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A Review On Food And Our Mental Health
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In this episode, Greg Tre and A New break bread and do a check in on their mental health.
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Introduction and Episode Update
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What's your mental looking like right now, bro?
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I lost 20 pounds.
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Are we comparing myself to Kobe?
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Yo!
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Yo!
Seafood Review: Flying Fish vs. Wing Mac
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Welcome to the other side where people often see A and Z but don't see B through Y. We're your host, Greg Trey, and I'm here with A New, and you are now tuned in to episode eight, man.
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Ocho, baby.
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Episode eight.
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Yeah, man.
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It's good to be back, bro.
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Facts.
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How you feeling being back on the mic?
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It's different.
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It's different, but it's a good feeling, man.
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We had a few weeks off.
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We're back rolling, man.
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I couldn't wait to get back in this jump.
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Yeah, bro.
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And as you guys can see, we done changed locations a couple times.
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But that's not to worry.
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Our current site is under construction.
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We're getting stuff ready for you guys.
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We're going to have dope backgrounds.
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The quality is going to be immaculate.
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I like that word, immaculate.
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So you ain't got to worry about that.
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So we lit.
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We lit.
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But...
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Y'all can see we're missing somebody today, scheduling conflict.
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But no worries there.
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He'll be back with us next week, so make sure y'all tune in to that.
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But, Alex, A-new.
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Sorry, I can't be calling you by your government name.
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I got to call you by your show name, man.
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Come on now.
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What it do, bro?
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You know how we got to start this off.
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You already know it.
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So last episode, we started the seafood battle.
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And this week, we have a new seafood for you guys.
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And we have to break bread before we get things started.
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So Alex, a new bro.
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A-New, talk to us about what you have for us today.
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Talk to me.
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I'm going to go ahead and hop back to last week.
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We actually had a spot called Wing Mac.
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Wing Mac.
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So that was a place known for their chicken wings, but, you know, all places kind of have a little bit of everything.
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So Wing Mac was known for their chicken, but we had their fish.
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I think we gave it some decent ratings.
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Today we got a new...
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Cuisine.
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What is this?
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Place called Flying Fish.
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I'm scared.
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So now Flying Fish is in a name.
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So, you know, I don't know, man.
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I don't know.
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Last week was good, though.
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Last week was good.
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I can't really see that well.
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You don't know.
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Let's push it.
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Push it up.
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Let me push it up.
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Yeah, get it real close.
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Don't drop my fries now.
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Don't drop my fries.
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Golden crispy to perfection.
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So what is that, bro?
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What is that that we got?
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This is actually just a three-piece catfish.
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Okay.
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Three-piece catfish.
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We about to tap in real quick.
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You see how this man is breaking down the plate?
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This how we break bread.
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Exactly.
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Ain't he going to give me the bigger plate, too?
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Man, I got to come to this man's cookout.
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That plate was more heavy, so I ain't going to hold that joint over time.
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Hey, we don't got no hot sauce this time, bro.
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That's fine.
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I don't need to be eating the hot sauce.
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It's too hot for me.
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All right.
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This don't do look good.
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I'm not going to lie to you.
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This don't look good.
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All right.
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Ready?
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I'm ready if you are.
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Here we go.
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Look at that.
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That's like an ASMR video.
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Hold on.
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What you doing?
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What you doing to me?
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Oh, man.
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Hold on.
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This might be.
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Hold on.
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Uh-oh.
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Let me get one more bite.
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One more bite.
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I got to make sure that I'm tasting what I'm tasting.
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You feel me?
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You feel me?
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No, you didn't just violate that.
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Just violate it.
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Hold on, bro.
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I might as well, too.
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Let me get a frownet.
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That's how it's raw.
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Very different from last week.
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I'm going to say that.
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I'll explain.
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You want to go first with me?
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I want to hear you first.
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I want to hear your thoughts first.
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I'm going to like these already because I can already tell we're going to have a lot of different opinions.
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Okay.
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So.
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So your food first, bro.
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Yeah.
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I shouldn't have violated because now I'll be chewing until next week.
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Oh, my gosh.
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All right.
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How many licks does it take to get this?
