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Speaker: You just have this like angelic light coming through on the side of your face. I'm an angel. Look at that. Look right there. um if you want to know what we're talking about, watch our social media clips and you can see video of the podcast. Some people might not know.
Speaker: that clips? That you can see how we look while we're doing the podcast if you go to our social media. Well, we're slowly posting long form the YouTube. Are they? Okay. I didn't know if that was happening. Very slowly.
Speaker: But I think there's like three or four up okay of our faces. And actually, we have a lot of listeners on YouTube. I don't know if it's real. A few of the episodes get like 2,000 but Why would it not be real? I mean, I know it's so shocking. It's hard to believe. It's on the podcast thing. So there's no comments or anything. That's the part that I'm like, is this are those real? But do people comment? I do a lot of stuff without commenting it. No, and I know. that's hard for you to but but it's just such a larger amount than any other platform, I guess.
Speaker: Okay. uh so no i bet i haven't seen you much this week i know you gotta catch me up no i and i have my memory is bad so i don't even remember what happened this week so i saw you monday we but briefly right right right at the park but i didn't i barely talked to you i talked to you for like two seconds yeah because uh rena is incapable of balancing multiple friend groups right I, it's, you know, it's like world colliding, you know, like I feel responsible for the person that I initially invited. i mean, I don't know if any of you get like that.
Speaker: Um, But, yeah. And then I looked at you. I remember as we were leaving, I was like, Paige looks sad. Did I? No, I probably just looked sad. And I did have a lot of other people to talk to. You did. You had your friends there. so did My friends. They're also your friends. Not as close.
Speaker: They're more your friends than life. I mean, i'm they're my friends. They love you. What? Yes. No. Yes. I mean, okay, they love Dean. But they like you a lot. No, you know, I realized recently that, like, I totally – tune out positive stuff from other like I always think everybody dislikes me to a fault of like I am tuning out any any friendliness or any type of actual invitation to like talk more or be friends. And why is that?
Speaker: Is it unfamiliar to you? I think I'm just, I just assume the worst and anything that doesn't fit that narrative, it just gets tuned out. So I've been trying to um really actually look at the other person and be like, oh, they're not being the way I thought they were. They actually are smiling and seem to want to keep talking.
Speaker: Yeah. Right. You have to pay attention. i have to like consciously get out of my own head and be like, look at them. What are they actually signaling? But it's a conscious process. It's not natural.
Speaker: Right. You have to try to do that. Yeah. Otherwise, I just assume they dislike me and I'm totally closed off. Most like 90% of the time. I mean, the good thing is you see these people so often that like you you have gotten there with Many people already. I've gotten past the hard part. Yes. once i'm Once someone's around a lot, except for that one person who like just doesn't talk to me a lot. But but it's still like fine. I know what you're talking about. Yeah. it's like it's fine. But I don't think it's because they don't like me anymore. Right. Right. Exactly. Now i'm like, oh, that's just them. Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah. And that's probably true for a lot of people. Although, I mean, there is a distinct possibility that everybody does secretly dislike me. It's not impossible. No, I would not.
Speaker: Would you tell me though? Yeah. Really? Yeah, i probably shouldn't, but I would. Really? Yes. oh That's why we're friends. I need to know the truth. Oh, yeah. Especially the negative. No, no one has ever said anything bad about you ever. Well, but maybe because they know we're friends. Yeah, probably. know you tell me because I act much closer to you.
Speaker: Except. Because I'm scared of everyone else. Except Monday. Except that then but. Because another friend. Was there? was higher. No, they're not. They're not higher. Superior. It's not a pecking order thing. I think it was more just like I felt like we had made a plan to hang out. I also hadn't seen her in a long time.
Speaker: So we were catching up. um And you left very suddenly. Yeah. So I think, yeah, I was counting on having more time. Like you could have – Maybe had more time. I thought, yeah, I was planning on trying to, i but i yeah, I have this, I have, and it's like something I'm actually working on is like the fallen response. So I feel like I need to take care of everyone. i think that's another reason I don't let people in because then they become in my mind, my responsibility, which is really egotistical. If you think about it people can take care of themselves. Yeah. But like I feel like I need to emotionally take care it care take a lot.
