Is feeling safe, heard, and understood enough for lasting love? In this Love U Podcast, I share two powerful coaching stories that reveal why a “good on paper” relationship isn’t always the right relationship. Learn the difference between healthy pacing and unhealthy pressure, and why chemistry still matters when building a life together. If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re settling or simply being smart, this episode will help you find clarity and trust your heart. Tune in now to get the relationship you truly deserve.

What You’ll Hear:

 * Evan shares why feeling safe, heard, and understood is essential but not sufficient for a successful relationship.
 * Story of a client who found an amazing relationship after a decade of not dating but is now pushing her boyfriend to accelerate marriage and family plans, risking the relationship.
 * The importance of allowing men to choose commitment on their own timeline rather than applying pressure.
 * The crucial distinction between being empowered and being effective in dating.
 * Hard truth: Men (and people in general) resist being told what to do, and forcing outcomes in relationships often backfires.
 * Story of another client engaged to a good man but struggling with low attraction and fun levels, leading to doubts about the relationship’s long-term potential.
 * Evan’s simple evaluation tool: Rate your relationship on comfort, fun, and attraction; ideally, you want a 10 in comfort and at least a 7 in fun and attraction.
 * The danger of settling for a relationship that feels like a “B-minus” when you deserve an “A.”
 * Personal story about Evan’s mother settling for a “nice guy” after Evan’s father passed away and how that choice ultimately left her unfulfilled.
 * The nuanced balance: You need chemistry and a good person—you can’t thrive with just one or the other.
 * Powerful reminder that millions of quality men exist; you don’t have to settle out of fear.
 * Encouragement to trust your feelings and not override red flags for the sake of convenience or fear of starting over.
 * Invitation to attend the next Extraordinary Love Series on “The Power of Feminine Energy” to inspire men to pursue you.

Full Episode Transcript:

Today’s topic excites me so very much that I’m going to tell you at the top of the episode, before I say all the other stuff that I normally say, to stick around for the rest of this episode.

I’m telling two great stories today that you’re going to want to hear that are going to impact the way you look at dating and relationships. So please, for your sake, not mine, stick around to the end of this episode. My name is Evan Marc Katz.

This is the LoveU Podcast, a place where you can learn everything there is to know about

When Safe, Heard, and Understood is Not Enough

Are you letting fear quietly sabotage your love life? In this episode of the Love U Podcast, I uncover how hidden fears—fear of rejection, fear of settling, fear of wasting time—can keep smart, strong, successful women stuck, whether they’re avoiding dating, endlessly swiping, or staying in the wrong relationships. I’ll show you how these fears create paralysis and prevent you from finding the love you deserve. You’ll walk away with practical, mindset-shifting insights to help you date with confidence, trust your judgment, and break free from fear’s grip. If you’re ready to finally move forward, this episode is for you—tune in now.

What You’ll Hear

 * Why fear is the most underestimated factor sabotaging your love life
 * Common fears women face in dating, from fear of rejection to fear of settling to fear of being alone
 * The paralyzing effect of fear and how it keeps women stuck—either by avoiding dating, spinning their wheels, or staying in dead-end relationships
 * How fear can lead to self-sabotage by rejecting every man or settling for the wrong one
 * Real-life examples of how women let fear outweigh potential happiness and connection
 * The hidden cost of not dating, over-rejecting, or staying too long in bad relationships
 * How fear shows up in other areas of life (driving, flying, changing jobs) but doesn’t paralyze you the same way it does in dating
 * Why you can trust your judgment and develop the skills to confidently eliminate emotionally unavailable men
 * The power of believing in your ability to find love and how that changes your dating experience
 * How Evan helps women break free from fear, trust men again, and finally get the love they deserve

Full Episode Transcript

Hey, this is Evan Marc Katz, dating and relationship coach for smart, strong, successful women, your personal trainer for love. Welcome back to the Love U podcast where you can learn everything you need to know about dating relationships, sex, and men from a man’s point of view and find a relationship that makes you feel safe, heard, and understood.

Are you sick of those words yet? I sure hope not because they are the ticket to the rest of your life. The reason I do this podcast is because I deeply believe in love. I’m happily married.

