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Speaker: Because i'm a big fan of cutting people out of your... Well, i can I can cut people out and like not talk to them, but I'd still give them access to me and like being able to go on my social media profiles and stuff. Walk.
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Speaker: Welcome to Long Distance. Welcome Long Distance.
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Speaker: Hello. Hi, Malka. Let me do my sound effect. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. Every time. Every time.
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Speaker: i mean, great minds think alike. This is part of the course now. I know. Just wait till I start wearing a really patterned shirt. We'll see. Vintage. Yeah. all right. So you want to dive right in, remind our listeners to like, rate, subscribe, share, follow us on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube um at Long Distance Roomies Podcast.
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Speaker: We've been helping out. for you we We really have. And we want to give a quick shout out to one of our most devoted fans, Patrick.
Speaker: We love you, Patrick. Patrick is always commenting on all of our posts. He's DMing us. He is so thoughtful and wonderful. and loves listening to our episodes. He gives us all his feedback.
Speaker: And so Patrick, you are the the star of the episode. So thank you. This one's for you. Yeah. We do really love him. And he, every comment is thoughtful. He's got like, he pushes back. He gives us an opinion on the both of us, which we really appreciate. um Yeah. He's great. um So do we want to get into a little housekeeping? yeah Okay. Okay.
Speaker: So something that's been really happened these last couple weeks is the women in power in power positions concept and the idea of having power dynamics in a relationship. And who sets the tone in a relationship? Is it the man or the woman? Right. And we actually didn't agree on it at first. And i still, I mean, i could we could I feel like we could talk about it in circles until we're blue in the face, the pros and cons. And um I know a lot of our listeners actually appreciated us not totally agreeing on something. I will say overall, I do want to be in my feminine and not my masculine.
Speaker: um So in that part, I'd like to like revise my comments a little bit. um But what I thought was interesting was how many people, how many men had suggested that what's the point? There shouldn't be a power dynamic.
Speaker: All people are created equal. which I thought was just so ironic given how women are perceived in this country. Like when it's convenient to them, men are like, no we're equal. You should be paying for half the bill. you should be texting me. You should be calling me. and but then...
Speaker: But then they're not the ones who get pregnant. They're not the ones who have to bring pepper spray on dates. They're not the ones who have to share locations with their friends when they're going on dates just in case something happens to them. They're not the ones who have to spend hundreds and hundreds of dollars getting beautiful enough for a date to meet those cultural beauty standards. You know, they, they don't think about all of that stuff. It's only, yeah I'm, I don't want to have to be rejected. So you should come up to me. And when, you know, a lot of these men are just not at all in their masculine, they're completely in their feminine energy and they want to be pursued. Like they're just, have a lot of princesses in our comments, which is, there totally are. Yeah. There really are a lot of princesses. um
Speaker: But at the same time, they are quick to give us their opinions that are like very traditional, misogynistic views on the world.
Speaker: So right now it's like they they want to have their cake and and eat it too, which is... That's honestly like probably how their moms were in their house growing up. And I so know certainly so many women who are married with kids...
Speaker: are doing a lot of like unpaid labor and just taking care of men in every possible way. So I don't know. It's amazing that anyone and I really finds each other. bones you know, one of the things though that I do appreciate and that our comments also give me a lot of hope for the future is we do have some amazing men who are calling out the incels, calling out the red pill guys, and saying, you are making us look terrible. yeah I saw that. No capacity to understand nuance. Yeah. There's just, there's, they're really, it it it does give me hope. Last night I was having a conversation in our DMs with a really lovely gentleman named Steven. I saw that.
Speaker: Yeah, Steven's great. He lives in the Bronx, by the way. He looks pretty handsome, Diana. So. Oh, should I be? you you might want to talk to Steven. Okay. The Bronx sounds pretty far, but I'm open. i'm open You're open. Exactly. But yeah it does give me hope because there are a lot of men who do listen to us who are not typically going to be the ones in the comments because, again, the guys in the comments who are bitching and moaning are the the little man children and typically not the mature, masculine men that we would want to you know connect with. But...
