You hit the gym, eat clean, take the solo date—but deep down, something still feels off. Why?
In this episode, I unpack a version of self love you don’t hear about often: the kind rooted in standards. Not surface-level habits or nice-sounding affirmations—but the real, gritty way you build self trust by keeping your word to yourself.
This one came to me mid-walk (literally—I recorded it while heading to the movies solo). I started reflecting on how treating myself to a film was more than just a fun outing... it was a personal standard. And that’s when it hit me: most of us confuse self love with self care, but the real game-changer is honoring the bar you’ve set for your life.
If you’ve ever lowered your standards to stay comfortable, keep the peace, or avoid being alone—this conversation is for you.
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