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Manipulative Narratives: Aging, Introversion & Why Supergirl Failed
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Bruce and Jay are back from a break! Jay takes their mom to Essence Fest in New Orleans and comes home with a story about a stranger that neither of them saw coming. Bruce spends his 46th birthday doing absolutely nothing on purpose, and it forces a question he did not expect to ask himself about who he is becoming as he gets older.
Then the conversation turns to Supergirl. The movie took hits online before anyone even sat down to watch it, the box office numbers are rough, and the reasons why go a lot deeper than good or bad filmmaking. Bruce breaks down the one thing he would have fixed, Jay pushes back with the view from the editing chair, and together they get into who really gets uncomfortable when a woman leads the story.
Underneath all of it is one idea that ties the whole episode together. So much of what we believe about movies, about people, about getting older, we decided before we ever lived it. This one is about what happens when you stop letting other people write your story and start experiencing things for yourself.
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Chapters:
00:00:00 The Stories We Believe Quietly Shape Movies, Aging, And Life 🎤🧠✨
00:02:13 Essence Fest Delivered Far More Than Music And Great Memories 🎷🎉✨
00:05:58 Bourbon Street Crowds Turned Mom's Birthday Trip Into Pure Chaos 🌆😅🍹
00:09:44 Michelle Obama And Keke Palmer Quietly Stole The Weekend Stage 👑📚🎤
00:12:14 Patti LaBelle At 82 Kicked Off Her Heels And Still Sang It Down 🎤🔥👑
00:13:31 Babyface, The Quiet Songwriter Behind Your Favorite Ballads 🎹🎶💫
00:17:01 One Stranger's Gift Of Floor Seats Made A True Lifetime Memory 🎫🥹🙌
00:23:55 Bruce's 46th Birthday Sparked An Unexpected Personal Discovery 🎂🧠⏳
00:27:22 Realizing You Quietly Became An Introvert As You Get Much Older 🧠🌀🎧
00:30:08 Growing Older Means Choosing Your Peace Over The Constant Noise 🌱🌟💛
00:34:57 Introversion Versus Burnout And The Real Question Underneath 🧠🔥🌀
00:37:18 You Really Only Need A Small Handful Of Good People Around You 🤝💫🌟
00:40:21 Object Permanence And Why Bruce Vanishes On People He Loves 🌀🧠💭
00:46:50 Supergirl Never Escaped The Online Narrative Before Release 💥🎬📉
00:48:51 The Pacing Flaw And Bruce's Real Interview Secret Sauce Reveal 🎬🎥🧠
00:54:33 Misogyny In A Mask And The Very Real Fear Of Women With Power 💪🔥👑
00:58:13 Watching It Himself First Revealed Two Truly Powerful Heroines 🍿💫👧
01:00:51 Are You Not Entertained And Jay's Honest Bottom Line On Movies 🍿🎬🎭
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Introduction and Engagement
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What if the biggest thing ruining our experiences isn't reality? It's a story we've already decided to believe. We gonna get into it. Let's get it.
00:00:21
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Welcome. First of all, welcome. This is Unsolicited Perspectives. I am your host, Bruce Anthony, here to lead the conversation in important events and topics that are shaping today's society. Join the conversation and follow us wherever you get your audio podcasts. Subscribe to our YouTube channel for our video podcasts, YouTube exclusive content, and our YouTube membership.
00:00:40
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Rate, review, like, comment, share. Share it with your friends, share it with your family, hell, even share with your enemies.
Narratives and Perceptions
00:00:47
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On today's episode, we're examining how narratives shape everything from a movie's success to how we see ourselves as we get older to first-hand experiences.
00:00:58
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But that's enough of the intro. Let's get to the show.
Holiday Break and Previous Episodes Recap
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What up, sis? What up, brudda? I can't call it. I can't call it. We're back after extended break. We are back, ladies and gentlemen. Look, everything's going to pick back up. We just took a little bit of break. It was the holidays. It was my birthday. yeah are We chilling.
00:01:24
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there We need rest, too. Right. You know I'm saying? She was like, where's the show? I'd have told you last show. yeah The audience like a kid. I said, I told you last time to stop asking about this. I made an old announcement saying that we was going to take a little break, but...
00:01:42
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No matter what, thank you for the love and thank you for looking out for it. to But we back. We back in the prospect. We were back on on Tuesday. and I released the episode with the Mark Stephen Pearl. And we talked about him and his mom, you know, him being a caretaker for his mom in her last days. And it was an interesting story because not a lot of men are caretakers.
00:02:05
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Right. And so he wrote a memoir about it. So we we've been back. We back. But you really had an interesting weekend.
New Orleans Trip and Essence Fest
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I did. Yes. You went to New Orleans, where I still am destined to go.
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It's going to happen for you, I believe. I believe you will one day make it to New Orleans. I will. It's not that difficult. It is. It's a flight in a hotel. So I just feel like you could go. You could anytime.
00:02:33
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Yeah, well, I'll tell you what. I'm definitely going to go. I had booked my flight a year ago for Halloween. Yeah. Things happened. But I'll tell you what I'm not going to do is book the flights that you and our mom had coming back. because that Yeah, what nightmare. Because that seemed like it was a fiasco. But tell me about the trip.
00:02:52
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Yes. So, ah for our mother's birthday, took her to Essence Fest in New Orleans, 2026, in case you all are watching this and sometime in the future. it was It was excellent. Like, overall, did I have fun? yes Now, ok specifically, i don't like a lot. of Like, I don't like crowds.
00:03:15
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Right. And it's crowded. The lines are long. every it's It's crowded. Like, there are a lot of people who come to Essence Fest. you know, a course.
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It's like some times in there where you're doing stuff outside of the festival activities so you can decompress if crowds are not your thing. So, you know, we brought our bathing suits and things like that so we could do other things to kind of like decompress and get our social batteries back because it really is like an all day thing. So from 10 to 5, there are all these events at the convention center.
00:03:56
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And it's, I mean, it's everything. It's talks. There are, there is a beauty con and there was a a book festival. All these authors came and talked about their work and lots of celebrities, lots of free giveaways and a really awesome, awesome vendors that black owned products and I mean, you get everything from clothes to grills to candles to jewelry. Like, it was, they had a vendor pretty much for everything. So. Hold on, time out.
00:04:31
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Yeah. I hate your guts. And this is the reason why. Okay. I feel like I've had this conversation before that I've been wanting a little, a simple grill, like a Michael B. Jordan type grill. And you're around vendors who sell grills. Yes, yes. you wasn't like, you know what, my brother's thinking about getting away. How am going to do that you're not there? They need a mold of your teeth.
