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Speaker: I am extremely excited to introduce our very first special guest.
Speaker: He's a reality TV star, personal trainer, and positivity influencer.
Speaker: Many of you may recognize him from The Bachelorette season 13, Bachelor in Paradise, and more.
Speaker: He's also known for his positivity and ability to motivate others.
Speaker: He has evolved in his self-development journey by figuring out who he is and what makes him tick.
Speaker: He was inspired by his passion of helping people and began servicing others by spreading knowledge to help others acquire a positive mindset towards their actions and day-to-day life.
Speaker: I am thrilled and honored to have him as my guest.
Speaker: Please help me in welcoming Eric Bigger.
Speaker: Whoa, whoa, whoa.
Speaker: That's a beautiful introduction.
Speaker: Thank you.
Speaker: Thank you for the intro.
Speaker: I'm happy to be here.
Speaker: Thank you so much for being here.
Speaker: Awesome.
Speaker: Excited to have you.
Speaker: Okay, so I want us to get started by getting to know you a little better.
Speaker: So tell us a little about your challenges from your background, your accomplishments, and also the idea behind Miracle Season.
Speaker: I mean, that's a lot to explain.
Speaker: I'm trying to figure out where do I start.
Speaker: So a little about your background first.
Speaker: Well, originally, I mean, I'm from Baltimore.
Speaker: I'm both from Baltimore, Maryland.
Speaker: Born and raised.
Speaker: And, yeah, I grew up wanting to play basketball, the dream of playing professional basketball and being in the NBA.
Speaker: The environment in which I grew up in was very toxic and negative.
Speaker: And it was a lot going on, a lot of violence, you know, drug dealing.
Speaker: It was even, you know, you got a wicked jump shot.
Speaker: or you sling in crack rap, right?
Speaker: So the male influence in my life were mostly the men were drug dealers.
Speaker: They were kingpins.
Speaker: They ran the neighborhood.
Speaker: So that was my influences as a man growing up.
Speaker: That's what I saw.
Speaker: But that's not what I seek to go after.
Speaker: I wanted to go pro.
Speaker: I wanted to play ball.
Speaker: I mean, just in general, I just think life for me was...
Speaker: Our challenges were different.
Speaker: Like, we wasn't poor.
Speaker: Like, I wasn't poor, but the circumstances were poor.
Speaker: Like, my mom was there.
Speaker: First of all, I've never seen my mom and dad's games.
Speaker: My mom was there, but I felt a little bit of emotional abandonment, if that makes sense.
Speaker: Mm-hmm.
Speaker: You know, she provided, she guide, but there was no, how you doing today?
Speaker: I love you.
Speaker: I was school.
Speaker: I really didn't get that one-on-one intimate connection with my mom or my dad, neither.
Speaker: My dad was a provider and not a guider.
Speaker: He would buy me sneakers, video games, take me to practice, take me to basketball games, but never showed me how to dribble or shoot a basketball.
Speaker: So I didn't get a lot of one-on-one time with my parents.
Speaker: And I mean, I was a good kid.
Speaker: Like I went to school, I got good grades, excelled in school.
Speaker: So that wasn't really a challenge for me.
Speaker: But I think as I got older, I didn't really know that my life at all was a challenge.
Speaker: I just thought that was normal for everybody, for mom and dad not to be together and you grow up the way you grow up.
Speaker: And then, you know, I went to school, played basketball with the junior college.
Speaker: From junior college, I transferred to Hampton University in the VA.
Speaker: Graduated with a BS in entrepreneurship.
Speaker: I graduated honors.
Speaker: I was mega cum laude.
Speaker: So I probably got one C my entire college career.
Speaker: I was a nerd.
Speaker: A lot of people don't know that about me, but really a nerd.
Speaker: And I love learning and I love school.
Speaker: You know, I love school.
Speaker: So from there, I graduated 2010.
Speaker: I was 22 years old.
Speaker: uh booked a one-way ticket a month after graduation i had a thousand dollars in my name and i moved to la and that's the dream that's when the dream started you know it was like and i never looked back you know 10 years later this is this is home this is where i'm at but that's a little bit you know it's more general but that's a little bit of my journey so many details to kind of
Speaker: give but that should be enough for people to really get a grasp of like a part of who i am and what i've become so but yeah that's the starting point and here i'm here in la 10 years later wow that that's amazing i mean it says a lot about you as a man and um to be able to differentiate yourself from your environment and still thrive and and be where you are today so that's that's really amazing
Speaker: Yeah, just bless.
Speaker: You know, that's one thing I don't I wouldn't change anything about my past.
Speaker: I just think it made me who I am.
Speaker: And, you know, I always say if it doesn't challenge you, it doesn't change you.
Speaker: It's all about your breakthrough.
Speaker: And everybody has a story.
Speaker: Everybody's been through something.
Speaker: But I think the most important ingredient is what are you going to do about it?
Speaker: You know, how are you going to respond?
Speaker: How are you going to adjust?
Speaker: It's either going to make you or it's going to break you.
Speaker: So I just try to take the positive route and, you know, take the negatives with the good and just keep it moving.
Speaker: And life will find you if you're willing to find yourself.
Speaker: So that's what happened for me.
Speaker: Definitely.
Speaker: Well said.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I mean, the whole idea of the podcast is to be able to make people aware.
Speaker: I know that everyone goes through different things, but what matters is being able to positive, being able to be positive and positive.
