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22. Becca Boston , bestselling author, speaker & self-care coach
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Becca Boston is a bestselling author, speaker, self-care coach, and NAMI Pierce County's Ending the Silence Coordinator. Despite her learning disability, she inspires others with her motto "Stay Strong. Stay You." Becca empowers individuals to recognize their strength is giving their pain a voice and receiving the help that is needed while staying true to who they are. Her global influence includes being featured in LA Weekly, hosting the "I Am Purpose" conference, and sharing her journey in her book "The Story Behind The Smile: Lessons Within My Life." With the one personal impact mentality, Becca focuses on impacting one person every day. Join us as we discuss:
- What self care really looks like
- Her book Burn the Burnout
- Importance of investing in coaching
- The one person impact mentality
Learn more at Beccaboston.net
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Introduction & Guest Overview
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Welcome to Gritty is the New Pretty, a podcast by Grit City Women. On episode 22, we are featuring Becca Boston, bestselling author, speaker, and self-care coach. Looking
Becca's Background & Motto
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Welcome, Becca. Thank you. Why don't you go ahead and start telling us a little bit about yourself? Yeah. So my name is Becca Boston, not from Boston. I was born and raised outside of Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, and now live here in Tacoma, Washington. And before anything, I am a big hearted extrovert who loves connecting with other people.
Impact of 'Stay Strong, Stay You'
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And it is my mission and motto in life to help others recognize that um your strength isn't about how heavy you can lift, how hard you can take a hit or how much you can handle. Your strength is giving your pain of voice and receiving the help that is needed while staying true to who you are.
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um with my motto, Stay Strong, Stay You. And I'm blessed to say that Stay Strong, Stay You these days has reached over two million people. And um today I'm just incredibly excited to be here speaking with you and your community. So thank you for having me.
Journey to Self-Care & Book Insights
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Of course. So tell us a little bit about Stay Strong, Stay You. Is that just a motto or what do you mean when you say it's reached two million people?
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Yeah, so it started off as a motto for myself I started telling myself in the midst of the pandemic. And then, as I began to share that on social media people began to be impacted and could relate to the message that I was sharing, and I began to build a following as well as You know, some very loyal supporters and throughout time, throughout social media, as well as speaking engagements, those numbers have just added on up. But one thing for me and like I shared is like, I live for that one person impact mentality is is what really matters to me. The numbers are great, but the impact is really what makes um the most importance to me.
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So tell me how you got to the space where you had a motto and you a published a book on managing burnout. Tell us about that. Yeah.
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so Publishing Burn the Burnout has been a journey. It's a journey that I'm still on. It's something that I'm very passionate about talking about, do a lot of um speaking engagements within it. But for me, it started from I was in the caregiving world for six plus years supporting individuals with intellectual and developmental disabilities. I was a certified nursing for a while. And throughout my journey, I was never taught how to make myself a priority. And I was so accustomed to putting other people before myself.
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And, you know, we are taking continuing education courses, and we were always taught how to take care of other people never taught how to take care of myself, but it was through my lived experience of the pandemic that I really actually learned how to take care of myself and start prioritizing myself in February of 2024.
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for a wide variety of different reasons, made the decision to quit my full-time job as a caregiver and move here to Tacoma, Washington with ah no plan other than family right down the street and a roof over my head.
Understanding Burnout & Self-Care Essentials
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And since then, I've just been very passionate about um helping the caregiving community while also um working for a NAMI, the National Alliance of Mental Illness for Pierce County. and It's been a beautiful journey ever since I've brought Burn the Burnout. um You know, I've had a wide variety of other people in different fields reach out. So so tell us about Burn the Burnout.
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Yeah, so burn the burnout, I break it down in a wide variety of different ways because I think um so often when we hear burnout, one, burnout is a wide variety of different emotions. I say it's a marathon of emotions because burnout is um built up off of prolonged stress, um often related in your job field, but I think the world has really shown us that you know burnout can come from any aspect of our life.
