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Valentine's Day Episode: Relationships, trauma and psychotherapy with Dr. Erica Krakovitz
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On today's episode of Doorknob Comments, Grant and Fara sit down with Erica Krakovitz, a clinical psychologist and marriage and family therapist, to explore the complexities of relationships, self-trust, and emotional healing. They dive into the patterns that keep people stuck in toxic dynamics, the role of intuition in recognizing red flags, and how different therapeutic approaches—like Internal Family Systems (IFS) and EMDR—can help people rebuild their sense of self. Whether you’re navigating heartbreak, questioning your relationship, or simply curious about how therapy works, this conversation sheds light on the deep psychological forces that shape our connections with others.
We hope you enjoy.
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https://www.instagram.com/drericakrakovitz/
Dr. Fara White
Dr. Grant Brenner
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Transcript
Recognizing Relationship Red Flags
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A lot of clients they're in abusive relationships or relationships where their partner is. is cheating and they have all of the internal cues, but they're choosing to ignore them or not trust themselves. I sit with them and I'm like, okay, what is the meaning we can make of this? What are the lessons we can learn? And it's like, trust yourself, right? You were feeling like hindsight's 20, 20. What did you know? You know, looking back, what were the red flags? And and clients were able to say, oh yeah, like a part of me knew.
Introduction of Hosts and Doorknob Comments
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Speaker
Hello, I'm Dr. Farah White. And I'm Dr. Grant Brenner. We're psychiatrists and therapists in private practice in New York. We started this podcast in 2019 to draw attention to a phenomenon called the doorknob comment. Doorknob comments are important things we all say from time to time, just as we're leaving the office, sometimes literally hand on the doorknob. Doorknob comments happen not only during therapy but also in everyday life. The point is that sometimes we aren't sure how to express the deeply meaningful things we're feeling, thinking and experiencing. Maybe we're afraid to bring certain things out into the open or are on the fence about wanting to discuss them. Sometimes we know we've got something we're unsure about sharing and are keeping it to ourselves and sometimes we surprise ourselves by what comes out.
Guest Introduction: Dr. Erica Krakovitz
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Well, Erica, welcome to the Doorknob Comments podcast. It's a pleasure to have you today. We'll be talking about relationships and stuff, whatever else comes up. It would be amazing if you could introduce yourself for our listeners. Absolutely. and So I'm a clinical psychologist and a marriage and family therapist. um I've been working in the field in some capacity for around 10 years, maybe 10 to 12 years.
00:01:45
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I specialize in relational work, obviously marriage and family therapy, relational work and attachment work with individuals. um I also do some trauma work. im I kind of integrate and blend psychodynamic, CBT, ACT, somatic therapy, EMDR, you name it. I i like to kind of learn new things. I'm now most recently studying IFS. so um I like to just kind of draw from different things and just custom my approaches to treat each client individually. I started in in advertising, television advertising, so I took like a very hard pivot. I've done PR marketing, advertising, worked in resorts, ah ski resorts. So I've done a lot of things before becoming a psychologist, but this is by far my favorite career.
00:02:37
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And what sort of inspired you? What was the turning point for you to?
Personal Traumas and Career Inspiration
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Yeah, one of the reasons i I'm interested in trauma and relationships is I had a lot of traumas in a short period of time in my life and two of them were to do with relationships. One was with a long-term partner who I was on and off with for 10 years and one was with my parents getting divorced in a very volatile way that left me kind of in the middle as an adult living at home at the time trying to figure out my life. So ah those were two of the things and then also losing a friend in a car accident that I was a passenger in. um So that was another relational attachment trauma and just trauma in general. So those are the three things that kind of kicked me into ah this career. um I just
00:03:31
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obviously went to my own therapy because I was struggling with PTSD from the accident and just felt like I want to do this work for other people too. That's really inspiring. yeah yeah i can relate I can relate. Sorry, you went through all that.
Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy Explained
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yes you know When you talk about like the different modalities that you have been exploring, what's the latest thing to sort of I don't know if you want to talk specifically about IFS or about certain aspects of relationships, but I'm curious, what are your favorite or types of cases to work with and why are you pursuing that training right now? Because I think it is kind of trendy and I don't know that much about it. but Well, look let's let's let folks know what IFS is first a little bit. So IFS stands for Internal Family Systems. It was a form of therapy started by Richard Schwartz, correct, 20 or 30 years ago. And it's based on the idea that people have different parts to their personality that kind of dissociate form in relation to trauma. The manager, like the firefighter, the manager, of the exile, core self.
