Men’s sexuality is often described as being pretty simple. Sex is seen as being easy for guys because they’re always in the mood and sex is just a physical thing for them. The reality of male sexuality, however, is far more complicated, and we’re not doing anyone any favors by oversimplifying it. So in this episode, we’re going to dive into common myths about male sexuality.

In today’s show, we’re revisiting one of my favorite conversations from the archives, my interview with Cam Fraser [https://cam-fraser.com/] which originally aired in episode 255.  Cam is a Certified Professional Sex Coach, Certified Sexologist, Registered Counselor, and Registered Tantric Yoga Teacher.

Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:

 * Where did this idea that men are “simple” and women are “complex” when it comes to sex come from?
 * How do attractiveness standards affect men when it comes to sex, dating, and relationships?
 * What do men who are anxious about their penis size need to know?
 * Are men always supposed to be aroused and ready for sex?
 * To what degree is sex emotional vs. physical for men?

You can check out Cam’s website [https://cam-fraser.com/] to learn more about his work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. [http://speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology]

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I’m excited to announce a new online course I’m teaching on the topic of fantasies at the Kinsey Institute. Be sure to register for “The New Science of Sexual Fantasies” workshop, [https://events.iu.edu/kinsey/event/the-new-science-of-sexual-fantasies] which will take place on July 19th, 2025.

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Episode 411: Debunking Myths About Men’s Sexuality (Essential Listen)

One in five couples report that porn has become a problem in their relationship. So why is porn such a common source of conflict, and what can we do about it? In today’s show, we’re going to explore how many people in relationships use porn, what fights about porn are really about, as well as how to resolve issues with porn in relationships.

I am joined once again by Ashley Weller. [https://whatsyourpositionpodcast.com/about/] She is a Human Sexuality and Health Psychology Professor at Chapman University in Southern California. She also has a podcast called What’s your Position [https://whatsyourpositionpodcast.com/] which tackles issues surrounding sexuality, relationships, life, and love from a comedic yet educational point of view.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

 * Why do so many couples fight about porn?
 * Are fights about porn a symptom of a deeper issue?
 * Why is porn mostly an issue heterosexual, monogamous relationships but not so much in queer and non-monogamous relationships?
 * How can we use porn in healthy ways in relationships?
 * How can you have more productive conversations about porn with your partner?

You can learn more about Ashley and check out What’s your Position here [https://whatsyourpositionpodcast.com/].

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. [http://speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology]

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Episode 410: Is Porn Use A Problem In Your Relationship?

How many people have you had sex with? In other words, what’s your “body count?” In this episode, we’re going to dive into the data. We’ll discuss the average number of sexual partners people report having, why men consistently report higher body counts than women, as well as why people seem to place so much emphasis on body count in the first place.

I am joined by Ashley Weller. [https://whatsyourpositionpodcast.com/about/] She is a Human Sexuality and Health Psychology Professor at Chapman University in Southern California. She also has a podcast called What’s your Position [https://whatsyourpositionpodcast.com/] that tackles issues surrounding sexuality, relationships, life, and love from a comedic yet educational point of view.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

 * Is there a better phrase than “body count” that we can use when referring to the number of partners we’ve had?
 * What’s the average body count among adults today, and how has it changed over time?
 * How does body count differ across gender?
 * What are people really asking when they inquire about body count?
 * Does body count actually tell you anything about someone else’s sexual health or competence?

You can follow Ashley and check out What’s your Position here [https://whatsyourpositionpodcast.com/].

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. [http://speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology]

***

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Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you’ll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com [http://sexualhealthalliance.com/] and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today.

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Episode 409: Does “Body Count” Really Matter?

You’ve probably heard the phrase before that “nice guys finish last.” But is there any truth to it? That’s what we’re talking about in today’s show. We’re going to discuss how being overly agreeable has the potential to diminish sex appeal, while also interfering with one’s own sexual pleasure. As my guest today likes to say, nice guys need to learn how to say no sometimes.

I am joined once again by Caitlin V [https://caitlinvneal.com/], a sex and relationship coach specializing in helping men overcome sexual difficulties. With over 150MM views on YouTube [https://caitlinvneal.com/] and nearly a million subscribers, she has become a leading voice in the field. Her TV show, Good Sex [https://www.imdb.com/title/tt22034390/], is available for streaming now on Discovery+ and Max.