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um So we kind of talk about like, you know, some of the signs and the symptoms of losing your passion, being exhausted, said um kind of disconnected in some ways. um But I also talk about how, you know, self-care is really important. You know, self-care isn't selfish, it's needed for your progression within your life. But I think when we talk about self-care, so many people think about the feel-good activities, like you know, eating a bucket of ice cream, which I'm not telling people not to do because if you take away ice cream for me, my mental health is going to suffer. Right. But I think we we think of self care as the feel good activities when self care is so much more than just the feel good stuff. It's changing the narrative in your mind. What are you telling yourself or are you bullying yourself and kind of digging your your potential a grave? um Then we go into six different aspects
Organization & Stress Management
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of self care. So we go into physical,
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emotional, spiritual, mental, productive, and social self-care. I think those are all of them i'm off the top of my head. And then we finish with how to create healthy boundaries. So that's a little bit of an overview of all the things that we dive into. I really love the the categories that you have in there because we see a lot of, like you said, self-care and it's, you know, go get a pedicure, go to the sauna, do just a beach day or something. and I think those things are great, but all of those topics are a part of it as well. And for me, I think when I feel the most stressed and overwhelmed is when I don't have my life organized.
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and It's easy to function in sort of this unorganized way where you're kind of like, I'm doing the things to survive and I'm getting by, but I don't feel like I have a plan for tomorrow. I have a plan for next week.
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and i read this book that was called a plan for tomorrow today and it was a really simple concept of at the end of your day take the last five minutes and write down your top three priorities for tomorrow and write down what time you will have them done by and you know it's better to try to do it earlier then later. But just simple concepts like that, I believe can take off like that mental load that especially entrepreneurs or um caregivers or mothers, people that have a lot of different things on their plate. um Just having that organized aspect of your life in your personal and in your business and in your career, um I think can mean a
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mean a lot and it can make a big difference. Oh, absolutely. Yeah. And I love what you said about like putting a timeline on it. Like I'd heard, I've heard like the, you know, prepare for your day, the the evening before, but put to put a timeline on it, I think that's powerful. Yeah. And I've heard that even there's some science behind checking a box. Yeah.
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that like it gives you that sort of endorphin release. And there was a point in my life and it's not right now, but where I was very busy doing, you know, my normal job, nonprofit stuff, great city women, all of these things and training to climb a mountain. I had every 15 minutes of every day booked in my calendar of like when I was going to work out, when I was going to go grocery shopping, when I was going to hang out with whoever and do do these activities. And then I would intentionally not book one weekend. I wouldn't book anything. And that was like my open weekend that if a friend called and said, hey, like, what are you doing? Let's hang out. I was like, yeah, this weekend's totally free. And then if nothing came up.
Rest, Productivity & Creative Time
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I would just hang out at home and like, you know, do whatever I wanted, go shopping. Now, some people might say that's a little neurotic or crazy, but I was so, I was so effective that my house was cleaner. Everything was cleaner. I was eating healthier the way I managed it.
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um I really strive to kind of get back to that place, but I think in reality, having a child and a husband and pets and more and more responsibilities that I can't kind of control, it's changed. But just knowing that you are capable of taking control of sort of the chaos in your life, I think is something that I enjoy sharing with others. Well, I think what's beautiful about what you shared too is like, you can manage your, we're all,
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capable of managing our own time. And sometimes that means we're going to have to get up a little earlier to prioritize ourselves. Sometimes that means we're going to have to make sacrifices. But I think the beautiful thing about like that is I always say show me your calendar and it exposes your priorities. And if you're not kind of putting in your workout, if you're not putting in the time for yourself, then ah doe are you really making yourself a priority? But I also love that you like intentionally put those days to not do anything because it's like we need those flex days. We need, rest is productive. And I think that's something that especially like entrepreneurs in particularly struggle with because we live in such a hustle culture, but it's okay to rest is productive. Well, and you get time
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I think it's important to have time to think in my career, you know, I would, my calendar would be booked and I couldn't control all of it. Um, but I would block out time intentionally to sit and to not have any meetings, to not have any tasks. And I just sit at my desk and that is when I would think about.