00:04:50
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The exile is like the sort of the wounded child or the inner child. And the core self is, I think, presented as sort of like the the self that is well, is is sort of the healing force. So it has it has spiritual overtones. There's a strong following among some people for for the founder. um I'll just say, for me, I studied treatment of trauma and dissociation from a more general model using the theory of structural dissociation and work with patients with dissociative identity disorder where people can have lots of different parts, but it's more their own way of understanding what they call their system. So I'm i'm really curious how you' how you're taking in IFS and Farrah's question like why IFS beyond it is is becoming much more recognized now.
Trendiness and Personal Exploration of IFS
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Yeah, i I found that I've always historically, even um when I was an MFT doing CBT and psychodynamic work, clients always come in and they're like, a part of me feels this, a part of me that, a part of me. So we've been talking parts work since the very beginning. um So I feel like part of it is just kind of a natural way to put labels to so things that we've already been doing um and to normalize the internal chaos that a lot of clients come to session with. and yeah ah The other piece is it is trendy and so I got curious about it. Why is it so trendy? like Something must be amazing about it. and so I found an IFS therapist to just try it on the other side of the couch and I um have been doing some lay trainings in it just to kind of get from it. I read his book,
00:06:32
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Um, so I haven't yet took taken the leap and done the, the intensive $5,000. You have to win the lottery to be in the training, but ah really like you know yeah yeah There's an online sort of three-day course where Schwartz demonstrates IFS with two very traumatized patients that I found helpful just to see how it works, um particularly because I'm already trained in treating from that point of view. I wonder why it's trendy.
Identity Pluralism and Internal Teamwork
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i mean i think From my point of view, i I think, and this may come up in terms of relationships with external parts with other people, um that nowadays there's much more pluralism, there's much more multiplicity. Personally, I think that this idea that we are sort of singular, and if you don't have all this internal consistency, if there's if there's any self-contradiction, you're a hypocrite,
00:07:25
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um We have to kind of flip the script on what identity is and start that we have multiplicity, that we are plural. And maybe some people are more plural than others, but certainly if there were difficulties growing up,
00:07:41
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with the relationships in the family or peers, then one's own sense of self is probably more likely to have not only different parts, but I'd say that those different parts, right? They don't they don't work well together. They don't talk to each other. for For me, in a certain way, it comes down to teamwork, internal teamwork, it take you know teamwork, dream work. Absolutely. I agree with that. Yeah, I think i think I really IFS I mean most modalities really kind of go hand in hand.
Shame and Objective Reflection in IFS Therapy
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um They they kind of are collaborative as opposed to contradictory in that like one of the key things I think about IFS is you're distancing yourself from these parts of yourself that you're ashamed of. So, ah you know, in ACT, you're kind of putting things at arm's length, like diffusion, right? And you're looking at it and trying to just take distance so that you aren't so identified with it and you can kind of take a more objective stance.
00:08:39
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um I think that's something that IFS does that's really powerful in different therapeutic modalities, where you're just kind of like, okay, this is that exile part, that at this inner child part that I'm so afraid of and ashamed of, and if I just put it over here, maybe I can deal with it better, and if I separate my core self from it, I'm less identified and less fused. so I like that aspect about it. um And I think it just goes nicely with other modalities I've learned over the years. Yeah. Well, it sets the stage also to have a dialogue. you know You talked about disconnecting. I thought of a study that I saw in self-compassion. And they found that people with trauma, they had them do a self-compassion exercise, you know arm of the study. And then they had them do like a detached awareness arm of the study. And then they had a control group. They actually found that the people in the self-compassion group did better than the people in the detachment group.
00:09:35
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However, what I think is there's a there's a rhythmicity. It's that back and forth between getting distance and then having dialogue and making connection, developing the good relationship with yourself and that feeling of internal a kind of compassion based mutual respect is all therapies kind of go through this back and forth.
Therapeutic Matches for BPD
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Right. and As you said, the therapies themselves are, I guess you're implying that there's competition among them, which there often is. But interestingly, the American Psychiatric Association's guidelines on the treatment of borderline personality disorder just came out. And there were no um top recommendations, meaning there were no class 1A, like high evidence-based recommendations. The best recommendation was like a 1B recommendation, which is that all structured therapies are generally recommended for borderline personality disorder, which
00:10:23
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shares some features with complex trauma. It is. And I sometimes, I don't know, Erica, how you you know see this, but a lot of times what I say is that people somehow, you know if they're in in the right hands, they will find their way to the treatment that sort of aligns most closely with what they can participate in fully.