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Overall rating first or just going with the flow?
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Just talk.
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Just talk about it.
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Just talk about it.
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Presentation?
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Golden crispy to perfection.
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I love it.
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Facts.
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First bite?
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Y'all even heard it.
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Y'all ain't know if we're using it.
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Close your eyes.
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You don't know if we're eating fish or eating chips.
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I like that.
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So the crispiness on the outside, the seasoning on the outside, perfect.
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Let's get into the inside of that fish.
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That's where it went a little south for me.
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We ain't even showing the inside of the fish.
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Like, I don't really know if the inside of fried fish is really, really seasoned, but it was like on the outside layer, you was getting everything you needed.
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As soon as you kind of got into the middle portion, it was just like, we're just chewing for a little bit.
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All the flavor just went MIA.
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So me personally, I think I gave.
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Don't give it a rating yet.
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Let me say my piece.
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Let me say my piece.
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first bite that crunch that's the word of the day immaculate the crunch bust me down touch my soul the outside was seasoned like when i when i bit into it i was like yeah this is it this is now accurate as i started to eat more of it
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Not going to lie to you.
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I was feeling the same way.
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I was like, the inside is not as flavorful as the outside.
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You got the same taste, bud, brother.
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I will say that.
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I will say that.
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All together, I thought it was a good fish, though.
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Was it better than last week's?
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I don't know.
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I'm saying no.
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Because I remember from last week's, the crunch could have been there a little more.
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This crunch was way better.
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This outer layer, I would say, might have been a little better.
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But the inside, I mean...
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Wings Max Fish was consistent throughout.
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I was just why I think I gave it like an eight before last week.
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Yeah.
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But now get your rating first.
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Get your rating first.
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What did we give?
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I don't even know.
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What did we give?
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Did we give?
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We gave Wimac a eight.
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You and I gave Wimac a eight or I think the lowest we did was like a 7.6.
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And I was like, what the heck is a six?
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Adora like gave it a five or something.
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He gave it like a two at first and then he kept eating and he was like, all right, I'll give it like a six.
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I was talking about Long John Silver.
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Exactly.
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Something crazy.
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That's one thing we would never have on here.
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Stand back.
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I might have to, like, change my rating for last week.
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You know what I'm saying?
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That's going to be coming, I feel like.
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Yeah.
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That's going to be coming.
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But go ahead.
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All right.
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So, if Wing Mac is an 8, this is, like, a 7.
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A 6.7.
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I don't even know how I came up with that math in my head.
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I'm telling you, bro.
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I'm going to give it a 6.7.
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Like, is it the, you know, it's missing the seasoning for if the drop from a 7 to a 6.7, that.3?
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I don't know, bro.
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The outside was it.
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The inside, it wasn't bad.
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Overall, like I said, it's a good fish.
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It's just that inside didn't do it for me.
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At all.
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And that's what I'm saying.
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Like, I feel that.
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So are you changing your rating from last week?
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No.
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If Wing Mac is an 8, we can keep it at an 8.
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Okay.
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We can keep it at an 8.
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Because I was about
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to drop Wing Mac to a 7.
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You know, maybe.
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But if we're keeping the same rating for last week, if Wing Mac is an 8, this would probably be like a 6.5.
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I'm going to keep it generic.
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I ain't going to do no 6.3 and 6.8.
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You know, the.2,.7.
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This is going to be a solid 6.5.
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Once they get the inside season, could easily be a
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Yeah, it's like they forgot about that joint, bro.
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Yeah.
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They just like just coat the outside, throw that thing in the grease.
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I got to make sure.
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I got to make sure again.
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You make sure I'm making sure too.
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You hear that crunch right?
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I'm happy.
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Yeah.
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Nah, yeah.
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Like, look.
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Like, four or five seconds in, you just like, all right, nice and crunchy.
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And then just boom.
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Inside is bland, bro.
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It's just bland.
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Now, these fries are also trash.
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I'm not going to lie to you.
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They look like McDonald's fries.
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They ain't got no salt on them joints.
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Hushpuppies, too?
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I don't even eat Hushpuppies.
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You a Hushpuppies fan?
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Nah.
