Ever get excited about a great first date, only to spiral into trying to predict the future? In this episode of the Love U Podcast, I reveal why trying to figure out if he’s “The One” too soon can sabotage your connection. Learn how to stay present, pace the relationship, and still spot red flags early enough to walk away from the wrong guys. I’ll show you how to hold two truths at once: don’t rush to label him your soulmate, but don’t ignore signs that he’s not right either. If you’ve ever struggled to balance hope with healthy skepticism, this episode will bring you clarity and peace of mind. Tune in now.

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Believe the Negatives, Ignore the Positives

Are your dating standards helping you or quietly sabotaging your love life? In this Love U Podcast, I unpack the hidden rulebook many women carry about how men should behave and why it’s getting in the way of real connection. You’ll hear six common behaviors women often misinterpret as red flags, how to rethink the idea of “wrong” versus “different,” and why letting go of rigid expectations can open the door to lasting love. If you’ve ever written someone off for something small or struggled to balance chemistry with compatibility, this episode will help you shift your mindset and make smarter choices in dating.

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Throw Away The Rulebook in Your Head!

What if aging made you more desirable, not less? In this episode of the Love U Podcast, I sit down with Chip Conley—author, entrepreneur, and founder of the Modern Elder Academy—to talk about love, identity, and reinvention in the second half of life. We explore the difference between aging and “saging,” how men experience loneliness and intimacy, and why dating in midlife offers a deeper kind of connection. Chip shares his own lessons on grief, self-worth, and emotional fluency—and how women can stop internalizing cultural myths about becoming invisible. If you’ve ever wondered whether your best years in love are behind you, this conversation will shift your mindset and open your heart.

About Today’s Guest:
Chip Conley is on a midlife mission. After disrupting the hospitality industry twice, first as the founder of Joie de Vivre Hospitality, the second-largest operator of boutique hotels in the U.S., and then as Airbnb’s Head of Global Hospitality and Strategy, leading a worldwide revolution in travel, Conley co-founded MEA (Modern Elder Academy) in January 2018 in Baja California, Mexico. Inspired by his experience of intergenerational mentoring as a ‘modern elder’ at Airbnb, where his guidance was instrumental to the company’s extraordinary transformation from fast-growing start-up to the world’s most valuable hospitality brand, MEA is the world’s first ‘midlife wisdom school’ and has a 2,600-acre regenerative horse ranch in Santa Fe, New Mexico which opened in May 2024. Dedicated to reframing the concept of aging, MEA supports students to navigate midlife with a renewed sense of purpose and possibility. A New York Times bestselling author, Conley’s 7th book “Learning to Love Midlife: 12 Reasons Why Life Gets Better with Age” is about rebranding midlife to help people understand the upside of this often-misunderstood life stage and he was asked to give a 2023 TED talk on the “midlife chrysalis.”

Where You Can Find Chip:

LinkedIN: www.linkedin.com/in/chipconleysf/ [http://www.linkedin.com/in/chipconleysf/]
Instagram: @chipconley [https://www.instagram.com/chipconley]
Facebook: @chipconley [https://www.facebook.com/chipconleyauthor]
Youtube: @TheMidlifeChrysalisPodcast [https://www.youtube.com/@TheMidlifeChrysalisPodcast]

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The Midlife Manifesto – Interview with Chip Conley

What if your biggest fear in dating isn’t rejection—it’s investing time, money, and hope into change…only to feel like nothing works? In this episode of the Love U Podcast, I share a powerful conversation with a client who overcame that exact fear and discovered why success in love is never about luck. We’ll explore how to break free from dating inertia, replace limiting beliefs, and build the confidence to attract the right man. You’ll learn why results come from deliberate action, not passive hope—and why fear of failure is the very thing keeping you stuck. Listen in and find out how to take control of your love life starting today.

What You’ll Hear:

 * Why fear of failure — not men — is the #1 reason women hesitate to invest in dating coaching.
 * The truth about my 100% success rate (and what “success” really means in Love U).
 * How coaching differs from therapy, self-help books, and passive dating advice.
 * The three biggest transformations I can virtually guarantee in six months of working together.
 * Why “doing nothing” guarantees the same disappointing results you’ve been getting.
 * How building dating confidence affects every other part of your life.
 * Why dating is a skill — and how to master it with structure, accountability, and practice.
 * The “Biggest Loser” metaphor for personal growth and why small wins still count as success.
 * My own history of repeated failure — and why it made me better at love (and at coaching).
 * A pep talk for taking action now so you can create the love you deserve.

Full Episode Transcript:
Exciting episode today. Sincerely excited because it’s different. It’s not just dating advice today.

This is much larger. So, I’m really going to encourage you to stick around. And this is based on a conversation I had with a current client who’s working through her fear of failure.

