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Love is Blind: Ramses Blames Energy, is Trash
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After dumping his fiancé Marissa two days before their wedding, Ramses explains that he would have been exhausted if he married Marissa. He blames her energy being "off," aka she didn't want to take birth control pills and wasn't having sex with him as often.
After ranting about dumping someone over their "energy," I talk about Marissa having a new boyfriend SINCE April!
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Transcript
Introduction and Context
00:00:01
Speaker
Hello everyone, how are you doing? So, I am right on time. Let me lie and pretend that I am covering Season 7, Love is Blind, Washington DC at the same time that it aired. Obviously, the reunion aired two weeks ago.
Criticism of 'Love is Blind' Casting and Focus
00:00:28
Speaker
at least a week ago probably two weeks ago ish or a week and a half ago at this point and it's time to talk about what season seven of love is a blind showed us. I'm not so sure it taught us anything but we need to talk about what it showed us because
00:00:51
Speaker
Love is Blind managed to put some of the worst men I have ever seen in front of my eyeballs on TV for me to be subjected to their bullshit. And it's good for us to watch, to be boyers, and identify what I consider manipulation, toxic masculinity,
00:01:19
Speaker
just bullshit. Period. We need to get into it. Because I was appalled. Like I should watch Love is Blind and I should see really great couples getting together. The show has really shifted its focus to focusing on the drama. Of course you want to make a good show, but do you have to find some of the worst men
00:01:47
Speaker
in every single city and put them on each season's cast because I don't need it. And worst of all, the men were straight up unattractive this season. What's going on?
00:02:04
Speaker
Love is blind is supposed to bring us eye candy. It was offensive So I didn't even watch this season like I watched the very first episodes I saw clips from recaps and I watched the reunion. I did not want to sit through watching People that I did not want to root for that. I was bothered by I Didn't want to sit through it
00:02:33
Speaker
This was not a good cast. But the drama was there. It certainly was there. And I will get into that more specifically later.
Ramses and Marissa: A Troubled Relationship
00:02:47
Speaker
But I want to focus on some of the piece of shit fuckboys that have really made my blood boil. Like, that have bothered me, offended me, triggered me.
00:03:03
Speaker
This is all why I knew I was like, okay, I'm not attracted to these men at all. I'm out. I'm done. I did not sit through this season and I found out that was a really good decision because look at how few couples were left.
00:03:25
Speaker
I don't know. What is love is blind teaching us about the state of modern dating? Because how is it that love is blind goes to some of the largest cities in the country and then they may have one or two marriages at the end? At the end of casting, what is it like?
00:03:49
Speaker
30 people. I feel like there's like 15 men, 15 women or something. And y'all maybe we'll get one or two couples getting hitched.
00:03:57
Speaker
something in the water ain't clean the casting department this was the worst cast and they promoted Kwame from season four Seattle they promoted his wife Chelsea to do casting I hope she's fired like how are you casting peep men who aren't sexy the women they were fine but how are you casting people who look like
00:04:24
Speaker
the men in this cast and I don't want to be specific here but you know vomit you know they made me want to vomit they really did I will say this though I found Tyler unattractive on the show but he lost some weight and I felt that he was attractive on the reunion like I felt like I would smash
00:04:49
Speaker
But that's it. I don't like how he talks. I don't like his style. I don't like his vibe. I did like what he was wearing at the reunion. But like Tyler doesn't do it for me. Like he's as close as it gets to somebody on the cast doing it for me. That's bad. That's pretty terrible.
00:05:07
Speaker
because i like to watch this show and be like very just excited without being too graphic i'll say excited i like being excited about some of the the men on this cast but they couldn't this season i couldn't get there and one of the main reasons why one of the people who is a reason why i could not get there is ramses like ramses
00:05:37
Speaker
I can't, did y'all see how he was wearing a thong? A thong when he dumped Marissa. This man with like two dreadlocks hanging, looking greasy, oily, dirty, smelly, like I don't like him so it's like every single bad negative adjective I gotta use like
00:06:05
Speaker
This man is so gross to me. Now, I didn't watch as I've said, but I heard that Marissa always wanted to have sex when they were in Mexico. I heard that she has a very high sex drive. She just wanted to like, smash. There in lies the problem.
00:06:26
Speaker
Okay, so Marissa is here just like open like 7-Eleven, her legs is open for business. And when some people, they start out just like having sex nonstop, their partner gets offended and takes it personally when the sex is reduced, when the amount of sex is reduced.
00:06:51
Speaker
And in all fairness, although I don't find anything redeemable or likable when it comes to Ramses, in all fairness, think about the short as period of time that people know each other and interact with each other on Love is Blind. So it's like, and again, I didn't watch the episode, so forgive me. But if my assumption is true, it's like, how do you go from
00:07:19
Speaker
sucking and fucking me every two hours to just talking about I'm tired. I have a vitamin D deficiency. I'm totally fine with condoms like making that drastic of a leap and that drastic of a ship within a few weeks.
