Ep.48 – Conversation with Jill Schultz – Treating Shame with Compassion
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Gissele overdub: hello and welcome to the loving compassion podcast with Giselle. We believe that love and compassion have the power to heal our lives and our world. Don’t forget to like, and subscribe for more amazing content on today’s podcast.
We’ll be talking about treating our shame with compassion. Our guest is Jill Schultz, who is a disruptor, serial entrepreneur, author, and motivational speaker. Jill’s mission is to help release people from shame her own experience of experimenting with other children at a young age because of her own sexual trauma has led her to speak about this taboo topic and help anyone who has a secret or has felt shame of any kind to create a life of love success.
And abundance. Please join me in welcoming Jill. Hi, Jill.
Jill: Hi, Giselle. So good
Gissele overdub: to see you. Oh, so good to see you [00:01:00] too. Thank you so much for being on the show and talking about this very important topic. Shame is such an insidious thing that, you know, often we don’t talk about, but I think it’s something that without talking about it, we can’t get to our healing.
Yeah, I wanted to ask you if you could tell our audience a little bit about your story and how you came to do this work.
Jill: I really want to like, lay a little bit Of a foundation here for people who are maybe just hearing this type of a story for a first time, or if this is your story and you’re just hearing somebody say it out loud and you’re getting triggered, I need to know that your listeners are protected.
So there are lots of resources out there for people to have anonymous conversations around sexual trauma and rain is one of them are a I N N. So, please, please, please, if anything that I say is triggering to you. I need to know that you are seeking somebody to talk to you about this. Okay. [00:02:00] So thank you for letting me do that.
So I was molested when I was around three or four years old and I’m so grateful for the Me Too movement because I feel like it’s way easier for people to share about what’s happened to them in their lives around sexual trauma now than it ever has been before. But where my story goes deeper is that I, because of what somebody taught me to do.
At the ages of three or four, I was the little girl who was experimenting curiously and innocently with other children. And so the time frame that that was happening was, was in between the ages of seven and 12 and I lived with debilitating shame for 41 years thinking that I was the only little girl who ever did anything like that.
And sadly, it is way more common than you can even imagine. So my goal and my passion and my purpose is [00:03:00] to create this movement that we get to normalize this conversation. And I get to help people know that they’re not alone, because I thought I was alone. So that’s a little bit about me
Gissele overdub: to sell. Yeah.
Thank you very much for sharing that. What helped you kind of shift from that story of, of shame and hiding and secrecy to want to actually start to talk about it, to start to be able to heal it. Yeah, well, I knew
Jill: When I I’m 55 years old right now. So at the age of 33, I wasn’t connecting with men. I would walk into a room and a man would look at me and I’d immediately put my head down because I did not want a man to see me.
I thought if a man. Could see me and know what I had done. How could he love me? And now I say, Oh my God, how can a man not love me knowing what I’ve been through and all the healing that I’ve done? But because of that, I started thinking I needed to get help. And that’s when
