This is the honest preparation guide for what actually happens when you set boundaries with family. With the holiday season approaching, it's time to talk about the outcomes nobody warns you about, including the most painful one: sometimes they just leave.

Here's what to expect when you set family boundaries:

 * Best case: They accept the boundary and adjust their behavior (yes, this can actually happen - you know your family best)
 * The offense: They take it personally, want to argue, and get defensive no matter how you word it (have an exit strategy ready)
 * The manipulation: They shift blame and make it your fault they crossed the line (don't fall for it)
 * The abandonment: They exit your life entirely, which nobody expects because "that's what family does - they stick around, right?" (not always)
 * The painful truth: Sometimes people were only around because they liked taking advantage of your people-pleasing ways

From decades of history and unspoken "don't rock the boat" cultural norms to realizing that boundaries are meant to deepen relationships (not push people away), this episode prepares you emotionally for what might happen when you finally set that boundary.

Because here's what you need to know: if someone's response to you wanting a healthier, more loving, more respectful relationship is to leave, then maybe that's exactly where they need to go out the door. It's painful, but accepting that reality is part of healing.

You know your family best. You might already have an inkling about who will respond which way. Use that knowledge to prepare yourself emotionally and practice what you'll say.

Subscribe. Share. Remember that setting boundaries doesn't make you the bad guy - it makes you someone who values healthy relationships.

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What To Expect When You Set Boundaries with Family (Spoiler: It's Complicated)

This is the grounding conversation we all need when survival mode becomes daily life. The moment when ICE notifications pop up two miles from home and you're left asking: is this paranoia or just what we need to survive?

Here's what we're unpacking with Cynthia Magaña, the Chicana Therapist:

 * Understanding "shock and awe" as a military tactic designed to create trauma responses - and why our reactions are normal responses to abnormal events
 * How collective trauma affects us all, even when we're not directly targeted, and why metabolizing anger productively matters more than performing online
 * Finding your role in social change beyond frontline protest (organizers, healers, caregivers, bridge-builders) and asking "who am I keeping safe?"
 * Concrete safety planning: emergency contacts, ICE tracking apps, five-minute family check-ins, and creating parameters that actually work
 * Navigating family with different ideologies during crisis - from opposing Tíos at holidays to that adult "rite of passage" of standing up to elders

From getting Ring notifications about ICE trucks nearby to recognizing we don't heal in isolation, this conversation provides psychological frameworks and practical tools for surviving state violence while protecting your mental health.

Because here's what Cynthia knows as a therapist: Our bodies respond to keep us safe through fight/flight/freeze/fawn. The key is pausing to metabolize information before reacting, understanding that virtue signaling has real consequences for those without certain privileges, and remembering that showing up for community means decompression gatherings and chosen family too.

Guest: Cynthia Magaña. A queer, Latinx clinical social worker specializing in culturally affirming, trauma-informed care for first-generation professionals and cycle breakers healing intergenerational wounds. She's also a yoga teacher and sound bath practitioner who believes healing happens in community, not isolation. Find her @chicanatherapist [https://www.instagram.com/thechicanatherapist/] on Instagram or visit cynmagana.com [https://cynmagana.com/]. Listen to Cynthia's Healing Playlist [https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4YwE0MJiyLa51KwuDZDLHM?si=vwJuMueeR52AnXQ-jYyPpA] in Spotify.

Subscribe. Share. Remember that we don't go through this alone - community care is how we survive.

Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨

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🎧 Related Episode: How All About Love: New Visions by Bell Hooks Predicts Today's Social Issues [https://open.spotify.com/episode/4H0F1qZD7FEcvthnXNbkS6?si=132cfa9771694d7e] - Bell Hooks predicted our current loneliness epidemic, reminding us that healing happens in community, not isolation.

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Surviving State Violence for the Anxious Girlie: Finding Safety in Uncertain Times

This is the vulnerable exploration of why others can see your gifts before you can. The moment when you realize you've been your own worst enemy, ignoring clear signs of your capabilities while others saw them all along.

Here's what we're unpacking about believing in your potential:

 * Why others recognize your potential while you're stuck in self-doubt (and how imposter syndrome hits first-gen individuals hardest)
 * Root causes of not seeing your potential: lack of skill, experience, knowledge, or confidence
 * How lacking confidence becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy that keeps you proving yourself wrong
 * Getting to the root of your specific problem instead of generic "build confidence" advice
 * Finding community over hunting for the perfect mentor + delineating your next two concrete steps

From the poetry professor who said "don't stop writing" to 15 years of ignoring that wisdom, this episode explores why we prove ourselves wrong when we could be proving ourselves right.

Because here's the painful truth: when you don't believe in your potential, you don't take the actions needed to reach it, creating the exact outcome you feared. But when you identify the real barriers - whether it's knowledge, experience, or confidence - you can actually address them.

