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1. How to Navigate The Dip as You Expand Into Your Next Level
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The dip is when your mind amplifies ANYTHING that can keep you stuck in the same place: limiting beliefs, negative thoughts, confusion, disorganization, you name it.
^ I call this the Amplification of Perceived Limitation
It happens the moment you say YES to your next level vision in your business.
Because you’re a high-achiever, the Dip is inevitable.
It’s part of playing the game of Growth.
A lot of people either get stuck here or they let it take them out of their business for weeks or even months.
(which ain't so helpful because *cough cough* your soul JUST told you to EXPAND lol)
I don’t want that for you.
I recently went through another Dip / Shedding experience and in this episode I share with you exactly how I held myself through it so that you too can learn how to be in partnership with your ego when it’s throwing a royal tantrum at the sight of your expansion.
Listen and take notes so that the next time the dip shows up for you? You know exactly what to do.
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Transcript
Reframing Negative Thoughts
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Instead of experiencing those negative thoughts as sharp knives that cut deep, I want you to imagine these thoughts coming from the little kid inside of you who is scared and just wants to know that they're safe.
Introduction to 'The Up Level Playground'
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Hello my love, welcome to the first episode of The Up Level Playground. I'm Vanessa Mariah, subconscious change expert for coaches, consultants, and business owners. And girl, I'm so excited that you're here. Now, full transparency, this episode I recorded a bit ago on my
Channeling Messages and Podcast Creation
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phone. If you listen to the trailer, then you already know. Part of how we get down around here is channeled messages when stuff just wants to flow through I let it flow through and sometimes that channel can honestly look like me just opening my voice memos app and talking into that and then other times the channeling looks like me just typing out notes on my phone. So this is going to be one of those on my phone notes sort of channeled vibes um
00:00:58
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So I recorded this already, I wrote all this down in my notes tab, and then I was like, wait, this is kind of too long for an Instagram carousel. So I decided to just record as a podcast for you.
The Rhythm of Personal Growth
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Anyways, all of that blabbering done, I'm just going to go ahead and get into the episode.
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The rhythm of becoming, what you need to know about the dip. When you are devoted to becoming new versions of yourself over and over again so you can expand into new levels of your life, you will experience what I call the rhythm of becoming. In the rhythm of becoming, there are incredible highs where you literally feel at one with God and with your power to create. It's those moments when your once visions of the mind are suddenly in your face and in your reality.
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The thing is though, we live in a balanced universe. The rhythm of becoming has incredible highs and although it is always trending upward because of the law of expansion, there are dips.
Handling Discomfort During Growth Dips
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The dips are what you need to master navigating so that you can stay on the upward trend. So what happens during the dips? During the dips, what happens is what I call amplification of perceived limitation.
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So think imposter syndrome, self-doubt, negative thoughts, disorganization and confusion, but amplified. It's like a whole conflict and identity. So what do you do in times like this? Your number one job during this time is to hold yourself through the discomfort without making it a problem.
00:02:41
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and to acknowledge that this is a very normal experience. In fact, even labeling it, this experience as the dip and the rhythm of becoming can it help you feel better because you know that it is temporary. You've placed it into a system, the rhythm of becoming,
00:03:01
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So you know that there is a breakthrough on the other side that is juicier than anything you've experienced before, which is why Mind is throwing you a royal fucking fight.
00:03:13
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The dip is a time of grieving your old self and the dip happens when you're being called to evolve and you know that you'll have to become and do something quote unquote new and unfamiliar moving forward. It's the point where you have officially reached the ceiling of how far the identity you grew to be the most familiar with now will carry you. And by the way, I put new in quotations because truthfully when this happens, you're not actually becoming someone new.
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You are becoming more of yourself, more of your expansive, limitless self, which is your most natural self.
Partnering with the Ego
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You're becoming an aspect of yourself that you're not used to expressing, but you can feel your soul pulling you and telling you that it's time to embody them. So in this moment, your self-talk matters. It matters more in this moment than any other time.
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And your ability to observe your negative thoughts without identifying with them also matters a lot during this time. Because when you're in this dip, all of the negative thoughts are coming up because it's like your ego is throwing it to last hoorah to try to keep you in the same place. The familiar, what it perceives to be safe and predictable.
