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Episode 2 American culture vs Everybody
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Hey y'all!! Back with another epi of American culture, what it looks like, and what we do, how it differs. Lil bit of history lesson, but join ussssss ,<3
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Celebrating Cultural Heritage: Continuous or Periodic?
00:00:16
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you know yeah i have to say it's february yes
00:00:26
Speaker
yeah unfortunately it is coming to a close but you know we celebrate it 365 days a year period cannot stop black history because i'm a part of it it's me it's my whole life so we celebrate all year round up in here Period. It's me.
00:00:45
Speaker
Yeah. No, i'm just I was about to say, like just like the Mexican culture. It's my culture. like If we celebrate it, yeah even if we don't, like we're not supposed to be celebrating Cinco de Mayo because it literally doesn't compete to us. But hey, it's Cinco de Mayo every day. Yeah, but y'all's month too is like in September, september October. like It's like a weird thing. It's like in the middle of the month.
00:01:06
Speaker
I'm like, who did this? cause Oh, like the Hispanic Heritage Month? Yeah. Yeah. And then it's like, they put everybody together. and but Because it's like, they start it whenever ah September 16th is going to come and that's Mexico's Independence Day. So it's like, it starts in that area and then it goes all the way into like October or something. I don't know.
00:01:27
Speaker
Yeah. But they group everybody together and I'm like... Yeah, I didn't know, but it it doesn't really seem like you guys celebrated though. No, not as much. Even when I worked at a primary like Latino school, like everybody it was just like they didn't celebrate. like they weren't They didn't do anything.
00:01:46
Speaker
Yeah. I don't think it's just... I don't know. That's really interesting. I mean, you guys don't own have to. think we just like to because, you know, just the history here. And so we're like, nah, we're going to say something.
00:02:02
Speaker
We're going to it and we're going to do I'm big. Because what? But that's just who we are by nature. We don't like to just let stuff... but yeah hispanics aren't like that that's interesting just i mean you guys do celebrate things i feel like y'all celebrate everything like kids birthday parties like y'all celebrate so much that it's like you know that's just a regular month yeah it's just a regular month you celebrate all the time yeah it's it's like it's a baby's baptism and yeah and it's like you're partying till 4 a.m facts like i love that person was like asappola and then
00:02:39
Speaker
but but yeah but going back to like American culture like all of this just makes up the so-called American culture because if it wasn't for like the immigrants and people who had to be forced to be here America wouldn't be America it would it would be totally different.
00:03:01
Speaker
I guess, or not even. I don't even know like what it would be. It wouldn't be anything, honestly. like Somebody said that on Twitter long time ago. It would probably be different countries. Yeah. It would probably different countries
Size and Stereotypes: Misunderstandings of America
00:03:14
Speaker
if we... like Because if America and never- because if basically Texas just ended up being its own country, I mean it would be like a big country.
00:03:23
Speaker
This- that's why now you know how they say like, oh yeah, Texas, people- people talk about Texas and they're like, cowboys, horses, ranches, all of that. There's some of the stereotypes. Yeah, the stereotype in California, you know?
00:03:34
Speaker
Yeah. Which would be cool. Because America is too big. It is. And I think people don't realize that. How big it is, yeah. Like there was like, there was this, somebody was talking about this on Twitter and they were like, oh, like there's people that have family and they'll like come over and they'll be like, oh yeah, I'm in Chicago right now, but I can see you in Texas today. Like they're thinking it's like within like an hour drive two hour, like, honey, we live in so many different time zones. Yeah. Yeah.
00:04:07
Speaker
I didn't even know some of the time zones were in the same one as me. You know? I just assumed everybody was just different. Yeah. You know? Because that's how big it is. thought Chicago was
Travel Challenges: Comparing U.S. and Europe
00:04:18
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like a York time.
00:04:19
Speaker
it's not in the same time zone. I don't know. And Tennessee too. Memphis. There you go I was expecting it to be different. But then it's like you go to Florida and it's like an hour later an hour ahead us.
00:04:31
Speaker
And then you go to California. It's two hours behind. Vegas is an hour behind. Yeah, but it's just like, yeah, people don't realize how big it is. And I almost am a little envious that, yeah, they have... They can get around a lot faster. Like, they can just be like, oh, I'm in Paris today. to go here. I'm going to go...
00:04:51
Speaker
And you can just go do it. You can go to four different countries in one day. And it's like, you cannot do that. And it's just like a three hour train ride or something. Yeah, like we can't do that. The only thing we could do just go to Mexico.
00:05:06
Speaker
or we could go to Canada. but We can't go to all three in one day. No. Can't do it. It's going to take you like two, three hours to go to Mexico. and then it's going to take you like another four five to go to Canada.
00:05:17
Speaker
Depending on where you're flying from. That's true. That's what I'm saying. So we don't know. what I'm saying. It's wow it's too big. And so that goes to show our culture can be vastly different from somebody that's like not from Texas and they're doing their thing.
00:05:34
Speaker
So it's just like, oh. I think i think the culture ends up coming down to like what state you're in. Because Cali is totally vastly different than what Texas is.
00:05:46
Speaker
Yeah. You know, Kelly is like...
00:05:50
Speaker
I think they're like more, they're cool. I like to think that they're like hippies and stuff. Yeah. know, they're like super like liberal and like more free spirited. But even then, they'd be tripping over there too. But yeah, they have more of the cooler stereotypes than Texas.
