Transcript
Speaker: How's everyone doing? I'm going to see. You can see everything tomorrow. i am very, very late to the party, but better late than never, right?
Speaker: The way how everyone has been talking about it, I hate that I have not been able to be a part of the discourse and I've just tried to spend so much time dodging all of the spoilers because too many people love to spoil things. So anyways, but and then a huge story was Love is Blind, Netherlands. There is an African woman.
Speaker: um I guess she's Ethiopian. And she gets engaged to a white man named Jurian. Her name is Mika. So when she's in the pods...
Speaker: on Love is Blind, Durian says, is there anyone you wouldn't want to date? And he said, yes, I wouldn't date a fully Black woman. Meanwhile, she is a fully Black woman, an African Black woman, who proceeds to get engaged to him regardless and marry him.
Speaker: So when I saw the clip, of Jurian saying he would not want to be or he would not be with a fully Black woman. And then I saw that he found out he is engaged to a fully Black woman I wanted to vomit.
Speaker: I was so locked in. I was like, okay, I have to watch this season because of this. Luckily, i follow a YouTuber who is only following this couple. She's not following anyone else on the season because realistically, Love is Blind is releasing multiple seasons simultaneously.
Speaker: Like the time to be on this show and have your glow up was really the first time I'll give it six seasons.
Speaker: Now we're on season 11 in America and they are just churning them out way too often. Round the clock when you consider how many other countries there are. And I don't even watch the other countries.
Speaker: And the show is incredible. I wish I could watch all of the seasons, but there's just too many. So when I saw that clip of Jurian saying he doesn't want a fully black woman,
Speaker: Keyword, like, pay attention to what he's saying, right? Like, he's saying, like, he'll date somebody mixed, but bully, Black, hard no. And then she got engaged to him anyways.
Speaker: And she got married to him. Don't be a Micah, bitch. Don't be a Micah. Like, that's kind of the point of this episode. This episode is to talk about the toxic women of Love is Blind, Netherlands, and Love is Blind, season 11, Boston.
Speaker: Because we always have people who are toxic on this show. I already talked about Benita. And usually I talk about the men. The men haven't been too terrible. and And this season on season 11. And if they have been, they haven't been terrible enough to really justify a full episode.
Speaker: i am 100% off the cuff right now. I am improv-ing. this like i feel like i need a break Honestly, like I get a lot of pitches and I want to some of the people that I get pitches for are great.
Speaker: I really enjoy them. The people that I actually let come on, I don't accept all my pitches, but I want to get to I want to talk to people about their bad relationships, which is what I do here.
Speaker: So just know that I kind of intend to put a pause on interviewing professionals and get back to the meat and potatoes um very soon, to be honest, because I miss it and I love it. And it's so much fun for me.
Speaker: so Absolutely so much fun for me. And if it's fun for me, it has to be fun for you. But anyway, i like to do episodes about Love is Blind, sometimes The Ultimatum, some of these shows, because not only do they get me the most downloads, just being transparent, but people, too many people dismiss reality tv but reality tv is should be used as a sociology experiment, and you should be able to see parts of yourself
Speaker: in the people that you watch on TV and identify what similarities there are and say, okay, I want to be a better person because I don't like watching this. It's kind of similar to when you are the sober one in a room full or in a group of drunk people. You say, if this is how I am when I'm drunk, I don't want to be drunk.
Speaker: Or if this is how I am when I'm drunk, I only want to be around drunk people because I'm a menace to a sober person. you know Drunk people are always so much louder than sober people and intense, and a lot of them are sloppy.
Speaker: And so witnessing that, being the sober person, you're like, okay, I don't want to present myself this way. And that's how I feel when I watch people on reality TV. I'm like, hmm, I've done that. I've said that. I don't want to do it again because it doesn't come across well.
Speaker: Right. So we got Mika. And here's the thing. If someone is telling me blatantly outright that they do not want to be with the person that I am.
Speaker: Now, race is a big deal. This is not man saying he wants a blonde and then you could go purchase hair dye to say that you do not want to be with a black woman.
Speaker: And then to be with a fully Black woman and still proceed. I don't think that Mika was doing this because she's on a show and wanted to be on TV. I think she's a loser.
Speaker: i think she has an inferiority complex. and But I'm using her as an example because I think a lot of people do this.
Speaker: whether it's race, height, weight, hair of color, interests, lifestyles, careers. Like if someone if someone tells you to your face, I do not want to be with who you are, who you are isn't my type.
Speaker: You're supposed to listen. You're not supposed to be a Micah, right? And you know that already, but I'm just mentioning it because I cannot believe in our Dear Lord, or however people say it, 2026, that a bitch got married to a man who said he doesn't want to be with her. Are you kidding me?
