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EP186: Kelly Armatage - The Importance of Releasing Negative Habits
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Everyone has the power to heal, be free of suffering or regret and have a happy life. All you need to do is A.S.K. to know how. Today’s guest has the passion to help people discover their inner harmony and release negative habits through the three steps of A.S.K. Kelly Armatage is the inventor of A.S.K. – A Serenity Kit which is a 3-step subconscious re-wiring technique that deals with any issue. It was launched in March 2015 and it’s currently receiving excellent reviews in the UK, USA and Middle East. As well, A.S.K. has been recently accredited as a course for Therapists and Coaches via The International Coaching Federation (ICF). During this conversation, you’ll discover…
- Victim mindset vs warrior mindset
- The A.S.K. technique
- The importance of inner harmony and releasing negative habits
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Transition from Victim to Warrior Mindset
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So I went from a victim mindset into a warrior mindset whereby I became very committed to taking responsibility for my life, taking responsibility for my thoughts, emotions and behaviours and ultimately transitioning into a successful happier existence whereby depression or nervous breakdowns or toxic relationships became things of the past.
Podcast Introduction and Sponsor
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Welcome to another exciting episode of the podcast, The Thought Leader Revolution.
Introducing Kelly Armitage
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I'm your host, Nicky Baloo, and boy, do we have an incredible guest lined up for you today. Today's guest is someone who has developed phenomenal expertise, thought leadership, if you will,
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around helping people cope with cognitive and emotional challenges. She's someone that I know from being a part of Robin Sharma's highest level mastermind, the Titan Summit.
Kelly's Journey and Challenges
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I am speaking, of course, of none other than the one, the only, the legendary Kelly Armitage. Welcome to the show, Kelly. Hello, Nikki. Thank you for having me. Oh, my goodness. It's the pleasure. It's all mine. All mine.
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So Kelly, you and I, we've gotten to know each other a little bit, being part of Robin's Titan Summit alumni. And I really love who you are and what you're all about. My listener doesn't know you yet. They listen to the show because they want to learn from you. They want to learn from your expertise. They want to be able to take
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your wisdom and apply it to their life, apply it to their business. But before they can do that, they need to get to know you. They need to fall in love with you and who you are and what you're all about. So tell us your backstory. How'd you get to be the great Kelly? OK, well, yes. So I spent initially 13 years in the motor industry working
Helping Others with Mental Health
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for large corporations such as Toyota and General Motors. And I was headhunted to go out to the Middle East to work for Toyota over there, which I did back in 2004.
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And so off it went to Bahrain, the little island south of Saudi Arabia in the Middle East. And yeah, while I was over there, I was entering into yet another dysfunctional relationship. And I started to sort of get very interested in psychology, human behaviour, and I started to become a counsellor and a coach and a cognitive behavioural therapist. And yeah, I opened the first licensed
The ARSE Technique: An Overview
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counselling clinic in Bahrain. I think it's 13 years ago now.
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And yeah, it turned from two clients into over 10,000 sessions over the next decade. Wow. But yeah, I got into psychology, human behavior because I was suffering in my life. I've had two nervous breakdowns, two divorces, two car accidents.
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and I wanted to know why- Oh my God, bad things come in too, Spree, don't they? Yeah, so I wanted to know why there was dysfunction and toxicity, so hence I hit that self-development path, did a lot of healing on myself, and ultimately have helped a lot of people with various things from heroin addiction right the way up to a CEO that wants to increase profit in his company. So yeah, that's me really in a nutshell, Nicky.
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So Kelly, that is quite the story. You've gone through some powerful adversity. This adversity obviously has shaped who you are. Tell me a little bit more about it. You don't need to get into super detail about it, but you faced some tough challenges in life. How have they made you who you are today and how's that informed your work?
Global Impact of the ARSE Technique
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Well, yeah, a lot of challenges that
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ultimately initially created a victim mindset. So a victim mindset is where you blame the world and you don't really take responsibility and then things keep repeating. So, you know, if you have a victim mindset around anxiety or depression and you don't take responsibility for that, you'll keep attracting anxiety, depression, toxic relationships, failure. So I went from a victim mindset into a warrior mindset whereby I became very committed to taking responsibility for my life
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taking responsibility for my thoughts, emotions and behaviours and ultimately transitioning into a successful happier existence whereby depression or nervous breakdowns or toxic relationships became things of the past.