Speaker: It's there are a few there. are There are definitely some, you know, some good ones out there, some gems. So we want to thank all of those guys. And also just remember that whatever you say in the comments, it's not bothering us. Give us your worst. We appreciate the post engagement. It allows more people to find us.
Speaker: Yeah, exactly. um Do we want to get into this Pender Wells comment here about? Yeah. Yeah. Pender Wells is one of our other followers. Yeah. We love Pender. he's so sweet. He's a doll.
Speaker: um And so Pender, he... comments on our YouTubes, which we love. Make sure you're subscribed on YouTube. And one thing about our YouTubes, so our regular episodes come out you know every other Tuesday. And then on the next Tuesday, our YouTube episodes come out. And those YouTube episodes, they are extra large. They have bonus material in them. yeah So you do not want to miss them. Even if you're listening to the podcast, make sure that you are subscribed on YouTube and watching that. But Penter was commenting one of our YouTubes.
Speaker: And he was talking about how he's six five but he, as a tall guy, and he thinks a lot of other tall guys feel this way, does not cur perceive his height as a tactical advantage in dating. And and he's like, I still get super nervous. And he said, this his exact comment was, I think if we could have a chart of how significant height is for women in dating, please make one. We would be more confident. We should do a poll. Let's do poll.
Speaker: let's Let's do poll. We'll gather the data. um you know, Andy Cohen always says, especially about the Southern Charm series, there's no greater currency than hype. I just, I think it's tall drink of water. Six, five. Are you kidding?
Speaker: That is. I mean, that's over a foot tall than me. Yeah. Yeah. and like oh That's significant. It is significant. It's nine inches taller than me. i mean, that's that's a lot.
Speaker: But and he looks pretty handsome, too. And I think, again, like our advice that we gave to our other fan, Jack, who's six four. Height really does take you far. Now, again, am and five eight I dated a guy who was You were married to a guy who was We are not saying that we will not be with men who are shorter.
Speaker: But height is really sexy and women do appreciate that. And it just, I think the the reason why is because it just makes you feel small and it makes you feel taken care of, which I appreciate a long, tall woman.
Speaker: But I also think that you don't, I mean, we've talked about this so much, but like if you're not tall, but like broad shouldered, As long as you don't feel bigger than the person.
Speaker: Like my daughter's dad, certainly like broad-shouldered and strong. And then this date I went on, which we can talk about a little bit later, was very broad-shouldered and strong.
Speaker: And I think he's probably five nine five ten and But like definitely takes up more room and space than I do, which I appreciate.
Speaker: You can have tall energy. You can have big energy. Yeah. And i so again, that that comes from a place of confidence in yourself.
Speaker: And you project that out. um All right. So let's move into the group chat then. um And some of the stuff that we were talking about this week with each other, like on Instagram, DM sends. um Do you want to talk about the why men can't handle criticism video? Yeah.
Speaker: Chloe Juliet. I don't really remember this one. Can you remind me? I don't really remember this one either. So, okay. So then let's skip over to the how many days. Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah. This, this next one, I think is something that our audience will appreciate. Yeah. And something that we've talked about in the past as well, especially as we have taken breaks from dating and have taken breaks from having sex with men. So it was a video from Kristin Cavallari and she was talking about how many dates she waits to have sex with someone. And she was saying she doesn't have sex on the first date, but she thinks it does not make a difference if you have sex early, like on the second date.
Speaker: That if you have chemistry, it doesn't matter. And what do you think about that? I completely disagree with that. think Really? a hundred percent. I mean, that's what I think we've learned in our celibacy.
Speaker: It is very easy to have sexual chemistry with someone. yeah That does not mean they are trustworthy. That does not mean that they are honest.
Speaker: You cannot get to know someone in two dates. You just can't. oh Well, and I actually think it's it's not necessarily about knowing this other person. I think it's actually about knowing yourself. And i think...
Speaker: I'll speak personally. um When I feel very in touch with the chemical hormone that releases when I have been intimate with somebody where I'm then like... It's oxytocin.