00:10:45
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um And so I do wonder if there is like a sort of foot in the door with you, sort of how you approach the problems that people come in with, particularly with relationships, because that seems to be an area of expertise.
Client-Led Therapy Approach
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Yeah, I think I and I tell clients this on the phone before I even start with them. I'm going to start psychodynamically because that's my foundation. That's what I've been doing for the longest. And that's how I conceptualize them, basically. So I spend the first two sessions just digging into their their past, getting their whole life story, significant relationships, significant life events, traumas, positive life events. I'm also kind of getting their narrative, kind of like the story they tell about their life. And I just find that to be useful just for gaining insight and awareness, both for me and for them. And I'll make interpretations and point out like, you know, connections that I see. And then at that point we kind of pivot into whatever they're wanting or needing. Like I, you know, some clients love somatic work. They love just trying to learn how to be in their body and develop a greater sense of agency over their nervous system.
00:11:54
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Some clients just want to stay cerebral and do all the talk therapy. And so we're doing more psychodynamic, more CBT. And I, and I really, I mean, I use the client kind of as, what what are you looking for? you know what What's your previous experience in therapy? What was helpful? What wasn't? So it's not so much, maybe a little bit i'm coming in. I mean, with trauma, I think somatic and EMDR, like those modalities, because bodies keeps the score right, are more effective in general to supplement. But in general, I let the client kind of come in and say, this is this is what I want to do. And I'll work with them on it.
00:12:31
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oh I find that's often helpful though. I also find people with trauma and dissociative disorders, they may have certain problems in their sense of self or their agency where I've had a handful of patients need much more direction as to where they should focus. In dermatology in med school, we learned the saying um for rashes, which If it's wet, make its make it dry. If it's dry, make it wet. And sometimes I wonder if someone's very cerebral, you you may want to look toward the embodied stuff,
Virtual Therapy Challenges and Adjustments
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right? And if they're in their bodies all the time, you know, you want to look into the intellect and and look for those linkages. um But I had a specific question. So when you're listening to a person tell their story, is there anything in particular you're paying attention to, not necessarily for what they're sharing, but how they discuss themselves?
00:13:20
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Yeah. I mean, that's, that's a good question. I think, I think I am very content focused kind of looking for what are the themes and patterns? What are the self narratives? What are kind of like the self conceptualizations they've had ah developed over time? What are just the patterns and thinking and behavior? Um, but certainly I have many clients, I think this is really common in general that come in and they're talking about terrible things that happened to them and they're just laughing and smiling. And so, you know that's obviously a manager part, they're guarded, it's a protective part. um It allows them to still connect with people despite their traumas. And so like I'll notice that things like that for sure, it is harder because nowadays I do most of my work virtually. um So I'm not able to attend to ah kind of the energy I feel in the room or body language so much, ah and know below the shoulders. so
00:14:15
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I think that's been more challenging since switching to virtual, but even so, sometimes you can pick, I mean, you can still pick up on energy in a different way virtually. So I'm paying attention to that. What's my somatic sense when I'm sitting in the room in the therapeutic space with this client? Am I feeling anxious? Am I feeling kind of like a void? And so attending to that, I i do a little bit as well.
00:14:41
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and How was it for you you know throughout these modalities? Do you think there are things that carry over a little bit more easily? Obviously, the yeah EMDR and the somatic stuff is probably limited by you know the virtual platform, but um are there things that you think really tend to shine in this new way of working?
Effectiveness of Virtual Modalities
00:15:03
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Yeah. I mean, honestly, I think you can do most modalities, even EMDR, which people tend to think you can't do that virtually. um you know we I do tapping with clients like this and it's it's just as effective according to research. um And I've had breakthroughs with clients using EMDR. So I haven't found any modality that I've done with clients.
00:15:28
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um to not be necessarily as effective. Granted, when I was in person, and pre-COVID, fully in person, I was doing mostly psychodynamic and CBT-oriented work, so I didn't even get to try some of these other modalities that I use now. um but But yeah, I feel like it's it's more case by case, and I have breakthroughs with all different modalities with clients.