Speaker: So I'm really just putting that on myself. Nobody's telling me to do that. I mean, I literally just was. i was literally complaining to you. Except for you. yeah About but you know'm not paying enough attention to me. Yeah.
Speaker: But that's different. That's like. That's different than me. Yeah. on my own, just being like, Paige needs this from me and like constantly walking on eggshells and making sure that you're feeling okay around me and feeling like it's all my responsibility, like that type of stuff, you know? No, I hope you're never like that around me. I mean, I'm always like that to a certain degree around everybody, but I'm working on it. I'm working on it.
Speaker: Now, how are you spending your i'm working on rebuilding my body and getting healthier because it's been like three years of just completely not... paying attention or exercising or doing anything. So obviously like I'm, I'm doing Pilates all day. I did Pilates yesterday. Actually was an incredible. You're turning into, you're, you're going to fit right in with the moms at that place. Okay.
Speaker: No, they all have jobs and I want one too. Yeah. How's that going? Are you sucking up? Not good. No, and no. I mean, there's going to be all these birthday parties. I guess I'll talk to them more. How much chatting are you doing?
Speaker: With the other parents. Zero. Almost zero. Dean's the one who's doing that. When you go to pick them up. I smile. I smile. But it's like the pick up and drop off are not really a chatty time. Everyone's kind of hurrying. People are trying to get to work or trying to get to wherever they're getting to. Like, I mean, I've hung around a little bit.
Speaker: I talked to the director a bit. Like she's like always there. um And the teachers I always talk to because I want to know what the hell happened all day. Yeah. what do What have they told you lately?
Speaker: Well, yesterday they said he had trouble sharing. I was like, I'm not surprised. Breaking news. Yeah. I was like, he's been like that since 18 months. Like it's a personality thing, you know, ah but any advice you have. but what did that really mean when they said he had trouble sharing?
Speaker: ah i What was the underlying message? What i think it is, knowing him, is that he took something. Someone else wanted it and he held on for dear life and then maybe potentially got violent about it.
Speaker: That's the part they're not saying. Yeah, but I know that because I know We've seen it. Yes. Happen many times. Yeah. So I just said, like, look, I know he's like that. um And, you know, any advice you have, I'm open to, you know, and and like he's, you know, we're learning. he's She's like, it's normal. But, you know, that did happen.
Speaker: um Did she say this through gritted teeth? No, not at all. Because they've all been working there for years and years. They've had a lot of psychos. Yeah, exactly. Psychos, nothing new. But she was like, just a gentle reminder. And I was like, in my mind afterwards, I was like, does that work for you? Because I have to pry the toy. Wait, want you gently remind them? Just gently remind them to share.
Speaker: And I was like, does that work for you? Because I have to pry the toy from his cold, dead hands every time. Like there is no 90 percent the time. Sometimes we'll be like, OK, but like 90 percent of the time he is holding on for dear life and does not forget about it and then has a big meltdown.
Speaker: Yeah. Well, we do got to get to the bottom of this. But how that how do we fix it? I was just gonna I mean, I don't think there's I don't it's like, is there a fix for that? Or do they just age out of it eventually? like there are some kids doing some rough stuff.
Speaker: What do you mean? my kid's school. What's going on? they're five. So like, you know. Wait, what are they doing? mean, I'm not going to get into specifics. will. You won't? I'll tell you more later. If you pay $1,000 a month, you'll find out who the bad kids are. We should be setting up our Patreon if we have so many fans.
Speaker: ah That's true. um Let us know in the comments what on what, I don't know. If you would pay $5 a month to listen to this podcast. What's the email? It's boy moms. What's the email?
Speaker: um I don't, do we have an email? I've never checked. You've checked it. You've gotten emails. Yeah, that's always, i think if people are listening on Apple Podcasts and they go to send an email, it sends it to my Gmail, just my regular email. Okay, so email page. Yeah.
Speaker: And tell her if you would be willing to pay $5 month. To listen to this. And oh hopefully. and then if you want to pay more you can find out. You can find out the real deal. yeah We'll tell you names. All the bad kids. We'll tell you all of the names of the children and their addresses. ok Yeah. But yeah, hopefully 1 million people will email you and then- Oh, that'll add up. We'll make 5 million a month. And then we will spend it all at all time tomorrow.
Speaker: Oh, yeah. Oh, my God. We're going for brunch. Is Paige's tragic birthday past? Tragic birthday past. Paige is born on 9-11. It's kind of my whole thing. Yeah.
