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Power Hour with Dulce, Motivation Talks
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Her journey has been one of resilience and strength, embodying the mantra "Believe in Yourself." Her experiences have shaped her into a beacon of hope, and her words are a soothing balm for those seeking encouragement and inspiration.
Our guest is an expert at guiding individuals through challenges she has personally overcome over the last 30 years, such as healing from physical abuse, regaining focus and motivation, adopting a healthy lifestyle including nutrition, and embracing overall wellness. She excels in balancing these pursuits with a sense of fun and instilling belief in oneself. Additionally, drawing from 10 years of study in positive psychology, she specializes in understanding and applying the principles that promote well-being, resilience, and personal growth.
Positive psychology, which she has studied extensively, is about focusing on the scientific study of strengths and virtues that enable individuals and communities to thrive. It emphasizes cultivating positive emotions, strengths of character, resilience, and meaningful relationships.
Rather than solely addressing mental illness, positive psychology explores factors that contribute to a fulfilling and flourishing life.
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Podcast Introduction and Special Guest
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Hi, this is Linda with Gear Mending Podcast. We're thrilled to announce that for our next episode, we have a truly special guest joining us. This remarkable individual is not just a motivational speaker, but someone who has faced and overcome incredible challenges and adversities. With a heart full of positivity and an unwavering belief in the power of healing, she has dedicated herself to creating a safe and uplifting space for all. Her journey has been one of resilience and strength, embodying the mantra, Believe in yourself. Her experiences have shaped her into the beacon of hope and her words are a soothing balm for those seeking encouragement and inspiration.
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Our guest is an expert at guiding individuals through challenges she has personally overcome over the last 30 years, such as healing and physical abuse, regaining focus and motivation, adopting a healthy lifestyle including nutrition, and embracing overall wellness.
Expertise in Positive Psychology and Well-being
00:01:01
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She excels in balancing these pursuits with a sense of fun and instilling belief in oneself. Additionally, drawing from 10 years of study in positive psychology, she specializes in understanding and applying the principles that promote well-being, resilience, and personal growth. Positive psychology, which she has studied extensively, is about focusing on the scientific study of strengths and virtues that enables individuals and communities to thrive.
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It emphasizes cultivating positive emotions, strengths of character, resilience, and meaningful relationship. Rather than solely addressing mental illness, positive psychology explores factors that contributes to a fulfilling and flourishing life. Practices such as gratitude, mindfulness, optimism, and leveraging personal strengths are integral to enhancing overall well-being and happiness. In this episode, we're cooking up something extraordinary, lending her unique insights and radiant positivity into a recipe for motivation and healing that you won't want to miss. Together, we'll explore how to foster a supportive community and find joy in the personal journey of growth. So sit back, relax, and get ready to be inspired by our wonderful guests.
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Some discussion topics that we're going to go through is to explore your personal journey of overcoming challenges and adversities, discussing how these experiences have shaped your perspective on healing and personal growth, highlighting key milestones or turning points that led to your current role as a motivational speaker and advocate. I'm so excited and I can't wait for our listeners to hear what you have to
Motivational Speaking and Holistic Health
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say today. So right now, I want to welcome Dulce! Thank you, Linda. Thank you so much. Absolutely. wonderful being here to be able to serve together truly an honor welcome welcome thank you thank you yes this will be beautiful and it'll be wonderful to connect with them and and in future have other activities together this is wonderful this is powerful
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Tell us a little bit more about where you are in your motivational speaking journey. Where have you done these events or what is your most recent one you'd like to share? Locally, right now I am locally as I live in Minnesota. These events, I am fortunate that these events are in my own community and I'm able to serve my own community. Probably Most have heard of the YMCA. The YMCA is a powerful community organization, nonprofit, that supports youth, seniors, any age. It covers every age. They do have beautiful presentation rooms, rooms that they can assign for motivational speaking for any age.
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I've been with the YMCA organization for 20 years, almost 20 years. They are my second home. I am grateful for them. Now I'm giving back by sharing with them presentations there. Some of them are voluntarily, they are free. Now I also joined community board at the YMCA. I'm very excited about that to be able to give back that way. My presentations have been weekly within the last two months. I've been very pleased, very pleased to put all my work and study to have found my calling to use my voice to serve in this way.
00:04:52
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Awesome, amazing. I'm excited to show up for one of those events one of these days and see it for myself. I do have a friend who lives in Minnesota. So I will share with her let her know that you're speaking at these events at the YMCA because I know she does volunteer work in the community. You guys can call up together. Oh, that would be wonderful. And now you have two reasons to come and visit. Yeah, she's been trying to get me to go down there. She's been working a lot and I think part of her journey is working with the airline agency so she can travel to different places.
