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This episode comes with content and trigger warnings: Domestic abuse, domestic violence, and graphic violence.
The voice you hear on this WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast episode was created by artificial intelligence. It is not a real person's voice.
The words spoken are a composite of beliefs and concepts expressed by dating and domestic abusers found within articles and interviews. They have been collected over nearly two decades. They have been reassembled as complete ideas and thoughts.
This episode illustrates how abusers portray themselves as victims. There is not one "portrait" that fits all abusers, of course, but many never take ownership of their words or actions, and they justify their abusive and destructive behavior.
NOTE:
If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com
The WHEN DATING HURTS book (paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can only be found on Amazon.
Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast,
Bill Mitchell
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This episode comes with content and trigger warnings: Domestic abuse, domestic violence, and graphic violence.
The voice you hear on this WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast episode was created by artificial intelligence. It is not a real person's voice.
The words spoken are a composite of beliefs and concepts expressed by dating and domestic abusers found within articles and interviews. They have been collected over nearly two decades. They have been reassembled as complete ideas and thoughts.
This episode illustrates how abusers portray themselves as victims. There is not one "portrait" that fits all abusers, of course, but many never take ownership of their words or actions, and they justify their abusive and destructive behavior.
NOTE:
If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com
The WHEN DATING HURTS book (paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can only be found on Amazon.
Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast,
Bill Mitchell
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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