Speaker: I'm really milking it this year. i'm I mean, I'm getting a brunch one week later. What happened on the original? Like, how old were you when- It was my 11th birthday. Yeah. My golden birthday.
Speaker: It's all met like the 11 matches. I could read my diary entry from that day. Oh my God. Next episode, tune in. Paige is going to read her diary entry from her birthday on September 11th. It's crazy. It's really the most 11-year-old diary entry, 11-year-old girl diary entry could possibly imagine. findinging Aging out of violence. Well, you're saying that like five-year-olds are still bad. If they're not, very few of them. But it's possible. But if it's a personality trait, what then?
Speaker: You can't age out of a personality trait. I mean, if your personality trait is violence, that's a huge problem. I mean, it's it's epigenetics, right? So it could be like turned on or turned off. So it's like, so I need to just get in more in touch with like soothing. Should we be doing yoga or like, what what do you think? What would work in your professional mom of two boys a opinion? Ugh.
Speaker: On getting him. Yeah. pro I mean. To share better. and feel like we've tried it all. Like.
Speaker: I'm trying to think of what my favorite people I mean, a lot of people blame it on – Few words as possible what always hear. don't anything. No, you have to say stuff. Definitely say stuff. Just say few words as possible.
Speaker: Like, we don't hit. we we Right. Okay. Yeah. Fewer words is better, especially with boys. Okay. Clarity. That's a thing. Yes. Be very – I mean, you know. You interact with a man every day.
Speaker: Okay. Yeah. Basically just in grunts. So as few words as possible is the most effective. I mean, it's hard because you're not – there and god I'm gonna have to be dealing with this on Saturday obviously I'll owe you you know if you want me to cover I'm gonna go crazy at all time tomorrow let me tell you okay okay A large latte. I'm only going to get two. I'm going to get a bowl and a large latte. Go crazy, Paige. Come on, get a baked good. and they don't have vegan baked goods there. Well, maybe we could go to Doomy's or something. Oh, Wild's. Wild's has vegan baked goods apparently. so maybe They have a window. i didn't realize. They have like coffee. Yeah, in the mornings. I had no idea. I've never had it. No, but everyone keeps talking about this. You're showing so much restraint.
Speaker: i You're not – you haven't gone at all? I'm not – much as my physique wouldn't show. No, saying you like eat a lot, okay? No, I just don't. just saying you like spending money on coffee. um No, I just – don't like – I'm not a big baked goods person. Like – and coffee, I've been really careful to make hard. The to-go coffee, yeah yeah. Yeah, that's why we get the to-go cups. um So you can feel like – Feel like you bought a coffee. I mean like –
Speaker: Yeah, and also because we can't keep track of reusable cups. We're just like physically incapable of doing that. You know, I'm definitely not the type of person to buy a baked good for like myself and my kids when I'm out and about. But I did it yesterday on the way to the park. We just missed a bus. So it's like we have just enough time to go to the coffee shop and pick up little tree. Did you go to Wilds?
Speaker: No, we went to a brew. Okay, yeah. Because they have because they definitely have vegan baked goods. Although the vibe there is – I like it. would. Even though that guy is a Giants fan. um And Mike used to work there like all the time. It's a little dour.
Speaker: Yeah. You know what saying? Yeah. That's why I like it. I know. That's what I'm saying. you like And it's one of the few places I think you could actually go and sit and write around here, despite there being so many coffee shops. We've been going to Dinosaurs. Dinosaurs go to you you want to go the other way. their coffee And you won't run into people as much you can. It's like, you're going to work hard. yeah That's where I go. I'll go there sometimes if I don't want to run into people. Oh, well, you might see us. So watch out. It's right, you know. And I bet your kid likes the dinosaur.
Speaker: Well, we go without him. You guys are really just retired. Well, I'm writing. I work when I go there. you But it's also close to your kid. Yeah, that makes sense. But, okay, so we got the the pi the pastry, and I was in such a good mood at the park.
Speaker: Because you ate the – Because you haven't had sugar in long. had some carbs some sugar, and it felt amazing. And my kid only – he only had a little bit. It was It obviously really for me.