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I could create a mold on my teeth. Just get some Play-Doh, bite into it, and then ship to them. Then you can order a grill. Like, you
Cuisine and Bourbon Street Experience
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can, they send you the stuff. You just going to past that meat biting into Play-Doh?
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Yeah, I'm going to skip past that because you used to do that were kids. No, I did not. That was you and our brother, okay? We did not eat Play-Doh. Y'all did. We absolutely did not eat Play-Doh. I always hated Play-Doh because stank.
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It stank. It does. I think you didn't have to fuse with the jelly, the little slime stuff. No, it's Play-Doh. It's Play-Doh, and it's in kids' dirty, sweaty hands.
00:05:32
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Yeah, that's that. And all of that mixed with the actual dough smell. It stinks. Okay. It does. All right. vendors and all that type of stuff is there. How was the food?
00:05:45
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Well, New Orleans. Yeah. Well, I don't know. I had char-grilled oysters every single day from different establishments. We went to Dragos. We went to Neos. We went to Pier 424 on Bourbon Street. And that was a really funny experience because our mother delusionally wanted to go to Bourbon Street.
00:06:15
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The day she picked to go to Bourbon Street, because she's had great experience on Bourbon Street Plus, but that's off season. Today is July 4th. Right. And you want to go to Bourbon Street on a holiday. Mm-hmm.
00:06:32
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I said, okay. I know a great restaurant on Bourbon. Mm-hmm. where we can get some great seafood, I'll take you. yeah And I'm holding her arm and holding her hand as we navigate this throng of people.
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And her face is just, I hate every minute of this. Because, ladies and gentlemen, our attitude of not wanting to be in big crowds literally comes from our parents because both of our parents hate being in big crowds. Mm-hmm.
00:07:09
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So I'm having to lead her. as We got as far as we could get in our Uber. They had the streets blocked off. Obviously, it's a federal... It's a holiday, and it's Bourbon Street. Streets were blocked off.
00:07:21
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So we got as close as we could get. We were about two blocks away from the restaurant. That's it. Two blocks. And I had to... navigate this crowd. So I had to put my own anxiety to the side so that I could get her through this crowd. Get to the restaurant, we sit down, and all she said, I'm never doing that again.
00:07:45
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I'm never coming here again. And I said, I tried... Wait a minute. Never coming to that restaurant on Bourbon Street ever again? No, never coming to Bourbon Street. But she's had fun experiences off season. Yeah, you just have to go off season. Why would you want to come down here on Independence Day?
00:08:06
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How was Independence celebration on Bourbon Street on the 4th of July? Because I'll tell you how it was here in D.C. it Oh, I heard it was all over my timeline how was in D.C.
00:08:17
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And that is just a cherry on top. I mean, the fact that it was a colossal disaster. ah they wouldn't say it was a colossal disaster. I would. yeah so I would.
00:08:33
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It was a colossal disaster. But no, on Burbank, I mean, it was packed. It was packed with people. Everybody's out partying, smells like pee and vomit, and and everybody's drunk. And that's that's is' typical it was typical Bourbon Street during an an event. Like, it was typical Bourbon Street. So, yeah, so we had that experience. I said, I'm going to take you down there.
00:08:56
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I'll take you. You're going to to And then she's like, how we going to get back to the hotel? We're going to have to walk back through that crowd. That's exactly what we're going to have to do. How bad was it? Because it was later. That means people are more drunk.
00:09:14
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It wasn't. We went for like an early dinner. So it was like four or five because the concert series starts, the doors open at six at the Caesars Superdome.
Essence Fest Highlights
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Okay. when I tell you it was amazing, Friday night, Friday night, we are treated to a talk hosted by Kiki Palmer with Michelle V. Obama, a talking about her her book, The Look, a New York Times bestseller.
00:09:50
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That book chronicles her style evolution from the time she was first lady to her life today, using fashion as a tool to communicate messages and tell stories. So the cool thing about that is ah when she talked about her fashion She said, I was very intentional during my presidency that I don't discuss. Hold on now. gus hold on Not my presidency. Yeah, it wasn't her presidency. My first ladyship. Okay, there we go.
00:10:19
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Yeah. During the presidency, but her first ladyship, she was very intentional about not discussing fashion because... As a woman, the first thing people discuss, no matter what your profession is, that they bring up how you look.
00:10:36
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So she was very intentional about not discussing fashion fashion, but she also used it as a tool. So she would say, for example, she always wore American designers, especially when they were traveling abroad. So say they went to like...
00:10:53
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say they went to, I don't know, it Italy, right? She would wear an Italian-American designer. oh that's dope. Yeah. Okay. So wherever she went, she would find an American designer of that heritage and wear their designs.
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So it was amazing. And of course, hosted by Kiki Palmer, who is, I wish she was my friend. Like I, and I would rarely ever say that, but I wish Kiki Palmer was my friend. Cardi B, Lotto.
00:11:25
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Who else was there that night? Kalani. i mean... so Cardi B and Lotto's beef is over? Because they had some beef for a little while ago. they? they start Yeah, I think technically they still got some beef. But you know, this is very... Well, they was performing the same night, so I don't know if anything happened backstage, but as far as on stage, day it was great. So, yeah, and no problem.
00:11:46
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Saturday night. That's when our mother got her life. First of all... Okay. Patti LaBelle. Oh, my goodness. Not Patti. Now, let me tell you. Patti LaBelle, 82 years young, up there sangin' down.
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Okay, but did she remember the words? Oh, yep. Okay, because there's a okay little rumor that Patti be forgetting the words to her songs. So here's the thing. All right. If that does happen, ah she is very, very good at playing it off.
00:12:22
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And her backup singers pick up the slack. So, yes, there probably were several points in there where she forgot the word. But she has a very large catalog spanning decades. And she's 82 years old, y'all.
00:12:39
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please. And she was still hitting all of those notes perfectly, cleanly, kicked off her pumps. had about seven pairs of different style flats on the stage at different places so that she could grab a pair of shoes at any point wherever she was on stage. Because she's 82. Because she's 82. But she was going to come out in them heels. She came out in them. But it is her signature to kick her heels off into the air. So that did happen.
00:13:06
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And then... Babyface. Oh, Babyface was 82? Babyface. Hold on, but did Patti sing On My Own? Yes. because That's my favorite Patti LaBelle song. Yes. Okay. Yes, of course then Babyface came out there. Did he come out there with Take Six?