00:06:11
Speaker
You have to drive everywhere and then you then have your life driving. It's really trash, guys. It's This is a cry for help, actually. Actually, somebody takes us out of Texas. I hate driving, but dang it. I hate driving.
00:06:28
Speaker
When you think about just like how fast I could get around if I just took the train. Public traffic. We don't have that. They used to have that a long time ago. The buses and stuff used to be reliable. And then Fort used to have subways.
00:06:44
Speaker
That's crazy. They do still have trains and like, you know, they go in all different directions, but there's not train tracks everywhere. And I think that's the problem, which is like insane because it should be. Texas is one of the biggest states.
00:06:57
Speaker
Like this is a missed opportunity. This could open up so many jobs.
Cultural Critique: Individualism vs. Infrastructure
00:07:00
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Like you're not caring about the economy. And like I said, and you're so individualistic. individualistic like they're not going care about the other person they care about themselves that's what i'm talking about like america in america they hate us guys i'm telling you this is like a third world country really are yeah they do not like us here they don't care they want us to suffer like constantly um so they really do once we like strip it down and like strip it everything you know is zero out of ten recommend for sure zero out of ten do not recommend trash recommend a negative a thousand yeah and we are doing this just so you guys can know people if y'all listening from the other side of the world you know like for real literally because they're trying to like there's like a water of censorship going oh
00:07:49
Speaker
Yeah, since the TikTok fan and stuff. That's why I was like, I don't really even get on it that much anymore. because There's a lot. My For You page is like drastically different. It's not the same because a lot of my favorite people that I followed are like not there anymore or they're just like, they're not really posting or I just like don't see it.
00:08:10
Speaker
So I'm like, so that's why i'd be on Red Note. But then like Greg Abbott was like, I'm gonna man it. was like, wow. Mr. Hot Wheels? We...
00:08:20
Speaker
We can't have nothing, we can't have nothing. That's what I'm saying. Like I said, like I just said, they literally hate us. They don't want us to see us happy about anything. No. They don't care. They they probably just want to see us again and change.
00:08:33
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Sassy. Yeah, honestly. They just, I don't know Because I feel like, you know, like I think that app would be cool. Like, hey, and we were having an amazing time. am still.
00:08:44
Speaker
Like, I love Red Note. I think it's so cool. I like talking to them. And they're just nice. But that's like, like the whole point. We all live on the same planet. So why shouldn't you? You know?
00:08:55
Speaker
I mean, everybody else will. Just talk to everyone. You know, because we find that, okay, even though you live on a totally different side of the world, there's lots of similarities with us. Yeah. Lots of parallels, even with the language barrier and all that kind of stuff.
00:09:10
Speaker
We still have these universal truths, right? So, I think it's cool, but, you know. certain demographic be hating on it yeah yeah and it's just just to like censor everybody and just to basically just try to like push the minorities back 100% because at the end of the day they want to be them but okay that's the real tea right now but that's that's the American culture I guess because I mean if we if we
00:09:46
Speaker
I think I'm gone, you know? Yeah. Yeah, I mean, there's, like, a lot of stuff. There's a lot of stuff. When you just, like, for instance, on TikTok, there's, this is always in, like, Shibuya, bro. In Japan, right?
00:10:01
Speaker
There's, like, these people, they walk around, once again, walkable cities. Freaking hate here. But um they have it and like there's, you know, like interviewers, like reporters, they'll come around and they're like young, whatever. They're not asking you any serious questions. Like if anything, they actually need to be arrested for some of these questions that they be asking.
00:10:18
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But neither here nor there, it doesn't matter. yeah But like, you know, sometimes they'll ask them about things or be like, oh, well what do you know about this? Or like, you know, and it will pertain to like American culture. yeah And like a lot of the time they just say like stereotypical stuff, you know?
00:10:35
Speaker
So it's like... They're fast yeah fat, eat fast food. It's like basically like the WALL-E movie, you know? like go' yeah They think we're really lazy, like we don't work hard. Which, they're not lying. But it's just like... Yeah.
00:10:49
Speaker
yeah We have a bad rep, but like... doesn't help our food is heavily processed. Oh my god. And they... I've seen somebody say that too. I think Yenjin said that too. Even though he lived here at one point too. But he was saying like...
00:11:03
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you know it's like really easy to get fat here and i'm like yeah yeah it literally is like everything is processed including the healthy food yeah they're getting the animals so yeah and then now it's like we just don't have a choice it's much cheaper to get like i guess a half dollar meal or just junk food than we have accessible healthy exactly Or like vegetables. Why is organic food costing me four or five bucks a pound? Exactly. And not everybody's like, you know, not not everybody can afford it. Mr. Green Thumb either. Where I can just do a garden. Like, first of all, do you know how long that takes? I'm hungry right now.
00:11:42
Speaker
Like, I need the right now. And I have a dog. So it's just like, realistically, like, I can't, he's going to mess that up. So it's like, no. But yeah, I just think it's funny. They, they think that like,
00:11:55
Speaker
They think just it's silly stuff, but it's like, it's true. Like I can't even get upset about it because I'm like, dang, you ain't on him like that really is us. That's how they have it. But they like it at the same sense. They see that like, okay, we're like dumb, but like, they're like, oh my
America's Cultural Influence: A Global Phenomenon
00:12:11
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gosh, i love you.
