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Speaker: Hello, my loves. Welcome back to the Lead with Legacy podcast. I'm Vanessa Mariah, your host, and let's just jump right into the episode because this message was coming through so strongly that I was like, I have got to get this to your ears right f freaking now, okay? I know you are a f freaking hustler.
Speaker: A hustler, baby. And let me be so freaking clear. That is such an incredible, beautiful, powerful thing. It has led you to the insane business that you have today, the success that you have today, all that shit.
Speaker: Amazing. And. I know right now that you're also wanting to. Feel a sense of more ease as you achieve. You don't want to sacrifice your ambition. No, no, no, no, no. You just want to feel more lightness. You've reached this place where you're starting to challenge.
Speaker: the thought process that Creating your success and creating every next level in your life has to feel like a constant grind and all that shit and You're right to question that.
Speaker: There is a reason why you've landed. on this episode. Here's what's happening when you see so many other. so very successful multi -six, seven, even eight figure entrepreneurs.
Speaker: who look like they're freaking killing it but have you ever noticed like they look kind of stressed out like I don't know what level you're at right now, but You know of people.
Speaker: who are earning more money than you. Who? are what society deems to be, quote unquote, more successful than you. And I know there's a bit of fear around like.
Speaker: Or worry around like, damn. I want more because you're going. You're going big. you You're not going to sacrifice your ambition or the big -ass vision that you see for yourself in your head.
Speaker: Your potential is too massive. The impact you're here to make is too massive. The calling on your heart and on your soul is too strong for you to dare ever do that. But I know that you've looked at these other people.
Speaker: who are quote, quote unquote. Sheesh. heavy on the quote unquote. ahead of you And you've been like, damn. Am I gonna be like them? they kind of look a little stressed or even in, and this isn't even like outward stressed. Like that's how I'm talking about, you know.
Speaker: What I'm talking about. You're very intuitive yourself. You are an old soul. CEO, you have a very like strong sixth sense. You know. When you can look. at an entrepreneur who has a big ass smile on their face, but you can just feel a sense of dissonance in their energy.
Speaker: you can just feel a sense of like, like I've been scrolling on. Tick tock or Instagram or whatever and I'll see these like badass like incredibly successful entrepreneurs but sometimes I can just see the deep sadness and grief behind their eyes. Sometimes I can just see the, the anger.
Speaker: in their face And because you... pick up on that. I know there's this thing inside of you. That wonders like, damn.
Speaker: If I want more, am I going to have to be like that? Is that my freaking future? And am i just do I just need to make peace with that? And it doesn't help when you go into high -performing environments and take in this content and the hustle culture and all that stuff. It doesn't help when you see super successful people say, you got to grind and blah, blah, blah, blah. Now, let me be clear.
Speaker: You do need to work. You do have to have a work ethic. And. around here I'm about. Clearing. the grind. You can hustle.
Speaker: without the grind. You can hustle and have it not feel like you're hustling, it just feels like movement. It just feels like God expressing through you. It just feels like honoring who you came here to be.
Speaker: And. And it can look the same on the outside. The grind. and operating from that. and operating from the suffering that comes with that versus being without that. It can look the same on the outside, but they have two completely different emotional imprints.
Speaker: They feel completely. different Here's where I want to take us into now. it is I want you to know that first off, your worry and your concern is so freaking valid. Like having that thing inside you that's like, okay, I'm going for more. I want more. I don't want to sacrifice my ambition, but also like, damn.
Speaker: I know I'm not pussy to be like. Can it... Be a little less stressful. Can it be a little less? Painful?
Speaker: Can it be a little less? brute force -y? Like... You're not You're not pussy for questioning that. You're not pussy for... Having that level of curiosity, I think.
Speaker: that that Curiosity is exactly what makes you a leader. So I want to start answering that. question inside of you that curiosity inside of you around like Can you really have?
Speaker: more without having to feel like you're constantly forcing. pushing, stressed out and grinding for it.
Speaker: I even saw this video the other day of this entrepreneur who was in a room of other high performing entrepreneurs who, and he was genuinely like, and he was very, very successful, like multi seven figures. And he was like, genuinely trying to figure out and asking, how do I get to the next level of success? Like every next level of success I get to, this is what he was saying. Every next level of success I get to, I feel more and more empty.
Speaker: How do I fix that? And I would... was just like oh my gosh bro you just asked the wrong room this and i just wish i could jump through the screen and talk to him because there's a part of you that knows that that is what's in your future. There's a part of you that knows that.