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I'm cornbread.
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Cornbread, baby.
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All right, wait, wait, wait.
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This brings up a good question.
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Do you like corn in your cornbread?
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Or are you the type, so are you the type that have corn in your cornbread?
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Or do you just have cornbread with no corn?
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I'm gonna say this.
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Oh man, I feel like I just, I hurt this man feelings.
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If I ever pull up to your crib,
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And there's corn in your cornbread.
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Don't even make me a plate.
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Yeah, we can't be friends.
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Don't.
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Yeah, exactly.
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Like, honestly, we might have to go to the garage and scrap up real quick.
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Just because you had the audacity to put that corn in the cornbread.
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I get it.
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The corn is in cornbread when the name.
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Yeah.
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But it shouldn't go in the dish.
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That's facts.
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And if you made it, I'm going to violate you.
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Oh, yeah.
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If your mom or your grandma made it, I'm not going to violate you.
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I'm not going to say love.
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I'm going to stop you right there.
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No, no.
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We don't do that here on the TOS podcast.
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I'm not going to violate them.
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Might not be on the next episode.
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Respectfully decline.
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a plate.
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I take everything else though.
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You know what I'm saying?
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The mac and cheese.
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I take the turkey, you know, the brisket, whatever's there.
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I just not eat that cornbread.
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I say this though.
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I feel like the same type of people who put corn in their cornbread are the same type of people who put like raisins in like their potato salad or something like that.
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I've seen a lot of different things and I'm just like, yeah, I don't know what, I don't know who told you that home remedy, that recipe.
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raisins in your... That is disgusting.
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Hey, I've seen some green bean casserole.
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Don't get me started.
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I never had green bean casserole.
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I'm too scared to try it.
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Please, please, please, please, please.
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Any one of our friends, man, don't ever feed us none of that nonsense.
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You know now.
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So if I, yeah, you know now.
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If you get violated, it's your fault.
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That's the quickest way to not become friends with us.
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It's your fault.
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All right, man.
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Let's hop into these topics.
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Yeah, bro.
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We got some spicy ones today.
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Yeah, we do got some spicy ones.
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And I wish I had some hot sauce for that.
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Maybe the hot sauce would have took it to the next level, though.
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You know what I'm saying?
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Maybe the hot sauce did.
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But you're not a hot sauce dude, are you?
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I can be, but also I feel like if we're going to be rating fish off its natural fishness.
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Right.
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It's natural fishness.
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I thought some extra you just want to just kind of put in there too.
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This hot soft can save it.
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It probably save it like another.3,.5.
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You know.
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All right.
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Whatever.
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I'm a little bit disappointed in flying fish, but it's time to move on.
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Me too.
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Anyway.
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Big facts.
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Anyway.
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Shout out to Wing Mac.
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Dang.
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But listen, here on the TOS podcast, we're big on mental health, man.
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We're big on mental health, and we know that it's now starting to become a big thing in society.
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Mental health, anxiety, depression.
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It wasn't always, especially in our community, right?
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It's not always something that's talked about.
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And we kind of touched on this last episode about how we...
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The black community, we need therapy for a lot of things that we go through.
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Badly, too.
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And I kind of want to make this like a recurring theme here on this show, right?
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Let's have a mental health check-in, bro.
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Let's have a mental check-in.
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How have you been?
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I mean, let's make it not even just in this podcast.
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Let's make it something that is common that we ask each other.
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Because I can say, how are you?
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You can just tell me good.
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You know what I'm saying?
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But if I ask you, nah, for real, like, how are you?
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You know what I'm saying?
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How is your mental?
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I feel like I get the real answer.
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You know what I'm saying?
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So what's your mental looking like right now, bro?
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What's your mental looking like?
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How are you right now?
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I'm going to do a little rate.
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I'm going to do a little scale on this one, too.
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Out of 10, I think I'm at a solid...
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Seven.
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Seven.
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And I don't.
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Yeah, it's not too bad.
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I've been in a really good place lately.
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First and foremost, I would say like the New Year's resolution.
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I've really been sticking to my diet.
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Very nice.
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This is the diet, but the fried fish.
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I've been trying to stay away from that water working out.