00:12:12
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They're like, they're like im they're like obsessed with us. Like every country, they're like copying us. Cause it's like, well why would they be in tune? Like watching Superbowl. yeah Why would they like watch it? Yeah, because it's like it doesn't even come on in your country. So like how but like social media, you know, like especially like that we just have are with everybody. And so if we're retweeting it, then it just comes on to them. And like this was so apparent, though, especially amidst like the TikTok ban, because like that's what people were saying. They were like, you know, miss the american they they felt our presence not being there.
00:12:48
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Yeah. And we didn't I didn't realize that like we ran the Apple like that yeah I didn't realize that we just run social media like that it doesn't seem like we do Because if you actually pay attention to what's trending, it's always going to be something in America that's trending. It's never something that's in another country. general, yeah. Unless it's a major social event or a political event or a disaster that's going on. even it's never media-wise. Or if a TikToker posts a video, people know Charlie DiVinio we don't yeah or something like earth like a tikt to or posts video people know
00:13:22
Speaker
charlie deilo and I don't know her. But yeah. Or things like that. Those popular dick walkers, they know her. They know her. They know her face.
00:13:32
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like They know who she is. So it's like... It's just crazy. Like, our influence is, like, really insane. Did people know about the Drake versus Kendra Neve? Like, yeah. letting Like, they Before I did.
00:13:45
Speaker
What? I mean, like, that's wild. You have to be. That's wild. No, I was searching it up on Twitter. I mean, people were just talking it. And it's still Twitter. Sorry. Yeah, it is. I'm never going to call it that other name.
00:13:57
Speaker
But, um... Yeah, it's It's just really interesting. Our influence so real. like Everybody just wants to copulate Whether it's like music or like fashion or just our lingo, the way we talk, just everything.
00:14:12
Speaker
they like want to be us so bad. Which is I guess you know it's flattery guess I'm not like offended or anything like that. It goes back to like what exactly is our culture? It's just like it's just I guess it just depends on who you ask and like what kind of like fashion stuff they want to do or well yeah like what aesthetic are you going for?
00:14:37
Speaker
because like you know it seems like a lot of the time our cultures are most copied. Because there's like cholo communities in Japan. By other yeah. I've seen that. everybody wants to be a black person.
00:14:49
Speaker
Except when it's time to be black. But anyways. Pocket. That's neither here nor there. Yeah. But yeah, they're like, you know. I've seen too many people. It's like, first of all, why do you have dreadlocks, bro? There you go. That's what going to say.
00:15:00
Speaker
You're not even black. Like, this is not even for your hair. like but How they dress. it's How they talk. Mm-hmm. The nails, the earrings. It's everything. And they're like super excited to see you if you go somewhere. Can we take a picture of you? Can we take a picture with you? And they're asking, do you know like this famous black person? like No.
00:15:19
Speaker
I don't know them. I'm sorry. i didn't have that. When we had our enormous universal black person meeting, I didn't i didn't tell... Sorry, I forgot. I wasn't educated on this. forgot to shake their hand. Sorry. Like, no, we don't all know each other, bro. Just like you don't.
00:15:34
Speaker
So, but it's just like, sometimes it's just stupid stuff, you know? People just act dumb or they act, oh, do you guys have the same blood type? Like, okay. It's giving racists.
00:15:47
Speaker
And that's just what it is. But it's like, you know. It's like, no, i'm actually being positive. You got educate people because they're just like, they don't research for themselves. Maybe they're ignorant. And propaganda in their country, you know.
00:16:00
Speaker
It seems prevalent in like other countries where like, there's not a lot of minorities and it's just... you know, a specific group there and so they can be more ignorant yeah than others because they don't see that all the time. yeah So they're like genuinely asking. And that's not their fault. It's just like there's not a lot foreigners. Yeah.
00:16:22
Speaker
But it's like also Google free. Yeah, I just don't really feel like that's an excuse though. Even if you didn't have Google, like, okay, are you going to leave your country?
00:16:33
Speaker
Are you going to like vacation anywhere? Like, I just don't understand people that just sit there and they just let life pass them by and they don't go anywhere and they just sit in their country all day, every day. They never leave the city.
00:16:47
Speaker
They just stay. That would be a really interesting look because Japan is like one of those countries that those people like never are able. I wouldn't say that not that they're able, but they never venture out.
00:16:57
Speaker
Yeah. Because of like how their culture is interesting. Just to look at.
Work-Life Balance: U.S. vs. Europe
00:17:03
Speaker
Especially with the work hours they work for. working from like 8 a.m. until 8 p.m. No.
00:17:09
Speaker
That would not be me. I'm out. I can't. Even though I work 9 to 7 now, but I had a... Today was my off day, so hey. Yeah, no. Not having our lunch break and I took a nap.
00:17:20
Speaker
I hate working. Somebody take me out work, please. want to be retired so bad. and it's like, even in America, it's like we work and there's nothing we can do by it.
00:17:31
Speaker
We're most likely not going to even see that money that they're taking out for social security. yeah And I'm just like... Have you gotten your taxes yet? Yeah, I actually got them yesterday. That's why I was like, girl, that's coming out.
00:17:45
Speaker
Like, matter of fact, give me the Kip G. Okay. Let me grow it in my You know, like, yeah. matter of fact, breathe the whole piece. Yes. Like, I'm not, like, facts. Like, it's on me tonight.
00:17:58
Speaker
But, yeah. You know, they be tripping. So, I'm like, I don't know. It's not even worth, like, it. Versus, like, some other countries, they have, like, a much better, like, work level load. Yeah.