Speaker: to thrive in what environment that you are and just being able to constantly challenge yourself to get to where you want to be.
Speaker: So that's amazing.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: Awesome.
Speaker: So what's behind the miracle season?
Speaker: I see that.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: So it's miracle season.
Speaker: So basically what happens is this, I want to really break this down.
Speaker: So the listeners and people that's going to tune in really get this.
Speaker: And I want them to really be aware of,
Speaker: of their third eye or their intuition or their gut.
Speaker: You know, there's so many different terms for it.
Speaker: But so, um, 2017, March 13th was the first day that I saw Rachel Lindsay from the bachelorette on national TV.
Speaker: I was part of one of the four guys that,
Speaker: who had the privilege to see her before any of the other guys in the house.
Speaker: I don't know if it was on after the final roles of her season.
Speaker: They showed the audience a sneak peek of the guy.
Speaker: So at the time, we were filming in Burbank.
Speaker: I'm in my trailer with one of the producers.
Speaker: His name is Louie.
Speaker: And I was like, man, it's miracle season.
Speaker: It's miracle season.
Speaker: But it wasn't like...
Speaker: It just came to me like you like it's like I channeled it like it came through like my intuition was like it was just coming to me like out of nowhere.
Speaker: I don't know where it came from, but I just know my spirit was like it's a miracle season.
Speaker: But at the time, I didn't really know what I was talking about.
Speaker: So the producer was like, listen, my man, you keep talking about this miracle season thing.
Speaker: I think you should say it on TV like you should like you should say it.
Speaker: I'm like, really?
Speaker: He's like, listen, it sounds good to me.
Speaker: It's clicking.
Speaker: It makes sense.
Speaker: Mm hmm.
Speaker: So what happened when I went on stage, everything I wanted to say, I said, and the crowd reaction, her reaction, it was just like I hit a game winning shot to win a basketball game.
Speaker: And after that moment, it felt so good.
Speaker: I'm like, wow.
Speaker: You know, this is only the introduction.
Speaker: We didn't even get out in the limbo yet, you know?
Speaker: So from that momentum, from that intentions, from that energy, that's what led me
Speaker: through my season on the show and so basically it's miracle season is anything that is a miracle and a miracle is anything that is big that is amazing that is something you that you earn that you accomplish but and to get the miracle you have to go through something so I say miracles they're not easy to attain but they're worth getting
Speaker: So for me, what I was foreshadowing, which I didn't know was my miracle of my season was me falling in love for the first time.
Speaker: And I went through so much.
Speaker: Like I got into the guys in the house.
Speaker: I got into the bachelorette.
Speaker: I banged up my body.
Speaker: I wanted to go home at one point.
Speaker: It was confusing.
Speaker: It was frustrating.
Speaker: It was overwhelming.
Speaker: I mean, literally it was just like life.
Speaker: You know, like it was just like life.
Speaker: That's basically what I went through in my 10 weeks that I was on the show.
Speaker: But on the back end of it all, I didn't end up with her, but I fell in love.
Speaker: And that was my miracle for that season was to fall in love for the first time.
Speaker: So I tell people, your miracle can be that new job.
Speaker: The miracle can be the new relationship.
Speaker: The miracle can be the promotion within your job.
Speaker: The miracle can be you moving to the other side of the country like I did, you know, 10 years ago.
Speaker: But what I'm saying to get your miracle in your season is
Speaker: You have to go through something or you will not be anything.
Speaker: And I think most people want a miracle to happen without doing any work or going through any vetted process or any type of resistance to get it.
Speaker: They just want it.
Speaker: And so I always tell people, be careful of what you wish for.
Speaker: And sometimes be careful what you pray for, because you might even get it.
Speaker: But you might not even want it when it arrives.
Speaker: So you got to be wary and you got to be aware of what you're saying, what you think you should have.
Speaker: What do you believe in and why do you believe in it?
Speaker: So that's what it's miracle season is.
Speaker: So if you're a miracle, I don't know how long you had to podcast, a few years, a few months.
Speaker: I don't know.
Speaker: But prior to having a podcast, there was a thought that became a thing.
Speaker: Now that you have it.
Speaker: The miracle is really not getting it.
Speaker: The miracle is what you had to go through to bring it to life.
Speaker: That makes sense.
Speaker: It's like a baby.
Speaker: I always tell a story.
Speaker: The miracle is when a woman is in labor, she's pregnant for nine months.
Speaker: She goes through so many different emotions, so many different pain and resistance.
Speaker: But on the back end of all of that, what comes out?
Speaker: A baby.
Speaker: That's the miracle.
Speaker: That's its miracle season.
Speaker: Everyone has a miracle, but what are you willing to do to get it?
Speaker: So that's what this miracle season really attained to, if that makes sense.
Speaker: Yes, it totally makes sense.
Speaker: So basically, the miracle is that dream, that thing that you want to accomplish that, like you said, like it could be a job or it could be whatever you want to get to in life.
Speaker: But in order to get there, you have to be able to be able to do the work.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: It's about that.
Speaker: There's a quote that I'm actually searching for.
Speaker: I think adults like this.
Speaker: Everyone has the ability to dream.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: But then I forgot the last part.
Speaker: But not everyone is willing to put in the work for it.
Speaker: I think that's how it goes.
Speaker: So it's basically like that.
Speaker: And referring back to what you said about thoughts, it's all about vibration and the law of attraction.
Speaker: So you have to be constantly positive.
