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Top 3 Irrational Things That Overwhelm Us
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I know you're reading this on an iPhone or Android device right now. Have you ever gone behind enemy lines, fraternized with the devil and tried to use the other one? Did you thusly throw that device straight into a wall or phone, run to a nearby couch, and scream into a pillow??
Then YOU might be just as neurotic as we are! Join us this week as we scream at each other about what "irrational" really means and try to get in the heads of each other and our listeners, exploring the bleeding edge of our growing list of neurodivergencies and laugh at each other's plights.
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Introduction & Humor: Feeling Overwhelmed
00:00:00
Speaker
Okay, we are recording. Everything is now fair game for the cold open. I know that you can be overwhelmed and you can be underwhelmed, but can you ever just be whelmed?
00:00:14
Speaker
Yes, absolutely. I think you can in Europe.
00:00:20
Speaker
Kara, and for our other followers, I guess, if you've been under a rock. Like Kara. yeah That is a quote from 10 Things I Hate About You, one of the best rom-coms literally ever made. I've heard the quote, but what's the Europe thing?
00:00:37
Speaker
that's the That's her reply. yeah Two friends talking to each other. Are they in Europe? Is that relevant? No, but I am going to start in incorporating that. Anytime somebody says, can I? I'm going to try and start saying, I think you can in Europe. Yes.
00:00:51
Speaker
Yeah. I'm glad that I was here for that because I'd be pissed in a month if I didn't understand what you were saying and then you made fun of me. You probably still won't remember. Yeah. Oh, yeah. Yeah. Solid bet. Yeah. Way to mind. I still love saying I'm whelmed when people ask me. yeah How does that make me feel?
Podcast Introduction & Episode Topic
00:01:06
Speaker
Whelmed, man. I'm whelmed. Could take it or leave it Welcome to My Top Everything. I'm Marion. I'm Kara. And I'm Mara. And we're three best friends who like to argue about anything and everything.
00:01:19
Speaker
And that never gets us in trouble with each other. Nope. It's always cool. No.
00:01:27
Speaker
And tonight, today, i know this evening, whenever you're listening to this we're going to be discussing the top three things that irrationally overwhelm us.
00:01:39
Speaker
ah I had trouble with this because I was trying to think of something that was irrational that overwhelmed me. I but i learned about myself during this. is that i'm sorry thank you um the topic is top three things top three irrational things that overwhelm me yes that's what i said no no what did i that's a different topic top three things you said top three irrational things or no you said top three irrational overwhelming top three things that irrationally overwhelm me is what you said top three irrational either way top three irrational things that would change my difference that change my list overwhelm me
00:02:19
Speaker
is the part with the irrational i was like i am rational i am unflappable am anything that overwhelms everything that overwhelms me like math rational literally yes what that's real it's a joke right yeah no math irrational numbers You're not making a math joke right now, dude?
00:02:43
Speaker
What? No, I'm talking about like anything. Glad that I called that out. Anything that you need to look up a formula for. Yeah. or you know, like anything other that that's non-phone calculator. Yeah. i
Common Triggers of Overwhelm
00:02:58
Speaker
it it But I think a lot of people hate math. So I was like, well, that one's not really that interesting because a lot of people are overwhelmed by math. yes So that was what was hard with me is I could only think of things that I think are very in the zeitgeist of things that overwhelm you. Yeah.
00:03:13
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Like I was thinking about itchy things and I was like, nah, everybody gets overwhelmed by itchy, like itchy wool. That wouldn't count. What do you mean it wouldn't count? That one could count. There are some psychos out there that like the feel of raw wool. Oh my God. I literally cannot focus. They're also like, you know, physicists who do a lot math.
00:03:33
Speaker
Yeah. I so have a, there's a correlation between, think the people, i imagine them all in a little bucket. The people who don't get overwhelmed by normally rational things to get overwhelmed by.
00:03:45
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And they do all of them. They wear the wool sweaters. They do all the hardcore math. They like it. They get off to it. They're coming to it. Dude. But have, I mean, stop. oh Listen, burn Pythagorean theorem.
00:03:57
Speaker
No, the little a graph. B squared. equals C squared. Come. equals come yeah squared yes nice yeah what are you gonna say i mean i have like when i get to trend the data or make a grid a good good graph oh yeah that's satisfying it is satisfying yeah I don't think I've experienced that.
00:04:23
Speaker
You make a lot of spreadsheets. Yeah, but I also see I almost put Excel down as well as something that overwhelms me. That would count, I think. But no, I don't think that's irrational. I think that's a totally normal thing that overwhelms a lot of people. But the way you react to it is a little bit.
00:04:40
Speaker
Like I want to break a keyboard yeah every time it talking about Excel or Google Sheets? Sheets. Both, but mostly, mostly Excel. Yeah. Google Sheets is better.
00:04:51
Speaker
I try to use Google Sheets when I can, but Excel, but yeah if we keep to the simple stuff, equal some parentheses,
Personal Stories of Overwhelm
00:05:00
Speaker
blah, blah, blah. Sure. yeah We get to a pivot table and I am screaming. VLOOKUP the other day?
00:05:06
Speaker
VLOOKUP? I couldn't do it. i did v Like Don't ask. Don't ask. What did the fuck is VLOOKUP? Apparently, according to my former coworker, it's simple.
00:05:18
Speaker
I've used it before, you can but I couldn't help. you Exactly. What is that about Excel? You can use the thing and still not know how to do it or help someone else do it. Yeah, I'm just saying I don't think that's irrational. I think most people, unless they've taken an Excel course, like, you know, for a year.
