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Speaker: Yo, yo, yo, yo, let's pause real quick. This is called Lead with Legacy. not lead with money. And somewhere along the way, you got shit fucked up. Okay. Somewhere along the way of making a bunch of money and scaling to your level of success in your business. things started getting a little bit tighter. Why? Because in the beginning, when you didn't know what the fuck you were doing, you were just playing, you were just doing stuff, you were just moving, you were just taking action, you were just... and flow and, and just.
Speaker: and so And that inspiration. And. You somehow fucked around and accidentally created
Speaker: money and success for yourself. But now what has happened is that you're getting more serious. The booty hole is tightening. Why? Because now you got shit to lose. Now it's like, oh shit, I kind of created this level of success by accident. How the hell am I going to keep on making this bigger? Oh my gosh, I kind of created it by accident. Can I really keep this going? Can I really keep this up?
Speaker: Baby. Breathe.
Speaker: Breathe. Your mind's fucking with you your mind's trying to get to you right now And that's okay. I'm not going to say, stop letting your mind get to you right now. I actually want you to come into a deep place of respect and acceptance of the fact that You're just having a human brain moment.
Speaker: Okay? You ain't gotta fight it. But we are going to change it. But the way we're going to change it. Is that first? Just accept the fact that things have been feeling. kind of hard and scary lately.
Speaker: You can... Just accept that. You have been second guessing if you are going to be able to take things to the next level. You can accept the fact that your scarcity, even though you are definitely an abundance queen and abundance king, your scarcity thoughts.
Speaker: are coming up. And it's making you. Try to hold tighter to your money and it's making you. Not. take as big of risk. And it's making you overthink those, those inspired ideas and actions that your higher self is telling you to take, that your subconscious mind is is pinging at you to take.
Speaker: It's making you overthink it. And. That's just making this sort of timid and scared. Thing that you've been experiencing. It's just making it bigger it's not helping.
Speaker: But it's okay that it's happening.
Speaker: So first, I just want you to accept real quick. And acknowledge, because here's the thing. Oh my gosh, entrepreneurs, holy shit. When you was like a real gangsta hustler. And you can, you're like the type of person that's like, I can outwork anyone. I could whatever, whatever. Like you're that type of person.
Speaker: Wow. Sometimes you can really not admit to yourself that you have feelings, dude.
Speaker: You get scared. you're human you like to shove that shit down you you it's like you you think people are watching you in your head and you're like i can't act like i'm scared in my head because then people are gonna see me and they're gonna judge me and it's like bro that's only you in your head that's only you in there and you will actually get into lightness and so much more speed and momentum again, and and get back into the commander seat of your business and of your life when you can accept.
Speaker: That things... Are scary viewing? and hard, and your mind is giving you a bunch of drama. And. It's not fun. I just want you to pause and like actually give yourself the opportunity to accept that that's what's been happening.
Speaker: That's what's been coming up.
Speaker: Because here's the thing about your brain is that when you keep trying to suppress that. That's what makes it bigger. What you resist. persist. When you keep trying to be like, no, I'm not scared. No, I'm not scared. No, I'm not. hu oh fuck Like, you notice how then you feel more scared and more freaked out versus like, yo, I'm so serious. I want you even after listening to this episode to go and sit down somewhere. This doesn't take long. It's so annoying how people try to make like.
Speaker: The internal work feel like it's something that's so long and drawn out or whatever. This doesn't take long. I want you to go and sit your ass down for 10 minutes, even five minutes. And, and the intention is one thing you have to fully allow yourself to sit with how uncomfortable.
Speaker: you've been lately I want you to go and face and look at all of those scary limiting thoughts because I know you're a confident person. I know that's how the world perceives you. I know that you, you. hold this image of the one who has it all together. And I know that maintaining that image sometimes feels heavy. for you
Speaker: And so because of that. Sometimes you don't really allow yourself to just go and sit in silence and to admit like. Your confidence is feeling a bit shaky. You're feeling a bit of doubt and you're wobbling a bit.
Speaker: This isn't about dwelling in it. This is about looking at it and fully sitting in it and fully putting a light on it so that it's not just running you in your blind spot in your subconscious. Because when there's so much emotional charge around it, around like, oh, I don't know if this is going to work. I don't know, blah, blah, blah. You know, like, yeah, you can just take action.
Speaker: But. You are going to have. Qu - access to such higher quality actions to take. When you actually let yourself just sit for like.