Speaker: And I was walking on sunshine. Oh, heck yeah. Okay, so we'll have to add it. It was like $6.50 though. $6.50. For For one pastry. That's the thing. Oh, God. Do you know much that costs? Like actually? Well, actually with rent and labor, it's like, who knows? But the actual like ingredients is like $0.30. They took the tip screen away. Like she didn't even. Oh, really? Like she did it. She bypassed it. Yeah. They didn't make you a drink or anything. Yeah. Yeah. So I was like, thank you for not even putting the pressure on me. Yeah. tip you for handing me the pastry. Right. Right. And I'm a big tipper for baristas. Me too. I will do it. But the handing of the pastry, I was like, please don't make tip for it. No, handing the pastry. Yeah. Oh, my God. I saw actually a TikTok the other day that they turned around the screen to tip and it was like Israel, Palestine, 25%. And the person was like sweating. And then he finally picked the 25% and they were like, thought so. Oh, that's good. Yeah, it was good. Good strategy. It was a skit. I mean, a sketch or whatever. A sketch, a little sketch. Are you like a boomer? Oh, did you do your little skit? I'm getting aged. Yeah, it's true. like the old person on my improv team. Yeah.
Speaker: Like back in my day, who it was a two drink minimum. with' Just don't be one of those. Don't be the annoying. Don't be the one who's always talking about how much older you are than everyone else. Right. I shouldn't say it too much. Yeah. And some of them might be my age. They just dress young. So it's hard to tell. Right.
Speaker: I just, I came, our first meetup, I came from LACMA and I had the like LACMA sticker and I was wearing like a blouse. And it's like looked 10 billion years older than everyone.
Speaker: It made me look kind of official though. Right. And did treat you with more respect? No. I mean, i was like, oh, I forgot comedy and nobody listens to me. I was like, I'm used to being listened to now in conversation and I forgot comedy.
Speaker: how it is. Wait, they are listening to you and they're not listening to you? No. Why? Because I have a, because men in comedy. Oh, that's still a problem. No, they're fine on stage, which is really all I care about.
Speaker: Like it's like in conversation, we don't have to be talking so much. As long as you actually know how to listen in the show. fine but and everyone I think was socially nervous so there's that but it was like i was like oh it was all like flooded back to me like that Celine Dion song I like remembered being at the comedy store and how I would like say jokes and people just talk over me and nobody I was like oh yeah I forgot i forgot because I was with normal people for so long yeah comedy people are a special breed yeah
Speaker: unless they But everyone's just thinking about what they're going to say. That's right. Well, and they also didn't already know that I'm funny. So it's like they just thought I was so old. You're not vouched for Yeah. Yeah. So that's king there was no you lot a man sam that is it visit. Yeah. With my kid. like But yeah.
Speaker: Yeah. I did. When I was in my – I definitely thought anyone who was married, like there was – in one of my second city classes, there was a woman who was like 28 – eight And she was married. Has been. And I was like, oh my gosh, she's so – but I was like, she's sophisticated. okay i didn't think of her as old, but didn't think of her as older and sophisticated. But if she had been 42, it felt bit – I mean, she would have been ancient. Yes. Yeah, that's – Like I'm thinking of the people I went to film school with yeah who were – anyone who was like my age now. Yeah. old. Oh my gosh. Yeah. I know.
Speaker: But I think there's some people on my team that are actually closer to my age. I think they just aren't married and don't have a kid. So they're still like- No, that's why people- I feel like that's why a lot of people don't get married and have kids. is Right. Because it feels like the end. Right. Yeah.
Speaker: And it sucks that that's how it's- That is how it feels now to be a parent. Like you're a separate kind of person. You're in a different category. Whereas it used to be normal. I mean, it's also for comedy specifically. It is the end of a lot of aspects of being out at night. You can going out every night. Yeah. So – you know I'm sure a lot of people have written me off at this point of like she's out of the game. like a know But you're back in the game. I'll be back. You're doing this every Saturday?
Speaker: The practice – no, we have a show every two weeks and I think practice is going to be on every other week as well. So it's like – That's a lot. It's lot, I love improv. Because it can't be during the time when your kid is not – Obviously, because people are working. yeah Yeah. And hopefully I will be, too, at some point, although it's been tough. now OK, back to the violence thing, because I'm curious about this. Like, I'm always going to intervene, which, by the way, the other day on the playground, I think a mom was pretty disgusted with me for intervening. But I was like- Wait, not preventing him from hitting someone? He was like hogging the drums. was playing the drums. Someone else wanted to play and he was pushing her away.
