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Ep 35: What If Your Partner Isn’t On Board With Your Health Changes?
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What happens when you start changing your diet and lifestyle, and your partner isn’t on board? Inspired by a listener question, this episode explores the challenges many women face in their 30s and 40s when health becomes non-negotiable, especially during perimenopause. We talk about feeling judged for prioritizing food quality, supplements, rest, movement, and long-term health, and how to navigate differences in values without creating conflict or resentment. This conversation is about honoring your health, staying grounded in your choices, and learning how to ask for support, even when your partner isn’t on the same page.
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Transcript
Introduction & Podcast Mission
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Welcome to What's My Age Again, the realest podcast for women who are done chasing trends and ready to feel empowered. Hi, I'm Kim. And I'm Tanya, holistic nutritionists and childhood best friends who've been there, done that, and bought the collagen.
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more than once. Each week we provide actionable steps that you can start today to help you thrive through every decade to come. We're cutting through the wellness noise to bring you honest conversations about aging, hormones, health, beauty, mindset, and everything in between.
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You see, we're also on a mission to age gracefully, one WTF moment at a time. Backed by research and real life, we're here to share what actually works, what's a waste of time, and how to truly thrive through the messy, magical midlife transition.
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We're so happy you're here. Let's dive in.
Listener Interaction & Episode Topic
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Hey everybody, welcome back to What's My Age Again. Thank you again for tuning in today. I am really excited about the conversation today. Hi, Tanya.
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Kim, how are you? I'm good. I'm good. I'm excited because this episode actually came as the result of a recommendation from a listener. And we love when you guys reach out to us and we love like getting your recommendations, having conversations, like that's what this is all about for us.
Partner Support in Lifestyle Changes
00:01:24
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So this one, was so what what the listener base, the question was, what happens when you are drastically changing your diet and your lifestyle and your partner isn't on board?
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And like, first of all, from a personal standpoint, and we'll get into this a little bit later, I completely resonate with this. And I mean, Tanya, both like, how often are we talking to our clients about this?
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It comes up every single session for me, whether it's an initial session. I should rephrase it. It'll come up every single initial session because it comes up as an obstacle in some way. And it will still come up in most sessions um as, you know, we're working along someone's health timeline. And what struck me with this question is it just, it really is and every woman question, meaning no matter who you are, i know right now you're nodding and you're like, yeah, in some form and in some way,
00:02:32
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along your journey, I guarantee you that you have come up against this. And if you're like, I'm not sure, i guarantee you as we keep discussing and kind of pulling apart this this topic and the pieces, then you're going to be like, oh yeah, I never thought of it in that way. But that is something I've dealt with or I'm dealing with.
00:02:57
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Totally. And like, I mean... So many of you who are listening are going through perimenopause, are in maybe late 30s, 50s.
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And for so many women, I find it's interesting because at this stage of life, at least it was for me in my early 30s, first of all, is when we start, maybe we've been ignoring symptoms for decades, right? Maybe we've been feeling off or whatever, but just, you know, not paying attention because we're go, go, go. And we're building families and we're building careers and we're building our lifestyles at this stage. And then all of a sudden we hit this stage of life where we have to listen to our bodies. And for so many of us, I mean, for me, it was a bit of a health crisis, but for some of us, it's not, but
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A lot of people at our age, Tanya, are kind of looking at ourselves, women going, i really need to focus on my health. And so women tend to make big health changes at this time. And they really need to look inwardly and be like, I need to make some serious changes to my diet and lifestyle.
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And our partners may not be on the same journey as us at that same time.
Midlife Health Changes & Partner Conflicts
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I couldn't have said it better myself. Sometimes you go to a stage where you're like, the wheels have fallen off. ah SOS, I need to change. And you're right. For a lot of women around me, I'm seeing that they're not necessarily in health health crisis yet, or they didn't necessarily experience the things you and I did.
