What if everything you thought you knew about sex was just one version of the story?

In this episode, Nadège is joined by author and activist Lucie Fielding, whose groundbreaking work on trans sex is reshaping how we think about pleasure, bodies, and desire. Together, these two scholars explore how queering sex (i.e. breaking free from ideas of what sex should be) can make intimacy more exciting, fulfilling, and inclusive for everyone.

In this eye-opening conversation, Nadège and Lucie talk about:

 * The real reason why the traditional sex script limits your pleasure
 * How renaming body parts can transform intimacy
 * What “muffing” is and why you might want to try it

If you’ve ever felt like sex was supposed to look a certain way, this episode will give you permission to rewrite the rules.



Show Notes

Pleasure Science Courses [https://pleasurescience.com/learn] - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off!

WEB • www.pleasurescience.com [https://pleasurescience.com/]

BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium [https://medium.com/pleasure-science]

@PleasureScience on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/pleasurescience/], TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@pleasurescience], and YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@pleasurescience]

Episode website: https://pleasurescience.com/s1e12-queer-sex-tips

Connect with Lucie!

Lucie’s website - sign up for her newsletter! [https://luciefielding.com/]

Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/sexbeyondbinaries/]

BlueSky [https://www.instagram.com/sexbeyondbinaries/]



Amber L Hollibaugh [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Amber_L._Hollibaugh]

Douglas Crimp [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Douglas_Crimp]

How to Have Promiscuity in an Epidemic [https://www.sas.upenn.edu/~cavitch/pdf-library/Crimp_How_To_Have.pdf]

Sigmund Freud [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sigmund_Freud]

Sigmund Freud: Three Essays on the Theory of Sexuality [https://www.sas.upenn.edu/~cavitch/pdf-library/Freud_SE_Three_Essays_complete.pdf]

Mira Bellweather [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mira_Bellwether]

F*cking Trans Women [https://archive.org/details/fucking-trans-women-mira-bellwether-october-2010.cleaned]

Rethink How You F*ck with Queer Sex Tips

Have you ever questioned the romantic milestones society tells us we should follow?

The "Heterosexual Timeline"—also known as the Relationship Escalator—is something you’ve probably never heard of, and yet it is the thing telling you what it means to be successful in love.

This unspoken timeline is the reason why most of us date the way we do, it’s why we assume that if you’re in love you should get married, and that’s just the tip of the iceberg.

At one point we have to ask ourselves, what if the ways we’ve learned how to love has nothing to do with our desires, needs, or our identity?

In this week’s episode, Nadège shares her personal coming-out story and explores how queer people have felt freer to make their own rules in relationships (and why this is a mentality EVERYONE should have!)

This episode will change the way you think about sex, love, and relationships.

Listen now and start creating your own timeline for love!



Show Notes

Pleasure Science Courses [https://pleasurescience.com/learn] - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off!

WEB • www.pleasurescience.com [https://pleasurescience.com/]

BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium [https://medium.com/pleasure-science]

@PleasureScience on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/pleasurescience/], TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@pleasurescience], and YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@pleasurescience]

Episode website: https://pleasurescience.com/s1e11-my-coming-out-story

More information about the relationship escalator [https://offescalator.com/what-escalator/]





What's the Heterosexual Timeline? (How I realized I'm gay!)

What does it mean to love your body and embrace your unique story? This week on Pleasure Science, we’re joined by Lyss Ball—intersex advocate, somatic spaceholder, and trauma-informed embodiment expert.

Lyss gets vulnerable on the pod and opens up about being intersex, redefining sexuality, and cultivating self-love through somatic healing.

We dive into the powerful rituals that can help you connect to your body and deepen intimacy in all areas of life.

Tune in for a transformative conversation about empowerment, identity, and pleasure!



Show Notes

Pleasure Science Courses [https://pleasurescience.com/learn] - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off!