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Bro, I lost 20 pounds, bro.
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You look good, bro.
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I lost 20 pounds.
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You look good, bro.
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I appreciate it.
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Like 20, honestly, I'm getting on the scale and I'm like, you know, I've never seen this number in a while.
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Like probably since like freshman year of college.
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So I'm like, oh my freaking gosh.
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So, you know, getting ready for,
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my pre-oncée, her sister's wedding.
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So I'm, you know, my B-day coming up in a couple of weeks.
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So I'm just like, it's exciting, you know, and it's only going up from here.
00:13:48
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So that always kind of is going to be the end all be all.
00:13:53
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Then I want to say like, other than that, work's been stressful.
00:13:58
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You know, I think- This man got two jobs, bro.
00:14:00
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Yeah, it's,
00:14:01
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Shout out to – come on, man.
00:14:03
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This man got two jobs, and he makes time to come here and be with us on this podcast, bro.
00:14:07
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Shout out to you.
00:14:08
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This is definitely a priority, bro.
00:14:09
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Like I said, something that you love to do that's definitely going to help with your mental health, you got to make it a priority.
00:14:14
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I don't care what it is.
00:14:16
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So, yeah, two jobs, definitely stressful, but things are moving smoothly right now.
00:14:21
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So, I'm going to just keep on pushing and go from there.
00:14:24
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But, yeah, 7 out of 10 overall.
00:14:25
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7 out of 10.
00:14:26
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Can't really complain too much right now.
00:14:28
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How is that?
00:14:28
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So kind of talk before I give my answer.
00:14:31
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Right.
00:14:31
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Talk to me about that.
00:14:32
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Right.
00:14:32
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Talk to me about how because you have a pre-oncée.
00:14:36
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Right.
00:14:36
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You got to spend time with her.
00:14:38
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You have these two jobs.
00:14:39
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So and I know that you're the type of dude not to just, you know, half do stuff.
00:14:43
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You're going to put your 100 percent into what you're doing.
00:14:45
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Right.
00:14:45
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So you got 100 percent put into your pre-oncée, 100 percent put into work.
00:14:49
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You put your 100 percent to this podcast.
00:14:53
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When do you find time for yourself?
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Or is it hard to kind of talk to us about that process for you?
00:14:59
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It definitely is hard.
00:15:01
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The best word I would say is it's challenging.
00:15:04
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But you're not going to have anyone in your corner that's just going to be there and just listen to your pity and like...
00:15:09
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oh, I can't do this, I can't do that.
00:15:11
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Hey, wake up a little earlier.
00:15:13
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Try to stay up a little later.
00:15:14
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You know, you want to try to do everything you can, but you gotta realize too, like you're only one person.
00:15:18
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You know, so I try to wake up and get a little extra done there or, you know, try to stay later in the office there.
00:15:25
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And, you know, I try to try to, and honestly, anytime I get, I'm a big gamer.
00:15:29
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Gamer is, you know, gaming is the one, you know,
00:15:32
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I bust y'all at Madden.
00:15:34
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I bust all of y'all at Madden.
00:15:36
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But like, you know, trying to find time to game, work out, be with my lady.
00:15:40
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It's definitely really, really hard, but you have to be to a schedule as well.
00:15:45
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Like, you know, you got to be at work at this time.
00:15:47
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You know, you got to try to leave work at this time to make it to your second job.
00:15:51
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Once your second job is over, you gotta come home, eat dinner.
00:15:55
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If you had a rough day, you might wanna play the game for a little bit.
00:15:57
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So it's just, you gotta really keep a schedule and just communicate with the people around you.
00:16:02
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Like, with my baby girl, hey, I wanna play the game a little bit this day.
00:16:06
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Let me have time for that.
00:16:07
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We'll make it up.
00:16:08
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Hey, y'all, I gotta pack.
00:16:10
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We gonna do the podcast on this day.
00:16:12
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So I just know how to move my days around.
00:16:13
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That's awesome.
00:16:14
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That's awesome.
00:16:15
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And I heard Kobe, that's kind of like the same mentality that I heard Kobe talk about in his book.
