Episode 506: Trauma-Informed Non-Monogamy

People often think successful non-monogamy comes down to communication, boundaries, and relationship agreements. But underneath those conversations are deeper psychological dynamics involving attachment, emotional safety, and nervous system regulation. In today’s episode, we’re exploring what it means to approach consensual non-monogamy through a trauma-informed lens.

My guest is Kate Loree, LMFT, a sex-positive psychotherapist, author, and speaker specializing in trauma, relationships, sexuality, and non-traditional relationship structures. She is the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships. She also co-hosts the Open Deeply podcast with Sunny Megatron.

Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:

• What does “trauma-informed non-monogamy” actually mean?
• What are signs someone may be consenting without truly feeling grounded internally?
• How can somatic tracking help us better understand our intuitions?
• How can jealousy be reframed as a source of curiosity rather than anxiety?
• How can people assess whether they’re emotionally ready for consensual non-monogamy?

Learn more about Kate’s work by visiting her website.

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