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Ep 115 Why You Resist Your Magic and How to re-integrate and move in it
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In this soul-stirring episode, I break down why you resist your own magic. From religious conditioning to cultural systems that taught us to shrink, I expose how we’ve been programmed to deny our manifesting power. I connect the dots between false humility, spiritual suppression, and the rise of imposter syndrome. But you know I'm not going to leave you hanging... I also share real steps to reclaim your confidence, own your power, and normalize your divinity. If you’ve ever felt torn between being spiritual and being seen, this one's for you. 💫
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Impact of External Validation on Self-Image
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You know, and other shit, because you can't get into that perfect, neat little elevator pitch or one liner or whatever the formula is. It means what? What does it mean? What did they decide that it means for you and about you and about your purpose and your light? And and what meaning, what fake meaning, what unfair meaning, what negative or self-deprivating meaning are we accepting because of these...
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an arbitrary and man-made measurements and objectives and ah validations. No.
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You are magic. That is who you are. You are source energy. That is who you are. You are divine creator. That is
Introduction to Podcast Themes
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who you are. And... Welcome to Freed and Powered Up, the podcast.
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This space is where you, goddess, source energy, game changer, light seeker, trailblazer, and my sister or brother in arms, stay connected to your inner power and the divine feminine force us within you.
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Let's talk energy mastery, decoding, retruthing, and power activation. I'm your host and your sister, Latoya Zavala. Let's
Latoya's Story: Self-Worth and Imposter Syndrome
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get
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My son is possibly entering an opportunity of a lifetime. He was invited to be a startup partner for an amazing and super aligned collaboration.
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So after the initial call, they asked him to fill out this questionnaire that now invites him, right? Pushes him to realize how good he really is and what's unique about his music how he serves his audience, and what they are actually getting or buying from him.
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Now, many of you may have done a survey like this before, right? Thinking about your marketing, thinking about your content, thinking about what you put out in the world.
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And what I know about my eldest is that he doesn't know how good he really is, how powerful his gift is.
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And how important it is that he does what he does. He knows he's good and what he does is important and that's why he does it, right? It's a fire shut up in his bones. it's his It's his purpose. He
Understanding Imposter Syndrome
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knows this, but he doesn't fully accept and embrace the depths and complexities of how powerful his craft is and what it really puts out into the world, right? The butterfly effect.
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This was true for me. And I know it's true for a lot of you listening right now. And the growing science around imposter syndrome or imposter so-called syndrome says that this is normal.
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This is a sign of you being true to your game and earnest in your desire to provide value. And if you don't have measure of imposter, imposterism is what I call it, um then you could be exhibiting signs of psychopathy, um narcissism, and other things.
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Maybe,
Cultural Conditioning and Humility
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but I truly believe that it is normal because it's conditioned. You can fully accept and embrace the depths and complexities of how powerful your craft, your gift, your purpose is, and no without a doubt that you are not an imposter, that you are in fact magic, that you are in fact source energy.
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So what happened? Where did this normalcy come from? And why are they wanting to project this normalcy onto you now?
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The overarching and larger organization of Christianity and other organized religions like it taught us to give all glory to God and none for yourself.
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Never just say thank you and leave it there. And so, you know, you have to say thank you and all glory to God, right? You cannot take any of that self-satisfaction, that fulfillment, that sense of pleasure for having put your gift out into the world and having had it affect someone. You can't ever
Self-Perception and Achievement Acceptance
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embody, embrace, um transmute that and feel it.
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And so you can't even honor, respect and acknowledge who you are and the divinity within you, the way that you were created, the way that you were designed. Right. Part of your blueprint is to give.
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The way that you give. The glory is in you. The light is in you. The God gift that has flowed through the prism is now expressed through you, through your humanity, through your design, your blueprint, all that makes up you.
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And so at the end of the day, source energy is in you. You are source energy. And to operate in this way is in fact to separate yourself from who you are.
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You know, you were taught to be humble or to have humility. Fascinating because the definition of humble is having or showing a modest estimate of one's value or importance. Right?
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not arrogant or self-important. Imagine you being indoctrinated, inculcated, projected upon to not have self-importance. Four years, four decades, right? Through music,
Survival Coding and Spiritual Growth
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through script, through repetition, through mantra, in every way, shape, or form.
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How is it then, how would it not be normal to feel like you're an imposter? Right? If you are having a modest estimate of your own value and importance and what you put out into the world, of course it would be normal.
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And then you're taught, be humble and not have pride. So now let's define pride. A feeling of deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one's own achievements.
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Huh. Doesn't that make sense then that if you don't have pride, then you would be more susceptible and it would be more normal for you to feel imposter because imposterism is in fact feeling like you derived at your own achievements, but you didn't merit it.
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Right. you You're not worthy of the achievements that you've accomplished. Right. So yeah if you're taught, do not have pride, do not have a deep pleasure or satisfaction from your achievements, then yes, imposterism would be normal.
