have the space, the time in my day, the mental capacity to add on another thing. But when you love it, and when you're really passionate about it, like, it doesn't make time for it. It doesn't feel like another burden. It feels like somebody that gets you excited and you're passionate about it.
00:57:59
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I'm really glad when I remember when you started that and I was like, oh my gosh, this is so great. Like I didn't even know that you love to cook like that. Like I think it's great. Um, and I think it's already doing super well. Like you said you started it in March and you already have like, I don't want to say like, I don't know how many fall like 18,000 dollars or something. Almost, almost. It's great. I don't know. I'm just as surprised. Yeah.
00:58:24
Speaker
I think it's because it's like it's so genuine and it feels like so real and it doesn't feel like curated just for, you know, like I was saying earlier, it doesn't feel like just a highlight reel. Yeah, no. And that's one of the things that, you know, I really kind of
00:58:42
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am able to tell myself right when I'm doing it is that this is like a passion of mine. And it's something that I want to share with people because it's it means so much to me. And like you said, right, I think you hit the nail on the head when you said like, it's so true, because it's it's something you're passionate about. So you want to make the time for it instead of it's it feels like a tour, you know? Yeah. Um,
00:59:04
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And it's something that I have been wanting to do for so long that it just feels like the natural fit. And it's like where I'm supposed to be, if that makes sense. Yeah. And I think also it's so good for kids to see their parents doing, especially their moms, doing things that really fulfill them and make them happy.
00:59:24
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again, as hard as it can be to not choose doing that over, you know, like, I don't know, getting chores around the house or like getting some extra work done. Like it's really important for kids to see moms like kind of have their own things separate and apart from them. Yeah, no. And they love it. Like sometimes I'll include my son in my videos and he's like, yeah, what are we going to cook today? What are we going to film today? And so he gets really excited. And then the same thing with working out and exercising, like,
00:59:52
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They, they really, they see it like, Oh, are you going to go to the exercise? Are you going to go to work out or, and you know, my husband's the same. He was an athlete his whole life. So it's, it's kind of what they see, right? They only, they only, they only know what they see, you know, and, and.
01:00:09
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At the end of the day, we want to be great role models for them. I think that incorporating these healthy regimens in their lives and that they see us doing. Honestly, I truly didn't get that as a kid. For me, it's a foundation that I've built.
01:00:27
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I mean, I was a competitive cheerleader when I was growing up, so I've always been an athlete. It has stemmed from that as well, but I didn't really have that growing up. We would eat a lot of fast food. My mom had three kids, so we were on the run 24-7. From 1Ds to Burger King to McDonald's, that was our life.
01:00:49
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I didn't know any other way. Honestly, until high school when I met my husband, now husband, when we started dating back in high school, he was like, what do you mean you eat McDonald's at Burger King? I'm like, yeah, that was my normal, I didn't know anything else. But it's- Yeah, I mean, sometimes you just gotta do what you gotta do to get, I'm sure your mom was just overwhelmed. You guys probably had a lot of activities. She was running back and forth. You just gotta get some kids some food. 100%. No, 100%.
01:01:18
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I don't think of it in that way. I always tell my mom, I'm like, I don't know how you did it. I always tell her that all the time, because she was an amazing mom. She never missed a beat. Like I tell her all the time. I'm like, I you were in like, my sister was a competitive dancer. My other sister was in basketball. I was in cheerleading. And
01:01:37
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I still don't know. I don't know. I would not guess. She needs to come on and tell us how she did that. We talk about this all the time because I tend to ask her a lot of times when I'm going through a stressful day or whatever, I'm like, how did you do this? And she'll just be like, she just tends to say,
01:01:59
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I don't, she always tells me she really prepared for every, like she prepared for the day ahead. She always was so organized and was like, just like set herself up for success. Right? Like I always tell her, I'm like, I'm exhausted at the end of the day. Like how do you do it? She says like the little things like, right. She would just like shower before.
01:02:24
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before, let's say, we she cooked dinner. So she would just like shower and she already had done that. So then when the end of the day comes, like she's not like, like, she's not exhausted beyond belief and just like, leave me alone. Like, okay, she already showered to do that one task, she took like 10 minutes. And then she's like, ready to give herself the rest of the day, the rest of the time with the kids, right? So she filter cups, and then she was able to fill theirs.