Speaker: You have to be able to watch about what you're saying, what you're thinking, and the steps you take towards your dreams.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: And you got to know what you want.
Speaker: I think what I come across sometimes with people is that they say things they want, but they don't know why they want it.
Speaker: So I'll come across women who always want to be married.
Speaker: I want to be I want to get married.
Speaker: I want to get married.
Speaker: I want this person.
Speaker: I was like, why?
Speaker: Well, because I mean, why not?
Speaker: But I said, I don't know.
Speaker: I mean, I'm asking you as an individual.
Speaker: Why do you want to get married?
Speaker: What is it in you that makes you know that that's what you really want?
Speaker: If you really never had it or you really never experienced it, why do you want to get married?
Speaker: Or let's take it to a guy.
Speaker: Why do you want to make a lot of money?
Speaker: Why do you want to go pro?
Speaker: What is the intentions behind that?
Speaker: Why?
Speaker: So or, you know, when people go to church and some religions, they believe the religion that they don't.
Speaker: But they don't understand the religion.
Speaker: They just believe because that's what everybody else does.
Speaker: But do you understand it?
Speaker: You know, there's a Proverbs 4, 7 saying all you're getting gets understanding.
Speaker: And I think a lot of people believe in things they don't understand.
Speaker: They want things they don't even know what it is to have it.
Speaker: They just want it.
Speaker: It's like, oh, I want to be a millionaire.
Speaker: OK, are you willing to do the work that it takes to get a million?
Speaker: I want to write a book.
Speaker: Are you willing to do the, you know, it's like.
Speaker: So I think people really got to be aware of their intentions, their thoughts, their beliefs, their attitudes, their emotions, their feelings, and understand where does all that come from and why.
Speaker: You got to question yourself.
Speaker: You got to question your wants and your needs and your aspirations, because when we come into this world, we're programmed.
Speaker: Whether it's the TV, our moms, our dads, our sister brothers, uncle, cousins, someone is influencing us, programming us to believe something that is true to them or what they tell us is true.
Speaker: Oh, you have to speak English.
Speaker: You have to believe in this religion.
Speaker: You have to go to this school.
Speaker: You have to wear this.
Speaker: But what if I don't want to do that?
Speaker: So I think people are not into questioning what's already fixated or what's already given because it seemed like that's the norm of life.
Speaker: But I'm a person who I didn't always go against the grain because I wanted to challenge things.
Speaker: I just went against the grain just because I thought different.
Speaker: I didn't believe in certain things that others did, you know.
Speaker: So we just got to know why we want things and get to the root of that.
Speaker: And I think things that make sense.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: And I think the number one important thing is also being open-minded, right?
Speaker: Like you have to be able to be open-minded to be, to begin questioning things.
Speaker: If you're, if you're like, um, there's this thing, um, I've heard it somewhere.
Speaker: I don't know where, but if you, when you believe in something, um, you, you limit your ability to explore other things because for example, let's say, um,
Speaker: You believe in, I don't want to get into religion, but.
Speaker: No, say it.
Speaker: Let's talk about it.
Speaker: For example, like.
Speaker: You believe in religion.
Speaker: So you grow up in a religious family and that's that's all you know.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: So most of your beliefs come from from society, from your parents, like you said, from the influences that are around you.
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: But so if you are carrying that thought and that belief,
Speaker: and you're just always like, okay, I believe in this, then you're limited to opening yourself up to be able to question things, question things on the Bible, question your pastor, question your parents, to be able to see, okay, what's out there?
Speaker: What are all the other religions are about, right?
Speaker: And to be able to...
Speaker: If you're focused on one thing, that's the only thing that you're going to be focused on.
Speaker: But if you're open minded enough to explore different options, that's when the door actually opens to like questioning and seeing other things and actually forming your belief around around what you like.
Speaker: The answer is the new answers that you're going to get.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: You got to discern your truth.
Speaker: You got to discern what's true to you.
Speaker: Not what's true to what the pastor is saying or your mom or your dad is saying or even your boyfriend or girlfriend.
Speaker: What's true to you?
Speaker: Not even what's true to you or what's true to me.
Speaker: What's true to you?
Speaker: Because we're speaking from our perspective and our experiences.
Speaker: But what rings true for you, I think, is important.
Speaker: I think a lot of people are afraid to follow what they believe in because they don't want to be different or they want to fit in, which I understand.
Speaker: I've been there.
Speaker: But he or she who feels it knows it.
Speaker: And I think once you follow that, you'll be okay.
Speaker: Yeah, absolutely.
Speaker: Great.
Speaker: Awesome.
Speaker: So where does your inspiration come from?
Speaker: I know that you've mentioned that
Speaker: your environment was different, but you were able to, you know, study, focus on your studies and be good in school and be able to focus on your dreams enough to be able to get to where you are today.
Speaker: So how did that start?
Speaker: I just think, you know, honestly, it just kind of came from life, life itself.
Speaker: I mean, like I said, the men in my family, they were, you know, drug dealers.
Speaker: They sold endless drugs.
Speaker: So
Speaker: I saw a lot of good sides to that.
Speaker: They made a lot of money, but I also saw some of them go to prison for the rest of their life.
Speaker: And some of my friends being in the streets getting killed.