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Hey, maybe we should work with.
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Yes, I don't think I'll ever come back to the ground if I did work in the, in the traveling industry. So we're gonna be diving into the triad. Don't say, I just wanna ask and share that, you know, there's always something truly magical about being out in the water, feeling the gentle breeze and connecting with nature. So in those moments that I find peace in my sense of adventure, holistic healing with nature. So this passion, this runs deep in my soul. So as I'm going into the next question,
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What does holistic health mean to you and how do you incorporate it in your daily life? Holistic health, not just nurturing holistically, holistic healing, not just my physical body, but also my mind and spirit. It involves integrating the practice that that helps me balance these three aspects and at the same time prioritize the daily habit, which I love to talk about meditation, yoga, and mindful eating.
00:06:56
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And you know what? I'm always gonna balance it out with fun. It always has to have some fun. And to me, this is my holistic bubble. I love that. That's what I bring into it. And maybe invite our audience to come do this with you. Food, that's my way of feeling too. I think Being able to travel to different places and seeing other cultures, food and being in that space, I feel is just amazing. You just read my mind. You should see the big smile on my face. You should see it. I love those ideas. Let's connect with yoga and hook us up with some good food.
00:07:43
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Yoga dancing. Can you imagine? She said the D. She said the D word. Oh my god. Dancing. Yoga dancing. Now you're really in trouble. Yoga dancing. I don't think there's such a thing. We're gonna do a yoga dance. Just like the momentum where we do the yoga to relax in this space and then we just... That's what we're gonna do. Yep, that's gonna be our thing. Celebrate life and dance. How does that sound? Yes.
00:08:13
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There you go. This next level of energy and aura. That's great. That's great. I love you. I love you. This is great. How do you start your day? What is your wellness practice or routines? Oh, one of my favorite questions. 4 a.m. get up, 5 a.m. start workout. Luckily the gym does open at 5. And they have these beautiful classes. They're weight classes, yoga classes, and these classes are at least 10, 15 classes each day. There is one at 5 a.m. every day. I have the yoga at 5 a.m. at least three days a week.
00:08:55
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But at the end of each workout, Monday through Friday, I still do my yoga, which is very mindful stretching. Followed up with breakfast, the most important, I think, meal of the day, the breakfast needs to have also a smoothie with it. It stops my cravings throughout the day for sweets with that smoothie, a natural smoothie always. Getting up at that time, at that hour, helps me just set my brain. I notice that when I don't get up that early, my brain works differently. And when I get up, there is no right or wrong time to get up. But to me, I'm going to say for now that that feels right. The exercise, the food, and those little, right? Those little daily habits. Yes.
00:09:41
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And I'm sitting here and thinking, 4am? I'm just going to bed. So you do that for me and then while I'm sleeping. But again, I sleep at four AM and I most likely get like six, seven hours of sleep. And sometime, depending what I'm looking forward to, like today was the podcast day. I woke up thinking, are I missing something? And yes, that's how I
Impact of Daily Routines and Relationships
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start my day. And I think that you're adopting this healthy lifestyle, including the nutrition. That's amazing. You start off with a shake. Can you share kind of shake and is it fruit blended or?
00:10:16
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Yeah, I try to put a lot of green, as much green as possible fit in, spinach, celery, as many green smoothies as I can. And I'll mix the smoothie with some yogurt, so raw oatmeal, at least a cup, almost a cup oatmeal, Bulgarian yogurt, so it's not sweet. Go natural, straight yogurt. Honey? and some frozen fruitness. From there, anything that's in the fridge. I'll grab a zucchini. I mean anything that's in the fridge depending on what kind of meals you had the day before, what type of workout you had. Was it cardio or was it weights? So you're applying the principles that promote healthy well-being. I thank you for sharing your morning routine with me. I know we're going to be touching next on the topic of relationship. This may be
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speaking to other women also out there, how we start our day. Depending if you're surrounded by your friends, do you have someone that you go to do yoga things with or your mornings that you get to share this with? Do you think that this affects your relationship and how you start your morning? Absolutely. It affects everything, everything around me. And the way I noticed, that's what gets me so motivated. It's not easy getting up at 3am, but my push is my why. The stronger, the clearer your why is, the higher you jump out of bed, the faster you jump out of bed.
