In this episode we're talking all about having sex after baby. Yes, this is the much anticipated followup to our episode about sex while pregnant (link below). Postpartum sex can be tricky, and for us it involved patience, compassion and creativity. But now, both Matthew and I can say without a doubt, that we're having the BEST SEX OF OUR RELATIONSHIP, and that's after pushing out a kid!



If you’ve listened to the Doing It At Home podcast for a while, you’ve probably gathered that Matthew and I value transparency a whole lot. It’s important for us to be as candid, raw and real as possible - because the greatest breakthroughs we’ve had as a couple and as individuals have been made possible by others showing the example of bold and authentic living.



It’s for this reason that we share parts of our experience of home birth and beyond - because if it helps and empowers anyone like others did for us, then we feel in our purpose and mission.

So that’s why we include talking about our sex life in the show’s topics. We covered sex while pregnant in episode 6. And now that we’re on the other side, we figured it was worth taking time to talk about postpartum sex.



Sex after giving birth is a whole other dimension of a sexual relationship - or at least it has been for us. It has brought its own set of unique opportunities and challenges.



For one thing, after some minor tearing during Maya’s home birth, I had some fears around how my vagina would heal and whether or not I’d ever be able to make love the way we used to (forget the possibility of expanding our repertoire or level of intimacy). I judged myself when I thought about the timeframe of when we’d return to having sex. When I asked other women how long they waited, I catalogued the responses and started comparing myself.



And when we did have sex for the first time after giving birth, I was a little disheartened and frustrated. It was pretty painful. So here I was back to the time I lost my virginity and thought, “Why would anyone ever want to have sex?! This is the worst thing ever. I can’t believe people do this and like it!” I saw what I thought would be a long road of recovery up ahead. Not to mention I was getting used to my new body - everything leaking and in a different position from where it was a year ago.



I am blessed to have an amazingly patient partner in Matthew. Over the course of postpartum recovery we worked together to communicate clearly and connect intimately. It’s been a process of opening up, drawing upon the trust and surrender process of giving birth, and allowing that to carry over into our sexual relationship.



It’s taken time, conversations, and some deep breathing...but now we’re at a place where the sex is juicier than it ever was! How is that possible? Listen to this episode and find out!



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 * DIAH Episode 6 - Sex While Pregnant: The Ins, The Outs, The Reach Arounds
 * Orgasmic Meditation (aka OMing) [http://onetaste.us/]



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The Postpartum Sex Episode: Why We’re Having Our Best Sex After Baby

This episode was inspired by a conversation I had with my father. Like many topics I cover in this podcast, my own life is the testing ground where I attempt to choose LOVE over FEAR, and share with you the things I've learned. 



Today I'm talking about the importance of knowing what your center is - the lens through which you see the world and relationship that shapes your values, thoughts and behaviors. 



There are many different centers you can have. You can be Spouse centered, Money centered, Family centered, Work centered, Possession centered, Pleasure centered, and more. 



Each of these centers has a consequence. The person who is Spouse centered, for example, feels secure when their spouse treats them well, and insecure when they don't. The person who is Money centered derives their sense of self worth from their net work. 



Each center carries with it a way of looking at and relating to the world. 



As you can see by now, these centers are incredibly important because they shape how we see the world.



Quick note: the centers I'm referring to come straight from Stephen Covey's book The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People. 



In this podcast episode I share with you a consequence of being Family centered, and how relationships hinge on not only knowing your loved ones center, but also understanding how those centers shape how they perceive the world and how they prefer to be treated. 



What you'll hear in this episode:

 * A explanation of what it means to be Family centered
 * The 5 Love Languages
 * The importance of knowing not only your center and your Love Language, but that of the people closest to you



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Do You Know Your Center? The Success Of Your Relationships Depends On It!

Sudden Infant Death Syndrome comes without warning and has no known causes. So, how does SIDS specifically impact twins? Why are twins typically considered to be at greater risk? You'll hear firsthand from a mother who lost one of her twins to SIDS, and a SIDS awareness advocate shares what parents do to minimize potential risk factors and keep their babies safe.



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Twins and SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome)

Michael and Tim look at the brain science between love and attractions and how to help our children navigate the joys and heartaches of those early crushes



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Crushes, First Loves, and Hormones

Most pregnancies result in healthy babies. However, moms-to-be are offered prenatal testing as a way to determine if there are any known abnormalities in the growth and development of their unborn child. What are the benefits and risks of prenatal testing? What tests are you offered and when? And how can genetic counseling help you through the process? 



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Prenatal Testing and Genetic Counseling

You may be breastfeeding your baby. You may be pumping breast milk for your baby on a regular basis. Or perhaps you’re doing both. But what happens if you need to express your breast milk and there’s no pump in sight? Maybe your pump breaks unexpectedly or perhaps you need an alternative if you don’t have a power source? These are just some of the benefits of hand expression and manual breast pumps.



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The Benefits of Hand Expression and Manual Pumps

Jennifer Campbell, a mother of eighteen (18!), might have the most unique background in birthwork. She discusses her work as a certified birth, bereavement, adoption, and surrogacy doula, childbirth educator, certified lactation educator, including how she's currently pursuing her IBCLC.



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Ep. 449 Birthwork and Motherhood with Jennifer Campbell

From October, 2019: Tim interviews Michael about the sexual trauma Michael experienced as a 10 year old boy.



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Best of: Protecting Our Sons from Sexual Trauma Part 1

If you and your partner come from different faith backgrounds, you may be wondering how you’re going to raise your baby when it comes to religion. Will you incorporate both faiths into family traditions, or will you favor one over the other? How will you tackle some of the more difficult religious differences that may arise? And what should you be discussing with your partner while your kid is still young?