WEB • www.pleasurescience.com [https://pleasurescience.com/]

BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium [https://medium.com/pleasure-science]

@PleasureScience on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/pleasurescience/], TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@pleasurescience], and YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@pleasurescience]

Episode Website: https://pleasurescience.com/s1e10-somatic-intersex [http://www.pleasurescience.com/s1ep10-somatic-intersex]



Connect with Lyss!

Website [https://www.iamlimitlyss.com/interwoven]

Instagram [https://instagram.com/iamlimitlyss]

TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@intersexwitch]

Loving Your Body, Somatic Healing, and Intersex 101

In this special episode, Nadège leads you through a transformative affirmation meditation designed to help you feel more confident, open, and worthy of pleasure.

Drawing on neuroscience and the power of positive thought, these affirmations are crafted to rewire your brain, heal limiting beliefs, and connect you to the erotic power that already lives within you.

Whether you're seeking to overcome obstacles, create a sex-positive mindset, or simply invite more joy into your life, this guided practice is a gentle and empowering journey toward self-love, body trust, and abundance.

So, find a quiet space, take a deep breath, and allow these words to sink in—you are worthy, you are capable, and you are free.



Show Notes

Pleasure Science Courses [https://pleasurescience.com/learn] - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off!

WEB • www.pleasurescience.com [https://pleasurescience.com/]

BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium [https://medium.com/pleasure-science]

@PleasureScience on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/pleasurescience/], TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@pleasurescience], and YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@pleasurescience]

Episode website: https://pleasurescience.com/S1E9-sex-meditation

Sex Positive Meditation (listen to this every day if you want to change your life)

In this thought-provoking conversation, Nadège sits down with Midori (she/her), a groundbreaking sexologist, author, artist, and coach with over 30 years in the kink community.

As the author of the first English-language book on shibari, Midori brings wisdom, nuance, and experience to the table as she explores her definition of sex, the concept of BDSM as “playtime for adults”, and how kink can be a powerful tool for healing, trauma recovery, and reclaiming your body as a sexual sanctuary.

Whether you're a seasoned practitioner of BDSM or just starting to dip your toes into the conversation, this episode promises insight, warmth, and a whole new perspective on pleasure, kink, and power.

Episode website: https://pleasurescience.com/S1E8-bdsm-adult-playtime



Show Notes

Pleasure Science Courses [https://pleasurescience.com/learn] - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off!

WEB • www.pleasurescience.com [https://pleasurescience.com/]

BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium [https://medium.com/pleasure-science]

@PleasureScience on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/pleasurescience/], TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@pleasurescience], and YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@pleasurescience]

Connect with Midori:

www.planetmidori.com [http://planetmidori.com]

Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/PlanetMidori/]

Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/PlanetMidori/]

Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/planetmidori]

Kink Informed Certification from Sexual Health Alliance [https://sexualhealthalliance.com/kink-informed-certification-program]



Dr. Emily Nagoski [https://www.emilynagoski.com/]

BDSM is Playtime for Adults!

Have you ever been curious about BDSM (or kinky history)?

In this episode, Nadège opens up about how she discovered kink and trained to be a Dominatrix.

Then, our resident sex scholar dives into the fascinating and often misunderstood world of BDSM. From ancient Assyrian practices to the seductive powers of the forbidden fruit, kink isn’t just about whips, chains, and roleplay—it’s about power, play, and exploring the erotic edges of our human desires.

Whether you are curious about the kink world or you already enjoy a BDSM lifestyle, this episode unravels why kink is so alluring, so misunderstood, and, yes, potentially the key to unlocking your own pleasure.

Buckle up—it’s going to be a wild, empowering ride!

Episode website: www.pleasurescience.com/S1E7-the-intrigue-of-kink [https://pleasurescience.com/S1E7-the-intrigue-of-kink]



Show Notes

Pleasure Science Courses [https://pleasurescience.com/learn] - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off!