00:07:38
Speaker
that would be concerning to me like if the tables were turned and I was with a guy who wanted to hook up all the time and then he was saying he couldn't get it up right that's kind of the equivalent and I would just be sitting there like but you were just
00:07:55
Speaker
Fucking my brains out four days ago. Like what happened? So it's like Marissa kind of set herself up for failure in that way where she was like a nympho. Apparently I didn't watch. And then it was like her cycle and she was tired and this, that and the other. Ramsis is a pig. So he couldn't handle that at all.
00:08:21
Speaker
Ramses wanted Marissa on birth control, according to the blogs or the TikToks. And it seems as though from the moment Marissa was like, oh, I'm totally okay with condom sex. He was not. He was like, no, no, no, I got to find Mia Ho, who will go ahead and let me hit it raw. This is all part of why I don't like Ramses.
00:08:46
Speaker
But, you know, I've made that clear. I've said that many times, but like the man is disgusting and I will get into it more later. So Ramses is there at the reunion and he claimed that he would never force Marissa to take hormonal birth control. And I remember like he did an interview where he said, oh, or he left a comment online, social media saying, oh, I'm going to address that.
00:09:12
Speaker
You know, because people don't understand it wasn't what was shown. We saw the footage. We saw it. We saw that Ramses did not want to use a condom. He made that very clear. He is a piece of shit. He is an asshole. And it's not just Ramses. I'm not going to act like Ramses is the only guy who doesn't want to wear a condom, but
00:09:31
Speaker
It's like you're supposed to care about your partner's needs and their health and you're supposed to find a way to compromise. It's not supposed to be, okay, this is how I want it or it's not going to happen at all. Especially today with how many states don't even allow a woman to have an abortion.
00:09:54
Speaker
Ramses got me and many, many women fired up.
Critique of Ramses' Breakup Tactics
00:10:03
Speaker
All right, so this is my big issue with Ramses and this is why I'm triggered.
00:10:09
Speaker
Ramses dumped Marissa, and on the episode, the sun was up and then the sun was down. Their breakup conversation lasted several hours. But anyways, Ramses, when he dumped Marissa, he said that the energy is off. And on the reunion, Ramses said, quote, I came in here looking for the love of my life.
00:10:36
Speaker
Once we got into that latter portion of the experience, I noticed how far off of a difference there was in our energy. I realized if I move forward with Marissa every day, I would feel exhausted and overwhelmed. Okay, so.
00:10:58
Speaker
People need to stop using the word energy, like stop substituting the word energy, interjecting with it, using it as some type of fucking trump card. Stop mentioning energy when the fact is you are an asshole and you're saying the energy, like the subtext of what Ramses was saying is
00:11:24
Speaker
I no longer want to be with Marissa because she wants me to use a condom. I no longer want to be with Marissa because she stopped having sex with me as often as she was. The energy is off.
00:11:38
Speaker
Yeah, the energy is off when you're not having sex five times a day. The energy is off. Saying the energy is off is saying, I'm a selfish person and my needs are the only needs that matter and I'm so selfish that I'm not gonna raise my concerns with you. I'm just gonna dump you because the energy is off.
00:12:00
Speaker
Like we need to stop with all this energy bullshit because guess what? In life, everybody's gonna have different energy at different moments as it should be. And in a partnership, you guys are supposed to try to work together, supposed to be through thickness or through thick or thin in sickness and in health.
00:12:23
Speaker
It's not supposed to be energy off. I'm gone. Energy's off. Bye. Energy's off. We're done. That is so childish and self-serving and self-absorbed.
00:12:39
Speaker
And Ramses, I think, is broken because on the show he was saying he didn't realize how much he hurt his ex-wife and so he didn't want to hurt Marissa. He shouldn't be dating because it seems that the moment he doesn't get what he wants, he's gone.
00:12:57
Speaker
And then poor Marissa, she was sleeping with Ramsis after he dumped her and she asked him, she said it in an interview, she asked him like, can we be together again? And he said no. It's like Marissa, honey, he doesn't want to use a condom. So that's all it's about, apparently. That's all their entire relationship is about and based on and the only thing that's important is him not using a condom.
00:13:27
Speaker
apparently. So, you know, and then Marissa announced at the reunion that she was effing Ramses. Does she regret that? Because it was such an impulsive statement, knee jerk statement that she commented that she made. And of course, it didn't. Of course, Netflix kept it in, because we all kind of gasped, like, and I'm not even going to guess whether Ramses is good and better or not, because
00:13:58
Speaker
Marissa is definitely a pick me. Marissa is just so desperate to get married. I do believe that she will just kind of accept anything from anyone. So I don't know what's up with sex with Ramses and I'm thankful. I don't want to know. Like I just he's so gross to me. Look at how he dresses.
00:14:19
Speaker
like his reunion outfit. His pants were like five inches above the ankles and then he had on these socks and I think he had on sandals and he has on jewelry and like a mesh long shirt and he clashes like he's gross.
00:14:41
Speaker
I would love to see and hear from his first wife. I really would. I'm sure somebody online knows who she is. Like I would love like how do you marry a man who presents themselves the way that Ramses does? Like how do you have sex with that person? How do you do any of it? That's what I need to know. But back to the energy comment. Don't let anybody talk about your energy.
