"Simply by you addressing your own trauma, you won’t pass it on to your kids."
In this episode, I’m diving into something that’s been coming up with a lot of my private clients lately—how to shift your relationship with your kids and stop unconsciously passing your trauma on to them. Whether your children are toddlers or in their 40s, this is for you.
After working for over a decade as both a mental health professional and educator, I’ve developed a very clear lens for how I see children—and more importantly, how I support parents. If your child is having behavioral issues, emotional dysregulation, or is simply shutting down, I want you to know: the change doesn’t start with them. It starts with you.
In this episode, I unpack how our unconscious wounds show up in our parenting, how our expectations get projected onto our kids, and why true transformation happens when we meet our own unmet needs first. I also share powerful stories from my own journey as a school counselor, as well as how I’m navigating these lessons in real time with my own son.
If you’ve ever felt frustrated, confused, or triggered by your child’s behavior, this is an invitation to see it all through a new lens—and break the cycle of generational trauma for good.
TODAY'S HIGHLIGHTS
(00:00) Intro
(01:37) The powerful shift that transforms your family dynamic
(03:41) How self-transformation rewrites your child's story
(06:21) The power of safe spaces for kids
(10:39) What your child's actions are subconsciously trying to tell you
(13:41) Breaking the capacity trap: The role of parental trauma
(15:41) The unseen baggage
(18:00) Meeting your kids where they are (not where your wounds need them to be)
(19:02) Breaking the cycle of trauma: From awareness to action
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