00:11:43
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Any area that I'm working on in my life improve instantly with the way I start my day. The more ambitious I start my day, the better everything around me improves, especially relationships. And that happens the area that I am working the most on right now in my life with three divorce, you know, and dating. I noticed personal growth, relationships and personal relationships.
Overcoming Divorce: Self-Love and Growth
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Now, let's look at Juicy. With three divorces, it's been just the right amount. You'll hear me say this quite a few times. It's been the right amount of experience in that area of relationship.
00:12:29
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that has helped me realize how to put myself first because I knew there's a positive side everything that's number one positive side to everything and that just takes me then exactly down the path that I want which is where your thought goes your energy flows and guess what All I focus on is all the good and the divorces. Plus probably what plays a big role here is that my marriages started as great friendships. The marriages during were beautiful friendships. And the best part is that the divorces have been flourishing, strong, powerful friendships in my life. And this is what has
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seeing them that way I believe is what brings brings one to take advantage of every experience in life and to realize that you need to prepare for a great day every morning and that's the way you got to see it and that's the way you go to bed and you say oh I'm gonna prepare for another great day tomorrow the time management that goes into this your habits, the daily small habits may seem small, actually turn into the biggest part, not compromising those small habits. I believe is where I won't make this whole podcast on relationships, because that could easily be done. But this hits me closer to the heart right now, something that I'm focusing more on learning that is relationship, due to the fact that
00:14:21
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I came into these people's lives, the most recent divorce, came into their life when we had a lot of communication. For me, a lot means over 30, 40 hours a week the first two months. Explaining I would explain Are you sure you could do this that because I know you like attention. He likes attention I said being in the past that I'm on right now the point of my career. It's gonna require a lot of My personal time and not as much in the relationship
00:14:59
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The intimate relationship with you will you be able to understand that shall we start reading the same books? You know so that we can grow together and understand each other better Well, in the end, you see what happens is that they did not understand that I needed to dedicate more than 50% of my life to my career, to serving. Right now serving for me is on top, on top. It's up there serving myself is serving the world. And he didn't understand that. He was not able to understand that at this point in his life.
00:15:36
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You know what? Now we're best friends. Now we are best friends and I learned a lot. I learned what I needed. That's beautiful. Yeah. I know you talked about these divorces that you've gone through and we have our listeners who may want to know, you know, like those who are starting over after a divorce and they're in their mid thirties, forties to 50 and they're rebuilding their lives. How does that divorce change a woman or How do you rebuild after? That's a great question. Rebuilding after a divorce. There isn't an age for anything. It is how much do you love yourself? How much do you want to put in? You need to know that what you put in is what you're going to get out.
00:16:27
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and that your why is going to be what's gonna get you through everything. Not losing focus on your why. Talking to yourself every day in the mirror, talking to yourself often, daily, is what's going to help you with those essential reminders, those little big heads that you are enough. You are beautiful and that the divorce was something that needed to happen. And divorces are not bad. Divorces are only signs to help us straighten up our path. And not that it's crooked wrong, but it's only
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to place us on the right path. I feel that most divorce is never easy. But the truth is, most women do report feeling happier after divorce. For me, and maybe the other listeners, how do you date after divorce, especially when you're in your 40s and 50s? And then are there any red flags for dating at our age? The beauty. ICMS friendships.
00:17:44
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I see only friendships and being so focused in my career at this point in serving. The people across my path that might be or not in dating, it's not where my mind goes. I haven't even used the word dating. in a few years it is so freeing such freedom that they are friendships you come across as friendships and being the friendship is the foundation for any relationship especially marriage or an intimate relationship i believe it always starts with friendship even with your own children i don't
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see
Cultivating Friendships Post-Divorce
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or hear the word dating around me anymore. These are friendships. And if the friendships turn into something intimate, something a little more, it might go the business route or it might go the intimate route. I believe that then, then you can address it because each relationship, each person that crosses your path is going to be so different. So to me, there isn't like, Oh, I'm going to prepare myself for dating. No, I'm actually just living a beautiful, fun life, being myself, empowering myself more every day so that I can serve better. And then as people cross my path, if there's going to be something romantic, then when I get to that point, I'm just myself. I don't need to think about it or plan for it or prepare. That's the word I was looking for. I don't need to prepare for it.
00:19:27
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So balancing love and purpose. How do you balance personal relationship with professional and personal growth? And I want to share like for my most recent relationship is I have my own goals, my own personal goals. My next relationship may not be on the same path. That question I want to learn from you. How can I prioritize and compromise? I believe the main thing and what has helped me is not loose focus of myself, my daily habits. As long as I don't need to compromise my daily routine and my freedom. For example, I think a lot of us will bump into that person and I used to be one of them.