Some of the topics we explore include:

 * What does being a “nice guy” actually mean?
 * Do nice guys really finish last when it comes to sex and dating?
 * How do you walk the line between being confident and assertive in the bedroom without venturing into entitlement?
 * How can men start to embrace their sexual desires more authentically?

You can check out Caitlin’s website [https://caitlinvneal.com/] to learn more about her work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. [http://speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology]

***

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I’m excited to announce a new online course I’m teaching on the topic of fantasies at the Kinsey Institute. Be sure to register for “The New Science of Sexual Fantasies” workshop, [https://events.iu.edu/kinsey/event/the-new-science-of-sexual-fantasies] which will take place on July 19th, 2025.

***

Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here  [https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/]for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook [http://www.facebook.com/psychologyofsex], Twitter [https://twitter.com/JustinLehmiller], or Bluesky [https://bsky.app/profile/justinlehmiller.bsky.social] to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCm8JQt7it3re8SypKf-mT2Q] and Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/justinjlehmiller/].

Listen and stream all episodes on Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-and-psychology-podcast/id1505460817], Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/6DCIGjOUaenoKdY71N7NqI], Google [https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubGVobWlsbGVyLmNvbS9wb2RjYXN0P2Zvcm1hdD1yc3M?hl=en&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwiomerUw8vrAhXvAJ0JHb06CjgQ4aUDegQIARAC], or Amazon [https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/13619d2a-d69f-4d05-949b-5c1f19eb1995/Sex-and-Psychology-Podcast]. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast!

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Episode 408: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last?

If you want to get better at sex, what do you need to know? In today’s show, we’re talking all about how men can become better lovers, including how to build sexual confidence, how to deal with performance pressure, as well as tips and tricks for improving your sexual technique.

My guest today is Caitlin V [https://caitlinvneal.com/], a sex and relationship coach specializing in helping men overcome sexual difficulties. With over 150MM views on YouTube [https://caitlinvneal.com/] and nearly a million subscribers, she has become a leading voice in the field. Her TV show, Good Sex [https://www.imdb.com/title/tt22034390/], is available for streaming now on Discovery+ and Max.

Some of the topics we explore include:

 * What are some things men can do to cultivate their sexual confidence?
 * How can men focus more on pleasure instead of getting fixated on performance?
 * How can changing up your masturbation routine help when it comes to having better partnered sex?
 * What are some ways you can get better at using your hands during sex?

You can check out Caitlin’s website [https://caitlinvneal.com/] to learn more about her work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. [http://speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology]

***

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I’m excited to announce a new online course I’m teaching on the topic of fantasies at the Kinsey Institute. Be sure to register for “The New Science of Sexual Fantasies” workshop, [https://events.iu.edu/kinsey/event/the-new-science-of-sexual-fantasies] which will take place on July 19th, 2025.

***

Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here  [https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/]for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook [http://www.facebook.com/psychologyofsex], Twitter [https://twitter.com/JustinLehmiller], or Bluesky [https://bsky.app/profile/justinlehmiller.bsky.social] to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCm8JQt7it3re8SypKf-mT2Q] and Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/justinjlehmiller/].

Listen and stream all episodes on Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-and-psychology-podcast/id1505460817], Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/6DCIGjOUaenoKdY71N7NqI], Google [https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubGVobWlsbGVyLmNvbS9wb2RjYXN0P2Zvcm1hdD1yc3M?hl=en&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwiomerUw8vrAhXvAJ0JHb06CjgQ4aUDegQIARAC], or Amazon [https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/13619d2a-d69f-4d05-949b-5c1f19eb1995/Sex-and-Psychology-Podcast]. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast!

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Episode 407: How Men Can Become Better Lovers

“Slut” is a powerful term that has historically been used as an indictment of women’s moral character. And as my guest today explains, as long as terms like this retain their power, we’re never going to have true gender equality in the bedroom. She argues that it’s well past time to reclaim the word slut once and for all, so let’s talk about it.

I am joined once again by Dr. Hilary Caldwell [https://www.drhilary-sexologist.com/], a sex worker, author, academic, and sexologist. Her bold political memoir, Slutdom: Reclaiming Shame-Free Sexuality [https://www.uqp.com.au/books/slutdom-reclaiming-shame-free-sexuality], challenges the enduring impact of slut shaming and argues for a world in which everyone can pursue pleasure without fear, stigma, or coercion.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

 * What does it mean to reclaim the world “slut,” and why is it important?
 * Why is reclaiming sexual slurs controversial?
 * What does it really mean to be sexually empowered?
 * How can we become more sexually empowered?

