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Ep 4 - Growing up as a Child of Immigrants: Navigating Identity, Culture Shock, and Adversities
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Growing up as a child of immigrants is filled with unique challenges. Identity struggles, culture shock, and various adversities make the journey complex. Balancing two cultures, children often face confusion and a sense of not fully belonging to either. They navigate societal expectations, often dealing with language barriers and financial hardships. We explore these experience providing inspiration and guidance. Aim is to support personal growth & healing, especially for single parents & child. Join our tribe Life Long Healing Journey https://www.facebook.com/groups/lifelonghealingjourneycircle
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Introduction to Pure Mending
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you're listening to Pure Mending exploring the triad of happiness, health, wealth, and relationship transformation. body, mind, voice, rise. Your host here, Linda Than. This show will serve individuals navigating personal growth, healing and breaking the silence, especially single parents providing inspiration, guidance, and a supportive community for a resilient and fulfilling journey.
Purpose of the Podcast
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As we embark on this adventure, let's remember our guiding mantra, do something new, something different. It's not just a motto, it's a call to adventure and an invitation to step into the unknown and discover the power within ourselves. In a society that seems those personal expressions, especially for older generation, talk to endure silently. This podcast breaks the chains of emotional suppression.
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It's a space to voice the unspoken, to give emotion the recognition it deserves, and to empower others to do the same. Here we acknowledge the necessity of doing what had to be done in survival, but we also shed light on the importance of reclaiming one's narrative. Together we explore the transformative power of breaking personal silences, finding strength and vulnerability, and building a supportive community that understands the profound impact of untold stories. In the episodes to come, we'll dive into various themes, from breaking the silence and our understanding childhood of trauma, to empowering through entrepreneurship, and celebrating personal growth, navigating through the shadows of personal pain and societal expectation.
Themes and Guests Overview
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This podcast becomes a century for those who have walked the challenging path of trauma and silence, sharing my journey as a survivor of adversity, enduring abuse from non-family members, and grappling with shame.
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Special guests include my amazing children who will join the conversation to share their unique perspectives. Sarah Lynn, a dedicated mom and a passionate advocate for spreading joy and positivity. Having faced her share of life's challenges, she knows what it's like to battle anxiety and overcome adversity through her own journey. She has discovered the transformative power of fighting joy in everyday moments. I am that person who was in trauma, hands-on learning and
Understanding and Coping with Trauma
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witnessing the complexities of how and what trauma unfolded in my own life. The way of understanding these experiences was just devastating and demanding resilience and the development and improving in the right mindset. Navigating childhood trauma that extends into adulthood presented challenges that can be addressed through academic pursuits.
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So instead, my understanding was shaped by the day-to-day realities and the strength required to endure and persevere in the face of adversity. So as I share my friends, adversity in this home takes on various forms. Manifesting through the challenges faced by family members, it can only include navigating the effects of childhood trauma. dealing with mental health issues and coping with the complexities of addiction. In my recent podcast episode two, we talked about how crucial it is to show empathy when someone opens up about the struggles. We discussed childhood her trauma and its signs, emphasizing the need for support and understanding. I shared some personal experiences to encourage others on their healing journey.
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the podcast aim to create a safe place and space for people dealing with trauma, providing resources and starting conversations about healing. I believe it's essential to seek professional help if needed. If you're interested, give it a listen and let me know your thoughts. Remember, you're not alone in this journey. Thanks for listening then here and in the future. So can I count on you?
First-Generation American Challenges
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As we're going into this podcast, we're going to discuss and topics about growing up as a child of immigrants, navigating identity, culture shocks, and adversities. Driven by the desire to bridge resource communication and empower underprivileged families, my old-fashioned upbringing made it difficult to have a voice.
