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Welcome to Raising Chaos!
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Meet the hosts of the podcast-Savanna and Christina! This is your ultimate girls chat podcast where we will discuss everything from motherhood to sex and everything in between! In this episode we discuss an AITA topic and share our opinions on whether or not it's appropriate for a siblings ex-partner to still come to family events.
Email us your opinions on the topic at raisingchaospodcast@outlook.com, or share topic suggestions and share weekly wins so we can shout you out on the podcast!
Also follow us on TikTok @raisingchaospodcast
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Transcript
Podcast Introduction
00:00:00
Christina Couture
What's up, bitches? This is Raising Chaos. I have no idea why I said it like that. This is Christina. This is Savannah. and we are excited to finally be able get this podcast going. Actually, we already recorded and then decided we wanted to redo everything we've done so far. So this is take two.
00:00:26
Christina Couture
Yeah. ah But yeah, so I guess we'll just kind of get right
Christina's Life and Business
00:00:35
Christina Couture
on into it. We wanted to share a little bit about who we are and who so who is raising chaos um and then go from there. So again, I'm Christina and I am a happily married mom of three little ones who absolute terrors and keep me busy.
00:00:57
Christina Couture
all the time. ah They're involved in tons sports um sport then it's just lots going on that way. ah Besides being a mom and a wife, I am a small business owner. I own a business called Couture Wellness um and I am a certified personal trainer and corrective exercise specialist um and i am a nutritionist.
00:01:20
Christina Couture
So I have my bachelor's degree in nutrition um But i'm not an r I'm not a registered dietitian. So a few things with that. I'm just very passionate about helping others live a healthy lifestyle um by creating healthy habits and know helping people love where they are currently and appreciating their body as it shows up daily as is while working towards your goals, whatever they may be.
Social Media and Savannah's Introduction
00:01:50
Christina Couture
um And I am the funny, weird, and blunt friend. I am absolutely going to say what I shouldn't like the thing that should not be said. You can pretty much guarantee i am going to say it.
00:02:09
Christina Couture
Um, but I love to laugh. I love to make people laugh. I love to have fun. So I'm excited to bring that to raising chaos podcast.
00:02:21
Christina Couture
Um, If you're interested and you want to, you can follow me on my personal TikTok, which is Christina's Always Eating. And then I am also on Facebook as well as Christina's Always Eating. So, um yeah.
00:02:39
Christina Couture
Savannah. It's my turn. um Well, I'm Savannah. I am a mom of wonderful kids. I have a husband, Nelson. He's fantastic.
00:02:49
Christina Couture
Yeah. um pretty chill, fun-loving. I'm intense at times. I like to cook, clean, and just be with friends and family. With that being said, though, I also like to have my alone time.
00:03:03
Christina Couture
Leave me alone. is it But, no, I love to have a good time. yeah She needs time to have those social batteries. Yes. Reset. Reset takes like two weeks, but it works.
Podcast Topics and Listener Interaction
00:03:17
Christina Couture
So, but with Raising Chaos, but We're going to talk about everything. I mean, from parenting and motherhood and how this is hard as hell to sex and dating and weird random shit that we just... All the weird stuff.
00:03:34
Christina Couture
It happens to us on a daily basis. on We've also, because we're on TikTok, found like am I the asshole things that we like to talk about? And I mean, basically, Raising Chaos is your...
00:03:48
Christina Couture
This is your girls chat. yeah This is where you are going to come and hear friends talk. And yeah. Lots of topics. Lots of topics. And that's, we're going to talk about this later or at least mention this later. yeah But if you have topic suggestions, we would love for you to email them in.
00:04:06
Christina Couture
um we Our email is raisingchaospodcast.outlook.com. I'll share that again at the end. But we really would love to hear from you.
Am I the Asshole Story Introduction
00:04:16
Christina Couture
ah so And there's no topic that we really won't talk about, with some exceptions, but, you know, typically we'll talk about just about everything.
