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Speaker: Welcome to Bigger Talks.
Speaker: I'm your host, Eric Bigger, motivator, fitness trainer, and life speaker.
Speaker: I'm here to inspire the world by having real conversations about the power of life, love, and vulnerability.
Speaker: Join me as I uplift you, challenge your thinking, and improve your understanding on living your best life.
Speaker: Let the Bigger Talks begin.
Speaker: What's going on?
Speaker: It's E!
Speaker: Bigger.
Speaker: Welcome back.
Speaker: Another episode of Bigger Talks.
Speaker: And I have a special guest and co-host, a good friend of mine.
Speaker: She's amazing.
Speaker: She's phenomenal.
Speaker: I call her the great help.
Speaker: She helps so much in so many ways.
Speaker: Amina, how are you?
Speaker: Good.
Speaker: How are you?
Speaker: I am great.
Speaker: Oh, I'm great too.
Speaker: Okay, can you tell them a little bit about yourself, how we met, et cetera, et cetera?
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: Hi, everybody.
Speaker: My name is Amina.
Speaker: I'm from Houston, Texas.
Speaker: But I've been living in Los Angeles for nine years.
Speaker: I came out to model and act and do everything in entertainment.
Speaker: But I took some time away to explore the spiritual world, which led me to meet my great friend here, Eric Bigger.
Speaker: I feel like we did not meet by accident.
Speaker: So I'm very grateful to be here.
Speaker: But I also want to elaborate on me meeting Eric.
Speaker: We were outside his apartment 2014.
Speaker: We were talking, like, we always have conversations about God, finances, how we're all going to grow positively.
Speaker: And he was hype, super hype.
Speaker: He be so hype, y'all.
Speaker: And he was like, I mean, I'm about to write my book.
Speaker: I'm about to do this.
Speaker: I'm about to do that.
Speaker: But you know what?
Speaker: No one really cares.
Speaker: So I got to make this shit happen.
Speaker: I said that?
Speaker: You did.
Speaker: Damn, girl.
Speaker: You did, you did.
Speaker: I'm going to make it happen.
Speaker: So by him saying that, it was funny because I would always think like that.
Speaker: Like at the end of the day, you know, like at that time of our lives, we were...
Speaker: growing.
Speaker: So our finances weren't so great.
Speaker: But we also have big, big, big dreams.
Speaker: And we were in this sort of turbulence where we had to figure out how we could make life work.
Speaker: And
Speaker: you have to hold yourself accountable.
Speaker: So I would always say to myself, no one cares, and not in a negative way where it's like, no one cares about you, but at the end of the day, you have yourself.
Speaker: So when you're able to hold yourself accountable and look at the term, no one cares, you're put in a position where you have ultimate power, right?
Speaker: Please elaborate on what you meant by that, Biggie.
Speaker: Holding yourself accountable?
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: No one cares?
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: So in a nutshell, no one cares, meaning at the end of the day, as we just said and will say, you have to look yourself in the mirror.
Speaker: You have to look at yourself.
Speaker: You have to look at your life, your environment, the things around you, the things you believe, your perspective, your perception, and all those things, and be accountable for it.
Speaker: And you have to care more than anybody else because no one can be you more than you.
Speaker: Not your mama, not your papa, not your sister, your cousin, your brother, your spouse, your partner, your business partner, not even your money that you might have or need.
Speaker: Everything starts and ends with the person, thyself.
Speaker: So you have to care more than anything and you have to hold yourself accountable, meaning that gives you power because you're taking full responsibility to get things done.
Speaker: And you're not pointing the finger.
Speaker: You're not blaming.
Speaker: You're taking full responsibility.
Speaker: And you're holding yourself to a higher standard.
Speaker: Correct.
Speaker: That's power.
Speaker: Correct.
Speaker: And to elaborate on power, there are many metaphors out that you can use to see exactly what power is.
Speaker: And a lot of people think of power as something physical, something loud, but it's really the opposite.
Speaker: Power is within.
Speaker: It's something that holds you down, that keeps you still.
Speaker: There's a great metaphor out there, actually a couple that I'm going to mention about power.
Speaker: And one of them is...
Speaker: Empty barrels make the loudest noise.
Speaker: And I never really understood that until, you know, I started reading and realizing the person that is the loudest in the room, the person that is always looking for fights and talking about how they're going to do this and do that.
Speaker: They're actually the weakest ones.
Speaker: Now, the person with power knows him or herself.
Speaker: The person with power is steel.
Speaker: The person with power is certain.
Speaker: So that term, empty barrels make the loudest noise.
Speaker: If you really throw an empty barrel down a staircase, it's going to clink.
Speaker: Clink, clink, clink, clink, clink.
Speaker: But if you throw a barrel full of wine down a staircase, it's gonna go boom, boom.
Speaker: You'll still hear it, but the noise will be very sturdy, but loud.
Speaker: Like you know something is coming down when a barrel full of wine goes down a staircase.
Speaker: But, you know, when you start to really learn and grow, you realize that power is stillness.
Speaker: Power is within.
Speaker: There's a book that you mentioned.
Speaker: Stillness Speaks by Ed Hart Tolley.
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: Less is more, for one.
Speaker: There's another great book, 48 Laws of Power, by Robert Greene.
Speaker: And one of the laws state, say less than necessary.
Speaker: Mm-hmm.
Speaker: There's another law that says too much circulation takes the value down.
Speaker: Wow.
Speaker: So you're giving a person too much of your time.
Speaker: You're talking too much.
Speaker: You're giving too much.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: You're taking down your value of who you are and what you are.
Speaker: So now...
Speaker: You're not as exclusive.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: You're giving people more access to you.