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and I was being compared to others. Why can't you be like their kid? Look how their family is doing. Their kids are going to college. You're almost 50. What are you going to do with your life? Does this sound familiar? Well, as the eldest child of a non-English speaking immigrant mom with limited resources, I carry the lessons I've learned a along in the way with pride, using them to make a positive impact in my life, my mission through my own company. Let's just hang out and get to know each other. No expectations, no rules that holds us to change who we are or become who somebody else wants us to be. Have engaging discussions, have virtual events, and exciting challenges. We'll build strong bonds of friendship and create a close-knit community that thrives on shared experiences and passions. Ah, no. Together, we'll support each other through the challenges.
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I know that we will celebrate and be victorious and cherish the memories we create along the way. Most importantly, LMP Outdoor Adventures is about leaving a lasting legacy for my children. A testament to the strength and determination that comes with living the single mom life while raising them. Let's talk about the struggles faced by first generation Americans. As we think about the diverse kinds of people in our country, we should understand the special problems that first generation Americans have. These are people who come from all over the world and start a new life here. They face lots of challenges like not speaking English, well, and not knowing how things work here. They also have to deal with not having enough money sometimes. Even though they want to make a good life, it's not easy.
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Education is important for them, but it's hard to get good schooling and understand how it all works. They also have a deal with people treating them badly because they're different. And it's tough dealing with the stress of immigration, not knowing if they can stay or their family will be split up. We will go into the topics in this podcast. What struggles do first generation Americans face? What are the disadvantages of growing up with a single mother? Growing up as a child of immigrants comes with its own set of challenges and struggles, from struggling with identity and the cultural shock to facing adversity and seeking societal acceptance. The journey is often filled with uncertainty and self-switching. So in this blog, I will share my personal experiences and reflection on the disadvantages of growing up with a single mother, alongside the difficulty of navigating through childhood trauma and abuse.
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You're listening to episode four, growing up as a child of immigrants, navigating identity, culture shock, and adversities. My upbringing in an American neighborhood and attending predominantly white school in Utah exposed me to unfamiliar surroundings and the cultural norms. As a child, I struggled to fit in and struggle with questions of identity. I vividly recall moments like being chased by other children, feeling isolated in ESL classes, which I didn't belong. I felt and faced confusion when I was reprimanded by my teacher for actions I didn't fully comprehend. And these experiences left me questioning what it meant to be accepted, loved, and wanted in a society that often felt foreign to me.
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Growing up with a single mother brought his own set of challenges. I remember instances where disciplinary actions like the threat of physical punishment with the broom instilled fear and confusion in me. Witnessing abuse inflicted upon my sister at a young age from people that I'm supposed to trust. So this left a lasting impact on me, pushing feelings of helplessness, frustration, not knowing what was going to happen next.
Reflections on Childhood Trauma
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Trust played a big part in growing up. Despite the adversities, I became a caretaker and nurturer for others, often neglecting my own emotional needs in the process. Survival is what I had to do. Survival is what I had to do every single day. Reflecting on past trauma and my suppressed memories, I mean, realized that the deepest impact that I had on my emotional well-being
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My dreams were filled with symbolism, long-lasting memories of discipline and measures, and uncountable moments of vulnerability serve as careful reminders of the pain endured. While I no longer feel the same pain or hurt, I'm left to reflect on these reasons or behind my experiences with the effects of childhood trauma on my spirit and my true being. So as I sit here sharing, talking with you, that the reminder is very vague, that I had to think, did this really happen to me? When I saw through these memories and emotions, I'm reminded of the importance of addressing and healing from past wounds.
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In future podcasts, I intend to dive deeper into topics of resilience, overcoming victimization, and violent solace in the journey towards healing. Together, let's confront the difficulty of our past. Embrace our vulnerabilities. Strive towards a future filled with growth, compassion, and understanding.
Financial and Emotional Challenges of Single Motherhood
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But even with all these problems, first generation Americans keep going. They're strong and they keep trying to make things better for themselves and their families. Let's support them and remember that their struggles are part of what makes our country special. We should all work together to make a place where everyone feels welcome and has a chance to succeed.
