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Pizza Every Friday Episode 5 - Jerzi & Kanyon Discuss Stress and How to Handle It
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........annnnnd we're back!! Join us as Jerzi & Kanyon discuss stress and how to handle it.
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Introduction and Normalizing Stress
00:00:00
Jared Davis
Hello, I'm Canyon. And I'm Josie. Okay, so like, it can be stressful for some people, right? And if you have stress, like, lucky everybody does. Yeah, everyone has their own version of it.
00:00:14
Jared Davis
And it's not
Owning Stress and Self-Help Strategies
00:00:15
Jared Davis
something to be ashamed of. Like, you can't just be like, oh, I have to stress. I really hate that. but But like, like just own up to it. Like, oh yeah, I have stress. Like, is there anything? Because some people like have to go get help for it. But low-key, you could do some ways by yourself to where you don't have to go actually go somewhere and spend money, like $100, just for someone to tell you, just go to the store and buy something to eat or something.
Personal Stress Management Techniques
00:00:42
Jared Davis
To eat? I don't know. um So, and everyone deals with their stress in different ways. Yeah, like, I deal with my stress. Like, I like to take mental breaks. I like to just go outside, play some volleyball.
00:00:55
Jared Davis
And, like, if that makes me more stressed, I just, like, low-key take a nap. Because when you take nap, like, okay, but, like, when you take a nap, Your mind stops. It just stops. Everything stops. So then you don't have to think about it. But like, going to have to come back to it at some point.
00:01:08
Jared Davis
But at least you get to rest your mind and take your mind off things. Yeah.
School-Related Stress Solutions
00:01:13
Jared Davis
So we can start with like the simpler things that you can do for stress. Yeah. So like the simple things are like you can take deep breaths. I know that's simple and everyone breathes.
00:01:27
Jared Davis
So... Like, we're breathing right now. Yeah. Like, it's, like, deep breaths. Like, you're actually, like focusing and calming on your breaths. And you could also, like, have something to fidget with. Because people like to fidget with their hands or, like, bite their nails. Like, I'm a nail biter.
00:01:40
Jared Davis
Because I get nervous a lot. And it's, like, scary. Because, like, the grade that we're in is, like, be really stressful sometimes. Yeah. Because it's, like, oh, you have this in this class. Oh, you have the three tests this week in this class.
00:01:52
Jared Davis
It's, like, crazy. And then also, say there's a drama. Yeah. So, drama is just... crazy
Navigating School Drama and Conflict Resolution
00:01:59
Jared Davis
it's like the number one stress thing in school yeah because you never want to be involved with it but then if you want to like hear about it you're going to get involved because you're going to be like in it yeah because they're going to be oh well you're a witness to this right so like yeah so we can start with what you can do for
00:02:19
Jared Davis
Like the school related things, like grades. Grades, oh my gosh, my grades, I actually have been doing really better. Like it's just when I like don't like, because I hate doing work. I have three different papers in different classes and I'm just like, I don't, I don't want to do it. But I do come to some point and I actually do it and just like get it done because I'm going have to do it at some point and just, well, I do it. Yeah.
00:02:42
Jared Davis
Just leave it alone. And if you get behind, if you miss like a week of school because I don't know, you're sick or something, you're going to lot of stuff to do and that can be really stressful. It's like you have 10 papers in one class and 20 papers in another. And you can have three tests in another class and you're just like, well, how am I to make all this up? Because, you know, some teachers are different and they're like, oh, well, you weren't here this day, so I'm just going to find it missing.
00:03:05
Jared Davis
And then your parents are going to be like, well, why is this missing? And they're like, well, i wasn't here and, you know. Yeah. And...
00:03:17
Jared Davis
don't know.
00:03:20
Jared Davis
It's just a hard thing to deal with because some people could actually be put in hospitals because of it because it could work up their brain too much and it could cause like so many things to happen.
00:03:33
Jared Davis
Yeah. And now drama. Drama, everyone has it. And it's never gonna go away. Not even in a million years will it go away.
Avoiding Drama and Handling Rumors
00:03:43
Jared Davis
So, like, guy drama, or if you're a girl drama.
00:03:48
Jared Davis
So, it's just best to not get involved with it. if you get involved, then you're in the drama. And it couldn't even be about you. Like, it could be when two of your friends are in a fight.
00:04:04
Jared Davis
Yeah, because in fourth grade, went to school, and me and this girl, we had some beef. Like, I tell you, it was so bad. We literally went to the counselor's office and literally got our mom's call because it was so bad. And she was talking about fighting me, and I was just like, dude, what did I do to you?