Speaker: Five, 10 minutes. and just look at The doubt. Look at. The discomfort. Look at the fear. Let yourself. actually let those limiting thoughts.
Speaker: Let it play out. Watch those thoughts. Let it, like. Like how would it be if you allowed it to be exaggerated? We're not doing this to dwell in it. We're doing this to process it because I know you don't like letting your mind go here because you understand the power of your thoughts. You understand the power of your mind. You understand the power of taking action. You understand the power of not letting doubt stop you from taking action.
Speaker: But right now what's happening is that. I would say everything is medicine until it's poison. What's happening right now is that you keep feeling this wobbliness and this like, ugh. Mm.
Speaker: This iffiness feeling inside of you and and you've been, let's be real, you've been ignoring it for the last like month. Maybe even more. When it's like that, that means you need to sit.
Speaker: You need to sit in that discomfort. That means you need to look at it. You need to face it. You need to confront it. That means that it's it's... Fucking you up in your blind spot. If you're taking actions in your business, you get to your next level and you keep feeling this like.
Speaker: Oh, while we know this, this like not fully rooted, not fully grounded, not fully like, and you keep feeling that that's your telltale sign. that and And then also as you're taking actions, it's really not even creating the results that you want it to be creating. Like you know that just something feels off. You know what I'm talking about when something just feels off. That means you need to just go and sit with for like five to ten minutes what's coming up for you.
Speaker: What's coming up? And you're looking at it. To process it. You're looking at it. So your subconscious mind doesn't think that it has to.
Speaker: Keep it running in the background of your behavior and of your thoughts and of your feelings and of the actions you're taking and then therefore of your results. You're looking at it. So that it doesn't keep fucking you up in your blind spot.
Speaker: But you gotta look at it. And I know when you're the type of person who's like very abundance mindset, very like you'll you work hard for what you want, very like. That type of.
Speaker: what other people would look at in tents.
Speaker: People who probably see you as a bit intense. You're the one who everyone looks at you and they're like, you're so confident. You're the one who has your your shit all together and all that shit. like When you're that type of person, I know it's very uncomfortable sometimes to let yourself just sit with the fact that you are human and you have all the same human emotions and all the same things, but you have to because you're going to feel so much lighter when you look at it. You're going to move so much faster from it. When you look at it, it know. Longer has power over you.
Speaker: And when you're not looking at it. i think that's the most pussy thing that you could do Face your shit. Face your shit. What's the scary stuff that's coming up? What's the limiting thoughts that's coming up? You're looking at it not because it's going to dictate what you do next. You're the one who's in charge of what you're going to create next.
Speaker: You're the one who's in charge of what you're going to create next. But you're going to sit and look at the scarcity stuff that's been coming up. So that.
Speaker: It's not going to run you. In your b blind spot. Okay, so looping this all back to what I was saying earlier, which is that this is lead with legacy not lead with money when you get yourself into this sort of scarce.
Speaker: mindset, please You're like. Oh, I'm going to fix this. I know what I'm going to do. I'm going to buy the next strategy. I need to hire help with something. My business must be broken, must be fixed, must something, something, something. And then you start trying to solve.
Speaker: This. internal scarcity, identity. issue with. Oh, if I just make more money that'll fix it. If I just make more money, that'll fix it. And it's like, no.
Speaker: That's not gonna fix it. And so what you end up doing is you end up. going from This is place that you started with that made you so successful to begin with in your business, which was this space of.
Speaker: I'm just going to serve the fuck out of people. I just want to help people. I just want to give people value. and That helped you create so much success. You were just operating in your legacy identity, naturally operating from that impact driven place to.
Speaker: You then build yourself up to a certain level of success where then you have shit to lose and then you get scared. And so then you accidentally stop leading with legacy. And you start leading with.
Speaker: I need to make some fucking money. Even though. Let's be real, you're fine. Like you already have money, but it's just. That scarcity thing, that fear thing, that all your subconscious limiting beliefs about money and all those things that you never fully looked at because because you didn't. have to look at them in the beginning, but now the higher and higher levels was of success that you get to,
Speaker: Money is an amplifier. So the more money and success that you have, it's going to amplify everything that you suppressed and that you ignored. On your way up. but that can no longer come with you to where you're going next.
Speaker: The way that you solve. Four. the scarcity and the money stuff and wanting to make more sales in your business and all that shit.