Speaker: Yeah. So I was like, if you keep pushing, we're leaving the drums. And he pushed and I picked him up and took him away. Yeah. And he was screaming. It's it's really the dramatic reaction from the kid that makes people think like, what are you doing them? I'm sure she didn't think- No, because before that happened, she was like, my kid does that too. and It's no big deal. Like one of those like writing it off and I'm like, okay, but I don't let my kid do that.
Speaker: So I'm not going to, you know, like I don't care if you let your kid do that. Like good for you and your kid's a year younger. So like less of a big deal. he he can know yeah. No, he's not as strong. He can't.
Speaker: Yeah. Well, it was a girl, a little girl. Oh, that's. Hmm.
Speaker: Yeah. So I just, but I did feel a bit of, or i maybe I'm just, see, maybe I'm just not intaking positive affirmation. Maybe if I had really looked at her and seen her face and how she was looking at us, I would have realized that she wasn't really judging us.
Speaker: This might've all been my internal narrative. I'm sure was. Of being like, this is embarrassing to pick him up and him screaming. And like, so I don't know. I'll never know. I'm sure she didn't. gonna he's gonna stop but kids i've heard do crazy stuff in elementary school now because the internet has exposed them to just oh i believe it oh yeah like way too much yeah yes probably probably second graders second grade second grade is when it starts yeah got to get my kid out before then.
Speaker: But he's already witnessing this stuff and he knows it is bad. He's like, that was really bad. But I'm still like, even though he's saying that, I'm like, you're still. do you think he changes when you're not there? Like he's, I mean, he's a perfect angel when he's there. okay mike Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker: He'll come home and it's clear that he was like really keeping it together all day, which is fine. All right. As long as you hold space yeah for them to be crazy at home. Yes. yeah Yes, exactly. Like let them do whatever they need to do. And I talked to a friend.
Speaker: h She has a kid a year older. and I was talking to her about this stuff and she was she was giving me me advice on what they do when they get home, like how to deal with the transition from a school. Just let them do truly whatever they want to do. Don't yeah be like, oh, you want to do this? You want to do this? you Just let them do whatever they're naturally inclined to do. Yeah, yeah. Sometimes I want them to read a book because, you know, they don't get to read at school. ah So I'll like want them to go home and read or whatever.
Speaker: But if he's just mindlessly pushing a bus around yeah on the floor, then I just have to let him yeah do that, like ride it out. That makes sense. Yeah. So that kind of thing. Because he's decompressing.
Speaker: Yeah. So you got to work to do it. It's like when parents, when people get back from work and they need to decompress. Oh, yeah. Did you have a lot of decompressing parents?
Speaker: Yeah. I was going to say there was, I didn't have like a space to feel, well, I guess it was in my room. Like we were definitely bedroom house. Um, yeah, I think so. I'm trying to remember even. I don't, I think only my mom came home right away.
Speaker: But you're, so your kid is going to be fine. You're doing it all, you're doing it all right. You think? if you're if As long as you're physically preventing him from doing stuff, which you can't do at school. I can't do at school. I'm trusting that they're doing whatever they do. you know yeah i mean, he's learning. He did do, we're taking turns with me the other day. passed the drink back and forth. There's like something going on with what they're telling him. but ah I'll do my true professional evaluations. But do you think, because a lot of people blame it on being an only child.
Speaker: It doesn't help. What do you think about that? I think i think people do that. A little too much. Yeah. As like an excuse. yeah Because I'm like, I think this's this is his personality. Like it's like there are kids who are just not like <unk>t like this as much. like Yeah. Oh, yeah. I know plenty of only children who are fine with that stuff. Right. Yeah. So they don't like fixate on what they want and like not let it go. Yeah. know so then So then what is? Which also like I'm like this trait will serve him well in other areas set at some point later. It's just not great right now. Like going after what you want isn't inherently a bad thing.
Speaker: It's just that there's It is for a man. Okay? If you were a girl, everyone would be like, you go, girl. Right, yeah. It would like, girl boss, keep that toy. Get what you want. Yeah. Oh, yeah.