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That's something I'll tell you.
Demonstrating the ARSE Technique
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So you went through this and this kind of made you think, hey, I want to help other people. I want to make a difference for other people. So talk a bit about that. Talk about how your heart was opened up by all this. Yeah. So I'm like, I'm really, I'm very knowledgeable on addiction, codependency, depression.
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You know, any sort of learned behaviors whereby people are really stuck. So I haven't gone through so much pain myself. I'm very passionately committed to helping others transcend learned behaviors because, you know, depression and anxiety, I think 40 million people in the United States alone are diagnosed with an anxiety disorder.
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And that just tends to be medication and a label for those people. They don't have help to really transcend that condition via changing their thinking patterns. So yeah, very interested in just helping people and committed to helping people shift life challenges such as anxiety, depression, addiction, codependency, toxic relationships, things that many people are suffering with on a day-to-day basis.
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And they suffer in silence often, right? And one of my mentors is a man by the name of Mark Van Musier. And he said that the main reason we're here on this earth is to help other people. And our biggest competitive advantage is how much we care about our fellow man and woman. And our job is really to help alleviate the suffering for our clients. In your case, quite literally.
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Right? Yeah. And doing this, I believe, is one of the things that has people come and want to work with you. It's what has you be sought after. That's our new tagline in East Circle Academy. It's be sought after. What's your comment on that? Yeah, yeah, I think absolutely. I mean, I think that's how I went from two clients to over 10,000 sessions in the Middle East because I was somebody that could change
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insomnia in one session or somebody's bulimic condition in two sessions. I became known as the one session therapist because I was utterly committed to creating transformation very quickly for my clients. I have a technique where I can just go into the subconscious and unpick that wound so that they can leave and say, wow, my insomnia completely left.
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that bulimia, it's a thing of the past or that 17 year relationship issue that I had, it's just gone. So yeah, I think you need to be a sought after expert whereby you create results for people. And yeah, I saw your video yesterday about sizzle
Forgiveness and Personal Growth
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and steak. And I really liked that Nikki, because it's important to provide a sought after service.
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You know, so that's why I invented the arse technique, which is a cognitive tool, because I was just sick of people coming to me saying, you know, I've got OCD and I've been seeing a psychologist in the UK for 18 months. And I'll be like, what? Why are you still seeing a psychologist and why isn't your OCD gone? So that's why after the Titan Summit in 2013, I became very passionate about inventing a cognitive tool similar to NLP, CBT, EFT.
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And for people to use it on themselves to shift learned behaviours. So yeah, I love that whole being sought after because you are providing a service that is very much needed and creates transformation.
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Yeah, powerful stuff. And yeah, thanks for watching my video. I'm glad you got something good out of it. That's wonderful. I did, yeah. So let's talk about the ask technique. How did you come up with it? And what's it doing for people? So I loved, you know, in my five years of studying and then I read over a thousand self-help books, you know, and I sort of followed Tony Robbins in that area. I became very thirsty for knowledge on therapy and
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the tools that are out there. So obviously there's some amazing tools out there in the therapy field, such as CBT, cognitive behavioral therapy, NLP, neuro-leuistic programming, which was invented by Richard Bandler, but Tony Robbins really got well known for getting that out there. The work by Byron Katie, EFT, which is the tapping technique. So I saw all these amazing tools. Yeah, I saw these amazing tools and I'm like,
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Well, you know, we need more tools like this. So after the Titan Summit, I spent two years creating the Ask technique, which is similar to CBT and NLP EFT, the work, in that it is a three-step subconscious rewiring technique that therapists and coaches can use on their clients. And indeed, actually, the public, I created these acerenity kits, which is a therapist in a kit. Indeed, the public can buy a kit,
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and use the technique on themselves. So I think, you know, we sent off a kit to
Global Expansion of ARSE Technique
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the Sunday Express and she wrote a review saying, this cleared my insomnia. So the reviews are really good. The arse technique is being used by the US military for veterans that are suffering with PTSD. We have coaches globally studying the technique and using it on their clients and they can use it on any issue. So an entrepreneur that's stuck in a habit,
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somebody that's in a codependent marriage, somebody that has insomnia, somebody that has past trauma. It's wonderful for past trauma. So yeah, it was a two year process of really brainstorming and putting together the whole process. So I started that after the Titan Summit in 2013, and we launched it in 2015. And it got accredited by the ICF as a training tool for coaches back in 2017.
