I have appeared on Michele Locke's "LoveLustLaw" podcast several times. She asked me to join her in October 2026 for Domestic Violence month.

LoveLustLaw [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustlaw/id1819843688] is a true-crime and courtroom podcast that explores high-conflict divorces, custody battles, coercive control, and domestic violence.

Michele is a survivor, lawyer, and previously a judge. She is a wealth of knowledge about dating abuse and domestic violence.

This episode is a conversation recorded on October 5, 2026. We cover a wide range of topics you should consider sharing with those who need to hear it. I look forward to more chats with Michele, and I will share them with you.

Here is Michele Locke's website. [https://www.michelelocke.com/]



Bill Mitchell



NOTE:

If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com]

The ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WHEN DATING HURTS book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1734253703/ref=nav_timeline_asin?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1] (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon.



HELPFUL RESOURCES:

• National Domestic Violence Hotline – ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Hotline.org ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.thehotline.org/]– Call 800-799-SAFE

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LoveIsRespect⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.loveisrespect.org/] – Call 866-331-9474

• RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RAINN.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://rainn.org/] – Call 800-656-4673

• SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988



Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast,

Bill Mitchell

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WhenDatingHurts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.whendatinghurts.com/]



DISCLAIMER:

The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice.



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399. Michele Locke interviews Bill Mitchell for the "LoveLustLaw" Podcast

This is a short overview about warning signs.

It is for the person who is still deciding whether the behavior of a partner is just bothersome or some kind of abuse. It is also information for friends who are worried that someone they know might be in a dangerous relationship.

The psychological traps that keep people stuck need to be talked about so we know when to make plans to leave trouble behind.

This is a short episode so you can listen to it all in very little time. It is also one of the most important episodes we have placed on this podcast. Please share this with anyone you know who can benefit from it.

Bill Mitchell

NOTE:

If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ [BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com]

The ⁠⁠⁠⁠WHEN DATING HURTS book⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1734253703/ref=nav_timeline_asin?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1] (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon.



HELPFUL RESOURCES:

• National Domestic Violence Hotline – ⁠⁠⁠⁠The Hotline.org ⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.thehotline.org/]– Call 800-799-SAFE

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠LoveIsRespect⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.loveisrespect.org/] – Call 866-331-9474

• RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – ⁠⁠⁠⁠RAINN.org⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://rainn.org/] – Call 800-656-4673

• SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988



Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast,

Bill Mitchell

⁠⁠⁠⁠WhenDatingHurts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.whendatinghurts.com/]



DISCLAIMER:

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396. Warning Signs - Knowing Psychological Traps and Staying Safe

Callie O'Reilly recently published a memoir about her experiences with domestic violence. It occurred during her time as a university student in Canada. But could have happened anywhere.

Her book, entitled, "Let Me Down: Reflections on Love and Abuse," [https://www.amazon.com/Let-Me-Down-Reflections-Abuse/dp/1770418482/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2N2RQ3MTEXR9H&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.Vi2yJzmZuKlsIszvUAYU8ijQhOc4uiGyDL_hdYnmYdgS8e1UmRJMroD0OaS45xuhZpIc5B6TW-nQzzTkgMnhVvcIuS2vETLlBpuspLrXXEiQ_5bZWnkTn1VnanszRXXhrFMW4iBYBoXTdMcajMpv4T6q3Eehg-L7JWifiYaBp5VP7NprRIRvilURajN5AEry77d1pTkoFgaGEsErfsPL6mKvV835gm0T9YnUrdTprhw.ZhTCfU2d5za-M-J2bYrdVd8q9Iu8r5GoAv61LWwwqs4&dib_tag=se&keywords=let+me+down+reflections+on+abuse+and+love+by+callie+rae+o+reilly&nsdOptOutParam=true&qid=1790614221&sprefix=let+me+down%2Caps%2C153&sr=8-1] was a way to explore the "less often talked about" nuanced aspects of abuse with a focus on consent and shame.

In fact, Callie has created the book she wish she had read back when she was 18.

We thank Callie for offering her story to us. We hope a book like hers is read by those who need to see it and learn from her. Too many of us get the truth about what can happen too late.

Sometimes our infatuation with someone fogs our vision. Our innocence is taking advantage of by a predator's manipulation, coercive control, and even violence.

Callie's new book covers the realities of modern relationships: gaslighting, our state of mental health, self acceptance, healing, and reclaiming one's life from the effects of trauma. We thank Callie O'Reilly for joining us.