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Pride, the definition, the achievements of those with whom one is closely associated or from qualities or possessions that are widely admired. Also pride, consciousness of one's own dignity.
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Hold on. I said consciousness of one's own dignity. If you are repeatedly taught that you should not have pride, does it now make sense that it would be normal for you to experience the so-called imposter syndrome?
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Absolutely. And this is why we resist our own magic. This is why we resist your are manifesting power, your creator codes, the the the clear gifting, the intuitive knowing. This is why. This is part of, right? This is number one.
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This is number one. and Let me get to the others. Why you resist the magic within you. So now ask yourself, is there an organization, a family culture, a national culture that has taught you to be humble about who you are?
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In effect, to dim your light, to hide your smarts, to take up less room, to take up less space, to not talk about yourself or your achievements or your accomplishments, and to not feel quote unquote pride or boastfulness.
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Has that been a part of your history? Has that been a part of your upbringing? Has that been a part of your normalcy?
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Okay, let's do number two. Number two is survival coding. It's so much safer to not big yourself up,
Fear of Judgment and Growth
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right? It's safer to not be seen. It's safer to not outshine others. It's safer to not take up space. um In the Bible, it's called usurp an authority of a man for women, right?
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Do not usurp the authority of a man. Usurp means to steal, right? To sneakily take away. So let me ask you something. You being in your power, you being in your authority, does that mean that the men around you cannot be in their power and cannot be in their authority?
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Is there not space in this infinite space?
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possibility for everyone to have the measure of the authority that is within their source energy that they are designed with? Because what? Because now if you are um seen, if you are taking up space, the thought process is it isn't safe because you could be attacked.
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You could be scrutinized. What if what I think about me isn't true? What if what they think about me, what I do, what I'm sharing isn't important enough?
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It's not as powerful as I think it is. What if it doesn't produce what they say it should produce? It's risky. It feels unsafe because you'll be judged.
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You'll be talked about and they won't like you.
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And you'll be leaving some people behind and you'll feel alone. And all of this projection feels so scary and it feels so unsafe.
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So the survival coding is let's stay small, let's stay hidden and let's stay surviving. But what they haven't told you is that staying surviving is also spiritually dying.
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And your legacy, your story, your power, your calling, your gift and magic, your joy and purpose begins to die inside of you.
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Why? Is that really safer? And the coding that says it's safer... Is it permanent?
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Is it organic to you?
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And are any of these things guaranteed to happen if you shine as brightly as you're meant to? And if you don't be the thing that you are here to be and you don't do the purpose that you're here to do, are all of these things guaranteed not to happen?
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So ask yourself, who or what are you shrinking for? Where are you projecting safety onto?
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And how is it affecting your purpose, your legacy, your spiritual, emotional, energetic beings? Number
Embracing Personal Magic
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three, you haven't spent enough time with the testimonials, the real world results.
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And those real world results, if you have spent time with them, sometimes are skewed. What do I mean? We make fake meaning, unfair meaning, negative meaning, self-deprivating meaning, right?
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Maybe you've spent time with the way that you have positively affected people, but you downgrade it. You minimize it. You generalize it in that what you have done, anybody could do at any time in the very same way. So it wasn't special at all.
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Denying. the virtue of your blueprint, of your DNA, of your design, and the complexity of anything light and gift coming through you specifically at a specific moment for a specific people in a specific time and place.
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You are magic.
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But what? Because I didn't have 10K views on my last video, what? Because my last post didn't get any likes, what? Because no one clicked buy on my last email link, what?
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What is the meaning you are making about yourself, about your offer, about your gift, about your value, about your intuition? Okay, so these could be journaling questions because you actually get to face yourself and clear all that bullshit.
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And I'm going to put a link to the 4D clearing process um that I have in my YouTube channel. Because you can do this energetically. You can use the 4D clearing process and clear this energetically.
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You know, and other shit. Because you can't get into that perfect neat little elevator pitch or one liner or whatever the formula is. It means what? What does it mean? What did they decide that it means for you and about you and about your purpose and your light? And what meaning, what fake meaning, what unfair meaning, what negative or self-deprivating meaning are we accepting because of these an arbitrary and man-made measurements and objectives and ah validations?
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No. You are magic. That is who you are. You are source energy. That is who you are. You
Practical Steps to Embrace Power
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are divine creator. That is who you are. And you're out here doing your best. You're out here shining your light. You're out here giving what it is that downloaded and was given to you. And you make a difference. You're making a difference. You're making butterfly effect differences. You are creating and transforming and changing in ways that you can't even know about.
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Okay, so what can you do? I'm going to give you a few things that you can do just real world to help, you know, your activating your reticular activation system to help your your body somatically change this quote unquote normalcy.