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Growing up with a single parent, not by choice, presents a unique set of challenges and adversities that shapes ones of bringing and perspectives on life. In this blog, we will explore the disadvantages of growth with a single mother, drawing from experiences and the reflections on their resilience and strength found in such circumstances. For many single mothers, financial stability becomes a constant battle. Mom had to make ends meet. She worked tirelessly to provide for her children without the luxury of state assistance. Balancing work and child care responsibilities often meant working night shifts to take care of her children during the day and relying on makeshift arrangements for supervision. Despite earning less than $2 an hour, she persevered, ensuring her children had a roof over their heads and a food on the table.
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Growing up without a father figure can leave a void in a child's life. The absence of a single parental figure can lead to feeling of loneliness, confusion, and longing for paternal guidance and support. Moms absent during crucial moments of childhood, such as after-school activities which, as the eldest daughter, was not allowed at our parent-teacher conferences that I personally had to translate, As I mentioned earlier, that I grew up in a predominantly white school in neighborhood in Sandy, Utah. This also can contribute to a sense of isolation and longing for a parent. Children of single mothers often find themselves shoulderling responsibilities beyond their years, taking on caregiving duties and household chores at a young age. They need to step up and help out becomes fixed in their daily lives, taking care of themselves with a sense of independence.
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However, this independence came at a cost. As children may miss out on typical childhood experiences and opportunities for freedom and play, the challenges of single motherhood can have a long lasting impact on a child's personal development and self-esteem. Growing up in a single parent household may lead to feelings of inadequacy or self-doubt. As children struggle with questions of identity and belonging, the absence of a father figure can also form a child's interpretation and understanding of relationships and family dynamics, influencing their future interactions with others and choices. So despite the disadvantages, growing up with a single mother can also encourage resilience, determination, and inner strength. The bond built up between mother and child in the face of adversity can either lift us up, loss of trust, love, and loyalty.
Resilience and Adversities of Single Mothers
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Through mom's unwavering dedication and sacrifices, children learn the value of hard work, perseverance, and the importance of family. Building on my own journey and the challenges I face as a single mother, I have that desire for efficacy and empowerment. My experiences have a desire to shed light on the struggle of single parenthood or break down the societal shame, ah provide support and resources for families that are navigating similar paths. and Through the open communication, shared experiences and community support, we can empower single mothers, single parents, and their children to thrive against all odds. As we navigate the complexity of single motherhood, let us recognize the resilient strength and unwavering love that defines
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the journey. Together, let us advocate for change, celebrate the triumphs, and support each other in finding hope and healing amidst adversity.
Rebranding to Pure Mending Outdoors
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With the rebranding to pure mending outdoors, we pivot from the perspective of single parents finding solace in nature. Most importantly, this transformation represents leaving a lasting legacy for my children, showcasing the strength and determination strengthened while raising them as a single mom. So let's break the cycle. As we go on this journey of holistic outdoor adventures, we gather locally and aim to expand our community worldwide. Our symbolic satchels embodies essential tools for success in this venture, carrying tangible resources and intangible qualities like termination, resilience, and a shared vision for growth. Through journaling, we will unpack our hopes and dreams.
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Study them closely before repacking them into our satchel for the future. This process clarifies our goals, visualizes our aspirations, and keeps us focused in the path ahead. Recognizing the significance of building a supportive network, we prioritize commodities, collaboration, and mutual encouragement. Each community member contributes unique skills, experiences, and perspectives, enriching our collective journey and drive us toward shared objective. Our satchel of tools include practical resources for outdoor exploration alongside emotional support, guidance, and mentorships. Drawing strength for one another, we will navigate challenges, celebrate successes, and grow personally and professionally.
Building a Community Through Outdoor Adventures
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With our satchel slung over our shoulder, we will boldly step into the unknown, united in our commitment to create a a space where individuals connect with nature, cultivate personal growth, and embark on transformative adventures. Together, we will explore new horizons, overcome obstacles, and build lifelong friendships, embracing the beauty and possibilities of the journey ahead. The fundamental purpose of our organization encompasses what we do, who we serve, and our points of differences. What we do, pure mending outdoors specializes in providing holistic outdoor adventures
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offering a wide range of high quality gear and services tailored for individuals seeking connection with nature. From meditation and yoga to edible foraging and some survival, we will provide essential tools and experiences for outdoor enthusiasts of all levels. Pure mending outdoors target audiences includes individuals who crave more than just products. They seek exploration, fulfillment, and shared experiences in the great outdoors, from seasoned adventurers to newcomers looking to embark on their the first outdoor journey. We cater to anyone with a passion for nature and a desire for personal growth. Peer-mending outdoors will stand out from competitors by fostering a vibrant community of like-minded adventurers.