00:18:10
Speaker
Like I think it's like Europe and stuff like that. They only work like four days. They're always off three week, you know, three day weekends. Like they don't work past like five or six something. I think you get both maternity and paternity leave if you have like kids. Yeah.
00:18:23
Speaker
I mean the only downside is they don't have AC, which is huge. Yeah. That's actually a very big deal. Yeah. I could not imagine not having AC. Yeah. But then again, I've never seen, well, back in the day, their temperatures never got to like their 30, what, Celsius is what really call it. I don't know what the heck that means.
00:18:40
Speaker
That's like our type of like 100, think. Even then, it still gets hot because the Olympics was just last year in Paris and they were like, yo. it's It gets hot, but they just feel like, well, summer's in like three months.
00:18:54
Speaker
Like, it's okay. Like, three... I almost said something. It's 90 days. It's 90 days. I could not be with AC. I'm so sorry. Like, what?
00:19:05
Speaker
In the heat? I melt when it's like in the high It's like the heat in Texas. We talked about this in episode one. We're averaging like 110. With the humidity.
00:19:18
Speaker
yeah like you Yeah, depending on, yeah, certain parts in Texas, like, sometimes it can happen. Girl, it's, like, suffocating. It's like, it's horrible, but, like, guys, like, it just, it's the kind of stuff that just activates, like, your anger. Like, you just, I walk outside and I'm just, like, pissed off. Like, what? Like, don't look at me crazy, don't say nothing crazy. Like, it's too hot for foolishness. Your block coming It's too, yeah, it's too hot for foolishness.
00:19:49
Speaker
I don't like it. don't like it. don't like it. But, yeah, it's interesting. It's very interesting. It is. Everything is.
00:20:01
Speaker
I feel like such an urge to talk about this topic. Sorry. No, I mean, I like it We talk about these kind of things all the time. Yeah.
Expectations vs. Reality: Korean Culture
00:20:09
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So that's what we make sense.
00:20:12
Speaker
We go off on tangents. Yeah. A lot. But yeah. No, I guess that would be a really good transition going from like the Japan one to like the heat. Now we can go to the Korean culture, I guess.
00:20:25
Speaker
So I'm going to sound like a hater. Because I got a lot to say about stuff like that. More specifically, um especially right now, it um this week there was a video trending. And this is not the only video that exists, mind you.
00:20:40
Speaker
But it was this Caucasian woman. And she decided to fly over there. Because she's like, oh, I'm going find me a K-drama guy. She went over there. She's like recording all of these people. And then she was like saying all they're ugly.
00:20:57
Speaker
And, you know. She had a couple prospects in there that I was like, hold up. Sis. I was like, wait. I mean, I'm not I'm not saying like, but they were like, okay, I can see there had potential.
00:21:11
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Yeah, she was, she had different expectations, right? She did. She thought everybody was going to And I think this is true for even... every country you know we see things on tv and we yeah assume oh person's gonna look like this person like they think oh every black person looks like beyonce like no we don't think everybody's gonna they're gonna everybody's gonna be like selena selena or it's gonna be like kim kardashian like everybody looks like that bro like some people are just regular you know and even then those people are regular too they just have had work done There you go. That's the real tea, just like they do in their own country as well.
00:21:45
Speaker
So it was just funny how everybody was like kind of bashing her about that. And I can see some points on both sides. You know, their culture is a little...
00:21:58
Speaker
They're conservative. They are. Which is good. That's not necessarily a bad thing. I think there's some good parts of but not- Because they maintain, like, their culture and, like, their heritage. like Yeah. this fla like It's like 99- You would say, like, what, 95% of them? They're still, like, pure blood Korean. They're keeping their bloodline absolutely pure.
00:22:18
Speaker
The U.S. ain't. They don't need an ancestry test. don't know. It's crazy. Mm-mm. But, um, I just thought that was funny. Yeah. it was because what was like what was the outcome also of like recording that and yeah like it was really rude it was actually like an infringement of privacy like did you want people to feel bad for her don't know you know people this just goes into that whole stereotype of people going over there and just in general not just to visit but like even moving they call those people the korea blues oh yeah
00:22:52
Speaker
And they just, they think, you know, everything's going to be like a fairy tale. there' like It's just another country, different language, different culture, but it's just. But ultimately people are people. There's still racism over there too.
00:23:07
Speaker
Yeah, so it's not going to be, like, necessarily better. You know, grass is really not greener on the other side. Because you ain't paying that bill. You're not paying the water bill, so how would you know? But it's just like, I don't know. I thought that was hilarious. But honestly, i think I was more shocked that, like, a lot of the Korean people were, like, not upset about it.
00:23:29
Speaker
it seemed like more of the american people were like oh like i can't believe she did this and like they were bashing her but like the korean girls were like we don't care which i thought was funny oh because it's like interesting yeah so i was like okay like you don't care about this but like But you you care when it's like somebody, some idol does something you don't like. And then next thing you know, you're sending them like death reeds.
00:23:59
Speaker
Like, oh. Yeah. So it's like, there's stuff like that. They have children. they they're They're chill and they don't care. But then they're like they go to extremes.