Writing 'Burn the Burnout' & Broader Impact
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some of the complex problems that were going on with my team, some of the complex problems that maybe I might've been experiencing. um What are some things that we wanna do differently? what What are some things the organization might wanna do differently? What are some things that are on my list right now, but I need to get on my list and ideas would just come to me. But if you don't book time to even think and have that freedom and and be able to be creative,
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You're just going to kind of be like a zombie to your calendar. Absolutely. So the burnout book, what what else, what else came out of that journey for you?
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You know, i think I think it's one of the first tasks that I've been just so passionate about that like, you know, I've done a lot of different things. I've put in reps in a lot of different ways, but I think it's really helped me claim my own belief. And even with setbacks of, you know, I've been trying to get it on Amazon and the journey of like that not working out, but also like it's really helped me to be like,
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Alright, I'm not giving up a fight. This is something I believe in. This is something that I truly believe is needed. And I think sometimes when setbacks, you know, happen, we allow that to like, bring us down and not to say like, it can't but don't allow your your feelings to become your full reality and allow you to give up. um So I think for me this whole process has just been a beautiful way to remind me that, you know, to run my own race at my own pace and um that it'll
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and It'll be where it's supposed to you know kind of go throughout time. um But um I think it's also like, I think the biggest thing for me too while I'm in this season is I have to practice what I preach. you know like I'm living in this hustle culture right now of you know working and also doing my entrepreneurship and spending time with family and getting pulled this way and that way.
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And I'm like, I have to be able to practice for each other is I'm going to be that burnout person. So I think and in instance the love of long run, it's like, I know it works because I'm living it and I'm i'm like, checking off the boxes. And I'm like, all right, because I believe I believe if you can't practice them what you preach, then you need to change your your message. So I know for me, I'm just putting constantly putting on myself into check of like, all right,
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am i Am I doing, what do I need to do? What's the next thing on the list to make myself a priority? Yeah. And did you think when you had this vision to start, you know, talking about burnout with care, the caregiver community, um, and really publishing a book, essentially, like, did you think it would make the impact that it did?
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I think I, when I first thought of it, I was still honestly like in the caregiving world. So for me. I think I knew it was there, but I was still that burnt out caregiver that really couldn't give it any attention um or like allow it to blossom in the way it was supposed to. you And now that I'm out of the caregiving world, it's been like an amazing journey just to see, not even just caregivers, but like the entrepreneurs that are coming to me, like higher companies that are coming
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I'm just like, wow, okay, this really is like, I knew it was something, but I didn't know it was like, to this extent, which is really exciting. Um, so I think it was always there. I just needed, I needed to lovingly remove myself from the caregiving. world Yeah. You made a decision, a life-changing decision. Yeah, absolutely. So tell us about publishing a book. What's that process like? You know, how did you work through those steps and did you do it alone?
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Yeah, great question. So though, I think my biggest tip and recommendation, like if anybody's looking to become an author, I started off with doing a compilation book. um So it was me and a bunch of authors that are in one book. um And then we work together and that became a best-selling author. So right off the bat, you know, when I then took my next step of publishing my book, I could already say I'm a best-selling author from the previous book. So that's one thing I would say is if if anybody is like looking to, you know, kind of kickstart, I think it's a great a great way. Usually you write like a chapter or two
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or even just a blurb, but you're in the book. It gets you, it kickstarts your career of being an ah author. From there, I kind of knew that I wanted to share my story. It had been on my heart for a long time. I am dyslexic. So for me, it was that interesting journey of just like,
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Okay, but what about editing that's I'm really not good at editing and like there were so many like it wasn't even the the like practical part of sharing my story that I feared it was more like the practical steps. So actually what happens for me was I wrote the book.