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So yeah, we're still very much in the infant years, but I really hope for it to become a widely used therapy technique such as CBT.
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I love it. That's incredible.
Connecting with Kelly and Final Thoughts
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That's absolutely incredible. God bless you, Kelly, for making a difference at such a global level. It's important to be someone who goes out there and shares your heart, shares your love, shares your caring with people in the universe, right?
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After all, what we're here to do is to make a difference for other people. And what you're doing is helping you do that in the biggest possible way. So how many people have used the ask technique? How many people have bought this kit? Oh, gosh. When I launched it back in 2015, they sold like hotcakes, anyone that was coming in, because I had a clinic in the Middle East in Bahrain. Anyone that came for a session, they were buying kits.
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Yeah, it's being used all over the world. We have coaches using it, therapists. I'm now implementing it into prisons here. We're looking at speaking to the NHS to try to get their counselors trained in the technique. Anybody can use it, corporates, counselors, therapists, coaches. Yeah, it's being used all over, but I want it to be bigger, obviously, because I really see that it can really help people within 20 to 40 minutes.
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So if I do this in a seminar or on a one-on-one session, the results are amazing. The results are amazing. So I did this technique on an entrepreneur. He had no profits in his companies. So we have all of this on video. So then he calls me six weeks later. He's like, Kelly, all my profits have gone up. I did it on a person that wasn't sleeping. The next time I saw her, she said, I slept on that night. I did it on a woman who needed a new job. Within four weeks, she got a new job.
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I did it on a client that had a codependent issue in her marriage for 17 years and it was cleared. So it's creating really remarkable results. And it's wonderful to do in a seminar or a workshop. Yeah. So yeah, we're just trying to spread it a bit more so that coaches can use it because it's really, really powerful.
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I love it. I love it. You know what? We do quarterly events for our members and for our guests to teach them about how to be sought after, basically. And one of the things we do is we have some guest speakers speak to them and teach them over Zoom.
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Maybe we should talk to you about doing that. You can do a little talk for folks that could get to know about your technique. I'll put you in touch with Theresa, my fabulous better half who works with me. It might make sense for you to do it over Zoom or heck, you might even want to come do the event and do it that way so we can talk about that offline, but I love this. This sounds incredible.
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Yeah, we can do a demo. I mean, I just did a big webinar for the ICF, and we did a demo on one of the coaches on the webinar. And within 15 minutes, she was shifted, and the whole webinar felt it. So we can do a demo. We can do a demo on somebody. Why don't we do a demo on me? You want to do it on you? Let's do a demo on me, and then we'll do one privately for the clients, too. I mean, this is a great way for people to get it. OK. OK. What do we do? I'm coachable.
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Okay. You're uncoachable or you're coachable. I'm coachable. I'm coachable. Good. Okay. So yeah. Okay. So choose the most dissatisfied part of your life or choose a problem or an issue that you want to solve. Okay. So you can look in your health, your finances, your career, your relationships, your social life.
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So choose something that you want to change or choose something that's causing you a lot of dissatisfaction or emotional. Listen, I'll tell you, inside my business, I used to have a partner and I don't anymore. And he's a guy I love and we're just not close anymore. So I'm a little sad about that.
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OK, cool. So you want to do it on that? We can clear it now. OK, let's do it. Yeah. Let's do it. OK, cool. So I wish I had the worksheet to send over to you, but it doesn't matter. It's three steps. Sure. So in one sentence, ultimately, this is your thought pattern. I am sad what? So in one sentence, because you said the emotion sad, I am sad what? So give me the sentence. Yeah, I'm sad and disappointed that we're not close anymore.
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Okay, so I'm sad that we're not close anymore, so that's a thought. Okay, so give me three emotions that that thought is creating for you. So obviously sadness is what? Sadness. Okay, and how much out of 10 is the sadness? Sadness is probably like a six. Okay, six, and then give me two other emotions. Upset. Upset, how much out of 10? Eight. Okay, good, and then give me one more.
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Is there any guilt there? Is that what I picked up? Is there any guilt there? Yeah, I've got some guilt. That's good. Yeah, probably a seven. Seven out of ten. Okay, good. So there's the three emotions and they're high emotions because they're like six, eight, seven out of ten. Okay, so it's a perfect issue to work on. Okay, cool. So we have the thought and we have the emotions attached to it. Okay, so step one of the technique is commitment. How committed?