00:24:12
Speaker
Yeah. And I'm like, oh. Don't get me started on the situation. But it's like, even then, like, their country allows for that. that's crazy like they they it's like the fans like run run run the country or something and it's like really weird to me because in america we're not like that they they could care less they like just some people had dui and he's still famous like what right we didn't care if anything we're like me too i also have one
00:24:42
Speaker
like i like i know you're like now 10 like no same but you know but like we're just not as hard as them because you know at the end of the day yes they're people but we don't like look up to them as like role models you know i think i guess they just could been so high on a pedestal they make them role models yeah they expect them to be like models that's why yeah We just are like, no, you're just an artist that makes music. I'm not going to be asking you about the social, political state of this world. like
00:25:15
Speaker
I don't care. like Speak up if you want to speak up. like Use your voice. even platform but Yeah. But I think it's also just like... I think that's like their biggest platform.
00:25:26
Speaker
Like, yeah the music and then like them acting. But like, sports is not as big there. I feel like we have like so many like that's big platforms. yeah We have the artists, we have the sports, we have like, you know, celebrities, like all kinds of things.
00:25:43
Speaker
Going off on the sports and that's why they say like America is the one that always wins the Olympics because whenever... Oh yeah, we dominate. That's like the only time I'm patriotic, honestly. i'm like we're in bloody blue like i'm like eagle scream like it's serious for me i'm so proud to be the sounds in the back oh i was thinking about getting a clicker thing yeah you know like that one girl on tiktok yeah like i i want that like i'm i'm gonna look into that so i can buy one because i feel like that's so me yeah i love that love because i could just hear it already in the background
00:26:17
Speaker
But yeah. A little bit. No, but seriously, yeah, we we dominated yeah in the Olympics. Like, pretty much every single thing. And even then, like, we recognize, you know, the other And especially, like, art.
00:26:28
Speaker
And they some of them are really good. Like, Brazil's amazing at volleyball. They did really good at gymnastics this year. Like, wow. But normally it's, you know, China and, you know, like, Russia and stuff like that. They're, like, the only people we kind of truly rival with. Mm-hmm.
00:26:44
Speaker
But, um, even then, like, we're, I feel like, you know, hey, I know those people and I would recognize them on the street. ah Same with, like, Jamaicans. Like, those are the only people we'll lose to. Like, in interact and track. In track, yeah. We're getting, we're getting slammed. We're getting beat. Like, we stole some, man. Like, to a bloody pulp. Like, it's embarrassing. But, I don't even care. Like, I was so happy. Like, what?
00:27:05
Speaker
The, the last Olympics, not this one in Paris, but the one before that. It was, uh, my parents. We, we just root for anybody. Was it Tokyo? Tokyo? i don't know no no tokyo was like 2016 i think no didn't go back to japan wasn't an asian one again i don't know it was like 2021 they were supposed to have it 20 remember cove that happened wasn't it in the japan i think it was in england i don't know that's not really important but i'm just saying um
00:27:39
Speaker
Yeah, we just root for anybody that like looks like us, so it doesn't matter. like Even if it's like America's not playing, we're like, oh, and like the the black guy, he won, and he was like in Italy, and we were like, hey, that's our cousin! We were turned dumb so like it doesn't matter. you know like We're but we're happy to see yeah where I was my mom whenever she was would see Mexico like getting up on top 10 or something. I think it like in swimming.
00:28:04
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Like this one girl, ah they passed her during the Olympics for gymnastics. I was like, yeah. My mom was just like, my country. And i was like, yes, mom. Woo. yeah but also me usa yeah we we always we always do usa but if it's like if any black person is on any other opposing team we're like hey i'm rooting for youtube bro thank you like you might as well like yeah show us right and the guy won and it was amazing but yeah i think that's where our culture is different the things that we deem important maybe are not as important
00:28:39
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to other countries because i did like i pulled up like this list where it showed like why like the differences and um basically in our social structures values interactions are like the differences like they're culture their culture they're collective they're like a ah collective society versus like we're individualistic so they're more of like yeah family Everything close-knit.
00:29:07
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That's why, you know, they were able to impeach the president after he basically called Marshall. Yeah, they stick together a lot better than we do. we We definitely have, like, cliques within cliques here. Yeah.
00:29:19
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So it doesn't work out. I totally see that. Even just the family thing, though. ah feel like you guys, your culture, y'all, like, respect that, too. Yeah. And we in mine, it's sort of, but it just depends. It really just depends.
00:29:34
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Because at the end of the day, it's just our thing is like, okay, yes, we are family, and, like, that's important. But if you disrespect me...
Family Dynamics: Conditional Respect in America
00:29:42
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all bets are off yeah and it also depends like on who you are because i know like within my family i'm the one that doesn't let stuff slide yeah so i'm the one that is usually kind of like we get pushed away in a sense because i'm the one i'm gonna i'm not gonna be quiet just because you think you did this was correct but actually it wasn't correct yeah you actually just disrespected me and my family so no we're not gonna talk to you
00:30:08
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Exactly. And you still expect to show And feel like that's an American thing. Like we yeah we we do that. And so we're like, no, blood is not no thicker than like, no, because like there's been some a lot of like, you know, every family is dysfunctional.
00:30:23
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So we all have issues, but it's just like. we're more serious about I guess necessarily working them out versus I think in their culture it's like it's a respect thing like if you're older you have to respect them you cannot come at them any kind of way like it's like it's super like formal you cannot they still keep they have honorifics and it's like we don't do that here like I can approach you the same way I would like my grandma like I don't care i don't care that you're 80 hey
00:30:53
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hey What up, girl? And I can say that. and it's not offensive. Versus, like, they can't say that. No, it's more of like, their hierarchy. Their hierarchy. Yeah. That they have within the family.