WEB • www.pleasurescience.com [https://pleasurescience.com/]

BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium [https://medium.com/pleasure-science]

@PleasureScience on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/pleasurescience/], TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@pleasurescience], and YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@pleasurescience]

Marquis de Sade [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marquis_de_Sade]

Leopold von Sacher Masoch [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Leopold_von_Sacher-Masoch]

Episode 1 of Pleasure Science [https://pleasurescience.com/s1e1-coolest-sex-facts]

Fifty Shades of Grey [https://www.goodreads.com/series/63134-fifty-shades]

Episode 3 of Pleasure Science [https://pleasurescience.com/s1e3-sex-history-101]

Why Kink is Intriguing, Orgasmic, and Misunderstood

Nadège sits down with sex therapist Nicoletta Heidegger, who is not just an expert in non-monogamy, but a woman who has personally experienced opening up her relationship.

This episode is so empowering because you get to hear from an expert who doesn't just talk the talk; she walks the walk, allowing us to explore non-monogamy from a deeper perspective that helps you show up as your best self in your relationship(s).

Enjoy a conversation that will open your eyes and fill you with tips for non-monogamy, whether you are a beginner, a ENM veteran, or simply curious about this topic!

Nicoletta Heidegger is a licensed marriage and family therapist (#110256) and an award-nominated sexologist practicing in Los Angeles. She specializes in sex therapy as well as Equine Assisted Psychotherapy (EAP). She sees therapy clients (CA residents only) virtually and at her unique ranch office in Los Angeles. She also provides coaching, consulting, education, and retreats to folks around the world.

When not seeing clients, Nicoletta creates weekly content via her hit show Sluts and Scholars: a sex positive, shame-free, educational podcast for professionals who prioritize pleasure. [https://www.slutsandscholars.com/]

Episode Website: https://pleasurescience.com/s1e6-non-monogamy-tips


Show Notes



Pleasure Science Courses [https://pleasurescience.com/learn] - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off!

WEB • www.pleasurescience.com [https://pleasurescience.com/home]

BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium [https://medium.com/pleasure-science]

@PleasureScience on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/pleasurescience/], TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@pleasurescience], and YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@pleasurescience]

Connect with Nicoletta:

WEB • https://www.nicolettavheidegger.com/

Sluts and Scholars podcast [https://www.slutsandscholars.com/]

Instagram @therapywithnicoletta [https://www.instagram.com/therapywithnicoletta/] and @slutsandscholars [https://www.instagram.com/slutsandscholars/]

Information about the orgasm gap [https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2023/mar/21/the-orgasm-gap-and-how-to-close-it-dont-equate-sex-and-penetration]

Wednesday Martin [http://wednesdaymartin.com/]

Multiamory podcast [https://www.multiamory.com/podcast#gsc.tab=0]

Opening Up by Tristan Taormino [https://bookshop.org/p/books/opening-up-a-guide-to-creating-and-sustaining-open-relationships-tristan-taormino/16623724?ean=9798200087747]

Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy [https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-ethical-slut-third-edition-a-practical-guide-to-polyamory-open-relationships-and-other-freedoms-in-sex-and-love-revised-janet-w-hardy/11368130?ean=9780399579660]

Open Deeply by Kate Loree [https://bookshop.org/p/books/open-deeply-a-guide-to-building-conscious-compassionate-open-relationships-kate-loree/18240085?ean=9781647423353]

Dr. Emily Jamea [https://emilyjamea.com/]

Plura app [https://heyplura.com/faq]

Fetlife [https://fetlife.com/]

910WeHo [https://www.910weho.com/]

Your Relationship, Your Rules! Non-monogamy tips for beginners and veterans

Relationships are beautiful, and they come in many forms. Today, we are taught that love should look a certain way: two people in a monogamous relationship with the goal of a life-long marriage.

Enjoying a monogamous marriage is a beautiful way to be in love - but I would be lying if I told you that this relationship style is the natural way human connection evolves.

The truth is monogamy was created for a specific purpose, and that purpose might surprise you (it also might piss you off).

In the name of love, I share this scholarship about history, power, and relationships with you. This episode is not meant to tell you how to love, but to open your heart to the diverse ways humans fall in love and the many styles of relationships we can have.

Discover the history of monogamy and why it was created. I hope this episode makes you more open-minded to different relationship styles and helps you be the best partner to the person (or people) you are in love with.