00:16:22
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Just talking about, listen, like I have a family.
00:16:25
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I love to play this game of basketball.
00:16:27
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There's some things that I'm going to have to sacrifice.
00:16:29
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And his biggest thing that he sacrificed was sleep.
00:16:32
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You know what I'm saying?
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He was up at 3 a.m.
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in the morning, going to the gym, putting work in, coming back to, you know, take his kids to school type of thing.
00:16:40
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You know what I'm saying?
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So,
00:16:41
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You know, if you are passionate about something, you got to sacrifice.
00:16:45
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You got to sacrifice your time.
00:16:46
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You're going to have to sacrifice some money.
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And you also need to know that you have people around you that are going to support you and are going to understand your sacrifice.
00:16:56
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But, you know, especially in the instance of a significant other that is going to sacrifice, too.
00:17:02
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Right.
00:17:02
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Wait, are we so are we are we comparing myself to Kobe?
00:17:06
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I'm joking.
00:17:07
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I'm joking.
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Because that's cash.
00:17:09
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You got a similar mentality, brother.
00:17:11
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I'm telling you.
00:17:12
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Listen, you do, bro.
00:17:13
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I'm telling you.
00:17:14
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I would say one thing I think is helpful, and this is real right here.
00:17:19
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I think one thing that's helpful when you do have a lot going on is if you have someone that you can look across the room from, a friend, family member, and you can be like,
00:17:31
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they on the same type time as me.
00:17:33
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And when I look at this man, I mean, I know he grinding.
00:17:35
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I know he got a lot going on.
00:17:36
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He got his main job, got his podcast, wife, baby on the way.
00:17:41
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He got a lot of stuff going on.
00:17:43
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And again, it's just like, man, I know that man is doing all he can, you know, and he's not the one that's calling me every day, you know, complaining about A, B, C, and D. So it does...
00:17:54
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Mentally helped me and it motivates me when I see someone else I know personally kind of going through a same type of You know obstacles and struggles and you like yo, we gonna overcome this regardless of what's going on and I think you made a good point bro like Nobody cares about your pity party, right?
00:18:09
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You know nobody man.
00:18:10
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I'm telling you if you you can complain and you could cry and mom But the only person that cares is you and maybe some people in your inner circle other than that
00:18:19
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Everybody else got their own things that they dealing with.
00:18:21
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So either you going to suck it up and, and, you know, continue to put in the work or you're going to fold.
00:18:26
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Yeah.
00:18:27
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And I'm never going to be the one to like, I'm going to listen to you.
00:18:29
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I'm going to understand where you're coming from, but I'm just going to be like, Hey, bro.
00:18:32
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Like what's the solution?
00:18:33
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Exactly.
00:18:33
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What's the solution?
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Cause I'm not going to be in your corner.
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Like,
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Dang, for real, man.
00:18:38
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Don't let them do that.
00:18:39
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I'm like, yo, okay.
00:18:41
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Put it to the side.
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I'm all about positivity.
00:18:42
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We moving on.
00:18:44
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Bigger and better things.
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Tough love sometimes.
00:18:46
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I'm telling you.
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But nah, bro.
00:18:46
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What about you, bro?
00:18:48
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How your mental health been lately?
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We got a lot going on.
00:18:51
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It ain't been as good as the seven, brother.
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I ain't going to lie to you.
00:18:54
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That's real.
00:18:56
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My mental health...
Mental Health Struggles and Coping Mechanisms
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I say it's around 304.
00:19:00
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304.
00:19:02
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And I think I, and this is why, right?
00:19:04
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I think I've gotten to a place to where I'm just frustrated.
00:19:09
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You know, I put in a lot of work over these past couple of years.
00:19:14
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Whether it be with music, whether it be with this podcast, whether it be whatever it is, right?
00:19:20
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Just the things that I'm really passionate about.
00:19:22
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And I don't feel like I'm seeing the return on investment.
00:19:25
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And I'm just, I'm just, the process is taking longer than I would like.
00:19:31
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And just being just frustrated, right?
00:19:33
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On top of, you know,
00:19:36
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It's outside of, you know, doing the things that I'm passionate about, like you said, you know, working a job, having a wife, the pressure of me knowing that I have a kid on the way and I have to provide financially.