00:31:04
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Yeah. And they take that seriously. Because sometimes it's, like, they might not be correct in what, like, the older people have used. Exactly. And, like, it's, like, the progressivism, too Because it's, like...
00:31:16
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Well, I'm 28 like I'm not gonna be stuck in like the 1900s. Yeah, I think also yeah, just they just People try to equate like you being older means that you're wiser and that's not true at all. You can be wise at six yeah Common sense is not so common. Some people are stupid no matter what my parents so always say ain't no fool like a old fool.
00:31:40
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And so some people, they just, you know, cause i mean just because they're older, yeah, they don't mature. They're doing the same foolishness. So no, I'm not going to respect you just because you're older yeah you're older than me. and Or you're like, you know. It's crazy to think that your thinker is going respect you.
00:31:55
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Yeah, America is more giving You give me your respect, I'll give you your respect. You know, it's like, yeah, it's like favor for favor. Like we're very transactional here versus like, they're like, no, this is set in stone. And if you go against that, then it's like shame on me, which is crazy. And that's why I don't think I could live there.
00:32:13
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no you end up becoming like a black sheep of the family and then i don't care about that yeah that that doesn't matter because i'm like you know ah have friends and i see my friends more than i see there you go and sometimes even those people that Aren't your blood becoming your family? Yeah, that's what I'm saying. We have like a different closeness to just in general. Yeah, I think even just with like American friendship and stuff like that. A lot of the things that we do, they don't really do stuff like that over there actually when I think about it. Also, their dating life is like so different because it's like they can be dating somebody like...
00:32:51
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for a couple months and they're break up and then they have somebody else and it's like, but they also have like a dating culture. It's like, they move a lot faster than Yeah. Like within like the second date or something like everything like a symbolistic thing. Like, i was oh yeah, they're 10 days or 100 days how they i celebrate that.
00:33:11
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Youngji's show, excuse me, um and how, like, it was funny because Glizzy was on there and he, with Sid, and he, like, opened her milk carton or something for her. And, like, oh they were like, no, like, you know, if you do that, that just basically means, like, you want to marry me. He's like, close it back. Trying to like, seal it back with his finger. I thought that was funny. But I was just like, that's so weird that it's like a simple gesture like that.
00:33:42
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But something that grand. Yeah. Because to me, like, thank you for opening because I was struggling. Facts. Like, I would never think that. And that's my first reaction. Like, can you open this for me?
00:33:53
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Like, I'm not
Rapid Relationships: The Korean Experience
00:33:54
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explaining anything. to Even then, though, like, I think it's just like, we don't. we're a lot more literal. They're, like, more, like, symbolistic. Like, okay, you can open the door for me.
00:34:04
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You can do a whole bunch of stuff, but really, I need you to say it. Exactly. Actions speak louder than words. Oh, wait. No, never mind. Words speak louder than actions. Delete that. Because, like, you know, people can do stuff all day long, but it's, like, if your words are not lining up with that. And so I feel like in America, we're a lot slower paced in that And we just, yeah not necessarily we take things more seriously, but we just...
00:34:31
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We see through the BS, you know. A lot of people are just doing stuff just because. And I it feel like with them, they're just like, yeah. Within the second date, if you're still talking to me, like, we we go together. And it's like, what?
00:34:42
Speaker
I don't even really know you. yeah So, no. What was that thing that you were telling me the other day? The affection? It was just like, infatuation. There you go. There you go. It's just heavily infatuation. Yeah.
00:34:53
Speaker
And if they're infatuated by that person, then they're like, oh, we is it's this person. They don't even think logically. I think they just like, Yeah. And it's like ah it's like a dopamine thing that comes into your mind. you go. And people said that. I studied these things anyways. But it's just like, in general, somebody said like, oh, a crush is just a lack of information. Like, hello.
00:35:13
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Yeah. Like, you don't know them, so that's why you think that you like them. But you don't really like them. It takes actually a long time. Because when you think about that for like, even friendship. People don't become friends like... No. It takes time.
00:35:27
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takes time. You know? It's like, okay, yeah, we can have a good conversation. We've been friends a while. Right. We can have a conversation, but it's like, I can't say that we were friends off of that first conversation we had, you know? like back and We had to can you continue. We had to continue to talk outside of that, and then it was just like, oh, yeah, like, this is my friend. Yeah.
00:35:48
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So i feel like that's the same, but some people don't equate that. They feel like relationships, no, I can jump faster. And it's like, well, honey, give me your game card because you just flunked out.
00:35:59
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Like now you're going to have to start over. Because now, unfortunately, I'm starting to see that friendship's lover is actually the best trope ever. Because, i mean, that's the only way you're going to have longevity.
00:36:12
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At the end of the day, everything else is just like lust, you know, or like, you know, family or whatever you feel like you have to. But it's like friendship is like really like the greatest love of all. cause it's I'm not related to you. You're not supplying but in my needs anywhere. yeah I'm choosing you.
00:36:28
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And it's like you don't have to, like, I guess, like, pretend or fake it. And it's like they they either, like, know you at your worst or they don't know you at your best. Yeah. And it's like there's not going to be no in between.
