Episode 381: Rewriting Your Sexual Script

When you have sex, do you kind of already know how it’s going to play out before your clothes even came off? If so, you’re not alone. Most of us follow sexual scripts that feature a predictable sequence of activities. However, these scripts can limit our opportunities for pleasure. In today’s show, we’re going to discuss how to rewrite your sexual script and cultivate a more fulfilling intimate life.

I am joined once again by Rachel Zar, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist. Dr. Zar is a clinical supervisor at Avid Intimacy, a sex and relationship therapy private practice in Chicago.

Some of the specific questions we explore include:

• What is a sexual script anyway, and what might a typical script look like?
• How do sexual scripts limit our experiences with pleasure and connection?
• How do sexual scripts contribute to the orgasm gap?
• What does it mean to rewrite your sexual script?
• How do you rewrite your script when you’re not entirely sure what you want?

You can check out Rachel’s website to learn more about her work.

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