00:15:54
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There's an EMDR specific electronic health records and virtual platform as well. Yeah. which Which does some, it has some of the technology kind of baked into the interface. Like sometimes there's lights that move back and forth and stuff. All right. and Yeah, there is, but I don't, I don't remember the name of it, but I'm sure. And buzzers like people can hold buzzers. You can, they can order a pair and just like hold the buzzers while, you know, set it at the speed that they want.
00:16:24
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um So yeah, there's different ways to do it. I mean, now people are doing ketamine all virtually, which I can't even imagine, but it's it's there, so. Yeah, my malpractice attorney doesn't recommend needing that. But there is a certain kind of intuition that is hard, you know, not to digress, but I think in principle, ah right, people could show more of themselves on the screen. You don't have to be just tightly focused in, you know, from here up.
00:16:54
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Yeah, I mean, sometimes people are so close to the screen. I'm just like, wow, I'm like sitting like an inch. If but we were in the therapy room, I'd be like two inches from their face. And this is like very intimate. So and sometimes I feel like it is. and And you're seeing their space. You're seeing their living conditions. You're seeing, you know, it was It was, I mean, when i when I switched during COVID to all virtual, I found this was kind of more superficial, but I found what which was interesting, some of my lower fee clients were living in these big palaces and and some of the higher fee clients were living in more modest means. So um just learning about a client and what their narratives are around around money, you know, and things like that, I mean, ah was really eye-opening for me.
00:17:44
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and i went And I also think there's something that's really neutral about both people are kind of logging in from their own spaces as opposed to like the patient coming to your space, right? which um So I have found that some people actually tend to do better and then the work is less likely to get interrupted, which I think is huge. Yeah. Yeah. absolutely Are there things, let's say, that you have noticed, like patterns that you've noticed in terms of, let's say, what people are struggling with in relationships lately, or things that you want people to know as they are, say, moving in and out of relationships?
Ignoring Internal Cues in Relationships
00:18:29
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Yeah, I i think a ah common theme, I mean, boundaries are huge. With any relational work, we're we're talking boundaries. Also, I think intuition and learning self trust
00:18:40
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A lot of clients, you know they're in in abusive relationships or relationships where their partner is is cheating and they have all of the internal cues, but they're choosing to and ignore them or not trust themselves. And and so, you know when it all blows up, I sit with them and I'm like, okay, what is the meaning we can make of this? What are the lessons we can learn? And it's like,
00:19:07
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Trust yourself, right? You were feeling like hindsight's 20-20. What did you know you know? Looking back, what were the red flags? and and And clients were able to say, oh yeah, like a part of me knew. you know We go back to parts, like a part of me knew. And then there was this other part that was like, no, I you know i love this person and um and I need to you know get married by 25 and have my 2.5 children. So like the manager part shows up, right? so yeah I find one of the single biggest problems that people in this situation where there's betrayal and difficulty with trust of oneself, which you know goes back often to their childhoods, is that they get stuck on the other person's intention. He didn't mean it or did he mean it? Was it on purpose or not? And a lot of times what I try to refocus people on is
00:20:01
Speaker
Is it meeting your needs, whether it's intentional or not, whether it's immoral or not? How do you find that comes up? Yeah. um So they're stuck on the intention, but not not on the... Not on like that it doesn't work for them, right? Like, this isn't working for me. they're you know They're essentially rationalizing it. Well, he didn't mean it. And a lot of times that's what sort of the perpetrator will say. Well, you know, it was a mistake. i really you know The truth is this, not that. Because there's multiple truths, right?
00:20:29
Speaker
Yeah, I think are your needs being met? what are you How does this person make you feel our our key themes? There's so many people pleasers that that's when they go into, oh, this person didn't mean it. I have to cater to them. My needs don't matter as much. So yeah, absolutely. I think bringing the emphasis back to you what are your needs and how are they being met or not being met as opposed to you know, and and forget about what you think their intentions are. What are they saying? And are the actions aligned with what they're saying? and So yeah, I think that is is such a good point. And sometimes I feel like my patients who
00:21:10
Speaker
ah tend to be really psychologically minded, compassionate, gentle people, I think are prone to maybe making more excuses for others. And then I i do find myself a little bit pulled into the role of, well, this this might be a pattern where you give people the benefit of the doubt ah too much and kind of looking at that and wondering really I think one of the things that has come up a lot is
00:21:42
Speaker
really when to cut things off and this feeling of, I don't know whether it has to do with the mindset, this feeling that while there's been so much invested and, you know, but I stayed with him too long or I didn't see it through. ah So that is, I think, such an interesting place to be. ah yeah the The relationship research shows that the sort of gambler's fallacy or sunk cost fallacy, the amount of investment people make is one of the determinants for sure.