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are you, how willing, how high is your intention to take away this emotional pain and get to a solution on this issue? Wow, when you put it that way. How committed? Take away the emotional pain. Yeah, I'm a 10. I'm a 10. Perfect. OK, cool. So that's step one done. So now that you have a high commitment, your mind will literally open for the solution. OK, so step two is picked up habit.
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And it's wonderful that we've chosen sort of a conflict situation which involves another person because the arse technique is wonderful for a conflicted situation. So picked up habit, learned behavior, actions. So we'll do a line here. So your business partner, what's his picked up habit? What was his learned behavior that you judge? What I judge was that he,
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When we were partners, he didn't see things from my perspective. He just expected me to see them from his. Okay, so quite self-centered or self-absorbed, yes? He'd probably say the same thing about me, but that's how it looked. Yeah. Okay, so it's just not open to seeing your feelings, sort of self-absorbed. Yeah, that's how it felt. Okay, so he has a picked up habit. He has a learned behavior.
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of not being open to someone else's feelings. Okay, now what's your picked up habit or what's your action, what's your behavior in this specific situation? So firstly, there's one behavior, it's you're judging the situation, just sad, there's no acceptance there. So we can put a picked up habit there for you, judgment or not letting go of this situation, yes?
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Yes, the other one is I wanted approval. I wanted his approval. I wanted approval. Perfect. Okay. So you could put down that needed validation. Okay. So here we have picked up habits. Him in that he's a bit self-centered, not open to other people's feelings. Yours is that you're judging the situation and you wanted approval. Okay. So now the next part of step two is payoff. For any habit, there's a payoff. Okay. We do our habits because there's a,
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feeling of comfort, relief, familiarity within the habit. So for him, it's familiar. It's normal to be a bit self-centered. He has a payoff attached to that. You also have a payoff attached to needing validation and a payoff to not letting the situation go judging. Okay, so we're just going to put that there. So he has a picked up habit of being a bit self-centered and the payoff is it's familiar for him. You have the picked up habit of judging the situation
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and want invalidation. And again, it's easy, normal, familiar for you. Okay. Now, the next part is plan. We can't change his habit, but we can change your habits. Okay. So plan is the opposite picked up habit. If you've picked up a habit of being sad about a situation and judging the situation, we can put down that habit and we can pick up the opposite habit of what's the opposite of
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judging and being sad about the situation. What's the direct opposite? Happy and accepting. Yeah, acceptance of the situation. Good. OK. Needing validation. This is a big behavior that I used to suffer with and still do sometimes, actually. It's a big one out there. So needing validation from others, that's a habit we can pick up that doesn't serve us. We put that down. What's the opposite? Needing validation from? That's the opposite of needing validation is, I guess, being self-sufficient.
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Yeah, needing validation from self or, you know, surrendering validation from others. Yeah, surrendering validation from others and just wanting validation from self. That's it. Good. OK, so so here now is the part of the technique. This is the most important part. So whereas so in EFT, there's a lot of acceptance in that technique. So now we see his picked up habit.
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self-centred, not looking at other people's feelings, and that there's a payoff attached to that, normal. And your two habits, old ones, judging the situation, needing validation. And we see the plan to go forward, which is needing validation from self and accepting the situation. Now, how do you look at all of these picked up habits, his and yours, and forgive, accept, be at peace, and just really be aware of them, just like,
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It's okay. It's okay that he has self-centered behaviors. He has that for a payoff. It's okay that he didn't see my feelings. That's a learned behavior of his. It's okay I have these two habits of judging the situation, not letting it go, because ultimately I was wanting validation. It's okay. It's okay. I forgive myself for my two picked up habits. I forgive him for his picked up habits. And I go forward with my plan, which is to surrender this situation
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and get validation from self. So let's check with you, Nikki. Now, how do you feel about his picked up habit? He didn't care about your feelings in the situation. How do you feel about that? He does it for him. There seems to be a release inside me, a physical release. Yeah. Yeah. I can feel that actually. I can, I'm actually connected to you and I can feel your heart is now opening. Yeah. Okay. So he has a habit which he probably was taught by his parents to perhaps be a bit more
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not aware of other people's feelings. And he does that because he has a subconscious payoff attached to it. You're going to be at peace with that or judge it? Yeah, I'm at peace. I'm at peace. Good. Very good. OK. And you had two picked up habits which contributed to this situation, wanting validation and judging the situation after it had, you know, it's ultimately ended a while ago. How do you feel about your two picked up habits? You're at peace with that or you want to judge yourself for those habits that you've had along the way?