00:04:23
Jared Davis
Like, i was so confused, honestly, genuinely. Like, I don't know what I did. But she just – and then, like, after we talked about it, after we were dealing with our problems, like, we actually, like, worked it out, and we were like, okay, you know, just – Cut it off. We're fine. It's fine. It's in the past now.
00:04:37
Jared Davis
Yeah, and if you really do have a problem with somebody, it's best to just talk it out instead of holding it inside. Then at some point, you're going to to let out. Or spreading rumors because yeah people, oh my gosh, that probably puts so much stress on people about drama. Like, you could be saying just one little thing that could, like, hurt somebody really bad and you could not know it.
00:04:57
Jared Davis
Like, just saying, like, oh, this girl, oh, she gets her clothes from Goodwill. Well, maybe she doesn't have as much money as you. Like, everybody's different. Some people can't be nicer or something. I don't know. yeah Yeah. Like, you like it just because just because they're more expensive doesn't mean they're better quality.
Personal Growth and Self-Awareness
00:05:14
Jared Davis
Because some, like, cheap things are actually really good.
00:05:17
Jared Davis
Yeah. And then, also, friend drama. Because everyone gets into a fight at some point. Not, like, a talking fight. Not a fist fight.
00:05:30
Jared Davis
We don't have to go that far. If it gets that far, you better just stop stopping. Yeah. You better stop at that point. Like, that's just too bad, bro. Yeah. In a way, it's really hard to get out of drama.
00:05:42
Jared Davis
Because once you're in it, it's really hard to get out. Yeah. Because you can't just be like, okay, I'm sorry. Let's be friends. Because some people don't take it like that. like yeah Like me, sometimes I'm just like, depending on what you did, I'll be like, okay, well, if you did this, I low-key want you to say this stuff. I want this back, you know?
00:06:00
Jared Davis
yeah Like, say somebody was, like, talking bad about me and thinking out there that we're friends and then just talking so much bad stuff. And then they're just over here like, oh, I'm sorry, I didn't mean any of that. Like, ah I don't care. you should have said it in the first place.
00:06:16
Jared Davis
Yeah. I didn't mean it. Yeah. And then... Olive...
00:06:28
Jared Davis
I don't know what I was going say. It's okay. That was stressful too. Like, losing your train of thought, just like, yeah what was I going to say? And then you just embarrass yourself, like, I do that all the time, and I'm just like, somebody call my mom.
00:06:44
Jared Davis
And a lot of people are scared to talk in front of people or are scared of what people are going to think about them, which most of people are worried about that. So they aren't going to be thinking about what you're doing.
00:07:00
Jared Davis
yeah.
00:07:02
Jared Davis
Like, I get like, yeah, sometimes people have fears of standing up in front of people and like, Just saying, oh, well, what if they think I'm weird for doing this? Well, you're your own person, and they can't do anything. They can't change your life.
00:07:15
Jared Davis
I mean, they could probably like hurt your feelings or something, but just don't listen to them. Listen
Apologizing and Managing Anger
00:07:20
Jared Davis
to what you say. Listen to what you think. do what you want to do Don't follow in other people's footsteps. Be a leader and stuff.
00:07:29
Jared Davis
And most people are so in their own head. that they aren't even thinking about, oh, what she's wearing for what she said that one time. Yeah.
00:07:40
Jared Davis
They're just like, oh, I messed up. Oh, I did this wrong. Oh, I need to do this. Oh, I can't do this. Oh, it's like they're always putting stuff on their fault. And like when something's not even their fault, they're just like, oh, I'm sorry. It's my fault. Like you don't have to always be that apologizing person. Like if it's not your fault, don't apologize because you know you didn't do anything wrong.
00:07:58
Jared Davis
So you don't have apologize. Like, I get that feeling. I apologize, like, a lot for stupid reasons because I'm scared. I don't want to lose my friend. i don't want lose my best friend. don't want to lose, like, a family member something. Like, so I'm always, like, genuinely saying sorry. Like, I'm not just, like, I'm sorry. Like, I'm actually, like, saying, like, I'm actually sorry. Like, I really don't know what was going on. Like, I really just needed to think.
00:08:21
Jared Davis
And, like, it was just a whole thing. Yeah. Because, like, if you're just, like, telling someone, like, oh, I'm just sorry, like, they're probably going to be, like, you're not sorry. Like, you're just, like, I'm sorry. Most people are going to think that you aren't really meaning it. Like, you're going to, like, oh, I knew that i mean it, I mean But do you really? Yeah.