Speaker: I mean, I don't know. He has a good mix of like at school. He's friends with the girls and the boys. Like I think with the girls, he plays princesses and with the boys, he plays trucks and he just like does both. like Yeah. And at this age, that's good. Yeah. As you know, we watched Frozen many times, so he has stuff in common to talk about with some the girls.
Speaker: I can't wait to get to arguments about Frozen with him. oh He's a little older, you know. Oh, yeah? are you going argue about? The merits of Frozen. What, that Olaf couldn't have existed? or Oh, the writing, yeah. The structure's not great.
Speaker: Well, what else? What's the latest with the school and the videos and stuff? So we did it. We ended ai Slop for all of LAUSD.
Speaker: which I feel like I should get more credit for. That's millions of people. That's so many people. That's so many people. It's the second largest district in the country. You should get more. You should call up LA Times. And be like, look what we did. I know. This literally a story. it's like no one, because I posted that sub stack about it happening, about, in case you didn't listen the last episode, there was a full-on AI slop video in the slideshow that's sent over from LAUSD headquarters.
Speaker: for the social emotional learning program, whatever. So they do one of these every single day because there's a theme for each day. It's like mind mindfulness Monday, Grata Tuesday, bunch of crap.
Speaker: So the teachers don't pick the videos. It's just sent over from headquarters and they just play the videos. And the one that they played,
Speaker: now at this point, what, two weeks ago, was just full on AI swap. So we freaked out and went to the principal. And at first she was like, no, no, this wasn't shown. And she was like, oh, it was. Yeah, this was sent over from them.
Speaker: ah And then she said we could send her feedback about the video and then she would forward it to the right person. in the SEL program.
Speaker: And so we sent her an email with a long, like Mike put every single bullet point of all of the things that were messed up in the video, only mentioning at the very end that it was AI generated.
Speaker: huh So just to point out how bad of a video it was without even making it about like, this is why we're philosophically against AI. right He didn't mention that until the end. And then the principal came up to me the next day when I was picking my kid up and she said that she talked to The person at LAUSD headquarters, they had like a Zoom meeting.
Speaker: And she said that for now, they're just going to take out every single video from these slideshows until they can get their act together. What a success story. So every single kindergartner in the district was watching these videos because she emphasized that. She was like, yes, it was very widespread. Whoa. And now they're getting rid of them. I'm not sure what the timeline is for that or – if there's going to be a transition period.
Speaker: But she said that that they're going to get rid of them immediately and then work on it in the meantime. There might be videos again in the future, but maybe there will be some quality control. Some kind of quality control. I would hope so. Because it's like who, I still want to know. This is why I want the LA Times to investigate. How did this get there in the first place? Yeah.
Speaker: Who said this was okay? It just doesn't seem like it's treated seriously despite being viewed people. i mean, thousands and thousands and thousands of kids. Yeah, I'm not sure what the number. I tried try to figure it out, but I couldn't figure it out.
Speaker: I mean, is it LAUSD? Yeah, how big is the district, I guess? It's like how many kindergarten classes are there in each school? How many kids are in each class? I think it's like so all over the place. Hold on, let me just pause because this light is... Let me get your face...
Speaker: screen up there Okay. That's better. a little bit better. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. I mean, it's a very inspirational story because all you had to do was say something.
Speaker: And we were not ah catching flies with honey about it. Okay. We were not. But you weren't mean either. we weren't. Yeah. We were just aggressive and we acted quickly. Yeah. You were clear.
Speaker: um Which might not have been the approach. And all those people in that group. for the school who are allegedly anti-screens. Like, they don't know about, they don't know about this. You didn't tell them? but I did say in the larger group, the larger schools beyond screens group.
Speaker: Yeah. And there's obviously a lot of overlap. I think people don't read it as much because there are way more messages in that group. Did Mike also sign his name? Yeah, we said pageant Mike. Okay, so there was a man. That probably really helped. little more official. Yeah, she's never interacted with him, but.
Speaker: I mean, two, house like both parents. Yeah, yeah. um But maybe it's because she thinks that we have the money to contribute to the annual fundraising drive happening this week.
Speaker: Well. Which is very flattering. She does think that obviously we have no money at all. Yeah, who will not be contributing? A lot of. I mean, there are some rich parents. Really?