Speaker: Outward success. Yes, you want it. Yes, you're going for it. Yes, you want the big -ass vision. You want the freedom, the fuck you money, the travel, the all the the stuff that that gives you. the ability to do charitable acts, all this stuff that it gives you. You want all of that, but you don't want it.
Speaker: to feel empty. And you know that. If you only focus on the success. Outward. Success. aspect of it That it's not going to fulfill a deeper thing.
Speaker: inside of you Anyways, that was just a... Quick side note, I wanted to come through there. but Addressing your curiosity of It's You're not sacrificing your ambition. And if you are going bigger. Can you do it with feeling of a sense of more lightness and more ease inside of you? The answer to that is yes.
Speaker: And I want to tell you. Why? This is going to be like a spiritual context slash a neuroscience subconscious mind context that I want to give you here for why you see very, very, very successful people who are stressed the frick out. to the point where it has you questioning, can you get to that level of success without Having the grief in your eyes and the anger on your face and the emptiness in your heart.
Speaker: Okay. We got to take this back to the industrial era. What you... I have to know. is that right now what you're seeing at a large scale is a majority of people are operating, majority of entrepreneurs especially.
Speaker: are operating from a very outdated creation paradigm. Back in the industrial era, it was a very work till it hurts. Work till you drop.
Speaker: You are a cog in a machine. Work, work, work. if It's not hurting. It's not working. That was the paradigm. That was the vibe back then The issue is... that.
Speaker: That paradigm does. in a way, work. it creates results. You had companies making money off of that way of being. Their employees operating from that way of being, the entrepreneurs, the leaders of those companies operating from that way of being, they produced money.
Speaker: But I know That you. And even hearing this can understand that. Okay, it can produce money, but but then what? But then those people are depressed and then those people go home and then they have the...
Speaker: end up being abusive or they end up being like shit parents or they end up being emotionally unavailable to their kids. And so it's like, okay. Yeah there's more money but then what was the true cost?
Speaker: of operating in that paradigm. And the hardest thing about that paradigm Is that. no not enough people have challenged it so you still see the sort of shadow of it today and the super and grind culture I don't even like calling it hustle and grind culture culture because there's nothing wrong with hustling If you would just remove the suffering.
Speaker: If you remove the unnecessary suffering, obviously we can't get rid of like challenges in life. It's part of us being on this playground of a planet. but The issue is that.
Speaker: This way of being has... infiltrated. The minds of how entrepreneurs and leaders create today, its shadow is still here. There's residue from it. So what you see are very successful people who have.
Speaker: feel empty but they would not ever tell you but you can sense it you can see it who have anger, who are disconnected from their true, true, true, like deep, deep rooted, like enoughness, their deep.
Speaker: Self.
Speaker: You have entrepreneurs who are hyper successful, but don't trust people. have a lack of harmony in the other areas of their life, but they have all this money. Right?
Speaker: They're outwardly successful, right?
Speaker: Because here's the issue about this paradigm is that You get rewarded. for abandoning yourself. You get rewarded. for not challenging the amount of stress. that you feel How many entrepreneurs have you seen? Burn out. They come on Instagram. They're like going hard. Then they drop on the Instagram feed. Guys, I burnt out.
Speaker: Guys, I was in the hospital Guys, there's something I want to show you that I didn't tell you about that happened last year. it' Yeah, i I dropped to the ground. I collapsed. How many times have you heard stories like that from entrepreneurs who on the outside look like they're freaking killing it money in the bank they got collaborations brand opportunities a following community, people who love them.
Speaker: And you would not ever know that in the background, what it was really costing them. To have all of that A lot of people aren't challenging this paradigm because they are being rewarded.
Speaker: financially Socially? They're getting significance, a sense of. a false sense of significance. Coming from the outside, they're getting all of this external validation and reward.
Speaker: form. putting their bodies their emotional health. their mental health, putting themselves laughs.
Speaker: So no. You're not crazy. Or pussy. You real thug, you real gangster, you a high achiever. Okay, you still all that. You're not crazy for challenging that.
Speaker: Ding. that doesn't want you to create your next level of success in that way. That. thing inside of you that knows that if that's the cost if the cost is you then that is way too freaking high of a price.
Speaker: to pay. So here's what you need to know now. and This is going to be a... tool and an understanding that you can take with you moving forward in your business. What you have to know is that.
Speaker: Alright. But not so. You're probably thinking, I hear you. I hear you on that But then, so why are there all of these examples of these like great. Thank you. incredibly successful entrepreneurs. Who? swear by the ground you swear it has to feel like suffering and, and all of that.
Speaker: What you're seeing... Is the law of focus in action? And what you're seeing. is The. amplification of your subconscious state.