01:02:47
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So I think that that's like one of the big things that I've learned from her as a mother. And she always said, she's offered success. Yes. That, I mean, that's so true. Um, did she, I think you were saying earlier, she recently stopped working. Did she work throughout your childhood? Okay.
01:03:05
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So did you feel like that was really helpful when you went back to work and started your journey as a working mom? Did you feel like you relied on her? Because that's one thing I feel like, I mean, my mom is and was the most amazing mom, but she was majority of my life a stay at home mom. I hate that term because the last thing we did was stay at home. I know.
01:03:29
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I find it a little bit hard sometimes in life in general. I feel like I have a lot of amazing examples around me of stay-at-home moms. Most of my family members were or are. Most of my husband's family members were or are. It is sometimes hard to find
01:03:49
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really good example. I'm somebody, as evidence through this whole podcast I'm running, who learns by seeing what other people do and how other people do it. That's just always how I've been interested in learning about other people's lives. I sometimes struggle with, I want more examples. That's also a reason I started this podcast. I want to meet more successful working moms and see how they do it. It's really nice that you had your mom to lean on.
01:04:17
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Yeah, no, 100%. And she, you know, again, like I said, like she'd never missed anything. And I always tell her I'm like, she given she did have a lot of help from like my grandma, growing up. And so my grandma did do a lot of drop offs and pickups and, you know, helped align a lot of things because my obviously my mom was working. But I do net do not. And vividly remember any time my mom missing any sort of
01:04:47
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you know, practice or you know, maybe practice because practice was a little different. But if I had like a competition or something that was at school or any important thing in my life, my mom was never absent. And I think that that's one of the things that as a mom myself, I really, you know, take into consideration and the things that I do and the way that I do things is because for example, today, my son had a field day. I want to my daughter,
01:05:17
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Um, uh, I don't want my son to have any type of memories of us not being there. Yeah. You know, because I luckily always had, you know, somebody in my family that was there, you know, when, when I had those moments. So for me, that's really important as a mom. And, you know, sometimes, as you mentioned in the beginning, like that could be the mom guilt kicking, right? But, you know, we can't be there all the time, but I think that
01:05:48
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What they are going to remember is that we were there most of the time, right? And that, you know, I think that those are the moments that they're going to take with us is that, you know, 75, 85% of the time we were there, right? And that other time they,
01:06:05
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You know, I was actually listening to like a podcast or something the other day that they were saying that that they, you know, this, uh, Rob dials, one of the, the, the podcasts I listened to. And he was mentioning how he was saying that, you know, the kids, your, your coworkers, your boss is not going to remember the amount of time that you spent working. Right. Yeah. Your kids are going to remember the amount of time you spent working, you know, and I think that's a huge takeaway because.
01:06:34
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I want to be remembered for the mom that is there and present and for the moments, you know, versus like, you know, working 12 hours a day or whatever the case. And I know some people have to do it and it's, you know, you have to do what you got to do. But I think that, you know, you know, one of the things that my mom always tells me actually is
01:06:54
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people make time for the things that they want in life. And I think that that's a huge, you know, takeaway, because I think that is so true, right? Like you, you make time for the people you want to spend time with, you make time for the things you want to do. And we all have the same 24 hours. But at the end of the day, it's you got to just carve time for things that are important for you and your family. And
01:07:20
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things and to do things that work best for you and your schedule. Cause at the end of the day, it's like, it doesn't work well. Sometimes it doesn't work for one person and then it works well for another. But I think also another thing is trial and error because trial and error.
01:07:35
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Oh, yeah. We do things a lot differently now than we did when Emmett was six months old. Well, also, he's changed. But like you said, we just tried things. It didn't work. And so the next week, we would try something different until we finally got in a groove. And I think that takes a while, though. And then I'm sure it takes a while to relearn once you add another kid into the mix.
01:07:56
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It's always a revolving door as your kids get older, and then you're incorporating sports and other activities that they're involved in. It's all trial and error, and it's always changing. My mother-in-law always says, you think you know your kids, and then they change on you. It's so true. They change all the time. So true. My son is having, he's growing into such a boy now, and it's so crazy to see the transition between toddler and becoming a big kid. Yeah.