00:20:21
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that person that's checking on your text or your phone, or they look at you with curiosity when you've been on your phone quite a bit. Now with my networking for this business, for my serving, I am on the phone quite a bit at random times. I haven't built a better discipline. And some of my friends are starting to turn into business friends, business partners, and we haven't built a schedule yet. So sometimes we are texting or emailing in the evenings outside of say business hours and it might look interesting to other people and that's when I when I started noticing or I confirmed that these people did not belong that close in my life because they are insecure they were not confident
00:21:14
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And they could not trust me. That means that they did not trust themselves when they can't trust you. And I realized that we would be better off with a stronger friendship being friends than being dating or in a marriage. Plus, I mean, if you take me down that path of the marriage, wow. Now to me, that piece of paper has never made a difference. When and if I get to another relationship I'll take care of that when I cross that at the moment because it's going to be I don't know what person I'm going to cross paths with next time and if I go into another relationship or intimate relationship. At the moment I know that the piece of paper does not make a difference. What makes a difference is starting with a friendship
00:22:11
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and starting to see the bond, where that bond's gonna take you. And if they seem very insecure, am I gonna be able, do I want to stay by their side? Can they give me my space while I give them theirs when they're feeling insecure? I think that I figured out finally that as long as they can give me my space and freedom, there's going to be a lot of growth in the relationship and we're going to be able to bond and get very far. As long as I have my freedom and I'm able to be myself.
00:22:49
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I feel that I'm in a relationship where I lost myself, my freedom, and I start to question if something that I'm doing is wrong or what makes it so that the other person's not happy. So I feel that there was a lot of miscommunication or even communication. The other persons do not want to be a part of it or... Exactly that. Like they don't want to be a part of it. They're not ready to be a part of your business or your... And then we started, our eyes started making changes to my habits or my lifestyles. And some of it is fraying away from my friends and doing things that I felt was, you know, right.
00:23:34
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We are making unhealthy compromises with our partners, requests. How do you have a discussion with them? As long as you are not hindering their dignity, discussions will always be positive. And of course, if you're focusing on the other person's positive intent, and both have had, and you take on these conversations, these discussions, or the communication when both are well slept, both have eaten, both are truly ready to dive in deep into this, these conversations, this communication, whether you schedule it maybe and make it fun once a week, or for example, if they're to improve the communication, about 90% communication relationships turn out to be the challenge turns out to be financial.
00:24:35
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If need be, to schedule a wine night every Friday, to go over financial priorities, financial goals. There's so many different ways of taking that on. Touching base on what are our, where are our challenges? Is it the amount of communication? Is it financial? Is it both? And I believe that it directly affects my communication with my significant other is affected by the way I see myself the way I respect myself and now that I am this strong and this respectful to myself people that would like to communicate me whether in a close relationship the person that's my significant other or people just in my surroundings my friends
00:25:35
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Because they notice that I'm so, that I'm so clear and so myself, I believe they know. I don't have hardly any ever arguments or discussions that are uncomfortable because before they start or as they start, you address them. Is this the right time and place? Let them know that I'm hungry, that this might not be the best time. or that I believe it's something else, or maybe they're not in the right place and they just got home from a flight, the long flight. And it may not be sometimes when we're tired or hungry is when some of the discussions or arguments start due to that because we don't feel well. And that's when the other person can jump in and say, you know, it might, we might wanna take this on tomorrow after we took care of ourselves.