Speaker: Yeah. And i like to feel good. And if that person has made me feel good, i like want to keep hitting that button. It's a bonding hormone.
Speaker: Yeah. Yeah. um And I become... chemically more attached and I don't want to be chemically attached to somebody I've only met twice. It's fucked up.
Speaker: That's exactly what it is. It's not, it's, it's not using the, your, the rest of your senses to actually analyze whether or not someone is a good match for you. It's just using your hormones.
Speaker: end And it's also understanding that women's hormones and men's hormones that are released during sex are different. So with women, it's, it's the oxytocin and that bonds us to someone. And it makes us think more highly of someone.
Speaker: A hundred percent. have That is the truth. For men, it's the vasopressin. And that is different. if If a man has sex with you, like the vasopressin doesn't necessarily bond him to you.
Speaker: it's It works very differently than oxytocin. and so and well Because it doesn't it doesn't make it so that he feels more intense feelings for you.
Speaker: It's just pleasure for the most part. And, and so fact the truth that so that's why you want to make sure that a man falls for you, for your personality, for what you bring to the table, for the energy that you bring before you actually have sex with him.
Speaker: Because, know, When you have sex with him, you're going want to have more of a connection, whereas that is not necessarily going to be the case for men just based on hormones.
Speaker: ah Yeah. So I think it's a self-preservation thing. And if you're like, and maybe everyone who Kristen Cavallari has sex with always calls her back and always wants to keep fucking her and thinks she's great. And yeah, by all means, do you go for it.
Speaker: Yeah. But but so I just don't think that that is a wise decision for any anyone. And yes, if you want to have if you want to have more casual relationship with someone, sure. but if you're looking for something more meaningful that could potentially turn into a long-term relationship, I just do not think having sex on the second date is a wise decision. and i think, you know, and obviously yeah everyone's kind of number, their timeframe is different, but I think you should get to know someone for at least a month.
Speaker: Okay. I have... I have a question now on this because am certainly like of the mindset, wait at least a month, three, four dates, at least.
Speaker: um I feel like my dating cadence is given my schedule and having a kids, like I see somebody once a week, probably at least in the beginning stages. So even getting to like the point of six weeks doesn't even feel like that crazy.
Speaker: But, um but what do you think about talking about sex and what you like sexually and like what your sexual preferences are early in the relationship?
Speaker: I don't think there's any problem with that. But it's also being clear. because I'm having this conversation with you doesn't mean that I want to fuck you right I'm just sharing about myself.
Speaker: um I also think... Well, I think it's establishing a compatibility thing to decide whether you want to... be with that person because I know we talk about this a lot. i have this Dan Savage episode really resonated with me a couple of years ago, but how homosexual male relationships have a tendency to, or have a higher success rate than heterosexual long-term relationships. And Dan Savage thinks it's because from the get, gay men have to talk about whether they're a top or a bottom, a switch, like what their whole sexual- There's much more open communication.
Speaker: Yeah, well, it's it's it's technical. Like, there has to be And so I actually now try to talk about my proclivities pretty up front. And I didn't talk about it on my first date with this person that I went on the other day.
Speaker: But we talked about it yesterday. so like this first time we've talked since our successful first date. And I wondered, i was like am I being too forward with this person by talking about it?
Speaker: But he's younger than me. So maybe not as experienced or not as confident. So I wanted to establish that we were on the same page.
Speaker: we i think I think there is nothing wrong with that. i think, A, it shows that you're confident and that you're an open communicator. You are trying to be efficient with your time. You have busy schedule. You're going to waste your time with someone who there there's not ah an opportunity for that compatible connection. Exactly. also think it's really important to kiss early. Yeah. Because kissing is a great predictor of whether or not you're going to have great sexual chemistry. I i think so. But like, also, is it that though? like It's not 100%. But if someone is a bad kisser, they're going to be really bad in bed. You know that. But do you think that's subjective or objective?