00:36:40
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Right. So it's like might as well just be open to yourself. Exactly. That's why it works out better. Like that. Because either way, they're going to have to. They're going to have to. Even if you don't, if you're not friends first, you still have to have a friendship. And I think that's why like a lot of relationships don't last is because people aren't good friends.
00:37:00
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They're not good friends in real life. So that's why they're not a good friend to their partner. So of course your relationship didn't last. You suck. Because it's like when you think about it, it's like, would you be friends with a person that did this to you? no you know if you're in your right mind it's just like and if you if you have self-esteem yeah and it goes to show like that tweet that i sent you like those girls that was just that was just something else because it's like but some people were like arguing against what you said though were like i she's a bad friend because why would she leave her and like say it like that and like be rude but it's because it's like after if you've been with this like been friends with that person after these types of situations and she was still there for sure to cry out and then she the person cheated on them and then you still go back and like oh yeah but i think we we're gonna work it out we're gonna work this out that's what she told she said be be serious right now she did say real she did say that she said be for real she said that
00:37:56
Speaker
Like he literally cheated on you and you're still but some people feel like no like I can think they think in friendships like okay Well, you're supposed to like be my friend. So it doesn't matter or they what I do or people say like no chaps but don't support me there you know like like I'm like some yes man or something like no Friendship is also accountability.
00:38:16
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Yeah holding each other accountable. It's the Bible. What hello? Clark Kent. Yeah, it's in the Bible. Because literally, you're making yourself worse. i don't I'm enabling you. the last so And what does he say about enablers? They're also going to hell.
00:38:33
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That's what it's saying. In the Bible, the last supper, what happens? If you just sit back and let people do destructive, you're also going have to answer for that. Your karma is coming for you too because you know that's not right and you're not saying nothing.
00:38:47
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both y'all finna get it and it's like i don't want to be a part of that but that's what i'm saying it's just like the it goes back to the accountability part because it's like if you don't want that to happen to you like then other people what to do it just yeah though literally yeah and then i and i wish somebody like if i were in that situation like girl be for right now he literally did this i'll be like you know what you're right let me let me right my friends did that to me when i was in college it was like my sophomore year i was goo gaga to be fair you know some idiot pisces man i will never go back but um yeah and so they literally yeah that's what i was like yeah i was like felt but um literally they were like but they had an intervention with me i didn't even know that that's what it was but they were just like
00:39:38
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okay are we okay like this isn't no it wasn't even like are you okay like this is not okay you need to like stop like i don't understand like why is he necessary like he's done and it was just like now did i listen to them no but they still were my friends anyways and eventually i had to learn and some people you know you just gotta be hard-headed on your own and you gotta to learn the hard way and i did it's like because it's all did learn it's not gonna be like it's not gonna be instant it's not gonna be an instant instant thing but that probably got you thinking and probably whenever you were with him or like whenever you're meeting with him or like he was doing those things you're like
00:40:16
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I guess my friends are right. you know the problem no I mean, I knew they were right. I just didn't care. instant moment, yeah. That was the problem, yeah. But I mean, to be fair, I was young. I was only 19. And I feel like that's different. Everybody has like those canon events where we just act stupid over somebody.
00:40:32
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But I feel like when you're making these like big mistakes, post-25, post-Bluetooth device connected in your brain, it's just like, at what point can I stand by you know at what point can i just be there and be i can't i can't do that because you knew you knew now you know better yeah so it's just and then you still expect me to be like oh no honey it's okay it's gonna honey get it together like right But that's what I'm saying, like in in American culture, we we view things seriously when it comes to that, like in relationships. We're like very passionate about it versus they're very like traditional and they're like more passive. Like even like in the K-dramas I watch, like some of the people, like them being friends, I'm like, they're incredibly toxic.
00:41:19
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Like I don't think they have anything like of substance like that they talk about as friends. You know, especially with the girls. Yeah.
00:41:31
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Like I was watching Marry My Husband. That's like my favorite, oof, my favorite, my favorite K-drama ever. Oh my gosh. It's amazing. But like their friendship, exactly. I was like, what?
00:41:44
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Like the girl was so bad. Like she wanted to be her. Like she was literally like sabotaging like every single thing that girl was like trying to do, even though she was like incredibly successful.
00:41:55
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And then she ended up like sleeping with her husband. And I'm just like, dude, what? Like, it's an amazing show. Please watch it. But it's just like that kind of toxic stuff.
00:42:06
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And they just like, you know, she was like really nice about Like, i don't know. She wasn't as mad for me. Now, they did fight a few times. and i love to see that and even when i watched the trunk i also got to see them fighting too and i was like period but yeah i don't know they just i don't i'm not goingnna say they don't hold people accountable but i just feel like it's at a different standard like they're like okay if i'm friends with the person i'm gonna stay friends with them like as long as i can so it doesn't matter somebody would have done that they would have been punched in like facts we don't we don't play that yeah
00:42:40
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that's like oh you slept with my husband that's like literally that's literally like drop the a whole nother where we talk about where it's like you know like k drama bullies versus like american bro third bro First of all, they would have got rocked. First of all, we bring bums to school in America. okay like School shootings exist in our country.
00:43:05
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Often. People bring shanks, okay? It's crazy. Actually, you said what? You're going to get your hair pulled right now. You're going to get tossed across the road. There fights happening at 7 a.m.
00:43:16
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Girl, you could walk in. On a daily basis. yeah it didn't It didn't take much no for these things to happen. A little shove and bam. For them just to watch shows like that and to see.