00:22:10
Speaker
um giving people the benefit of the doubt rather than the the um doubt of the benefit is it is a critical fail sometimes. yeah So how do you get people to kind of listen to their truth or or you know trust themselves and and and especially if they doubt themselves?
Readiness for Change in Relationships
00:22:31
Speaker
Yeah, I mean, I'm working on building the self trust, but also I don't feel like it's my job to to nudge them too soon. If they're not ready, if they're still ambivalent and they're in like the contemplation phase, I'll let them stay there for a little bit because my, my fear is that they jump out too soon and then they're like, well, what if, and then they're regretting. So sometimes it does take things, you know, we talk with addicts about they have to hit the rock bottom. Sometimes it takes hitting a rock bottom in a relationship,
00:23:03
Speaker
Unfortunately for a client to really be like, okay, there's no way. um And so I do let clients kind of, you know, I'm of course trying to highlight things that I'm seeing, but I'm certainly, I don't think my, my job is to push them before they're ready. I just have to meet them where they're at.
00:23:21
Speaker
Um, so, but, but that is a good point Farrah is like, cause, cause certainly sometimes a client stays in way longer than I would have imagined wanting them to call it. Um, right. me Yeah. or Experience is the best teacher and people often won't sort of won't listen to their therapist or their friends anyway. Right. You hear that all the time. Like my friend said, he was no good for me or, you know, those love chemicals are super powerful too. Oh yeah. Yeah. there's also this ah yeah Yeah, like the oxytocin and the dopamine. and You know, there's this old psychoanalytic concept of moral masochism. And sometimes people talk about self-sabotage or self-defeating behaviors. I'm wondering how how you talk about that. Yeah. Oh, yeah. I mean, that all goes hand in hand with self-worth.
Self-Worth and Relationship Patterns
00:24:11
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If someone's belief in themself is, you know,
00:24:16
Speaker
Like I'm just not worthy. I'm not good enough. They're going to seek that out and they're going to or they're going to find something great and sabotage it um because that's what's in line. That's what they know. That's what's in line with their identity and their narrative. um So certainly I'm working. I feel like I do a lot of self-worth identity and self-worth work clients and relational work for sure.
00:24:41
Speaker
I do think that sometimes I feel like I learn a lot about, let's say, people who i've I've known for a long time and I feel that I understand them. And then seeing how they navigate relationships, because they can say, oh, this is what I know I deserve. Or um they can seem like they have a sort of deflated sense of self and make demands or accept things. And so I do think that that's when we really see that there may be some different sides that are not fully integrated. Yeah, absolutely. definite and And I think that's something that that can come out through psychodynamic therapy, right? Like, oh, well, do you think, you know, that does this demand seem reasonable or not, you know, and have people reflect on that a little bit? Yeah, yeah. Another psychodynamic piece I see a lot as historic
00:25:36
Speaker
and outdated as it may be is people do date versions of their parents because that was their first imprint of what love looks like. And if it's chaotic or if it's, you know, abusive, then that's um to oftentimes I see that's what they're seeking out. They don't have a different framework or model. um So I'm always asking questions. How familiar is this? What does this remind you of? You know, who does this person remind you of?
00:26:01
Speaker
Yeah, there's I think there's actually some relatively recent research that supports that that is actually often the case. It's obviously not the only factor, but people like to reject that idea. It's kind of like if you were raised you know in the woods and you did a lot of off-road driving and the car that you drive is like a dune buggy, then when you know then when you drive around, like you're driving in a dune buggy. so you meet other people who like to drive in a tune buggy. It's not that surprising in a way. How about a healthy sense of self and healthy relationships? What what is that? What is the hat? What is that? Is that is that ah is that real? ah Oh, and not a positive note.
00:26:41
Speaker
Yeah, no definitely.
Transformation to Healthy Relationships
00:26:43
Speaker
um i i mean i One of the most rewarding things about relational work for me is watching a client progress from like an abusive relationship to something that's a lot more rewarding and meaningful where their needs are being met, where there there's mutual respect, where they're enjoying you know their partner's company, where their partner builds them up instead of breaks them down. um and I think that's a product of the the self-work that they do.