00:15:11
Speaker
Let's be real. Blaming shit on energy is a very selfish, immature excuse. It's a ruse.
00:15:25
Speaker
It's a way to disguise how you actually feel. It's a cop out. You don't want to say what the truth is. So you blame energy and you want to know why it's so genius. Ain't nobody could argue if you say the energy is off. If someone says the energy is off, you can't say no, it isn't.
00:15:44
Speaker
because that's their perception they know it's a genius excuse you can't argue with somebody who's saying that the energy is off similar to saying the chemistry isn't there whatever like you can't fight that what in reality if this is your fiance and the quote-unquote energy is off why aren't you talking to her about it
00:16:08
Speaker
instead of blindsiding her at the very last minute two days before y'all are supposed to have a wedding. Like, Ramses is a joke. He's disgusting. I don't know who would want to date him or why. He is undateable as far as I'm concerned. He's not ready.
00:16:35
Speaker
because a partnership means that you're supposed to think about your partner and he doesn't know how to do that. I don't agree with anybody who thinks like, oh, I'm not happy. I wasn't happy. Well, try to work on it first and or at minimum discuss your concerns and see if y'all could make it through instead of just saying the energy is off, I'm out.
00:17:03
Speaker
That's not what you would want your partner to do to you. You wouldn't want to be with somebody who comes to you and says the energy is off, we're done. So if you wouldn't want that done to you, why do it to the person that you're engaged to, or the person that you're in a relationship with, or the person that you're married to? The whole this energy thing, it's bullshit.
00:17:28
Speaker
It's just another way of saying, I'm selfish. I'm an asshole. I care about myself. I don't care about your feelings. I don't care about how you'll feel about this. I don't care how hurt you will be by this. The energy is off for me. I'm not happy.
Marissa's Resilience and New Relationship
00:17:48
Speaker
Go jump off a bridge.
00:17:50
Speaker
It's like Marissa dodged a bullet. And by the way, Marissa has been in a relationship since April. So for all those people who are like, how come she has all this smoke for Nick and she didn't say much to Ramesses? Because she has a man who's dicking her down. We already know apparently she loves to fuck all the time. Like, Marissa is good.
00:18:17
Speaker
And then she says, and she's like, I think I hate him or whatever. But it's like, Marissa was very emotional about Ramses. And I don't blame her. Like I get the people who go on love is blind. Some keywords, some of them parlay the opportunity into other opportunities. They make a lot of money. I think a lot of that is shifting and changing because now we're about to be eight seasons deep.
00:18:44
Speaker
Like the first, you should have wanted to be within the first four cast, sorry, four seasons, if you really wanted to make a lot of money. But no, Jessica, she did well. Jessica did well. Jessica, you know, she was also on perfect match, the one who has a daughter. Cause she like made sure she got her work done, put her best foot forward and whatever. She does well, or at least she did. I don't know what she's up to now. I didn't like her, but anyways,
00:19:14
Speaker
back to love is blind.
00:19:17
Speaker
So I was saying, you know, Marissa has had a boyfriend since April, which I'm so excited about. I read in an interview that she did with Us magazine. I assume that Rams is a single. I don't know. I don't care. I find him disgusting. Oh, back to Marissa being emotional. I would be bawling at the reunion if I were Marissa too, because I'm sorry. It's so humiliating to be dumped on TV and then be wailing.
00:19:48
Speaker
about it like she was that's embarrassing like who actually wants that to air once millions and millions and millions like upwards of a hundred million people seeing that who the fuck wants that so i guess she was just really broken and felt really rejected as she like who wouldn't as she should and maybe that's where the emotions came from but
00:20:15
Speaker
According to Marissa, her new boyfriend is great and her mom loves him, and I'm like, I wish this bitch well. I do. I don't see myself following her, but I wish Marissa well because she tried. Any girl who was open like 7-Eleven like that, like she was for Ramses, that is a woman who is trying to make their man happy, but their man does not know how to value
00:20:45
Speaker
a good partner because they're so self-involved. I don't think Ramses could be happy with anyone. Look at his track record. Divorced. Ended engagement. Energy is off. He should be by himself or he should just be in an open relationship forever. The man is not husband material.
00:21:08
Speaker
So I'm happy about I'm happy for Marissa. Let me check real quick and see if she's ever posted her man because she did say how she couldn't let the public know because of the show. Okay, so I just went to Marissa's Instagram and she posted. It looks like a Halloween.
00:21:28
Speaker
Yeah, a Halloween party that they went to, she posted a video of her and her boyfriend on November 1st that she's basically naked. I love it. And you know, I do not think her man is cute because I could see a better photo of him in the second class post that she did. It's a group photo with men and he's the one on the right.
00:21:58
Speaker
She's wearing like a light type of green top and he is wearing like a green pant. But you know, this man is already, I already know he has the emotional intelligence that Ramses does not have and the maturity. Maturity, so I'm all in. If she's happy,
00:22:21
Speaker
If she likes it, then I love it. So great for you, Marissa. We are rooting for you. You are gorgeous. You are beautiful. Ramsis is not a prize, honey. He is not a prize. All right. Thanks, y'all.