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Jared Davis: Back again with Kabrie and Emma. Today's topic is mental health and emotions. Kabrie, how do you cope with stress, anxiety, anger in healthy ways? I think that there's a lot of ways to cope with your feelings. Like you can always write down your feelings. I know a lot of people do that at night.
Jared Davis: Just like always, I feel like making time for your emotions and realizing that it's okay to Feel your feelings, you know? Yeah. How do you cope with that stuff?
Jared Davis: I think, like, not letting all your emotions, like, push all your emotions deep down. And then eventually all those emotions are just going to, like, erupt. Yeah. And it's just going to be, like, this whole mess. But I think if you jot down your emotions, take time for yourself, and actually, like,
Jared Davis: find yourself kind of. Yeah. That you can understand, like, everything that's happening but between you. Yeah, I think it's a big thing just to realize that it's okay to like, I don't know how to explain it. Like, it's okay to be sad. It's okay to cry and all that stuff. And it's good to let it out.
Jared Davis: I feel like but there is a time and place to let it out. Yeah. But it's a good thing to just make time for it and not just keep pushing it back. Because I know what a big thing for me is that during school I'm always – like making sure my friends are okay and their relationship's okay. So it's good to just think about myself.
Jared Davis: Take time for yourself. Yeah. ah Emma, how do you like understand that it's okay to ask for help? Well, it's kind of like in um our first episode, how we talked about talking with a safe person that you feel comfortable talking with, like a counselor or a trusted person, and just asking them how Asking for help, but also, like, how to understand how to cope with that emotion.
Jared Davis: And, like, kind of just expressing yourself and talking about it and things. Yeah. um I think that it's just, like, it's good to have someone to talk to and, like, get advice.
Jared Davis: Because I feel like sometimes I'm like, is this okay? Yeah. Is this a okay for me to feel this? Or should I not? Like, should i be feeling like that? Like, you know? Yeah. Yeah. Um, so yeah, really just going back to episode one and talking to someone, trust someone that you can trust and it's different for everybody. Some people, it's their parents, some people it's not, and that's fine.
Jared Davis: Um, but like counselors are always good. Yeah. Um, Kibri, how do you manage social media and peer pressure or not peer pressure, but like social media pressure? Um, I feel like it's just a huge thing. And yeah, like social media is a big thing that, um,
Jared Davis: Like, I just feel like you compare yourself, you see comments. Yeah. And I feel like um it's just, I feel like I just realized that I can't believe everything I see. Mm-hmm. Because, like, no one's going to put their bad, all their bad stuff online. Like, you know, if they want a good rep, they're going to add all the good stuff, you know? Mm-hmm. And so I think it's just good to remember not to compare myself and that we're all, know,
Jared Davis: beautiful in our own ways. Yeah. Yeah, that person is very beautiful, but so am I. Like, just because we have different features, like, that's ah never a bad thing. Yeah, I completely agree with that. And I think, um,
Jared Davis: A big thing in social media is, uh, like, hate comments, and I hate those because, I mean, if you have time out of your day to... Go and hate on somebody else. Like... Yeah.
Jared Davis: Why are you hating me? Like, literally, it just makes me so mad. Yeah. Because I feel like, why are you trying to bring other people down? Like, obviously, if you're trying to bring other people down, then, like... You don't have a good... You're trying, like, if that makes you feel good, like...
Jared Davis: That's not good. you need to talk to your counselor. like Yeah. You know, like, i don't know. yeah I've never understood that. But no, I completely agree. You put it in like the perfect way to say all that. Um.
Jared Davis: How do you manage social media and everything? Honestly, I think just taking, sometimes taking a break from social media because social media can be a lot sometimes. And like you said, all the hate comments and everything, it just gets a lot and it can like build up and stuff like that. And also feel like um social media, like there's things you should post there's things you shouldn't.
Jared Davis: Yeah. Like just recognizing and expressioning expressing emotions in a healthy way, you know? Yeah. How do you, how would you do that? um I probably wouldn't like post my whole life.
Jared Davis: Like just like simple little things and stuff like that. But I think that the people that post way too much might just need a little bit more like, that's what makes them feel more confident. And I like that good for them.
Jared Davis: Yeah, but I don't think everybody should post their whole life on social media. Well, I think that's what some people do. Some people do that for a living. Yeah, I guess. So it's just different for it and for everybody. I think it's just the way you do it. Like, I feel like you don't want to post making fun of people. Like, it's just what you post.
Jared Davis: Yeah. And just really being aware. Like, if I do this, is this going to hurt someone's feelings? I feel like reposts are a huge thing in junior high. Yeah. And expressing your feelings. But knowing, sometimes reposts may start a drama. And I feel like that's, I've learned that over the years. Yeah.
Jared Davis: Everyone looks at everyone's reposts. So no, Like, literally, if you repost that, they're probably going to see it, and it may start stuff. So just be aware of that. Just be aware of that. arm They're going to see it. and So if it starts stuff, don't be surprised, you know? 100%. What coping skills do you think somebody could use during, like, the week?
Jared Davis: Coping skills? Like, what are the biggest skills that you can use during a regular school day? What's that? So coping skills are, like, how to... deal with your emotions and how to understand like where people are coming from and stuff like that i just think like i don't know if i've already said this but writing your emotions down like just like i feel really like taking your time and just think about your day yeah like i know like when i normally think about everything is in the shower like actually i don't know it's just like quiet and like the rain peaceful don't know something about it yeah but i just like think about my day like this happened this happened And really just taking time to, like, think give about the details. like And look back on things. Yeah. And just realizing what was right and what was wrong. And maybe next time, if it happens again, how can I deal with it? Yeah.
Jared Davis: I also think that a good way with um coping with everything is taking time for yourself. Giving yourself, like, time to think. Like, how you said about the shower. Like, taking time to think about how your day was and stuff like that. Yeah. Really just, like, literally taking time for yourself. And I think that's such a big thing. like Yeah. Yeah.
Jared Davis: Your mental health needs to be good before you give your all to others. Yeah. And I think... ah I don't know. It really helps, though. Like, because I feel like when I was, like, maybe, like, two years ago, I just never thought about anything. Like, I would just, like, go through the motions and, like, there be a bunch of problems.
Jared Davis: Yeah. And I wouldn't, like, think about it Like, it would just happen. And I never really learned from my mistakes. But I really think thinking about it and being like, okay, maybe I shouldn't have done that. Yeah. And I really feel bad.
Jared Davis: And then the next day being like, I'm going go say sorry, you know? Yeah. And know this is also kind of weird, but like, I also think about, like, Like, maybe if I did do something wrong, I'm like, maybe I should talk to them and this is what I'm going to say to them. You know, like, yeah just having, like, not script, but, like, having an idea. you're, yeah, talking points.
Jared Davis: Just really thinking about everything. I think that was a good way to wrap up our second episode. I think so, too. And everyone just realized that taking time for your emotions and making sure your mental health is okay is good.
Jared Davis: Yeah. Okay, well, I'm Kabri. And I'm Emma. Thank you for listening to the Hope Squad podcast.