00:26:32
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That way these communications don't turn into bad experience. I love that. Thank you for being open and sharing. So the next question is, when staying in the relationship and it harms your health, how do you know? What are the signs? Okay, these questions just keep getting better and better. I thought I loved the last one, but this one's even better. this one's right to the point my favorite point
00:27:02
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feeling where I have to think too much. It feels like I'm thinking too much about if I can do something that I actually like that's going to make me happy. That was the number one sign that I should have seen in my past relationships and divorce that if I was compromising too much of my social life, for example, It was very interesting that I was marrying quiet people. I'm very talkative, very communicative, and I was marrying quiet people. I appreciated certain things about them. But then that, interestingly so, that compromised my social life. They didn't understand that part. Not that they asked me not to be social, but when I said, hey, let's have people over, hey,
Navigating Healthy Relationship Dynamics
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habits,
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it was just they if they wanted restaurants all the time or often if there wasn't going to be time for my smoothies even my smoothies were interrupting something then we know we need to touch base here because exercise meditations morning at night is what I do if that needs to get compromised and for oh my god i gotta share this with you the
00:29:18
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this one thing that I discovered now recently these last I'd say what four years five years is that having separate bedrooms yes oh my god that was just I love it I loved it besides being able to have my own decor or have my office in there or separate having to do, you know exactly what I'm talking about. Do all your beauty secrets on any night that you wanted, right? And truly to the core without wondering, oh, he's gonna see me with this, with that. And my timing, it's like, I don't have to think about what he's thinking. Oh, you invest time in this, but you don't invest time in me or something, right? And then there's more. When you reconnect on those nights that you would reconnect, it is just so much,
00:30:12
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I have a feeling that you're feeling me right now. The freshness, the new chemistry that brought on the nights that we were ready for each other or feeling like kids again, like teenagers. And kind of like if we had a distant last few days, three, four days, or we had a challenging evening one of us or we made it challenging for the other one then you can kind of go you know like a little teenager or something and then start playing some music and and start making it kinky and stuff and then you all of a sudden show up in their bedroom right and you and it's like whoa
00:30:56
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I thought that was so delicious, having separate bedrooms. And you know what? Why not? I'm going to throw it out there. I'm all in here. I'm all in separate houses, having separate homes. And if they don't trust you to be in your own home with your own lifestyle, then that's not the person for you. And now I know that has truly narrowed down my circle, my career, my servitude, and my my beliefs of being myself in my own home and truly the people that come around me are only those that that purely are open-minded, strong, confident. Why would you want any other type of person around you? Having separate homes really keeps the spice, really keeps things, the fire going. So what I'm getting from this is if you normally live with your partner
00:31:49
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and you're worried about trialing, sleeping in separate bedrooms, who normally live with their partners, and they're worried about trying to sleep in separate bedrooms. They may think this could signal a problem in the relationship, or this may be why there's a problem in the relationship that they would sleep in a separate room. That could definitely happen. That definitely needs to be revisited and addressed. If they don't feel confident enough, if that's too confusing for them, then you see how much communication is this going to take to help them understand why this brings, this enriches, it's enriching the relationship. And that's when you start finding out, this just helps all around. It helps you find out at what level of self-love they are at,
00:32:45
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If they're not, if they don't know how to love themselves, then they're not going to know how to love you. And they are going to have a very hard time understanding you, or they're just not going to understand you. And if they're going to make it that challenging, that it's going to take months and years to convince them of something that you love, that you see as growth, and you're actually, you have proof, scientific proof. that this brings growth to a relationship, then you're going to find out that that is not a person for you at that time. It doesn't mean that you can't reconnect later on in life when they maybe have lived through something they needed to live through. And you can always reconnect. There might be a better time to connect. This has been freeing for me because then I'm just around the right person.
00:33:38
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physical space can change over the course of the relationship. For those who sleep in separate bed, that can also affect, you know, the couple's sex life. So I guess if you haven't tried it and you're listening to Dulce sharing that, you know, this is a part that she feels, you know, she found her right person. And you have couples that sleep separately may experience that issue with intimacy and spontaneity. where they come together and they don't feel that bark or that magic experience of finding together that night, the next night. And I'm sure we may have some listeners who may have different opinions. And I'd love to hear all of this, you know, me and Dulce, we're open to hearing what men or women, what you feel, is it appropriate to sleep in separate bed? Or some people will say, don't go to sleep in the same bed because we're still a couple and we make it, we will bond together.
00:34:33
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Yes. Wonderful and that's the best way for us to serve is by commenting. For me what I'm hearing about what compromise looks like in your healthy lifestyle is doing what you love, separating your personal space where you do your professional work and your your focus work right so they don't have to see anything they don't have to add any words or anything that will I'm talking from my own experiences like oh what are you doing or what is that and now this question do you start second guessing well I'm doing this and they may not understand right or they want to know they want to understand they want to learn it can go both ways and just kind of fill in the room like you know how the where this conversation is going if it's not going to be positive then you change it change the course switch it to something else so they don't talk about that oh hey absolutely absolutely
Balancing Personal and Professional Life
00:35:29
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You're emphasizing cultivating positive emotion. You know, the belief that people can thrive and flourish even in the face of adversity by cultivating positive emotions, traits, and behaviors. And so my take-home message is that, you know, positive emotions are worth cultivating. You're in the psychology of positivity, cultivating positivity. It's a positive psychology. Yes. We went in a little deep and deeper. And is there anything else you want to share on the topic of personal relationship, professional and personal growth? I think we covered a good amount of space. If we go into other topics, it'll always or often anytime we like, it'll bring us back to relationships.