Speaker: I mean, of course it's subjective. Everyone has different tastes and and what they like. But you're not looking for someone who is the best at sex. You're looking at someone who is compatible with you.
Speaker: Right. I mean, at least that's, that's how I look at it Um, I don't know. What are you doing? Um, well, this person, should we just like slip right into dirty laundry and I'll just tell you a little bit about my date a little.
Speaker: um we could do that. Or do you want, well, okay. Or I'll just, because I had this person and I kissed on our first date. Are we, so are we moving into dirty laundry? I mean, are we,
Speaker: I think we are. Okay.
Speaker: So I went on first date with um a gentleman who had slipped into my DMs. And I'm finally... First match from the show. Which is very exciting. For me as a matchmaker, love this.
Speaker: Yeah. And it was also my first day post-celibacy. And you know September 1st. was like... It's September. We're doing it. Let's go. I'm ready for a date. September 3rd or something that you had your date. September 5th, think.
Speaker: Yeah, like on Sunday. And um we kissed on the first date. And I'm not sure if it's because I have not touched somebody in the longest I've ever gone in my life of being touched.
Speaker: So since I was 12 years old, I would say this is the longest I've gone without being touched. It's long time. um But we had a very good first kiss.
Speaker: Like a little make out. What makes a very good first kiss to you? Well, it wasn't an awkward start. It was like pretty, like, we both, want I think we just both went for it so so So did you give him the opening? Well, he walked me to my car. um And I did this really embarrassing thing of showing him answer my phone.
Speaker: He said something about his car being messy. I'm like, you don't have messy. Like, you don't have, like, I'll show. There's, like, all these toys in the back of my car. um Anyway. have a child and a dog. It's understandable.
Speaker: Yeah, and actually, it's not even that bad. But anyway, so... um And then like I turned around and he was right there and I'm like, what was nice meeting you, like actually meeting you. And then we just like both kind of went in for a kiss at this together, I guess. Like it I might have taken the lead a little bit on that. um And it was it was a good kiss because there was like different lines.
Speaker: like energy and like levels in it of like, um like a little bit of like, like, I guess, passion of showing me that he was like into it, but then also like kind of like walking it back a little bit and being like really soft and like sweet. So respectful and fun and a little spicy. Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah. Like it had like a few different flavors in it. Yeah. It was a very, but I'm, I'm also like, is this because this is the first time I've been in human connection But I don't think it is. No. And you're in touch with yourself. Like, trust your gut. You know if it's if it's a good kiss or if it's just like, meh. No, it was a very good kiss. It was a good kiss. I think it doesn't matter how long it's it had been. but i think it's also a testament to the fact that you did wait until, a you had your specific amount of time away from dating. But it was also until you met someone and connected with someone that you actually wanted to go out on a date with.
Speaker: Yeah. As opposed to where before, like when I was like really circling the drain, it's like, well, let's just kiss this person see how it goes. Like, yeah. man Well, and you're coming. And those were always bad.
Speaker: Well, right. And that's because you're coming from a place of scarcity then. And you're just like trying to find someone who's really want to be with someone. But yeah you now understand that it's fine being by yourself. You got so much done. You had like a wonderful six months when you weren't yeah distracted by dating and by men and by sex.
Speaker: So you're not going to settle any mediocre bullshit. Kiss was not mediocre. No. I love that. It was a very good kiss.
Speaker: Okay. So he obviously had found us online. He had watched our clips. He has, you know, engaged with our content, with our podcast.
Speaker: Do you feel like that awareness of who you are and what we've talked about has like had any effect on how you two engaged together? Yes.
Speaker: Well, first of all, he was very open to the fact that he was like judging me. I was like, I think you're judging me when we were just talking. was like, I think you're judging me more than I judge you. And he was like, of course I am. I have the podcast. i like I hear you talk about lots of things without. He knows so much more about you and your opinions than you know about him. Yes.
Speaker: Yes. But right when we saw each other, we just got into it on about because the clip that had posted that day or the day before was the one about power dynamic and which felt very relevant to us starting to see each other and like having a first date and communication and stuff like that. So um we just went right into it.