00:13:24
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He didn't need to. Let me tell you something. Babyface not only performed his hits, he performed that all the hits he's written. Mm-hmm.
00:13:35
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And he doesn't... Hold on, concert forever? Pretty much forever. I mean, it no, it started it started and at like 7.30 is when like the opening acts, like there was Leon Thomas and like there were different opening acts. So, and then it goes to about two in the morning. Did we make it the whole time? no because no, I got to get, um'm I'm on my back to the hotel.
00:14:01
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But yeah, he performed them like, He had like a billboard chart and every number one he had for different decades, he would just perform that. And you really forget like how many songs he's written for literally everybody and how just amazingly talented he is as a songwriter alone, not to mention as a singer himself and as a producer.
00:14:28
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Ladies and gentlemen, if y'all don't understand who Babyface is, shame on you. But let me just explain to you who Babyface is. Every single one of Boyz II Men's hits, every single one, Babyface wrote them. You love Water Runs Dry?
00:14:41
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huh Down on Bending Knee? Come on now. The only thing he didn't write was Motown Philly. Right. That was the only thing. He performed Rony, which I loved. Yeah, of course you did. Because, of course, he wrote a majority of the songs on the Don't Be Cruel album of Bobby Brown.
00:15:01
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I mean, if take a take some time. If you don't know who Babyface take some time. Google songs Babyface has written. And you will be like...
00:15:13
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How did I not know who this person is? It's weird that you don't know who this person is if you don't know who this person No, not weird. it's It's not weird. It's because Babyface hasn't been end pop culture in like 25 years.
00:15:27
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he So like hes you forget there's a whole generation. No, there's a whole generation of adults who would not know anything about Babyface because he has not been in pop culture for 25 years.
00:15:41
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That's the reason why that one artist didn't recognize, didn't know who he was, and everybody was getting on her, and they were like, how does she not know who Babyface is? Because she's a kid. yeah She's 25 years old. Like, of course she doesn't know who Babyface is.
00:15:54
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Yeah, but written hundreds of R&B and pop hits. Hundreds. Whitney Houston, Boyz II Men, Toni Braxton, Madonna, Ariana Grande.
00:16:05
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The list goes on and on and on of the people that he has written for. Some of your favorite songs from the 80s, 90s, and 2000s were likely written by Babyface.
00:16:16
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Especially if it's a ballad. If it's a ballad, he did it. So you got... So that was it for so Saturday. What happened on Sunday? Sunday, George Clinton, Parliament Funkadelic.
00:16:28
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Okay? And the show closed with T.I. performing with the Louisiana Philharmonic. Wow. Yeah. Top tier.
00:16:39
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Top, top, top tier. And also something really, really special happened that I'm still kind of like... can't believe that this happened to us.
00:16:51
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So Saturday night... we're we're going through security. There's a lady in front of us. We're going through security. And then we go and go off to go up the escalator because, you know, i bought I bought decencies. They weren't in the nosebleeds, but they weren't on the first tier. Right, right, right. They were in the 300 section. So Friday, you know, we had to climb them steps. I am afraid of heights, particularly in stadiums. So I had to...
00:17:21
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I had to wrangle that so that I could make sure we could get my mom to to and from the seat safely. Right. ah But we're headed to the escalator to go up, and I get a tap on my shoulder. Excuse me. And it's the lady who was in line in front of us at security. She said, holding out her tickets, would you two be interested in sitting on the floor? Yeah.
00:17:43
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And it took me probably like a minute and a half to really register what she was saying. She was like, you can sit in your seats, but I'm just saying I have two ticket, two floor seat tickets.
00:17:57
Speaker
And so apparently her friend does HR. Okay. For Essence. Okay. Okay. And gave her passes. And so she's like, so I got my passes. So I'm handing out her passes because she's like, i already got my tickets. I'm trying to give away these passes she gave me. Right. And so I'm still looking at it. She hands me the tickets. I'm holding the tickets. And I'm still...
00:18:22
Speaker
confused as hell because what are you talking about? Yeah. And I look at the tickets and they're actually for tonight floor seats. Yeah. She's like, you could just go down the escalator. She said like that?
00:18:36
Speaker
No, I'm saying it like that. Okay. yeah I said, we're not going up. Like I'm looking at my, I'm like, we're not going up. We're going down the escalator.
00:18:48
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And we get to the floor. We're on the floor 20 rows back. a And as we're going down the escalator... So y'all all of Patty. You saw baby faces sweat. We saw it all, okay? And as we're going down the escalator and walking to her seats, we're still walking with her, I said, now, Ma, I can't do this for you tomorrow, We're to have to climb those steps tomorrow.
00:19:12
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She said, give me your number. um I can help with that. And gave us floor seats for Sunday as well. All right. So, Jay, this is this is a difference between me and you. For the free, y'all. Yeah. This is a difference between me and you.
00:19:28
Speaker
And and this is the reason why I get so agitated with you personally. I am so grateful that your mom got to experience that. and Here is a resource.
00:19:40
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Did you get her name? Did you get her information to say i have her name, her number? Not only that. She lives in Maryland. Wow. Yes. What are the odds? What are the odds? Well, you know you got to send her a thank you gift. Oh, yeah.
00:19:56
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Okay. that's already That's already going to happen. oh Yes, absolutely. Because what? Yeah. That was so... Look. Woo! For the free? For the free. So y'all really... So mom got... Because mom is a P-Funk fan. Yes.
00:20:13
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Yes. Yes. P-Funk fans. Okay, that's good. That's reason why ain't here for y'all all weekend. Y'all was out there living our best life. To be honest with you, we were. Was it humid? Yes.
00:20:29
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So we had on a lot of linen. We looked great. we looked great And I really, really had a fun, fun time. i also want to point out That at the top, because this was going to be in the third segment, I asked you.
00:20:43
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You did. you get You think you got enough for a full segment? You did. was like, na probably not. And you didn't talk for 20 minutes. Yeah. So you did have a full segment. Here's the thing.
00:20:54
Speaker
I forgot I'm me. And you forgot I'm me. No, didn't forget that you was you. But I didn't know how focused you was going to be right now. Yeah, no, yeah. And i honestly, actually that was the last thing I had on my list of, like, things to talk about. So, but yeah, that was really, really special. And shout out to her. I'm not going to say her name on here, but shout out to her.
00:21:19
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And yes, she definitely, definitely will be getting some edible arrangement or some Sherry's berries or something from me, child. She's going to get something from me for sure. Yeah, that is so that is so dope because she gave you and our mom a dope-ass experience. in a lifetime type experience. Truly, because y'all I do not... Can I pay for the floor seats? Yes.