00:36:17
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only because everything is connected. As you said that, this is also great advice, not only in your personal relationship with your spouse, significant other when you're dating, but also friends, family, right? Cause their personal relationship. And not only some people that are in our circle may not understand what we're doing in our professional life, but I would say for my listeners, don't quit because the journey is in the steps that you take. And each step is your journey to either success or fail. But we don't want to say fail. It's a room for improvement, room for growth, learn from it, go to the next.
Resilience and Perseverance
00:36:57
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You know, some of the most popular millionaires have made like a hundred mistakes. They failed a hundred times. They still get back up. This one thing that I share with my sister, and I also saw this in one of my group, what do babies do when they start learning how to walk?
00:37:14
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When they get up, stand on their two feet, they fall, right? They're learning their balance, they're getting their hip in and feeling strong. Are they confident? What do they do? Take one step forward. And most of the time they fall because they're getting used to what's the two legs under them, right? And so you get back up, what do they use? They use their hands, they use their whole body, the whole strength, and then they stand up again. That's what we do in our own life every day is that the babies can get back up and they fall and they try again. Take one step, two step and fall. That's exactly what, in everything that you do, bringing yourself to where you first learned it, when you first started it and keep going. Don't quit. Failure is only part of, failure is actually learning. If we're not failing, we're at it hard enough.
Maintaining Self-Happiness while Helping Others
00:38:06
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That's so true. I've been having many one-on-one deep talks this last two weeks actually. One of them she had mentioned, I will be busy helping others. We also need to know that if we're hurting in the process or not. If you're trying to get back up on your feet, and you're doing step by step, but then you also stop because you're helping someone else. Where am I going with this? Make sure that you're taking care of yourself first. You're filling your jar of happiness and love that you're able to keep continuing to give to others. When you start walking and you're taking a few steps back, you stop because you're doing something that's not on your path.
00:38:47
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Just know when to go back to it, whether it be a goal. I have my calendar up. I have this board now that tells me all my appointments and I know Dulce is like, I want to talk. Let's just do this. Let's do that. I know I want to, but I have to respect your time. Respect the time that you have. So that's my part in balancing my personal relationships with professional because I can grow. If I don't grow, then you know, like, we have all these ideas and stuff to come together and then there you go. I'm ready. And you're ready. It's gonna be like, yes, amazing.
00:39:20
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It's going to be beautiful. We're going to cultivate not only personal relationship, but also our growth. It comes now. It's not just me. It's going to be you and me and whoever
Collective Growth through Communication
00:39:31
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wants to join. It becomes more powerful because then we will have that conversation. And like you said, we will be better than the power. And that's part of where the communication and relationship and the communication is that the communication is going to be at the right time when it happens it's that's going to be the right time thanks to your calendar and thanks to my understanding and our communication and then we can heal together yeah it just it works out perfect
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Thank you, Dulce, for that. I know we can talk about this topic in many ways. Let's learn more from
Financial Planning's Role in Relationships
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you. The next question I have is, when the relationships are affected by financial challenges and situations, what advice would you give to someone who's looking to achieve financial independence and stability? My favorite advice at this point in my life is always work with the software, especially when you have a business. have a software that helps you with your financial planning and that affects your relationships, any type of relationship so much from your children to your significant other. How? If your significant other
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all of a sudden feels like let's take a weekend off or look there's a concert or hey a new restaurant opened anything or it's time for a new car we've been talking about it for years you name it you can always go back and you always know where you stand and there it saves you from arguments it saves your relationships You have it in front of you. You have the numbers and then you're able to have these informed conversations. If these numbers, are you sure this is the right time to your significant other or to your mature children? Are you sure this is a time when we have only this much or we are in the red for this and we still need to cover this and this and this next month? You're able to see everything.
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and everyone else is able to see it. And especially the significant other when sometimes if one of them travels a lot and the communication hasn't been as strong. and all of a sudden you feel like just taking off one of them feels like taking off for a weekend nobody needs to say no that's one of my trigger words is no and then no explanation probably because my dad used to do that a lot and everything was just no and i'd ask but so i'm not a lot around a lot of people that say no and don't have an explanation but
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My number one piece of advice is that have software. There's a lot of free software out there. I will share that with you in our groups. Softwares that are highly recommended, the ones that are free, the ones that are paid, they're life-changing and they affect every relationship no matter what the age of your children and they give you freedom. They truly give you freedom. because you know what you're doing, when you can do it. How much do you want to risk, especially in your business or in daily life? It can help you take risks. And for me, if you're not having a life full of adventure and taking big risks in the things that are important to you, in the things that make you happy, that's where it's okay to take big risks. You're not going to see any growth.