Speaker: And I just knew there was something more than life than just
Speaker: playing ball and being a dope boy or being on a block and being cool it has to be something more than baltimore city so i just always had a curious mind and i wanted to grow i wanted to learn i wanted to evolve and basketball was the vehicle that got me to a certain place and then eventually i got out of that vehicle and i started exploring life like what is life about what am i about who am i what do i want to do why do i believe these things you
Speaker: So I just went and did crazy research on myself, my horoscope, my NATO chart, my numerology, asking my mom and dad, how was it like when you were growing up?
Speaker: What did you believe?
Speaker: I just started questioning my life.
Speaker: Like, where does all this come from?
Speaker: And who am I?
Speaker: And why my name is this?
Speaker: And why do I look this way?
Speaker: And then I just started getting more information and more understanding and more awareness.
Speaker: And then my life started to change.
Speaker: And then different people I would attract into my life that would help me on my journey and get me to the next level, help me understand a perception or thought I might have.
Speaker: And just, you know, put me in the right space to be where I wanted to be.
Speaker: I just, just being curious, I think, and the inspiration of just, there has to be something better than what I'm seeing.
Speaker: This can't be life overall.
Speaker: So...
Speaker: Yeah, that's basically what it came from.
Speaker: Wanting more and wanting different from my life as a kid.
Speaker: Amazing.
Speaker: Yeah, and that's one of the things that I try to motivate other people to do.
Speaker: It's just being able to assess themselves and getting to know themselves better.
Speaker: It's crazy how...
Speaker: Even for me, I've been in my self-development journey for the longest now and I'm figuring out new things about myself.
Speaker: And that comes from researching and trying different things and reading and trying to get to know more about you.
Speaker: And from there also comes self-love, right?
Speaker: being able to accept and love yourself and those are many topics that we've covered on this podcast I'm happy you mentioned that so actually and I'm also happy you mentioned numerology and astrology okay let's get into that I study it I really like I got articles out about astrology that I wrote so I'm into it for sure
Speaker: Amazing.
Speaker: Okay.
Speaker: So actually, in an attempt to bring in new content out from you, I tried to listen to a lot of your interviews.
Speaker: And that was one thing that I wanted to bring up.
Speaker: Since you brought it up, we can go from here.
Speaker: So what made you interested in astrology and numerology?
Speaker: I'm just curious.
Speaker: Honestly, just curious about
Speaker: numbers uh then you know you know what happens is you think you know something and then you meet someone who knows more than you know and then they tell you something and i'm like oh what is this i don't know what this means oh we have a moon we have a rising we have a venus we have a jupiter we have a mars what is these planets and i have different signs in those planets oh wow yeah then you have your first house second house third house fourth house whoa wow interesting
Speaker: Curious guy, curious mind, curious George, that's who I am.
Speaker: So with that curiosity, I just went deeper and deeper and deeper and deeper until I got more information.
Speaker: And when I really examined all of it, it all rings true to who I am and what I've done.
Speaker: Like, people don't understand, right?
Speaker: In life, like, it might be crazy to say or it might, because some people don't believe in it, but I believe, of course, we all have free will.
Speaker: But it's written.
Speaker: Like when I go on my chart, there are certain things in my natal chart that tell me why I am who I am today and why I'm going to be who I am.
Speaker: There's a girl on YouTube.
Speaker: I forgot her name, but I actually looked up my chart.
Speaker: She was like, there are certain people, if they have certain signs in certain planets, they're either going to be popular, they're going to be famous, or they're just going to have crazy influence.
Speaker: Like there's nothing they can do about it.
Speaker: where some people want to aspire to get there and be that way.
Speaker: And it's just not for them.
Speaker: It's not in their chart to be that way.
Speaker: And then there's some people that feel like they can never get a break.
Speaker: But if they look deep into their chart, it'll break it down and explain to them
Speaker: Why is why do things happen?
Speaker: Why do you process things you do?
Speaker: Why can't you be faithful in a relationship?
Speaker: Or why don't you have a relationship and why you have trouble with money?
Speaker: You know, it's like it's so deep and it's so much information is overwhelming.
Speaker: But if people took the time to discover who they really are and what's really going on within themselves,
Speaker: They would have more peace inside.
Speaker: They wouldn't be freaking out or going crazy about life.
Speaker: Or I'm not there yet.
Speaker: I haven't found a person.
Speaker: I can't buy my house.
Speaker: Or I don't have resources that this person might have.
Speaker: It's deep.
Speaker: It's more than what's on the surface.
Speaker: So I try to give people the information to take what they need and use it however they need to for their benefit.
Speaker: But I study all of it.
Speaker: Amazing.
Speaker: It's so deep.
Speaker: Actually, since my high school days, my friend got me into horoscopes.
Speaker: And we used to do it as a ha-ha moment.
Speaker: We used to get so excited.
Speaker: I remember Yahoo had the best horoscopes.
Speaker: They don't have it anymore.
Speaker: It's removed.
Speaker: But after school, we would race into the library and just like read and laugh.
Speaker: And it used to be, I don't know, I always believed in it.
Speaker: And recently, like a couple of years back.
Speaker: I was shopping.
Speaker: I was shopping, doing something.
Speaker: And there was a lady in front of me that needed help.
Speaker: She was in line and I was helping the lady.
Speaker: And out of nowhere, like the lady is very intuitive.
Speaker: Okay.
Speaker: So out of nowhere, she like, we started talking, we were waiting in line to, for the checkout line.
Speaker: And she like, we, she told me, she was like, you're an empath.
Speaker: Like she told me many things.