It is my chief export in trying to help other people get the thing that I’m so blessed to have.

Your Biggest Problem In Dating? Fear!

Do you ever feel like love just isn’t happening—no matter how hard you try? In this episode of the Love U Podcast, I sit down with my dear friend and Vedic astrologer Carol Allen to explore why timing, energy, and emotional readiness might matter more than effort alone. We break down the difference between chemistry and compatibility, how to spot high-capacity partners, and why so many smart, successful women are late bloomers in love. Whether you’re into astrology or just curious about a new way to understand your dating patterns, this conversation is packed with powerful insights that can save you time, heartbreak, and self-doubt. Tune in now to feel more hopeful—and more aligned with love.

About Today’s Guest:
Carol Allen is a happily married Vedic astrologer and relationship coach whose mission is to empower women to enjoy truly “out of this world” love lives. Her methods are a unique marriage of East and West, combining her training in the astrology of India with cutting-edge, real-world relationship research.

Whether you’re looking for a soulmate, want to deepen an existing relationship, or heal lifelong love patterns, the answers are literally written in the stars… and almost anything can be made much better with your own right actions once you know the truth and what to do about it.

Carol’s been featured on E!, Bridezillas, EXTRA, Dr. Drew’s Lifechangers and in Chicken Soup For The Soul, Woman’s World, and Daily Candy, and is the author of Love Is In The Stars – The Wise Woman’s Astrological Guide To Men. She is regularly heard by hundreds of thousands of people on major relationship summits, podcasts, and radio shows.

So don’t wait on fate – discover the awesome power you have to attract, enhance, and sustain a great love, and make the most of your romantic destiny with Carol’s free newsletter and catalog of books, personalized astrology reports, and relationship programs, here: www.evanmarckatz.com/carol [http://www.evanmarckatz.com/carol]

What You’ll Hear

 * Celebrating 400 episodes of the Love U Podcast and 3 million+ downloads

 * Why Carol Allen is the only repeat guest on the show—and what makes her so unique

 * What Vedic astrology is and how it differs from Western astrology

 * The importance of relationship capacity over surface-level compatibility

 * Why timing matters in love—and how astrology can reveal your “seasons of loneliness”

 * The trap of “Shazam chemistry” and why it’s not a predictor of long-term happiness

 * Real-life client stories where astrology revealed major red flags before heartbreak

 * Evan and Carol’s shared belief: a man’s consistent effort is the clearest sign he’s ready

 * The two most common types of women who seek out Carol’s readings

 * How high-achieving women can unintentionally lead with masculine energy—and how to shift it

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Love and Astrology – Interview with Carol Allen

Have you ever wondered if you should date a man who’s struggling? In this special 400th episode of the Love U Podcast, I reflect on my own darkest seasons and share why timing—not just chemistry or potential—can make or break a relationship. You’ll hear vulnerable stories, hard-earned insights, and a powerful truth: you can’t build a future with a man who isn’t emotionally ready right now. I’ll also explain why empathy doesn’t mean you have to sign up to be someone’s therapist, savior, or safety net. If you’ve ever dated a man based on who he could be instead of who he is, this episode will shift your perspective. Tune in now—this one could save you years.

What You’ll Hear:

 * Celebrating 400 episodes of the Love U Podcast and 3 million+ listens across 220 countries

 * Evan shares behind-the-scenes evolution of the show since 2016

 * The most popular episode of all time (featuring Lori Gottlieb)

 * Personal stories of being passed over in dating due to career struggles

 * Why timing, stability, and emotional readiness matter more than potential

 * Hard truths about dating someone who’s struggling — and how to protect your future

 * Advice on recognizing high-risk relationships and avoiding self-sacrificing patterns

Full Episode Transcript
Hey, this is Evan Mark Katz, dating and relationship coach for smart, strong, successful women, your personal trainer for love. Welcome back to the Love You Podcast. It is a very special episode because as far as I can tell this is the 400th episode of the Love You Podcast.

400 individual episodes will be in the can as of today and that’s a milestone. Over the years I had a blog that you know used to get 12 million readers in a year. We had over a thousand blog posts on that.