00:04:28
Christina Couture
Or open books. Yeah. Yeah. for Seriously. And we're going to try to keep our thoughts organized, but sometimes we get carried away. So this is a very real podcast. where We are parents. So sometimes you might see your kids or dog or we're going to go off on random tangents and Well, we're going to try to circle back to what we're actually talking about.
00:04:52
Christina Couture
But like sometimes that happens. So just be prepared when you listen to us. So ah actually, get the podcast kind of started today, we have a personal Am I the Asshole situation that we wanted to share about.
00:05:08
Christina Couture
And I am going to really pass it over to Savannah first to kind of Get started to share ah share with us the story and then kind of go from there.
Sibling's Ex Dilemma
00:05:20
Christina Couture
Okay. um Well, it is Am I the Asshole? And this is a personal story. I will not be saying any names or anything. But, you know, let us know what your opinions are.
00:05:32
Christina Couture
There's no wrong answer. Everybody has their own opinion and that's okay. um So, Am I the Asshole?
00:05:41
Christina Couture
is We have an ex of a sibling that is still very involved with the family. And the sibling is not happy with that.
00:05:55
Christina Couture
So, is he in the wrong? Is he in the right? Is the ex in the wrong and the right? And, you know, no wrong answers, but who's the asshole?
00:06:06
Christina Couture
Yeah. Is it wrong that this sibling... doesn't want to be around the ex.
00:06:20
Christina Couture
Right. Or is the ex-partner coming around? the problem? It's kind of a crazy situation. and It is. Without context, I mean, everyone's opinions are going vary. but And without sharing names.
00:06:37
Christina Couture
Like, we're not trying to put... people on blast by any means. No, but it is a good question because it had, mean, it happened personally to me, so I got to see it and I had my own opinions, but I had three other people with their own opinions at the same time, so.
00:06:54
Christina Couture
Yeah. So, And it's funny. So when you phrase it the way you did just now, yeah with no context and no more information, sounds, yeah.
00:07:08
Christina Couture
Part of me is kind of like, but fuck the ex. Like, why are they still coming around? Um, and because I know these people, I can provide maybe a little bit more context to you to help as well. So,
00:07:21
Christina Couture
ah
00:07:24
Christina Couture
ex and your sibling broke up seven, six, seven years ago. Like, it's it's been a while since they have been in a relationship or since their relationship has ended.
00:07:36
Christina Couture
And since the sibling has gotten married and has kids and is living a completely different, yeah you know, happy life now. Doing their own thing.
00:07:48
Christina Couture
Yes. Same for the ex. and And the same for the ex, yeah. yeah You know, living and they doing their own thing. And it's not like the ex, it has, they've always been in the picture, even since that relationship has ended. Yes. They've been very involved with their family. With the family. And the one thing I want to point out is with our kids.
00:08:15
Christina Couture
Yeah. Very big part of our kids' lives. Yeah. So that's, you know, just a little context on that. Yeah. And this act
00:08:30
Christina Couture
is very close with your family. Very close. Like very, very close. So to me, and again, so we can take this like two ways.
00:08:43
Christina Couture
Yeah. Without providing any information, to me it sounds like The ex is the asshole. Yeah. You need to get hell out you your mean to um move on. Like yeah the relationship is over. Right. Time to go our separate ways.
00:08:58
Christina Couture
And it's hard because like with breakups and it's been a while since I've been broken up with, I've been with my now, with my now husband, with my current husband.
00:09:11
Christina Couture
If you see that, if you see my, or I didn't share his TikTok, we, Anyways, I'm going off on a tangent that I don't need to go on right now. But I've been with my husband for like 10 years, so I don't really know. More like 11.
00:09:26
Christina Couture
Oh, yeah. but the The breaking up protocol. But you like when you end a relationship, it's not just. Not just with that person. It's with the family, especially when the relationship has been as long yeah as theirs was. It was a pretty long. And she's a big part of our family.
00:09:45
Christina Couture
Yeah. Yeah. So, with no context, again, kind like having to move Yeah, move on. Like, get on. But with context. But with context and with knowing more information. Like, this ex is very close with the family. She's very involved in the and and all of your kids' lives.
