Ep. 97 – Can Surrender Help Us Heal Our Lives?

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Gissele: [00:00:00] Hello, and welcome to the Love and Compassion Podcast with Gissele.

Gissele: We believe that love and compassion have the power to heal our lives and our world. Don’t forget to like and subscribe for more amazing content. And if you’d like to support our podcast, you can go to buymeacoffee.com/loveandcompassion. Today, we’re gonna be talking about the power of surrender, and we’re talking with Darryl Ditmer.

Gissele: After a humble and often tumultuous beginning to his life, Darryl Ditmer was confronted with a crossroads at the age of 19. Now having found success in many areas of life, Darryl has committed himself to helping others do the same through his coaching, his books, interactions, and how he chooses to show up in his world every day.

Gissele: Darryl lives with his wife, Christina, in the mountains of north Georgia, where a quieter life reinforces the same truths he teaches. Please join me in welcoming Darryl. Hi, Darryl.

Daryl: Hello. Thanks so much, Gissele. I appreciate you having me on.

Gissele: Yes, of [00:01:00] course. I was wondering if you could start by telling the audience a little bit about some of your beginnings and some of the struggles, and what the pivotal point was for you.

Daryl: Sure. I was born in the Midwest, and actually in Detroit, in Michigan. And my dad was a mechanic, and my mom took care of us kids and the household and it was I guess a… It was just really normal for… At that time and in that place, it was just normal. Every… I thought every kid’s dad worked at either GM, Ford, or Chrysler, because it was Detroit, and either that or they were a farmer.

Daryl: And that was kinda how it went. So in and around the cities and suburbs was one sort of way of life, and then out in the country was another way of life. But… So my dad was a pretty tough guy. He was he was a Korean War veteran Just a big, tough, strong dude.

Daryl: And not an unfair guy but very, discipline-oriented, that sort of thing and that’s how I grew up. And I must say that my [00:02:00] mom was probably in many ways- A little tougher than my dad, and the reason I say that is because she had a difficult, a very difficult upbringing, and had some really difficult things happen to her, some very traumatic things.

Daryl: So that is from whence I came and a lot was expected of me as a young person in terms of grades, in terms of sports. And I believe as I look back that my parents were trying to live through us kids, and my dad was very sports oriented. My brother and sister did not embrace sports and my mom was all about manners and grades and, how we’re looking out there in the world.

Daryl: And so that to me was a lot of pressure. I felt a lot of pressure to perform, and I felt a lot of pressure to do well in all these areas that were expected of me and however that fit into my beginning of the drinking and the drugging career is how it fit. I don’t [00:03:00] blame, I don’t have animosity looking backwards, anything like that.

Daryl: It’s just it became my life. And so I started drinking and doing drugs, and it was a fairly quick slope that I was heading down. It started at 13 and it progressed and the thing that progressed is me becoming someone other than I was raised to be. I became a completely different person.

Daryl: I was… I became a liar, a cheater and a thief and, just did things that were not cool, not good things and that started to grate on my soul. It truly did, on my heart, on my soul, on my mind because I couldn’t get out of it. I didn’t know exactly what was wrong, but I co