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But we become very aware of our age, even though Age is just a number. And I believe that more than anybody out there, because between these years, I am still 19 years old doing my thing. Age still is relative to the natural thought process of, okay, this might've been okay in my twenties, the occasional pain, this, or, you know, this might be okay, but wow, now that I'm mid forties or 50 or whatever that is, yes, it's time to make some drastic changes and making drastic changes in our health
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obviously means that there's going to be a lot of changes in our diet, in the way we sleep, in the way we plan our time. And that might not align with the people in our lives.
00:05:33
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For sure. And like, let's face it, those symptoms that we can be experiencing, whatever sort of health, whatever's going on with your health can be exacerbated by a fluctuations in hormones All of a sudden perimenopause hits and it's this double whammy and we need to do something about it. So you're absolutely right.
00:05:54
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It can come up against, it can make it a challenging in the house. And let's face it, when we are changing our diet and lifestyle, whether we're super motivated to do it or not, it is hard.
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It's hard to do it on our own, right? And so, you know, If it's already a challenge and then we're coming up against this challenge of our partner not being on board, it's this double whammy, right?
Navigating Health Changes in Relationships
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For sure. And I think that what we really want to kind of work through today is when we're making these health changes, how can we honor these changes, um these health values without creating conflict,
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resentment, financial stress, um so many more things there. And how can we just like you say, Kim, stay regulated and feel like we're being supported, even if we feel like we're doing it on our own when our partner isn't on the same page.
00:07:03
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Because i think it's important to talk about the feelings that come up when we start to make changes. And I'm going to be honest, the feelings that can still come up decades later, while we're living a certain life about being that difficult person. Oh, we have to, we can't go to this restaurant because there's nothing for Kim to eat. um And that's very relatable when we feel like, you know, we're being difficult or we're being judged for the changes that we're making.
00:07:37
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Totally. And like my personal experience here is like, because I would have that health crisis that I've talked about a lot on here, I have Hashimoto's. My symptoms were like, I could not get up off the floor. I would look at other moms and be like, how are they getting up and organizing their lives at this time? Like I can't peel myself out of bed.
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Anyway, it was for me that change in lifestyle a felt for my husband. It was like within a day, like all of a sudden, she's gluten free, dairy free, all of a sudden, you know, you can't go to that restaurant, we have to buy organic, like it was quite a lot of changes in one in in a short amount of time. And, you know, I know maybe a lot of my clients can really and probably a lot of you listening to we go down many rabbit holes, all of a sudden, we're looking at yeah EMFs. And we're talking about you know, taking our smartphones out of the room and we're looking at red light therapy and we're looking at organic foods and toxins in our stuff. We have gone down all the rabbit holes.
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And for my husband, he was like, what? And I love that. And for me, my transition was less drastic and it was more, you know what I mean? A little bit here, a little bit there. um So that, that was fine. That wasn't an issue at all, but it's even like now exactly as I continue to go down rabbit holes,
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We just laugh. I said to Wes, literally maybe just two days ago, I'm like looking at the ceiling, counting all of the pot lights. And he's like, what are you doing? I'm like, we need to replace all of these bulbs and there are going to be $48 a bulb. And he's
Evolving Health Beliefs & Partner Communication
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just looking at me like I have nine heads. And he's like, do you know? How many pot lights we have? I'm like, I do. I just counted them. We have like 26 in the house. So it's going to be an expensive light bulb change. But i yes, like it's it's at the start when we're making a change, as you said.
00:09:40
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And it can be with every twist and turn as we continue to evolve in our health journeys, right? And I make light of this because I'm going to be completely honest. Wes is set the most supportive person ever But I'm sure he does not agree with certain purchases like these light bulbs. So we can laugh about it, but let's be honest, if it was to be by myself, those light bulbs are already to be in Yeah, totally. This is where kind of it stems, at least at the beginning for me, Pat, and we have evolved a lot and we can kind of get further into this later. But at the beginning, my sort of,
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how our relationship was, is I was all in. My belief was there. And I saw evidence of food being medicine. I saw evidence of the changes that I was making. I was feeling better. I had energy. My lab results changed drastically. My antibodies went down. So my belief just kept getting bigger and stronger and bigger and stronger.