So, the truth that I understand about most people who are listening to the Love U podcast right now is that they would invest their hard-earned money for dating coaching. They’re not worried that I’m an unethical operator. Their biggest fear that, again, I’m discovering late in life, their biggest fear is that they’re going to hire me as a coach and nothing is going to change.

So, if you’ve ever listened to this podcast and thought, maybe I should hire him, but I’m really worried that it’s not going to work, I want you to listen to this podcast and I want you to hear why I have a 100% success rate. Stick around. My name is Evan Marc Katz.

This is the Love U podcast. I thank you for listening. If you haven’t already, subscribe on YouTube, Spotify, Apple, leave us a positive review, go and tell a friend about us.
We’re making a small difference in our corner of the internet here. Just a reminder that next installment of the Extraordinary Love Series is this Wednesday. I’m doing a Zoom call followed by a live Q&A.

The topic is what high-quality men want in a long-term partner. If you haven’t already, go to extraordinaryloveseries.com [http://extraordinaryloveseries.com], register for free, and I’ll see you in class. It should be a lot of fun.

So, a few months ago, I did an episode of this podcast on fear, why it’s a real thing, but fear is always the problem and never the solution. So, we just have to kind of talk about fear because it undergirds every conversation about dating, relationships, sex, and men. It’s generally not men that my clients are afraid of.

It’s failure. It’s putting themselves in another situation, making themselves emotionally vulnerable, and ending up right back where they started, right? Feeling bad about themselves, feeling bad about their pro

What If I Hire You and It Doesn’t Work?

Ever wonder if it’s possible to start over—emotionally, romantically, even financially—at 60? In this episode, I talk with Victoria, a powerhouse of resilience who walked away from a 30-year marriage, faced down fear, and built a brand-new life from the ground up. We explore what it really takes to leave a relationship that looks fine on the outside but feels empty on the inside, how to trust yourself again after decades of self-doubt, and why reinvention isn’t just possible—it’s powerful. If you’ve ever questioned whether you’re too old or too late for lasting love, Victoria’s story will show you what’s possible when you finally put yourself first.

What You’ll Hear:

 * I talk with Victoria, a sharp, 72-year-old Love U graduate from Phoenix, who rebuilt her life and love story after a 30-year marriage ended in her 60s.
 * You’ll hear how she went from terrified and isolated post-divorce to confidently dating—and why she rejected the belief that women over 60 are “undesirable.”
 * We discuss why opening yourself up to men from different backgrounds (not just your “type”) can lead to unexpected, fulfilling connections.
 * Victoria shares the powerful mindset shift that helped her let go of “good guys” who weren’t a true fit—without guilt, drama, or wasting years.
 * We explore how she learned to embrace her feminine side and allow men to “do for her,” even though she’s perfectly capable on her own.
 * You’ll hear the story of meeting her current partner online at 68, navigating a long-distance relationship, and creating a deep, mutual adoration.
 * We unpack why “easy” and “agreeable” are underrated traits in a partner—and how to look beneath the surface to find lasting compatibility.
 * Victoria reveals what she wishes her younger self knew about choosing the right man, and why she believes love is possible at any age.
 * Finally, she explains how Love U’s community and male perspective on dating helped her rewrite her relationship future.

Full Episode Transcript:

Hey, this is Evan Marc Katz, dating and relationship coach for smart, strong, successful women, your personal trainer for love. Welcome back to the Love U podcast, where you can learn everything there is to know about dating and relationships, sex and men from a man’s point of view. If you are a regular listener, do me a solid subscribe on whatever platform you’re on, YouTube, Spotify, Apple, I think.

Write a positive review, say something, tell a friend. It really makes a difference. I read all the reviews.

Victoria’s Love U Love Story

Can you be warm, confident, and flirty—without feeling fake? In this episode of the Love U Podcast, I coach Shahrzad, a smart, multilingual woman in Stockholm who’s great at meeting people but struggles to spark romantic connection in real life. We explore how to build social momentum, express interest naturally, and radiate the kind of energy that draws high-quality men in. If you’ve ever felt stuck between being friendly and being flirty, this one’s for you.

What You’ll Hear:

 * I coach Shahrzad, a smart, multilingual 29-year-old in Sweden, who’s doing everything “right” but still struggles to turn real-life interactions into romantic ones.

 * We talk about what it actually means to be approachable—and how to express interest without chasing, performing, or feeling fake.

 * You’ll hear why confidence isn’t about lines or tricks, but about how you see yourself—and how that changes the way men respond to you.

 * I explain the two main types of flirtation—playful banter and warm curiosity—and why one might come more naturally to you.

