How to Talk About Money and Build Trust With Your Partner with Heather & Douglas Boneparth

You may be surprised to hear that billionaires get divorced at roughly the same rate as the general population, which demonstrates that no amount of money protects couples from the tension that can arise when finances are at play. Dr. Alexandra often says that money is a tricky topic because at one level, it is very concrete – dollars and cents, spending and saving. But at another level, the topic of money evokes deep and meaningful questions about our core beliefs, our sense of identity, our desires, and our insecurities. To help us explore all of this, Dr. Alexandra is joined by financial-planning power couple Douglas and Heather Boneparth. 

You will hear them talk about:

• why money continues to be a source of tension for couples, even after couples become objectively successful. 
• “financial infidelity”, the role shame plays with it, and the Boneparths’ case for financial transparency in your relationship. 
• how to get past the tangible, more surface-level topics around money to curiously dig deeper and explore why you and your partner feel the way you do about money (and spoiler alert: that story started being written long long ago!). 
• how to approach prenups.

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

• Money Together: How to find fairness in your relationship and become an unstoppable financial team by Heather and Douglas Boneparth https://bookshop.org/p/books/money-together-how-to-find-fairness-in-your-relationship-and-become-an-unstoppable-financial-team-douglas-boneparth/273465fcc086fc3d
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• Learn more about The Boneparths: https://domoneytogether.com/

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