00:10:45
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But at the beginning, he didn't have that same belief. He wasn't on that same journey. So buying those light bulbs was astronomically expensive, would be would be like, what? We don't have the budget for that, Kim. Changing for organic foods, we don't have the budget for that, Kim. The supplements that you have been buying, that's insane. It became this big part of our budget because I was invested in it, but he didn't have that same level of belief that I did.
00:11:16
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And I think this is where it's really important. to talk about reframing this dynamic for a second, reflameing reframing, like, let's use the word conflict, because we're not putting it out there that if your partners and the people in your household aren't aren't on board, that it's because they are a-holes. I really wish I could be on this podcast. They are a-holes for lack of a, that's in my pause. I was like, what can I say? For lack of a better word.
00:11:48
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I think that, This is where it comes exactly like you said, is your priorities switched in the blink of an eye because your reason and your yes got huge, right? And you are trying to create like safety and support everything.
00:12:09
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that part of the safety of health of life, et cetera. So rarely is our conflicts actually about the money, the supplements, the light bulb, the food itself.
00:12:24
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It's about the belief systems behind them because you know, obviously, you you know you sit down with Pat all the time and you redefined your budget. I sat down with Wes. We redefined our budget, our priorities. It's a different risk tolerance where...
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when you know we're talking about spending $48 on a light bulb, I keep putting that in there because, Wes, I really want this to happen. it's we have different risk tolerances here, different priorities. So both partners is what I'm really trying to say are trying to create safety, whether it's financial safety, you know, that then having enough or whatever.
00:13:06
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But we're just doing it in different ways. And it feels... like a conflict and both parties feel often unsupported and they both want to bang their head against the wall.
00:13:18
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Totally. And I mean, everybody's different. Every relationship is different. Our friend, Christy, holistic bladder coach, she and her husband sort of went through a health crisis around the same time. And she talks about this a lot on her platform.
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And so together they sort of evolved and together they learned and went down rabbit holes. And her experience was completely different. Some partners are more like my husband and I, where I drastically changed and he didn't. And the belief system wasn't the same. Like he didn't believe that those light bulbs needed fixing. He didn't necessarily believe in the supplementation part and what I was doing until he started seeing evidence.
00:14:05
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that I was feeling better. And then conversations started to change. And it's been, what, 10 years now? And he is a completely different place than he is back then. But it took a lot longer because we were on a very different health journey. Even though we love each other, we support each other in so many ways, his understanding of what was going on for me wasn't fully there for a while.
00:14:32
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A thousand percent. Exactly. And same thing for me. Mine wasn't as drastic as yours. But as I continued to pick up steam and now it's like, oh my God, 15 years for me. You know, it started with a change in diet. It started with putting down the Slim Fast and skim milk and replacing it with something a little bit better and a little bit more expensive. So as I built on that, we are talking about taking something like something simple, like a plant-based milk instead of the skim milk I was having, which doesn't have drastic costs. But now we're fast forwarding to $48 light bulbs and like $3,000 infrared saunas. And do you know what I mean? That's, it's a slow progression and there's love and respect. So same with Wes. Wes also saw the positive changes in me and he has then by osmosis made these positive changes, but
00:15:32
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we're still definitely on a little bit different wavelengths. Exactly like you said, Kim, where I see the light bulbs as a thousand percent necessary, Wes might not be there yet. And again, that leaves us on two different pages about, now I'm just like, well, don't turn on the lights then, Wes. That's where we're at right now. Don't turn on the lights, Wes.