Episode Website: www.pleasurescience.com/s1e5-creation-of-monogamy [https://pleasurescience.com/s1e5-creation-of-monogamy]



Show Notes

Pleasure Science Courses [https://pleasurescience.com/learn] - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off!

WEB • www.pleasurescience.com [http://www.pleasurescience.com/]

BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium [https://medium.com/pleasure-science]

@PleasureScience on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/pleasurescience/], TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@pleasurescience], and YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@pleasurescience]

Episode 3 - Sex History 101 [https://pleasurescience.com/s1e3-sex-history-101]

Monogamy Isn't Natural, It Was Created

How do you reconcile spirituality with sexuality?  For so many of us, religion was a tool used to make us feel shame or fear for our erotic desires.

That's why Nadège sits down with Dr. Tara, a tenured professor of sexual communication and a practicing Buddhist. Dr. Tara opens up about her journey with sexual empowerment and how she maintains integrity with her religious practice while also honoring her desires.

Nadège and Dr. Tara discuss different elements of mindfulness, from meditation to plant-based medicine, and give tips on how you can start having mindful sex right now!

If you have ever struggled to reconcile your relationship with spirituality and sex, this one is for you.

Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of sexual communication and the founder of LUV. When she's not teaching, she creates sex education content for her millions of social media followers, writes her column 'Sexplore' for Women's Health, hosts her podcast LuvBites, co-hosts the UK's hit TV show Celebs Go Dating, and co-hosts the popular radio show Loveline.

Episode Website: https://pleasurescience.com/s1e4-sex-spirituality



Show Notes

Pleasure Science Courses [https://pleasurescience.com/learn] - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off!

WEB • www.pleasurescience.com [http://www.pleasurescience.com/]

BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium [https://medium.com/pleasure-science]

@PleasureScience on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/pleasurescience/], TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@pleasurescience], and YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@pleasurescience]



Be sure to follow Dr. Tara at:

WEB • https://www.luvbites.co/

YouTube • https://www.youtube.com/@Luvbitesco/videos

Instagram • https://www.instagram.com/luvbites.co/

TikTok • https://www.tiktok.com/@luvbites.co

Luv by Dr. Tara • https://www.luvbydrtara.com/

Dr. Tara’s Tedx Talk [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u-tkbBnmfbw]

Dr. Lori Brotto [https://www.loribrotto.com/]

Dr. Diana Kirschner [https://lovein90days.com/diana-kirschner/]

Gabby Berstein [https://gabbybernstein.com/]

God Loves Sex? All Things Pleasure, Mindfulness & Religion

Did you know sex history can be traced back 50,000 years?

Yup. In episode 3 of the Pleasure Science Podcast Nadège gives you a yummy crash course in history!

She explains why today’s society thinks sex is taboo, and how differently we viewed sex for most of human history.

Honestly, this scholarship is fascinating. Especially if you've ever found yourself wondering: where did sexual shame come from and what can we do to heal this?

Nadège answers this question, plus she shares some scholarship on trans gods throughout history.

Yes, you read that right, too! There are gods who were worshiped because they transitioned to a different gender.

Go listen to this juicy episode now!

Episode Website: https://pleasurescience.com/s1e3-sex-history-101



Show Notes

Pleasure Science Courses [https://pleasurescience.com/learn] - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off!

WEB • www.pleasurescience.com [http://www.pleasurescience.com/]

BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium [https://medium.com/pleasure-science]

@PleasureScience on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/pleasurescience/], TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@pleasurescience], and YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@pleasurescience]

Gods and goddesses that Nadège mentions:

Isis [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Isis]

Ishtar [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Inanna]

Mami Wata [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mami_Wata]

Tanit [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tanit]

Bacchus/Dionysus [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dionysus]

Mercury/Hermes [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hermes]

Sex History 101: We Once Worshiped Sex, Now We Hide It

A podcast that makes sexual liberation your new normal by changing the way you love and feel loved. Hosted by Nadège; sex scholar, bestselling author, speaker, teacher. Trained dominatrix.