Speaker: It's not by going into, I need another strategist. I need another strategy. I'm probably missing this strategy thing. Oh my fucking goodness. It's because you're such a doer. You're so good at taking action that you constantly think that, oh, it must means I need to do something. It must mean I need to do something outside of me in order to start creating different results. When actually the thing that you need to do is not something outside of you. it's Going within, it's facing yourself.
Speaker: You need to confront what's making you feel scared. You need to confront what's making you feel doubtful. You need to shift it. Shift your perceptions around it and get back into lightness. That's going to get you back into speed. That's going to get you back into being the energetic match for the actions, ideas, people, circumstances, and situations that are going to actually get you what it is that you want next in your business. Higher caliber clients, ah more sales, more whatever that thing is that you want in your business and in your life as an enhancement.
Speaker: You're not going to get there from being in scarcity. You're not going to get there from operating from that place of of of wobbling. And again, at this we're something where it's like, you know, something happens and you get knocked down and it's like.
Speaker: just a two -day thing but it's like not even in your head anymore that's one thing but you know what I'm talking about when like you're having almost like a an identity upgrade moment It's not just one of those, oh, something happened and it kind of triggered me and it's annoying. No, like, you know, when you're in a state in your business and you're scaling and you're growing where, you know. oop Boop! I just bumped up against. where who I've been cannot take me to my next level.
Speaker: You know when you're facing a point in your business where an ego death is required. And identity death is required. You have to become someone else. And you know, when this is happening, when the something feels offness, the wildliness to all that shit, when it's been showing up and happening for you for one month, two months, three months.
Speaker: especially for someone like you. who's very resilient, takes action, and bounces back quickly, and and is usually very confident. When that offness, iffiness has been happening, the The comfortable thing to do.
Speaker: And I know this sounds crazy, but the comfortable thing to do is to go and spend $30 ,000 on. a private strategist. business strategies. That's the comfortable thing to do. It's to go in. drop a hundred K.
Speaker: on an ad specialist. That's the comfortable thing to do. I'm not saying don't do that. I'm saying you need to face yourself. first you need to confront the breakdown that's happening inside of you first to make sure To be certain that. whatever strategy whatever that you go in and invest into and put onto your plate, it's not going to be an investment from a wound. It's going to be an investment from a very empowered and rooted place.
Speaker: Because what you very well may fuck around and find out. By those 10 minutes. Of just truly sitting and facing your shit. Facing the scarcity, facing the doubt, letting yourself be vulnerable with yourself. There's no one in your head watching you, bro. It's just you in there.
Speaker: Let yourself be vulnerable with yourself. And you would be surprised at how just that 10 minutes. Of facing it, letting yourself.
Speaker: Then start to feel calm and more neutral because you finally faced it. You stopped making it a big deal. Your anxiety goes down. Now, guess what? You're feeling lighter. And then guess what? From there, because you're feeling lighter, you're operating at a higher frequency. And then guess what? Because you're operating at a higher frequency, you're now matched to higher frequency ideas and actions that are going to get you to where you want to be faster. And now guess what? You still have $30 ,000 extra in your pocket because you didn't spend it on a strategist or an ad or a funnel or whatever the fuck you're about to spend it on or another employee. just to throw money for the sake of throwing money because you're just throwing spaghetti at the wall at this point to get something to help you, to make you feel more comfortable, to make you feel like you're doing something, to make you feel in control. like
Speaker: You can avoid all of that?
Speaker: By sitting with yourself for 10 minutes. with brutal honesty, Rawness. and vulnerability. and love. and acceptance.
Speaker: And that will give you so much more. you'll get a ping call this person you'll get a ping go do this thing you'll get a ping make this post you'll get a ping Your instincts are going to come in. Your higher frequency instincts.
Speaker: entrepreneur CEO instincts are going to come in. And then you're going to notice, oh my gosh, huh? I am moving way faster than I ever was before. And whoa, it's like the thing that I've been wanting for months, the thing that has felt out of reach, suddenly it's now speeding up to meet me. And guess what you didn't have to do? You didn't have to go and invest into another strategy. You didn't have to go and and learn a completely different thing. You just had to.
Speaker: Face yourself. And allow yourself. to become More. of you. Your legacy. identity. Okay.
Speaker: I would love to know how this landed for you. I would love to know Any takeaways, your favorite takeaway from this? Let's keep the conversation going. You can DM me on Instagram at itsvanessamariah. I post.
Speaker: all the time i post my ig stories all the time let's keep up with each other let's kick it And. Let's keep going.