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Interfaith Parenting in the Early Years

This episode is part two of our conversation with Christie Andersen, our first-time mom planning her home birth while her husband Ryan had been stationed in Korea throughout the whole pregnancy. And a lot has changed since our last conversation!



For one, we had a baby! Little Charlotte has since stepped on the scene, and we get to hear all about her grand entrance.



Christie shares Ryan’s homecoming, anxiety around whether or not she’d actually go into labor while he was home, and how she dealt with the pressure of all the calls and texts inquiring as to baby’s arrival.



We get to hear the whole process, as it’s still fresh in her mind (Charlotte is just 2 weeks old now! They welcomed their baby girl into the world from the comfort of their home along with Christie’s mother, a close friend, a midwife, a doula and 2 midwife assistants (quite the full house, which we can relate to!).



One of my favorite takeaways from Christie’s story is “be open, go with the flow.” It sounds simple, but it’s incredibly profound and relevant when it comes to birthing babies.



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First Pregnancy, Planning a Home Birth and an Active Duty Daddy with Christie Andersen - Part 2

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Yoga | Birth | Babies

Los Angeles-based prenatal focused chiropractor Dr. Elliot Berlin searches for unbiased information on the most pressing topics for growing families with interviews from pregnancy and parenting experts, celebrities, and new and expectant parents. Entertaining and informative, new episodes drop weekly every Thursday.

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A podcast about parenting, family & relationships, the Fresh Start Family Show is hosted by husband and wife team Terry and Wendy Snyder, who interview inspiring experts that tackle a range of topics that bring reality, hope, and a path to more peace in the home and world. Expand your heart, learn new tools, strengthen your family.





Fresh Start Family Show

The Single Mom Podcast is dedicated to inspiring and supporting single moms. Heather Wells is a single mother of three children (two with special needs) who spent years struggling just to make ends meet. Now she is a successful business owner and is dedicated to helping other single moms find the tools, resources and mindsets to navigate through the craziness of raising children alone.

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A bold, vulnerable and honest weekly show for those courageous enough to believe they can have all the intimacy, health, money, relationships, fun, connection and self love they desire in life! If you believe having it all is possible and that YOU are the only thing separating you from your ideal life, you’re in the right place. In this podcast I share the mindsets, belief systems, personal habits, tools, accountability and support systems that I use daily to design my best life, all so you can go for your greatness and live your full potential! This is not like your typical self help or personal development show. I share my biggest breakdowns and breakthroughs as I travel my path of living an Abundant Loving Life. Ready? Let's do this!

Having It ALL: Conversations about living an Abundant Loving Life

Doing It At Home - The Home Birth Podcast is a weekly podcast about home birth and our decision to go from a traditional hospital birth with an OBGYN to a natural birth at home with midwives. This is a raw and honest show that explores homebirth from every angle. We talk about the fears and judgements thrown at you when you choose home birth. We share resources that we found tremendously helpful for understanding our birthing options. We confess the magic and craziness in preparing for pregnancy, home birth, motherhood and fatherhood. We talk about having sex while pregnant and maintaining your connection and intimacy as a couple. We reveal how to stay centered and not lose yourself through pregnancy, and tons more! This show is all about adding an empowered conversation to the topic of home birth and natural birth, while keeping it real, grounded and fun. So strap in and join us as we’re doing it at home!

Doing It At Home - The Home Birth Podcast

We educate and entertain expectant mothers and those hoping to become pregnant. Each episode features a panel of pregnant women, at various stages and trimesters, as well as experienced moms and experts. Together they explore topics aimed to embrace pregnancy and encourage women to pursue their individual childbirth choices.

Preggie Pals: Your Pregnancy, Your Way

We encourage parents who are expecting twins as well as experienced moms and dads of multiples. Together, we explore the unique challenges new parents face when raising two or more children of the same age. Join us as we embrace the joys of parenting when you’ve got double the duty.

Twin Talks: Pregnancy and Parenting Multiple Children

We provide new parents with practical information to help preserve their sanity. Both moms and dads discuss common parenting concerns for their toddlers. With the help of our experts, parents get the superhero strength they need to tackle the world, and the next dirty diaper.

Parent Savers: Empowering New Parents

We support parents who are passionate about providing breast milk to their babies. Each week, a group of experienced moms openly discuss their success, their struggles and society’s impact on how they feed their babies. The show helps guide listeners by providing an honest, natural and judgment-free approach to breastfeeding, pumping, milk sharing and more.

The Boob Group: Judgment-Free Breastfeeding Support

Join us as we guide new mothers through their baby’s first year of life. Newly postpartum moms celebrate the excitement of becoming new parents, as well as the emotional and physical struggles of recovering from childbirth and caring for a newborn baby.

Newbies: New Moms, New Babies

Wouldn’t it be great if your child came with an owner’s manual? A how-to book on how to raise your child? And if your child came with such a manual, wouldn’t it be helpful to have someone walk you through it, making that owner’s manual come alive? Michael Gurian and Tim Wright serve as your guides through what they believe is the owner’s manual for your child: Your child’s brain. While the brain doesn’t tell the whole story, it does offer a treasure trove of insights into your son or daughter. Michael and Tim each have over 30 years of experience using brain science research, best-practices, and their own experiences as dads in helping parents read, understand, and implement the gift of your child’s brain, the built-in how-to manual that will help you enjoy the wonder of parenting.

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