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because you have a plan to go forward, which is to get validation from themselves and to surrender the situation. Yes. So can you forgive yourself for your two old actions? Yeah, I can. I can. Yeah, you can. I developed that there. I felt that there. Yeah. Good. Perfect. Okay. So, and then we go on to step three, which is growth. So three steps, commitment, truth, growth. Third step.
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Why did you attract this situation? What is the lesson? What's the growth? So if I did it on myself, I attracted an alcoholic and I was angry about that and I married him. My growth was to release my codependency. So I became grateful for being with an alcoholic because it taught me a lot about addiction and taught me to transcend my codependency. So in this situation, what's the growth? What's your lesson here? My growth is to let
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to let go of the need for external validation, to become more self-sufficient. It's one of the things that I've pretended I've been self-sufficient in many ways, and this is to actually become self-sufficient. Good, so your growth is a self-love tip here, it's a self-love aspect, yeah? Yeah, so this was a wonderful issue for you because it taught you to increase your self-love, yes? Yes.
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And also, maybe there's an assertiveness lesson here. Maybe you could have said to this guy, hey, when you don't take my feelings into account, that hurts me. And if you're going to be my business partner, my feelings and your feelings need to be spoke about and compromised on. Maybe there's an assertiveness lesson there, too. Yes? Yes, there is. Good. So we put in the growth, which is step three. We say, OK, this came into my life.
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self-love, validation from self, and also maybe to express my feelings to business partners, intimate partners, anyone really, kids, whatever. Yeah, to express my feelings without like, because I seem to... Without being sad or judging. Yeah, I either didn't express my feelings in situations like this, or I would express them very vehemently, angrily, like kind of crush the other person kind of away. So that's good.
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That's good. So I'm exactly the same. I'm still working on assertiveness and boundaries in expressing my feelings and teaching so many CEOs and clients out there that are running these 5,000 employee organizations, but they don't have to express their needs and feelings. And it's a fundamental life skill. Yeah, it is. It's good. Wow. So take a deep breath here, Nicky. OK, I did. OK, so we're going to go up to the issue again. I am sad that
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My business partner disappointed me, is that what it was? Yeah, I'm sad and disappointed, yeah. Okay, so let's check. How sad are you now out of 10? You have learnt the lesson. Yeah, maybe like a two. Good, yeah. How upset are you out of 10? Yeah, that's down to like a three or four. Yeah, and the other one was guilt, right? Guilt is because I judge myself for doing something. So how much is the guilt now out of 10?
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That's down to a five. Interesting. That's the one that diminished the least in the three. Yeah. Yeah. Because on some level, you're still judging yourself for not expressing your feelings, and you're still judging yourself for trying to get validation from him. And so then it just needs to be a bigger forgiveness there. That's all. That was awesome. Thank you. Wow. That's a lot of freedom over an issue that's been lingering in the background for quite some time. Oh, how many years? Yeah.
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Um, basically, you know, we are, are, he told me that it's been over a year and a half that the process started. Yeah. You know, and you know what you could do just to really release that guilt is you could always send him an email and say, look, I'm, you know, just own your part. You know, I'm sorry that I looked for validation by you. I'm sorry. I didn't express my feelings more assertively. That's it. And all that guilt and any resentment will just release.
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and you own your behaviours then, you go forward and learn those lessons to assert your needs and not to get validation from anyone. Yeah, so you could always send that email if you want, but you don't have to. The fact you've cleared the judgement from within, he will feel it on a psychic level anyway.
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Yeah, I mean, sending him an email is a good thought. He is not, you know, he and I have not spoken for a while, so I can't guarantee he's going to want to respond right now. Well, it's not about him responding, it's about you clearing your side. But you don't have to. The fact that you've just shifted all these emotions towards him is very good. Yeah, listen, he's a man I consider to brother, you know. And he came to teach you some stuff.