00:05:35
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kind of hate excel i think this is going to be a good one for us to argue at the end because i feel like you're going to have a lot of opinions about our lists yeah i i don't know i really like excel i think it's really useful i love it though organization color coding fine and that's my number three excel well you just told me it's irrational So yeah, no, that could be your number three. yeah. yeah All right. Marion started it off. Yep.
00:06:03
Speaker
It's XL. All right. So that's my number three XL. Who wants to go next? I'll go next. Okay. Uh, this one is in memoriam of today. i was walking in the door with like four bags and the dog was really excited to see me.
00:06:18
Speaker
And i walked in and Grayson and Marion were doing a bunch of stuff in the dining room. Marion said, Grayson broke his toes. And I was like, what? And I was trying to deal with Bandy in the bags and Grayson was telling a story. And I was like, I can't. And then I asked a question ah because I was like half listening to the story. And then um i got it really overwhelmed. So um what I learned today, and I have experienced this many times, is if I'm walking in the door with like a bunch of stuff, I can't have people asking questions or telling stories.
00:06:49
Speaker
I was really overwhelmed. It takes all the thought process, man. It was just a lot to be like ah trying to focus on other things and then try to like respectfully pay attention to Grayson breaking his toes. And I couldn't. and Did you break your toes?
00:07:02
Speaker
I may have. don't know yet. This is your way of squeezing in, telling me not to tell you things when you come home. it's Just like wait 30 seconds. I did wait 30 seconds. Yeah, Kara, I was upstairs. Arguing about anything and everything. you Yes, you came in.
00:07:20
Speaker
You put your bags down. No, i wear my bags were still on. You had one bag on. My bags were still on and I was petting the dog. I was upstairs. I wasn't even downstairs. When I came down, that's when I told you. It was at least 30 seconds. I still had the bags on my body.
00:07:32
Speaker
Maybe just don't know that the question was kind of weird. Maybe we just don't up to the question being weird. What question? Yeah. What question? She won't say the question. i i did i was trying to. I listened to 50% of the words. So i asked a clarifying question, which was apparently rude. I said, i said, you said, are you?
00:07:51
Speaker
Are you? So you think so you think that the bike rack hit you? Yeah, because I was trying to fucking follow. I was asking a clarifying question. Yeah, I wish I could.
00:08:02
Speaker
But I totally understand, like, because two trips is for pussies. Exactly. So everything's coming in with one. But yeah, oh, my God. And I had, like, a cupcake thing that was on its side, which was tipping the food that could have leaked out of the Tupperware. So was trying to make sure that the bag was still oriented the correct way. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. yeah I'm there with you. Thank you. i agree that this is irrational.
00:08:26
Speaker
going to go pretty high on the list. Sorry. Wow, I can't wait to hear your number one, Kara. Oh, okay.
00:08:38
Speaker
I do, yeah, I think, yeah, I'm excited for it. Well, I took the literal meaning of irrational to lacking normal mental clarity. And my number three is social anxiety when I'm hanging out with people that I've been friends with for a long time. Like those negative cyclical thoughts.
00:08:58
Speaker
Yeah. So I love a definition. Yeah. I love bringing it in the definition. Yeah. I know that all the time. To me, everything that makes me like if it's making me overwhelmed, it's not irrational.
00:09:08
Speaker
Right. It's having an effect on me. Yeah. um So this question I found hard. But it's inconsistent with the people. It's inconsistent. And that's what is irrational to me or what's overwhelming is like, why am I feeling this way when I hang out with these people yeah seven times a week? But the three of these days I'm feeling overwhelmed. Yeah.
00:09:25
Speaker
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So that one's irrational. um I might have stuck.
00:09:32
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Might have focused a little too much on the word irrational, but you guys will be the judge of that. I think
Social Experiments & Public Reactions
00:09:38
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I i agree with you in the sense of I found it really hard to find like, what does this mean to be irrational? Because you usually if I'm overwhelmed, there's a reason for it Yeah. It's not just...
00:09:48
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Random. Yeah. But I can't relate to either of these. so but Okay, Kara, that means we're winning. yeah. Yeah, good job. Introvert problems or something. don't know. I've never been like, oh there are too many people talking to me.
00:10:03
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All the time. Can I say my number two? Right away? Yeah. I'm going to skip you. Segway. Segway. That's messed up. ah My number two is being the center of attention and having multiple people ask me the same question. This is real recency bias. This is real recency bias. We were doing wedding dress trials recently and there were nine people looking at me which wasn't necessarily problem, but there was people talking, maybe not even to me, I have no idea, um but talking at me and then also multiple people asking questions at the same time. And I was like, I fucking can't do this. And was like, this is my nightmare. I laughed at one point because your face in the mirror and then there were like five four or five people different talking at once. And I was like, this is so this is like Kara's hell. Yeah. It's like your inner dialogues, but like four or five people yeah at once. And you're like trying to pick ah pick a voice out of it. Pick stream. yeah like
00:10:58
Speaker
I can't. I was overwhelmed and I wasn't even you. That day I was oh my God. Yeah. Everybody's talking the same time. Yeah, it was a lot. And then at one point, the like dress person made a quiet she like looked me in the eyes and she made a very quiet comment to me. And then I was able to just focus on her. And afterwards, I was like, thank you. And she said, I could tell. She was like, you were losing it. And was like, I really was. Yeah. Yeah.
00:11:23
Speaker
We needed to have like little cards or something like a panel. Yeah. you could your card and take questions kind of like a ah yeah wedding trials should be like press secretaries where you have somebody there yeah to say hey that was a stupid question you should be embarrassed yes you in the front what would you like to say hi ah mother of the groom.