Speaker: And I was just like,
Speaker: I couldn't wait till I got home to discover a lot of things.
Speaker: And when I read all the stuff that she said, it freaked me out.
Speaker: And I was like, oh my God, that's what it means.
Speaker: Do you know about empath?
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: Yeah, I know.
Speaker: Empath.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: So like my whole life, I never understood.
Speaker: Like till this day, I cannot watch like a horror movie or a lot of violence.
Speaker: Like it just it pains me.
Speaker: Like I can't watch like violent stuff on TV.
Speaker: I only watch comics and stuff.
Speaker: Right, right.
Speaker: And I never understood.
Speaker: Like, I am kind of sensitive.
Speaker: People, like, confide in me.
Speaker: I'm able to bring in comfort to a lot of people.
Speaker: And I, like, I never understood that until the lady mentioned it.
Speaker: And I went and did my research.
Speaker: And I was like, holy shit.
Speaker: Like, this checks out.
Speaker: I even took the test.
Speaker: And I was like, oh, my God, that's crazy.
Speaker: And that's when I, like, began, like,
Speaker: to get deep into it and I know my, I think my sun, moon and rising.
Speaker: But I want you to break it down for me.
Speaker: Can you guess what horoscope I am?
Speaker: I see.
Speaker: I'm only getting Scorpio and Capricorn.
Speaker: That's all I'm getting.
Speaker: No.
Speaker: Well, maybe that's your morning or rising sign.
Speaker: I don't know.
Speaker: What sign are you?
Speaker: Taurus?
Speaker: Okay.
Speaker: You're getting close.
Speaker: Um, Aries is my sign.
Speaker: Uh, moon is Pisces and then rising is Aries.
Speaker: Oh wow.
Speaker: You got a double fire.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Um, so I mean, let's see.
Speaker: I mean, Aries is a very dominant sign.
Speaker: It's fire.
Speaker: So they like to be in control.
Speaker: They like to lead.
Speaker: They're very dominant.
Speaker: They know what they want.
Speaker: They lack patience at times.
Speaker: Um,
Speaker: They're like the energy.
Speaker: They can take the attention if they want it.
Speaker: But they're actually the go-getters.
Speaker: They want to just do.
Speaker: They want to get it done.
Speaker: They don't want to wait.
Speaker: So they don't need you to tell them what to do.
Speaker: And they want to do everything on their own.
Speaker: They'd rather do it than someone else do it for them.
Speaker: Yeah, that's just interesting.
Speaker: Awesome.
Speaker: So what about...
Speaker: numerology.
Speaker: So I couldn't figure out how to calculate, but I found a calculator online and it's number nine.
Speaker: That's what you are?
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: So you're more like a, you're a giver, you know, you sacrifice time, money, energy for the greater good.
Speaker: You're like a humanitarian, a philanthropist.
Speaker: The only thing about nine is all they want is acknowledgement.
Speaker: You know, Drake has a song that says, if I, he said, if I, what did he say?
Speaker: If I got it, then I got it then.
Speaker: Just give me my acknowledgement.
Speaker: So you just love to give, you love to take care of people, but you just want your acknowledgement for it.
Speaker: That's all.
Speaker: That's all you ask.
Speaker: But you sacrifice a lot to help people, humanity.
Speaker: That's why you have your podcast.
Speaker: So if you got a podcast award, it would be like, yeah, I need that acknowledgement.
Speaker: Not that you need it, but that's just part of your dynamic, you know, if that makes sense.
Speaker: Yeah, it totally makes sense.
Speaker: Like in my career, like I, I do like above and beyond, but I don't like when someone else takes credit.
Speaker: I'm like, I did it.
Speaker: Like acknowledge me.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: So it's so simple, but it's complex.
Speaker: It's the one thing.
Speaker: who can't really understand it because they don't have the information or there's like, it's too, it's just, it's a lot of information.
Speaker: But once you really grasp it and you like, oh, okay, this makes sense.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Amazing.
Speaker: Thank you for trying that.
Speaker: You got attitude number.
Speaker: You have your expression number, your soul desire number, your personality number.
Speaker: You got more than just your life path number.
Speaker: So there's more to it.
Speaker: Your attitude number, you just gotta, you gotta go deep.
Speaker: Oh yeah, I have a lot to read.
Speaker: I still have it in my browser, so I'm gonna get back to it.
Speaker: Okay.
Speaker: So, do you want to know how I discovered you actually?
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I've never watched the browser in the season.
Speaker: Yeah, absolutely.
Speaker: How did this happen?
Speaker: Okay.
Speaker: So, I remember I was on my Instagram Explorer page and I was just like going through and then I saw your picture.
Speaker: And I was like, who's this guy?
Speaker: I went on their page.
Speaker: I was like, oh, and then I read a little bit and I was like, oh, my God, that's crazy.
Speaker: It's so crazy how I used to watch The Bachelor and The Bachelorette before, but I stopped watching it as I got busy.
Speaker: I haven't watched it.
Speaker: I think the last season I watched was Juan Pablo guy.
Speaker: That was way back.
Speaker: But I was like, oh, my God.
Speaker: And then I as I like looked at what you were posting, what you're all about.
Speaker: And I was like, oh, my God, this guy is very interesting.
Speaker: And I listened to some of your interviews and I got exposed to your positivity and motivation side without seeing what was put out there.
Speaker: about you, you know, like, so I didn't get to judge you from that point of view.