00:19:48
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I need to make sure that we have a place to live that's going to be enough space for my son and be enough space for our little dog that we have to run around and things like that.
00:19:57
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Shout out to Novo.
00:19:58
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Yeah, it's just frustrating.
00:20:00
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And then sometimes I think, you know, maybe I should have, you know, maybe I should be farther along than I am right now.
00:20:05
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Right.
00:20:07
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So just a lot of frustration.
00:20:09
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And, you know, and during this time, I mean, I just can't really attest to this.
00:20:13
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I haven't really been talking to anybody.
00:20:15
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I just I just kind of keep I just kind of keep to myself.
00:20:18
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I don't really text or call anybody.
00:20:20
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I just kind of keep to myself and try to figure things out for myself.
00:20:24
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Now, I know that isn't healthy.
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But, you know, this is kind of how I deal with things.
00:20:29
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And I mean, as bros, again, like, we passed the friend phase and the, you know, family.
00:20:35
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Like, we really bros.
00:20:36
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Like, I'll take my shirt off my back for this dude, you know.
00:20:41
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that hurts, me hearing that, that hurts.
00:20:44
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As a friend, a loved one, I'm just like, yo, I should have sensed that.
00:20:50
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The phone works both ways.
00:20:52
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I'm that person as well sometimes where I'm not always gonna be the first one reaching out.
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So sometimes I need others to reach out and check on me.
00:21:00
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And we were doing that for some point in time as well, but since then a lot has gone on.
00:21:05
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But we gonna get back on track.
00:21:07
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I don't want you to take that to heart.
00:21:10
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Everybody got a lot of things going on, right?
00:21:12
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Yeah.
00:21:13
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Everybody got a lot of things going on.
00:21:14
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And I think that if you need support, ask for it.
00:21:19
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And I need to, in all honesty, I need to do a better job of asking for the support.
00:21:22
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You know, I just, I still am kind of childlike in that to where I'll let things just sit.
00:21:29
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and sit and fester until I explode.
00:21:32
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And, you know, it happened to me the other day.
00:21:34
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I just let things sit and fester to the points where I just I called my parents or we were texting and I just kind of exploded on them.
00:21:40
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And the good thing about that is they didn't take it to heart.
00:21:43
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You know what I'm saying?
00:21:44
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Like sometimes you just need to like
00:21:46
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let it out on a bro and maybe cuss them out or whatever you need to do right and them just be like you know what i get it yeah i'm not i'm not mad at you for saying what you said i'm not i get it bro like just and just listen to you um so yeah and i think i think the other thing too um is i become a lot and i was talking about this with somebody the other day but
00:22:12
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And I see why people get addicted to stuff, bro.
00:22:16
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We're going to be open today.
00:22:18
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We're going to be open.
00:22:20
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I see why people get addicted to drugs.
00:22:22
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I see why people get addicted to alcohol because life is hard, bro.
00:22:27
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Life is hard, Bill.
00:22:29
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Lost the words right now, boy.
00:22:30
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Bro, like, it's just, life is hard, and it hits at so many different angles, and once you feel like you've gotten over one hump, something else, like, just comes and hits you, bro.
00:22:42
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And I, like I said, like, I understand why people do that, because, like, sometimes I get into modes to where, like,
00:22:49
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I get so comfortable with stress relief that I forget about, you know, my responsibilities as a husband.
00:22:54
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I forget about my responsibilities as a man because I'm so consumed with, like, let me just relieve my stress.
00:23:00
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Let me go play video games for hours.
00:23:02
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Let me, you know, have a drink or two and, you know, just forget about stuff or let me smoke something or whatever.
00:23:08
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Like, it's just real, bro.
00:23:10
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Like,
00:23:10
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And I can't be I can't I can't fall in love with stress relief so much like there's this there's a good way to do stress relief.
00:23:19
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And then there's some unhealthy ways.
00:23:21
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Right.
00:23:21
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And I think a lot of times I defer more to more to unhealthy ways and I need to learn some more healthy ways to cope with my emotions and things I feel.