Your imposter syndrome is lying to you. You are incredibly intelligent, skilled, and competent. The only way to get experience is to start doing the thing, even when you don't feel ready.

Subscribe. Share. Remember that someone else already sees what you're capable of - now it's time for you to see it too.

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Stop Proving Yourself Wrong: Breaking the Cycle of Self-Doubt

This is the poetry celebration that validates our dual identity and mental health struggles. The moment when you find books that perfectly capture being "bad Mexican, bad American" and realize you're not alone in navigating multiple cultural spaces.

Here's what we're highlighting for Latine Heritage Month:

"Bad Mexican, Bad American" by Jose Hernandez Diaz

 * Slice-of-life poetry exploring dual cultural identity through vignettes
 * Perfect for anyone with "one foot in one culture, one foot in another"
 * Addresses the "pocho" experience and language struggles
 * Set in Los Angeles, captures Mexican-American experience authentically
 * Shows how you're Mexican in America, American in Mexico - never fully fitting either space

"Living in Phases" by Leisly Ann Roman

 * Dominican-American poet writing entire collection on mental health journey
 * Crucial representation for Latine community where mental health is stigmatized
 * Shows mental health as "fluctuating, moving, bending thing" - not linear progression
 * Begins and ends with poems for her parents, connecting healing to family roots
 * Incorporates Spanglish and cultural identity throughout mental health narrative

Both poets create work that reflects our experiences as children of immigrants, validating feelings of cultural displacement while celebrating the beauty of our dual identities. These collections provide representation we desperately need.

Get the Books: 📖 "Bad Mexican, Bad American" by Jose Hernandez Diaz [https://bookshop.org/a/56486/9781946724731]📖 "Living in Phases" by Leisly Ann Roman [https://www.amazon.com/Living-Phases-Collection-Leisly-Roman/dp/B0C388S4DB/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=SW1ZGJOCMPKS&keywords=living+in+phases+alegria&qid=1697916186&sprefix=%2Caps%2C55&sr=8-1&ascsubtag=srctok-fc6f9212e94f6d5c&btn_ref=srctok-fc6f9212e94f6d5c]

🎧 Related Episode: The Power and Beauty of Spanglish [https://open.spotify.com/episode/5QMEcUizfPZ067xBN6pmjl?si=865cfd50d2724160] - Because here's what these poets understand: being Chicana feels like "the one identity that really feels whole" when everything else leaves you straddling two worlds. Poetry helps us process these complex cultural experiences and find home in our authentic selves.

Subscribe. Share. Remember that our voices and experiences deserve to be celebrated in literature.

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 Two Latine Poets To Read: Leisly Ann Roman and Jose Hernandez Diaz 

This is the linguistic celebration that reclaims the power and beauty of how we actually speak. The moment when you realize that Spanglish isn't "broken" language - it's a sophisticated cultural dialect that deserves respect and celebration.

Here's what we're diving into for Latine Heritage Month:

 * Defining Spanglish: the linguistic phenomenon of mixing English and Spanish to create its own legitimate dialect
 * Code-switching as a superpower: expertly navigating between two cultural and linguistic identities
 * Chicano identity: decentering the Anglo-American worldview through language and culture
 * How immigrant communities create language: why Spanglish comes from us, the children of immigrants
 * The complexity beyond substitution: how words convey better meaning and nuance in different languages
 * Chicano English as a fully formed dialect: "barely" meaning "just now" and other linguistic features
 * The power dynamics of language: who decides what's "proper" versus what's a "dialect"
 * Why linguistic shame is about control, not correctness

From growing up speaking three languages simultaneously (Spanglish, Chicano English, and English) to understanding that being told your natural speech is "wrong" is actually about power dynamics, this episode celebrates the sophisticated linguistic abilities of bilingual communities.

Because here's what I need you to know: Spanglish is beautiful. Chicano English is beautiful. Code-switching makes you a fucking badass. Don't ever let anyone talk down to you for how you naturally express yourself.

We created this dialect because we navigate two worlds, and our language reflects the complexity and richness of that experience. It's not a lack of proficiency - it's cultural artistry.

Sources:

 * PBS: Chicano English [https://www.pbs.org/speak/seatosea/americanvarieties/chicano/]
 * Mitu: Chicano English Dialect [https://wearemitu.com/wearemitu/culture/chicano-english-us-english-dialect/]
 * UC Davis: Spanglish Research [https://prizedwriting.ucdavis.edu/spanglish-language-chicanos]
 * LA Times: Chicano Identity [https://www.latimes.com/california/story/1970-02-06/who-is-a-chicano-and-what-is-it-the-chicanos-want]
 * YouTube: Language Analysis [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6sgwo2J7eRM]

Subscribe. Share. Remember that your linguistic heritage is something to celebrate, not hide.