00:15:54
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if But yeah, it makes so much sense. Like you said, the love and respect and support is there with our partners. We're not here to demonize it, but we're here to examine what can we do? You know what I mean? Like, and it's such, it's just so relatable because I bet you, if you're thinking about your personal experiences and maybe some feelings are coming up,
00:16:16
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We can still feel unsupported, like you said, if our values are not shared or aligned. We know the love and support is there, but we still feel, you still feel unsupported when you're not perfectly aligned. And sometimes we can feel um like we need to justify our choices, like defensive, that's the word I was looking for, defensive.
00:16:44
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Well, and it becomes this conflict because let's face it, we talked about finances. That's a big piece of it. If you're investing in your health, we know that there's some expenses, whether it be finding alternative practitioners like a holistic nutritionist, an osteopath, a naturopath, all of these things can be some out-of-pocket expense.
00:17:05
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Supplements, organic foods, changing over your cleaning products to non-toxic, or that's an expense, but also... Another thing we might feel like we have to justify is the time we are now spending on ourselves. We might be going out to do, we might be, you know, having a movement, focusing on movement, going out for, to the gym. We need somebody, you know, we want to take some time to just go for a walk and support our nervous system. So our, our partners may not be used to us taking that time piece as well.
00:17:41
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And then there's also the justifying, what we're bringing into our house now. Like our diet might be changing and the foods that we're eating might not be in line with our partner's tastes.
00:17:55
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Yeah, I think you touched on a lot of big ones there. I'd like to go back to the time one for a second, because I feel like it affects so many clients and friends where, yeah, that time wasn't built into your day before. And I'm like, you know, you have to take that, let's say 20 minutes to meditate and put your legs up on the wall. And it feels like it's not supported because it wasn't built in there before and people don't do it. And that's again, where that excuse piece comes in, but it comes back to being on a different page, you know, and feeling like that's not a valid thing to do and it's not necessary. And you're fine without doing that. Like you're eating well and you're moving your body. I don't see why you need 30 minutes, you know, after dinner where I'm just with the kids. So you could just meditate and put your legs up on the wall.
00:18:44
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the time piece is huge. And I think all the things you talked about, the food, the lifestyle links into this one bigger category, which is very, very poignant is that you are changed and people see you as changed. And there might be guilt there, whether again, it's within your household, in your friends group. Like I wasn't the person going out every now going to McDonald's um and getting, you know,
00:19:12
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drive-through just because they're saying, come over, let's have, you know, five bags of chips and the Cadbury chocolate and whatever. And it feels weird to have changed. You're a different person. And it's not aligning with the way that the people in your household or your friends knew you as before, right?
00:19:30
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Totally, Tanya. I am not the same Kim that Pat married like 13 years ago, right? Like, and it goes back to that, maybe that belief as well that we talked about I, you know, when you grow and make major changes, whatever it may be, whether it be your health, whether it be spirituality, any of those things, if you're going through a period of growth and change and your partner isn't in growing and changing in that same way, there can be some conflict or things you need to resolve there because you are a different person now.
00:20:04
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want like, it's important for your growth and your you know, if you believe in like soul contracts or life plans and that sort of thing, but your partner may have not changed in the same way.
00:20:17
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Absolutely. And I think it's important for us to acknowledge that this is hard and there are some things we can do.
Signs of Partner Resistance & Family Health Dynamics
00:20:27
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And before we step into that, let's refine just in case we're unsure what the does this look like? What can this look like when your partner isn't on board? It can look like you having to make or feel like you have to make multiple meals because your husband or your children eat differently. It can feel like the frustration of
00:20:52
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having stuff brought into your home that You don't want to be there like chips or chocolate or cheese. Tanya's three C's. Yeah, we've talked about that one before. it can yeah and it can also look like um for people for clients that have kids, and Kim, I'll let you speak on this one, also having a partner or someone else in your household bringing things in or having them offer to your children things that...