You can check out Hilary’s website [https://www.drhilary-sexologist.com/] to learn more about her work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. [http://speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology]

***

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Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you’ll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com [http://sexualhealthalliance.com/] and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today.

***

Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here  [https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/]for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook [http://www.facebook.com/psychologyofsex], Twitter [https://twitter.com/JustinLehmiller], or Bluesky [https://bsky.app/profile/justinlehmiller.bsky.social] to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCm8JQt7it3re8SypKf-mT2Q] and Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/justinjlehmiller/].

Listen and stream all episodes on Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-and-psychology-podcast/id1505460817], Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/6DCIGjOUaenoKdY71N7NqI], Google [https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubGVobWlsbGVyLmNvbS9wb2RjYXN0P2Zvcm1hdD1yc3M?hl=en&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwiomerUw8vrAhXvAJ0JHb06CjgQ4aUDegQIARAC], or Amazon [https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/13619d2a-d69f-4d05-949b-5c1f19eb1995/Sex-and-Psychology-Podcast]. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast!

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Episode 406: Reclaiming Shame-Free Sexuality

There’s a surprising amount of anti-masturbation content on social media, much of it suggesting that masturbation is bad for your health. In today’s show, we’re going to delve into whether abstaining from masturbation actually boosts testosterone, whether you can really become “addicted” to masturbating, what science says about the purported health benefits of semen retention, and more.

In this episode, we’re revisiting a conversation with Dr. Eric Sprankle [https://www.drsprankle.com/], which originally aired back in episode 275. Dr. Sprankle is an Associate Professor of Clinical Psychology and the co-director of the Sexuality Studies program at Minnesota State University, Mankato. He’s also a licensed clinical psychologist and AASECT-certified sex therapist, as well as author of the book, DIY: The Wonderfully Weird History and Science of Masturbation [https://amzn.to/3TpN0Vm].

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

 * Why is the concept of semen retention increasingly popular?
 * Are there any health benefits to abstaining from ejaculation?
 * Is an orgasm obtained from self-pleasure really any different from an orgasm obtained through partnered sex?
 * Can women become “addicted” to their vibrators?
 * Is there an objective standard for what constitutes “too much” masturbation?

You can check out Eric’s website [https://www.drsprankle.com/] to learn more about his work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. [http://speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology]

***

Thank you to our sponsors! 

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I’m excited to announce a new online course I’m teaching on the topic of fantasies at the Kinsey Institute. Be sure to register for “The New Science of Sexual Fantasies” workshop, [https://events.iu.edu/kinsey/event/the-new-science-of-sexual-fantasies] which will take place on July 19th, 2025.

***

Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here  [https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/]for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook [http://www.facebook.com/psychologyofsex], Twitter [https://twitter.com/JustinLehmiller], or Bluesky [https://bsky.app/profile/justinlehmiller.bsky.social] to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCm8JQt7it3re8SypKf-mT2Q] and Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/justinjlehmiller/].

Listen and stream all episodes on Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-and-psychology-podcast/id1505460817], Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/6DCIGjOUaenoKdY71N7NqI], Google [https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubGVobWlsbGVyLmNvbS9wb2RjYXN0P2Zvcm1hdD1yc3M?hl=en&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwiomerUw8vrAhXvAJ0JHb06CjgQ4aUDegQIARAC], or Amazon [https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/13619d2a-d69f-4d05-949b-5c1f19eb1995/Sex-and-Psychology-Podcast]. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast!

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Episode 405: What We Get Wrong About Masturbation (Essential Listen)

Men are much more likely to report having paid for sex than women; however, there are probably more women paying for sex than we think. In today’s show, we’re going to do a deep dive into the world of women who pay for sex. We’ll be exploring what their experiences are like, why some women see paying for sex as being safer than having casual sex, and more.

My guest is Dr. Hilary Caldwell [https://www.drhilary-sexologist.com/], a sex worker, author, academic, and sexologist. Her bold political memoir, Slutdom: Reclaiming Shame-Free Sexuality [https://www.uqp.com.au/books/slutdom-reclaiming-shame-free-sexuality], challenges the enduring impact of slut shaming and argues for a world in which everyone can pursue pleasure without fear, stigma, or coercion.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

 * Why is there less research on women who pay for sexual services relative to men?
 * How common is it for women to have paid for sex before?
 * Why do some women who patronize sex workers don’t consider themselves to have bought sex?
 * What are some of the main motivations for women to purchase sexual services?
 * What are women’s experiences with purchasing sex like? Do they tend to feel stigmatized?