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you're going to have a boring life. That's where it comes in that then you don't feel like going to the gym, then you don't feel like getting up or because what, what is there to get up for? Is there any adventure? Is there anything just pulling at your curiosity and making you wonder if I do this today, you know, what ifs and focusing on the positive what ifs? That's my answer to that. Keeping it, keeping it bubbly, keeping it adventurous and fun. and informed. Awesome. Thanks to your experience, what are your thoughts on finance and relationship or financial independence? I've never had a question asked back to me, but that's awesome. That's amazing. I can share. I do have my
Pursuing Dreams Against Odds
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advice.
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and I did share this with some people the other day. If you find something that you're passionate about and it's something that you want to do for yourself, not only to start your own business or leaving a legacy, I find that not everybody's going to be on your side. Not everybody's going to see it the way you see it in your lens. Keep going. Keep doing what you're doing because that's going to take you to the next level. It's going to take you to where you never thought would imagine. I started this journey with LMB Outdoor Adventures about three years ago. When I share this, it's because I felt it was something that me and my partner would be.
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amazing at because you know he shared his passion and I shared my passion I'm like okay let's do this let's build this together and he was ready to go for it then once I built the business and things were starting to happen people saw that oh wow you know you guys are doing great things great things are happening I'm so happy for you they were cheering us on and I don't know if it was his uncomfortability or he wasn't confident but It wasn't for him. He shared wholeheartedly and said, this is not for me. You go ahead and do your business. But the business involved him. That's where we started. And then I felt myself looking for ways to solve that part. So the question of finding the challenges in those situations is always thinking about how can I do this without that person? This passion, this dream,
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of this business. If you need to rebrand it, you need to take it to the next level. If you need to revisit it, if you need to take a pause from it, do it.
Adapting and Rebranding in Business
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Because you started this from one dream, your dream. My, you know, building a community of people who can come together and share these experiences like I am with Dulce today is inviting you on here so we can talk about all these challenges, adversities, kids and the bads. That's what helped me grow and I can share it with you. I can share with our listeners things or the mistakes that I made. Things that I didn't feel so good about or things I've had said during those conversations or with a partner that I didn't feel good about or, or he didn't make me feel good about it. But, you know, we are working on just cultivating positivity by doing that. Sometimes we just have to let go of what we can't control.
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who we can control. And not that I'm saying I'm trying to control them. Can't control what other people think. And we live in our own shoes, in our own hair. And we do what we have to do. Keep going. We are our own cheerleaders. We need to build ourselves up again as a woman. I think that growing up being a first generation with my mom, there were not a lot of Oh, you're great. You're doing wonderful. It's more like you can't do this or you'll never get better or, you know, comparing, right? Growing up in that society or in that generation, it's always being compared. Then that's how I feel now is what are people going to think of what I'm doing? Or if I, what if I fail? Now that I look at it as I need to love myself, I need to don't worry about what other people are thinking and just do what I feel is right.
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That's why rebranding L&B Outdoor Adventures to more of the product side of my bags, my belt, and then pyramid-ing journey is packing up all our worry, all our baggage, all our garbage and bag, and just throw them away, just toss them out. And then we're gonna carry on these new satchels of hopes and dreams and pouring into our community through holistic healing. And by fostering an open conversation, we are breaking the silence that surrounds these issues, I haven't been able to share these things with my own family, my own friends, even sometimes talking to myself. I just like, am I really listening to myself? Is this really happening? Oh, wow. That's so true. That's so true. Your best friend is yourself. If you can't love yourself, you can't talk to yourself and you don't answer yourself, then there's something right. But if you can answer yourself, you're like, you know what? I don't care what they say. You know, Linda, you're the best. That's why.