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Um, on my own, it was actually really relatively easy for me to write. Um, and then I, I threw a conference and right after the conference, one of my best friends and coaches, um, who spoke, we were eating and having crawfish and he was like, okay, now you've had a taste of, sick you've had a taste of success. What's next?
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I was like, bro, I just put on a conference. Can I at least get 24 hours to like to like breathe and soak this in? He was like, no. he's like Because if if you allow this to settle down, you're not you may not have the momentum to keep going. And I just want you to have that next thing on your radar of what you're going to do. And as much as it like that It drove me crazy. I was like, all right, I'm going to call you home when I get home because I have a have a book that I've been sitting on.
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And I called him right when I got home and I invested into him. And I think that was the one of the best investments that I could have made for a wide variety of different reasons.
Value of Coaching & Mentorship
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I mean, he not only helped me with the practical aspects, but especially, so my book's the story behind the smile. And part of the story behind the smile is that I was involved in a domestic violence relationship and struggled with an addiction to self-harm that I didn't Talk about it. I hid it behind the smile So it was very healing and there were parts where I needed to pause but he gave me permission To take those pauses. He was very helpful in those moments while also holding me accountable to be like I You're still doing this, Justin. But throughout the process, he taught me how to, you know, put it on KDP, which is Amazon and take all the practical steps. So now I'm able to do it on my own and teach us, teach others who, you know, have that goal of becoming a published author. And so you had a coach. Was he a publication coach or was he just a coach for your career or your kind of skill set?
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Yeah, so he, um, he's a multi-talented man in a wide variety of different ways. um He does specifically do book coaching. okayy He actually will, I think he calls it Well, he does one for speaking where it's like, master your message. So if you want to become a public speaker, but I forget what he calls it, but it's like you take the noodles in your head and you make it, you make it a book. Um, because so many people have like an idea or a thought. Um, he's like, he's really good at getting that thought into, um, words on a page and published. So shout out to Mr. Marcus Black. ah Okay. what's What's his name? Marcus Black.
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Marcus Black. Wow. And I think I love that you are sharing that you hired and invested in yourself a coach, you know, you invested in a coach. That is something that I've done. And I think it's paid off for me tenfold. Um, and at the time it seems like a lot because coaches aren't cheap. Um, and you're kind of like, what am I doing? Am I a little bit of a loony tune here?
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And at the end of the day, you do need a cheerleader. You need somebody that has a little bit of that expertise that understands sort of the market and the area that you're in, the bureaucracies that can help you navigate that um emotional roller coaster you have with yourself of like wanting to take breaks and feeling like maybe I'm not really going to do this, but I really want to do this. And they're like, no, you need to do this, you know? um I think that's important and that's something that I continuously try to share with women and especially women that are feeling stuck or have this vision, like you said, that's noodle in your head that you can't get out. And so um I love that you're sharing that information with us.
00:19:26
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Yeah. I think it's important to recognize that, you know, each and every single one of us are a player in the game of life and every player, every coach, every coach needs a coach, right? um So there's no, there should be no shame in getting a coach or getting a therapist. Like nobody in this life was handed a manual on how to live life. Um, and there's just power and strength of linking arms and being able to grow and elevate together. So.
00:19:53
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Yeah, i I mean, yeah, nobody has a ah playbook. And if you want to excel, you can, you've got to find the ways and the tips and the tricks and the support and the network to get you there. And there is absolutely no shame. And if anything, it shows that you're, you're willing to put in some work to learn the game of life, to learn the game of leveling up, to learn the game of finding your passion.
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to get where you want to be and live the life you want to be. And yeah, I'm really i'm really excited about just coaching in general. I'm really passionate about it.