00:04:33
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So it's important to not demonize your ego in this moment. You want to partner with it. Instead of experiencing those negative thoughts as sharp knives that cut deep, I want you to imagine these thoughts coming from the little kid inside of you who is scared and just wants to know that they're safe. Like literally, instead of when you hear these thoughts and observe them, instead of seeing them as being like these scary, disgruntled, angry voice,
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just I want you to literally imagine these thoughts coming from a little kid who has tears running down their eyes and they are just like so uncomfortable.
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When you have this image in your head, it's going to make it so much easier not to bully yourself in this moment. This is not a time to whip yourself into submission.
Tools for Emotional Processing
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It's a time for you to hold space for all of this comfort to come up and for you to hold space for the little kid, your ego, within you that just wants to know that they're going to be safe and that just wants to keep you safe.
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The dip is when you really need to tap into your toolbox for emotional processing. It's when having what I call ah connector affirmations and self-talk will be your best friend. Because when you experience such a negative state and you try to jump to 100% positive, that jump in frequency can be too large. And the attempt at doing that can actually make you feel worse. So I just went through a dip recently.
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that lasted about two and a half weeks. And although I was making progress every day, there was a general sense of uneasiness and discomfort. That's how I knew I was growing. And that's how I knew to not make it a problem. Because that uneasiness and discomfort, the dip is just a sign that you're growing. That's all it is. It's just a sign that you are growing. Let this reframe help you.
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Not only will you have an experience of unhelpful thoughts being loud during this time, what you may also experience is confusion and subconscious throwing you into this organization. So last night to help myself through this dip, I did some EFT in bed and emphasized feeling into the statement of, I deeply and completely accept myself. I deeply and completely love and trust myself. And after doing that, I felt a lot more relaxed But still, as I laid in bed, I noticed that my brain dishing me up, limiting negative thoughts. The amplification of perceived limitation. My brain was just doing its thing. It was just being a brain.
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Remember, this is not a problem. It's a key symptom of the dip in the rhythm of becoming, which is amplification of the illusion of limitation. Basically, it just turns up the volume. Basically, it's when your brain turns up the volume on anything that can keep you stuck in the same place because stuckness is what your brain perceives as safety.
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So instead of becoming frustrated or overwhelmed and yelling in my head to shut up and just hoping, praying, and wishing for the negative thoughts to go away already. I shifted into active processing mode. I shifted into active ah caring mode, self-care mode, and I observed the thoughts that were coming up, and I intentionally chose to allow myself to feel them in my body because all of these thoughts to have emotional charges. If they didn't have an emotional charge, it wouldn't be throwing you. If they didn't have an emotional charge, you would just hear the thought and then it would just disappear.
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But these thoughts have emotional charges during this time. And when you slow down to pay attention, you can literally feel the location, shape, intensity, and movement of the emotion in your body. And the more you place attention on the emotional charge in your body and how it's showing up, the more you place attention on it without judgment, just noticing how it's moving through, the faster it will process.
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So after I allowed myself to space to do that, to just simply be with the discomfort of the emotion processing through my body, not making it a problem. From that place, I began to have a conversation with my ego and I literally spoke to it like a child. I literally said along the lines of, I know you're scared right now because you haven't done this before and it's okay, you are safe.
00:09:17
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I have learned a lot and I am so grateful that you have helped me learn and create the results that I currently have in my life. Thank you. You helped me build the perfect foundation to feel safe moving forward. I'm going to keep building and growing and we will be safe. Just look at all the times we were safe in the past. Look at all the times when you threw the same tantrum and everything turned out perfectly. I literally started bringing up old memories as evidence for my mind. And by the way, this is a conversation I'm having in my head. This is how I'm talking to myself.
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talking to my ego and my mind. I continued and I said, I trust you. You can trust me. I got this. Tomorrow is going to be great and this is going to be the best week of my life. Tomorrow I will create a new calendar so you can see how everything is going to be laid out and it's going to be amazing. Thank you for getting me this far. Thank you. I love you. Thank you. I love you. It's safe.