Speaker: And you want to have children with a man who doesn't want to be with you? So what I think happened here is I think that Jurian didn't want to look racist.
Speaker: So when he found out that his bitch is black, In the Love is Blind reveal, he just played it off like it ain't no thing. He dated her like it wasn't a big deal According to the blogger or the YouTuber that I watch, he kept pressing her for sex. And here's the thing.
Speaker: I do not believe that anybody should go on a dating show where they have a literally have a honeymoon together and they live together and not want to have sex.
Speaker: I just don't believe a show is the right setting and format for anyone who wants to abstain and be celibate until marriage.
Speaker: Like, I just don't think you should be on the show if you don't want to have sex first. Like, there's too many other ways for you to date than for you to have a camera in your face and say that you don't want to have sex with somebody.
Speaker: I think it's natural for a Beyonce to want to have sex with a person that they're engaged to. i don't think that makes him a bad person at all. And I just don't really understand the logic or reasoning behind getting engaged to somebody and then you want them to hold out.
Speaker: It's very weird to me. So I'm on team jurian with this. Like, I'm not going to marry somebody who has not dicked me down. Like, it's not happening. So I think that Mika is weird for that.
Speaker: And I think it just had a lot, it created a lot of unnecessary tension. And I just don't think that women should do this. Like if you really want to hold out until you're married, find someone to date who also wants that because it's not fair. It's not right to just have all this tension.
Speaker: So They seem to have a lot of physical chemistry and he really wanted to have sex with her. She was holding out. It looks like they never had sex before they got married.
Speaker: i'm I'm not fully 100% caught up on the last crop of episodes, but I do know what happened in the reunion, so I apologize. But my point is, why marry someone who said they don't want to be with you?
Speaker: Like, or date someone. It happens. And it's not as big of, like, race is, like, one of the biggest deal breakers. Race, religion, arguably politics, things like that. But you need to run. Like, I cannot believe that somebody did this.
Speaker: I can't believe it And Jurian, again, like, I just think he was there for the cameras because they got married. And guess what? A few months later, divorce.
Speaker: Because apparently Jurian was always flirting with other women and he has a white girlfriend right now. Surprise! So it's like this bitch like wasted all of everybody's time and money.
Speaker: All of it. He said he didn't want to be with a black woman and you still proceeded to try to coerce him, persuade him into marrying you. And on top of it, you you weren't even sleeping with him.
Speaker: Like this bitch, I'm sorry. i don't want to see her again. like maybe I'm going to see her pop up on my social media from here for one once in a while, but I'm done with the bitch.
Speaker: Next, we got Anaya from Love is Blind Boston, the current season. Or Aneha. Aneha, sorry. So she doesn't like him. And we always, I do not believe that men behave this way. I do.
Speaker: I've always fully believed that this is gendered behavior. i had a cousin who said that men do this, but I don't agree. Whenever a woman does not like a man, she nitpicks at him nonstop.
Speaker: We've seen it every single season of Love is Blind. And right now we're seeing it with Aneha. She doesn't like Cam. She talks to other her castmates, um,
Speaker: And kindly and with patience. But she doesn't like Cam. She's bothered by Cam. So all she does is non-stop nitpick. Tell him what he's doing wrong. Tell him what he needs to change.
Speaker: About his appearance. What he's doing wrong. How is her family is not going to like him. like She is here for the cameras. And she's certainly young enough where she doesn't have to settle. Aniha is, I think, 27, 26 or And it's like for her to be so uppity about Cam and we saw her camera or sorry, not her camera, her apartment.
Speaker: Her apartment looks like it's like 10 feet by 14 feet. Her whole damn apartment. And she pay pays $3,000 a month.
Speaker: She pays $3,000 a month for a shoebox studio. Yet she is such a snob. And I remember her saying she was like, I don't let people. It's a big deal that he's here. I don't let people come to my place.
Speaker: You shouldn't, bitch. That place is way too tiny. But Aniha is nitpicking at a man almost like she would like to mold him into who she would want him to be when the reality is she just doesn't like him.
Speaker: It's either there or it's not. It doesn't matter how much you nitpick. It doesn't matter how much you try to change someone. And I don't know why women do this. And I think it's really gendered behavior because I don't believe that men are investing much time and energy and resources into women that they don't want to be with.
Speaker: I don't think so. And I don't think they're sitting there nitpicking. I think they are ending it. But here we are with Aneha. poking at Cam, starting fights with him, nonstop um criticisms and accusations or whatever. And Cam goes with it and she doesn't like it. She wants him to be spicy, but that's not who he is.