00:11:48
Speaker
I'm here today. i'd like to ask what you think about that skirt cut. Leslie, by the way, Grayson did not talk at all. So ah she was very respectful about just kind of like sitting there and saying, that's nice. Yeah, I heard her she was also probably overwhelmed. Shout out, mom.
00:12:03
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Yeah, probably. But she made the only comments that she made were about sparkles, which is exactly what Leslie call. What'd she say? Either lack of sparkles or sparkles and how I like or dislike that.
00:12:14
Speaker
Uh-huh. That was the light. She like, some people commented on the cut. Some people wrote the tool. She was sparkles. Yeah. That she likes sparkles? Like the detail. loves sparkles. She's bedazzler. Oh. Yeah. Everything she owns, key chains, mugs, shoes, everything she owns has sparkles. If you want that wedding dress sparkly, she will bedazzle it. Oh, I know she would. haven't went in that. She and I know that we have different opinions on that, though. Hell yeah, brother. Let her bedazzle the veil.
00:12:42
Speaker
ah Okay, but just think about it. Respectfully, no. I'm going to have her bedazzle my tie. of her ties. We're going to rhinestone cowboys walking down the aisle. Can she bedazzle the bridesmaid's shoes?
00:12:54
Speaker
She should definitely bedazzle your tie. I'm not joking. That's amazing. Kara, it's not just your wedding. is.
00:13:04
Speaker
He broke his toes today. Well, undetermined. We don't know. Perfect.
00:13:12
Speaker
Tozo mend. ah Did you say at any point, it I'm sorry that you have pain? Because that always got me with, wait, maybe I should say this on the podcast. Yes. i when When I collected my thoughts, I said, can we start this interaction over, please? And then we had the conversation again. That's good. Hello.
00:13:31
Speaker
Yeah. that the Reset. Especially if like two people are talking to me at the same time. I'm like, It happens to me at work all the goddamn time. It happened literally like three times a day. And i was I was also on the phone at one point. this happened. Okay, so I was on the phone, but with my little ear pods that nobody could see. And my hair was down so you really couldn't see them. And i tried to walk into my boss's office, who wasn't there today, but he was there.
00:13:57
Speaker
And I like walked in and i was like, oh, uh. And then I like walked out and he was trying to talk to me. And the person in my phone was talking to me. And i was like, uh. uh I can't talk then I was like pointing to my ear and he was like oh okay and then like ran away and I was like this is fuck I hate this yeah I hate when my co-workers interrupt my phone calls that I'm having at work yours might have been work related but mine usually aren't I about my dirt i hate it when your co-workers interrupt their phone calls too it's like stop asking about work we're busy over here fuck off figure it out yourself yeah I don't care about your wrong injection pull
00:14:32
Speaker
Yeah. Wow. Yeah. Oh, the injection. It's not bad. The injection error. Yeah.
00:14:43
Speaker
Yes. Who is listening on the four hour car ride? Marion. um Yeah. One point. In case you guys really needed the answer to that guess.
00:14:54
Speaker
Yeah. Yeah. I just wanted to say that I, what I've learned about myself is that if I get hurt, It doesn't matter if it's the person's fault at all or anything. I need somebody to say, I'm sorry you're hurt, or else I would... Because I've had people in the past like start investigating.
00:15:10
Speaker
They become little PIs, little private investigators. you know what I'm talking about? Where they're like, where were you at 8.42 p.m. when you stubbed your toe on the thing? And I'm like, I need somebody to just...
00:15:22
Speaker
say i'm so sorry my little princess come here let me shower you with boo-boo kisses and yes exactly i feel that it does it doesn't matter what i was doing at the time where i was the circumstances i'm hurt yeah i'm gonna start doing it in public to strangers I bump but i i my funny bone in the cereal aisle. I turn to the person and say, bump my funny bone.
00:15:51
Speaker
I would love to watch that happen. from I want to be on the end cap, like picking mayonnaise and then watch that whole situation. Can you say I'm sorry that I hurt my funny bone? Secondhand embarrassment would never be higher for me.
00:16:05
Speaker
Write that down. I don't love it, but it's content. i We should try it just as a social experiment. I wouldn't use the baby vice, obviously. Well, that was part of it. I would like maybe at the I bet.
00:16:19
Speaker
Here's what I would bet. oh Co-op. Crunchy bitches. Somebody would apologize if I said, oh, I hurt. If I like said, owie, I hurt myself.
00:16:31
Speaker
And I look somebody in the eye and I said, I just hurt my funny bone. And they'll go, I'm sorry. Now, if we went to Cub, I think the person who would just make eye contact, stare at me and then walk away.
00:16:41
Speaker
What do you think would happen at Aldi? Oh, I had like three. I um went Aldi today and I had at least three conversations with people just in the store. That is true. There is that one time we were there and that lady was asking us about a crate for her dog. Yeah. where wherere but We were like, we're both cat people. I don't know. That's like big enough. Yeah.
00:17:00
Speaker
I don't know. Yeah. So that aisle really brings people together. so you think that somebody would kiss it? No. If I ask? I don't think a stranger ever is going to kiss your boo-boo. know Maybe a mother. A mother with a small child that actively does that day to day. It would feel natural. But like somebody that even if they're a mom, but their kid's like 16. No. You know what? I bet at Aldi I could get somebody to like, you know, like kind of rabbi it rub the spot.