Speaker: I just saw all those stuff and I was like, oh my God, like, I was like instantly drawn to you and I was like, I need to meet this guy.
Speaker: Like a lot of the things that you went through, a lot of, a lot about your, your drive and, and all that, like, it just,
Speaker: I saw myself in you.
Speaker: And I was like, I need to meet this guy.
Speaker: Like, I had... I hadn't missed that feeling.
Speaker: And... Remember when we met at that event?
Speaker: Yeah, which one was that?
Speaker: That was a while ago.
Speaker: Yeah, it was... Crap, I forgot.
Speaker: But it was when you guys were doing the game show with the couples.
Speaker: Uh... Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker: At the... We were hosting the show.
Speaker: Yes, yes, yes, yes.
Speaker: So...
Speaker: And then like once I figured everything out and I was talking to my friend, I have a very close friend that I talked to about spirituality.
Speaker: She's actually
Speaker: the one person that gets more about spirituality.
Speaker: So like I'm able to share more with her.
Speaker: So I was telling her about you and then she was like, oh my God, you have to meet this guy.
Speaker: And I was like, yeah, I felt this way.
Speaker: And I was like, okay, I'm going to look like a fool because I don't know.
Speaker: I haven't watched The Bachelor or The Bachelor in such a long time.
Speaker: I don't know who the couples are.
Speaker: But I was like, I need to go there and meet him.
Speaker: So that's when I actually went to that show to introduce myself and network with you a little bit.
Speaker: And I think it was all...
Speaker: meant to happen for you to be on this podcast today.
Speaker: And I think it's, yeah, you can get it if you want it.
Speaker: You know, you just got to know you should, you should have it.
Speaker: And I think I was reading something that guys said, when you want something, the reason you can't get it is because to want something, it means you lack it.
Speaker: I was like, man, that's kind of deep.
Speaker: So you don't really want to want something, but even though we do want things, because the one thing is to telling yourself that you don't have it or you lack it.
Speaker: So it's kind of odd, but it's kind of like reverse psychology.
Speaker: That's why affirmations are so powerful because it puts you in a state of, uh, saying it, that you are it, that you have it, that you will become it.
Speaker: I am, I am, I am, I am whatever that is you want to claim.
Speaker: So yeah.
Speaker: Interesting.
Speaker: Exactly.
Speaker: So, um, about, uh, the universal law and law of attraction and all that, um,
Speaker: It's actually like if you want if you want something bad enough and if you want to manifest it, just know that you want to manifest that thing that you want to manifest, but don't see it as a lack.
Speaker: But just like you said, always imagine in your head and that you already have it.
Speaker: Experience the feeling in your head, right?
Speaker: That's how you're able to manifest.
Speaker: And I think it's very hard to do, but but it's amazing if you're able to follow through, you'll be able to manifest anything in life.
Speaker: I think that's so powerful.
Speaker: So, actually, I've heard you mention the word vortex in one of the interviews.
Speaker: So my question for you is, do you know Abraham Hicks?
Speaker: Do you listen to Abraham Hicks?
Speaker: Yeah, I listen to her from time to time.
Speaker: She's a little bit all over the place, but I get her.
Speaker: You know, she's a little she's like she's a person who.
Speaker: I mean, I guess all leaders, guys, I probably can be that way sometimes, but I've learned how to just be open to someone's understanding instead of trying to.
Speaker: It's not that she forces her beliefs on people, but I've seen her interview people in the crowd and she make them feel like what they're asking her doesn't make sense.
Speaker: As if she knows what she's saying, but what they're saying, but she's like, she makes them say like, oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker: But you got to do this because of that, because this is what I'm telling you, which I get.
Speaker: So in a lot of her interviews, I mean, some of her speech speaking, I get her like I get her entirely.
Speaker: And it makes sense.
Speaker: Everything is based off of feelings.
Speaker: You know, like sometimes people don't know how to process that feeling as if, yeah, you just think about it and you feel and you visualize it and you're in that vortex.
Speaker: When you're in a vortex, you know, she talks like this and talks like that.
Speaker: It's like, yeah, but it's not that simple to me.
Speaker: So what do you really say?
Speaker: Well, you just got to feel it.
Speaker: Exactly.
Speaker: Feel it like, OK, but how do I feel it?
Speaker: You know, you just have to.
Speaker: It's like, all right.
Speaker: OK, you got it.
Speaker: You're right.
Speaker: I need to feel it.
Speaker: So I'm gonna figure it out.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And you know, it's so crazy.
Speaker: A lot of the YouTube videos or every content that I listen to, people are just asking the same question over and over and over and over.
Speaker: And I'm just like, I need to be, I actually wanted to go to one of the shows
Speaker: She had back in, I think it was April last year, but it was just so expensive.
Speaker: I was like, I'm not going to pay that much.
Speaker: What if I don't get to ask my question?
Speaker: You know, I didn't think it was, I don't know, it was worth it.
Speaker: Oh, that's a word you're going to have to change, by the way, too, just to give you a heads up.
Speaker: Oh, my God.
Speaker: Yes, please.
Speaker: It's expensive because, yeah, maybe, but expensive to who?
Speaker: Because somebody is going to buy it.
Speaker: Someone's going to be there.
Speaker: Somebody owns it.
Speaker: I learned this.
Speaker: Did you know Bob Proctor?
Speaker: I actually learned this from him.
Speaker: I do.
Speaker: He talks about that.