Speaker: Right, right.
Speaker: You're not as powerful because you're giving too much.
Speaker: There's a time and place for everything.
Speaker: So you got to pull back a bit.
Speaker: And not that you can't be yourself, but that's understanding your power, who to give to, who to receive from, and who to listen to.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: But you got to hold yourself accountable.
Speaker: So, so let me ask you this quick comparison Jay Z and Kanye West.
Speaker: These are two very powerful men.
Speaker: They were obviously friends if they weren't on the same wavelength, they would never cross paths by you mentioning what you just said made me think Jay Z.
Speaker: Obviously is a very powerful man He knows who he is he knows what he wants to do and he always executes Regardless of what anybody thinks right?
Speaker: I believe that Kanye West has the same motives, but his delivery is different to compare and not saying one is better than the other but
Speaker: when Kanye West is trying to execute, there's a specific delivery that he takes that doesn't respond well or he means well, but the media doesn't translate it in the way that he means.
Speaker: So he's condemned.
Speaker: for trying to do something that he believes in his mind.
Speaker: Like I'm really trying to make change and I'm trying to help people.
Speaker: But I think what he lacks in his power is the delivery.
Speaker: A lot of times when you're trying to do something good, but the delivery comes off wrong, it devalues the purpose.
Speaker: So for instance,
Speaker: Kanye West will do a TMZ interview, whereas Jay-Z won't even talk to anybody at all, but be able to execute tenfold.
Speaker: Now, Kanye will still be able to execute, but he goes through so much turbulence to get there where that's really unnecessary.
Speaker: I also have this other analogy about the hurricane where I asked Eric,
Speaker: where's the safest place in the hurricane?
Speaker: And what was your response to that?
Speaker: I said a vacant building, somewhere underneath a bridge, something, I don't know.
Speaker: I forgot, but it was something of that sort.
Speaker: So in response to that, a very good friend of mine, Yancy Berry, came up to me.
Speaker: I was going through something at the time and I was expressing to him my issues.
Speaker: And he goes, where is the safest place in a hurricane?
Speaker: And I, my mind was wandering.
Speaker: I was like, I really don't know.
Speaker: So he goes, Amina, the safest place in the hurricane is in the middle, the I. When,
Speaker: Turbulence is going on in your life when the world is spinning, when everything is just going haywire.
Speaker: You know, when it rains, it pours.
Speaker: The best place to be is still.
Speaker: Be still.
Speaker: Stillness speaks.
Speaker: The eye of the hurricane is the most calm, most beautiful place.
Speaker: While everything is erupting and things are being destroyed, in the middle of all of that,
Speaker: There's peace.
Speaker: So if you look at that and you look at these metaphors, you realize that in your delivery and the way you react to people and the way you do certain things by being still, by being patient, that would not only allow you to execute, but peace of mind, that's so expensive and it's free.
Speaker: It's expensive, but it's free.
Speaker: Yes, called a spiritual currency.
Speaker: That's how you get a peace of mind.
Speaker: But just to, you know, put that all together like a hurricane, take it back to Kanye and Jay-Z.
Speaker: So Kanye West, I believe, on the inside, is experiencing a hurricane.
Speaker: turbulence mentally emotionally and it's disrupting how he really wants to be and i think he has the right intentions he's doing the right thing but it's how he's doing it and when he's doing it that throws things off jay-z on the other hand less is more like i said before but he's not looking for attention because he is the attention because his intention
Speaker: is to expand, to do more, to give more.
Speaker: But they say real G's move in silence.
Speaker: So he's very quiet.
Speaker: He's very peaceful.
Speaker: He's very strategic.
Speaker: And he's not really emotional.
Speaker: At least we don't see that in his business deals, his raps.
Speaker: He just, you know.
Speaker: But I think they're two different people.
Speaker: I do believe Kanye is a genius.
Speaker: I think he is before his time.
Speaker: And the wave he's on, the frequency he's on, people got to catch up to us.
Speaker: So sometimes when he's speaking,
Speaker: It doesn't make sense because people can't vibrate to his understanding.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Because he's speaking from like his highest self.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: And it doesn't make sense to a lot of people.
Speaker: Because to create a sneaker and a clothing line and to be an artist and be great at it takes a lot of creativity.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Takes a lot of responsibility.
Speaker: And sometimes your delivery will be off.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: But everything else is on.
Speaker: But in all sense, the hurricane, you know, it's not easy at times when it's coming from within.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: But if you learn how to control it and be at peace and be the eye of it, you can have power.
Speaker: Ooh, I like that.
Speaker: Power, power, power.
Speaker: Yay.
Speaker: So, yeah, I mean, accountability, responsibility.
Speaker: No one cares.
Speaker: And no one should care more than you about your life, about where you want to go and things you want to get done in this world.
Speaker: Yep.
Speaker: I personally agree.
Speaker: So the book that we recommend for you guys to read is...
Speaker: is stillness speaks by Eckhart Tolle yes um we'll put that on social media for you guys and also just wishing y'all peace of mind that peace of mind spiritual currency love inspiration and um don't beat yourself up you know don't put yourself down
Speaker: And try your best to be your best with all that you have.
Speaker: Because some people have nothing at all, but they do have themselves.
Speaker: So be yourself.
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: Bigger Talks.
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: Amina, thank you for your input, your time, your energy.
Speaker: She's a great helper.
Speaker: And she's a Virgo.
Speaker: You know them Virgos like to fix.
Speaker: They always helping.
Speaker: But yeah, guys, thanks for listening.
Speaker: Thank you.
Speaker: Hey guys, thank you so much for joining us today.
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Speaker: And remember, it's miracle season, so don't forget to be great.