Here is a link to her book. [https://www.amazon.com/Let-Me-Down-Reflections-Abuse/dp/1770418482/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2N2RQ3MTEXR9H&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.Vi2yJzmZuKlsIszvUAYU8ijQhOc4uiGyDL_hdYnmYdgS8e1UmRJMroD0OaS45xuhZpIc5B6TW-nQzzTkgMnhVvcIuS2vETLlBpuspLrXXEiQ_5bZWnkTn1VnanszRXXhrFMW4iBYBoXTdMcajMpv4T6q3Eehg-L7JWifiYaBp5VP7NprRIRvilURajN5AEry77d1pTkoFgaGEsErfsPL6mKvV835gm0T9YnUrdTprhw.ZhTCfU2d5za-M-J2bYrdVd8q9Iu8r5GoAv61LWwwqs4&dib_tag=se&keywords=let+me+down+reflections+on+abuse+and+love+by+callie+rae+o+reilly&nsdOptOutParam=true&qid=1790614221&sprefix=let+me+down%2Caps%2C153&sr=8-1]



Bill Mitchell

NOTE:

If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com]

The ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WHEN DATING HURTS book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1734253703/ref=nav_timeline_asin?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1] (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon.



HELPFUL RESOURCES:

• National Domestic Violence Hotline – ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Hotline.org ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.thehotline.org/]– Call 800-799-SAFE

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LoveIsRespect⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.loveisrespect.org/] – Call 866-331-9474

• RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RAINN.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://rainn.org/] – Call 800-656-4673

• SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988



Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast,

Bill Mitchell

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WhenDatingHurts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.whendatinghurts.com/]



DISCLAIMER:

The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided i

395. Callie O’Reilly – A University Student’s Story of Love, Manipulation, Consent & Shame

This podcast exists because of my daughter Kristin. She was 21 years old when her ex-boyfriend stabbed her to death. She had already ended the relationship.

She thought she would be free. She was not.

Today's episode is for the person who is still deciding whether to leave. It is also for the person who already left and is still haunted by the question: did I do the right thing.

We are talking about why leaving is so hard, the psychological traps that keep people stuck, and what it actually looks like to walk out and stay gone.

This is a fairly short episode so you can listen to it all in very little time. It is also one of the most important episodes we have placed on this podcast.



Bill Mitchell

NOTE:

If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: ⁠⁠⁠BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com⁠⁠⁠ [BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com]

The ⁠⁠⁠WHEN DATING HURTS book⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1734253703/ref=nav_timeline_asin?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1] (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon.



HELPFUL RESOURCES:

• National Domestic Violence Hotline – ⁠⁠⁠The Hotline.org ⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.thehotline.org/]– Call 800-799-SAFE

• ⁠⁠⁠LoveIsRespect⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.loveisrespect.org/] – Call 866-331-9474

• RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – ⁠⁠⁠RAINN.org⁠⁠⁠ [https://rainn.org/] – Call 800-656-4673

• SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988



Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast,

Bill Mitchell

⁠⁠⁠WhenDatingHurts.com⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.whendatinghurts.com/]



DISCLAIMER:

The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice.



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380. "Leaving: The Hardest and Most Dangerous Decision You'll Ever Make"

This story comes with warnings. If this episode becomes too intense, stop and do what is best for you.

Patricia Gordon Stevens knows what it is like o leave an abusive marital relationship. What she wants people to understand is that leaving is not necessarily the end of the abuse, or the end of the fear.

After leaving her own abusive marriage, Patricia experienced the psychological aftermath that can follow a woman long after she has physically left. The fear, the hyper vigilance, the shame, the erosion of trust in her own judgment, and the difficult process of rebuilding a life that feels safe again.

One of Patricia's strongest messages is "We need to stop simply telling women in abusive relationships to "just leave." it is not helpful. It is complex. And there are risks and psychological consequences. She will tell us about these and more.

Instead, we need to ask, "what can I do to help?"

We compliment Patricia. Because her own experiences informed her novel entitled, "Madness in Memphis." [https://www.amazon.com/s?k=madness+in+memphis&crid=1RVDUP3MER5DH&sprefix=madness+in+%2Caps%2C154&ref=nb_sb_ss_p13n-expert-pd-ops-ranker_6_11]

It is a book that explores coerce of control and what happens psychologically after a woman escapes and abusive relationship.

Her website: PatriciaGordonStevens.com [https://www.patriciagordonstevens.com/]

Bill Mitchell



NOTE:

If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com]

The ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WHEN DATING HURTS book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1734253703/ref=nav_timeline_asin?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1] (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon.



