255: Luis Rivas - Lessons From My Father

"A lot of men like us are in hiding out of fear and self-preservation because they are being mislabeled as toxic masculine men. We need to create safe places for these men to feel like they can come and be themselves."

Luis Rivas has not had a soft road. He came to Canada as a child refugee from a civil war in Nicaragua, the son of a father who gave up a deputy minister's career and a comfortable life to get his family out of a country where the government was recruiting thirteen-year-old boys to fight. That kind of origin shapes a man. And that kind of father leaves a son with something most men spend their whole lives searching for: a clear picture of what it means to show up.

Luis is now Head Coach at Wealth Genius, a real estate investment education platform, and a builder of men's communities in Ottawa. In this episode, he and Nicky talk honestly about why men resist men's groups — the cultural wiring that says any sign of emotion makes you weak — and what it actually takes to push past that resistance. Luis was barely sixty days into his involvement with men's groups when three men he knew died by suicide. That kind of thing has a way of clarifying what matters.

This conversation also goes into fatherhood: what it means to model manhood for your sons, how your daughter learns what kind of man to marry by watching you, and what it actually looks like to properly launch a young man into the world. Nicky and Luis finish with their shared vision for expanding men's dinners and communities across Canada and beyond — and the phrase that anchors the whole episode: the quiet revolution of masculinity is already underway.

Learn more and connect: Wealth Genius: https://www.wealthgenius.ca Expand Wealth Fund: https://www.expandwealthfund.ca

Resources mentioned: Wild at Heart by John Eldredge: https://www.wildatheart.org Band of Brothers (John Eldredge men's community): https://www.wildatheart.org/band-of-brothers Sterling Institute of Relationship: https://www.sterlinginstitute.org The Sovereign Man Movement: https://www.sovereignman.ca Sovereign Circle: https://www.sovereignman.ca/sovereign-circle

You're invited to come to a Sovereign Circle meeting to experience it for yourself. To learn more, go to https://www.sovereignman.ca/. While you're there, check out the Battle Ready program and check out the store for Sovereign Man t-shirts, hats, and books.