00:23:31
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And the one thing I want people to realize, too, is like there is no time limit for learning yourself.
00:23:36
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I mean, we can be, you know, 26 turning 27 in a couple of weeks.
00:23:40
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Dang.
00:23:48
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I guess I guess I kind of walked myself in and out, but I guess I've been waiting to do that.
00:23:52
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I was thinking about this.
00:23:53
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I was like, his birthday coming up and he's going to say something like that.
00:23:56
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And I'm going to do the Kevin Hart thing.
00:23:57
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And if I have my moment, I have to give you that look.
00:24:00
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I had to do it.
00:24:02
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All right, look, I'm getting old, man.
00:24:04
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I'm getting old, but it comes down to the fact that I don't really know
00:24:10
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what he was talking about.
00:24:11
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Like, I don't know the best ways to kind of, you know, stress relieve.
00:24:15
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I know it like playing a video game, working out.
00:24:18
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Other than that, you know, like the real, yeah.
00:24:20
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It is.
00:24:22
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But like, you know, reading my book is kind of just clears my mind and I want to find some more productive ways.
00:24:26
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Cause I feel like when I'm on the game, it's so fun, but it's like, I'm not doing nothing to really better myself.
00:24:32
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Other than talking trash to people and kicking them mad at anybody.
00:24:34
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You know, that's not doing nothing for me.
00:24:37
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But I would say like, it's,
00:24:40
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I'm not going to say it's like oddly satisfying.
00:24:42
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This is just being real.
00:24:44
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You know, sometimes when you're overstressed and you got so much stuff going on and like you said, like you're adulting now.
00:24:51
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You got bills and them bills knocking every 30 days.
00:24:54
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So it's just like when you're doing things, A, B, C, D, E, F, G,
00:24:59
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more things are coming on top of each other and you really feel as though like you're in this alone sometimes.
00:25:03
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Like, you're like, young, I'm the only one going through this.
00:25:06
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Like no one else is going through what I'm going through.
00:25:08
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But that right there, like we haven't talked in weeks.
00:25:13
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I can realize that we're going through the same stuff.
00:25:15
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You know, so it's like, yes, it does.
00:25:17
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It suck hearing that someone I love, one of my bros is going through the same thing.
00:25:21
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Yes.
00:25:22
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But does it help me knowing that, all right, cool, we're going through the same thing.
00:25:25
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Let's talk.
00:25:26
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Let's bounce ideas off each other.
00:25:28
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Let's just have a conversation.
00:25:30
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Because sometimes just having that simple conversation about, yeah, bro, like I'm stressed.
00:25:35
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Yeah, Bills is crazy.
00:25:36
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And, you know, life is crazy.
00:25:38
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It gives me a sense of relief knowing that I'm not the only person going through that.
00:25:42
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And that can give me a little extra motivation.
00:25:44
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you know, next time to, I don't know, go to the gym at six in the morning.
00:25:48
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Right.
00:25:48
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And I could probably hit him up like, yo, bro, I went to the gym.
00:25:50
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He's like, oh yeah, me too, bro.
00:25:51
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So it's just like, oddly enough, that energy can feed off each other and could, you know, snowball effect into something else.
00:25:58
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Yeah.
00:25:58
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And I think, and even the thing that I appreciate about, I appreciate this about him.
00:26:04
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I appreciate this about some of my other bros is that we can go, you know, weeks without talking.
00:26:09
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We can go sometimes months without talking.
00:26:11
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I hope we don't, you know,
00:26:12
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Obviously, but, you know, everybody has stuff going on.
00:26:14
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But when we do come together, it's like we don't miss a beat.
00:26:17
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You know what I'm saying?
00:26:18
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It's like we was just talking yesterday.
00:26:20
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So I appreciate those type of friendships and those type of brothers because those are the type of relationships that stand the test of time.
00:26:30
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You know what I'm saying?
00:26:31
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That you need.
00:26:32
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Yeah, you need those.
00:26:33
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I'm telling you.
00:26:33
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Like I said.
00:26:35
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Like, OJ, that's my, I remember, like, that's every time, every time, it could be a month or two.
00:26:41
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Like, he just had a crazy busy month.