HELPFUL RESOURCES:

• National Domestic Violence Hotline – ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Hotline.org ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.thehotline.org/]– Call 800-799-SAFE

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LoveIsRespect⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.loveisrespect.org/] – Call 866-331-9474

• RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RAINN.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://rainn.org/] – Call 800-656-4673

• SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988



Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast,

Bill Mitchell

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WhenDatingHurts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.whendatinghurts.com/]



DISCLAIMER:

The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice.



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393. Patrica Gordon Stevens - Leaving:  The Fear, Shame & Coercive Control Follow After You Escape

This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research.

We call this: Loss of Self Esteem - How Abuse Steals Who You Are.

This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. This is about the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to use digital technology to control and stalk you in a relationship.

It is a fairly short episode, so it is easily heard in one sitting. And so you can hear it again and again.

You might want to take notes. This information can save someone's life.

Host: Bill Mitchell

If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Riel's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery.

Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help.

Are you a survivor ready to speak out?

Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1734253703/ref=nav_timeline_asin?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1]

Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety.

Bill Mitchell

NOTE:

If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com]

The ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WHEN DATING HURTS book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1734253703/ref=nav_timeline_asin?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1] (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon.



HELPFUL RESOURCES:

• National Domestic Violence Hotline – ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Hotline.org ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.thehotline.org/]– Call 800-799-SAFE

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LoveIsRespect⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.loveisrespect.org/] – Call 866-331-9474

• RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RAINN.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://rainn.org/] – Call 800-656-4673

• SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988



Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast,

Bill Mitchell

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WhenDatingHurts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.whendatinghurts.com/]



DISCLAIMER:

The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is

388. Loss of Self Esteem - How Abuse Steals Who You Are

This story comes with warnings.

There are descriptions of cruel violence, coercive control, high-conflict co-parenting, family court appearances, financial abuse, and trauma bonding. These can be triggering for some listeners.

If this episode becomes too intense, stop and do what is best for you.

This is part two of a two-part story.

Jocelyn is a mother, make-up artist, and domestic violence survivor.

She has spent several years navigating the process of leaving an abusive relationship as well as what can happen after leaving. What she has endured in the legal system is the stuff of nightmares.

Jocelyn's story includes coerce control, high-conflict co-parenting, family court, financial abuse, litigation abuse, and the toll of both protecting a child and rebuilding her life.

Her story is complicated, but it's worth your time so you see uniting with an abusive person can be more than you want to handle.

Bill Mitchell

NOTE:

If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com]

The ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WHEN DATING HURTS book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1734253703/ref=nav_timeline_asin?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1] (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon.



HELPFUL RESOURCES:

• National Domestic Violence Hotline – ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Hotline.org ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.thehotline.org/]– Call 800-799-SAFE

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LoveIsRespect⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.loveisrespect.org/] – Call 866-331-9474

• RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RAINN.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://rainn.org/] – Call 800-656-4673

• SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988



Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast,

Bill Mitchell

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WhenDatingHurts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.whendatinghurts.com/]



DISCLAIMER:

The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice.



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392. Jocelyn - Pt 2 of 2 Pts - Coercive Control, Family Court Nightmares & Fighting to Protect Her Child After Leaving

This story comes with warnings.

There are descriptions of cruel violence, coercive control, high-conflict co-parenting, family court appearances, financial abuse, and trauma bonding. These can be triggering for some listeners.

If this episode becomes too intense, stop and do what is best for you.

This is part one of a two-part story.

Jocelyn is a mother, make-up artist, and domestic violence survivor.

She has spent several years navigating the process of leaving an abusive relationship as well as what can happen after leaving. What she has endured in the legal system is the stuff of nightmares.

Jocelyn's story includes coerce control, high-conflict co-parenting, family court, financial abuse, litigation abuse, and the toll of both protecting a child and rebuilding her life.

Her story is complicated, but it's worth your time so you see uniting with an abusive person can be more than you want to handle.

Bill Mitchell

NOTE:

If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ [BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com]

The ⁠⁠⁠⁠WHEN DATING HURTS book⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1734253703/ref=nav_timeline_asin?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1] (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon.



HELPFUL RESOURCES:

• National Domestic Violence Hotline – ⁠⁠⁠⁠The Hotline.org ⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.thehotline.org/]– Call 800-799-SAFE

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠LoveIsRespect⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.loveisrespect.org/] – Call 866-331-9474

• RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – ⁠⁠⁠⁠RAINN.org⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://rainn.org/] – Call 800-656-4673

• SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988



Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast,

Bill Mitchell

⁠⁠⁠⁠WhenDatingHurts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.whendatinghurts.com/]



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391. Jocelyn - Pt 1 of 2 Pts - Coercive Control, Family Court Nightmares & Fighting to Protect Her Child After Leaving

This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research.