00:21:44
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Do I pay for the floor seats? Hell no. Hell no. I won't. I won't do it. So yes, for me, this is absolutely once in a lifetime because I wasn't about to pay them prices. I wasn't about to do it. Yes. so All right. So...
00:22:02
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That was your weekend. We're going to get into my birthday weekend a little bit and what I truly discovered about myself. And we're going to into that next.
Birthday Reflections and Aging
00:22:20
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Jay, as we know, I had a birthday while you were in New Orleans. I was here in D.C. not going down to the mall to celebrate the fourth of July. It was too damn hot. And also it's terrible.
00:22:34
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There was that as well. i People ask, people call, I got a lot of love on my birthday. Good. A friend of mine created this crazy AI image generating thing.
00:22:47
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Very hilarious. and that I was like, God, this encapsulates everything about me. The fact that I love chicken tenders, red lobster, and booty theyre big booty women, right? And and my alcohol. like yes One of them, I didn't even notice. Somebody picked up on it and it says, drinks all the drinks.
00:23:07
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And I was like, yeah. yeah Yeah, that sounds about right. That's pretty accurate. So people and were hitting me up and was like, hey, what are you going to do today? And I told them, not a damn thing.
00:23:18
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And he was like, why? It's 200 million degrees outside. The night before, I went to go see Supergirl. We're going to talk about that in the next segment. But I went to go see Supergirl, and I went down to the local town center that I live in, which is...
00:23:36
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A mile away, less than a mile away, right? It's a half a mile away. It's a whole mile if I walk down and back, right? Mm-hmm. So I'm walking back. It's midnight. It's midnight.
00:23:48
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Midnight. I can't breathe because the air is so thick. The humidity is so thick. Yeah. I'm walking home. It's a half a mile. I'm sweating profusely. I sweat through my shirt. The shirt is drenched. I have to...
00:24:04
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Pull it off of my body. I can't just just toss it or rip it or I got to pull it and rip it yeah and snag it off of my body because I'm dripping with sweat. And I said, on that night, my birthday Eve, I ain't doing nothing. I had all types of plans for my birthday. I was going to go down to Old Town Alexandria, my favorite Mexican spot. Now I was going to go down to my little town center. I was going to have drinks all day. People going pop in, pop out. It was going to be an extravaganza.
00:24:31
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You thought. Yeah, I didn't do none of that because it was too hot. Also, I didn't feel like being bothered. that's that's I wasn't depressed or anything. I was excited for my birthday. I was excited to sit and do nothing.
00:24:45
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Actually, I called you. FaceTimed you. And by the end, you're like, well, I'm done with this conversation. So I said, well, damn.
00:24:57
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You got to understand. You were trying to tell. had been contacting me all day. You know, I had a very long conversation with our father, with my yeah with my brother. Y'all were the last phone conversation. Matter of fact, I think I put my phone on do not disturb after that. Yeah. And yeah and we was on the phone for a good 30 minutes, and I was like, all right, about done with this.
00:25:18
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Yeah. That's exactly what your words were. I'm about done with this. yeah Well, at least I, look, at 46, I could be honest. but Yeah. I started thinking about the time that I drove you down to Atlanta.
00:25:34
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and You love telling the story. And I want to say it was 10 years ago, right? Yeah, I've been in Atlanta 10 years. Okay, so it was 10 years ago, probably around the same time. And I drove down there. I drove the whole way. move your stuff out of your car into your new apartment. I move our washer and dryer from my brother's old apartment to the new apartment, jump in the shower, get ready to go out.
00:25:56
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Yeah. Brother was like, what you mean go out? I mean, let's go out. The amount of energy you had that day is insane. And then I fast... this is This is all happening to me on my birthday. This is just stuff that's just coming to me. And I think about the last trip that I was down there in Atlanta, and he was like, you want to go nowhere and do nothing?
00:26:15
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And I was like, I'm chilling. Yeah. And he was like, what? What's going on? I mean, that's fine. That's fine with me. I'm not going, you know, make you do anything. But that it was so out of character. Right. Because you're usually like, where are we going?
00:26:28
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Right. Because I normally got to get up and go. Yes. But i ain't like that no more. and then And then I saw something on Instagram or TikTok or YouTube, whatever. It was a reel of some sort. And then a person was talking about being an introvert.
00:26:45
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yeah And I was like, oh, wait a minute, because I haven't always been introvert. I used to be an extrovert. And so I did a search, a Google search first, and I was like, is there a correlation between getting older and becoming an introvert?
00:26:59
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And there is. But it's not necessarily solely an introvert. What happens is many people become quieter as they get older. That doesn't necessarily mean they're being antisocial. More often, they're becoming more intentional with their time, energy, and relationships.
00:27:17
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Yeah. So the real question is whether you're choosing solitude because it restores you or because you're emotionally exhausted. It's a little bit of both. i I do it for solitude. I'm not emotionally exhausted.
00:27:35
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I just, I talk all the time. All the time. Also, part of it has been the podcast. It's also slowed me down in my personal life because I'm either filming the show or I'm interviewing somebody.
00:27:49
Speaker
And it's a lot of talking. And sometimes i don't feel like talking. People think, oh, Bruce, you must love to talk. Yeah, sort of sometimes. And then I'll be like, don't want to say a word. Well, I'd also want to just call out that like introversion is not being antisocial. That's not what it is. It just means you have a shorter social battery than an extrovert does. Like an extrovert gets energy from the crowd.
00:28:16
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An introvert is fine with the crowd. I just can't be here all day, every day. I also need time to myself. Like I have to have it in order to restore my social battery. So...
00:28:28
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I have always considered myself an introvert. i've I've never considered myself an extrovert. I think a lot of people find that ah interesting or they think I don't have any self-awareness. But i was like, if you get to know me, I don't go nowhere.
00:28:46
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ah Number one, you got to, boy, it's got to be something for me to come out the house. And then, you know, I'm just not, I'm not talkative, like on the phone type of thing. Like, you know, i'll send you a quick text.
00:28:59
Speaker
My thing is I call if I have something to tell you or a question to ask. Like, I have never called anybody just to shoot the shit. Like, I don't do that. I got a reason for why I'm calling you. Right.
00:29:13
Speaker
And then I would like to get off the phone. So it's like... So it's just because I just need... I talk all day. I'm in meetings all day. I'm talking all day long.
00:29:23
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And so a lot of times I don't want to hear or speak. Well, but back to my original thought process, it's about aging as well, right? Yeah. Because...