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and he did and a big reason why I am where I am today is because of him. Oh wonderful so yeah and you can put that in step three growth I am so pleased I met this man because he taught me a lot around business or whatever he taught you so gratitude for that step three is gratitude for my lessons gratitude for the attributes and skills I've got
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through going through the situation. That's step three. I'm so appreciative of the lotus that came from this mud. You know? I love it. This is powerful stuff, Kelly. Good stuff. Yeah, thank you. This is good stuff. It's really powerful, really powerful, yeah.
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Great, so look, let's definitely, I mean, a lot of people are gonna listen to the podcast, they're gonna hear this, and let's make sure that they have an opportunity to connect with you. So how can they find out more? People can connect, they can like look at my TED Talk, or Google my name, or go on to assuenitykit.com, or Kelly Armitage Instagram, I do lots of free videos, and YouTube, I do lots of free videos. So yeah, happy to help anyone that wants help.
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That's fantastic. That's absolutely fantastic. So Kelly, we're going to make sure that's in the show notes. So listener, Kelly Armitage is the real deal. Check this out. Start to learn about, you know, the ass technique and start using it. I mean, if you're a thought leader, if you're a coach, if you're a consultant, this is a powerful tool to have in your toolkit. At the very least, you can use it on yourself, but
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you could use this on some clients and really help make a difference for them. It's powerful stuff. And Kelly, thank you for doing what you do, for making a difference for people and making the difference you were born to make, making the dent in the universe that you were born to make as the late, great Steve Jobs said. Thank you. Oh, you're welcome, Nikki. Thank you so much for having me on your podcast.
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No, it's my pleasure. So Kelly, we'd like to end off each episode by asking you for your top three expert action steps that you believe our listener can use to help him or herself take their business and their life to the next level. What do you say?
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I'd say step one, to be utterly accepting and surrendering of your past. So yeah, work with a therapist or a coach to really surrender all events of your past or do the ask technique on that so that you ultimately are very grateful for everything that you've ever gone through because this will increase your self-esteem today and your self-acceptance today and ultimately help you to not judge other people. That would be step one, be happy with your past
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no matter what's in it. Step two, I would work on negative self beliefs that hold you back, you know, removing them, I'm unlovable, I can't do it, really working on those. The third one, I would learn compassion for others and assertiveness. I think these are two fundamental life skills for any entrepreneur, for any individual, for any parent. I think if you have compassion for other people,
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And you have assertiveness, which is ultimately how you express your needs and feelings to others. I think you become a very self-respecting and respected member of society. Yeah, there's actually a Facebook video of me doing a compassion plus assertiveness on my Facebook, I think. Yeah, I would say those were my top three.
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How can I be like Kelly? That's a fantastic question, and I'll tell you how. The first thing you should do is to go to nicky360.com. That's N-I-C-K-Y-3-6-0.com. There's going to be a pop-up for my webinar masterclass. This webinar masterclass is six steps.
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today anyway.
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six shifts on how to basically become that sought after thought leader that can add a quarter million, a half a million, a million dollars a year to your practice. So watch that. It's 38 minutes long. It's fantastic. You're going to learn a ton from it. And once you've watched that, then go to
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eCircleAcademy.com, go click on the button in the top right hand corner or the one in the middle of the page and book a call with me so that we can have a powerful honest conversation about how to turn you into that sought after thought leader so that you can add a quarter million, half a million, a million dollars a year or more to your practice. And I highly recommend you do both of these things. And once we jump on the call, I promise you this,
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I am going to
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that if I get to serve you, and if you get to serve the clients that you're looking to serve, even if they don't end up becoming your paying clients, then you're fulfilling your purpose in the world. And this will give me an opportunity to do that. So let's make sure that you do that. So Kelly, thank you so much for being a guest on the show today. You are awesome. Aw, so are you, Nikki. Thank you so much for having me. I've had such a really good time. Yeah, me too. Me too.
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And that wraps up another exciting episode of the podcast, the Thought Leader Revolution. To find out more about today's guest, the one and only Kelly Armitage, go to thethoughtleaterrevolution.com, click on the show notes for this episode, and to find out more about how you can be sought after, go to nicky360.com, click on the pop-up for the webinar masterclass, and to jump on a call with me, go to eCircleAcademy.com and click on the button in the top right-hand corner or in the middle of the page. Until next time,
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Goodbye.