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 The Power and Beauty of Spanglish: Celebrating Our Linguistic Heritage

This is the character development deep dive that shows how love calls us into becoming who we're meant to be. The moment when you realize that fictional transformations mirror our own healing journeys and teach us profound truths about breaking free from toxic conditioning.

Here's what Empire of Storms teaches us about growth and purpose:

 * Character redemption isn't about becoming someone new - it's about discovering the heart you always had
 * How toxic family conditioning can make us believe we're heartless when we've been showing compassion all along
 * The power of having people see your potential before you recognize it yourself (the 13 saw Manon's heart first)
 * Breaking free from manipulation requires recognizing that cruelty isn't strength - it's learned behavior
 * Ruthlessness as a survival tool versus ruthlessness as your entire identity
 * How love and connection call us into our authentic selves (Manon with Dorian, Elide with Lorcan)
 * The difference between fantasy romance intensity and actual emotional safety in relationships
 * Why some character arcs feel more satisfying than others (earned growth versus told growth)

From Manon's transformation from "evil" witch to beloved character showing us how to reclaim our authentic selves, to Elide and Lorcan demonstrating what emotional care looks like in relationships, this episode explores how the best fantasy mirrors real psychological growth.

Major spoiler alert: We discuss plot points from Empire of Storms and reference the entire Throne of Glass series.

Content note: This episode includes discussion of adult themes and fantasy violence.

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Because here's what we learned: the characters who resonate most deeply are those whose growth reflects our own journey of breaking cycles, healing from conditioning, and being called into purpose through love and authentic connection.

This is part one of our Empire of Storms analysis - part two coming next month!

About my bestie Priscilla:

Priscilla De Lara is originally from California now living in Milan, Italy working in international education. She is a lover of food, traveling, and reading! Fun fact: Priscilla was a college radio DJ.

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Stories that Shape Us: Being Called to Our Purpose Through Love in Empire of Storms  Pt. 1

This is the book lover's guide to understanding why solo healing has limits and connection is essential for deeper growth. The moment when you realize that fiction isn't just entertainment - it's medicine that shows us what healthy healing relationships actually look like.

Content note: This episode discusses themes of trauma and healing. The book contains content warnings for depression, stalking, sexual assault, forced pregnancy, miscarriage, and infant loss.

Here's what "Audiophile" by Emerie Hart teaches us about healing through connection:

 * People pleasing is a learned behavior - through modeling (watching parents handle conflict), direct teaching ("don't make waves," "what will people think?"), and emotional reinforcement (conditional love based on good behavior)
 * Trauma manifests similarly: isolation, pushing people away, avoidance, escapism, hopelessness about dreams and improvement
 * How two hurt people can create healing space for each other without waiting to be "perfect" first
 * What healthy partnership looks like: encouraging without pushing, respecting boundaries, enthusiastic consent, seeing each other as whole people
 * Reed helps Petra come back to life by showing her windows of possibility and respecting her healing pace
 * Petra helps Reed trust again by seeing him as a person (not just his persona) and consistently respecting his boundaries
 * The beautiful truth that we are meant to heal in community, not isolation - there's a limit to solo healing

From characters who moved back home and gave up on dreams to those running from abusers with strict rules to keep everyone away, this book shows how genuine interest, boundary respect, and creating space for authentic expression can transform lives.

Because here's what I'm convinced of: we cannot fully heal without connection to others. We can heal to a certain extent by ourselves, but eventually we need relationships that call us into deeper growth. Fiction shows us templates for what that looks like.

Get the Book: 📖 "Audiophile" by Emerie Hart - Get the book here [https://emeriehart.wixsite.com/books]

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Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨

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Stories that Shape Us: What Audiophile by Emerie Hart Teaches Us About Healing Through Connection 

This is the hard truth about how your healing journey doesn't just change your life - it rewrites your family's entire story. The moment when you realize that the validation-seeking patterns causing you pain right now are the same ones you might be unconsciously teaching the next generation.

Here's what's really happening with intergenerational people pleasing:

 * People pleasing is learned behavior - through modeling (watching parents handle conflict), direct teaching ("don't make waves," "what will people think?"), and emotional reinforcement (conditional love based on good behavior)
 * Children absorb relationship templates from what they observe, creating emotional inheritance that intensifies with each generation
 * Identity formation struggles when kids are constantly told to put others first instead of developing a strong sense of self
 * Ineffective decision-making patterns where major life choices get deferred to others instead of considering your own needs
 * The ripple effect: how your healing work impacts not just you but generations to come
 * Practical strategies: modeling healthy boundaries, validating authentic expression even when inconvenient, normalizing disagreement, and making repair visible
 * The beautiful truth that when you break these patterns, you create a completely different legacy

From buying my dog a $150 ice blanket while I don't have one (learned from watching my mom always put our needs first) to recognizing how cultural messages like "quieter equals prettier" shaped generations of women, this episode exposes how family patterns repeat until someone decides to break the cycle.