Speaker: At the public? Yeah. No, it's a nice it's a nice variety. ah of course, all the kids he's close to like are more like us. Okay. Because they somehow seem to find each other.
Speaker: But there are some really fancy parents. well So they can donate. Yeah. That's why I'm like, they'll take care of it. Yeah. going fine. Yeah. ha Well, that's why we're in this district. It's like because. Well, and it's common around here. Like they'll set. I'm sure said this before. Like they send their kids to the elementary school because it's considered a good elementary school. Right. And then they switch. But then they private once they hit middle school. Yeah, that's what everyone was telling me. And I'm like, yeah, I'm interested about why that's the logic. Like the parents. Someone said that me. I can't remember who said it. I don't think it was a parent. I think it was someone who's like friends with parents. Like, yeah.
Speaker: And they're like, yeah, that's what everyone does. You go there for elementary. And I'm like, but elementary is also really, at least really important. Elementary? Well, it's the least important in terms of college applications. Okay. But it's like, it's everything for foundational. And especially, i mean, the thing I'm concerned about right now, because the window is going to close fast, is obviously other languages. Like, yeah.
Speaker: Because that's like, you got to do that quick or it's like not going to be innate. What do you want to teach him? Just another language, like something, because he can do it right now. But we got to do it. Like, I'm like, I'm like, should we find like an immersive summer camp? I'm like, I don't know how I'm going to do this. because Can you speak to him in another language? I'm not so, it's like i I speak fluently, but not good enough to like just constantly be, and also my French accent, i like I'm not French. Like like guy like I can speak French. Maybe he could do something else, but you could support it at home. Yeah.
Speaker: I mean, the best thing is an immersive experience, but I'm like, unless we went to Montreal like for the summer and he went to summer camp there or something, it could be an idea. Yeah, maybe. Yeah. we're go to figure We got to figure something. We could stay with my mom. I mean, summer camp is cheap there.
Speaker: Oh. But it's like, that's only if we if we have remote jobs or some kind of contract work. Right. I guess you can just go. just go. You don't have to citizen to go Tampa. Well, we're working on his citizenship, but no, I don't think so.
Speaker: um I don't know. I have to look into it. But I think starting at three. He's so young. Yeah, starting at three. It's just we got to do Yeah, first English. He has to be good at English. Yeah, exactly. Once he's, but I'm like thinking ahead, like, because I'm like, I know the window's short, like, you know.
Speaker: but That book I'm always talking about, she talks about learning other languages and that you need to have – that's a misconception. Oh, they're going to learn multiple languages, especially people who hire nannies who don't speak English. And then, oh, well, they're just going to learn this language from her, but it actually – you need to have the – English established or whatever the language is. it's only at like three and half from like three and a half to four and a half. Yeah. basic so use high yeah I'm just thinking ahead. Cause I'm like, it's like, it's like, it feels like a door opens and then slams shut. And that's like, you're going get it in there right then. If it's going to really like be part of the building blocks.
Speaker: of the brain, you know, like, so, which I would like him to have, not the end of the world if he doesn't. Obviously my husband only speaks English and his English is good and that's fine. He's incredible and speaking. He's a very good talker. He's a good talker. He talks well, speaks well.
Speaker: um So, you know, not the end of the world, but like that and the music stuff, I'm like, I really want to get it in there foundationally, like, just so he has that. like When did you start, like, like piano lessons? Yeah.
Speaker: Well, started – my daycare had, like, a really good music program. So I started – But when did you start, like, singing? No, like, less – oh, singing. Oh, I just mean, like, singing. Like, just the – was like, you're going to get in the music. Musicality. No, no, that's crazy. Do they get music at his – They do a lot of music, yeah. So he's been singing lot.
Speaker: You know, I'm not sure if he has any of the, like, innate – you know, he's not perfectly on key or anything the way I used to be. But, like, maybe it'll come. Maybe not. But at least he'll have the rhythm and a bit of a foundation. Like, yeah.
Speaker: He's got to go to more of the Americana. For sure. music. Oh, yeah. You guys haven't been since. No, it's Tuesdays. But yeah, I don't i didn't start piano lessons. I wanted to start younger and I don't think it would have been bad if my parents had started me younger, but they made me wait till second grade.