Speaker: And i think, I think this forum has also created a space for me to be way more confident and open about the things that I, and also having been celibate stuff of like, what I will tolerate, put up with, or what I won't.
Speaker: Your standards. Huh? Your standards. Yeah. But like also like, that's not going to work for me. um There were a couple things that he said that I was like, that's that word isn't in my vocabulary. I don't respond well to that word. Like that's not a word. But you communicated that to him.
Speaker: Oh, yeah. And I think maybe before I wouldn't have said something and I would have just either ignored it or just kept it to myself and then talked about it with you and then like felt weird saying something later. Thank you.
Speaker: You're growing. You're evolving. Proud of you. thanks Thanks. It was good. And I think like, yeah, it was great. I just felt really confident on on the date and like where I'm at and...
Speaker: We had really good conversation. We had a two hour hike and then a two hour lunch. And there was a break in between where you're driving, where we yes we we got to chat. I got the whole date debrief.
Speaker: Yes. Midday. of Yeah. Midday debrief. And posting. And posting. So, yeah, I'm feeling like long distance roommates is great for ah date for our dating lives. know obviously you're going to Miami soon. I think it was also something that you talked about a lot when you were tatingating dating Short King too, right? do you feel I was going say, do you feel like it informed elements of your guys' conversation and stuff like that?
Speaker: Yes, with without a doubt. Now, I i do think also because... I am a matchmaker and I've been doing that, you know, on and off for almost 15 years.
Speaker: I have always been very communicative and open about dating and relationship dynamics and things like that. i'm talking to men I mean, most of that time I was married, but in terms of since my divorce, I have been pretty open about that. But I, you know, one of the things that I talked about with short King while we were dating is that, okay, just so you know, going to be discussing this relationship, good or bad. on the podcast. And, and I think that's something that any man who dates either of us moving forward is going have to be okay with. So I know just, I mean i wonder if this person is going to be a like right now, he's going to be stoked that I'm talking about him. Cause I'm talking about what a great first kiss we had.
Speaker: We need a nickname for him. I know we do. I'll think on it. We'll we'll get there. We'll get there. For a k next episode. but Yeah. um Okay, so when are you going see him again? What's the plan? Well, we talked yesterday, but he has yet to set ask me out again. As you we discussed and you know previously, the man does set the tone.
Speaker: I know. if it's up to him to plan the date, you're not going to ask him to ask you out. Yeah. But it's not your place to reach out to him. No, no, no. Uh-uh.
Speaker: No, but if he had said, text me when you get home to make sure you got to let me know you got home safe, I would have. And then that would have been a nice door. And thatssuming that was something I talked to you about. I think for any of our male residents, listeners, viewers, that is the best thing that you can say at the end of any date.
Speaker: If you are not in charge of the transportation, she's either taking an Uber or driving, always say, hey, just text me and let know that you got home safe. It is that also creates a friendly opening to invitation to like create conversation after the date.
Speaker: Yeah. To continue the communication. Yeah. It's a bridge to the next time that you connect. Yeah. it's Totally agree. It's just classy. so guys. want But I don't want to. play um it Absolutely.
Speaker: But I also don't want to say any of that in like a degrading way of the date itself, because I actually found him to be like super respectful to in the date and like that was one of the things that like one of the first things i said to you was i think how respectful i thought he was so it's just some constructive criticism on that's all yeah i'm just listening to constructive criticism that' long distance Any relationship relationship that anyone has with me.
Speaker: But it comes from a place of love and care. So on that note, do you think we should move into like a little bit of tea time? Yes. Okay. So now we're in tea time to talk about your lovely, supportive parents. I am a very lucky person. You know, I've i've spoken about my dad in many of of our past episodes, but my mom too is just...
Speaker: She's really wonderful and supportive. And i'm I'm incredibly lucky with my parents. And yeah, we we talk about some pretty spicy ah topics on our podcast. But my parents watch every episode on YouTube.