00:43:28
Speaker
somebody get bullied and then they don't do nothing it's crazy it's frustrating because in america it's just like we don't even bully like that like first of all people are not getting bullied like that not at all because everybody fights back even the nerds so it's just like they were funny though whenever they would they would find yeah like they'd be clocking but it's like hey you know they were they would be the first people to throw chairs respect yourself bro but that's what i'm saying it's just like our cultures we just we don't take any minutes we don't and versus they like allow a lot of stuff yeah is crazy because defend yourself
00:44:06
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You have two hands, two feet. They don't think that they they can. There's a chair on your back. That's what I'm saying we were raised that way. yeah It's in our amendments. Yeah, that's true. Right to bear arms. Like, yeah, I'll bring gun.
00:44:19
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Like I said, you know, i just feel like everybody acts better when I put a gun on the table. I told my brother. the Like, suddenly you're not acting crazy with me now that I put this Glock on the table. Like, wait yeah, what was said?
00:44:32
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Oh, okay. but that's what That's what I thought. That's literally what I thought. Like, you're not talking about anything. I told my brother, like, if he ever got punched or he ever got hit first, just let them hit you first and then hit back.
00:44:45
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Girl. No, my parents never said that. They were like, no, just beat them up. Like, don't let them even hit first. Don't let them get any licks on you. Like, beat the brakes off of them. Would they be mad if they somebody hit you first?
00:44:59
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That's already happened before. When I was in elementary school, i was like,
00:45:05
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It was like, bro, I remember. And I was finna name drop for a second, but chill. it was this guy. And, you know, like we're not we're on swings and stuff like that. You know, we have... There's no written rules or whatever.
00:45:20
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You think of the monkey bars? No, this was a different time. But that was, yeah. That was... No, I mean, he was just playing. So it wasn't like we were gonna get into a fight. But, like, after that, my parents were like, no, you're getting in type of now.
00:45:32
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And so, after that, but... girl you sent me a tiktok right not just now not right now that's weird anyways um yeah so no no this boy he was like trying to get me off the swing he's like oh you've been on too long like blah blah and i was like no i'm not getting off like i just got on like there's a other swing over there like why are you trying to take mine and you know he's like well i want this one and and so he tried to like push me off of it so of course naturally me being in taekwondo now
00:46:03
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I kicked him as hard as I possibly could. And then I kept kicking him until the teacher had to come get me. Because I'm like, who are you to think you could push me? You're trying to kick my sweet?
00:46:15
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Sweet? Like, that's crazy. that's okay And so it's just like multiple times, like people would try to like, you know, on playground, you know, just thinking, oh, whatever. And it's like, oh, ain't nothing sweet over here.
00:46:26
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Because I'll kick you right now. And I did. So it was just like, to me, they weren't upset. They didn't care. They were like, period. Do it again. If they try it again, do it again. And I feel like I'm going to raise my kids the same way.
00:46:40
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Because what? What do you mean that you let them hit you? You don't get to walk over me, bro. Like, no. Absolutely not. It will never get to that point. But yeah. anyway But yeah.
00:46:53
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I think that was, this was a good talk. yeah we we definitely talked longer yeah than we did the first time but even then i feel like we could even just do a second part to this yeah there's so more to like say say much much there's so more especially if we look at like the fan culture like the sauce or say signs or whatever you're saying them crazy girls that's what i call oh it's horrible especially because what why are you following people home Girl, the worst part was like them like waiting for them to leave and like grabbing their cup at the restaurant and like no drinking it.
00:47:33
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And guess what race they were in. This color? Yeah. Yes, ma'am. Always. okay And really, to me, I think they're equals.
00:47:48
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In terms of when you hear crazy fan stuff. Yeah. you They do the same stuff. For NCT, whenever they were here NCT, how they snuck into their hotel room to the hotel room and I was just like, what?
00:48:02
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That's a vision of privacy. like Somebody's going to get locked It's a crime. It's crime, wish people would be more fearful of the record on their lives. Because in America, that stuff don't get expunged. Mm-mm.
00:48:13
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It's staying on your record. And it can prevent you from getting, like, anything. So... To me, I just feel like that's insane. But also, like, I became a fan later.
00:48:24
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So I have a different mindset. But even then, even if I would have, like, been a fan, maybe when I was, like, a teenager, i feel like I still would have. Because even then, I was... became a fan at that time.
00:48:36
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And I became a fan, like, when I was younger. Like, literally a teen. And... No, like half of the stuff that they would do, I'm like, that's crazy. Like, what do you mean you follow them home? Girl, it's like a mental illness. You sat next to them, found out.
00:48:52
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It's crazy because if you actually look at it, there's people who work in the, you know. Oh, yeah, they're like selling it. Yeah. Yeah. And they're like, he it's like a group of people. like dropping breadcrumbs and stuff so that the girls can like come. And then, like they're getting paid for it too. Yeah.
00:49:08
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But that's whole other talk. Yeah, honestly, yeah. we could We could keep talking about this. But anyways. Thank you guys for tuning in. Hope y'all liked it.
00:49:20
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I think I talked more this time. You did. I mean, this was more so her episode. I mean, not that like the last one was mine. But I definitely wanted you to be like... More vocal.
00:49:30
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And I still gave my two cents. So. Yeah. It was nice. It was nice. But yeah. Join us next time. See you later. See you later. You know what?
00:49:44
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Yeah.
00:49:56
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you know ah yeah