00:17:26
Speaker
Or like if they kiss their hand, they kiss your ear. I don't think I think you're right that kissing is a bridge too far. But I bet I could get somebody to rub it. I did on my travels. I had a lot of moms who would do.
00:17:37
Speaker
you know, like pick me up almost like hitchhiking and take me places. So, um, yeah one time in the UK I was, i needed groceries and we were walking like two miles back, me and my like new flatmate.
00:17:50
Speaker
And we just hadn't realized how much stuff I'd gotten. And it was so heavy and we were walking and then this lady stopped by in her minivan and she's like, do you two, where are you going? Are you going to the university? Do you want to ride?
00:18:02
Speaker
It was her birthday. It was her birthday. Nice. We gave her a chocolate bar. Yeah, she was picking up her kid from the mom's practice. But I just think, yeah, there's been a lot of moms. So I think if I found an Aldi mom, she would touch it.
00:18:17
Speaker
i am I think people identify me as the Aldi mom based on how many interactions I get into the grocery store.
00:18:28
Speaker
Do you carry band-aids in your purse? Yeah. You're the Aldi You're the Aldi mark. Definitely. Do you think someone would give me a band-aid just like as a curate? At Aldi, you're getting a band-aid. At Aldi, I'm getting some type of physical exchange, I think. Yes. Whether it's a band-aid or whatever. Like a pat on the shoulder.
00:18:46
Speaker
Cub, I think I'm just getting, the person's walking away. they They're ignoring you. Yeah, they're not making eye contact. Yeah, they're either ignoring you or they've just clocked you as as weakened.
00:18:59
Speaker
So yeah they can rob you in the parking lot.
00:19:05
Speaker
And then, yeah, what do we think about Trader Joe's? Trader Joe's. If I got a cashier. cashier money no no we have to be consistent it's a patron for all of them yeah a patron no workers so study design here at trader joe's what do we think i think uh anything before 10 in the morning they're gonna be helpful yes anything after 10 a.m yeah every man for himself you don't think the the person will do anything yeah i wouldn't i agree i think that jesus I don't know I would, if somebody walked to me and said I hit my funny bone, I think I'd be like, what if you okay. what you If it was a cut and they needed a band-aid, that's a whole different environment. So I got to cut myself. Yeah. yeah what do You got to be bleeding. What if you were in the aisle when it happened?
00:19:48
Speaker
Like I, I hit it and I go, ow. you'd say something i think i bet i'd get somebody to react and trade or do if like something fell to like if there was an attention drawing and you're like oh my god i just hit my funny bone yeah that's i mean that's what we're talking about they have to witness accident i can't just go up to somebody that's what i've been picturing i have to do it at least in their peripheral vision yes okay obviously think like how in real life like Let's get some fake blood, like beet juice or something. And then you quote unquote, like, you know, you rub the side of the metal part a little too hard. i don't need beet juice.
00:20:23
Speaker
I don't need beet juice for this. I can do this straight up stub stubbing. Do you have your tetanus shot? Stubby wubby. What? Do you have your tetanus shot? This is serious. Why do I need my tetanus shot? If we're cutting you. i'm We're not cutting you.
00:20:35
Speaker
There was blood. We said blood. Okay. Put this on the list of updates. We'll come back. I'll do the experiment. I've got so much time on my hand. I would love to be there for all of them. But not the other side of the store situation.
00:20:47
Speaker
i want to witness it. Oh, yeah. I'll take a video. Somebody has to witness it. Yeah. I don't want to be there. You won't be able to handle it. No. This is like... It'll be bad. In psych class, my group with Mr. D***.
00:21:00
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I don't know if you can. Not Mr. D***. Is that his name? In psych class. Bleep it, bleep it, bleep it. Also, bleep co-op. Yeah, I was thinking that too. Okay. um The co-op. You could leave the co-op part in.
00:21:12
Speaker
Anyway. Where was I? Oh. We had to do an experiment, like social experiments, and I remember my group... We went and we would fall down in public places and we did it with women and with men. Well, boys and girls.
Technology & Plant Care Frustrations
00:21:26
Speaker
Yeah. um To see if people reacted differently. And like I almost always helped up. Like I would drop like we would be in the Barnes and Noble and I would drop books or whatever. And then um that was not the case with the boys. Yeah.
00:21:41
Speaker
Interesting. Yeah. People will like see a guy fall and be like, yeah. Whatever. So i think i got I think I got something going on. Yeah. Here. I did.
00:21:52
Speaker
I watched a guy wipe out on a bike one time. i was in my car, but laughed. And you just kept driving? Yeah.
00:22:04
Speaker
He got up. Nothing. It wasn't like Grayson broke his toes earlier today. yeah are you? don't even know any of the story. He broke his toes. He's not sure if it was the bike rack or not.
00:22:21
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i think I think I have a job I'm supposed to do here. Where are we at? Yeah, thank you. Marion, was that your number two? What?
00:22:31
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yeah What's your number two? My number two. We got real sorry. I was just about to bring it back. Good job. Good job. ah My number two, but we're going to keep all that in. My number two is ah also recency bias. u hu Taking care of plants.
00:22:48
Speaker
I truly am. It's an irrational thing that I am overwhelmed by. i We hate it. Wow. That's crazy because you had so many plants in COVID. You had to leave your roommate like this huge list of how to take care of each plant. Yeah, because i that was my version of sourdough starter.
00:23:08
Speaker
I was like, let me just collect things that need me every day so that way there's purpose to life. Will to live. Yeah. Like, you know, different. Yeah. Yeah.