00:10:04
Christina Couture
Very much. Is around for, like, holidays and birthday parties and things like that. She goes out of her way to make sure that our kids are there. Yeah, like, she's a very present person.
00:10:17
Christina Couture
figure in their lives and your kids all of your kids absolutely for her at these events ah part of me is like i i feel like we're all adults now yes and we like we're all adults and we should act act as such yeah and if if It's not like you're asking this sibling to be best friends with the ex. You don't want to talk to them. You don't want to be around them. That is completely fine. You don't have to do that. Honestly, the ex is fine with that.
00:10:52
Christina Couture
The ex does what they need to do. Keeps the distance. you know Is very cordial. very you know They don't cause problems.
00:11:03
Christina Couture
Yeah. So, I mean,
00:11:08
Christina Couture
little bit more context. They are around more than the siblings. Yeah. And I'm not just talking at events. I'm talking all the time.
00:11:19
Christina Couture
Yeah. So it is hard, I feel like, for the family. But we do have to take into consideration the siblings' feelings as well because those feelings are, everyone's feelings are valid.
00:11:30
Christina Couture
Yeah. Yeah. I mean, and I get it. Now, has your sibling ever complained about Yes. Okay, so it's been like a regular thing. It's like, yeah, and if we know that the sibling is going to be there, he has made it very clear that the ex shouldn't be there.
00:11:52
Christina Couture
So, the rest of the family has made it where the sibling comes, the ex is gone, and when the sibling leaves, the ex comes and finishes the festivities with us, or whatever.
00:12:03
Christina Couture
Yeah. um he had The
Family Dynamics Discussion
00:12:06
Christina Couture
sibling has made it very difficult to do things. But the ex is willing to work around that because she understands.
00:12:16
Christina Couture
She understands too. Yeah. Trying not to do the he she thing and it's hard. I'm sorry guys.
00:12:25
Christina Couture
So what your thoughts? Where is your head at? If I wasn't in the If it wasn't personal to me, I would be like, go on, get on down the road now.
00:12:41
Christina Couture
Yeah. ah The axe. Yes, the axe. But because I am actually involved in it, my opinion is the sibling needs to suck it up and be an adult for the 15 minutes.
00:12:59
Christina Couture
But that's my opinion. Yeah.
00:13:04
Christina Couture
I don't think that the ex is the asshole. I think that my sibling is the asshole. But again, that is my opinion. And I'm also in it personally.
00:13:15
Christina Couture
And probably have your own and i have my personal relationship with and all my, you know, like You're very close with the accent. It's em very good friend. So, like, it's it's hard to... It's hard when you're doing a podcast not to... Name drop because... And share... And wholeheartedly share your opinion.
00:13:35
Christina Couture
Yes. And that's actually one of the reasons why we decided to redo this episode before we yeah shared it is because listening back, we were like, okay, we really shared a lot of our opinions and that kind of sucks. Yeah, and a little...
00:13:47
Christina Couture
Sometimes we went, I went a little too crazy with detail, which doesn't need to be the personal details. and then We need detail to really talk about it. Right. Certain things that need to be said. No, certain things that need to be said. That is for hour separate chat. Yes. not That's the group chat. Not for everybody else to hear.
00:14:08
Christina Couture
Yes. yeah Um, what is your, I mean, do you have an opinion? I know you know, but you're not in the personal thing, but you know the situation. What is your opinion?
00:14:19
Christina Couture
To me, I'm 35 years old. Like, just don't have the capacity for bullshit anymore. Right.
00:14:32
Christina Couture
So, and it's like, I've been put in plenty of situations where it's like, I don't want to deal with this. I don't want to do it. But like you smile and you show up and get it over with.
00:14:43
Christina Couture
Yeah. Um, and that's okay.