We call this: Baby Trapping - When a Pregnancy is Used as a Leash.

This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. This is about the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to use digital technology to control and stalk you in a relationship.

It is a fairly short episode, so it is easily heard in one sitting. And so you can hear it again and again.

You might want to take notes. This information can save someone's life.

Host: Bill Mitchell

If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Riel's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery.

Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help.

Are you a survivor ready to speak out?

Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast.

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Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety.

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If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com]

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HELPFUL RESOURCES:

• National Domestic Violence Hotline – ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Hotline.org ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.thehotline.org/]– Call 800-799-SAFE

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LoveIsRespect⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.loveisrespect.org/] – Call 866-331-9474

• RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RAINN.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://rainn.org/] – Call 800-656-4673

• SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988



Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast,

Bill Mitchell

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387. Baby Trapping - When a Pregnancy is Used as a Leash

This story comes with many warnings.

There are descriptions of cruel violence, addiction, crimes and incarceration, trauma bonding, and abandonment. These can be triggering for some.

If listening to this episode becomes too intense, stop and do what is best for you.

This is part two of a two-part story.

Sunshine Faye (not her real name) is a survivor.

In her story, she never pretends to be a saint. She puts on full display her mistakes and many of them were huge. But here is someone who shows us where poor choices can take us in life.

Sunshine Faye also describes abusive relationships she engaged in and the serious, sometimes life-threatening, consequences that presented themselves.

Never one to sit still, when she finally found ways to love herself, she set out with writing books and producing a new podcast.

Sunshine Faye decided to take all her experiences and all she learned and put it into a book entitled Dance With the Devil. It tells one part of her survivor story. ⁠Here is the Amazon link to this book.⁠ [https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0G3S9Q97R?lv=shuf&bestFormat=true&social_share=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_apin_dp_0Y7KDT0XJGRYZZR8GE58&titleSource=true&channelId=704&ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_apin_dp_0Y7KDT0XJGRYZZR8GE58&plpRedirect=mhFallback]

Her second book is entitles, The Manipulation Whisperer.

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The Sunshine Glow Up Challenge ⁠can be found at this link. ⁠ [https://www.lulu.com/shop/sunshine-faye/the-sunshine-glow-up-challenge/paperback/product-dy45k2q.html?page=1&pageSize=4] You can listen to Sunshine Faye's Podcast, entitled, ⁠"Stories We Weren't Supposed to Hear" by following this link. ⁠ [https://storieswewerentsupposedtotell.riverside.com/] TikTok: @sunshine.faye.media⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sunshine.faye.media⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@sunshine.faye.media] Instagram: @sunshinefayemedia⁠https://www.instagram.com/sunshinefayemedia⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/sunshinefayemedia] Facebook: Sunshine Faye Media⁠https://www.facebook.com/share/1C3kLJYTdd/?mibextid=wwXIfr⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/share/1C3kLJYTdd/?mibextid=wwXIfr] Bill Mitchell

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If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ [BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com]

The ⁠⁠⁠⁠WHEN DATING HURTS book⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1734253703/ref=nav_timeline_asin?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1] (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon.



HELPFUL RESOURCES:

• National Domestic Violence Hotline – ⁠⁠⁠⁠The Hotline.org ⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.thehotline.org/]– Call 800-799-SAFE

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠LoveIsRespect⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.loveisrespect.org/] – Call 866-331-9474

• RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – ⁠⁠⁠⁠RAINN.org⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://rainn.org/] – Call 800-656-4673

• SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988



Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast,

Bill Mitchell

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DISCLAIMER:

The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the

390. Sunshine Faye - Pt 2 of 2 Pts - She Owned Her Mistakes, Danced With the Devil, and Became The Manipulation Whisperer

WHEN DATING HURTS. Bill Mitchell interviews experts (including survivors) on dating & domestic violence.







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A "must-listen-to" podcast on dating and domestic violence from Bill Mitchell, author of the memoir, WHEN DATING HURTS, which is about his daughter's murder by her ex-boyfriend.

Bill and his wife lost Kristin to dating violence when she was brutally killed in June 2005.  It was 20 days after her college graduation.

FACT:
1 in 3 WOMEN suffer serious physical violence at the hands of intimate partners during their lifetimes. Typically, it happens between 16-24 years of age.  But can happen at any age. And it doesn't need to happen.  

Bill interviews experts with keen insights into dating and domestic violence:
• "DV" agency counselors
• Law enforcement professionals
• Parents of children who were either lost to, or somehow survived, dating violence
• Actual survivors of domestic violence

After you listen to the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, share it with those who need to hear it... Remember the 1 in 3 women statistic.

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