Speaker: He's like, you know, people go in the store and look at the tag and they say, oh, I can't buy it.
Speaker: It's too expensive.
Speaker: And he said, well, what do you mean it's too expensive?
Speaker: I mean, someone created someone owns it.
Speaker: But shit, someone owns the damn store, you know.
Speaker: So it's just all about it.
Speaker: Or, you know, rich dad, poor dad, Robert Kiyosaki saying, instead of saying it's too expensive, won't you say, how can I afford this?
Speaker: And then your subconscious and your body and your mind will tell you how.
Speaker: Because then when you say it's too expensive, you're telling yourself you can't afford it.
Speaker: Right?
Speaker: And I get it.
Speaker: Like, I mean, I've said that many times before.
Speaker: Oh, it's too much.
Speaker: I'm not paying that.
Speaker: It's like, no, you can have it.
Speaker: Maybe just not right now.
Speaker: But anyway.
Speaker: Yeah, I totally get it.
Speaker: You're right.
Speaker: It's about, like we said earlier, right?
Speaker: It's about what we think, what we say out loud.
Speaker: We have to be able to watch and edit everything out loud.
Speaker: You speak, you read, you know?
Speaker: You had a thought.
Speaker: You made a thing.
Speaker: You said, I got to meet this guy.
Speaker: You met me and guess what?
Speaker: I'm on your podcast.
Speaker: But if he was like, he would never get on my podcast.
Speaker: I'm not enough for him.
Speaker: That's what I have and I've never been on your podcast.
Speaker: See how simple that is?
Speaker: Exactly.
Speaker: But we don't think of things like that.
Speaker: We just bypass it because it's so natural for us to be in denial of what we think we should have.
Speaker: It's like, no, I can't.
Speaker: They would never look at me like that.
Speaker: I'm not enough.
Speaker: It's like, but who is saying you're not enough?
Speaker: You're telling yourself that.
Speaker: But yeah, that's a belief system.
Speaker: Yeah, absolutely.
Speaker: So one more question about...
Speaker: about Abrahamic.
Speaker: Did you do the meditation that she had?
Speaker: I have never done a meditation through her.
Speaker: I just always listed like my audio books and my YouTube material.
Speaker: Okay.
Speaker: So,
Speaker: The meditation.
Speaker: So I've heard when I was listening to her stuff, I heard about her meditation and I couldn't find it anywhere, her version.
Speaker: And there's this guy that I watch.
Speaker: His name is Aaron.
Speaker: I can't remember his last name.
Speaker: But basically, he did the meditation like he followed everything and he created his own version of like a duplicate Abraham Hicks meditation.
Speaker: And it's supposed to help you get into the vortex when you meditate through it.
Speaker: So I was scared.
Speaker: I was like, okay, let me give it a try.
Speaker: And that was my first time trying to get into the vortex through meditation.
Speaker: And so I put it on and he tells you to imagine yourself in a safe place or your favorite place or whatever.
Speaker: And then he tells you to walk around and feel and see things.
Speaker: And then
Speaker: And then before you get into the vortex, he tells you to picture like a door.
Speaker: And you picture a door, you walk towards it, and then he counts down from 10 to zero, and then you're supposed to open the door and get it.
Speaker: So that's supposed to be like your entrance to the vortex.
Speaker: So I'm following through everything, and...
Speaker: The minute I opened the door, there was this white light that was coming towards me.
Speaker: And instantly, I started shaking and crying like crazy.
Speaker: I started weeping and I'm like,
Speaker: What is going on?
Speaker: And then like I freaked out and turned out the meditation.
Speaker: I was like, oh my God, what's going on?
Speaker: And then I couldn't figure out, but it didn't come from like a sadness place.
Speaker: It was just like happy tears, you know, from happiness.
Speaker: And it was just like an overwhelming feeling that I felt.
Speaker: And I'm like, wow.
Speaker: And so I went around my friends and I tried to convince each and every one of them to do it.
Speaker: They didn't end up like doing it.
Speaker: So I'm like, okay, I need to figure out what this is.
Speaker: I went back to the video and...
Speaker: is it me like what is what's going on and i started reading a lot of the comments and i saw i i saw one comment that said she had the same experience as me and she was like weeping i was like holy shit this was this was meant to happen and it was just like such an empowering um yeah what do you think the weeping so good so i have to send you the link you're gonna have to try it out
Speaker: I don't know.
Speaker: But all I know is I was just like, which is good.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Amazing.
Speaker: So I'll email you that.
Speaker: And then you have to, you have to let me know how that goes.
Speaker: So how did you start your self-development process and self-love and what routines do you do?
Speaker: Do you have a routine you follow morning time and night time?
Speaker: Pick up a book and realize 22, 23, what am I doing here?
Speaker: Why am I failing when I have a college degree and I graduated for honors?
Speaker: Why am I working a job getting paid $8 an hour?
Speaker: That doesn't make sense.
Speaker: I have a high GPA.
Speaker: I should be getting paid more.
Speaker: So it started with books like Think and Grow Rich, The Secret, things of that nature.
Speaker: And but so, yeah, so every day I get up, I meditate, pray affirmations, gratitude statements.
Speaker: And then I get started with my day at night.
Speaker: I don't really don't do anything.
Speaker: I mean, I pray throughout the day.
Speaker: I'm always reading material throughout the day.
Speaker: So at night is just whatever I'm doing.
Speaker: But I pray at night, of course.
Speaker: But.