00:29:35
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Aging changes priorities. <unk> you're less in theella You're less interested in constant stimulation. You value is placed more on peace and meaningful relationships, kind of what were saying. Smaller circles by choice. It's more selective, not less social, just like you're saying. So as we get older, we often trade parties with for dinner with close friends, you know, right? We trade big groups for one-on-one conversations. We trade being noticed for being at peace. And I yeah i was talking to somebody. Yeah, you hope. hope Like some people age and they don't age out of it. yeah you well Well, you know, but I mean, that's just who they are, and there's nothing yeah wrong with that either. yeah i was talking to somebody, you.
00:30:25
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and It was you and another person, about what a surprise birthday party would for me would be like. Yes, yeah, the ideal one. yeah And I said, what I would want is I would want everybody to think that to have a surprise birthday party for me.
00:30:44
Speaker
But I don't actually want one. yes And so I was talking to another friend, and i it expanded out. People think because I had this podcast that I crave attention. There's no crowd. yeah So I treat this as just me and you having a conversation or me the person I'm interviewing having a a FaceTime conversation. I'm yeah really not thinking about the audience. It throws me for a loop when I see the numbers. yeah but i But I don't... If this was before an audience, I wouldn't be as... man Comfortable.
00:31:18
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Right. I wouldn't be as comfortable. So, but... I do like attention because I do peacock. I mean, I don't wear this dangling earring. Well, I do wear the dangling earring because I like it. But I mean, the fact that you have a dangling earring, you're drawing attention to yourself. So I do want attention. I don't want to be the center of it.
00:31:37
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Yeah. That's fair. I don't want to be center of it. I do prefer to control how I'm perceived, and that seems kind of like how do you do that?
00:31:51
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but Seems kind of narcissistic. No, no. I mean, in the sense that i i'm I'm not an extrovert, so I don't like to be perceived right by a large amount of people. That's why I don't like like you said, being a center of attention. i don't like crowds.
00:32:10
Speaker
I don't like being perceived by a lot of people at once because I don't have control over that. oh Yeah. So like i said, yeah. Narcissist. Or a control freak. One or the other. Yeah, that's not, I would say control freak. Well, I was told I'm not a control freak. I'm a project manager.
00:32:28
Speaker
All right. All right. I'll lean into that. Okay. Yeah. It's kind of just a nicer way saying control freak, but okay. Sure. But, you know, it's all in how you spend things. But I 100 percent agree with this. I think with age and experience comes like ah a change or a shift in your value system. Right. Like you would hope as you mature, you experience more things. There would be a shift in your value system. Yeah. yeah Like, you know, when you're young, I know this is like a trend with people of like, you know,
00:33:01
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people aren't necessarily out there looking for true, genuine friendships. They're looking for people who make them look good, right? Like, you always see it's a bunch of pretty women together in a friend group, or it's a bunch of really handsome or really tall men in this friend group. are like But it's like, are you all...
00:33:23
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friends because you like to party together and that's cool but like is there anything substantive about your friendship or is it all superficial and I think as you get older you start to realize man some of these relationships are kind of superficial and they're not really serving me and I'm into things that are serving me and I really want instead of just having these friendships with people that I just go out with oh or And I will put friendships very loosely because some of y'all, let me tell you, a girl's trip to Miami, that will let you know who your friends are. Because y'all can't seem to leave Miami as friends.
00:34:00
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ah You just can't seem to do it. i Stop going, y'all. If you care about the people in your life, just stop going. But, like, I think you just start to value as you get older your peace.
00:34:14
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Yeah. Well, and and I want to go back to what you originally said. And and being introverted isn't antisocial, but in a larger context, and being introverted versus being burnt out or introversion versus burnt out. Like, introversion is a alone time, recharges you. You still enjoy people. You just need less of them.
00:34:42
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Burnt out is nothing feels restorative. You feel emotionally drained, overwhelmed, and disconnected. So yeah there's a difference there. And I don't feel... There are times where I feel drained. Mm-hmm.
00:34:58
Speaker
But i think anybody would feel drained if they decided to work multiple full-time jobs. That was my dumb ass decision. And I don't know why I decided to do that. But most of the time for me, it's just restoring. But what I have noticed is I'm definitely introvert introverted now because that restorative time is more consistent and yeah takes longer.
00:35:28
Speaker
So I did something the other day, and all I did was go the gym and come home and take a shower. Mm-hmm. And I was like, I need to sit down for a couple hours and not do nothing.
00:35:43
Speaker
Yeah. because that took everything out of me. That's age, and that's also being an introvert. Whereas I used to be able to do things all day long, jump in the shower, and get ready to go out and spend all night out. And I can't, like, I don't even want to do those things. don't want to.
00:36:03
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I don't want to. It was funny because the whole time in New Orleans, you know, as our mother starts to get tired, she's like, I don't want to ruin it. You can stay out. Just go back whole time. I was like, I'm middle eight. I'm tired, too.
00:36:16
Speaker
Right. I don't stay. um in the I'm in the bed at 930. I don't stay out late like this. No. No, you are not. You are not ruining my time.
00:36:27
Speaker
I'm tired, too. I'm waiting on you. Mm-hmm. I'm tired, too. And I say to this all the time. I can do one thing, one thing a day, if that takes me out the house So if I go to the grocery store, that's my thing for the day. I can't.
00:36:42
Speaker
Don't ask me, hey, can we go this place and then this place, this, that, run all these errands. No. can do one thing. And then I'm tired and then I need to sit down somewhere. yeah And I really like your point about how you still enjoy people. You just need less of them. And I think it's not even really about the quantity. It's about the quality. Right.
00:37:07
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You realize that you really only need a handful of really good people in your community. That's it. You don't need a bunch of things like popularity.
00:37:18
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just don't. By the time you get to a certain age, you're like, I don't give a full damn if everyone likes me. I just need a couple people to.
00:37:30
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i I personally don't need anybody to like me. i am who I am. like yeah and let me Let me just start with that. I personally don't. I could give... a full damn yeah if if people don't like me. I don't care because I like me.
00:37:48
Speaker
And it took long time. mean, like, people I choose to be in community with, I would prefer that they like me. i would prefer everybody to love me. But they i don't i there's no craving people or ah Craving may not be the right word. Like, I don't need it. I don't yeah need it. No, I don't because need it. It's more of like, you know, i would rather have around me people that actually are for my good.
