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Speaker: Welcome to the Spiritual Fitness Podcast. I'm your host, Eric Bigger. And each week, we will explore powerful practices, inspiring stories, and expert insights to guide you on your path to holistic health.
Speaker: By blending spirituality and physical wellness, we support you in strengthening your body and soul. Whether you're a seasoned spiritual seeker or just beginning your journey, the Spiritual Fitness Podcast is here to help you unlock your inner potential and live your most vibrant, purposeful life.
Speaker: It's miracle season.
Speaker: Today's episode, it's about why men should be vulnerable. Vulnerability is a superpower and it's the gateway to authenticity.
Speaker: And our most vulnerable self, usually when it comes from a man's perspective or paradigm, is very fearful. It lacks confidence. It lacks faith. It lacks trust, a space where we don't maneuver, we don't move, we don't really tap into because the stereotypes that will put on us as men in society. You got to be a man, you got to be strong, you got to hold it down, you got to be the man of the house. My dad would always say, take care of your sisters and be the man of the house, right? I'm 13, 14, okay pops, be the man of the house, whatever that means. And I remember I didn't
Speaker: cry until the age of 25. I was standing strong my whole life because coming up in Baltimore, growing up in a tough environment, you don't show no emotions, you don't dance, you don't even smile.
Speaker: And granted, I got a great smile, right? I didn't even smile. I was always just suppressed. I was suppressed in my emotions. I was suppressed in my feelings. I never understood feelings, emotions.
Speaker: And when it came to relationships, at least in my mind and in my life, Because I didn't have that affection and nurturing from my mom the way I needed or wanted, it I was so afraid of love.
Speaker: You know, I didn't grow up in a family where we hugged or we told each other, we love you, or I love you, or we talked about our feelings or emotions. Growing up as a young man, I mean, that's my norm. That's all I know.
Speaker: i was so afraid to be weak, right? And I was so afraid to be vulnerable and I was so afraid to be my true self. So most of my life from a young man up until adulthood, I was just afraid to be who I needed to be. So four tips of why men should be vulnerable in life and in relationship. Emotional intimacy, it builds trust, it improves communication and you break down the stereotype of the tough guy. The rule number one, conversation rules the nation.
Speaker: So when you're vulnerable, you not only improve the conversation with people around you, but you improve the conversation within yourself. Because the number one relationship and the best relationship you should have is with yourself. So if you're not speaking to yourself or opening up to yourself, it's not going to easy for people to open up to you or for you to open up to others. So you have to build that, improve the communication with themselves. So second,
Speaker: It builds trust. So the old me who wasn't vulnerable and I was asking the girl out, I'll give you a scenario. And I say, hey, you know, if you're free on Friday, if you want to hang out, you should go to the movies with me.
Speaker: Around seven, let me know if you're free. Right. Is that vulnerable? Think about it. The second one is, listen, there's a movie that comes out. Friday. It's a Christmas movie called Red One. It's at 7 p.m. at The Grove. And I would love to take you to the movies and spend time with you. Let me know if you can go. What's the difference in that conversation and those words?
Speaker: So the first half is... I'm building up the conversation not to be rejected because I'm saying, hey, if you open on Friday, I'll let it take you to the movies. Let me know if you're free or not. The second one is like, look, I want to take you to the movies. I want to be around you. 7 p.m. We're at 1. Let's go. Let's go watch Christmas movie. When we get vulnerable and we speak like that,
Speaker: The vulnerable way we build trust in with people like, oh, so now she knows, oh, this guy wants to take me out. She's more clear. i want to take you out on Friday. This is the day I'll come pick you up.
Speaker: You start to allow her to open up to build some type of trust or rapport with you. Building trust because I'm telling you how I'm feeling. I'm telling you I want to take you out. I'm telling you I like you. I had a client tell me. She said, Eric, I don't understand men. How is it that men ah put all their faces in all the places all over your body and do all these things, but they can't even express their feelings to you or how they feel about you or they won't say the words, I love you or it's so weird. I was like, that is so odd that we'll do all the physical things. But when it comes to that vulnerability in our communication about our feelings, we shy away from it. So ladies, what that means is that he's afraid to express himself because he's afraid that if he express himself, he's gonna lose his power. The challenge is for us as men, the reason we can't get emotionally vulnerable or intimate is because we don't have the emotional, vulnerable and intimate relationship with self.
Speaker: No one tells you to be spiritual. No one tells you to allow. No one tells you to trust. If you're a man right now, shout out to all the men that's doing the best they can because we don't know what we don't know. This is why I'm doing this podcast. And I want to give information and insight deeper into how you can add these little tidbits to your woodock what you're already doing. So if you're a man and you're providing. You're protected and you're leading. There's two other things that might be missing in this package. And number one is, do you mentally connect with your woman? And are you emotionally intimate with your woman?