Because here's what I know: you can't model healthy behavior without embodying it yourself. But when you do the inner work to heal your own relationship with validation, the ramifications are wonderful and lasting.

The work you're doing today doesn't just benefit you - it benefits the children you may have, their children, and so many generations to come.

🎧 Related Episode: Embracing Disapproval [https://open.spotify.com/episode/3FPacj72vnKaaEO0cyHYt5?si=GB55qkBMTWm4lZUA7few4w]- This is the gentle guide for when you've decided to stop people pleasing but that uncomfortable feeling has you frozen.

Subscribe. Share. Remember that breaking generational patterns starts with your own healing.

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Legacy of Change: How Healing Your Validation Addiction Impacts Future Generations

This is the gentle guide for when you've decided to stop people pleasing but that uncomfortable feeling has you frozen. The moment when you realize you no longer want to do backflips for everyone's approval but you're frozen because you don't know how to handle their disappointment without immediately backtracking.

Here's what's really happening when disapproval feels threatening:

 1. Early conditioning: how childhood taught us that love was conditional on good behavior and performance
 2. Social media amplification: why stranger approval online feels life-or-death important
 3. The physical response: recognizing tight chest, stomach knots, and shallow breathing as normal reactions
 4. The costs of continuing: loss of authenticity, decision paralysis, emotional exhaustion, and diminished boundaries
 5. Why successful people inevitably disappoint some people - and that's actually okay
 6. The power dynamic shift: how people get upset when they lose their ability to use you
 7. Practical strategies: body awareness, questioning assumptions, and practicing your "disapproval muscle"
 8. Diversifying approval sources instead of putting all your worth into one person's opinion

From the person who couldn't make decisions to save their life during narcissistic abuse to recognizing that healthy relationships still involve conflict, this episode exposes why disapproval feels so threatening and gives you tools to sit with the discomfort.

Because here's the truth: if someone only likes you when you're bending over backwards for them, that's not a relationship worth keeping. Your health, your peace, and your life are more important than any one person's approval.

You don't need to avoid disapproval - you need to learn to survive it.

Subscribe. Share. Remember that not everyone will like you anyway - and that's perfectly fine.

Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨

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Embracing Disapproval: How to Sit with the Discomfort of Not Being Liked

This is the identity wake-up call that shows you exactly how people pleasing is erasing who you really are. The moment when you stop thinking shape-shifting to fit in is harmless and start understanding how the chameleon effect is slowly making you unrecognizable to yourself.

Here's the real cost of being a social chameleon:

 * Opinion shifting: how being agreeable erodes your actual beliefs until you don't know what you really think
 * Decision paralysis: why you can't make choices without consulting others first (because you need to know what's "acceptable")
 * The exhaustion effect: feeling drained after social interactions from constant self-monitoring and performance
 * Identity fragmentation: becoming a different person with different groups until you lose track of who's real
 * Validation addiction: that dopamine hit when your performance gets accepted by the in-group
 * Relationship emptiness: why connections built on personas feel hollow even when you're surrounded by people
 * How to reclaim your authentic self through small moments of genuine expression

From picking up accents while traveling (harmless) to twisting your values to meet others' expectations (identity-erasing), this episode exposes the difference between natural social mirroring and destructive shape-shifting.

Because here's the truth: when you build relationships based on performance instead of authenticity, you'll always feel like there's a metaphorical film between you and everyone else.

The people who love the real you are worth the temporary anxiety of potential disapproval.

Subscribe. Share. Remember that your authentic self is worth keeping - flaws and all.

Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨

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 Shape-Shifting to Please Others: Why You Don't Recognize Yourself

Life's Little Lessons with a Big Impact.

Welcome to Growing with Sol, where we explore the moments and stories that shape who we're becoming. I'm Sol, and this is my space for real conversations about growth, self-discovery, and learning to put yourself first.

Whether we're diving into books that change our perspective or unpacking personal experiences that teach us something new, this podcast is for women who are done playing small and ready to embrace their own journey.

If you've struggled with putting everyone else first or battled self-doubt, you're in the right place. This isn't about perfection—it's about the messy, beautiful process of growing into yourself.

Come grow with me 🌱

Let's stay connected! Join our growing community @YourCoachMari [https://www.instagram.com/yourcoachmari/] and @GrowingWithSolPod [https://www.instagram.com/growingwithsolpod/] on Instagram, and catch me on TikTok @YourCoachMari [https://www.tiktok.com/@yourcoachmari] for bite-sized growth tips between episodes.

Marisol Moran

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