00:23:19
Speaker
I mean, if you get enough plants, yeah something needs something from you every day. You know, it's And so like the environment's different and the, you know, some things need water. all the And most of that was that the roommate, one of the roommates left during COVID and she left me her fucking plants. She left me her rosebush and her lemon tree.
00:23:41
Speaker
Not a male and a female ginkgo. or What? She left me her fucking plan. ohha That's funny. and I couldn't think of other male and female.
00:23:53
Speaker
Yeah. That's good. Thanks. Yeah. Yeah. so
00:23:59
Speaker
Anyway, I think i just get stressed about the fact that like plants die. Yeah. You know, even if you take good care of them, you know, some plants don't live 20 years. Sometimes they only live three years or whatever. And I feel like I'm failing them. I feel like I'm actively killing them.
00:24:14
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The idea of a garden wigs me out. There's so many things depending on you. I don't need that many things depending on me. And I don't need to feel so bad when it doesn't work out. And then also each of them, if something's not going well, great.
00:24:27
Speaker
A mystery I have to solve. ah Great. Like a mystery with something that can't talk, can't tell me anything. I say I got an owie, stubbed my toe, I could go, I'm so sorry. No, it's just like sitting there browning or wilting or burning or whatever.
00:24:42
Speaker
And now I have to spend some of my precious brain power trying to figure out what's going wrong with this plant. Yeah. Overwhelming. Yep. Yeah. i yeah guess I have the opposite. of all I specifically.
00:24:59
Speaker
ah So when i so I've been doing doing seed starts. Yeah. And so I've been planting seeds in little bits of soil and then growing bigger seedlings. And then you have to call them or like you have to.
00:25:10
Speaker
Choose which ones are the stronger. Yeah. Harder. Two or three seeds per resources. Yeah. So you choose one and then you let it keep growing. so the first time that I cut the peppers, I like lost it.
00:25:21
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She invited me down. She said, oh do you want to help me give the onions a haircut? I said, that's cute. Sure. We gave the onions a haircut. No problem. Yeah. We get to the peppers and she says, OK, now I brought all these peppers into this world.
00:25:36
Speaker
I'm their God. I've literally didn't any of that. I said we have to. I've intentionally I've intentionally planted in each little section three to four pepper plants. Just because I get a sick sort of satisfaction when I get to call things. And now the crime.
00:25:53
Speaker
Also, I'm putting these pepper plants on trial for 0.2 seconds. I'm scanning three of them. Doesn't matter that they might all be healthy, the same height, whatever. And I'm killing two of them. well because they all three won't be healthy in the same height. Exactly. But here's the thing. Here's the thing that got me is like you could have three really robust peppers.
00:26:13
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pepper seedlings yeah and then a square where nothing happened yeah or a square where there's one really sad one and now these two jabronis are getting cut their lives ended so early they've just begun to experience life and they're getting cut because they happen to be in the wrong pod because that other sickly ass little ass but you know tiny tim over there that's not
00:26:39
Speaker
no, we're keeping that in. No, you're saving the strong ones. You're just not cool saving the weak ones. No, no, no, no. Evidence. I want all of them. I ah want all of them to live. Don't get me wrong.
00:26:50
Speaker
I have a vendetta where like next year I want to just see what happens and see if I could make more than you with them. uh okay okay but it's so much work it's so much work that's the thing is you'll do the thing I'll be like I'm gonna plant my seedlings and you'll be like great and then you'll come and you'll put the seeds in the pod and then you'll fucking forget about them and they'll all die and so I will win yeah anyway so yeah and so it's just the these these things are healthy and we're cutting them off and their only crime is that they were in the wrong square if they were in that square alone where nothing grew they'd be fine that's not okay that's not okay even it did send me into a bit of a spiral
00:27:26
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Did it? Yeah. I didn't tell because didn't want you to have the satisfaction, I'm over it now. Yeah. It did. It did. It hurt a little. Yeah. I was. It hurt me. um do you guys eat vegetables?
00:27:38
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I. Oh, yeah. But I don't create vegetables and then take them out. This is why I think everybody that eats meat should have to kill an animal. for Yeah. Yeah. My theory. that It would probably. My belief.
00:27:50
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Your belief. Yeah. I think you're probably right. It was just crazy to watch. Like, you're a god to some, to these these and these beings, these plants. Yeah, but if Kara didn't call them, nature would have. Yeah.
00:28:02
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Also, the seedlings never would have sprouted if I hadn't, you know, I gave them a little bit of life. Also, even if you remembered to look at them, my money's still on Kara. Thank you. The nature. i have to show my seeds later. Okay.
00:28:13
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Put it in the updates. I'm going to make some seedlings next year. Oh, no, I can't do it.
00:28:21
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um Yeah. Wow, didn't know that it did send me. I'm serious that I was like, I was a little it's because it's because the conversation led to what is a sentient.
00:28:32
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but Yeah.
Movement, Fidgeting & Choice Paralysis
00:28:33
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Yeah. And then we watch plant video on it and it really. okay And then I almost made Kara never eat again. Just kidding. um Anyway, moving forward.
00:28:46
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No, sorry. That was just my argument. Yeah. Cut. My number two irrational thing that overwhelms me is when I'm forced to sit still. Like right now, this is fucking torture. Whether that be meetings or dinner or car trips, random events.
00:29:04
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My brother's graduation last weekend. I like my mom was like, are you OK? Is it me? And I was like, no, it's me. um and I just start, like, and to the point where, like, when I'm out, I just start standing and stretching. And, like, people at work make fun of me because my foot is often, like, on my tall chair, sometimes on the bench top. I'm fucking stretching all the time. yeah I just, I hate it. i can't.