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Yeah and I think it's important to recognize too that you know if you're if you're not in that financial space like podcasts could be coaches. Like Marcus even talks about how there's musicians that have been coaches for him you know in seasons of like you know their lyrics just hit hit him differently. I know I've had that like there's different ways of having somebody to coach you that you may not
Utilizing Free Resources & Building Connections
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necessarily invest. And obviously, there's like Google University and um YouTube University that you can Google just about anything for free. But I also think it is important to have that like one on one relationship with somebody and make that investment. and Because also, too, when you make that excuse me, when you make that financial investment, you're more likely to show up to it. Yeah, absolutely. And, you know,
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There is something to be said for some of the free options out there if you're not in that space yet. I know for me, and it's so corny, but I always share it. Maybe it's not corny. Maybe I'm just telling myself that. But you know on YouTube, there's a point in my life where I was really low and not confident in myself and just feeling lost.
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anne I started looking up these YouTube videos of like inspirational YouTube videos and they were compilations of different inspirational motivational speakers and um Those really helped me because I mean, I don't know if you've heard of like Les Brown, but his story is just um amazing. And I just, I think he's phenomenal. He's one of my favorite. And just putting that on blast while I'm cleaning my house, you know, I'm listening to these speeches and just thinking,
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You know, like these people went through so much more and then even the little tidbits of advice that they give, i ah you know, I'd just be inspired and a light bulb would turn on for me. And so those are things that if you are in a rut or in this space, you can listen to every morning when you get up. You can watch it before you go to bed. If you're a visual person, a lot of them have video clips that go with it. So there are some things and then when you're ready and you can invest in it, it's definitely worthwhile.
00:22:45
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And you never know who like you're one person away from that could be on one of their podcasts that like take you to the next level because it's it's what's crazy. There's so many different crazy aspects of this, but like Marcus is coached by Les Brown, actually. So like yeah um i I'm gonna have to and you ride um i'll have to send you over his his profile so you can check him out. He's absolutely nice. But what happened for me too is, um so I'm a big Trent Shelton fan.
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um And when I first discovered Trent, I actually ah did not like him because I was just out of my domestic violence relationship and I didn't understand the um difference between passion and yelling. And he's very passionate about mental health because of his own struggles, because of him losing you know his best friend to suicide. So yeah I didn't understand that ah the time, but I related to his one message that was about self-harm. Fast forward years later, 2017, I'm thinking about throwing in the child of my life when a video of his, um your life isn't over popped up on my phone.
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um And, you know, made a promise to myself, no matter how hard life gets, um I'll keep on coloring. Fast forward to 2020. I invested into his coaching program. um And 2021, he had, or actually it was 2020. What's crazy is, Trent brought me on a live.
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um to talk about like the George Floyd situation. Marcus saw me on that live, but I don't remember seeing him. I remember Marcus um on trends podcast and that's what led to us being a mutual which led to this trickle of like us supporting each other us like now being really good friends to you know i'm i definitely would invest into him again but you know we've gotten to the level where we can bounce ideas off of each other and all of that but i i share that all to say like don't be afraid when
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you know, you see these big people too, to like, hop in their DMs, to be active, like, friend knows my name, because I've been so active.
Impact on Individuals & Authenticity
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Um, so I just say share that to whoever may listen and just be afraid, like, get involved, they're human. You never know, you know, and worst case, you don't get a response and and that's okay. You know, it's not the right time, but yeah, absolutely.
00:25:33
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That's an incredible story. i am I feel like my life is fulfilled now that I have a like three, four, four person connection from Les Brown. Yes, yes. yeah Okay, so one of the mottos that you've shared was one person impact mentality. Tell me about that and why that motto is important to you.
00:26:04
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Yeah, so I think part of my journey, especially these days, is people see the platform that I have on TikTok with ah right now I'm sitting at like 26,000 people and Don't get me wrong, I love and um appreciate the but the platform that I do have. um I think it's important to recognize too, I never expected to be where I am today. I never wanted to so you know be an influencer. I never wanted to be necessarily a speaker or anything along these lines. But as I continue to show up and just make content, like certain videos went viral and viral.