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I am safe
Reflection and Momentum Post-Dip
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and I am more than capable and I am in control. Literally talk to myself like this. My mind began to calm down and I felt it coming into acceptance of what's next. This is what powerful self-talk looks like and not many people realize that they can talk to themselves in this way. They don't even give themselves the option to talk to themselves in this way but you need to talk to your ego as if it's another part of you because it is like during the dip your ego is storing a fucking hissy fit and you need to talk to it not shove it down not try to suppress it not try to silence it i mean you wouldn't silence your child right if they were expressing to you at least if you're not into toxic parenting you wouldn't silence your child if they were expressing to you their feelings and
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There are concerns and things, right? So don't silence your ego. Your ego is just like a little child. That's why you will literally hear people say things like, a part of me wants this, but then a part of me is scared about that, or a part of me this, but then a part of me that, because it is literally a part of you, another part of you that you get to and you need to talk to. You are the unbound consciousness.
00:11:37
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that is aware of my voice right now. But you also have an ego. Your higher self speaks to your consciousness and your consciousness needs to have conversations with your ego so that it can get on board with what your higher self communicated to you to do. Your ego wants to be heard and it wants you to talk to it.
00:12:03
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Now I was able to calm my mind enough to fall asleep. And as I fell asleep, I allowed myself to visualize the next level. I allowed myself to specifically visualize the aspect of expansion that made me feel the most comfortable. The part where my ego was having the most like blah around.
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And I do this every night, by the way. But I did this specifically after this time with even more intention just to continue getting my mind familiar with where we are going, showing it that it is safe, giving it to a loop, a positive loop, reinforcement loop that did not equal death or darkness. From that place, I woke up feeling so ready to have a great day. And what you need to know is that once you get through the rough waters of the dip, a time of reflection is required.
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So the next day I reflected on what I desire. I reflected on what has worked in the past, what has not worked in the past. I created my calendar, my schedule, my container of intention and boom, I felt like I had direction again and mind was on board. We had officially made it through the roughest patch of the dip and now it was time to trend up again.
Navigating Growth Dips Efficiently
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This is inevitable. You are going to experience the dip.
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And the person who has the understanding of what the dip is and what they're going to face during that time and how to navigate it is going to be the person who can expand into their next level of life with more speed than the average person. Because what happens is someone will set a goal, they'll set an intention, they'll create success and progress to a certain degree and extent, but to really get to where they really want to go, it is inevitable. It is like a rite of passage. They must experience the dip and most people will get stuck in the dip. Most people will let the dip knock them out for a long time and completely kill all of their momentum and all of their progress and they won't know what to do about it. It'll kill so much of their momentum, so much of their ferra of their progress that they damn near go back to square one.
00:14:17
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just for them to feel inspired again and motivated again to make a change just for them to hit the dip again and then either they are going to A, know how to navigate the dip and expand beyond it so they can trend upward again or B, not know how to navigate it, collapse under the weight of it and end up repeating that pattern again of killing their momentum ending back up at square one being motivated and inspired again just to end up at the dip again.
00:14:41
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All right, babe, you made it to the end of the episode and let's keep going. DM me on Instagram, appanussmariahcoaching, and let me know how this episode resonated for you. When was the last time you went through a dip? What was it like for you? Let's talk early pop. And in addition to that, one thing I highly recommend, when you can feel that you are about to expand into your next level in your business, and it's like you can see the vision, you see that there's a bunch of moving parts, I highly recommend aligning yourself with a subconscious practitioner in order to help incorporate more lightness, ease and support throughout this time. Because again, when you raise your hand to that expansion, a dip is inevitable.
Supportive Practices for Expansion
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Basically, actually what you do is you give a green light for the dip to show up almost immediately. Because what happens when we are really stepping into a next level of expansion is we have to shed away everything that no longer serves us. And there is a sort of a destruction process that is absolutely required in order for a new creation to come through. So during this time, I highly recommend working up with a practitioner so that you can just make the process feel way more light and easy um pinpointing those limiting beliefs and those patterns rather than letting it show up randomly and wreaking havoc over your life and over your mental health. Yeah.
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Not the vibe, not cutes, nuts, no. So if that sounds like something you would love support with, I would love to help you. You can go ahead and click the link in my show notes and we can hop on a call just to explore some options.
Conclusion and Listener Engagement
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Whether that be you would love a custom hypnosis, you would love a breakthrough session, or maybe you're looking for something longer term like 12, 16 weeks of support. We can explore, baby.
00:16:24
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Go ahead and click the link in the show notes and we can hop on a call or you can just DM me on Instagram and let me know what's been going on. All right. Anyways, that concludes this episode and I'll see you in the next one. Love you. Let's keep going.