00:21:23
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Normally you don't want as part of their lifestyles. Oh, totally. And I mean, i haven't really talked about this too, too much in the podcast, but my kids also had some health issues, which sort of really further cemented me diving into this career that I'm in now and this belief that food is medicine.
00:21:44
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and you know, Pat is, has been a huge part of their healing as well. But at the beginning, that belief wasn't there. So I really felt like there was a lot of conversations, like I can't be the only one to care about this. And I mean, that sounds really harsh, but that's sort of how I felt at the time. And it was really frustrating for me who all of a sudden had all this education and knowledge and felt like, why are you not seeing this?
00:22:13
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Right? Like, why can you not because you're such an intelligent, it was like this judgment that I had, which was terrible at the time, because it's like, not just but valid.
00:22:25
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And so a lot of times it felt this mom's the bad guy. And we're doing all of these things and changes for health. And then he's kind of, like you said, Oh, you know, after soccer practice, somebody's given out Timbits. Well, our kids shouldn't be deprived, they should eat the Timbits too. And it was like this very different. We both had very different ways of thinking about it.
00:22:49
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And that was a challenge. And I think that you are speaking to a huge volume of listeners right now. I don't have kids myself, but I see this scenario in different ways.
00:23:05
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with all of my, you know, a lot of my clients, a lot of my friends, you are sharing the sentiment, Kim, and your honesty of what goes on with so many family dynamics. We laugh. I have a really good friend of mine and she'll know listening to this. And there is a situation where her kid was like, mom's the worst. And we still, me and Wes will still laugh about that and with our friend as well.
00:23:29
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And you're right. It's a dynamic that mom's not the worst. You just said mom's the bad guy. Mom's not the worst, but Mom seems to usually be the one because it is usually women. Let's be honest.
00:23:42
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Somehow we seem to be lucky enough to either come into our health crises before maybe our partners, you know, for with our husbands or a male partner, or We just feel that step in that push to kind of work on our health before they might, their onion might be getting a lot larger, the layers before they want to peel it back. So it often becomes that mom is that rule enforcer and dad is the fun one, you know, and like, so that's just
Financial Considerations & Partner Support
00:24:12
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really honest. And then again,
00:24:15
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Everything we said just now, plus the struggle you talked about before, Kim, the finances, you might want to buy organic and you might want to buy the top of the line supplements and not Kirkland. Sorry, said it, or Jameson said it um yeah and shop at certain places and your partner's not on board. These are the kinds of things that we are recognizing. We're standing with you to know they're hard, but there are some things that,
00:24:42
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that you can do to start fostering that communication and that consolidation of, you know, health and support within your household.
00:24:53
Speaker
Absolutely. And it is hard. I think both Tanya and I have said, and I mean, at from lived personal experience, it is hard. But again, there's that, there's that piece that we need to recognize that you just might be in a different place right now than your partner. It doesn't mean that your partner is not going to get there. It doesn't mean that the partner is a bad person or doesn't love you or it isn't trying to make this work. It's just, they're not in the same place with you right now.
00:25:24
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And so one thing that I feel like is really, really important is asking for support is having those conversations and explaining why you're doing this for yourself and why it's so important for your partner to support you through this.
00:25:41
Speaker
I couldn't agree more. And that was a big one for me and still continues to be. And it's hard sometimes to be vulnerable and it's hard, even if it's with your person, it's actually harder. I think when it's with your person to put up a boundary. So an example in my household, um asking for support, looks like letting Wes that i cannot, I am choosing not to, i don't want to snack in the evenings. If I decide that I'm hungry, yep, I'll go downstairs and get a snack of my choosing to balance and sustain me. But it's a bad habit that I've been working on so long and hard to get out of. And if I didn't voice that and put that boundary up,
00:26:32
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that can still become a problem because, you know, someone goes to the pantry, gets something I don't necessarily want to snack on. And there i am, everything out the window snacking away. So I feel in putting up a boundary, like you said, Kim, we can be in different places to where our partners are or where other kids are. a lot of you have grown kids, teenage kids in the house. We're going to be in different spaces.