00:14:50
Christina Couture
Hey, sorry about that. Everybody. You probably heard one of my kids crying in the background. Again, we are a very real podcast. This is real life. And so we took a ah momentary pause, but we're back. So, um,
00:15:04
Christina Couture
Anyways, and I don't specifically remember what I was saying when we left off, but basically at 35 years old, I just have a very capacity for bullshit. You don't want to deal with people's crap or people's drama. like Especially as a parent, sometimes you just got to show up even though you're going to you're going to deal with people that you don't want to deal with for the sake of your kids and the sake of your family. And it sucks, but you're an adult and you just show up, spend an hour,
00:15:34
Christina Couture
eat some cake or whatever, you know, whether it's a birthday party or whatever family event you're at. Yeah. And then get on with your day. Yeah.
00:15:44
Christina Couture
I mean, it's that simple. Like, that that's very much my mindset. It's like, it sucks.
00:15:52
Christina Couture
It sucks. Like, it sucks. And I'm assuming people listening to this podcast have kids. Yeah. and have And have kids that are in school in school. And it's like, You know this from firsthand experience.
00:16:06
Christina Couture
I know it. If you have kids that are school age, like, sometimes those parents suck. And you don't want to be around them. And then they end up being your kid's best friend's parent. And now you've to be stuck trying to be cordial.
00:16:22
Christina Couture
None of this is good. I'm not saying this about any of my kids' friends. They're all freaking awesome. And they're all some of my best friends. But there are those cases where sometimes, I'm in that case.
00:16:34
Christina Couture
They suck. And it's like, you just freaking do it. You just have to smile and wave, boys. Yeah. Like, just get through it. So, part of me is like, I can, I can see where it's like, the ex just needs to move on and get the
Adult Behavior at Gatherings
00:16:55
Christina Couture
help.
00:16:55
Christina Couture
But it's, the, And because I know more, I'm able to say this. So, again, we're trying not to be too biased when we share this information, but but we still kind of are.
00:17:10
Christina Couture
Yeah. It's not like the ex is trying to be a relationship or trying to continue. and Yeah. She doesn't want any of that. No. She's just, you know, she essentially is a part of the family.
00:17:25
Christina Couture
Very much so. Very much. You know. um And i I can get It's like not knowing the situation, not knowing these people personally, like I can sit here and say the ex needs to move on.
00:17:39
Christina Couture
But knowing the know in the context and, as you know, with Savannah providing like some extra information for us, part of me is like the sibling just needs to tough it out. yeah Tough it out. Like yeah if that means coming later for a little bit,
00:17:57
Christina Couture
but Okay. yeah But to me, it's like, it' so it's these events are large. Like, you have a big family.
00:18:07
Christina Couture
Yeah. It's not like they're sitting right next to each other at the dinner table and they're forced into conversation. yuke They're large. It's an event. Like, you could never, even though you're there at the same time, you may never see them. Yeah.
00:18:21
Christina Couture
And there has been a time where my sibling didn't even know who. no See that? that's, I mean, the event is large. There's, yeah, there's a lot of people. There's at least 30 people every time we have an event.
00:18:35
Christina Couture
Yeah, so it's, part of me is like, just, just move on. Like, we've we've got to part ways. We've got to go, you know, tough it out, especially because your sibling has kids.
00:18:50
Christina Couture
And I, I think it's important to know. Excuse me, I just burped. So if you heard that, I apologize. But I'm usually, we're recording very late at night. This is just a tangent.
00:19:04
Christina Couture
recording, its I say it's late at night. It's quarter after 10. Yeah. I'm usually in bed by like 8.30, 9.00. Yeah, her D&D comes on
00:19:16
Christina Couture
So I'm a little weird tonight. I'm weird every night, but like this is exceptional. Yes.
00:19:25
Christina Couture
your sibling just needs to get over it. Just and go. And now, again, my ADHD is kicking in and I forget where I left off, but your sibling has kids. I think it's important for cousins to be involved.
00:19:39
Christina Couture
Let's put our differences aside as adults. Let the kids hang out for a little bit and then go your separate way. Go home and do whatever you want to do. You don't have to there and hold him.
00:19:51
Christina Couture
Yeah. We're not asking you to be best friends. We're asking you to Show up and in the same area yeah within the same five mile radius. It's not that big of a deal in my eyes.