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We inspire individuals to step out of their comfort zones and we will embrace new outdoor activities while we prioritize sustainability, inclusivity, and personal development. One of life's lesson, I noticed how a simple act of kindness can brighten someone's day. So let's spread positivity and learn from each small moment, because kindness
Spreading Positivity Through Daily Challenges
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matters. So today's challenge, spend five minutes just observing your surroundings. What did you learn from it? That is your daily challenge. Please leave a comment or a review and hashtag dailychallenges, hashtag power of noticing. And let me know, what did you observe in your surroundings?
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No matter how busy life gets, take a moment to observe and appreciate the little things. Stay positive. Life has ups and downs, but you're strong. You can handle anything. When things are good, enjoy them. When they are tough, remember you're not alone. others are here for you supporting you so keep going even when it's hard don't give up learn from tough times because they make you stronger we're all in this together let's face each day with courage believe in yourself you can achieve anything
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If you or someone you know is struggling with trauma, reach out to mental health professionals. Our support networks can make a significant difference in the healing journey, so calling all listeners, your voice matters, and our pure mending community. Share your stories, thoughts, or questions related to overcoming challenges, healing from trauma, or any topics discussed in our episodes.
Inviting Community Engagement
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Let's build a supportive space together. I'm thrilled to announce that for our next episode, we're welcoming a truly special guest.
Preview of Next Episode
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This remarkable individual is not just a motivational speaker, but someone who has faced and overcome incredible challenges and adversities. With a heart full of positivity and an unwavering belief in the power of healing, she has dedicated herself to creating a safe and uplifting space for all.
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Her journey has been one of resilience and strength. Embodying the mantra, believe in yourself. Her experiences have shaped her into a beacon of hope and her worlds are soothing balm for those seeking encouragement and inspiration. In episode five, we're cooking up something extraordinary, blending her unique insights and radiant positivity into a recipe for motivation and healing that you won't want to miss. Together we'll explore how to foster supportive community and find joy in the journey of personal growth. So stay tuned to discover who our incredible guests will be and join me as we dive into her story and wisdom.
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This is an episode you won't want to miss. Drop a comment on any of my social pages. I have Facebook, Instagram, my website which is www.pure dash-mending dot.com and I would love to hear from you. Send me a message or use our dedicated hashtag Pure Mending Journey. Your engagement will fuel this conversation and together we're breaking the silence and fostering resilience. Join us on this empowering journey and thank you for your patience as I took a pause to gather more thoughts so that I can come back powerfully. I did a little bit of traveling out to Texas and I met some wonderful people that I'm connected with and I have to be honest I had some things that just happen along the way but I keep on paddling so can you. Remember it's just not about reaching goals it's about the journey and who you become so keep shining keep dreaming you're capable
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worthy and enough. There will be more talk about growing up as a child immigrant. There will be more in future podcasts as we bring on guests, sharing about growing up as a child of immigrant, navigating identity, the culture shock and the adversities of growing up. I hope you enjoy the show.
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So you just finished another episode of Pure Minding Podcast. Did that just go way too fast for anyone else? I just want to say, if you're looking for support and a group of like-minded people to bounce ideas and ask questions, be sure to join my exclusive community on Facebook. Lifelong healing journey circle. the links will be waiting for you in the captions. So check back for our next episode in episode five for our next guest. Thanks for tuning in to Pure Mending Podcast, your host Linda Than. If you want to continue the conversation or share your takeaways, I want to hear from you. Join our Facebook group today. Thank you and I can't wait to be friends and hear from you.