You can check out Hilary’s website [https://www.drhilary-sexologist.com/] to learn more about her work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. [http://speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology]

***

Thank you to our sponsors! 

Expand your sexual horizons with Beducated [https://beducate.me/lehmiller-june]! Featuring more than 100 online courses taught by the experts, Beducated brings pleasure-based sex ed directly into your bedroom. Enjoy a free trial today and get 50% off their yearly pass by using LEHMILLER as the coupon code. To redeem this offer, visit: https://beducate.me/lehmiller-june  [https://beducate.me/lehmiller-june]

Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you’ll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com [http://sexualhealthalliance.com/] and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today.

***

Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here  [https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/]for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook [http://www.facebook.com/psychologyofsex], Twitter [https://twitter.com/JustinLehmiller], or Bluesky [https://bsky.app/profile/justinlehmiller.bsky.social] to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCm8JQt7it3re8SypKf-mT2Q] and Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/justinjlehmiller/].

Listen and stream all episodes on Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-and-psychology-podcast/id1505460817], Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/6DCIGjOUaenoKdY71N7NqI], Google [https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubGVobWlsbGVyLmNvbS9wb2RjYXN0P2Zvcm1hdD1yc3M?hl=en&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwiomerUw8vrAhXvAJ0JHb06CjgQ4aUDegQIARAC], or Amazon [https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/13619d2a-d69f-4d05-949b-5c1f19eb1995/Sex-and-Psychology-Podcast]. Subscribe to automatically receive ne

Episode 404: Women Who Pay For Sex

Imagine you just met an attractive stranger and want to strike up a conversation. What are you going to say? More often than not, people play it safe and stick to small talk, but that makes it hard to really connect with someone. In today’s show, we’re going to discuss tips for moving beyond the small talk and establishing deeper, more authentic connections, as well as tips for improving sexual communication.

I am joined once again by Lindsay Jill Roth [https://lindsayjillroth.com/], an award-winning television and live-events producer who has created and developed a wide variety of programming globally. She is also author of the new book Romances & Practicalities [https://amzn.to/4mPCzZ1], which is based on a set of 250 research-backed questions designed to help you initiate tricky conversations and find lasting love.

Some of the topics we explore include:

 * What are we doing wrong when it comes to getting to know others?
 * How can we ask more meaningful questions to people we’re romantically interested in?
 * What are some other good conversation starters for getting to know someone?
 * How do you normalize conversations about sex with a new partner?
 * How can talking about sex outside of the bedroom help us in the bedroom?

You can check out Lindsay’s website [https://lindsayjillroth.com/] to learn more about her work.

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Episode 403: How To Move Beyond Small Talk And Connect Deeply

The way that many of us are approaching romantic relationships is all wrong. We’re not prioritizing the things that really matter when selecting our partners. In today’s show, we’re going to talk about the conversations you need to be having with a potential partner in order to develop deeper connections and establish long-term compatibility.

My guest is Lindsay Jill Roth [https://lindsayjillroth.com/], an award-winning television and live-events producer who has created and developed a wide variety of programming globally. She is also author of the new book Romances & Practicalities [https://amzn.to/4mPCzZ1], which is based on a set of 250 research-backed questions designed to help you initiate tricky conversations and find lasting love.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

 * What are we doing wrong when it comes to selecting relationship partners?
 * How can being more pragmatic in your approach to relationships help to build a stronger foundation for love?
 * Why is money management a vital issue to discuss with a potential partner?
 * Beyond finances, what are some other key topics we should be discussing?
 * How do you initiate conversations about topics that many people are uncomfortable discussing?

You can check out Lindsay’s website [https://lindsayjillroth.com/] to learn more about her work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. [http://speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology]

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Episode 402: The Secret To Finding A Compatible Partner

The Sex and Psychology Podcast is the sex ed you never got in school—and won’t
find anywhere else. Kinsey Institute researcher Dr. Justin Lehmiller takes you
on a journey through the psychology of sex and relationships, offering practical
tips along the way that can help you take your intimate life to the next level.
Learn more on Dr. Lehmiller’s blog at sexandpsychology.com

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