00:38:17
Speaker
yeah And who really, like, that is what... I don't need a bunch of people. I just need a handful of really good ones. That's it. Well, see, me and you are a little different in this regard. We both, I mean, we grew up in the same household, so we both moved around a lot. You got a little bit more stability from middle school to high school than I did, because you went to two different middle schools and just one high school. Yeah, I fought to only go to one. Right, where I went to...
00:38:46
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two different middle schools, and three different high schools. Unless I even get into elementary school, because I think I went to four, maybe even five different elementary schools. Yeah. We moved around so much that people that were my closest friends... Mm-hmm.
00:39:01
Speaker
Like you move away from, right? yeah There's the natural evolution of growing up and you just grow out of friendships. But you just... yeah So I don't... And it's object permanence, right? there that Well, that's what they say I might have. That that hasn't been diagnosed by, you know, certified. Well, I definitely do. And so you do if I move, even if we work for the same company, if my desk moves...
00:39:29
Speaker
If I change teams like that, I talk to the people around me. You know how many women have have resurfaced in my life? and And I'm like, yo, you are real dope. Like, what happened? How come we didn't work out?
00:39:44
Speaker
And they'll say, Bruce, you just kind of disappeared. And I was like, ah how do you, wait a minute, what do you mean that I disappeared? It was like, yeah, it was just like one day i didn't hear from you. The next day I didn't hear from you. and The next day I didn't hear from you. And I just felt like you were ghosting me.
00:39:57
Speaker
And I was like, I probably wasn't ghosting you, especially if you didn't do anything wrong. But who knows? Because of my memory, it don't take much to aggravate me to be like, I'm off this. But I was like, but also, if I don't hear from you and don't take it the wrong way, I just forgot about you.
00:40:14
Speaker
Yeah. I just forgot. You have issues with object permanence. Whatever. You forget. It's out of sight, out of mind. It literally is. And it's very difficult. have to be very, very strict with myself to make sure. And social media has helped a lot.
00:40:30
Speaker
Social media has helped a lot to make sure that I keep up with people and reach out to people and things like that. But it is still very difficult for me like to remember to do these things. Yeah. Look, man, I'd be busy, man. Look, i I'm one day rolls into the next. Next thing I know, four years in past, I don't even know how I got to 46. Yeah. i felt like I just turned 40 the other day.
00:40:52
Speaker
Yeah. Where the hell the four, five, six years go? I can't believe I've been in Atlanta for 10 years. Exactly. Right. It's like 10 years. Yeah. You've been in that house for five or six.
00:41:03
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I've been in this house for 10 years. Yeah. Sorry, i moved I've been in Atlanta for 11 years. I've been in this house for 10. This month. Oh, okay. All right. well There you go. You got to throw a party.
00:41:16
Speaker
You got to throw a party. 10 years, it's worth it. You know I hate doing that. Yeah, well, you do and you don't. But also, so people were asking me, like, when are we going to get together? When going to do stuff for my birthday? And I do. I want to get together with everybody. I want to hang out.
00:41:30
Speaker
What I will never do again is another party. People are like, you going to do another party? No, that's just nerve wracking for me. I have too many different sets of friend groups that are just yeah completely diverse because that's how I love to live my life and bringing them all together. It's always great yeah because there's never any friction, but it's always extremely interesting when they're like, huh, so you're friends with them. And I'm like,
00:41:57
Speaker
If they're funny, I'm gonna be friends with them. So, yes. So I'm not doing anything big. And we'll be celebrating my birthday probably into September because so many people were like, let's get together for drinks. And I'm like, that's a lot of y'all. And I'm not gonna do something every weekend. So... Yeah.
00:42:15
Speaker
We're gonna stress this out. Yeah, we're gonna stress this out. but We might be meeting for your birthday. Right. You know what saying? But it just is real interesting, like, as I was sitting down on a couch on my birthday, thinking to myself, yo, I'm a completely different person than what I was definitely 10 years ago, but maybe even five years ago. i
00:42:41
Speaker
I wanted to celebrate it. It was too hot. That's the reason why i didn't do anything, ladies gentlemen. don't want everybody like, what'd you say? No, it was ungodly hot. There's no reason for me to shower, put on my face moisturizer, yeah and then
Introversion vs Burnout
00:42:55
Speaker
walk outside. I got a bald head. immediately starts sweating. And and don't nothing burn worse than face moisturizer burning in your eyes. Yes.
00:43:04
Speaker
Yeah. Except sunblock. Which is the same, essentially the same thing. No, there's a different ingredients in sunblock. but But I'm talking about it's this lotion. But having chemical in your eye. Yeah, it's this lotion that is mixed in with your sweat dripping down to your eyeballs. And I sweat. I got a ball of hair. I be sweating, ladies and gentlemen. Mine got lash glue in it and all kind of stuff. Right. yeah You get all that in your eye, burns. It burns.
00:43:29
Speaker
But ladies and gentlemen, out what up the point I was trying to make with this segment is if you find yourself pulling back and you even have people in your life saying to you, you don't do the you know hang out or do the things you're doing, that doesn't necessarily mean that anything is wrong with you. Part of it is progressing and maturing and being yeah becoming older. But you do need to ask yourself,
00:43:52
Speaker
Are you an introvert or are you burnt out? Because those are two dramatically different things. And if you're burnt out, that's something that you really need to evaluate and talk to somebody about. But if it's just a matter of, I want to still see people, I still want to hang out with people, but not nearly as much as I used to, and it needs to be in this type of settings, that's fine.
00:44:14
Speaker
That just means that you are creating boundaries in your life. And the most important thing to you is your peace. Yeah. And let me tell you something. As you get older, that peace, look, I'll take peace anything. Ain't nothing like it.
00:44:28
Speaker
Nothing like it. You stop. don't got worry about nothing? Yes. That's it for me. It was nothing like it. if you and And I always, too, encourage people, make decisions for your life prioritizing your peace.
00:44:44
Speaker
Mm-hmm. right and that could be relationships your job fight whatever it is make decisions with the priority being your piece
00:45:00
Speaker
all right jay to wrap it up today i want to talk about something that is near and dear to my heart now as i said in the last segment My birthday Eve, I went down to go see Supergirl.
Supergirl Movie Backlash
00:45:14
Speaker
Was extremely excited to go see Supergirl. Been looking forward to it.
00:45:19
Speaker
Yeah. I knew by the mere fact that it was a woman that is the star of the movie in a masculine-ish type of role. Mm-hmm.
00:45:35
Speaker
that there was going to be backlash. So I couldn't see it when the movie first came out. I had to wait exactly one week. And I avoided going online or reading anything. I was like, I want to experience this for me without it being tainted in any way.