00:26:56
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But putting up that boundary isn't me saying, well, you can't snack. Well, you're not allowed to have this. It's letting them know that I am not having this. And for your support, I need not to have this, you know, while we're sitting on the couch or whatever. So if you want to go have a snack, let me know even. And I'll be like, cool, I'll go to bed and read and I'll meet you later. But that's the support that I need. So like,
00:27:20
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Really putting up a boundary, being vulnerable can make a huge difference, even if your partner doesn't agree with you, you know, and doesn't agree with where you're at. Totally, Tanya. And that support can change over time. Perhaps if you're at the beginning of this health journey, like you were saying, it's really hard for me not to snack at night. Maybe to your partner, could we not snack in the evening for this week only?
00:27:44
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Love
Communicating Health Priorities with Partners
00:27:45
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me a reframe. but but you know like just and again guys we do not have all the answers here we in fact we don't have any answers for this we just we thought when we received this question we thought this was such an important topic to start the conversation So at this point, we're just sort of giving you feedback of what has worked for us and some of our clients. And so, you know, starting this conversation and things to think about. But I love this idea of, you know, looking at compromises and really thinking like if money, like for us in our family, money was a big one, right? Budgeting was a big one. So for me, I had to say to him, supplements are my priority.
00:28:27
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yeah and So when we're looking at our monthly budget, We look at supplements. And so maybe I don't get my nails done anymore. Maybe I don't do whatever, like, or maybe we don't as a family do this, but T and just like for Pat, like there were certain things that it was a priority for him. So we had to really look and revise our budget, but get what some of my parties and then maybe the light bulbs could go off the list for a while.
00:28:52
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Or that light therapy can be a one day thing. yeah But really getting honest with your partner about what is important to you and your health journey at this moment, um I think can be really helpful.
00:29:09
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And that's so powerful because you just mentioned too, while you're doing that, you're opening a conversation and you're inviting your partner to also list their priorities because they're valid and they're important as well. And then you're sitting down together, finding a way how those priorities can go coexist and what needs to leave. And yes, that applies to money. Exactly. But it also applies to something simple, like you said, of evening stacking. There's always a way to do it. And you're right. And it does change over time because...
00:29:42
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We now rarely snack in the evening. And if we do, we will pull out or one of I, you know, one of us, whether I'm hungry Wes is hungry, we will pull out something different than we ever used to have. it And again, it's no secret. It used to be chocolates, chips, crackers, crispers, like all of these refined carbs that, you know, we were actually addicted to our microbiome called for them. And now, you know, if I want something sweet, it might be a handful of organic dried pineapple or, you know, our nut and seed mix. so
00:30:12
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things will change over time. Your pages might become closer together, but they might not always be the same. But like you said, Kim, sitting down and talking about priorities and the why behind, that's going to bring understanding and you're always going to be able to come to some sort of solution, right?
00:30:31
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Absolutely. And for me personally, Pat came around like Pat is always, I mean, he, he works out every single day. He's a health conscious guy. It was just a very drastic change for me. Sure. Absolutely. And over time, what I found is he saw my health changing. There was evidence that what I was doing was working. He saw the results in our kids, the blood work that, and, and he said, I think we like a few years ago, he was, sit we we sat down and had a conversation. He's like,
00:31:03
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this is the way it needed to happen. I'm glad, I'm glad for the way thing. And it also helped his health, right? He's feeling better. He sends me things now. What do you think about this? Now it's more of a conversation. We have more of a lifestyle together and think it's not like that for everyone. I know, but it, it was at over a 10 year span that we've really gotten to the point that we are at now.
00:31:28
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And again, I think it was just this understanding of like, Our belief system kind of grew together over time, but mine happened kind of first and foremost.