 * We unpack how being the “mayor” of your social scene (aka creating social momentum) makes you instantly more magnetic.

 * You’ll learn how expressing opinions builds sexual tension and makes small talk more exciting.

 * I share how to shift your energy so that every man you meet feels you’re already desired—and how that unspoken confidence creates instant attraction.

 * I coach Shahrzad on specific, doable ways to bring more feminine energy, flirtation, and social leadership into her daily life—especially in male-dominated professional settings.

 * And finally, I explain why you don’t have to change who you are to be a better flirt—you just have to practice showing up differently.

Full Episode Transcript

Hey, this is Evan Mark Katz, Dating and Relationship Coach for Smart, Strong, Successful Women, your personal trainer for love. Welcome back to the LoveU Podcast. Gosh, I don’t even know how many episodes we’ve done.

It’s probably close to 400.

How Can I Be More Flirtatious and Approachable? – Coaching with Shahrzad

Last week, I shared that my wife has breast cancer. Hundreds of you wrote back with your thoughts and prayers. I was so touched that I did what I said I wasn’t going to do: I recorded a podcast about our situation, the importance of unconditional love, and my clients who have found it and credit me for helping them.

Warning: I blubber my way through this like you can’t even imagine. I’m not proud of it. But I’m truly moved by the love I feel in this moment and I thought this was the only way I could share with you.

I hope this touches the part of you that deeply wants to be loved.

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What You’ll Hear: 

 * I open up for the first time about my wife’s breast cancer diagnosis and why I decided to share something so personal on a podcast about dating and relationships.

 * You’ll hear how this unexpected health crisis has impacted our lives—and why we’ve chosen to treat it as a detour, not a tragedy.

 * I reflect on the emotional toll of navigating the healthcare system, changing doctors, and making life-altering decisions in a matter of days.

 * I share the incredible outpouring of love and support we’ve received from friends, clients, and complete strangers—and why it moved me more than I can say.

 * You’ll hear stories that show who my wife really is—resilient, joyful, and determined to keep living fully even in the face of chemo.

 * I explain why I believe marriage matters—not just for romance, but for moments like this, when having a true partner makes all the difference.

 * I read three powerful testimonials from women whose lives were changed by Love U—proof that even in dark moments, this work is deeply meaningful.

 * And finally, I talk about why I’m not stepping back from coaching during this season of life—because love, purpose, and connection matter now more than ever.

Full Episode Transcript: 

Last month, my wife was diagnosed with stage 2 triple negative invasive ductal carcinoma. Since then, everything’s been a whirlwind. I posted on social media about it last week and haven’t talked about it publicly because of a few reasons.

A, I wasn’t sure I could do this

A Teary Podcast About My Wife and My Life’s Work

Have you ever had an amazing connection with a man—only to find yourself heartbroken and confused when it didn’t last? In this Love U Podcast, I break down the three sneaky but predictable reasons relationships fail, even when everything feels right: timing, circumstance, and location. If you’ve ever fallen for a guy who wasn’t ready, was juggling too much, or lived too far away, this episode is for you. I’ll help you spot these traps early so you don’t waste time on someone who can’t go the distance. Tune in now to protect your heart, trust your instincts, and date with confidence.

What You’ll Hear:

 * I break down the heartbreaking pattern so many women face—going from “he’s the one” to wondering what went wrong.

 * You’ll hear the three biggest reasons promising relationships still fail: bad timing, messy life circumstances, and long-distance dynamics that feel romantic but rarely work.

 * I explain why chemistry and connection aren’t enough—and how even great guys can derail your future if they’re not ready or available in real life.

 * I unpack how to spot these red flags early, before you invest months (or years) trying to fix something that was never sustainable.

 * You’ll hear stories of women who bet on potential, ignored timing, and ended up stuck in relationships that drained them—and how you can avoid the same fate.

 * I give you clear, actionable dating wisdom so you stop choosing “maybes” and start making smarter decisions that lead to lasting love.

 * And finally, I share why the right relationship isn’t supposed to be hard—and how to know when the timing, circumstances, and location are finally working in your favor.

Full Episode Transcript:
You’re in love.

You have the deepest connection. You’ve never felt anything like it. You both agree that you just know that you finally met your person, the one.

One year later, you’re single. You’re depressed. You’re devastated, and you’re trying to make sense of where you went wrong.

3 Reasons Your Relationship Will (Likely) Fail

Have you ever felt like your past has permanently shaped your love life? In this deeply personal episode, I share the emotional journey of my client Lorelei—a smart, successful woman whose early experiences with an abusive father and controlling husband convinced her she was unlovable. We explore how trauma can create limiting beliefs that sabotage your dating life and how genuine emotional safety—yes, even from a male coach—can start to heal that. If you’ve struggled to trust men or believe that love is still possible for you, this episode will give you hope, insight, and a path forward. Tune in to rediscover what’s possible in love, no matter your age or past.