00:45:51
Speaker
So I went to go see the movie. I enjoyed the movie. Let me put that first by saying I enjoyed the movie. Okay. A lot of people have not been enjoying the movie. its So much so that the $275 million dollars budget,
00:46:13
Speaker
they ain't going to make that back. Looks like they're going make, they're going to lose $100 million from the studio and that they only got $37 to $38 million opening day weekend. And let's just put it into context.
00:46:29
Speaker
Spider-Man Brand New Day is coming out later this month. Okay. It would probably triple that on the opening day. Yeah. Supergirl got that in the opening weekend.
00:46:42
Speaker
Now... Just as I thought, immediately as I got of the movie theater, as I was walking back in that thick air, sweating profusely, I went on to a podcaster that I'm slowly but surely starting to turn away from because I'm seeing where their views are.
00:46:59
Speaker
I'm seeing yeah where their takes are. And I'm like, oh, you have a very narrow view of things. Like they said that, ah goodness, what was it? Oh, 21 Jump Street and 22 Jump Street were the greatest comedy sequels ever.
00:47:14
Speaker
And I was like, I haven't really gave it that much thought. But no, because they're they're funny. no But no. Right. I would give Rush Hour. Eddie Murphy exists, right? well How many sequels has he done?
00:47:28
Speaker
Another 48 hours. Beverly Hills Cop 2. Beverly Hills Cop 2. but Not only that, the Fridays are multiple singles. I was like, so so I'm like, okay, you guys have a very, you're supposed to be like these movie people, but you have a very narrow view. Anyway, so I watched it.
00:47:46
Speaker
And he made some valid points when he was talking about it. One of the main things was, as I said to myself, as I was listening to them, and I thought about it, because before they even brought it out, I walked out the movie theater and I said, the pacing of the movie wasn't right.
00:48:01
Speaker
And I was like, there's a really, really good movie. Probably not great, but a really, really good movie in there. But it wasn't edited right. And then I thought about how I do the interviews. And ladies and gentlemen, if you pay attention to the interviews, you will know that the first question I ask is always take me back.
00:48:19
Speaker
Tell me about your upbringing, your life, or whatever. There's a method to my madness. There's a reason why I do it. I'm going let y'all behind the scenes and give y'all secret sauce. I do that because no matter what topic that they're talking about,
00:48:33
Speaker
That first question is to humanize them and to bring you into them personally, to develop a personal relationship so that you're more invested into what they're going to be talking about, whether they're talking about a book that they did, movie that they produce, what have you, an important social issue, what have you, bring it back and humanize that person first. That way you can get the understanding. yeah And I felt like in Supergirl,
00:49:00
Speaker
They did the origin as flashbacks. And that's fine if it's Superman or Batman when everybody knows what the origin is. But they even changed what the origin is for Supergirl. And Supergirl's got like five different origins throughout the comics. So you there is no universal origin.
00:49:20
Speaker
for Supergirl. And this is a new character, sort of, that you're introducing. And I thought, oh man, they didn't they didn't make us invested into Supergirl because they did the flashbacks of the origin story, which is supposed to give you that personal feel, yeah as opposed to putting it at the beginning of the movie. And I was like, I'm not an editor.
00:49:43
Speaker
But... I put together enough media to realize that that's... you want to structure the emotional beats a certain way. And I was like, oh, man, that's that's what the main problem... There's a good movie here, but that's the main problem. You being a film director, screenwriter, editor... Mm-hmm.
00:50:02
Speaker
I wanted to get your expertise of when you've done your own stuff, you filmed it and you'll edit it. Yes. What's going through your process? Are there times where you've filmed things a certain way and then you get to the editing and you're like, I thought i storyboarded it like this, yeah but this ain't hitting the way I want to. I'm going move this here, move this there, and that'll flow better.
00:50:28
Speaker
Yes. So here's... Here's what I'll say about that. So a an editor is a second director in my eyes.
00:50:38
Speaker
The first director, who actually films the movie, has a script to work ah work off of, and they storyboard it out, but they're creating something from scratch.
00:50:52
Speaker
An editor is given pete images and is told to create a film out of, I have this, this is what I have. I only have this.
00:51:04
Speaker
So if stuff is shown as a flashback, that's because I only have this. It was shot that way. i i can only edit it this way.
00:51:17
Speaker
So i wouldn't put everything 100% on editing. Editing can only work with the material that it's given. I feel like with the flashbacks, there was enough flashbacks to put that sequenced at the beginning of the movie.
00:51:37
Speaker
It wasn't just a one scene flashback or two. It was multiple scenes that were flashback that had extended scenes. Yeah. So as being the second director, they don't have carte blanche to just do whatever they want. True. So if the script, the director, the studio is saying this is the way the story is going, you got to work within those parameters. So if they said we're going to give the backstory as flashbacks, then you like, well, I just got do the best I can.
00:52:11
Speaker
Yeah. Well, what that? I think that there were some other small issues that I had with the film. The film, I enjoyed the film. I didn't walk out of there disappointed. But there's lot of people that did walk out disappointed. But but here comes my second part ah of my argument here. And when I said, hey, are we paying attention to perception or reality? Because this movie, before it even hit the theaters, was getting hate. And it was getting hate in the Manosphere. And it was surprisingly getting a lot of hate from MAGA.
00:52:45
Speaker
It was getting a lot of hate from MAGA. and That's not surprising. That's not surprising. But then the star, Alcock, who is Supergirl, was... was critical and then criticized because she said all these anonymous things that are hating on the film before the film even comes out tend to have MAGA or American flags or man or Christian in the bio.
00:53:13
Speaker
and And nobody cares about what they had to think, which is somewhat true and somewhat not true, right? Because there is, like, half the country that is MAGA Or Christian, right? So you don't want to alienate those people, but you can't... If they got a bug stuck up their ass, then there's nothing that you can do to win those people over. I don't know if antagonizing them is the best thing to do, but... I think it's i think it's a good call out of the hypocrisy because what...
00:53:47
Speaker
is actually happening is misogyny, sexism. yeah And that is alive and well and in Christian conservatism. And it's alive and well in MAGA. You have MAGA women talking about, we shouldn't have the right to vote because women are too emotional. Meanwhile, you got a guy playing 2K that broke his television because the game is cheating them. So it's like... Hold on, but the game do be cheating.
