In this episode of the Love U Podcast, I sit down with Serena Kerrigan, author of the new book Let’s F*cking Date: Become the Prize, Enjoy the Ride, and Never Settle Again, to talk about what it means to stop auditioning for love and start choosing it.

We get into why dating multiple people at once comes from a place of power rather than scarcity, and why the anxiety we mistake for chemistry is actually a warning sign. Serena shares how she met her boyfriend when she stopped looking for her dream man, and why the right relationship feels like a steady, peaceful flow.

In other words, Serena’s message very much echoes mine – just with more profanity.

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About Today’s Guest:
Serena Kerrigan—known to most as SFK—is the founder of Let’s F*cking Date, which started as a digital series and turned into a bestselling card game franchise, sold-out live shows, and a global community of over a million people. She is a Duke University graduate, a Forbes 30 Under 30 honoree, and the creator and star of the Peacock series Older, Hotter, Wiser. This is her first book. She lives in New York with her mini dachshund, Pancho.

Where You Can Find Serena:
Website: https://letsfuckingdate.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/serenakerrigan

Let’s F*cking Date! – Interview with Serena Kerrigan

TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, Reddit, podcasts, dating coaches, therapists, influencers, and AI can answer any dating question in seconds.

And yet, with all that advice, I don’t think most women are much happier.

In this Love U Podcast, I explain why knowing what to do isn’t the same as doing it — and how much can change when you focus on the right things for the next 90 days.

I also introduce the newly rebuilt EvanMarcKatz.com, including the Dating and Relationship Resource Library and my new three-month concierge advisory services.

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by dating advice and unsure about how to find love in 2026, this episode will give you a great place to start.

Why Most Dating Advice Doesn’t Work

We have more freedom, more choices, and more ways to meet than any generation in history—so why are so many women struggling to create the families they say they want?

On this week’s Love U Podcast, I talk with journalist Anna Louie Sussman, author of Inconceivable: The Impossibility of Family in an Age of Uncertainty, about what’s getting in the way.

We explore how dating apps have changed the way we choose partners, why successful women may face a numbers problem, and the tension between waiting for the right person and running out of time to build the family you want.

It’s a thoughtful conversation about how much of our dating struggle is personal, how much is structural—and what you can actually do about it.

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About Today’s Guest:
A former Wall Street Journal and Reuters reporter, Anna Louie Sussman is a contributing Opinion writer at The New York Times. Her work has also appeared in The New Yorker, The Atlantic, The New York Review of Books, The Guardian, New York Magazine, The Cut, MIT Technology Review, Elle, and numerous other publications. She has reported from two dozen countries and is the recipient of numerous grants, fellowships, and awards.

Where You Can Find Anna:
Website: https://www.annalouiesussman.com/
Instagram: http://instagram.com/annalouiesuss
Twitter: https://x.com/annalouiesuss

Inconceivable: Family in an Age of Uncertainty – Interview with Anna Louie Sussman

Modern dating has created a culture where discomfort is something to escape. But does avoiding difficult conversations protect us—or does it make relationships harder to build?

In this episode of The Case for Love, Nick Notas and I explore why so many people avoid conflict and why the courage to communicate honestly is one of the strongest predictors of a healthy relationship.

If you’ve ever avoided hard conversation or considered yourself a people pleaser, I hope this makes a difference for you.

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Website: https://www.nicknotas.com/
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@NickNotas
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@NickNotas

Why Nobody Says What They Really Mean Anymore

When you’ve been dating for a while and it seems there are no good men, finding one is incredibly exciting. But what happens when you meet a man who is even more excited about you?

In this episode of the Love U Podcast, I explain why even women who crave commitment can get freaked out by a guy who is too eager to commit. I also share how you can slow down a good guy without making him feel rejected.

If you’ve ever panicked because he was moving quicker than you were, watch this episode and discover how to be the CEO of your love life.

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He Wants to Commit After 2 Dates!

In this episode of the Love U Podcast, I sit down with Regena Thomashauer—better known as Mama Gena. She’s a bestselling author and founder of the School of Womanly Arts, and she explains why so many successful women lose touch with their own pleasure—and how to find their way back.
We talk about why pleasure isn’t something you have to earn after all the work is done, what happens when you make joy a priority, and how men respond differently when you do.
If you’ve ever felt disconnected from yourself, unsure of who you are now, or worried that your best years are behind you, this conversation is a powerful reminder that they don’t have to be.
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About Today’s Guest:
Regena Thomashauer — better known as Mama Gena — is a pioneering voice in women’s empowerment, a bestselling author, teacher, feminist icon, and the founder and CEO of the School of Womanly Arts.

For more than three decades, Regena has devoted her work to restoring women’s connection to their bodies, desires, and right to want more. At the heart of her teaching is a radical truth: pleasure is a form of power. Her work is rooted in lived experience, decades of research, and the real-world results of hundreds of thousands of students.

Regena is the author of five books and has been widely recognized as a leading voice in modern feminism.
Where You Can Find Mama Gena:
Website: https://mamagenas.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mamagena/

Reclaiming Desire in Midlife – Interview with Regena Thomashauer (Mama Gena)

My clients are accomplished women who have taken control of their lives and succeeded – both academically and careerwise – with intelligence, hard work and resilience.
Yet when it comes to finding love I’ve noticed two things:
Since success in love requires different skills, women are more likely to give up than to approach it with the same hard work and resilience they do with their careers.
The desire to stay in control gets in the way of finding a competent man who steps up to take care of you.
Both are challenging ideas. In this episode, I’ll explain why trying to control everything fails miserably in love and why partnership feels harder than everything else you’ve mastered.
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The Skills That Made You Successful May Be Holding You Back in Love

Modern dating has become a game of chicken. Women are told not to chase. Men are told not to come on too strong. Everyone’s so busy avoiding looking needy or too invested that two people who genuinely like each other end up pretending they don’t.

In this episode of The Case for Love, Nick Notas and I explain why vulnerability feels risky, how “playing it cool” backfires, and why the best relationships don’t involve keeping score. If you’re tired of second-guessing every text, you don’t want to miss this one.

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Website: https://www.nicknotas.com/
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@NickNotas
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Why Everyone Is Afraid to Care Too Much

In this episode, I explore how biology and culture shape male behavior, why the backlash against toxic masculinity has left decent men unsure how to act, and what women lose when masculinity gets coded as dangerous.

If you’re looking for a confident, proactive man without the boorishness and entitlement, watch this episode. You’ll have plenty of reasons for optimism.

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Are Men and Women More Different Than We Want to Admit?

He’s 58, successful, kind, and never married. Is that a huge red flag, or is it just part of his story? In this episode, I make the case both for and against dating a never-married man, and I ask you to be as charitable to him as you would be to a girlfriend who never tied the knot. If you’ve ever hesitated over a never-married man and wondered what you might be missing, watch this episode before you swipe left.

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The Love U Podcast with Evan Marc Katz