Speaker: They are big fans. I get texts and comments from them. And, you know, I think for some episodes, I'll probably be like, hey, guys, maybe you shouldn't.
Speaker: watch this or write even if they want, you know, whatever. I'm 42 years old. They know that I am an adult and I do adult things. Um, but it does feel really wonderful to be able to have their support and that they just, they love the fact that I am doing this podcast with you. Yeah.
Speaker: Your blonde friend. youre Yes, i was talking to my aunt last night and she was talking, she was talking she's asking about my boyfriend. And I was saying as we were, as we were getting ready to record, you know, it's like you're buddy and I'm Veronica.
Speaker: So i'll take it i love, i love, I haven't gotten highlights in a year or so. That's why I'm extra brunette right now. and i My hair was always so dark and I started highlighting it basically when I got divorced and it just it's created a nice dynamic. I was like, my hair is pretty dark otherwise.
Speaker: No, it great. I was a little sad. It's not sad at all. But, but so that is the dynamic in my family. But why don't you talk about your family and their interactions with our show or lack row? They've never watched a single up episode. No one's ever listened to anything. My parents, and by the way, I like to keep it that way.
Speaker: um I've had to explain four different times, at least four is generous times. ah but I've had to explain at least four different times to my mom.
Speaker: A, that I'm doing a podcast. B, that this person I went on a date with was from, was somebody who slipped into my DMs from the podcast. That was like a, like multi-level thing. Your mom's like, what is, what is slipping into the DM? She was like, what are you talking about?
Speaker: And then what it's about, who the audience is. I have gone through at least three times who I'm doing it with. I've gone through all of that, like groundhog day.
Speaker: at least three to four times with both of my parents. So I'm perfectly happy that my parents don't listen. My mom would be so horrified if she heard me talking about putting my finger in finance guys' butts. Buckle up! Anyway, but um let's move right along. Do we want to talk about my...
Speaker: Oh yeah, we got to talk about this, Diana. You got quite the random text message. Also, let's set the stage in the fact that you got this the day that we posted a clip about enemies and... Oh yeah. yes Because, um well, and so it's just funny because I have not, I had a whole group of friends who I now refer to as the enemies who excommunicated me during my divorce. And um I've never been somebody to really cut access off from people to me.
Speaker: um But that was one of my big takeaways in that time. was, and frankly, from accepting your influence, Molly. Because I'm a big fan of cutting people out of your... Well, i can I can cut people out and like not talk to them, but I'd still give them access to me, like being able to go on my social media profiles and stuff.
Speaker: Block. Block. I block them all. And I think if I didn't have a daughter... I might not do, might not be that or as much inclined, but I actually so don't want them to know a single thing about my kid and like what she's doing. i and so it's just like, I just block them all and no access.
Speaker: And part of this, what I think I got this text message on Saturday night, late 11 o'clock at night. Um, basically asking to, if I'd be open to seeing each other again, but then also it was like, we both know we haven't talked about anything before and it's so clear that you hate me and every time I see you, you're really cold to me, except for some of those other times. It was just like all over the place. And I responded and essentially, I think she expected that I would say, yeah, I'd love to go for a walk and I'm like, or nothing. I think the response that I,
Speaker: was in the middle, which was like, sure, we can go for a walk and talk, but like, we have to talk about what happened before we can do anything else. And she had amnesia about things that had already happened. and Yeah, I had to say, like, we remember things...
Speaker: Yeah, I have to say, I think we remember things differently. And um she responded and was basically like, I don't know. It's okay. Like, I don't actually want to talk about the past. I'm frankly just really more interested in what happened since everything, which to me felt like something that I've talked about. Well, it's like, oh no, I don't want to have a rough, I don't want to have a tough, difficult conversation. I just want to hear what's going on in your life and like be a part of the new stuff without making any repair.
Speaker: And what I've found so shocking about it was like how much I purposely don't have, you know, anything about my life. So why would i go on a walk with you and tell you everything about my life and be fodder for your gossip with your friends and my enemies?