00:29:30
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Have you ever knit during a meeting? I really feel like you'd give that energy. i can't. I can't do that. There's no way I could do that in this professional environment. this I met somebody the other day that was knitting during a meeting and I was like, I love the energy that you're bringing that you don't give a fuck that these other people are like, huh.
00:29:46
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But then they get over Immediately they see that she's paying attention and she's knitting and then they moved on. I want to do that. I want to be that person. I want to have that bravery. I feel like you have the right work environment for that. I think a lab's a little harder. Yeah.
00:29:59
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Culture-wise. But like big meetings where there's yeah like a ton of people and they're just doing presentations where they're like, here's the monthly statistical update of our income. It would be better than... Looking at my phone.
00:30:10
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yeah Yeah. so yeah, I need a fidget toy for work. I don't have any. You don't have any. Okay. Don't, I mean, there's a ton of stuff at work. I'm on it. Yeah.
00:30:21
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You know what? I worked for thriving. They, uh, they would bring play dough and pipe cleaners to meetings. So people would just be sitting there playing with the play dough and pipe cleaners because science says you absorb more. Yeah. You actually pay more attention in the meeting. If you have something to do with your hands.
00:30:38
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Yeah, I mean, there's I've made like random origami hats for around the lab. Sometimes we do cursed art. What the heck cursed art? Well, one time we took a little vial and then we each cut some of our hair off and then we put it in the lid and then we made the vial out of face.
00:30:54
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oh my god oh i like that it's so cute do you have a picture that yeah probably the yeah yes that that i'll dig for yeah hell yeah yeah yeah oh we need to post the fly did we no i did i post i think i posted the dead fly I picked up the puzzle the other day. I had this puzzle, this Halloween puzzle that's been out since October of 2021. Oh. 20, 2022.
00:31:22
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At work? Yeah. When did Flynn die? Go missing? When did Flynn go missing? Dude. When was was, when was, okay, October 2023 has been sitting out. Flynn is my cat who ran away from me. I like to think that he was abducted by um somebody who keeps cats in their basement. Kind of like people. I know. I'd rather have him dead than in the basement. Like in a way where he's, there's no lights. Are there windows down there? Yeah.
00:31:49
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Cellar window. I'd rather him dead. That's what escaped from. Yeah. He doesn't like it. He didn't always... No, no, no! had a full-ass window. A cellar window's like a baby.
00:32:00
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so that's even less. Exactly. I said I'd rather him be dead, but... But Marion made him tortured. so No, no. It's okay to torture Flynn, but not the siblings. He's having fun.
00:32:11
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Yeah. he's that He got abducted... In my mind, he got abducted by one of those crazy people, like... I was gonna say PETA, but that's... Yeah. Bringing it back.
00:32:24
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You know, an evangelista came and they they found, that's a Pose reference for whoever watches Pose. Nah, couldn't be me. Not you anymore. I believe they found him and they're like, I can give you a good life, kitty.
00:32:37
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Yeah. Yeah. I see what you're saying. Yeah. Can he not be in a basement? Can he just be in a house? He's in a house. Thank you. It's just funny because I thought that Mara was kind of talking about it, like how you talk about like a 20-year-old crime missing a person, like when they go missing, when they die. you know Yeah. Two years ago. Awful.
00:32:56
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Yeah. He might emerge from the basement one day, you guys. Oh, but the point of that was that I've had that puzzle out since October 2023. Right. And so I picked the puzzle up, but I didn't pick the fly up when I picked the thousand piece puzzle up. Oh, my God. It's still there.
00:33:13
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I'm going to start in another puzzle. I'm on one today, huh? Diversion wise. Oh yeah. Your ADHD is on high today. Well, my, I didn't take my meds. Oh, that there's two of them. No wonder. Well, it's usually dear listeners. That was my, I don't take my meds shimmy.
00:33:30
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Dear listener. The meds are never in the, the ADHD meds are never in the room at this time of night. ah stay ok Okay. Okay. Okay. Let's go to our sponsors. Okay.
00:33:46
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The look of fear on Kara's face as we try to figure out sponsors. I'll say number three sponsor is whatever website or information has gotten to people. That's right, dear listener. People emailing us and that's crazy.
00:34:03
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Right? That's like, no, that was correct it it. It's, it's wild to have somebody that we don't know directly our inbox. Yeah. Yeah. That's the first time for, well, second time. So I can say that one. Cause that's a fact. And,
00:34:21
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I just want to oh I want to get I the urge for me to squeeze in PETA into a tag every time we do episode is crazy as a keyword I want them to have to listen to every episode waiting for the PETA mention and there isn't one this one there was though so yeah I love that idea that the police office what do they call the media officers of the FCC oh no they're called media officers oh okay yeah yes anyway um so yeah our inbox is one of our sponsors today ah our second one is mental illness or exposure therapy oh how about both ah mental illness the cause yeah and exposure therapy the therapy solution result
00:35:05
Speaker
yeah solutions a good one yeah yeah gang gang motherfuckers well uh if you want to sponsor us or contact us reach out to us we love it um go ahead and email us at my top everything podcast at gmail.com or reach out over instagram um slide into mara's dm Do it for me.
00:35:29
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daddy.
00:35:38
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All right. Time for our number ones. Did you want to usurp me again? I could. My number one. I love it. The ADHD is on fire. My number one is actually about ADHD. It's choice paralysis. Like when I'm so overwhelmed by so many things and then like.