01:08:26
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I know it's so sad, but at the same time, it's so, it's so nice because he's like becoming so mature and he like understands things. And it's, it's like, I don't know. I just feel like that bond between like mom and son and even my daughter, but.
01:08:42
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I think it's, um, well, you have a boy. So, you know, like the, the boy mom thing, it's just like, I don't know. I, I can, I guess I can attest cause I have a boy and a girl and I do feel like it is different, you know, it's, it's the best in both ways. Right. Yeah. But I do feel that, um, it is a little different, you know, because it's, it's a, you're catering to different gender, right? They have different needs and different walks. Yeah. And different personalities. Like, you know, they just, 100% different kids.
01:09:13
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Yeah. My son is very much like dependent on us versus like my daughter's like, I can do this myself. Bye. Interesting. Okay. Interesting. I always kind of thought like maybe this is just stereotypical because I'm the first born of my, me and my brother. I feel like.
01:09:30
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growing up, like I was always the one who was like stubborn and independent and he was like more, you know, cause he was, I was, I loved taking care of him. You know, I was only like three and a half when he was born, but my mom always says that I was, I spent a lot of time like trying to help take care of him. And so she got a lot of things done for him. I guess. But yeah, so, um, that's it. Yeah. Kids, kids are so different. Each one is just learning a completely new animal. So
01:10:00
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Well, I appreciate you coming on so much. I want to wrap up with you doing a plug for your social media so everyone knows where to follow you and where to watch all your content because it's great. I was following you before you started the account, but I can attest because I do follow you and I need to make some other recipes. I'm always looking for easy recipes.
01:10:25
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Yeah. Chase and I really support the cooking. Chase is, we try to split it. Chase is, Chase works from home and I don't always work from home. So it's sometimes easier, I think for the work from home parent to kind of get started on dinner. Yeah. Cause by the time I get home, like my son is already screaming for food. And if, you know, if it's not already made, then he's a mess. So maybe I'll have to send Chase a couple of the rest. Yeah.
01:10:51
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100% yeah, no. Yeah, that's awesome. Um, yeah, so you guys can find me on Instagram at Diami from Miami Yeah, no, I like you said Jordan I try to post recipes that are relatable for moms dads alike just busy people that are
01:11:11
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you know on the run that still want a nutritious meal, but you know want something still tasty and delicious and Yeah, I know I try to incorporate a lot of different things into the recipes just because Obviously we get bored right and you want variety and you don't want the same thing all the time so I think that that's important too is I try to switch it up and do different things that will appeal to You know the kids and the adults
01:11:41
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And then, yeah, so, you know, family meals that are easy and will get you by and then, you know, with a sprinkle of, you know, different wellness things along the way that I like to
01:11:54
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kind of plug in because I do think that it definitely is a food account, but like I said, there's a lot more to just overall wellness than just food. So I do like to share different things that I use on a day-to-day basis that make me feel my best because at the end of the day, I think that that's really what's most important and kind of
01:12:15
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where I, you know, like to advocate is do things that are going to make you feel your best. And obviously that's, you know, starts with the food that you're putting in your body. And I think a lot of people don't realize that sometimes, you know, you might have different things that come along in life. And sometimes we forget that it's just as simple as, you know, start with with the food that you're eating and seeing how that can take you, you know, to the next level, because I really do strongly believe that.
01:12:44
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food is medicine. And if you're doing the right things and putting in the right foods in your body, then you're going to be able to have energy.
01:12:52
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live a lucrative life and be able to hopefully live a life. I'm going to put your social media handle. Is that what the kids call it? I don't know. Yes. I'm also going to listen to the meditation app you mentioned and some of the podcasts you mentioned. For anyone who would find that helpful, I definitely want to check out some of those as well.
01:13:18
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Um, there was something else I was going to say, but it just flew out of my mind. So I know what I was going to say. We, for the listeners, I send anyone who comes on the show, like a list of questions and it's like three pages long. We probably hit like maybe half of them. So the point is we have to have you back.
01:13:37
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Next time we'll have to get into some of the other topics, but this has been really great. And I'm sure really helpful, not only for me, but for anyone listening. So thank you so, so much. I'm so happy you had me on. Thank you. Thank you so much. And I will definitely be an avid listener and I love what you're doing, Jordan.
01:13:55
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01:14:18
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01:14:41
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