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I find that through affirmations that you put everywhere around you is the best part. You know, you gotta have happiness, you gotta have colorful things around your house. I'm wearing black clothes. I like black clothes growing up. You know, I was known for dressing the era of Janet Jackson. You know, my hair was curly, my clothes were black. i filled my litter room with flowers colorful pink purple yeah maybe it's too much but it's never too much it's you it's be you exactly but every time i look at it i'm happy my hair's turning pink instead
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Thank you for asking that. You know, a lot of this has taught me to be strong. Even going through the business, I did have some financial struggles, but it also taught me to be independent and stable in my mind. That's what we need to do is just be stable in our minds and in our heart. And through meditations and community, we will, we will break through. There you go, there's success. Yes. Is there any other questions you have for me? Of course, I mean you would like to do a little more healing.
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Thank you for allowing the space for me to share too.
Therapeutic Nature of Sharing Experiences
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I just felt like, you know, the more we share about what we're going through, what we're doing, and we can, I can powerfully share. I feel like I am healing. And that's what I noticed too, when my lead at my work asked me a question, I wasn't nervous. I shared what I felt and I was being transparent. I even told her, I said, thank you for the safe place to, for me to share my purpose in life, happiness equals love. And love equals happiness. Yeah. Yes, exactly. I thought if I'm healing through this, also not only the listeners, I wonder if she would like to share anything, you know? Because then what you're sharing just helps us heal also. Beautiful.
Power of Positive Thinking and Consistency
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What are some small actionable steps that people can take today to start their journey towards holistic wellness?
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I came up with a little formula the other day, and that's just to help some people. Sometimes it's easier to remember, and I liked it. It is the power of our thoughts. It starts with the thoughts. The thoughts take us into actions. The actions take us into those little habits, daily habits, and we get the results. improved results in anything we want. What you put into it is what you're gonna get. The thoughts will bring you those visions which will inspire you to take those actions even when you least expect it. That makes it easier to remember those daily habits. They start becoming second nature. You can't live without them later. That growth continues, stays with you. And you start seeing and feeling and living the results
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And you will not feel alone. You will not feel that it's getting harder because you're getting results. And the results just keep inspiring you, keep filling you. They keep your cup full and overflowing. You never have to give from your full cup. You only give from the overflow. This unleashes your power so that you can fall in love with yourself. Love it. I love it. You're not getting the results you want. Look at taking different actions.
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Yes. Awesome. Thank you. Thank you. So how can our listeners connect with you and learn more about your journey and insights? And my website, sweetlifemotivation .com, that is there for you. You can email me, text me, actually you can text me also at any time, and it's sweetlifemotivation.com. I also have a Facebook page. It's not as active at the moment, but I would love to see you and start building a larger community and a safe space for you. And that is also called SuiteLife. That is the Facebook page. It can also be seen on Instagram, in the near future, Snapchat, TikTok. The pages will, SuiteLife will be built on there also.
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Exciting, exciting. I can't wait to get on those platforms. We'll link the website in our captions of this podcast so you can be able to connect with Dulce and Sweet
Upcoming Events and Community Engagement
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Life. Is there anything else you'd like to share with our audience about your journey or any upcoming project you're excited about? Yes, for the locals here in Minnesota, in Andover, Minnesota. I have my presentations and I can post the future dates for my presentations here, motivational speaking, and have the hour of power, energetic, happy, positive time together. I'm also looking forward to growing in pure Manding, being able to serve more community members in the lifelong journey circle and the wild souls. I'm looking forward to that.
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Thank you so much Dulce. That was a lot of great information. I love your energy. And I know if people are listening to this right now, in between we're laughing with being authentic and professional. So as we dive into this Power Hour with Dulce motivation talks, I'm going to leave our listeners with one last question. Dulce, this question is for you. This is what I ask all of my guests.
Believing in Yourself for a Fulfilling Life
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What empowering message or piece of advice would you like to leave with our listeners as they navigate their own journeys, facing challenges and rising above them? Believe in yourself. You'll never be wrong. As long as you're believing in yourself, you're doing what makes you happy. You're never going to be wrong. People regret what they don't do. Nobody regrets what they do. And this will unleash the power within you.
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so that you can fall in love with yourself.
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Thank you Dulce for being here. This is episode five of Power Hour with Dulce Motivation Talks. If you or someone you know is struggling with trauma, reach out to mental health professionals. Our support network can make a significant difference in the healing journey. Calling all listeners, your voice matters in our pyramid and community. Share your stories, thoughts, or questions related to overcoming challenges, healing from trauma, or any topics discussed in our episodes. Let's build supportive space together. Drop a comment, send a message, or use our dedicated hashtag. Hashtag Pure Mending Journey. Your engagement builds a conversation, and together we're breaking the silence and fostering resilience. Join us on this empowering journey. You're listening to Pure Mending, your host Linda Tham.