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And for you to know the magic that you are. But first, let's take a quick break for some inspiration and motivation. And I'll be right back with those tips.
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I am Dr. Rhonda Stinson Boyd, your wealth creator. And I just had the awesome privilege of having my first abundance retreat.
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And the awesome part was Goddess Latoya was able to zoom in from Portugal in order for us to get a deeper experience at the abundance retreat a lot of times when you have retreats you don't get an opportunity to be able to really participate in the bridge retreat because you're like you're the one that's moving all the parts what I loved about um
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This retreat, it was God left space for me to be able to enjoy the retreat and to have Goddess Latoya come in and raise our vibration levels and raise our awareness of around us and really she came in for it with a meditation session that lifted us all really pulled out and poured in
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to each and every one of us. I was speechless. But not, but really tapping into her gifting and sharing her gift with us was so amazing. so if you hadn't had an opportunity to collaborate, sit down or attend one of her e events, you need to. I knew it was going to be life changing. I just didn't know how much life changing it was. So thank you, Goddess Latoya, for your presence, your gifting and following your calling. i love you. Peace, love, and joy to you. Thank you.
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So number one, create yourself a proof or um love me folder or a journal or notebook or file. Whatever works for you and call it whatever you want to call it. But now put in this file or this journal or this notebook, put in it the the the validations, the real soul spirit validations, the the things that people have said to you, how you have changed their lives, how you have made a difference.
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how they have felt around you, whether it be friend or child or partner, whoever it is, put it in the folder, put it in the folder, put it in the the file, whatever it is, put it down there and continue this, right? Make this a habit. Make this a part of your being.
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Should you need to do this? yeah The fact is we live in a world that constantly Desires for you to not feel at your best. Desires for you to not be the God energy that you are.
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And so we get to fill ourselves with um with these kinds of um methods. So number two, spend time remembering who you are.
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and Just in silence. Spend time remembering who you are, not only as source energy, but who you are on this earth. You know, whether you're a sister or mother or friend and how you have done your best and all the differences you've made small and large in people's lives, like really just spend time remembering.
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Because you will create those stronger pathways to that memory, to that visualization, to that knowing of who you are and and and what you contribute to the collective.
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So that's number two. Number three, journal the questions that I have asked throughout this podcast episode. Right. And answer the questions. Give them their proper value. Create statements to counter the ones that have been projected onto you for a normalcy.
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Create and know your truth, your real life truth. Okay, so for example, I could be ashamed about the views or the clicks that my last video got, or I can choose to say, that last video,
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was so valuable. I know it because it was downloaded. It was channeled through me and I felt it. And I know that it was so powerful that it could be a paid program if I chose it to be, no matter who saw it, because I know the value. I know the value.
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So I get to make more and get better at my craft every day. Okay, so journal the questions, answer the questions, create statements that counter any of the negative ones that are true, that are real life truth, and that can recalibrate ah your mental body and your emotional state. Number four, take an action today from your true power, not perceived worth.
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Okay. Not humility, not fear, not survival code, but from your power. You may have heard me say before I was watching a video and they talked about just having 30 seconds of courage can shift the day and can shift the week and can shift a project or the energy of whatever it is that you're producing. So...
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Yeah. 30 seconds of courage to take one action today, not out of humility, not out of fear, not out of survival coding, but from your power. There is a solar plexus activation um on the about page in my awakening lounge. So it's on the about page. So it's free to access.
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OK, so please go and do that. I'll drop the link in the show notes. Do the solar plexus activation. ah You may even consider coming in the awakening lounge. There is so much there, so much power, so much um live classes, live um vortex energy recalibrations and things going on. There's monthly tapping going on there. So you may want to come into that as well. um Look out for the free event. There's a free event coming March 20th where we will do some energetic activation and recalibration and we will ah unlearn and ah decode all of this bullshit. So I'm inviting you to come in.
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And so these are of just a few things that you can do. um Again, in the Awakening Lounge and the free events, we I will be downloading more. You can sign up for my email list where every Sunday I'm doing ah Sunday soul checks. Just so much so that we get to continue to be in our power, to bathe ourselves in our true identity, in our source energy, in our goddess energy, and be the bigness, take up the space and And be the fire of our purpose that we came here to be. You are magic.
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You are magic. Okay, so let's declare and decree.
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I am magical. And I am normalizing knowing it. I am freed and powered up. Take a
Conclusion and Empowerment
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nice breath. Say it right into your body. Ready? I am magical and I am normalizing knowing it.
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I am freed and powered up. Okay, now say it, take a nice breath and now say it right into your atmosphere, into your aura, into the space around you. I am magical and I am normalizing knowing it.
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I am freed and powered up. With so much love and power, see you in the next one. Hey, goddess and those who support them listening in. Thank you so much for sharing this space with me.
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Because listen, you don't have to wait until you're ready to be your next level self. You're ready right now.