Speaker: Got in there. Yeah, you can play music. Yeah. um But I was also more like like seriously obsessed with music. Like it was like- But you wanted to do Yeah, like I wanted to do that and ballet and perform. You know, like that was like where I was inclined naturally. so it's like- um But I think it all started with daycare and the singing. like and But I don't know. I don't know. I think also because my sister was into it. So I had like ah somebody to look up to. well What about your youngest? How's that been going? How's it feeling without with just one during the day?
Speaker: Yeah, it's weird. and It's crazy how easy it is to take care of one kid. One kid? it was hard for me. It's like almost zero. But his personality is also very chill. I mean, he gets crazy and clingy.
Speaker: because I think the transition to school has been hard for him. Right, he's used to his brother being there. Yeah, and at the park, we're still feeling out the park in the mornings.
Speaker: How's it going? ah it's good There just aren't very many people. ah Your kid was a huge loss. A lot of the kids are much younger. Yeah. So it's hard for him to have a kid to play with. Right. um I'm like, ah he's not even three yet and he's already the oldest.
Speaker: Because there was a whole co cohort that was between his age and my older one's age. But there are always were less, it seemed, that were our kids' age. Yeah.
Speaker: Like there were more your older kids age and then younger. Like, yeah, there was a bit of a gap in the middle. Yeah. At that playground. Yeah. So now my kid is the old one because everyone's already shipped their kids off and they're or they're looking to ship their kids. Oh, they are um And then, of course, and then there are some good ones, but they have parents. The parents are from other countries and you never know if they're going book it. Oh, just go back. They might just leave. Yeah. So I can't get too attached. Oh, come on. Because you just never know.
Speaker: Wow. Because it's happened to us a lot. Really? With like Australians. Yeah. All these people from other countries. There is a fun Australian family that goes, but it's the there the kids in school. is I think he's your older kids age, the kid.
Speaker: um But that dad seemed nice. I met his mother. She was cool. She was definitely like, the footwear is different here than Australia or whatever. She's like judging that someone wearing slides. It's like the worst dressed population I can think I was like, what's the difference? She's like, hiking boots, you know, or whatever you say it. I think it's just because they have giant insects there. but They don't want them crawling over their feet. Apparently it's the number one cause of car accidents is that someone sees a huge insect in their car.
Speaker: And they like swirled away from the insect. Yeah, because they're paying attention to the insect inside instead of the road. It's scary. A spider hanging down from a wall. Oh, Yeah, enough of a reason to never go. The spiders in Australia. Yeah, I know. They should just fry them up and eat them.
Speaker: They're beautiful creatures. Oh, yes. You love spiders, I don't mind spider. Is there any animal you dislike, or are they all just perfect? I mean, and i just, I like them in the general sense. Okay.
Speaker: You respect them. Yeah, yeah. But I wouldn't necessarily approach certain animals. Well, yeah. Like a lion. Predators. Just like I don't trust SUVs, you know? Yeah.
Speaker: Predators. Yeah. All right. Fair enough. So you're not going to take your kids to the jungle anytime soon. a safari does sound really cool. It's incredible. stay away. Have you been on a safari? Yeah. Really? Yeah, camping.
Speaker: Where? ah South Africa. Wow. was the most incredible experience of my life. Yeah. I highly recommend it. This is when the truth emerges about Rina's actual background. Okay. Oh, yes. I went on a safari in South Africa. Okay. But that's like the last time I went on a big trip, I think. It was like 15 years
Speaker: um But I can tell you the organization I went with, they were incredible. um But yeah, it really feels what like all the animals. I mean, we even saw penguins. They were mating. Penguins? Yes.
Speaker: I could show you pictures. I could send you some materials. we saw and We saw lions. We saw hippos. We saw giraffes. Everyone. And and the most amazing thing, well, one of the most amazing things was the birds, the amount of birds. And when you camp, you wake up with the birds and you hear all their different, like, chirps. And you're like, your body knows that, like, this is how you're supposed to be living. Like, we're all supposed to be living together, like the animals and the people and, like, There's something like it like resets you in terms of your like feeling of being human. i can't even explain it. i'm
Speaker: This explains why you don't seem inclined to do anything because you've had that experience and there's nowhere to go. There's nowhere. where yeah Yeah. It's all downhill. you Why do I need to get a job?
Speaker: Yeah. I already lived. Yeah. It's time to die. Yeah. Yeah.
