Why 'Helping' Sabotages Your Child’s Confidence

When we see our child struggling with a math problem, fumbling with their shoelaces, or facing a social conflict on the playground, every instinct in our bodies screams at us to step in. We want to be the hero. We want to be the 'Protector' who smooths the path and removes the pain. But what if our 'help' is actually an act of sabotage? So how are we supposed to just bypass our fixing nature and how are we supposed to know when it’s appropriate to do so?

Jody Hill is a confidence coach and an expert in child development who helps parents move from 'The Rescuer' to 'The Resource.' She’s here to show us how to pivot our fatherhood strategy, moving from fixing the problem to forming the child.

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Jonathan Guerrero

As fathers, our biological our biological hardwiring is set to fix. When we see our children struggle we see our child struggling with a math problem, fumbling with their shoelaces, or facing a social conflict in the playground, every instinct in our body screams at us to step in.

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Jonathan Guerrero

We want to be the hero. We want to be the protector who soothes the path and smooths out the path and removes the pain. We think we're being good dads. We think we're showing them love.

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Jonathan Guerrero

But what our help is actually But what if our help is actually an act of sabotage? Every time we step in too early, we steal the wind from our children. We take away the moment where they realize they are capable, resilient, and resourceful.

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Jonathan Guerrero

When we remove the obstacle, we inadvertently send a message, I don't think you can handle this without me. Over time, that well-intentioned protection builds a foundation of self-doubt rather than self-confidence.

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Jonathan Guerrero

So how are we supposed to just bypass our fixing nature and how are we supposed to know when it's appropriate for us to do so? Our guest is going to bring some answers in just a moment, so don't go anywhere.

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Jonathan Guerrero

Greetings everyone. Thank you so much for joining me and my son and co-host Isaac. Hello everyone. Welcome to the Fatherhood Challenge. Today we are also joined by our guest Jody Hill. Jody is a confidence coach and an expert in child development who helps parents move from the rescuer to the resource.

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Jonathan Guerrero

She's here to show us how to pivot our fatherhood strategy, moving from fixing the problem to forming the child to forming the child. Jody, welcome to the Fatherhood Challenge.

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Jody

Hey guys, thank you so much for having me. i absolutely love what you guys are doing on