Speaker: Like, do she feel safe coming to you with her problems or her fears or her emotions without you running or getting afraid? Are you comfortable being vulnerable?
Speaker: and in crying or allowing your true self to be seen when you're not your best. We got to communicate emotionally. We got to become vulnerable. We got to build trust within ourselves. We got to improve the communication within ourselves.
Speaker: But the most important thing that I know from coaching very high-end, independent, successful women is emotionally and spiritually and mentally connecting to them, for them to open up so they can be in their feminine. Because there is a thing where the roles are switching, at least the energies are changing. And it's not that it's bad. a woman can still be in her mask and be independent because she wants more and you still conserve her, make her feel safe. Some women just want more money and want to provide and have their own. They don't need your money, but they want your emotional depth. They want to feel at home in your presence.
Speaker: And I'm pretty sure if you have a great relationship with your mom and you tell your mom every day, that's the first woman you fall in love with is your mom. So you're probably vulnerable with her. You probably tell her everything. But why can't you tell the woman of your dreams or your partner or the lover your life the same thing? So the collective is changing.
Speaker: It's very important as as men for us to tap into our supernatural powers of our femininity, our emotional vulnerability, our emotional intimacy, to tap into our supernatural power to take on life with joy, with love, and with abundance.
Speaker: And last but not least, why men should be vulnerable? you The guy who's the most vulnerable is actually the strongest. If you're guy and you stand in front of me and you got it all together and you're strong, and but you're not vulnerable and you're not tapping into your emotional side, your EQ, your emotional intelligence, And you're not hyper aware or super intuitive. And I can read through your BS.
Speaker: And I can see the holes within your vessel. Not because it's bad. Not because I'm better. It's just because I'm more aware of myself because I've done the work. There's a book, by the way, fellas, that you should read.
Speaker: It's called The Way to the Superior Man. And in that book, they said, if a man doesn't have a mission, he doesn't have a wife. If you think about the word submit, submission, a woman will only submit to a man who has a mission. So fellas, if you're out here looking good and you're acting cool, but you don't have no mission, she's not going submit to you. Because you don't have no mission. You don't have no purpose. You're just existing because you can. So, fellas, we got to break this tough guy.
Speaker: You ain't got to be tough to be in love. You ain't got to be tough to speak your truth. You ain't got to be tough to tell your woman, baby, I love you. I'm quick to tell my girlfriend. I miss you so much. I haven't seen her in three weeks. And I was telling a friend, a homegirl, she's like, oh, what you want some TLC? I said, you damn right I want some TLC. I'm not ashamed about that. And and fellas, sometimes we become ashamed around our feelings and our emotions.
Speaker: I couldn't wait to see my girlfriend and cuddle and become one and just connect and just be in her energy. That felt good. And when I saw, ooh, baby, it was magical.
Speaker: So it's always a work in progress. We always got to be willing to grow and learn. But I'm here to tell you that emotional intimacy, and improving your communication with yourself, building trust within yourself, and connecting to your higher self and your purpose and having some spiritual foundation will help you become vulnerable, right?
Speaker: So if you're listening and you think this resonates, share this episode. Share, subscribe, like, and sign up for one-on-one coaching. Let's get on an attention call and I can show you as a man what you probably need to look at. Because you have the answers. I'm just opening up the space so you can see what you can't see. I'm just the other side. I'm your mirror.
Speaker: And to women out there, if you're looking for a man and you can't find your king, I know what it is. It's like this. You don't feel safe being in your feminine. You don't feel safe speaking your truth.
Speaker: You're afraid to lose a man you're dating, so you walk on eggshells because you don't want him to leave you. Maybe you're at that age where like, well, what I'm going to I'm getting old. So this is only guy that's giving me attention. no, no, no, no. That's a choice. That's a thought. It's not true. Sign up for one-on-one coaching. Work with me. The links will be all in the show notes. Be a real guy, a real man. And stand in your truth. Be a nurturing man. Be a wholesome man. Be a trustworthy, authentic, a man of integrity by being vulnerable.
Speaker: So that's all. That's it.
Speaker: Thank you for joining us on the Spiritual Fitness Podcast. We hope today's episode has inspired you and provided valuable insights for your holistic health journey. By blended spirituality and physical wellness, you can strengthen your body, mind, and soul.
Speaker: If you enjoyed today's episode, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review. Until next time, stay strong, stay inspired, and remember, it's miracle season.