Speaker: in action. You have to understand that What? Ever. you are emotionally feeling in your life and in your business.
Speaker: whatever emotional imprint that you are holding onto the most. It is literally creating. what you're about to experience next. If you are constantly stressed.
Speaker: constantly feeling under pressure. you do not end up in a business that feels light. and creating from a place that feels lighter for you. Unless you completely pattern interrupt.
Speaker: The pressure and the heaviness. And you intentionally and on purpose prioritize. feeling deeply feeling more lightness. and more neutrality.
Speaker: What you're seeing. is people in stressed out, pressure -filled states. going on to have that emotional state. impact their behavior. So they go on to take more actions that are in energetic alignment with pressure -filled stressed states. So they keep creating results that, yeah, you can have, it can create money, but then the energy around it is a pressure -filled stressed out state.
Speaker: And the pattern just repeats and goes on and on and on.
Speaker: This is also happening because on the more of a subconscious level you have this filter in your brain It's called like it's called. It's not called like it is called your reticular activating system And basically this filter in your brain, it's confirming back to you everything you believe to be true about the world.
Speaker: And a lot of people don't take the time to really get in control of this filter. So it starts proving back to them a different truth, a different reality. Meaning that...
Speaker: If you were to prioritize your feeling state, yes, still take action. Yes, make moves on on what it is that matters to you. Go for your goals.
Speaker: Move with speed. And... Here's the nuance here. Ask yourself. How can I prioritize? more lightness. Where is my mind seeking unnecessary hardship?
Speaker: How am I making? this. Fuel. like more pressure and more stress. than it needs to. What can I go and do now?
Speaker: to get my stress levels down.
Speaker: Now, let me be so freaking crystal clear. When I say this, I'm not saying that business is going to ever be all rainbows and butterflies. Like the truth of the matter is that this life is inherently challenging. God did that on purpose because our souls came here to grow. And the only way that our souls can grow and expand truly on a massive level is through challenges. So this is not about erasing challenges, which is like what people like to say in the spiritual world, the manifestation and subconscious change world, all that shit. No. This is not about erasing challenges. This is about you getting in charge of your feeling state.
Speaker: so that You can get in charge of how your success begins to feel. You can get in charge of. creating evidence for your brain because that's all that's happening right now the only reason that you think you have to be completely always stressed out and under pressure in order to create what you want is because one you've been rewarded for that and two you haven't intentionally.
Speaker: With intensity, with the same discipline that you apply to taking action, you haven't applied that same exact level of discipline to controlling how you feel. Feeling lighter.
Speaker: that doesn't mean you always feel good that means that you are intentionally working on how fast despite any shit that comes my way how fast can i get myself to a baseline of joy Happiness.
Speaker: Lightness. neutrality how fast can I get myself back to that baseline this isn't about rejecting all the other emotions this isn't about rejecting challenges completely the opposite this is about getting in control of Hey, I don't care what happens. I know how to get myself back to a baseline. This is about increasing your tolerance of experiencing. more joy and more lightness in your life and in your business. Because another thing that people don't understand about.
Speaker: how the brain works and the nervous system works is that you do have a tolerance for how much joy and lightness you feel safe experiencing. You do have a tolerance for how much.
Speaker: feel good actually feels good to you some people literally experience. Some people's nervous systems will literally freak out if they feel too good or too light or too joyful for too long that their brain will literally kick in and sabotage them.
Speaker: and create an instance or circumstance of them feeling under pressure Of them feeling sad, of them feeling some sort of emotional turmoil. Why? Because that is what their brain is the most wired for. That is what their most their nervous system is the most used to. So you actually do have to.
Speaker: start increasing your tolerance for experiencing more of that lightness and more of that joy. You have to like start calling yourself out on how are you making your process right now way more pressure filled and stress filled than it needs to be. How are you not prioritizing giving yourself what you know you need to get back to a neutral, joy, lightness, happy baseline?
Speaker: These are the deeper things we need to start confronting ourselves about and when you start doing that you are going to increase your tolerance birth. how safe that feels for you to experience.
Speaker: And you are going to Because you change that emotional imprint right now, you're going to notice that the emotional imprint that surrounds the business that you create, the next level of success that you create, it's going to be an energetic match.
Speaker: to that. instead of more stress and more pressure and more emptiness, the more successful that you get. If you get in in front of that right now. That does not have to be your future.
Speaker: Okay. Let me know how this lands. You can DM me on Instagram at itsvanessamariah. I would love to know your favorite takeaway. Implement this what inspired action are you feeling after hearing this take that next inspired action and Let's keep going.