Then the internet moved to podcasting. I started

Should You Date Him When He’s Struggling?

Ever feel like dating is just running in place on a treadmill? I’ve been there, and I want to help you shift that mindset for good. In this episode of the Love U Podcast, I share one powerful reframe that will help you see your dating life in a completely different way. You’ll learn why failed relationships aren’t actually failures, how each experience builds clarity and confidence, and what real progress looks like even when it’s hard to see. If dating feels like a grind or you’re questioning whether it’s all worth it, this episode will remind you that love is closer than you think. Listen now and take the next step toward the relationship you deserve.

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A Quick Mindset Shift to Help You Persevere in Dating

In this episode of the Love U Podcast, I unpack the five most common myths women hold about sex—from thinking men only want one thing, to assuming your partner isn’t attracted to you anymore. With insights from psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman and a few hard truths of my own, we’ll challenge these assumptions and reveal what emotionally intelligent, relationship-minded men really want. Plus, I’ll flip the script and share the top five myths men have about women and sex. Yes, it goes both ways. If you’ve ever felt confused, frustrated, or disconnected in your intimate life, this one’s a must-listen.

Tune in now to learn what no one else is saying—but what every woman deserves to know.

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The 5 Biggest Myths Women Have About Sex

Ever feel stuck dating men who seem great on paper but go nowhere in real life? In this Love U Podcast episode, I sit down with Matchmaker Maria, author and dating expert, to break down why chemistry alone won’t get you the relationship you deserve. We share how to identify whether a guy is truly a long-term match—and introduce a 3-part test you can use after every first date: Comfort, Fun, and Attraction. Learn how to avoid time-wasting second dates, trust your instincts, and date with confidence.

If you’re ready to stop settling and start selecting, this candid conversation is a must-listen.

About today’s guest:
MARIA AVGITIDIS is the CEO of Agape Match, an award-winning matchmaking service based out of New York City, and the host of the dating and relationship podcast Ask a Matchmaker. Maria combines strong intuition with matchmaking methodology to leverage each client’s unique personality, style, and history. Their love stories are a testament to how Maria has transformed matchmaking utilizing behavioral science and the unique know-how gained through her matchmaking inheritance. Matchmaker Maria and her advice for those seeking love has been featured in The New York Times, CBS Mornings, Time Magazine, The Washington Post and more.

Where you can find Maria:
Instagram: @matchmakermaria
Website: www.matchmakermaria.com

 

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A No-Nonsense Guide to Love – Interview with Matchmaker Maria

Tired of dating apps, dead-end conversations, and feeling like you’re doing all the work? In this episode, I share how my perspective on matchmaking has changed and why it might be the right next step for you. Matchmaking has evolved into an ethical, collaborative, full-service industry that supports smart, successful women who are short on time but serious about love. You’ll learn how top matchmakers combine personalized searches with emotional insight and coaching to help you meet high-quality men without the stress.

Curious about what matchmaking can do for you? Tune in and find out.

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Why You Should Hire a Matchmaker

What if your view of love is being shaped by the wrong people? In this episode of the Love U Podcast, I dive into the hidden influence of your social circle and why surrounding yourself with cynical singles or unhappily married couples could be sabotaging your outlook on love. You’ll hear real stories, hard truths, and a powerful case for expanding your perspective by connecting with people who actually believe in happy, healthy relationships. If you’re feeling discouraged or stuck in negative dating patterns, this episode is your reminder that the relationship you deserve does exist — and it starts with who you choose to listen to. Tune in and discover how to build a better belief system about love.

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Why Single People Need Happily Married Friends

Ever feel like you’re working harder on your relationship than your partner is? In this episode of the Love U Podcast, I challenge the belief that relationships should be hard work. You’ll learn why trying to fix a fundamentally broken partnership may be doing more harm than good—and why acceptance matters more than endless effort. I’ll share powerful insights from clients, therapists, and real-world examples that prove you don’t need to change your man—you just need to choose better. If you’ve been holding on to a relationship out of fear or habit, this episode will give you the clarity (and permission) to finally let go.
Tune in now—your peace of mind may depend on it.

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The Love U Podcast with Evan Marc Katz