What You’ll Hear:

 * I share an emotional coaching session with my client, Lorelei, a smart, beautiful woman in her 60s who’s finally confronting the childhood wounds that shaped her entire love life.

 * You’ll hear the devastating belief her inner child whispered—“If no man has loved me in 60 years, nobody ever will”—and how we’re slowly rewriting that story together.

 * I talk about how so many women unknowingly base their entire view of men on just two relationships: their father and their ex-husband.

 * I unpack how your early experiences with men can quietly dictate who you choose, how you feel about yourself, and what you believe you deserve.

 * You’ll hear how Lorelei began to trust again—not just in the process, but in me as a man—despite having every reason not to.

 * I reflect on the unexpected role I’ve come to play for some of my clients: the first man who makes them feel safe, heard, and understood.

 * I explain why seeing love modeled in real life matters—and what happens when you’ve only ever seen dysfunction.

 * I talk about the emotional breakthrough that helped Lorelei go from fear and paralysis to finally getting online and believing love might actually be possible for her.

 * I share why I believe the second half of Lorelei’s life is going to be better than the first—and how that can be true for you, too.

 * And finally, I invite you to open your heart to a new chapter, one where you stop living by old pain and start creating the love story you’ve always deserved.

Full Episode Transcript

We’re going deep today. I’m not going to say that I’m going to cry, but I’m not saying I’m not going to cry either.

This episode is for every

What to Do If You’ve Never Been Properly Loved

Ever feel like no matter how much you accomplish, love still feels out of reach? In this episode of the Love U Podcast, I sit down with Francesca Hogi—former lawyer turned matchmaker, TED speaker, and author of How to Find True Love—to talk about what it really takes to attract the relationship you deserve. We unpack the difference between falling in love and co-creating love, why dating apps have rewired our expectations, and how self-worth, flirting, and emotional safety are non-negotiables in healthy relationships. If you’re tired of transactional dating and ready to experience real partnership, this inspiring, down-to-earth conversation is for you.

About Today’s Guest:
Francesca Hogi helps people find true love inside and out. A former corporate lawyer turned matchmaker turned love coach, Francesca is a TED speaker, host of Dear Franny Podcast, and internationally recognized expert on dating and relationships. She’s been featured in media outlets such as The Today Show, Marie Claire, The New York Times, Harper’s Bazaar and Forbes. She coaches individuals and groups, and is the founder of The True Love Society, a community for people seeking deeper self and romantic love. Her first book, How to Find True Love: Unlock Your Romantic Flow and Create Lasting Relationships, was recently released by Grand Central Publishing. Prior to her love career, Francesca competed on two seasons of the iconic reality show Survivor.

Where you can find Francesca:
Instagram: @dearfranny
LinkedIN: @dearfranny
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@truelovesociety

Website: https://francescahogi.com/
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What You’ll Hear

 * Francesca Hogi and Evan explore the power of presence and how being genuinely open in the world can create unexpected romantic opportunities.
 * A real-life example of Francesca meeting her ex on the corner of Sunset and Doheny—and what made her stop and engage with a stranger.
 * Why connection doesn’t require apps, effort, or strategy—but instead a “cute mindset” and willingness to be in the moment.
 * The small but powerful act of giving compliments to strangers—and why it’s one of the easiest, most effective ways to create connection.
 * Evan shares a personal story about complimenting a woman’s stockings… and how that small gesture had nothing to do with flirting—and everything to do with being genuine.
 * A breakdown of why most women miss romantic moments not because they’re unavailable, but because they’re closed off or too self-conscious to act.
 * The concept of being a “catalyst for light in the world” and how that mindset shifts dating from stressful to joyful.
 * Francesca’s favorite client assignment: how many men can you make smile this week? And the life-changing results it creates.
 * A powerful reframe that turns random interactions into low-stakes, high-reward dating opportunities.
 * Encouragement to stop waiting for dating apps to do the work—and start bringing your full, magnetic self into everyday life.

Full Episode Transcript:

Hey, this is Evan Marc Katz, a dating and relationship coach for Smart, Strong, Successful Women. Welcome back to the Love U podcast.

This is a place you can learn everything you need to know about dating and relationships, sex, and men from a man’s point of view. I am excited today because I’ve got a very special guest. Before I get to my special guest, because we’re gonna have plenty of time with her, if you’ve been listening, please subscribe on Apple, subscribe on Spotify, leave us a positive review, say something nice.

I read those comments. It gets us into the algorithm. I think we’ve got 536 positive stuff.

Well, actually, we’ll say about 500-something positi

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