Speaker: Most of my routine is done in the morning.
Speaker: Yeah, so early in the morning when I get out.
Speaker: So in terms of the affirmations, do you just follow the same list or when do you switch it up?
Speaker: strong i'm amazing i'm wonderful i can do all things i'm blessed i'm peace i'm humble you know i just kind of keep it general unless i want to switch it up depending on where i'm at in life i might change it if i want to change but i try to keep it general you know and um yeah and things just like when you really understand yourself and you you're in alignment with your energy that you want to be in
Speaker: You don't really stress too much about life, you know, because first of all, you realize you're not in control.
Speaker: Two, you realize the real plight in life is yourself.
Speaker: It's not the job.
Speaker: It's not your career.
Speaker: It's not your mom, your dad, your husband, boy.
Speaker: You know, it's yourself.
Speaker: You are responsible for your life no matter what the cars you would dump.
Speaker: You know, some people don't have their mom and dad still living.
Speaker: Some people don't have support.
Speaker: Some people don't have people to talk to when they're feeling down.
Speaker: But that's not an excuse for you not to be where you want to be.
Speaker: It's easy to say that, but you're responsible for your experiences.
Speaker: And everybody don't come out the same.
Speaker: So some people just won't get where they want to go.
Speaker: And that's fine.
Speaker: But I believe everything that happens to me
Speaker: It's for me, but at the same time, I'm responsible for it.
Speaker: You know, not not the person that's involved, not something I think they did.
Speaker: It's like, no, why are you here?
Speaker: What did you do to attract this experience into your life?
Speaker: Now, there's certain things that you don't know about that you can't control, like the family you were raised in and the energy and the things you believe as a child.
Speaker: But as you get older, you're also responsible for that.
Speaker: You know, because now you have more awareness.
Speaker: You're not six, seven, eight, nine.
Speaker: You're an adult.
Speaker: So now you have to be aware of the energy you bring into your life and the things you believe in the patterns you run.
Speaker: So for me, it's just that's how I get my day started.
Speaker: And I call it spiritual currency.
Speaker: You got to have more when you have more faith than you have money, you will never be broken.
Speaker: And I think a lot of people lack faith in life when it comes to, when adversity hits.
Speaker: You know?
Speaker: Because they don't know how to, they don't have anything in their spiritual bank account.
Speaker: It's only in their material account.
Speaker: But that's not enough to get through tough times.
Speaker: Especially in the times we're in right now.
Speaker: You know?
Speaker: So, that's basically what that is.
Speaker: Yeah, definitely.
Speaker: Amazing.
Speaker: So, you brought up
Speaker: Think and Grow Rich and I was actually talking to one of my friends about this book and can you believe that this book was written in 1937?
Speaker: Like I just can't, oh my god, it's crazy but like I can't imagine the person living at that time would write something like this.
Speaker: It was just very empowering and amazing.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Awesome.
Speaker: Awesome.
Speaker: So one last question.
Speaker: So for podcasters like me and or people that want to spread the best way to the best way to influence.
Speaker: To influence it.
Speaker: I'm confused.
Speaker: You just do it.
Speaker: You know, you just don't wait.
Speaker: Like people don't understand.
Speaker: Like before TV, before any show, I was I was doing motivation videos.
Speaker: every week on instagram and it was 15 seconds motivation monday uh wisdom wednesday what's positive friday and when i went on my season i had 3600 posts with 3500 followers so i was literally posting every day so people knew me for the motive the motive the motivator yeah just who i was you know so i was consistent i think that
Speaker: Being consistent and working on your craft.
Speaker: It's all about consistency.
Speaker: Developing yourself, reading books, taking classes, going to seminars, and just, you know, being around different and better people.
Speaker: And just really, everything is consistency.
Speaker: You're consistent.
Speaker: You can get what you're looking for.
Speaker: You know?
Speaker: So, consistency.
Speaker: Just document, create, put it out.
Speaker: Don't worry about if it's perfect or not.
Speaker: Just...
Speaker: Get it out to the people.
Speaker: Let them be the judge.
Speaker: I even remember when I used to put out so many videos and the videos I thought like, man, this is like, yeah, woo, way too long.
Speaker: That video never hits.
Speaker: But then it'd be a video I wasn't even feeling the best in.
Speaker: They like love it.
Speaker: I'm like, wow.
Speaker: That's kind of odd, you know?
Speaker: So, yep.
Speaker: Stacey, yeah.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Amazing.
Speaker: Well, thank you so much for joining us.
Speaker: This has been very empowering and uplifting.
Speaker: Thank you for having me.
Speaker: This is amazing.
Speaker: You keep rocking, keep winning, keep learning, keep evolving and let nothing stop you, not even yourself.
Speaker: So have faith and stay driven and keep going.
Speaker: The journey continues.
Speaker: There you have it, guys.
Speaker: Thank you so much for listening.
Speaker: You can find Eric on Instagram at Eric Bigger.
Speaker: That's E-R-I-C-B-I-G-G-E-R.
Speaker: On Twitter, Eric underscore Bigger.
Speaker: And on Snapchat, E-B-I-G-G-S-S.
Speaker: I hope this episode ignited something in you and motivated you enough to start and add to your self-development journey.
Speaker: Feel free to reach out to me if you have any questions or suggestions.
Speaker: I will be sure to bring in new guests every month.
Speaker: That's the new schedule now.
Speaker: So like I said, reach out to me if you have any questions or suggestions.
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