00:27:11
Speaker
and learning better communication skills and learning about their emotions and how to understand what what or what are my needs? How does my partner impact me? What do I wanna feel in this relationship? right like mirror Like magical questions, what's the ideal? And kind of working towards that. So I, yeah, I i kind of, I witnessed it a lot. I think it's it's pretty cool to watch clients progress.
00:27:37
Speaker
into those types of relationships. And even if they are already in those types of relationships, obviously conflict is a natural part of um relationships. And so helping them navigate that better, um even in a healthy dynamic is is fun for me. um So yeah.
00:27:56
Speaker
We have a tool in our irrelationship dysfunctional book series called the 40-20-40, which is like a form of nonviolent communication. So two parties or or more, but for a couple, you know, they take 40% for each of them and then 20% of the conversation is devoted to the relationship and itself. Almost like the relationship is the offspring of the two people. And then there's kind of rules that you speak compassionately, you listen to understand, not to not to formulate your next argument in in the litigation process.
00:28:26
Speaker
Right. Yeah. I'm always using with my couples, like we're on the same team. What are you doing? Like, you know, we're, we're working towards the same common goals. Um, unless of course a couple comes in and one partner is one foot out the door, then we're doing that work. But, but for the most part with couples that are both in it and wanting to do the work, I am reminding them we're on the same team. How do we collaborate on this? And.
00:28:49
Speaker
I think that's really helpful ah to see you and your partner as more of like a a unit working towards the same common goals. if Now are some people just better off single?
Being Single vs. In a Relationship
00:29:02
Speaker
I mean, I'm not not joking. and Um, that's a good question. I, I do find that my clients that kind of avoid, um, they're avoiding for a reason, but certainly, I mean,
00:29:16
Speaker
asexuality or people that are like just prefer a more independent lifestyle. like i don't I certainly don't discourage that. If a client is functioning and they're happy you know when they feel content, like I'm not going to push them to go dating. um But i I will always be curious about what led them to this. ah yeah and I do think that I don't know that I would say people are better off single or partnered. I think it depends on the individual and it depends on the moment in their life probably. But to see that there are good things about being partnered and there are good things about being single too. right um And so that ah that can be really challenging to say, well, listen, right now the dating thing is just not happening, but you have all this freedom. So what do you want to do with it?
00:30:06
Speaker
because then maybe this is my own stuff. But I'm like, a few years from now, you may not be this carefree, right? And there will be compromises that need to be made and conflicts that need to be resolved. And that takes a lot of energy, I think, away from, let's say, other goals that people may have. Yeah. And I like Esther Perel's kind of how she talks about we're never going to find someone that checks every box. And so we need more than one person to fulfill our needs. We need our partner for certain needs. We need our friendships, our family. And so if if someone's single, they're fulfilling needs through their friendships, through their family relationships, um through maybe more casual dynamics, ah intimate dynamics. So certainly I'm kind of like seeing it through that lens
Contact Information for Dr. Erica Krakovitz
00:30:55
Speaker
too. How are your needs being met as a as a single person?
00:30:58
Speaker
Yeah. really not We're not pathologizing being single, but some people really embrace singlehood for a lot of good reasons. But as you said, you can explore whether they they actually have a need for attachment that they're denying or whether it's really a good choice. and And yeah, sometimes it's good to be sober from dating. I have found for patients to have time to sort out their own stuff and dating just kind of makes it really hard to work through stuff sometimes.
00:31:25
Speaker
That's true. And then we've got that whole AI companion thing, which unfortunately we'll have time to get into today. Maybe in part two. Maybe in part two. We'll delve into that one. Well, where can we find you? I have a website, drcrackovits.com. Where else? I'm on psychology today. I have an Instagram. What's your Instagram handle? Do you know?
00:31:53
Speaker
Good question. I think it's Dr. Krakovitz, but I have to double check because I'm not as active as I should be um on my Instagram account, but it's at Dr. Erica Krakovitz. So, um yeah. Cool. Thank you so much for joining us and sharing your experience and your training. And I think it's going to be super helpful for people to tune in.
00:32:21
Speaker
Thank you, Dr. Kravitz. Yep. So nice meeting you, Farah. I'll talk to you soon. Thanks. Remember, the Doorknob Comments podcast is not medical advice. If you may be in need of professional assistance, please seek consultation without delay.