00:54:16
Speaker
It don't. But like, right? But we're too emotional. So the these these kinds of ideas are are alive and well within these circles. So it's like it's calling out the hypocrisy. You say you're a Christian, right? But women with power, any kind of power,
00:54:38
Speaker
you are actively oppressing them through your vote, through your religious views, and all of these things. Like, mind you, it's like 51, 52% of this country is female.
00:54:51
Speaker
Mm-hmm. And so this is an attack on the majority.
Final Thoughts on Narratives
00:54:59
Speaker
i think any time you see a woman or women...
00:55:05
Speaker
headlining or starring in something, and they are powerful in some way, it's always going to be a problem yeah for people who live their lives by the rules and the ideology of patriarchy.
00:55:21
Speaker
I mean, there's that. There's also... Warner Brothers, Warner Brothers Discovery, and they great job of marketing this movie. Like, i'm not... Like, when they marketed Superman last year, it was everywhere.
00:55:37
Speaker
Yeah. And there a lot of people who like, there's a Supergirl movie coming out? I'm like, hmm, well, guess... I think I saw one trailer. Yeah, like, there wasn't a lot of marketing, so that's a a realistic reason why the... And then and they more reviews. And for the price find that very strange. Yeah.
00:55:54
Speaker
For the price tag, you would think, to make my money back, I need to throw money into the marketing this. Actually, when I think about it, I'm trying to think of woman-led, women-led movies that were highly marketed. I think Wonder Woman was, but I think that might have been it.
00:56:11
Speaker
I don't think Captain Marvel was. You know, I i just think women leads where they have power... Mm-hmm. Don't get marketed like that because, yeah, patriarchy.
00:56:29
Speaker
A lot of men are afraid of women. power That literally, that's the thing that I'm most attracted to. i don't want no delicate ass woman. Yeah. You know, I want a boss. there's And there's nothing wrong with being delicate and living in your femininity. And we all want soft life. say what I like. say what I like. But to fear...
00:56:53
Speaker
Power in women. You have to ask, why do you fear women with power? It's the same reason you fear people of color with power. It's the same reason you fear people of different sexual orientations or gender identities with power. It's because you think that they're going to treat you the way that you've been treating them.
00:57:15
Speaker
Facts. I brought all this up because I was so glad that I didn't... that I... One, I knew. I knew before reading any any reviews, like, I could... I i knew.
00:57:27
Speaker
i knew what was gonna happen. And I'm so glad that I just said, I'm not gonna pay attention to anything. yeah I'm just gonna go see the movie. Because I enjoyed the movie. yeah I enjoyed the movie so much.
00:57:40
Speaker
I don't think I watched Superman, the late the movie that came out last year, multiple times. I think I've watched bits and pieces of it multiple times. But nowhere near like when Man of Steel came out, I think I've watched that 30 or 40 times from beginning to end.
00:57:55
Speaker
yeah It's one of my favorite movies of all time. But Supergirl, I feel like I'm gonna rewatch it over and over again. And part of it is, it's not just one strong woman.
00:58:07
Speaker
It's two. And the second strong woman isn't a woman yet. It's a little girl. So it's got me hooked because I'm like, not just one strong woman. You got two.
00:58:18
Speaker
Yeah. And it's a junior strong woman. That's the reason why I loved Captain Marvel movie. If you love, wait a minute. Did you see The Marvels? The Marvels. Yes. If you like The Marvels,
00:58:31
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Go see Supergirl. You'll see what I'm saying about the editing. But the movie is still enjoyable. But but I feel like if I was, a ah like, went ahead of the studios and they showed it to me beforehand, i was like, the movie, there's ah there's a really, really good movie in here.
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I think it's enjoyable. I think that what you have as a flashback needs to be in the beginning. We've already shot it. I'm gonna give you money for reshoots because let's do this right. yeah Because we're introducing this new character and she already gonna get backlash. Also, here's another 100 million for marketing because I didn't see this on the Super Bowl.
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I've seen so many Spider-Man trailers. there I ain't seen no Supergirl trailers. But ladies and gentlemen, I'm just telling you, I enjoyed the movie. If you are a father or mother,
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and you are trying to breathe power and light into your daughter, little girl, that she can be anything that she wants to be, whether she wants to be a princess or badass warrior.
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You could take her to go see this movie. Yeah. and and know that that character does that. yeah Yes, so that's just my two cents. That's the beauty of movies. Like, we can get technical, and we can start dissecting the technical aspects of a film, but ultimately, the point of the entertainment industry is entertain. So if you good time,
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then ah and Then it was good. yeah And that's it. Like, it's not that hard. Like, I think we listen too much to critics and film reviews and things like that.
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People giving their, you know, technical opinion. Like, did you enjoy watching it? Did it entertain you? Are you not entertained? Are you not entertained? Yeah, then it was a good movie.
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And just just leave it at that. Yeah. Is that what you want to leave the people with? Because that was pretty good. Yeah. All right, you don't want to leave with nothing else? No, that's it.
01:00:41
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That's it? Okay. As we wrap today's show, I keep coming back to one word. It's the word that I use for the title of the show, perspective. Talking about Supergirl, and whether you think the movie failed because of bad marketing, politics, poor editing, or simply because audience didn't connect with it,
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The bigger lesson is how quickly narratives can take on a life of their own. We talk about getting older and maybe becoming a little bit more introverted, but maybe we're asking the wrong question.
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Maybe it's not that people become antisocial. Maybe they just stop giving their energy away so freely. Maybe wisdom isn't about having more people around you. It's about knowing who deserves access to your peace.
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And hearing Jay talk about her experience at Essence Fest was a reminder that there's still incredible value in genuine community. In a world where we're constantly connected online, there's something powerful about being present with people in real life, sharing culture, conversations, and experiences that can't be replicated through a screen.
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But here's the uncomfortable part people don't want to talk about. So much of our lives today is shaped by stories we've accepted before we've had our own experience. We let headlines decide whether a movie is worth watching. We let social media decide who deserves our attention. We let other people define what success looks like, what getting older should feel like, even who belongs in our lives.
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Somewhere along the way, we stopped experiencing life for ourselves and started outsourcing our opinions. Maybe that's the reason why people feel so disconnected. Not because we're surrounded by wrong people, but because we're listening to the wrong voices.
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So this week, challenge yourself to experience something before you judge it. Protect your peace without isolating yourself. Build real relationships instead of chasing digital validation.
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And never let someone else's narrative become the author of your own life. Because the strongest perspective you'll ever have... that' the same is the one you earn for yourself.
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Ladies and gentlemen, I want to thank you for listening. I want to thank you for watching. And until next time, as always, I'll holla.
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