00:08:37
Jared Davis
And so that puts stress on other people, like, oh, well, they say you're sorry, but, like, are they sorry? Am I a bad friend? Am I a bad person? Like. And when you get into a fight with someone, like, talking to and stuff and the like oh you said that and this and that but did you actually because lot of people just want to make up things to get mad at you yeah people are just like because people are versed up these days like our generation is so full of stuff that you don't even know like
00:09:10
Jared Davis
There literally could be somebody in a fist fight right now and they're like, it's probably over a stupid reason because like people fight over the most stupidest reasons now. Like it's not even a fist fight anymore. It's honestly turning into like reality is like pee-pee use. Like my dad had to go to a drive-by shooting over something stupid and the person that was just minding their business was the one that got hurt.
00:09:33
Jared Davis
Yeah.
Empathy and Mindful Interactions
00:09:34
Jared Davis
That's why, i like, you gotta be like, okay, look, like, we gotta actually, like, sit down and talk out our problems because we can't have this happening. Yeah. And instead of just resulting in fighting or violence, yeah you need to talk it out.
00:09:48
Jared Davis
Like, no matter what happens, it's never that bad that you need to, like, hurt someone. Like, I mean, i'm like, I get, like, you're full of rage. You want to do something.
00:10:00
Jared Davis
But why take it out? And especially those people just taking out on a random person. Like, why would you do that? What if they were having an amazing day? Everything went perfect. Or they were having the worst day. And you just made it lot worse. they just found out like, dog died or something? don't know. And then you're bringing it out on them.
00:10:18
Jared Davis
you're just like, oh, well. you're so bad, you're just you're ugly, and like you don't want to bring all that down on somebody when they're already having a bad day, or you just totally ruin their mood. Because if you think about it, would you want that too? Obviously not, unless you're messed up. I don't think anybody wants that. Yeah, and you don't want to hold like all your anger and frustration inside of you, because it's going to come out one way or another, depending on if you actually mean like yelling at someone, even if they do anything.
00:10:48
Jared Davis
So it's best to just, like, you can write it down in a journal or something if you don't want to talk it out. Yeah. But you should never be able to watch this. Yeah. You should never just be like, well, I don't like you. Let's fight.
00:11:05
Jared Davis
Because some people are just like, well, I don't like you. i don't like your face, so I'm just going punch you. And so, like. Even the person that punches back gets in trouble. But, like, that's stupid. I mean, because why would why would the person that got hit first get in trouble when they were defending themselves? It's called self-defense.
00:11:26
Jared Davis
Um.
00:11:31
Jared Davis
But you can put stress on people. Because, like, you're just like, well, what did I do? Yeah. And you might not even know that person. You're don't know what they're going through, you don't know what's going on at home, you don't know what's going on in their own mind. Because
Self-Reflection and Empowerment
00:11:46
Jared Davis
some people could have a perfectly fine place at school, but then when they get home, like, everything's just stress, stress, stress, bad, bad, like, you don't know that because at school they probably don't talk about it because they don't want to tell people about it. Yeah, and that can also put stress on you going to school and, oh, this person found out.
00:12:04
Jared Davis
Well, and there might be a rumor going around, need Because she found out. Yeah. Because some people are just like, when some people find out about somebody else's business, they like to go share it around. And then that person is like, well, like they want to like, they want to move schools. They want to move states. Like some people actually like get really hurt from these things.
00:12:27
Jared Davis
And it's just like all the, it's all the stress that they're getting. But like, I don't know. Maybe I should just, like, think more about what but other people say, what other people do. Maybe you should think more about yourself and just how stressful you think it would be if you were in their place. Put yourself in their shoes for a minute.
00:12:49
Jared Davis
Yeah. And think, like, is this what I should say? Is this what I shouldn't say? Yeah. And stop worrying so much about what other people think. Just go for it. Shoot your shot. Yeah.
00:13:03
Jared Davis
Do what you do best. Do what you want to do. Do what you are. Be who you want to be. Don't be who you who people tell you to be. Don't be who
Conclusion: Be Yourself and Enjoy Life
00:13:13
Jared Davis
you don't want to be. Be who you want to be.
00:13:15
Jared Davis
Be how you want to be. Don't be embarrassed about, oh, I looked like that one day. and I said this wrong.
00:13:29
Jared Davis
But yeah, so I feel like I should just do that more. I hope y'all enjoyed this because I sure did. and meet you And that is stress with Jersey and Union.
00:13:41
Jared Davis
Yeah. Bootslaka laka laka. Bye guys.