Speaker: Like how naive, like, No, this is by design. why would i why would i break Why would I break down all the walls and the construct of the design? like you not know This is what I want. You not knowing a single thing about me.
Speaker: She wants the proximity to you. She wants to be able to have access to you yeah without having to take accountability, without having to apologize, without having to change her behavior, without having to face what she did and why she did and the type of friend that she was to you, which no.
Speaker: And then something that i also found kind of presumptuous about it, which annoyed me too, was like, we're obviously never like not going to see eye eye on any of this or which a is absolutely true. But like, there was this inference that there isn't anything that I, that I haven't grown from it or look back and thought like there were things that I would do differently um,
Speaker: like things I would have said differently or behave differently. Like that's been all part of my journey of the last few years. It's like, I have, there's a lot of stuff. i made Hindsight's 2020 would have made a lot of different choices, but, and I'm happy in a trusting space with people that I trust to talk about the mistakes that I've made.
Speaker: But, um, her presumption that I wouldn't be in that space is actually just a projection of her. It's her, a projection of her limit limits and her inability to do so. so Right.
Speaker: Well, and I think that's just been your entire relationship with her. She is unable to put herself in someone else's shoes and she expects that everyone is going to see things the way that she does.
Speaker: she doesn't have that capacity for empathy, for expansion, for evolution, for growth, for self-reflection. know, you don't need that to know. So hopefully, you know, you were able to get a little bit of closure. yeah.
Speaker: All right. so in our next episode, we are going to interview Diana's date, who we will hopefully by then have a nickname for.
Speaker: and a second date with. And a second date on what it was like to date Diana. From dating someone who has a podcast to a single mom to someone who is a little bit older and wiser than he is. We're going to get all of the details. So you guys do not want to miss. No. And I'm excited to hear my review.
Speaker: <unk> nor incredible um Okay, so are we going to Sajay? right, you're saging. Hopefully being fire safety. I've got my sage spray.
Speaker: It smells so good. Love that. Okay, so what are we saging today? What are we clearing out from our energy? my single life. My celibacy chapter.
Speaker: cleared everything out. And again, you have not had sex yet and you're not planning to run into that. So you're still celibate. That's right. celibate but No, but I think even talking to me, celibacy was also like top. Well, yeah, no, I guess you're right I wasn't procuring dates. You were cut off from dating. You were taking a very specific dating break.
Speaker: Um, And, and yeah, I think it's good to just let go of all of that residual energy of you and you alone and start to make space to, to attract other people in you you know, whether it's this person, if you guys continue to date or other people, know,
Speaker: I I'm excited for you to, to start to, you know, end that chapter and start a new one. I thank you. I think for me, I'm clearing out a lot of that, just the, all of the energy of my time here in Vegas. I've been here for six years. When I moved here, I was married. I went through,
Speaker: An incredibly traumatic separation and and then had to completely regulate my nervous system, started a new career, changed careers again, just did a lot, learned a lot about myself, did a lot of shadow work, and it was really, really intense. And I am, you know, grateful for all of that work, but I'm clearing that out and making space for this new chapter in Miami where I feel like it's going to be a lot more external. Instead of focusing on doing that healing work for myself, I'm going to bring in like-minded people, an amazing community and...
Speaker: hopefully the love of my life. I'm ready. I'm ready. Okay. Again. So Miami boys, feel free to slip into our DMS. I will be in Florida starting the first week of November.
Speaker: Everyone. just She's looking for love. I'm ready. And then anything, anything else that you're, and then anything anything else that you're You're clearing out, Diana. I mean, one of the notes that we have here is guys who are controlling about how they're perceived and are confident in how they show up. Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah. Especially if you're going to be dating one of us. Because you are going be talked about. we're not if We're not holding back. we're not goingnna give We won't get names. We're not going blast you personally on social media. But we are going to talk about you. So be careful. Get comfy. All right.
Speaker: We will see you see you in the mail. In. Okay. One day we'll get that right I don't know. Maybe we will. Well, thanks everyone.
Speaker: We loved having you and we'll see you next time. Bye. Love you, Malka. Love you too.