00:26:39
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Going viral can take a toll on your mental health. That's all I'm going to say there. But I think for me, just seeing those like one comments that would say I needed this message or this is how it impacted me here. um I think it really hit home for me as I just shared like at one point in my life, I was thinking about suicide and a video popped across my phone and um really took me out of that deep and dark place that I was in my life. um Come 2020, I made a video just speaking from my heart of giving a word of encouragement and a girl messaged me and said, your video just saved my life. um And for me, that's when one, it was like,
00:27:24
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Okay there's deeper meaning in the towel that I was thrown back because I always say like I was thinking about the throwing in the towel in my life but got through the towel back at me and I for the longest time had questions like what is what is the meaning and purpose in the towel and I think one for me it's recognizing like you are purpose and it's the placement in the world that you're looking to discover But I also think we live in this social media world now where everybody wants to be seen, everybody wants a large following. And I get it, but I think there is a big um perspective switch that needs to happen about focusing on the one person who needs your message because a one person impacts mentality is going to create a ripple effect. um And
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I think, too, it's important to recognize that sometimes that person is you. Like, I'm not gonna lie, you to my 2020 content is in my eyes, it's cringy. Just because like, I was really starting out, I didn't know what I was doing. I didn't have the confidence to own my big energy yet. And like,
00:28:34
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I didn't really know who I was, right? um So now looking back, like I watched some of my content and I'm like, you go girl, like that's, that's you know? So I think like recognizing That is not always in the numbers, you know, it's not always seen and people, some people don't know this, but some people can buy followers. So some people, like some people are not even like legit. But impact isn't always seen in the comments. It's not always seen in the like or the amount of following. Honestly, it's nine times out of 10, usually somebody who's in my DMs or somebody who silently watches me.
00:29:09
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and then pops up here and there. So um I think just the one person impact mentality can help people focus on their community and build those solid connections, which then creates a ripple effect. Yeah. And I think it keeps you focused on that vision, like to help somebody instead of losing that site to where you're just trying to please to get attention.
00:29:37
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which is like a natural thing for some people to want to do. I mean, there's a lot of science behind that. And I think that one person mentality for me is one of the reasons why I do this podcast is if I can help one person or one woman with one issue through the podcast and my guest on the show,
00:30:01
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that's all I want. That's all I want is to be that person that I needed or that podcast that I needed at some point um before I had to learn it the hard way after, you know, running into a concrete wall over and over and over again and learning things the hard way.
Sharing Experiences & Embracing True Self
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um And that's why I share things on my podcast that, you know, I probably wouldn't normally share like having a surgeon who operated on my uterus on the podcast because It was something that impacts a lot of women and I had some women reach out to me that um had a similar issue and we're going to see the same surgeon and she was terrified about the surgery. She's like, I don't know if I should do it. I don't know. I don't know. I'm terrified. And I spoke to her on the phone about my experience and she did end up going through with the surgery and said, you know, and she was doing great. She's so happy she did it, but just to like,
00:30:56
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help someone through that, even though it wasn't necessarily business or entrepreneurship related. In my mind, it's about awareness and anything that can help women even in their personal lives leads into your success and your professional life and your business life and getting to that ultimate goal of living this life of fulfillment that I think everybody wants.
00:31:20
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Oh, absolutely. And I think too, like you're sharing, like you never know what somebody else is going behind the scenes, you know, like, and, and sometimes how like your message may hit differently or, um or that somebody is kind of looking for that connection or your lived experience. You know, I always say that your story can be somebody else's survival guide. Your experience can be somebody else's you know, next step on how to get to where they need to go. So I love that she reached out to you to just, you know, talk things through. And sometimes that's all people need is to just talk things through. Yeah. And hear from a person, not from a doctor or, you know, and just from someone's experience, um, I think can be really valuable sometimes. Um, cause you're just like, Oh,
00:32:08
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This is somebody that I a view sort of and from the same perspective of me and not someone behind a title or someone behind, you know, some, some, I don't know, classification that I don't really relate to. It's just a person. And so, so you have two books, right?