00:35:53
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Like you have decide how to say a word like paralysis or. Yeah. I'm just kidding. That could be an example. i'm mostly talking about like when I'm trying to pick between two things. um But yeah, I do have the paralysis where I forget very simple words all the time.
00:36:09
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But that's not choice paralysis. No. um And I have a great example of this. And I spent two and a half years-ish without a coffee maker. um and Wow. Yeah, I just made cold brew.
00:36:23
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um or I bought it and it's because I couldn't decide which one I had done a ton of research I like had picked some of them out but then i was like oh I don't know I don't want to quite do it or like that might be too much that's crazy I don't need that and then uh my mom got me one for Christmas so I didn't even make the decision that's the best and I bet you think it's just fine yeah it's great Yeah.
00:36:47
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Oh, that's a good one. That is a good one. so Is that irrational? Because I do that too, but not, not two years, but I mean, even with the coffee maker, it took me six months to decide on a coffee maker when we started dating. Yeah.
00:36:58
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And the poor old wasn't enough anymore. It drove me crazy. I think it is irrational because it's delaying you for a long amount of time to do something. It's not irrational. Yeah. in the sense of people do it or don't do it It's like what you were talking about in the sense of the irrationality is like the, the cause of the thing. Like I went out of my way. I bought cold brew material to make cold brew instead of being a coffee maker. didn't have to make the decision. Yeah. Yeah. you made a different decision. Yeah. yeah Yeah.
00:37:31
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That's it. Oh yeah. That's a really good one. That is a good one. Yeah. Sometimes people were like, do you want to do X, y or Z? And I'm like, don't, I don't know. You tell me what I want to do. Yeah. I like being given options.
00:37:43
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A or B. And then I'll decide. When I'm not feeling overwhelmed. Oh, Gracie, wait. Gracie wants to start a fight? fight Fight, fight, fight, fight, fight. Hey, listeners, please ah come into our what's the shit called when you get a little podcast cult where they like come into your shit and we give them special stuff.
00:38:05
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Patreon? Yeah. If you want to be a Patreon, you can listen to the fight that's about to happen. Why'd you make that face, Grayson? Yeah. See, simple words. Gone.
00:38:15
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She's the option giver. Not the... don't give you options. I do that because that's what I want. I model the behavior.
00:38:24
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Yeah. Yeah. Well, thank you. What a fight. Patreon. Totally worth it. There have been a couple times where you'll give Kara a or B and she'll say... Let me look it up and then get C or D. Yeah. Yeah.
00:38:37
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Yeah. and there She'll say you're extremely rarely. Do I give options and either of those options be the one you're just helping narrow things down. Grayson. Thanks for the start.
00:38:49
Speaker
ah You should seen my suit buying process. I did. I was on the couch for some of it. It was rough. Okay.
Sensory Overload & Irrational Responses
00:38:59
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Kara said, I don't care. she did care.
00:39:02
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Spoiler alert. A lot. She did care. Well, there's part A and part B, too. There was the suit outside material and the inside material. Guess which one i got to choose.
00:39:13
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The inside material. Zero. Save it for the Patreon.
00:39:24
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oh I'll throw a fiver at you later. my number one top irrational thing that overwhelms me. Did I say it right?
00:39:35
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Yeah. Okay, cool. Is using... It can be, it doesn't specifically have to be this, but using any phone system that I'm not currently attuned to.
00:39:46
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So using, right now for me, it's using an iPhone. Somebody hand me the iPhone, say, can you message back? No. Can you get a call? No. Can you get this on the map? No, I cannot. And I will about lose it. there's a There's a 60% chance I'm going to throw this phone out the window out of anger of what's going on right now.
00:40:04
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and I remember, do you guys remember the day I got my Android? I feel like you might have because- yeah I feel like you got irrationally overwhelmed at me for my irrational overwhelm at the time. Yeah, probably. i think I think you took it personally, the fact that I was so overwhelmed by because Mara had an Android already.
00:40:19
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I flipped from 10 years of iPhone to Android. And the first night I was like, I've made terrible mistake. Like what has happened? I was so annoyed and upset.
00:40:31
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and and then it was fine. But that like, when you're using a phone that is not familiar anymore, Because I was an iPhone user for 10 years. It shouldn't be a problem. Yeah. but Oh, my God.
00:40:43
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When I have to go do that, I'm losing it. I do. That is what's keeping me back from getting an iPhone is that I know the first month I'll just be angry the whole time. Yeah.
00:40:54
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About everything. Yeah. You know how I know I'm getting old? No. I'm a pretty techie person. I usually don't. I usually don't have problems with with new technologies. Early adopter. I pick stuff up.
00:41:05
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It's easy for me. Okay. Yeah. It's not easy anymore. Like I will do the same thing where I'll pick up a phone, like an Android phone, just be like, I, how, well, how do I even turn this on? And like playing trombone with it. I got my cheaters out. Like, she
00:41:25
Speaker
it's a It's not that bad yet, but it's getting there. Yeah. That's how i know I'm getting old. Yeah. Well, career change is always a possibility. Career change might be an inevitability. That's why I need this podcast to take off.
00:41:41
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What's up, Patreons? Just kidding.
00:41:48
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All right. ah My number one irrational thing that overwhelms me is light touches. Like a gentle touch drives me up a fucking wall. um Either touch me or don't.
00:41:59
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Do it hard or don't do it at all. I cannot handle. And Grayson, the poor guy, has been yelled at quite a few times because we'll be like sitting on a bus or a plane or something where like you have to have a shared. i didn't hear we what said. What'd you I whispered harder.
