How Well Do You Really Know Your Spouse?

E60 · Interior Integration for Catholics

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Intro: Welcome to the podcast Interior Integration for Catholics
1. Interior Integration for Catholics brings to you in each episode the best psychological information essential for your human formation, knowledge that is fundamental in shoring up the natural foundation for your Catholic spiritual life.
2. This podcast helps you focus inward on your interior integration -- to help you bring together the different parts of yourself into unity and harmony with God in the natural realm.
3. In this podcast, we confront the tough internal questions we Catholics have in our day-to-day lives, we confront head-on our struggles in the natural realm, the psychological difficulties that keep us from fully loving our Lord and our Lady in a deep, personal, intimate way and living out our vocations, including our vocation to Catholic marriage which necessarily brings in both sexuality and religion.
4. And we're dealing with sexuality and religion in this episode for two primary reasons: first to free you to love God our Father, Jesus our Brother, the Holy Spirit and Our Mother Mary more and more over time and
5. Second, to love you neighbor as yourself -- And who is your neighbor? If you are married, your first neighbor, your closest neighbor, the neighbor toward whom you have the most responsibilities is your spouse. Because of your marriage vows.
6. I’m clinical psychologist Peter Malinoski and I am here with you, to be your host and guide.
7. This podcast is part of Souls and Hearts, our online outreach at soulsandhearts.com, which is all about shoring up our natural foundation for the Catholic spiritual life, all about overcoming psychological obstacles to being loved and to loving God and neighbor.
8. We are celebrating our one year anniversary. First podcast launched March 20, 2020
  1. Success
    1. The majority of podcasts don't make it to 14 episodes
  2. 1. Because of you
      1. Very niche audience
    2. 1. This one has risen to top 10% based on downloads
    3. 1. Tells me there is a hunger out there.
9. 1. Gratitude
10. 1. Appreciation
11. 1. Your support increases my motivation.
13. This is episode 60, released on March 22, 2021
14. And it is titled: How Well Do You Really Know Your Spouse?
15. This is the 12th episode in our series on sexuality, the fourth in our subseries on sexuality in Catholic marriages
16. Continuing with the model of a Catholic Canopied Marriage Bed to illuminate what happens sexually in Catholic marriages.
17. Episode 58 -- I provided you with the model of a Catholic canopied marriage bed.
  1. Remember this canopied marriage bed represents the sexual life of a married Catholic couple.
    1. The floor -- The Presence of God and His Providence -- we started here in the last episode, episode 59
    2. The four legs
      1. Leg 1 -- the husband's commitment to his own interior integration and his own human formation
    3. 1. Leg 2. the wife's commitment to her own interior integration, her own human formation
    4. 1. Leg 3. Understanding my own and my spouse's attachment needs and integrity needs
    5. 1. Leg 4. Internal Family Systems Approaches to understanding myself and my spouse
        
        We are really exploring this leg first, in this podcast episode.
    7. The frame and the box spring -- the firm, unwavering commitment of the husband his marriage vows and the wife to her marriage vows -- separately. Independently
    8. The mattress Empathetic attunement
    9. Two pillows: