EP214: Dr. Cheryl Fraser - Pleasure Is Your Birthright

“Kill the soulmate and save your relationship.” 

Pleasure isn’t something men need to chase—it’s built into who we are. Yet life, routines, and responsibilities can bury it under layers of stress and obligation. The episode unpacks why novelty fades in long-term love, why sex slows down even in happy marriages, and how men can reclaim desire by making intentional effort, bringing polarity back, and refusing to settle for “nipple, nipple, crotch, goodnight” routines. 

Dr. Cheryl Fraser cuts through the myths with refreshing honesty. She shows how spontaneity isn’t enough—you need to cultivate responsive desire, plan for seduction, and sometimes even bring back taboo play to keep things alive. She reminds men that attraction can’t be negotiated, but how you show up either fuels desire or kills it. Sovereignty in sex, like in life, comes down to stepping up, leading, and refusing to be lazy in love. 

Cheryl is a clinical psychologist, sex therapist, and author who has spent decades helping couples reignite passion. She’s the creator of the “Passion Triangle,” a framework that blends intimacy, thrill, and sensuality, and the founder of a 12-week couples immersion program. Cheryl is also the host of the Sex, Love & Elephants podcast, where she explores the connection between erotic love and spiritual awakening. 

Cheryl is a Buddhist psychologist, sex therapist, author, and speaker who helps couples reignite passion and build love that lasts. Known for her humor, straight talk, and practical wisdom, Cheryl blends cutting-edge sex therapy with Buddhist mind training to cut through resistance and bring couples back to intimacy. 

A Fulbright scholar and acclaimed researcher on love and sexual behavior, she created the Become Passion program, hosts the Sex, Love & Elephants podcast, and wrote Buddha’s Bedroom – The Mindful Loving Path to Sexual Passion and Lifelong Intimacy. She’s also been featured by Tony Robbins, Jack Canfield, and Dr. Laura Berman. 

When she’s not teaching or speaking, Cheryl is often leading meditation retreats or living on Vancouver Island with her partner and their animals, practicing the passion she preaches. 

www.drcherylfraser.com 

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