00:20:04
Christina Couture
That's my opinion as well, too. We want to hear from you, though. We really want this to be an, I'm going to say, interactive podcast. Does that make sense? Yeah. So we want to hear what year you guys think and what, you know, again, there's no right answers.
00:20:19
Christina Couture
Yeah. No wrong answers, I mean. yeah There's no vari no right answers. right answers. right. You're wrong. and But ah with that, so email us and if you want If you want to give us your opinion on this topic on the the am I the asshole post. like Email us back in and let us know your thoughts. Yeah, who's the asshole?
00:20:42
Christina Couture
Yeah. And you could, what do we want? Put in the subject line, Savannah's sibling. Savannah's party. Savannah's am I the asshole? Yeah. However you want to put it, just so we know this is exactly what you're talking about and you're not just telling us that we're a bunch of assholes.
00:20:58
Christina Couture
I mean, you can do that too. Yeah. We know. That's fair. That's a fair assessment. Yeah. But again, our podcast or our podcast, our email is RaisingChaosPodcast at Outlook.com.
00:21:12
Christina Couture
And when it comes to like, yeah, just email us and let us know what your thoughts. We'd love to like circle back and share what other people's thoughts are. and Hopefully we provided enough detail. That's why we, again, redid this episode so that we can really make sure we're staying on track and provide a decent amount of information for you.
Closing and Future Plans
00:21:32
Christina Couture
yeah. so um You can check us out on TikTok at Raising Chaos Podcast. yeah Christina's is Christina's Always Eating and then mine is just Savannah West.
00:21:46
Christina Couture
If you want to check out our personal and our podcast TikTok. Yeah. um And then ah few other things I wanted to talk about before we finish up.
00:21:57
Christina Couture
So our goal is to post new episodes every Sunday. ah And we had a whole plan, but it kind of life happened. So after this episode airs, we are going to take 4th of July weekend to spend time with our families.
00:22:22
Christina Couture
And then you should be having a new episode on it's July 13th. So you'll be able to look for episode two July 13th. Again, we won't post. I want to say July 6th, the Sunday after the 4th of July. We'll both be spending time with family at that time.
00:22:40
Christina Couture
But, ah yeah, second episode will air July 13th. ah In addition to wanting to hear your responses about this aim of the asshole post, we're also, I know we mentioned topic suggestions, so Email us in in the subject line, put topic suggestion, and then just let us know what your thoughts are or what you want us to talk about.
00:23:06
Christina Couture
um We also, because I'm so passionate about body positivity, self-love, and I can just say both Savannah and I are both very big on like women empowerment, and women supporting women. women like We want to share those wins.
00:23:25
Christina Couture
So, At the end of every episode, we would really like to finish up each episode with something from our listeners. so you know, no matter how big or small the win is, we want to hear about it. We want to be able to shout you all out. We want to be able to support.
00:23:44
Christina Couture
other people and and all the good things that are happening in your lives. Even the smallest thing. Yeah. You got your new shirt that fits perfect. Tell us. I got my kid to eat um a bite of sloppy joe. and go He hated it.
00:23:58
Christina Couture
He hated it, but he tried it. ah Yeah. It was not a fun experience for any of us, but he did eat it. Yeah. And that's a win. But no matter how big or small, we want to hear our share we want to hear it. We want to be able to shout out a few people at the end of every episode.
00:24:14
Christina Couture
So that, you know, we're just continuing to support our people. Yeah. little community. Yeah. And then you talked about our our TikTok. So yeah, check us out on TikTok. Yep.
00:24:28
Christina Couture
Raising Chaos Podcast. What's that? That is about it. So you will see us again. see us because this is not a video podcast. Thank goodness. You'll hear our awesome voices. Yeah.
00:24:43
Christina Couture
July thirteenth will be our next episode. So I got nothing. I hope you guys enjoyed this little bit of talking. And we hope to hear from you guys.
00:24:57
Christina Couture
Yeah. And talk, you know, bring you some fresh stuff in a couple weeks. Bye. Peace out. but but so