Speaker: And i I hope for good things for him. I think he's going to be good. There's no way these two are getting married. And I think he's going to be good. Like, I think he's going to connect with the other girl he was connected with on the show or someone else.
Speaker: I certainly hope so. He has such a good heart and a warm spirit. And he doesn't deserve to be with someone who doesn't like him and makes him feel like shit. And I don't feel like he's fully clocking it.
Speaker: I think some people on this show are so tied to their experience in the pods that they want to give these relationships a chance. I don't deserve it.
Speaker: um So I'm just hopeful to see what happens with Cam. And Aneha, I understand she doesn't like him. I'm able to objectively say that how she treats Cam is not the way that she treats someone that she's in into.
Speaker: so I'm not saying like she's undateable and she's a mess overall. She just doesn't like Cam. She's probably great when she likes a guy. um But they need to, the casting department needs to do interviews grilling these people about whether or not their family will accept someone of a different religion or race. Because if they are not, let's stop wasting viewers' time by casting people whose families are not on board.
Speaker: It doesn't make for good entertainment. It's a very, very tired storyline that we don't need to see. I'm so sick of the family members all together who come with so much smoke for the people who get engaged to their family member. It's like, you know what the show is.
Speaker: The show has been on for 11 seasons because they keep churning them out, even though it premiered in 2020. Get over yourself. We don't have time for it. It's tired. um But yeah, just don't ever be an aneha. And I feel like I have to be speaking to some listeners who are an aneha.
Speaker: I've been an aneha. I believe that every woman who is with somebody she doesn't want to be with is an aneha. And it's wrong because we don't want a guy nitpicking at us. So why are we sitting there nitpicking at a guy? He will never be who we want him to be because we just don't like that person. It's either there or not.
Speaker: We cannot build a bear when it comes to a man. It's attraction and chemistry is there or it isn't. And too many people are trying to manufacture it. They're trying to create it. They're trying to talk themselves into it. And it will never work that way.
Speaker: It has never worked that way. And the people who are with people that they had to talk themselves into are miserable. So we just need to be honest with ourselves so that we're not anehas, so that we're not a nag.
Speaker: Because we're not a nag with people we are into. So why the hell should we be a nag? With anyone. No one deserves that. Next, we got Wilnie.
Speaker: People were making me laugh so much because on social media they were saying, how she a mental health professional? And I agree. Like, Wilnie doesn't seem strong enough for a relationship because she seems too territorial and possessive and desperate.
Speaker: So I feel like she needs to work on herself before she could be a good partner because she acts as though she believes this believes that nobody should have a past.
Speaker: Nobody should find anybody else attractive. um You gotta like really dote over her and be obsessed with her. Meanwhile, she doesn't want to give you any space to breathe. She's not going to let you miss her.
Speaker: She's going to be all up on you. She's going to be talking about how you're the best man of all time. And it's too desperate. It's too thirsty. It's a turnoff for me and I'm not dating the bitch.
Speaker: So Wilney is the example of a girl who ultimately, I believe, does not have high self-esteem, even though we saw she had her face on a blanket at her house and she looked really pretty. She is very pretty.
Speaker: But I feel like her self-esteem is not strong enough. to really be in a long-term relationship peacefully. I believe like she'll find reasons to create problems or magnify really trivial, insignificant things.
Speaker: So are you meetup? amika Are you an Aneha or a Micah? So are you a Micah? Are you an Aneha or are you a Wilmy? Or have you been any of these bitches before? Please don't. Please stop.
Speaker: Please, if you didn't watch the show and you could confirm what I said, please just listen to it and be like, I don't want to be someone who's trying to force someone to be with me.
Speaker: I do not want to be someone who's nitpicking at someone because ultimately the people nitpicking are wasting their time. They could be happy with someone they actually want to be with. And I don't want to be the insecure girl who a lot of times will drive a good person away with her insecurities.
Speaker: Right? That that is Wilney. So that's what I got to say about these bitches. um Like I said, i will try my best to get back to interviews soon um before I get more of the professionals back on I made you and it may do another improv episode about the discourse around modern dating because I get fed a lot of modern dating content And I'm so exhausted.
Speaker: I'm so exhausted by the negativity sometimes. It's really frustrating. It solves nothing. So maybe I will just kind of like do a debrief slash rant about the things that I come across because it's, it overwhelms me sometimes. Like I want the positivity. Like maybe I need to start following more couple sites.
Speaker: and marriage sites or whatever, because I'm just tired. We are doing ourselves a disservice by acting as though every single man on this earth is a piece of shit.
Speaker: And we are not talking about how shitty we are as women sometimes. Like, we conveniently leave that out of the discussion, right? So anyways, I will do an episode about that soon. i assume that is all. Talk to you soon.
Speaker: by