00:31:40
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For sure. And I think we could go on and on, but I think with what we're really what we've really spoken about and what we continue to give examples for is there is an absolute 100% solid case that it is possible to live in the same household with love and respect, be potentially at the start on two completely different pages or semi the same pages, whatever the case may be, and still have everybody's needs met if we simply make asking for support and important, putting up boundaries, talking to our partners, finding solutions, solutions, for example, in grocery shopping, what
00:32:28
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what needs to be organic and what can we let go? Looking at that dirty dozen, and that clean 15. Yeah, ideally we'd love everything certified organic, everything this and that. It's not all in our budget. So what tweaks can we make with our groceries? What can be done at Costco as opposed to ordered on spud? um If you're in our area, I mean, we can both use spud. um These are things that There's so many different ways to compromise. And I know that can feel overwhelming.
00:32:58
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It is for my clients. Heck, it is for my friends and family and sometimes me. But remember, there's help out there. Even again, in terms of Kim and I, I can speak for Kim very confidently because we talk about this.
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A big part in what we do with our clients is also the lifestyle piece of how to incorporate these changes how to make them work financially, to make them work within people's means. And that's our job.
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So working even with someone outside help can help your entire family work. with a budget, with, you know, tweaks to lifestyle understanding that goes under the holistic nutrition umbrella. Contrary to some people's popular belief, we're not just telling you to eat broccoli and, you know, chicken breasts, like, no, no, we are so much more than that. And that help is often needed.
00:33:56
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Oh, absolutely, Tanya. And I think that just like what goes back to what we talk about all the time is that consistency piece.
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And that piece of you're not just doing this diet short term, you need the changes that you're making in your health, diet, lifestyle, all of the things need to be sustainable over time. And part of that is help is making it fit into your family life, into your day to day life.
00:34:28
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Like Tanya said at the beginning, you're not going to want to make three different dinners every night for the next six years, right? You want the changes that you're making to be, you know, incorporated into your life. And that includes your family life.
00:34:43
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um And yeah, absolutely. That's so much of what we do as holistic nutritionists is the mindset piece. And then that incorporating these changes into your life piece. And we love that because there's always a solution and there's always a way to kind of help support you. But one thing I really wanted to state to here is at the end of the day,
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You need to be really solid in your own belief that the changes that you're making, whether right now your partner is on board or not, the changes that you're making are important.
00:35:18
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It's for the for your good and for the greater good of your family, right? You're doing the right thing. And although it might feel like a challenge now and there might be a lot of tough conversations in your future, you're going to get there.
00:35:32
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Absolutely. You are not a burden. You are not extra. You're not the dramatic one. You're the person that is looking to change their health.
00:35:42
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You might see be seen as different, you know, a different version of yourself. But once we can try to get past that little bit of resentment or, if you know, feeling judged or called out and applying again,
00:35:57
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just asking for support, that communication piece. The people in our lives are in our lives for a reason and they want to love, they want to understand and they want to support us. So once we can kind of really set up those boundaries, ask for support and exactly like you said, Kim, be so solid in our whys about you know why we're changing our life and choosing it,
00:36:24
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it's It takes time, but you know we're going to get that understanding from those people around us and build a long, consistent pattern that will sustain and grow the health, like you said, too, not only of yourself, but of the people around you, your family, your household, just by osmosis, just by the changes they're going to see in you.
00:36:46
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Absolutely, Tanya. Well, we're with you guys. Reach out anytime. we loved this person's comment. So if you have ideas too, please reach out to us. this is This is why we're doing this podcast. It's for you. um So thank you so much, Tanya, for this conversation.
00:37:03
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It was amazing. Until next week, guys, take care. All right. Bye, everyone. Bye. Hey guys, thanks so much for hanging out with us today. If this episode resonated with you, we would love it if you would hit like, subscribe to the podcast and share it with a friend.
00:37:20
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