00:26:43
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Came back, bro, everything just hopped back like it was normal.
00:26:47
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And that's something that, again, like, if you notice that,
00:26:51
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Don't forget it because I have a lot of bros, a lot of friends who literally we go a couple weeks, a couple months without talking.
00:27:00
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We talk again.
00:27:01
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It's just like, hey, you know, my name's Alex.
00:27:04
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My name's Anu.
00:27:05
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What's your name, buddy?
00:27:07
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You know, it's weird.
00:27:07
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My name's Ainy.
00:27:08
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Yeah, you know.
00:27:10
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Shout out to my boy Chaz.
00:27:11
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You know, I know he tuning in right now.
00:27:13
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That's a real bro
Friendship and Trusting the Process
00:27:14
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right there.
00:27:14
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Like, every time, don't matter.
00:27:15
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Every time I talk to Chaz, bro, he's like our biggest supporter, bro.
00:27:20
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Like, I didn't even think that he, like, would.
00:27:24
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I wouldn't say that.
00:27:25
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I knew he was going to tune in, but, like, he be hitting us up on the weekly.
00:27:28
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Like, hey, bro, that podcast was tough.
00:27:31
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Hey, Trey, that song you dropped, man, that's fire.
00:27:32
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Like, he always tuned in, bro.
00:27:34
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And that's something that we never going to overlook.
00:27:36
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Nah, never.
00:27:38
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Nah, that's some great support right there.
00:27:40
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But we needed that.
00:27:42
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I feel like I needed that.
00:27:43
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Like I said, we bros, bro.
00:27:45
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I don't want to see no one go through stressing and what we've gone through.
00:27:51
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But the one thing I'm going to say is, bro, no matter how...
00:27:55
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You know, don't start comparing your life to others.
00:27:58
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I know you've never done that to me.
00:27:59
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I've known you for.
00:28:01
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I mean, we started.
00:28:02
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I've known this man when literally we used to have FaceTime dates between my lady.
00:28:06
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I didn't even know him in person yet.
00:28:08
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I'm telling you.
00:28:08
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We talked for a whole year.
00:28:10
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Every Sunday at like 6 p.m.
00:28:12
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Because they know we had a time difference.
00:28:13
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Was this like during COVID?
00:28:15
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It had to be.
00:28:16
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Yes, it was.
00:28:17
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It was like a little bit out of COVID.
00:28:21
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And we was just on FaceTime days and just catching up on FaceTime.
00:28:24
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And then we flew out here and that's all she wrote.
00:28:27
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But, you know, just...
00:28:29
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Don't ever get too down on yourself because, again, any day you wake up and you get a chance to open your eyes and breathe, that's really all that really matters.
00:28:40
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Everything else will fall into place.
00:28:41
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You have the right mindset.
00:28:43
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You have the right team behind you.
00:28:44
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You have the right family and the bros behind you.
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Just don't ever give up and just keep on pushing because I promise you, man, no matter how many times you get knocked down, you're always going to see some sunlight and you're going to get back up.
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I'm telling you, boy.
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Preach, preach.
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I've been through a lot.
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I know I ain't been through the worst.
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I ain't been through the worst yet, but I'm a fight every day.
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Ain't no stopping.
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Ain't no new.
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That's good stuff.
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I think that the last thing I'll add, and we can move on this.
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You got to you got to trust the process and but embrace the process and embracing the process is embracing every part of it.
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The ups, the downs, the good, the bad, the nights where you feel like you're alone, the nights where you're crying in tears, you know, the happy moments.
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It's like, what do I do next?
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All of those moments.
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embrace it you know even though i'm you know like i said i'm how bad at three or four mentally um you know this helps and i feel like you know eventually we're gonna get to the other side yeah like the podcast you know we go we go get to that was tough i ain't gonna capture you that was tough we gonna get to that we're gonna get there i like that but yeah now we we gonna get right for sure like i said i guarantee you
00:29:58
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Next time we hop on this podcast and we start doing it.
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It's going to be better than a 304.
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I tell you that much.
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Let's get it.
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Maybe a 6.7.
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You know, like that fish.
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Who knows?