00:32:27
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ah I mean, i have so there's Activate, which is the book that I did a compilation, and then I have The Story Behind the Smile, Lessons Within My Life, and then ah Burn the Burnout is currently an ebook, ah but it will become as a physical copy soon. Okay, so where can Grit City women get access to these books or purchase them?
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Yeah. Great question. So, um, activate. I don't promote too, too much anymore just because I do have my own stuff. Um, so, um, you can go to BeckaBoston.net or you can reach out to me on any social media. Um,
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Instagram is typically the best, so Becca Boston's 26. If you want a signed copy, um I do typically have some on hands, or it's also available on Amazon. You do have to kind of Google search it first, but once you do that, um you can get it there. And then the eCopy of Burn the Burnout is on my website, which is BeccaBoston.net. Awesome. Okay, so what is your biggest piece of advice that you would offer great city women. The biggest thing that's on my heart is that you don't have to fit into a mold of what beauty is. Like you get to create what your beauty is and
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don't allow anybody to change who who you are. like Your heart and your character really defines your beauty. I always say there is no amount of makeup that can cover up an ugly heart and an ugly character. and you know I always kind of share a story that in the beginning of kind of my entrepreneur journey, i you know had somebody who saw my light and potential before I could even really fully see it and they wanted to take me to the next level and they said okay but you're gonna have to start putting on makeup you're gonna have to start wearing dresses you're gonna have to start doing this and that and these and those and I was so blown away I was like are you not am I invisible right now like you're talking to me like what do you mean I need to do this to be seen
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and I asked him that and he said yes I can see you and I said great I just wanted to make sure I'm not I'm not tripping and I slammed the i slam the computer down on him and ended the call because I was like I'm I'm no longer going to allow you know somebody to change who I am and I share that story and I say that just to say like you don't have to change who you are your people will come your way your people will see your beauty you also don't need to fit and define yourself into a box right like for so long I lost my tomboy self, and now I found my tomboy self again. But I'm also learning to embrace you know different sides of my family feminine side. So like know that like your beauty is your heart and your character. You wear the clothes. um You have your own confidence within your swag in the way you carry yourself. um So just create who you are. Be more focused on your heart and your character than anything.
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know, it's okay to show up authentically yourself. So yeah, I love that. I love that because I feel like it sort of relates to our slogan, gritty is the new pretty of, you know, yeah the great city women, I intentionally wanted great city women to be something that was feminine but strong and not something that was just like, oh, it's a woman's club and pink everywhere, nothing against that. But it's that's not me, right? Like I would never be like, have my room pink and all these pink things. Like that's just not me. And I don't think that that, you know, represents all women. And I don't think that should be you know necessarily what we go to when we think of
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of successful women or entrepreneurs. And so for me, it was really important to kind of really embrace this this strong femininity and focus on you know that grit that we have inside of us. And so I love that message. Yeah, I love that. And I think too, like like you're saying, like i am I am not that pink person either. like yeah, the stereotypical like things women like, I typically don't. ah But I say that to say too, like, don't also limit yourself of like not getting into the room with those types of people or like being around them because yes, you and I'm speaking from experience, but like, you may feel awkward, you may feel out of place, but it's in that environment that you're standing out and somebody else may,
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need that light of yours or it's giving other people to show up authentically. Like I can't tell you how many times I've showed up and just like, you know, my own swag. And then people have been like, oh, I didn't mean to get all dressed up. that is bloodylo I'm like, I don't know. I just came here. Like y'all didn't tell me there was a dress code. So I just came with, you know, my confidence, but yeah. Oh my gosh. I love it. I love it.
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Well, thank you so much for joining us and sharing your story. I am so excited to check out your book and I'd love to meet up and get a signed copy. Yeah, absolutely. I'm super excited to be more in person. All right. Well, thank you so much, Becca. Yeah, thank you.