00:42:18
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um So we'll be like sharing an arm rest or like just because the bus is swaying slightly like every once a while, his shirt will like touch the side of my arm and I will fucking lose it.
00:42:29
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I cannot handle it. Or like if somebody gently touches my hand, like touch it hard. the i can't When a hair is caught on your s slate That's what I was just going to say. And it's a drifting in the wind on your arm. Yes. My God, that'll drive me nuts. I have stopped mid spit for toothbrush to find it.
00:42:47
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Yes,
Conclusion & Future Plans
00:42:48
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I can. Yes. With the hair. fit Yeah. Yeah. Oh, man. Especially if it's in your ass crack. Is it in my bra or is it between these fucking cheeks? I don't know. The bra is the worst because I'm at work and I'm digging in between. You know, but I can't can't stop myself.
00:43:02
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Gotta get rid of that sensory nightmare. Yeah, I ah for me, this is very similar, but it has to be repetitive. Like one little is OK, but there have been people who like I remember a guy in high school. We went to see Little Shop of Horrors, the play, and he put his arm around me as one does.
00:43:25
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And he was lightly kind of trailing his fingers across my bare shoulder. And I was like, I'm in hell. Number one, I can't focus on the I'm too nervous to focus on this play. I to this day don't like little shopping horrors. That's what I learned. I've already talked about this, but I can't go see media with people on first dates. It's too it'll just ruin whatever it is.
00:43:48
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RIP EZA. but like he was just going back and forth, back and forth and it was too light. And I was like 17, so I didn't know what to say. And yeah. Yeah.
00:44:03
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All right. Yeah. That was good. So let's get our list formed. Light touches. I think that's a pretty, everyone agreed yeah on that one yeah in the sense of it's not iration it's not irrational. It's irrational.
00:44:16
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I agree. Yeah. Oh, yeah Yes. Yeah. Everyone here agreed. Like the hair. Yeah. Everyone agreed. That's not irrational. That's like a sensory. Also, it should have been in your touch thingy, whatever we just did. No, but because we moved the touch thing. I think that I think the general population would think that's irrational.
00:44:34
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I think this i think this crew is neuro spicy. Yeah. I don't think that that one goes with the other options here. I liked your other one better. yeah you have a different one. that Center of attention or walking in the house.
00:44:50
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Ooh, I love walking in the walking in the house and because I do feel like certain people can do that and it's fucking fine. Yeah. so I agree. That one, yeah I love. I agreed as soon as you said it. Yeah. Rational.
00:45:03
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Shut up. amen i have Amen. This is subtle digging at the same time. I think Excel should be on our top list. Yeah. Hell yeah. It's just you.
00:45:13
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yeah Well, listen, I still get fucking frustrated, but I love her. Mm-hmm. more irrational than the iphone because i feel like the iphone one i gotta be the phone i know that i'm like i think a lot of people don't like excel but i feel like the phone because the most irrational part for it for me is the fact that i had one for 10 years yeah like it's not like it's a new system or yeah i've never seen before i know that's crazy to hear it's the part where like i like lose I lose it mentally as soon as I have to get in i think that one belongs on the list. Yeah, yeah fuck Excel.
00:45:49
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iPhones, we hate you more. no. no Yes, yes. Different user systems. i I did have that issue with like Mac before I understood how Macs worked, and I was only used to using like Windows, yeah and Grayson only uses Mac, and I'm too lazy to go buy my own laptop, so we just use the same Mac. and i could not that To this day, I can't i fucking hate that the pad goes the opposite direction.
00:46:11
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Like have to swipe up or down and it's the different. I turn that off. I also hate that.
00:46:18
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Didn't even notice. Still, I agree about it. Yeah. i would Hear that Steve Jobs? Fuck you. Yeah. You could have.
00:46:29
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I think
00:46:33
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that either my number three was social anxiety or the choice paralysis. What was the other one? I think both. ah Being forced to sit still.
00:46:45
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I think all three are good. I think choice paralysis because two point the part, yeah, the part where you end up just not making a choice for years instead of. I did that with my car. And Mara drinks multiple cups of coffee a day.
00:46:58
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Okay. Well, I've gotten a lot better, but back in this decision making time. Yeah. It was like one to three ish. Yeah. Wow. Yeah. Yeah.
00:47:09
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Well, okay, so obviously most irrational. Yeah. Overwhelmed by the door. I win. Yay. And then second is Yeah, choice paralysis, baby.
00:47:21
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Yeah, and mine's the least irrational. Yeah. Because I love it. Kara loves it. This is fun. I'm having fun. If you say it, it's true. If you have to remind yourself, it's it that is facts. so All right. Well, I hope you've ah irrationally enjoyed this and not been overwhelmed at all. About the jumping about and the talking over each other today.
00:47:44
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We're fine. he Yeah, okay. yeah We'll report back on whether anybody says sorry to me when I get an owie. but ah cut i wantli ah I want blood and I want a consistent age range and I want a woman. blood.
00:47:57
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It has to, okay, yeah, as far as like to get a good experiment going, you had to have to have some control. clientele of it is, it'll always be the same thing, maybe in the same type of aisle, but I think you can't control who's there. like But you can control who you fake have an owie in front of?
00:48:15
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What? Wait till the middle-aged mom comes through, please. Okay. yeah Or the abuelas. We'll figure it out. Yeah. Yay.
00:48:29
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Bye. Love you. Bye. Yeah. I think we have to design an experiment. Yeah. Yeah. I'm sure. Yeah. I'm getting irrationally overwhelmed.